For anyone who says suicide is the coward's way out has obviously never been depressed. The sense of worthlessness that comes with depression leads you to believe that you're doing everyone a favour. That your family would be better off without being burdened by you. Obviously, objectively this is nonsense. But when you're in the moment, it's the only thing that makes sense.
Psychic Snail oh god this is so right ... the amount of internal pain you are under to contemplate suicide .. let alone go through with it ... it's impossible to see a way out when your like that
I left a high flying office job, because I felt exhausted, under pressure and miserable. Now, I work in a coffee shop, I earn a lot less, I don't always get weekends off, I work funny hours, but I'm HAPPY. Never put a price on your happiness. You might find it somewhere unexpected!
Hanne Rose Bless your Heart! Happy to hear this! I work in a Fast Food Restraunt. It can get stressful at Times but it isn't bad and I am making it. I like to serve People and clean. I don't make high Wages at both my Jobs but I'm so stressed as some of the Customers I deal with who are stressed out due to their Jobs. And I don't have doll up like I'm going to a Ball! Thats the best Things that I love about my two Jobs, all I have to do is just be neat and clean and the Managers are satisfied! 😊👍 Nice to know you are happy now. 👍😊💜
I worked one a research job at Harvard,La dee dah, but I hated it, I went back to teach, took a pay cut, and thought about suicide a whole lot less often. Money isn't everything
beth keady Oh my god are you me? I worked in a high scientific position as well for over a decade, lost my life and soul in there, left and now thinking of going to teaching as well...
The day I snapped was in 2017 . I was a software developer in a project .. There was a lot of micromanagement having to complete development in ridiculous amount of hours , I experienced burnout and panic attacks- 7 month later I resigned.... No money in the world can take me back to that situation it was stressful!
My husband did the same. Went from being a banker to driving a truck. He is so much happier and so much easier to live with! Money isn't everything. A stress-free and happy life is.
Cc Bernadin I’m going to pray for you....I’m a hairdresser n Texas, and it’s super hard with nearly zero clients, (due to COVID-19) and having the pressure of paying rent.
At 33yrs of age I felt like this. Trapped in a good job in I.T. for 15 years and I hated it to the point of breaking. So I jumped. I transferred my sales skills into the animal world where I'd always wanted to work. I studied on weekends and evenings to get a certificate in animal care. Now at 53 I am managing a call centre for a large veterinary group. I'm not looking to climb the ladder any more. I don't bring work home with me. I get to do what I love and I'm good at it! Never give up!
So you used to work for IT on computers and now you work at a call center on the phone all day..... not much of a difference but I guess if you're happy....
I was so happy when i got fired from my call center job. Sitting in desk all day getting yelled at by customers and all your manger cares about is numbers, was stressful. That’s no life honestly
Me too. I didn't want to die, but was devastated by unrelenting mental terror. I completely credit my sanity to Zoloft and Klonopin. All the best to you, Pincarto.
pincarto donn I agree. I wouldn't wish my mania & depression on anyone. Everyday is a battle. After 34 years & almost every med, nothing helps longterm. I'm lucky if a med works for a couple months. I cherish my "good days". Because they are so few & far in between. I believe they could find a cure but don't want to! Big pharmaceutical companies are making billions & billions everyday from anti depressants & mood stabilizers. They don't want to lose that. Even if it means saving countless lives & endless despair & suffering. We live in a selfish, sick, cruel world.
Depression, uncaring, ungiving, the darkest place of all, Loneliness of being, the torture of thick surrounding sorrow, Being alone to feel apart from the very person that we are, To feel abandoned in a spiral of enforced deprivation of thought, To look see and feel nothing, nothing but a present moment of forgetfulness. Forgotten is joy, happiness, sound, feeling,light, strength, knowledge, love,touch,tenderness, companionship. Like a stealth demon appearing from nowhere, cloaking all the senses that are joy, An emotionless soul with nothing but pin hole eyes to see through, Striped of all that is,and giving all that is not, a terrifying despair , breaking down all that is learned and thought, brought to the very step of insanity, Teetering on the very edge of something and nothing , Finding the strength to cast this aside is more than a soul has, To learn the new way that it points to takes a strength that some do not posses, They fall in to a never ending sleep, Becoming forgotten by the many ,and in time by the few, No light or love can penetrate this place, but sometimes in the distance it can be seen hovering on the horizon, Reach out to touch,and it is pulled away, My soul is in torture,
I had that for 8 1/2 years, plus major problems with my family, so I never knew what I was coming home to. Looking back you wonder how you ever coped. I don't mean I was a hero. I am emphatically not hero material. But then, that makes me wonder all the more how I ever got through those years. Sorry to ramble.
Claudia Montoya One Kind Word Can Change Someone's Entire Day..There is not enough kindness in the world.People are happy to make others unhappy.Unhinged and just get on with there lives .We all have STRESS some builds up over a lifetime.Mine did and i literally did snap ,i had asked for help from # Professionals sometimes they fail you.Perhaps they are stressed to breaking point.But it just took one person to turn me away after 10 vistits .Who i considered a family friend and GP .Tell me not to come back for a week .Having had a reaction to drugs he had perscribed and then taken me off.I am greatful to be alive i have many things to be greatful for but its taken a heck of alot of work(and it doesn't work everyday.)I could not look at photos of happier times without crying /listen to music/eat.Do anything.In the end i had to DIY'it after some fixing Medically and Some Therapy.Realise that there are people worse of(Sometimes i seek them out!Or have trouble finding them)My SON has kept me going..When things are really bad..
Claudia Montoya, I still remember one cold morning where I had to pull over the 🚗 on my way to work so I could 🤮 down a drain, I was petrified of going to work. That’s when I knew something had to give 😢🥵😥
I stayed at a teaching job that was destroying my spirit because I thought I "shouldn't quit". I absolutely dreaded going to work and hated doing paperwork during family time. I even attempted suicide because of that job I thought I couldn't quit! The best thing that happened was resigning from the job right before they fired me and going on disability for long term depression. My heart goes out to you, Claudia. I hope you found a new job or new career!
The U.K. always has documentaries like these. The U.S. needs to step it up in their documentary game, especially since we are struggling with mental health as much as we are...
Yeah its pretty cool. Older people aren't so good at showing emotion or wanting any help. My grandmother can't walk she can barely talk but she won't let anyone help or even talk about helping her with stuff. I do kinda wish I had that. They're the last generation of true Americans.
Stress literally kills you. Starting with stress or trauma as a child. Then we are expected to cope with multiple stresses in a crazy world and high pressure study or work. Downgrade your life. Enjoy your children. Be poor but live a simple life. Dump narcissists out of your daily life. Put your health, rest and relaxation first. Your kids will be happier for it and your body will thank you. Money, possessions, fancy cars, expensive holidays are way over rated. Good close relationships with your children and friends are what humans need.
Hi, I am also a nurse and left the field 2 years ago. I don't know if I will or even want to return to the profession. Life has taken a drastic change. I know these feelings, thoughts so well. I hope things get better for you! Stay strong. Hugs!!
I was a CNA and same thing. I couldn't take it anymore. I was bullied by coworkers and treated like crap, all of the workload was put on me, nobody would help me. I haven't been able to work since and it's been 2 years. I think I have PTSD from that experience. It has ruined me.
April Lockaby Radford I am a CNA too for 3 years. It has burned me out. I have worked in over 4 different nursing homes. I am taking a boards this Wednesday to become a Licensed Nurse, I guess I have a long road ahead of me? I was hoping the further up the ladder I move the less burn out I will feel? I am just so tired of getting mistreated by all of the health care professionals including CNAs that’s been at the job longer than myself. I love my job but it’s the workers that make it much harder. Let’s not even start about never getting a thanks and patients abusing you... Hope I am not wasting my time with the nursing profession. I am in my early 30s and have another 30 years until retirement.
These people are the barometer of society. The way they go, the way we will go if we follow what this sick society wants of us. Prosperity is NOT money and things; it IS health and well-being.
Yet at least in America those who really deserve recogniztion and good pay like teachers,social workers, police,and firefighters do NOT get it, but stupid football (American) players, actors, and those in the entertainment industry do. Pathetic!!
This was my life for the last 6 years. I was recently made redundant due to the Covid-19 pandemic and it literally felt like I’d lost 110 lbs. The relief is incredible and I feel I’ve been given a chance to hit the reset button.
In the beginning, the man says, "social support." That is gone from the work place. I can remember noticing a co-worker just closed off, stressed out. I remember taking some work away and ordering a little sunshine bouquet for their desk. I think just knowing there is someone in the work place who cares, helps. But no one does that anymore. It is just a robotic world--that is driving us nuts.
I just had a breakdown a few weeks ago. It was like nothing I’ve ever experienced in my life. I was completely disassociated. I couldn’t move. I went back to work for a few days. On the last day, I did nothing productive. And I’m always productive. I was out of my mind, really. The next day, I saw a psychiatrist and was immediately put on leave. Being on leave has been the best thing. At first I was so embarrassed and anxious about how this would look to my coworkers, but that’s all gone away now. I go back to work soon and I’m anxious about it. Not the job itself, but for fear of breaking down again.
I had something happen to me. When I was suffering from a severe depression related to schizoaffective disorder. I kept hearing these yapping poodles who lived underneath me at the apartment I lived in. I spent the whole night screaming and crying until I lost my voice. Luckily nobody lived there. It was very frightening. I couldn’t stop. I actually and severely lost control of myself.
Working all day and spending only nights in your home is too stressful for me. We ditched the house and live on a small income with lots of time off. Now we are living. Spent the day paddling around a lake and eating chocolate. Great day.
Yes, I snapped. I threw the keys down, Wrote a quick note saying I quit. Never went back to nursing. That was about 15 yrs ago. I live in a van now. I have solar power, a computer, a table for crafts and freedom to go wherever I want depending on budget. I won't go back to the rat race. My bipolar disorder won't have it. I go crazy under stress. Now I am at peace.
@@nomadiavan6560 wow!!!! You're so brave!! So many of us dont have the courage to listen to our bodies.. but you did!!! How is your bipolar since then?? Did it improve???
I learned years ago: its just a job! Dont stress! Life is everything before and after work! If you dont go to work happy just dont go at all! We all deserve better
I dislike social interaction especially at work! it is all so fake period. interaction is hard because for me it's a choice I have to make everyday and not a desire. feels exhausting and a chore. if I can work without having to be social awww that would be a dream come true. i hate small talk immensely
haley bissett me too! I hated pretending at work. Can't do fake. I quit. Haven't found my next fake job yet. Really want to be an artist. Scared it won't pay the bills.
I absolutely hear what you are saying..which is why I just won't do it..I hate being fake and talking to fake people..luckily I can be me in my job...even if it offends others😂
I used to start getting depressed on Saturday night and by Sunday, I was a wreck. Monday’s were nightmares. By Wednesday I was better, but back on the way to the downward slide. Retiring totally changed my life. Now I’m a happy chappy. I’m lucky, I know.💜
@@annamarielewis7078 Me too and I still have about 8 years until I can retire. At the very least, 6 more years. I wouldn't get social security for a very long time since I'm far from the earliest age to start getting it.
Now imagine what it would be like to be this stressed out without any significant social safety net or assets. These people are *well* off compared to many.
Not to minimize their stories, because I feel for them. But yeah, I also see what you mean. Many people have a lot of stress at jobs that demand a great deal of skill, yet do NOT make money even enough to afford a nice home. And they worry about their job AND still have to struggle on top of that.
@@coreyanderson1457 Bruh I'm just gonna agree with you. I don't remember what I ate yesterday let alone wtf I was on about here. Strange, I liked OP's comment yet argued? I donno man, ignore my smooth brain, prolly drunk.
Same. I don’t remember a day in my life without anxiety and depression. I believe I was just born this way. Just like someone people are born with an extra toe. I was just born this way.
Everything about today's society is broken. I realized in 2008 that this was the case. I broke at work after 25 years in a business I loved (the actual work). What became intolerable were the people... horrid, mal adjusted people... and the hours, that got longer and longer as the people above put more pressure on for more work - with less protection from them when I needed it. The insanity of those around me has been highlighted by the current political climate... the insanity is out in the open now. I have now realised that our sanity is being attacked on ALL fronts... not just work. TV Education Society Work place Food supply Water supply I stopped watching tv. I gave up the work I once loved. I withdrew from the insanity, and ugly people's attitude. I stopped eating as much meat (fewer hormones), we are lucky enough to have well water now - no flouride, and we now live in the country - where I control how much interaction with others I have. I have also realized that I can say 'no' to interactions I do not want. I feel much happier now... much more even keeled. But, the stress reaction is always just under the surface. It never goes away, but controlling it is now possible.
I can so relate to the interactions piece! Some people will drain the life right out of you. I too am in the position of "cleaning house" so to speak in terms of who I want to tolerate
To all who replied to my comment - 3 years ago! I only received the notification that there had been responses to my original comment today... Thank you for your kind words and shared experiences. 3 years on from the original comment we are in an insane world, a mirror of sanity, a world where opposites rule. We have been in the countryside 5 years now, and, I could not be happier 🥰🥰🥰 I also, finally realized my life long dream, to own my own horse... my life is, as they say, complete. I have a veg garden, 3 chickens, and a beautiful view... it is, the simple things and no mistake that please me.
😭. Stress strikes home mum's but are not considered a "a real job". 😭. A mum works 24/7 ( even more on weekends & holidays) as a caregiver, cook, chauffeur, cleaner, babysitter, nurse, psychologist, therapist, accountant, teacher, aide, organizer, volunteer, laundromat, washer, etc, etc, but we do not get a "salary", humiliation & criticism is our reward & if we "dare" have moments of stress, depression or anxiety, we are ridiculed & treated like scum😭.
Lisa Oldwithsomanywhys I'm a single parent of 2 very young teenager.... And I'm at breaking point with stress Worry and may soon be homeless, in fact I know we will be. I'm at breaking point and worn out completely, your Words described my life as a parent. I feel as though I'm not appreciated also by the system and some horrid Cold people. 😤😤😭😭😫😖
Thanks to modern feminism, men now expect women to work outside as well, without having any idea of the sacrifices we women do in regards to anything related to the actual household life. That is why it is important for women to marry and have children with good men who are providers, protectors and who see value in our unique input as women. No amount of 'work' a man can do at home can even measure up to what women bring to this table. So :nothing wrong with desiring to be a housewife/homemaker/stay-at-home mother who wants to honour a respectable husband and nurture her family first and foremost.
Lisa Oldwithsomanywhys I can't stop reading this because every word is how I feel. I'm here in London thinking about the huge sacrifices I've made.. as we've all got our talents. How can any mother work full time and run a home and a family etc etc etc. Even if you paid people to do it it wouldn't all be done that's for sure, its a never ending job. I'm working from morning until midnight every day and I still get into bed thinking about the next job Sections to be done. Plus I've 2 teens going through all stuff teenagers go through.. And I'm earring money but all stressful.. I just wish mother were appreciated by the majority, it makes my blood boil 😫😖
In 2001 I was at work and the room started spinning. I called my boss and she said no one could cover me so I had to stay the whole day (I worked alone as an assistant manager in a small store). I thought i was literally dying. I finally got home and with the exception of numerous doctors and hospital visits I was bedridden for 9 months. I was too dizzy to even lift my head. after 9 months of every medical test possible, I was diagnosed with severe depression, panic attack disorder, generalized anxiety and PTSD. 18 years later and I am out of bed, I am faking it at fucntioning through life. I still cannot work and I don't drive. I lost all my independence. Thank God for my husband. The brain WILL shut a body down if it is under too much stress and harbouring severe incidents from the past.
That’s absolutely awful! Reminds me of when I had the worst pain set on halfway through my shift and I said that I was in so much pain, I was white as a sheet, and my manager said I could take 5 minutes off out the back and come back onto the floor. I said I’m sorry I don’t think I’ll be able to do that, I’m in severe pain, and they said that it was too late to get a replacement. I ended up saying that I’m sorry I’m going home, and I ended up going to the emergency department where they told me it was really bad appendicitis that could have burst and become septic if I hadn’t gotten there sooner
@@Jane-bq3qv your manager was a ridiculous person. As a manager, I would either fill in myself or shut the store down rather than make someone ill continue to work.
My emotionally abusive ex husband expected me to perform in any job to keep the money coming in , as he would put himself through it he expected me to do the same , along with the abuse, I became exhausted. We are divorced now, I am still in the house, doing my counselling training and loving it. I am still unemployed, but I want a job that I will enjoy. I have fibromyalgia, and I have learnt to value who I am now. I am not a people pleaser any longer either. I do what I want to do when I want to do it... .
God bless you Susan!!!! I feel fibromyalgia is but just a way for your body to call out for help.. I really wish for you to recover from all the damage you have been through.. you're so sooo brave to make all the decisions that you've made for yourself!!! Bravo!!!!! 😊
I'm dealing with this right now - off work because I can't handle being there even for a day . Favouritism, bitchiness , back stabbing, unequal opportunities , sly comments , put downs , ..... I can so relate to these people. That feeling of shutting my front door as soon as I get home and crying my heart out. Trying to learn a new job .... Make more than one mistake and you're screwed .
Hi Vikki, I'm celebrating the 2nd year anniversary of my "breakdown". I went from having a well paying job, good friends and an active social life to being am unemployed pariah, despised by most and living on my elderly parents couch, collecting unemployment. Ha! I doubt that will make anyone feel any better but just know that you are not alone.
“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.” - Les Brown I'm living my life now. Don't be afraid to follow your heart. It's fucking worth it.
Les Brown changed my life. Literally. I went from the medical profession to teaching English because he asked me, “are you living your dream?” I went back to college and rediscovered my real love, reading, and became a reading specialist. Best work ever, and now, retirement is even better. Total relaxation 💜
I found a job a year ago that I love. it is way less money but I'm happy. Previous jobs I would dread getting up, count down to days off but then on days off dread thought of going back. Now at work..the hours fly by, almost feels like I'm at home, it would not bother me a bit to be asked to stay late. I NEVER thought I would feel this way about work. I am now working at a home with adults with special needs and love it!!. Strangely it is so hard to find people wanting to work in this field. I feel like I'm accomplishing something everyday and feel very appreciated by the clients I work with. They get excited everyday to see me and I them
My previous workplace literally drove me mad- it was in a psychiatric hospital, I LOVED the job, working with people, helping people etc but how I saw said people treated by other members of staff horrifed me. I reported it multiple times, nothing changed. So, an internal lagic mechanism broke down. It was so tough. I had to leave- blew the whistle to the CQC
Thank-you for being you and doing the right thing. Being an honest and caring person can be terrifying in this world. The time will come when I stand (alone most probably) outside my mental health department with plaquards. They have higher than average number of suicides in the UK. I don't care if they throw me in a cell. I've had enough.
I work in a hospital in the lab and everyday I see how negligence happens everyday and I have been single out and satanised for raising the problem. I am so exhausted , I cant do all the job that others just dont care.
That's exactly how I feel. Im not the same at all. I kinda thought I'd just get better again. No, it's been years. Im not getting better. I maintain kinda, I hate being going places now, the opposite of who I use to be. The anxiety has ruined me.
I am going through this right now. I feel as though I use all my strength every day just to get up in the morning and try to look as though im not dying inside when at work. Its so tiring. I feel a heaviness in my chest always and a foggy head, I can't sleep, I can't concentrate properly. It's just getting worse and worse. Everything is falling apart and I no longer have the strength to hold it together. Depression is like running a marathon with no known finish line, no water and lots of people who have never run marathons shouting unhelpful advice from the sidelines.
Clap I'm sorry you are suffering like this. Please seek treatment! I know that when depression is very bad you don't even want to pursue treatment, but PLEASE, give yourself this chance to feel better. I can SO understand the feelings you describe! 'People who have never run marathons shouting unhelpful advice from the sidelines' . . . I understand! People are happy to stand in the bright light where they are & shout & wave & offer advice, thinking they're helping. Not many will actually walk into the darkness where you are & stand beside you.
"Magically bursting forth are quarks spinning billions of times a second as 3 points of light, forming what are called protons and neutrons." This is from the book "The Quantum World" by the physicist Ford. Barbara Brennan is a NASA physicist that sees people as holograms. She wrote that we are eternal multidimensional, electromagnetic, holographic, energy/light/love beings in the book "Hands of Light". Right Now. We are not solid, nothing is. We are characters in movies. I don't remember creating this movie, but I have read I am the leading edge of this hologram as it tries to get its bearings in such thick frequency fields. It is my understanding that we are projections, CGI, constantly beaming waves of consciousness-- pictures originating from a point of light. Imagine what the projector looks like since we look like this. Why continually create a steady beam of images that create so much pain to each other? Don't you feel this pain? Does the projector feel the pains of the people in a movie? Using imagination, yes. But the projector gets to walk away, right? NO. When the projecting stops, the movie stops.
I snapped 2 years ago. I was depressed, anxious, and put on drugs. One day I just walked out of college, my job, and never went back. That was followed by myself leaving the house maybe once every 2 or 3 weeks, for an entire year.
I went through extensive emotional therapy, as well as cognitive behavioural therapy. I was also diagnosed with high functioning anxiety stemming from childhood. I currently work just enough to pay my bills, but plan to obtain a full time job in the near future.
I love that the dairy farmer admitted he burst into tears, good on you mate! The more people who are strong enough to admit when they are run down enough to cry, the more of us can admit when we are in the same place. That only makes us stronger and more able to seek the help that every human being deserves!
In the US if you break down you lose your job and your friends and all your security. And usually end up broke and often homeless and discarded by everyone. Yea NATIONAL HEALTH
It's very sad that USA republicans have the idea that because UK have NHS and a fairer welfare system that we're somehow completely socialist & almost communist, it's very weird for Brits when we hear republicans talk like that. Having a fairer system where you don't lose everything if you're struck down with illness isn't a bad thing.
Really close to home. I just feeling like I am spinning around in circles and I just can't keep up. Especially as I get older, I can't keep up with technology, etc. Those kinds of things. Anyone else feel that way?
Raising my grandkids and living for them (not myself) kept me alive and got me through a very rough period in my life till I could live for myself but sadly I feel myself going back down that hill again. Prayers up and hugs
MrLegendary0ne Your far better off in the long run and understand what's important in regard to keeping stress levels low and enjoying good health. What good is huge amounts of money if your sick and can't enjoy it.
MrLegendary0ne What job do you do? I have never had a job I liked. Ones that sucked less, were more tolerable than another, but never had a job I actually liked. Always wished I could find something I could stand to do forever and that the ppl there would'nt mind having me there forever but I doubt that I'll find that. EVER.
but it's less likely to get a burn out or any other mental disease if you have a job you like and don't overwork. Mental illnesses don't usually come out of the blue. There are definitely triggers for it and no, it's not only some "chemical imbalance" in the brain that just comes up suddenly
@Anna Sobańska i think about it often.. gettin help.. did it work for u Anna? i see u posted your reply to this post 2 months ago.. hugz 2 all of u .. tlc
Yes it's so good having others put it into words. I exist now. I'm getting worse not better evem though the life I live with my husband is all I wanted. He's home now as he was bullied at work and the stress was killing him. I can't function or go out. My life has been horrendous. It's not now but I'm just an empty shell and I watch the outside from my window.
My "snapped" moment came when I had had just about enough bullying and abuse at job. Throughout my life, my mother abused me emotionally, my grandfather abused me sexually, two husbands abused me physically and mentally. My employment was my last stop.....and I lost it. The head nurse at the steel factory that I was also employed as a nurse ruled me like a drill instructor. She was a narcissist and gave false reasons for everyone in personnel to hate me. I'm a kind, caring person, but when I was accused of doing things that did not happen, had my locker broken into by this nurse, she took notes on me daily, and the last straw was when the company confiscated my typewriter saying I typed a vicious letter about the head nurse, I screamed, I ranted, I pounded my bosses desk with my fist and I stated that there were 4 other nurses that used that same typewriter. This was in the mid 80's. I got an attorney. When they found whom the nurse was, and they found out when I said they needed every nurse, including myself, to take a typing test, because whomever did this could not spell. It was one of the temps. She was let go, but then they denied me my raise. After 5 years, I resigned. Found out years later that the head nurse died from a brain tumor. You can only push people so far. I'm 4'10", 115 lbs. I may look like a pushover, but don't take bets on it. I'm now retired after 30 years of nursing due to Fibromyalgia and RA. I'm also divorced, have my own house, my beautiful kids are grown and married, I have 5 sweet grandchildren, and I live alone. The peace is awesome! I did seek therapy and was diagnosed with depression/anxiety and PTSD. Gee, I wonder why. God has taken such good care of me. Without Him during these trials all my life, I never would have made it. Blessings to each one of you.
I would like to thank the people in this film for sharing with others some of the worst experiences that have gone through. Listening to each of their stories I could only imagine their pain and fear, but also the courage to change their lives to improve and regain their mental health . After over 25 years as a senior nurse I also burnt out. I found I just had nothing left to give and became so unwell I suffered a heart attack aged 39. Like some of these people in the video I tried to go back to work as that's all I knew and had mortgages and bills to pay as a single parent. Well I had my second heart attack aged 45yrs. I am now retired at age 49yrs and struggle on a nurses pension but I fill my days with my garden and supporting my daughter. It is very hard not to have the income I once had and like the Banker in this film a " golden handcuff " is the reason people like me carry on when the should stop and care for themselves. The thought of leaving my teenage daughter alone because I needed to earn money in a job that was literally killing me is not what I or she wanted out of this very short and precious life. I hope all that watch this film can feel empowered to make that change and remember however awful they feel at any one time things can get better. Different , yes but better. Thank you again to the people involved in this film.
I know people who work 12-16 hours a day, six to seven days a week. They have no time for their families, friends. The only time they get for themselves is a shower, and a few hours of sleep. You wonder why Adderall, and other stimulants are on the rise? It's because people are overworked, exhausted, and still are required to make no mistakes in their work. Here, as in America, if you lose your job there goes your insurance with it. You aren't getting unemployment if you quit for any reason, and if you're fired it's a gamble if you will then. People work 2-3 jobs now, and some think it's because people want to live above their means, when in reality it's usually to simply survive. That's insane if you think about it. Before people could live off ONE income, now you can't get a gallon of gas, and a gallon of milk in one hour of work for most of the population. That is even CRAZIER.
INTJ Jen that’s actually a more hurtful comment than helpful. Housing, phone, internet access, electricity, heat, clothing, food, health insurance, car (yes in America you really have to have a car) and many other things, all cost money. You can’t live in a tent without clothing or food to simply save money. Especially if you have children. The state can take your kids away for the crime of being poor in this country. You can’t afford to put gas in your car to get to your child’s wellness visits? Well it’s your fault your poor so we are going to take your kid. And yes some people “have no business having kids” but that is few and far between. Can’t afford birth control? Can’t afford an abortion? Can’t stand the thought of giving your child to literal strangers? What are we doing to each other in this society? Some people hit a rough patch or get sick or a company closes and suddenly an entire families future is in jeopardy. You can really only downsize your lifestyle when you actually have something to downsize to begin with. It’s true that it has become the norm to work three jobs just to survive. How do you work for a better future (college) between three jobs? We have to think more in depth than “downsize your lifestyle” because that is a fancy way of saying “stop living beyond your means.” Its a semantics game and once again it is completely unhelpful. We might not need expensive makeup, or a brand new car or a mansion to live in but when you have cities where these things are right next door to section 8 housing you kind of question what is going wrong in the community where not everyone is living in decent conditions. We are conditioned to think that if your poor it must be all your fault. Or if you are struggling it’s not because the cards are stacked against you, it’s because you must not be playing by the rules. And in reality the rules are written in a foreign language and backwards. We should be able to help one another, not use each other as stepping blocks to that six figure check. Give back, donate, volunteer, and just have patience for other people. More often than not they deserve some help.
Sarah Norton aye man.... well visits are NOT something we have to do. Stop getting kids vaccinations they do not need... stop taking heathly kids to see sick doctors... www.vaccinationcouncil.org
I can relate to this. I was a teacher for 4 years, and had started breaking down and kept going back to work after being hospitalized. One day I was getting ready for work and completely lost it. My husband had to give me a tranquilizer. I haven’t worked since then. I’m on disability due to my mental health. I’m going to therapy right now 5 days a week. I’m in school for my masters and hope to go back to work in a different field someday. But I refuse to ever feel like I did again.
Burn out, snap, finished...the medical field almost killed me. I all these feelings with the addition of pain, misery, screaming, blood, and death being a normal part of your day.
AquaApp App Yes I work in a cancer center and at first I thought it wasn’t affecting me but, after I started getting extreme anxiety and depression, I figured out being surrounded by sickness and death will take a tole on you mentally, emotionally, and spiritually
Go for it Diana! I have two degrees and a 12 year long career in education and I’m currently (finally) working on another degree to do what I LOVE. It’s tough doing both but my motivation is to be happy. Just know that there’s a stranger, a random black woman in south Louisiana rooting for you ☺️ go find your happiness!
@@TheArtemis07 LEAVE!!!! I left a "great job" as a radiographer which drove me to almost suicide...I am a student now and work one day a week in a bulk food store...SOOOOO happy!. I do not miss sick whiny people one bit.
Competent, educated and sensitive people. There must be millions of us out there suffering in silence, until the day comes when you just can't carry on. The pressures on people especially around the workplace can be horrendous. It's no life. I've been looking forward to the day I can pack everything in for the past 30 years. What I should have done is look for lesser paid work that I enjoy years ago, and just enjoyed life. As it is, I've struggled through, but I have to say most of the time I look back and regret so many wasted years. Almost a life wasted, worrying, getting stressed and depressed. For so long I was that man waking on Saturday morning with the stomach churning thoughts of Monday. If you are young then I say get out of the cycle if you can. Give up that well paid job and enjoy life. It's not failure to admit you're beaten. For me it was cowardice not taking the leap and packing in before. Cowardice or a strong sense of responsibility maybe. I don't know.
Psychic Snail I'm sure you're not a coward. Such a decision is a huge step and hard to make when you're already struggling. I admire you taking time to share your wisdom with others here, and I hope you have time to slow down more these days.
Psychic Snail ! I think it s impressive what you have managed all those years ... You maby have built up a safe life and that 's a good thing . Now would be a perfect time to live a bit more and relax more or change to a job you would be happier in . Change is scary , what about going to a life couch ? Get the advice and a push !? Anyway , I think you have done a good job all those years ! Hope you can take a chanse and try to change to what you want to do ! Travel , chill out and do something you think you can enjoy more ❣️✌🏼✨
Psychic Snail Thank you for your post!! You described me at this point in my life, I feel so sick going to work I also dread Monday, I’m so angry, I feel so stuck, I’m 47 and a single mother, I want to just quit, but I have responsibilities and no support, o think everyday is this what have to look forward to, and then I feel guilty because I don’t want to feel ungrateful, because someone is in the world looking for a decent job and here I am complaining, miserable and sick to the stomach. After looking at this video and reading your post made me realize I need help,
I have never found any relief from psychiatry or medication. There is no one answer for everyone,and for some of us there is no answer. You just have to claw your way forward. Somedays you are at a dead stop.
Mary Rachelle C I have been one of the lucky ones where meds (after years of figuring it what worked) and therapy helped me. I am always saddened when someone isn't able to find the relief that they need
As a lawyer struggling with and healing from severe (but functioning) depression, I can relate to all these stories. I never would have imagined ever being like this. Depression is so real and I hope more and more people understand mental illnesses and how to support sufferers like ourselves. I love this documentary because it has encouraged me in a way I didn't expect. It's good to know I am not odd; there's nothing wrong with me. So many people have gone through what I have gone through and are choosing life in place of death/suicide and overcoming depression day by day.
Yes only people that have gone through dépression understand . I’d add that dépression ( for me anyway) is even worse than is described in medical journals . The pain is both physical and mental . As a medical receptionist I had to deal with a lot of other roles which meant working overtime without extra wage . I finally gave in my notice and is now giving english tuition as a 2nd language ( I am french) and manage my own schedule . Sometimes falling ill is an indication you have to change sth in your professional life even if it means less money .Happy life and good health is worth much more than a high flying job and money.
I think that living with less and enjoying life is the best way to go. To appreciate the little things and not to fill our selves up with clutter. Make sense? People who love you will love you always
Got fired in January and had a canary smile the whole time I packed up my desk belongings. My depression was swallowing me whole. It's been a while since I have taken a break from the rat race. I know I am not ready to go back yet. I thank God for my supportive hubby and family.
@@shanze5591 It was about 28 years for me in the accounting field. I have decided to become my own boss and do what I love. No more office environments for this lady!! May you find your passion and conquer it!!!
I haven't worked for 9 years. I don't have any friends, most of my kids hate me, I never get to see any of my grandchildren, I'm on disability, and nothing to do. My feet hurt so bad I can barely walk. I've had a sad childhood, and now I have a sadder life.
Hi Sandy...sorry to read what you wrote...I totally relate...I am totally alone...no connections to anyone...no children. ..menopausal and basically really miserable. ..on disability and don't much want to live anymore...I really related to what you wrote...sending you a big hug from Vancouver Canada...Allison
damn why do ur kids hate u , sending positivr vibes to all of yall from a teen the idea of being alone and old scares me ngl and kids hating u would have a billio kids just to not be alone😂😂💛💛
I just learned not to live up to family & other people's expectations, especially church responsibilities or volunteer work & put my right energy where it benefits me emotionally, mentally, socially, financially, etc. Sounds selfish but when the mind & body says step back, then step back or it will quit. The pressure to produce from family & other people continues but sanity is priceless.
Very much agree. I also finally got some emotional energy vampires and users out of my life It became a real thing as I also deal with chronic fatigue and pain. I have no interest in having judgemental, critical people in my life - or the self-absorbed. it's time for me to get more self-focused in the most positive way possible.
Wish I could LEAVE my dreadful teaching job..entitled children..lazy parents..fake work colleagues..some devious snakes..favouritism..unrealistic expectations..increased workload..incompetence in management..sleep issues
My work was my life and when some major family tragedies arises my body had just shut down. Tried for years to stay at work but lost the battle after 10 years. Been declared disabled. The frustrating thing is that I really want to work but I can't. The lesson is that you must decide how important your health is to you, because believe me when it's gone it's sometimes impossible to reverse the damage.
All work is stressful. Meeting demands that are not your own, having to be places on time, transportation in traffic, waiting for a bus, all create stress.
Someone else made the point already but they’re right.. ppl assume that those in these “better” positions have a much easier time.. it’s showing that real life happens to everyone! Real life problems do not discriminate. To see it that way, you’ll have to stop with this “woe is me” attitude. Your comment just shows you see yourself and anyone “at the bottom” as victims and anyone “towards the top” is automatically “better off” somehow and it’s clearly not true.
@@annamarielewis7078 I can agree with that. I think you can be super taxed and stressed regardless of whether you have a "blue collar" or "white collar", or anything in between.
Listen to the word of God. He will light up the darkness.. You will never get lost again .. Just put all your worries to the Lord God. He cares for you.
The lady who said she was expected to play all those roles without training or support is exactly me. I'm expected to do every job from mail delivery to budgets to chemistry & engineering at my job and flip from one role to another and just handle everything. I'm feeling myself starting to crack and I've told my supervisor. All she says is "I wish I had your job it is so much easier than mine". One day I'm going to crack, I feel on the edge of it.
After more than 3 decades in nursing..... mostly aged care, I went to care for my elderly mother. It was easy & we had fun a lot of the time. After 6 years, I ended up hospitalised with carer burnout. I had no clue.... the only manifestation was nausea & vomiting for a whole week... due to gastric ulcers. I was so grateful to the medical staff at the local regional hospital... however, some family members were far from supportive.🙄
I finally collapsed mentally & physically after 35 years of crazy professional life.....I too am diagnosed with PTSD, MDD, Anxiety 😥...... You find out who ACTUALLY cares for you 😓😓😓
I was bullied and rubbished in my last job and everyday was like going into battle. I was the breadwinner and there were money worries so the stress and depression was compounded. A sense of humour helped me somewhat but the negativity was suffocating. I still get dark thoughts.
At my last job a co-worker and I was having the same "Sunday Scaries" and at least once a week one of us was at the verge of tears. We talked each other off the ledge and both agreed that it was long past time for a change. She left and found a better working environment. I was a slave to the salary. I also knew that my position would eventually be unnecessary and waited to receive severance. When that day came, I couldn't wait to get my papers and walk out that door forever. I had over 20 years with the company and the last acquisition was a nightmare. My new job is everything I wanted and I love it! No, the money is not the same but I manage because I really love what I'm doing and my co-workers are fantastic. My only regret is waiting...it wasn't conducive to my mental health and wouldn't advise anyone to be a slave to the cash.
I’m watching this because I’m about to snap. Stress related to job and lack of money. I can totally relate to these men and women. Since I took a job in academia five years ago, I have been on meds and therapy, and I can barely get through each day. I hope I can find something else soon.
I had been under a lot of stress ar work for years..one day i woke up and literally could not move..i had no strength to even pick up a cup. I couldn't stop crying. I felt confused and helpless i couldn't even speak coherently. I could not leave the house. I felt so fearful of the whole world. I stayed like tgat for a whole week. My boss was just angry. That i wouldnt be coming in ..i could not talk properly. But i knew i would never go back..i couldnt operate myself at all. I thought i had contracted a terrible disease. My whole body hurt. I was deeply depressed couldnt look after myself even brushing my teeth was a big thing. Just slept a lot. I eventially went to a doctor for help.
October 15, 2015 is the day I broke, I had a nervous breakdown brought on by 18 months of harassment and bullying in the workplace. I was hospitalized for a week, went to a residental rehad facility for 28 days, was on medical leave from work for another month and just let go - I let go of everything, I didn't have the mental or physical strength to go on. I ran out of FMLA, I lost my apartment, was hospitalized again and became homeless - this over the course of a year. A family member gave me a place to stay. I started looking for work, but 6 months on nothing has come to fruition. I am once again on a downward spiral, but see a therapist every 2 weeks and am of course on meds (I cannot live without my meds). I wonder if I get a job, if I'll be able to hang on to it for long before I breakdown again. I sometimes wonder if I should keep trying or just pack it in.
It must be so hard to go through this...I'm in my house all day, I haven't gone outside months ago...my mom brings me food (we live together) and she takes care of me but I don't think she realizes how bad is my situation...I'm 22, I don't go to school nor I have a job, I don't have friends, it's also hard for me to trust people outside in the real world...I also think I need meds, but since I don't go anywhere by myself and I don't want my mom to judge my mental state, I don't think I can receive any treatment...I just wanna die everyday...also my parents just don't get along and our financial situation is very bad. I'm garbage..
I don't think you're garbage, I think you are hurting and need help. I know the fear of asking for help, being afraid no one will be there. But you need to take care of yourself - getting on meds saved my life. I encourage you to ask your mother to take you to the doctor so you can get help.
Mabel R ! No honey , you are just scared and stuck ! Pleace tell your doctor , you need a bit of help , you need to get checked out nevrologicly , psyckologicly , and you need advice. It s nothing wrong with you , you are scared and in a pattern you have lived a long time . We all need a little push sometimes and it s so esy to let days go into weeks ... weeks into months and so on ... You just need someone to teach you and show you what to do ! Baby steps ! There is a whole world out there ... You have to tell someone , ask your doctor for help and say you want to gradually get help to be more independent ! You want a better life , and that is not only possible but very doable ! When you get out more , start to work a bit , maby go in groups ..?? ... you will see more people and get friends ! When you see someone reguarly , you get to know people and you will find someone you like and become friends ... And you will get more confident when you do a job and with time , you will get more confident and care less about small stuff and change and grow with time ! I only talked to my mom and best friend when I was young . Now I feel so much better and so much has changed ! Open up , girl ! Everything / mohst things , will be ok ! Promise that your life will change for the better ! Baby steps ! One back , to forwards !! Pleace hold on ❣️ You are the 3. person in this colom that say the same thing , I have seen so far ! So sad , but you are not alone ! Used to feel like you and live like you when I was sick ! I m glad I didn't take my life , becaus now , I m a mom 💗, and even though lot of things could have ben much esyer , I m pretty ok ! Some days even lucky ! I had a really tough life , so I belive even if we are completly different probebly , You will think back at this time of your life , and think " I m soooo glad I didn't take my life , then I wouldn't be here now and I would never have the good life I now have "... Wish you all the best ❣️ Be pashient ❣️⛈☁️⛅️🌤🌞🌈💝🍀🐨🦄✌🏼🌬✨❣️😉
Mabel R Your not garbage... I think you're simply stuck and fearful. Making changes in your life IS frightening! Sometimes we tell ourselves that making changes is just not worth it, even if your current situation is actually making things worse! I hope you'll get the help you need and can move on with your life. I think you do deserve better in life... but, you'll have to take that first step for yourself.
Everything they said hit the nail on the head for me. I am not myself and not quite sure who I ever was. Everyday I pray that something actually exciting will come along and that I’ll have an excuse to leave my job. My body is fighting me really hard right now and yet I’m still pushing back. I will go to work tomorrow and I will suffer through it. I am so sick of living like that and I just feel like there is no solution. It’s always all or nothing and right now it truly feels like I have nothing. So afraid to fail, yet currently failing. I really should be seeing a therapist, but I’d rather not be more of a financial burden than I already am to my family. I have this deep feeling that I won’t live the life I actually want to live.
I recognize those feelings. When I stop and think about my life I realized that I've had a really sad existence . I was born with a incurable autoimmune disease. I spent a lot of my childhood in the hospital. I was constantly alone and being alone as a kid in the hospital during the 90s its very traumatic. I feel like I never had a fair chance. I'm unable to work so I spend a majority of my time on couch. I feel like the only time I'm alive is when I'm asleep and dreaming.
I've felt exactly the same about 4 years ago. Every Friday night I was already dreading Monday. It got to the point when I wished to have a car accident on the way to work just be able to take a break. That's when I started to realise that something was awfully wrong in my life. I kept going for some more months but then I moved to a new flat and was off for summer holidays. As soon as I settled into my new home I knew that I couldn't go back to that job. It was impossible as my anxiety had risen to a never known level and I got severely depressed. I was off sick for almost two years. In my country (Germany) you can't be fired due to sickness so I had to quit my job. It took me that long as I got a lot of pressure from my family. I worked for a reputable international company and was well paid so my parents couldn't understand why I would want to quit a safe job like that. But if there's one thing that I realised during those years then it's money truly can't buy you happiness. After another 3 months at a daytime clinic, I finally managed to officially quit. Picking up my stuff was awful as I had to face my boss one last time but on the way home I felt such a massive relief! I actually screamed of joy in my car which I've never done before! This was the reassurance to me that I've made the right decision. At the age of almost thirty, I started all over again. I decided to follow my long kept dream and started to study. Of course, studying also is stressful one money is tight but it's worth it. I'm currently doing my practical semester in the job that I always dreamt of doing and I've never felt so comfortable in my life for decades. It won't make me rich but it doesn't matter as long as I can make my living and I'm healthy. So please don't you ever be scared to quit what drags you down and follow your heart! No matter what others are telling you: It's YOUR life and YOU have to live it! It's never too late! 😉
My worst fear. To snap. To not be able to held the facade anymore. What do I do if I snap, if I can't work anymore, if I can't do basic human interactions to survive, like going grocery shopping. I tell myself it won't happen but deep down I know it's a very true possibility. Such a scary, scary thought.
I've had this thought a few times in my life and it's been a more present reality than ever lately, so not trying to offer false hope because the world is scary. But all I can say is sometimes the best relief comes from breaking down...and that's an even scarier thought...that having to be vulnerable might actually be the only thing that breaks the cycle of fear and depression. Just realize that sanity in response to insanity is not a normal reaction and it's ok to break down. People might look at how weird or make fun of you for being "out of control," but they will never be able to experience life in an authentic way, a way that cant be faked. Inwardly they're probably jealous that they can't express themselves truly anymore because they've lost connection to their souls. So remember if you ever do "lose it" you just might find the key to happiness.
I'm glad I watched this because now I don't feel alone. I see, talk and deal with so many people I am drained by the end of the day. I don't even take care of myself anymore. I've even considered marrying rich so I don't have to work anymore. Isn't that awful?
It seems to me all these people are exceptionally intelligent and sensitive and not at all mad. I think people need a way to consiously detatch themselves from stress. I love to swim and listen to load music. I notice how they are all appreciating nature, it's so grounding.
This is a serious management problem. Despite working extremely hard these people are not recognised, not can they make significant headway as they are hamstrung. People begin to feel overwhelmed and hopeless. It's shocking how unequipped their management is to protect their employees and ensure they are supported.
This is the best explanation I have ever heard for mental pressures. Excellent and totally understandable. I feel so much for these people and hope they found peace.
In the U.S.A. there is very little help anymore for people with mental/psychiatric/depression issues. Suicide rates are pretty high with so little support anywhere. It seemed to me that these good folks in this British program had better help, even if it did fail for some of them. Imagine having in house sessions with a psychiatric nurse! Imagine getting leave from work for coping with stress! Here, we just have to keep pushing on, or fail miserably. Even if one has insurance that covers psychiatric visits, there are limits to the number of visits. Ridiculous!
their is not that much help in the UK. most Jobs won't let you have time off for stress, its classed as sick leave and take to much and youl loose your job hence why so much stress over taking time off!
My employer has too few employees, so does not have to follow FMLA rules. I am under so much pressure and stress, I feel I must quit my job or lose it completely. I have cut back on most of my outside responsibilities, while also decreasing my expenses, in order to survive on a lesser paying job. God keeps me going until then.
I have this shit and I am so sick and tired of it. I am a teacher and I can relate so much to the teacheer in this video. I desperately keep trying to get back to work but I quickly feel overwhelmed. After seeing thid video maybe I should just accept I am sick and take some time to focus o recovering and nothing more.
I'm sorry to hear this. I count down the minutes everyday until work starts , and afterwords all I can think about is now it's bedtime, then countdown to work again . I have previously had days like that from time to time, but it is now every single day , and my job is pushing us even more , even though it has been made public in many media avenues ,that the company pushes it's employees way too much . I have hypothyroidism and depression and anxiety , work from home, and it is still so overwhelming. How do I tell my amazing husband that I am 37 but feel as if I am 67 ? Best wishes to us all.
Im a teacher. I also got burned out. I retired early with penalty, but that $$ only endured one year bc I'm single parent with two children. I don't have much of a financial or family safety net so I eventually had to go back but I chose a higher paying district with better colleagues. It's still stressful and I plan to shift in a year with better planning this time.
For anyone who says suicide is the coward's way out has obviously never been depressed. The sense of worthlessness that comes with depression leads you to believe that you're doing everyone a favour. That your family would be better off without being burdened by you. Obviously, objectively this is nonsense. But when you're in the moment, it's the only thing that makes sense.
Psychic Snail exactly
Psychic Snail completely true. worded perfectly x
Psychic Snail, yesssssss.
But without thinking what it will do to family and friends. It is not victimless.
Psychic Snail oh god this is so right ... the amount of internal pain you are under to contemplate suicide .. let alone go through with it ... it's impossible to see a way out when your like that
I left a high flying office job, because I felt exhausted, under pressure and miserable.
Now, I work in a coffee shop, I earn a lot less, I don't always get weekends off, I work funny hours, but I'm HAPPY.
Never put a price on your happiness. You might find it somewhere unexpected!
Hanne Rose Bless your Heart! Happy to hear this! I work in a Fast Food Restraunt. It can get stressful at Times but it isn't bad and I am making it. I like to serve People and clean. I don't make high Wages at both my Jobs but I'm so stressed as some of the Customers I deal with who are stressed out due to their Jobs. And I don't have doll up like I'm going to a Ball! Thats the best Things that I love about my two Jobs, all I have to do is just be neat and clean and the Managers are satisfied! 😊👍 Nice to know you are happy now. 👍😊💜
Hanne Rose is
I worked one a research job at Harvard,La dee dah, but I hated it, I went back to teach, took a pay cut, and thought about suicide a whole lot less often. Money isn't everything
omg this happen to me too! @ the office i felt miserable i could not
beth keady Oh my god are you me? I worked in a high scientific position as well for over a decade, lost my life and soul in there, left and now thinking of going to teaching as well...
Humans were not meant to live the way society forces us to live
we are intelligent beings we should be able to think of a better way of working.
What does that even mean?
You wanna live like a princess then?
@@suerobinson
That means more to life than work and stress
So true life so hard now
I was in their situation. No amount of money is worth destroying your health.
Sadly without money you cant fix or manage your health so
Dam right my friend
Ya but need a home=$$
The day I snapped was in 2017 . I was a software developer in a project .. There was a lot of micromanagement having to complete development in ridiculous amount of hours , I experienced burnout and panic attacks- 7 month later I resigned.... No money in the world can take me back to that situation it was stressful!
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it's so nice to see just normal people explaining their experiences of stress and depression
Sam Dixon Ikr...
Another reason why alcoholism is sky high as well. People try to numb out the stress with alcohol and drugs
Yes, this is true! I can testify to that!
Yes! Totally true
sabedra2000 with any 'addiction'!
True, but even though people know this. You will get chastised for being a addict and not being able to handle it.
@Sun Tzu II you clearly don't know real depression. that's not good advice
I quit my marketing director job $130,000, now I drive a truck $40,000
No regrets. ❤️
Good luck mate!
trucking is the best :)
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My husband did the same. Went from being a banker to driving a truck. He is so much happier and so much easier to live with! Money isn't everything. A stress-free and happy life is.
@@amyadams2945
Stress is unhealthy, just look at a stressed animal, it makes us crazy.
Not just professionals. Retail and hospitality workers are verbally and emotionally abused all day every day.
Nothing like a “Karen” waiting for you at customer service.
I work in Retail , it's like living in the zombie apocalypse , I'm so depressed , have to find my way in the world😢
@@misspomerol it's God awful
Cc Bernadin I’m going to pray for you....I’m a hairdresser n Texas, and it’s super hard with nearly zero clients, (due to COVID-19) and having the pressure of paying rent.
@@bl6797 i hope you get some work soon🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼..
At 33yrs of age I felt like this. Trapped in a good job in I.T. for 15 years and I hated it to the point of breaking. So I jumped. I transferred my sales skills into the animal world where I'd always wanted to work. I studied on weekends and evenings to get a certificate in animal care. Now at 53 I am managing a call centre for a large veterinary group. I'm not looking to climb the ladder any more. I don't bring work home with me. I get to do what I love and I'm good at it! Never give up!
MsWaggydo
MsWaggydog So you've been in I.T. since 1982?!
This is very inspiring.
🤔But you're back in an office n not working with animals but for them. Still it's a great feeling to help animals
So you used to work for IT on computers and now you work at a call center on the phone all day..... not much of a difference but I guess if you're happy....
To be well adjusted to a sick society is no measure of health.
MAXimus LAWLESSnessTM Perfectly said ❤️
i think that all the time, then i go sit in nature :)
OA :)
MAXimus LAWLESSnessTM Such a true statement
I was so happy when i got fired from my call center job. Sitting in desk all day getting yelled at by customers and all your manger cares about is numbers, was stressful. That’s no life honestly
You're so very right on this, existence, is no life!
On the front lines to take the abuse from people who have been screwed over by the higher ups who avoid stress by having great parties.
Worst job I've ever done. Never again 😲
Did it for 9 years at the end i felt like an orange completely sqeezed out
The targets are much to high
The should hire robots
I quit mine. Best decision ever
depression, the single, worst experience in my life
Me too. I didn't want to die, but was devastated by unrelenting mental terror. I completely credit my sanity to Zoloft and Klonopin. All the best to you, Pincarto.
pincarto donn Depression is deadly and so painful in my soul and spirit l walk around very lethargic and in a zombie state.
pincarto donn I agree. I wouldn't wish my mania & depression on anyone. Everyday is a battle. After 34 years & almost every med, nothing helps longterm. I'm lucky if a med works for a couple months. I cherish my "good days". Because they are so few & far in between. I believe they could find a cure but don't want to! Big pharmaceutical companies are making billions & billions everyday from anti depressants & mood stabilizers. They don't want to lose that. Even if it means saving countless lives & endless despair & suffering. We live in a selfish, sick, cruel world.
Depression, uncaring, ungiving, the darkest place of all,
Loneliness of being, the torture of thick surrounding sorrow,
Being alone to feel apart from the very person that we are,
To feel abandoned in a spiral of enforced deprivation of thought,
To look see and feel nothing, nothing but a present moment of forgetfulness.
Forgotten is joy, happiness, sound, feeling,light, strength, knowledge, love,touch,tenderness, companionship.
Like a stealth demon appearing from nowhere, cloaking all the senses that are joy,
An emotionless soul with nothing but pin hole eyes to see through,
Striped of all that is,and giving all that is not,
a terrifying despair , breaking down all that is learned and thought, brought to the very step of insanity,
Teetering on the very edge of something and nothing ,
Finding the strength to cast this aside is more than a soul has,
To learn the new way that it points to takes a strength that some do not posses,
They fall in to a never ending sleep,
Becoming forgotten by the many ,and in time by the few,
No light or love can penetrate this place, but sometimes in the distance it can be seen hovering on the horizon,
Reach out to touch,and it is pulled away,
My soul is in torture,
CrystalMoon So did you figure out? how you doing now?
I can so relate to this... wake up and feel sick to your stomach because you have to go to work
I had that for 8 1/2 years, plus major problems with my family, so I never knew what I was coming home to. Looking back you wonder how you ever coped. I don't mean I was a hero. I am emphatically not hero material. But then, that makes me wonder all the more how I ever got through those years. Sorry to ramble.
Claudia Montoya One Kind Word Can Change Someone's Entire Day..There is not enough kindness in the world.People are happy to make others unhappy.Unhinged and just get on with there lives .We all have STRESS some builds up over a lifetime.Mine did and i literally did snap ,i had asked for help from # Professionals sometimes they fail you.Perhaps they are stressed to breaking point.But it just took one person to turn me away after 10 vistits .Who i considered a family friend and GP .Tell me not to come back for a week .Having had a reaction to drugs he had perscribed and then taken me off.I am greatful to be alive i have many things to be greatful for but its taken a heck of alot of work(and it doesn't work everyday.)I could not look at photos of happier times without crying /listen to music/eat.Do anything.In the end i had to DIY'it after some fixing Medically and Some Therapy.Realise that there are people worse of(Sometimes i seek them out!Or have trouble finding them)My SON has kept me going..When things are really bad..
Claudia Montoya, I still remember one cold morning where I had to pull over the 🚗 on my way to work so I could 🤮 down a drain, I was petrified of going to work. That’s when I knew something had to give 😢🥵😥
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I stayed at a teaching job that was destroying my spirit because I thought I "shouldn't quit". I absolutely dreaded going to work and hated doing paperwork during family time. I even attempted suicide because of that job I thought I couldn't quit! The best thing that happened was resigning from the job right before they fired me and going on disability for long term depression. My heart goes out to you, Claudia. I hope you found a new job or new career!
I wish they made more documentaries like this..real talk,real people
Yeah just not an ad every few moments
The U.K. always has documentaries like these. The U.S. needs to step it up in their documentary game, especially since we are struggling with mental health as much as we are...
Agreed. This is a great documentary.
Just want to say well done to all who have had the courage to speak out about mental health.
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Yeah its pretty cool. Older people aren't so good at showing emotion or wanting any help. My grandmother can't walk she can barely talk but she won't let anyone help or even talk about helping her with stuff. I do kinda wish I had that. They're the last generation of true Americans.
Stress literally kills you. Starting with stress or trauma as a child. Then we are expected to cope with multiple stresses in a crazy world and high pressure study or work. Downgrade your life. Enjoy your children. Be poor but live a simple life. Dump narcissists out of your daily life. Put your health, rest and relaxation first. Your kids will be happier for it and your body will thank you. Money, possessions, fancy cars, expensive holidays are way over rated. Good close relationships with your children and friends are what humans need.
But without a job where do you get money to buy food to eat to feed your family.
Amen to that.. thank you for the beautiful and accurate comment, I needed this!
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As a nurse, I can not even begin to describe how this documentary speaks for me....it is PAINFUL to get dressed for work in a hospital....
Hi, I am also a nurse and left the field 2 years ago. I don't know if I will or even want to return to the profession. Life has taken a drastic change. I know these feelings, thoughts so well. I hope things get better for you! Stay strong. Hugs!!
I'm a nurse 20 yrs in. I work just enough to pay the bills. It's all I can stand these days. My BFF is in the same boat. Burned out...
I was a CNA and same thing. I couldn't take it anymore. I was bullied by coworkers and treated like crap, all of the workload was put on me, nobody would help me. I haven't been able to work since and it's been 2 years. I think I have PTSD from that experience. It has ruined me.
April Lockaby Radford I am a CNA too for 3 years. It has burned me out. I have worked in over 4 different nursing homes.
I am taking a boards this Wednesday to become a Licensed Nurse, I guess I have a long road ahead of me? I was hoping the further up the ladder I move the less burn out I will feel?
I am just so tired of getting mistreated by all of the health care professionals including CNAs that’s been at the job longer than myself. I love my job but it’s the workers that make it much harder.
Let’s not even start about never getting a thanks and patients abusing you...
Hope I am not wasting my time with the nursing profession.
I am in my early 30s and have another 30 years until retirement.
If u knew the field why chose this career? Been a nurse or doctor is not a walk in the park so why choose it?
These people are the barometer of society. The way they go, the way we will go if we follow what this sick society wants of us. Prosperity is NOT money and things; it IS health and well-being.
Yet at least in America those who really deserve recogniztion and good pay like teachers,social workers, police,and firefighters do NOT get it, but stupid football (American) players, actors, and those in the entertainment industry do. Pathetic!!
@@angietyndall7337 sad but true! Never understood that
Hookers get the opportunity to write for the New York times. Go figure...
@@angietyndall7337 Only a select few in those industries. Plenty of athletes, actors, and musicians out there who make next to nothing. Sadly.
“When you have no choice in what you do, that’s when the stress becomes unmanageable” true words
This was my life for the last 6 years. I was recently made redundant due to the Covid-19 pandemic and it literally felt like I’d lost 110 lbs. The relief is incredible and I feel I’ve been given a chance to hit the reset button.
I completely forgot that there's a Reset Button. 🍰
Good for you ❤️😊 I wish you nothing but luck and happiness moving forward in life.
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In the beginning, the man says, "social support." That is gone from the work place. I can remember noticing a co-worker just closed off, stressed out. I remember taking some work away and ordering a little sunshine bouquet for their desk. I think just knowing there is someone in the work place who cares, helps. But no one does that anymore. It is just a robotic world--that is driving us nuts.
C_ Farther People like you that genuinely care , and show a it, is exactly what some people need . Thank you for that kind stranger
I just had a breakdown a few weeks ago. It was like nothing I’ve ever experienced in my life. I was completely disassociated. I couldn’t move. I went back to work for a few days. On the last day, I did nothing productive. And I’m always productive. I was out of my mind, really. The next day, I saw a psychiatrist and was immediately put on leave. Being on leave has been the best thing. At first I was so embarrassed and anxious about how this would look to my coworkers, but that’s all gone away now. I go back to work soon and I’m anxious about it. Not the job itself, but for fear of breaking down again.
I had something happen to me. When I was suffering from a severe depression related to schizoaffective disorder. I kept hearing these yapping poodles who lived underneath me at the apartment I lived in. I spent the whole night screaming and crying until I lost my voice. Luckily nobody lived there. It was very frightening. I couldn’t stop. I actually and severely lost control of myself.
psilocybin mushrooms is the answer
Working all day and spending only nights in your home is too stressful for me. We ditched the house and live on a small income with lots of time off. Now we are living. Spent the day paddling around a lake and eating chocolate. Great day.
Cindy Jencks sounds lovely x
Wow so true
Sounds sooo good 😊
Yes, I snapped. I threw the keys down, Wrote a quick note saying I quit. Never went back to nursing. That was about 15 yrs ago. I live in a van now. I have solar power, a computer, a table for crafts and freedom to go wherever I want depending on budget. I won't go back to the rat race. My bipolar disorder won't have it. I go crazy under stress. Now I am at peace.
@@nomadiavan6560 wow!!!! You're so brave!! So many of us dont have the courage to listen to our bodies.. but you did!!! How is your bipolar since then?? Did it improve???
I learned years ago: its just a job! Dont stress! Life is everything before and after work! If you dont go to work happy just dont go at all! We all deserve better
yeah my job isnt my personality
I dislike social interaction especially at work! it is all so fake period. interaction is hard because for me it's a choice I have to make everyday and not a desire. feels exhausting and a chore. if I can work without having to be social awww that would be a dream come true. i hate small talk immensely
haley bissett me too. Taking time off work just so you don't have to be forced to interact with people. :'(
Couldn't agree more.
Same I even hate small talk when dating!
haley bissett me too! I hated pretending at work. Can't do fake. I quit. Haven't found my next fake job yet. Really want to be an artist. Scared it won't pay the bills.
I absolutely hear what you are saying..which is why I just won't do it..I hate being fake and talking to fake people..luckily I can be me in my job...even if it offends others😂
i can so relate to him about fearing monday when you're on a friday nite.....
I used to start getting depressed on Saturday night and by Sunday, I was a wreck. Monday’s were nightmares. By Wednesday I was better, but back on the way to the downward slide. Retiring totally changed my life. Now I’m a happy chappy. I’m lucky, I know.💜
@@annamarielewis7078 Me too and I still have about 8 years until I can retire. At the very least, 6 more years. I wouldn't get social security for a very long time since I'm far from the earliest age to start getting it.
Now imagine what it would be like to be this stressed out without any significant social safety net or assets. These people are *well* off compared to many.
wellll......one is a teacher mate....Oh yah I forgot about how well off teachers are hahaha
Not to minimize their stories, because I feel for them. But yeah, I also see what you mean. Many people have a lot of stress at jobs that demand a great deal of skill, yet do NOT make money even enough to afford a nice home. And they worry about their job AND still have to struggle on top of that.
@@Skrtskrt1236 I dont think the comment was referring to the teacher.
@@Skrtskrt1236 I dont think the comment was referring to the teacher.
@@coreyanderson1457 Bruh I'm just gonna agree with you. I don't remember what I ate yesterday let alone wtf I was on about here. Strange, I liked OP's comment yet argued? I donno man, ignore my smooth brain, prolly drunk.
ive had anxiety and depression since i was 8. These people are describing what i go through every day
tudor chick same
Same here. I've been on disability for 10 years now
Me too!
Unfortunately.....me too
Same. I don’t remember a day in my life without anxiety and depression. I believe I was just born this way. Just like someone people are born with an extra toe. I was just born this way.
Everything about today's society is broken.
I realized in 2008 that this was the case.
I broke at work after 25 years in a business I loved (the actual work).
What became intolerable were the people... horrid, mal adjusted people... and the hours, that got longer and longer as the people above put more pressure on for more work - with less protection from them when I needed it.
The insanity of those around me has been highlighted by the current political climate... the insanity is out in the open now.
I have now realised that our sanity is being attacked on ALL fronts... not just work.
TV
Education
Society
Work place
Food supply
Water supply
I stopped watching tv. I gave up the work I once loved. I withdrew from the insanity, and ugly people's attitude.
I stopped eating as much meat (fewer hormones), we are lucky enough to have well water now - no flouride, and we now live in the country - where I control how much interaction with others I have. I have also realized that I can say 'no' to interactions I do not want.
I feel much happier now... much more even keeled.
But, the stress reaction is always just under the surface. It never goes away, but controlling it is now possible.
Exactly!! And I’ve gotten rid of all TVs 2 years ago and cable 10 years ago! And I don’t follow the news on my phone, It’s been liberating!
I can so relate to the interactions piece! Some people will drain the life right out of you. I too am in the position of "cleaning house" so to speak in terms of who I want to tolerate
Wow this is SO SPOT ON!!
To all who replied to my comment - 3 years ago!
I only received the notification that there had been responses to my original comment today...
Thank you for your kind words and shared experiences.
3 years on from the original comment we are in an insane world, a mirror of sanity, a world where opposites rule.
We have been in the countryside 5 years now, and, I could not be happier 🥰🥰🥰
I also, finally realized my life long dream, to own my own horse... my life is, as they say, complete.
I have a veg garden, 3 chickens, and a beautiful view... it is, the simple things and no mistake that please me.
😭. Stress strikes home mum's but are not considered a "a real job". 😭. A mum works 24/7 ( even more on weekends & holidays) as a caregiver, cook, chauffeur, cleaner, babysitter, nurse, psychologist, therapist, accountant, teacher, aide, organizer, volunteer, laundromat, washer, etc, etc, but we do not get a "salary", humiliation & criticism is our reward & if we "dare" have moments of stress, depression or anxiety, we are ridiculed & treated like scum😭.
Lisa Feisthome Yes, We are
Lisa Feisthome thank you
Lisa Oldwithsomanywhys I'm a single parent of 2 very young teenager.... And I'm at breaking point with stress
Worry and may soon be homeless, in fact I know we will be. I'm at breaking point and worn out completely, your
Words described my life as a parent. I feel as though I'm not appreciated also by the system and some horrid
Cold people. 😤😤😭😭😫😖
Thanks to modern feminism, men now expect women to work outside as well, without having any idea of the sacrifices we women do in regards to anything related to the actual household life. That is why it is important for women to marry and have children with good men who are providers, protectors and who see value in our unique input as women. No amount of 'work' a man can do at home can even measure up to what women bring to this table. So :nothing wrong with desiring to be a housewife/homemaker/stay-at-home mother who wants to honour a respectable husband and nurture her family first and foremost.
Lisa Oldwithsomanywhys I can't stop reading this because every word is how I feel. I'm here in London thinking
about the huge sacrifices I've made.. as we've all got our talents. How can any mother work full time and run a home and a family etc etc etc. Even if you paid people to do it it wouldn't all be done that's for sure, its a never ending job. I'm working from morning until midnight every day and I still get into bed thinking about the next job
Sections to be done. Plus I've 2 teens going through all stuff teenagers go through.. And I'm earring money but
all stressful.. I just wish mother were appreciated by the majority, it makes my blood boil 😫😖
In 2001 I was at work and the room started spinning. I called my boss and she said no one could cover me so I had to stay the whole day (I worked alone as an assistant manager in a small store). I thought i was literally dying. I finally got home and with the exception of numerous doctors and hospital visits I was bedridden for 9 months. I was too dizzy to even lift my head. after 9 months of every medical test possible, I was diagnosed with severe depression, panic attack disorder, generalized anxiety and PTSD. 18 years later and I am out of bed, I am faking it at fucntioning through life. I still cannot work and I don't drive. I lost all my independence. Thank God for my husband. The brain WILL shut a body down if it is under too much stress and harbouring severe incidents from the past.
I used to go to work with the fear of being sick on the keyboard. I thought it would go away but it never did.
Oh wow! I totally relate to this! This comment hit the nail for my thoughts.
Peace to you!❤
That’s absolutely awful! Reminds me of when I had the worst pain set on halfway through my shift and I said that I was in so much pain, I was white as a sheet, and my manager said I could take 5 minutes off out the back and come back onto the floor. I said I’m sorry I don’t think I’ll be able to do that, I’m in severe pain, and they said that it was too late to get a replacement. I ended up saying that I’m sorry I’m going home, and I ended up going to the emergency department where they told me it was really bad appendicitis that could have burst and become septic if I hadn’t gotten there sooner
This happened to me also
@@Jane-bq3qv your manager was a ridiculous person. As a manager, I would either fill in myself or shut the store down rather than make someone ill continue to work.
My emotionally abusive ex husband expected me to perform in any job to keep the money coming in , as he would put himself through it he expected me to do the same , along with the abuse, I became exhausted. We are divorced now, I am still in the house, doing my counselling training and loving it. I am still unemployed, but I want a job that I will enjoy. I have fibromyalgia, and I have learnt to value who I am now. I am not a people pleaser any longer either. I do what I want to do when I want to do it...
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God bless you Susan!!!! I feel fibromyalgia is but just a way for your body to call out for help.. I really wish for you to recover from all the damage you have been through.. you're so sooo brave to make all the decisions that you've made for yourself!!! Bravo!!!!! 😊
@Susan Sherlock
Good job being true to yourself.🥳 The day I got divorced (27 years ago) is STILL the happiest day of my life. 🤗
I'm dealing with this right now - off work because I can't handle being there even for a day . Favouritism, bitchiness , back stabbing, unequal opportunities , sly comments , put downs , ..... I can so relate to these people. That feeling of shutting my front door as soon as I get home and crying my heart out. Trying to learn a new job .... Make more than one mistake and you're screwed .
Good luck
Anna H thank you xxx
i hope youre doing better now :D
VikkiMinaj1 when I feel my blood boiling or a near panic attack I take propronol tablets from the doc, beta blockers they chill me out
Hi Vikki, I'm celebrating the 2nd year anniversary of my "breakdown".
I went from having a well paying job, good friends and an active social life to being am unemployed pariah, despised by most and living on my elderly parents couch, collecting unemployment. Ha! I doubt that will make anyone feel any better but just know that you are not alone.
“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.” - Les Brown
I'm living my life now. Don't be afraid to follow your heart. It's fucking worth it.
Les Brown changed my life. Literally. I went from the medical profession to teaching English because he asked me, “are you living your dream?” I went back to college and rediscovered my real love, reading, and became a reading specialist. Best work ever, and now, retirement is even better. Total relaxation 💜
I found a job a year ago that I love. it is way less money but I'm happy. Previous jobs I would dread getting up, count down to days off but then on days off dread thought of going back. Now at work..the hours fly by, almost feels like I'm at home, it would not bother me a bit to be asked to stay late. I NEVER thought I would feel this way about work. I am now working at a home with adults with special needs and love it!!. Strangely it is so hard to find people wanting to work in this field. I feel like I'm accomplishing something everyday and feel very appreciated by the clients I work with. They get excited everyday to see me and I them
What kind of work is that? Do you attend to the disabled or challenged in some facility, or something?
My previous workplace literally drove me mad- it was in a psychiatric hospital, I LOVED the job, working with people, helping people etc but how I saw said people treated by other members of staff horrifed me. I reported it multiple times, nothing changed. So, an internal lagic mechanism broke down. It was so tough. I had to leave- blew the whistle to the CQC
LizBiz87 yes. I have been hospitalized several times in the US. Given drugs that made me sick and was further traumatized by staff and other patients!
Thank-you for being you and doing the right thing. Being an honest and caring person can be terrifying in this world. The time will come when I stand (alone most probably) outside my mental health department with plaquards. They have higher than average number of suicides in the UK. I don't care if they throw me in a cell. I've had enough.
I work in a hospital in the lab and everyday I see how negligence happens everyday and I have been single out and satanised for raising the problem. I am so exhausted , I cant do all the job that others just dont care.
This has happened to me. I don't recognize myself anymore.
That's exactly how I feel. Im not the same at all. I kinda thought I'd just get better again. No, it's been years. Im not getting better. I maintain kinda, I hate being going places now, the opposite of who I use to be. The anxiety has ruined me.
Please seek help. You can speak to a therapist on the phone nowadays.
Wow I so relate to this. Our society is so crazy fast paced and dog eat dog, anyone can snap. Stress is a killer.
I am going through this right now. I feel as though I use all my strength every day just to get up in the morning and try to look as though im not dying inside when at work. Its so tiring. I feel a heaviness in my chest always and a foggy head, I can't sleep, I can't concentrate properly. It's just getting worse and worse. Everything is falling apart and I no longer have the strength to hold it together.
Depression is like running a marathon with no known finish line, no water and lots of people who have never run marathons shouting unhelpful advice from the sidelines.
essboogy 🌺🌺Know it all too well.
essboogy .
Clap I'm sorry you are suffering like this. Please seek treatment! I know that when depression is very bad you don't even want to pursue treatment, but PLEASE, give yourself this chance to feel better. I can SO understand the feelings you describe! 'People who have never run marathons shouting unhelpful advice from the sidelines' . . . I understand! People are happy to stand in the bright light where they are & shout & wave & offer advice, thinking they're helping. Not many will actually walk into the darkness where you are & stand beside you.
"Magically bursting forth are quarks spinning billions of times a second as 3 points of light, forming what are called protons and neutrons." This is from the book "The Quantum World" by the physicist Ford.
Barbara Brennan is a NASA physicist that sees people as holograms. She wrote that we are eternal multidimensional, electromagnetic, holographic, energy/light/love beings in the book "Hands of Light". Right Now. We are not solid, nothing is.
We are characters in movies. I don't remember creating this movie, but I have read I am the leading edge of this hologram as it tries to get its bearings in such thick frequency fields. It is my understanding that we are projections, CGI, constantly beaming waves of consciousness-- pictures originating from a point of light. Imagine what the projector looks like since we look like this. Why continually create a steady beam of images that create so much pain to each other? Don't you feel this pain? Does the projector feel the pains of the people in a movie? Using imagination, yes. But the projector gets to walk away, right? NO. When the projecting stops, the movie stops.
essboogy 🙏
I snapped 2 years ago. I was depressed, anxious, and put on drugs. One day I just walked out of college, my job, and never went back. That was followed by myself leaving the house maybe once every 2 or 3 weeks, for an entire year.
So what did you end up doing? Are you in a job that you love? If not, what are you doing for money?
I went through extensive emotional therapy, as well as cognitive behavioural therapy. I was also diagnosed with high functioning anxiety stemming from childhood. I currently work just enough to pay my bills, but plan to obtain a full time job in the near future.
Yes, I'm in the same boat. Making just enough to get by. Living paycheck to paycheck etc. Which of course doesn't help matters.
***** much better I just got a job and have a way better outlook on my life! Thank you for your kindness :)
Jessica D, me too...
I love that the dairy farmer admitted he burst into tears, good on you mate! The more people who are strong enough to admit when they are run down enough to cry, the more of us can admit when we are in the same place. That only makes us stronger and more able to seek the help that every human being deserves!
In the USA, the commute alone to & from work in major cities is enough to send one over the edge.
for real YES! I have to drive a hour and a half there and back to work and it gives me crazzzzy anxiety. Some days I just feel like I can do it!
True that.
In the US if you break down you lose your job and your friends and all your security. And usually end up broke and often homeless and discarded by everyone. Yea NATIONAL HEALTH
Bubbas Meisa Yes that is my experience!
Yes raped and beaten. Family and friends discarded me because they couldnt handle it. Trying my best. Thankful for chance encounters with kind people.
Everyone discarded me, including my family.
It's very sad that USA republicans have the idea that because UK have NHS and a fairer welfare system that we're somehow completely socialist & almost communist, it's very weird for Brits when we hear republicans talk like that. Having a fairer system where you don't lose everything if you're struck down with illness isn't a bad thing.
@@atdclo2889 what? Are you being literal?
I'm glad you snapped bc now you're happy! Our society is sick and sickening.
This is hitting way too close to home.
yeah '.'
jjflipz me too
Really close to home. I just feeling like I am spinning around in circles and I just can't keep up. Especially as I get older, I can't keep up with technology, etc. Those kinds of things. Anyone else feel that way?
Oh God yes. I'm 60 now, have had depression and anxiety since
I was in fifth grade. Some days I can't believe I haven't checked
myself out!
jjflipz Wish I hadn't opened this bloody thing. It's making me feel crap again.
I can definitely relate to what Linda is saying about the will to live. I also stay alive for my family's sake, not because I actually really want to.
ghi6h66 bgyu5 have you seen a good psychologist. It will help make your better. A GOOD one- I'm stressing on a good one.
Know that you're not alone, there's help out there, your life is worth living
Raising my grandkids and living for them (not myself) kept me alive and got me through a very rough period in my life till I could live for myself but sadly I feel myself going back down that hill again. Prayers up and hugs
@@vickicarnes6860 love and prayers for you Vicki❤ It takes an amazing person to raise someone elses' children, never forget that
One moment...one day at a time
I make less money then most but I love my job. More money for less joy is not worth it to me.
MrLegendary0ne depression can hit anyone no matter what class, gender, race or religion
MrLegendary0ne Your far better off in the long run and understand what's important in regard to keeping stress levels low and enjoying good health.
What good is huge amounts of money if your sick and can't enjoy it.
MrLegendary0ne right on. I still think money is a neessary evil so i cant wait till society gets rid of money totally
MrLegendary0ne What job do you do? I have never had a job I liked. Ones that sucked less, were more tolerable than another, but never had a job I actually liked. Always wished I could find something I could stand to do forever and that the ppl there would'nt mind having me there forever but I doubt that I'll find that. EVER.
but it's less likely to get a burn out or any other mental disease if you have a job you like and don't overwork. Mental illnesses don't usually come out of the blue. There are definitely triggers for it and no, it's not only some "chemical imbalance" in the brain that just comes up suddenly
I like this documentary, I don't feel so isolated when I watch it.
Yes!
@Anna Sobańska i think about it often.. gettin help.. did it work for u Anna? i see u posted your reply to this post 2 months ago.. hugz 2 all of u .. tlc
No need for feeling isolated. At the end we all are isolated cause the fear based system we live in.
You're definitely not alone
Yes it's so good having others put it into words. I exist now. I'm getting worse not better evem though the life I live with my husband is all I wanted. He's home now as he was bullied at work and the stress was killing him. I can't function or go out. My life has been horrendous. It's not now but I'm just an empty shell and I watch the outside from my window.
My "snapped" moment came when I had had just about enough bullying and abuse at job. Throughout my life, my mother abused me emotionally, my grandfather abused me sexually, two husbands abused me physically and mentally. My employment was my last stop.....and I lost it. The head nurse at the steel factory that I was also employed as a nurse ruled me like a drill instructor. She was a narcissist and gave false reasons for everyone in personnel to hate me. I'm a kind, caring person, but when I was accused of doing things that did not happen, had my locker broken into by this nurse, she took notes on me daily, and the last straw was when the company confiscated my typewriter saying I typed a vicious letter about the head nurse, I screamed, I ranted, I pounded my bosses desk with my fist and I stated that there were 4 other nurses that used that same typewriter. This was in the mid 80's. I got an attorney. When they found whom the nurse was, and they found out when I said they needed every nurse, including myself, to take a typing test, because whomever did this could not spell. It was one of the temps. She was let go, but then they denied me my raise. After 5 years, I resigned. Found out years later that the head nurse died from a brain tumor. You can only push people so far. I'm 4'10", 115 lbs. I may look like a pushover, but don't take bets on it. I'm now retired after 30 years of nursing due to Fibromyalgia and RA. I'm also divorced, have my own house, my beautiful kids are grown and married, I have 5 sweet grandchildren, and I live alone. The peace is awesome! I did seek therapy and was diagnosed with depression/anxiety and PTSD. Gee, I wonder why. God has taken such good care of me. Without Him during these trials all my life, I never would have made it. Blessings to each one of you.
Hello how are you doing?
I would like to thank the people in this film for sharing with others some of the worst experiences that have gone through. Listening to each of their stories I could only imagine their pain and fear, but also the courage to change their lives to improve and regain their mental health
. After over 25 years as a senior nurse I also burnt out. I found I just had nothing left to give and became so unwell I suffered a heart attack aged 39. Like some of these people in the video I tried to go back to work as that's all I knew and had mortgages and bills to pay as a single parent. Well I had my second heart attack aged 45yrs. I am now retired at age 49yrs and struggle on a nurses pension but I fill my days with my garden and supporting my daughter. It is very hard not to have the income I once had and like the Banker in this film a " golden handcuff " is the reason people like me carry on when the should stop and care for themselves. The thought of leaving my teenage daughter alone because I needed to earn money in a job that was literally killing me is not what I or she wanted out of this very short and precious life.
I hope all that watch this film can feel empowered to make that change and remember however awful they feel at any one time things can get better. Different , yes but better.
Thank you again to the people involved in this film.
Sorry, you've suffered so much. Your poor heart. Wishing you peace. ♥️Ruby T.
I know people who work 12-16 hours a day, six to seven days a week. They have no time for their families, friends. The only time they get for themselves is a shower, and a few hours of sleep. You wonder why Adderall, and other stimulants are on the rise? It's because people are overworked, exhausted, and still are required to make no mistakes in their work. Here, as in America, if you lose your job there goes your insurance with it. You aren't getting unemployment if you quit for any reason, and if you're fired it's a gamble if you will then. People work 2-3 jobs now, and some think it's because people want to live above their means, when in reality it's usually to simply survive. That's insane if you think about it. Before people could live off ONE income, now you can't get a gallon of gas, and a gallon of milk in one hour of work for most of the population. That is even CRAZIER.
Doesnt bother me, anything to make me die qucker i am ok with.
Frank Furlacker 😳
Frank Furlacker I'm sending you a hug. receive it.☺
INTJ Jen that’s actually a more hurtful comment than helpful. Housing, phone, internet access, electricity, heat, clothing, food, health insurance, car (yes in America you really have to have a car) and many other things, all cost money. You can’t live in a tent without clothing or food to simply save money. Especially if you have children. The state can take your kids away for the crime of being poor in this country. You can’t afford to put gas in your car to get to your child’s wellness visits? Well it’s your fault your poor so we are going to take your kid. And yes some people “have no business having kids” but that is few and far between. Can’t afford birth control? Can’t afford an abortion? Can’t stand the thought of giving your child to literal strangers? What are we doing to each other in this society? Some people hit a rough patch or get sick or a company closes and suddenly an entire families future is in jeopardy. You can really only downsize your lifestyle when you actually have something to downsize to begin with. It’s true that it has become the norm to work three jobs just to survive. How do you work for a better future (college) between three jobs? We have to think more in depth than “downsize your lifestyle” because that is a fancy way of saying “stop living beyond your means.” Its a semantics game and once again it is completely unhelpful. We might not need expensive makeup, or a brand new car or a mansion to live in but when you have cities where these things are right next door to section 8 housing you kind of question what is going wrong in the community where not everyone is living in decent conditions. We are conditioned to think that if your poor it must be all your fault. Or if you are struggling it’s not because the cards are stacked against you, it’s because you must not be playing by the rules. And in reality the rules are written in a foreign language and backwards. We should be able to help one another, not use each other as stepping blocks to that six figure check. Give back, donate, volunteer, and just have patience for other people. More often than not they deserve some help.
Sarah Norton aye man.... well visits are NOT something we have to do. Stop getting kids vaccinations they do not need... stop taking heathly kids to see sick doctors... www.vaccinationcouncil.org
I can relate to this. I was a teacher for 4 years, and had started breaking down and kept going back to work after being hospitalized. One day I was getting ready for work and completely lost it. My husband had to give me a tranquilizer. I haven’t worked since then. I’m on disability due to my mental health. I’m going to therapy right now 5 days a week. I’m in school for my masters and hope to go back to work in a different field someday. But I refuse to ever feel like I did again.
Try tutoring. One on one. Much less stressful than teaching in a school.
Burn out, snap, finished...the medical field almost killed me. I all these feelings with the addition of pain, misery, screaming, blood, and death being a normal part of your day.
Pamela Williams omg yess. I can definitely relate. I’m still in the medical field fighting the battle unfortunately:(
AquaApp App Yes I work in a cancer center and at first I thought it wasn’t affecting me but, after I started getting extreme anxiety and depression, I figured out being surrounded by sickness and death will take a tole on you mentally, emotionally, and spiritually
I think my dream job would be growing plants in a nursery.
Go for it Diana! I have two degrees and a 12 year long career in education and I’m currently (finally) working on another degree to do what I LOVE. It’s tough doing both but my motivation is to be happy. Just know that there’s a stranger, a random black woman in south Louisiana rooting for you ☺️ go find your happiness!
Big Mona Thank you for motivating me! I have a PhD and I’ve been working in academia. I hate it.
I am with you there
food critic vlog, here i come.
@@TheArtemis07 LEAVE!!!! I left a "great job" as a radiographer which drove me to almost suicide...I am a student now and work one day a week in a bulk food store...SOOOOO happy!. I do not miss sick whiny people one bit.
Competent, educated and sensitive people. There must be millions of us out there suffering in silence, until the day comes when you just can't carry on. The pressures on people especially around the workplace can be horrendous. It's no life.
I've been looking forward to the day I can pack everything in for the past 30 years. What I should have done is look for lesser paid work that I enjoy years ago, and just enjoyed life. As it is, I've struggled through, but I have to say most of the time I look back and regret so many wasted years. Almost a life wasted, worrying, getting stressed and depressed.
For so long I was that man waking on Saturday morning with the stomach churning thoughts of Monday. If you are young then I say get out of the cycle if you can. Give up that well paid job and enjoy life. It's not failure to admit you're beaten. For me it was cowardice not taking the leap and packing in before. Cowardice or a strong sense of responsibility maybe. I don't know.
Psychic Snail I'm sure you're not a coward. Such a decision is a huge step and hard to make when you're already struggling. I admire you taking time to share your wisdom with others here, and I hope you have time to slow down more these days.
Psychic Snail ! I think it s impressive what you have managed all those years ... You maby have built up a safe life and that 's a good thing . Now would be a perfect time to live a bit more and relax more or change to a job you would be happier in . Change is scary , what about going to a life couch ? Get the advice and a push !? Anyway , I think you have done a good job all those years ! Hope you can take a chanse and try to change to what you want to do ! Travel , chill out and do something you think you can enjoy more ❣️✌🏼✨
Psychic Snail Thank you for your post!! You described me at this point in my life, I feel so sick going to work I also dread Monday, I’m so angry, I feel so stuck, I’m 47 and a single mother, I want to just quit, but I have responsibilities and no support, o think everyday is this what have to look forward to, and then I feel guilty because I don’t want to feel ungrateful, because someone is in the world looking for a decent job and here I am complaining, miserable and sick to the stomach. After looking at this video and reading your post made me realize I need help,
@@ImWorthy4Real i hope you are ok
I am going through a similar time.
Much love to you xx
this is refreshing, real, more people need to talk more about this
I have never found any relief from psychiatry or medication. There is no one answer for everyone,and for some of us there is no answer. You just have to claw your way forward. Somedays you are at a dead stop.
I feel the same way.
Mary Rachelle C I have been one of the lucky ones where meds (after years of figuring it what worked) and therapy helped me. I am always saddened when someone isn't able to find the relief that they need
I was hoping there was a better way than using my claws. Just got them painted, too.
Andrea Wally oh FFS God and faith in a higher power doesn't fix things.
Shly gra I have to agree with you. Many hours of prayer over many years yielded very little relief.
As a lawyer struggling with and healing from severe (but functioning) depression, I can relate to all these stories. I never would have imagined ever being like this. Depression is so real and I hope more and more people understand mental illnesses and how to support sufferers like ourselves.
I love this documentary because it has encouraged me in a way I didn't expect. It's good to know I am not odd; there's nothing wrong with me. So many people have gone through what I have gone through and are choosing life in place of death/suicide and overcoming depression day by day.
I get it😉
Are you still a lawyer now?
Yes only people that have gone through dépression understand . I’d add that dépression ( for me anyway) is even worse than is described in medical journals . The pain is both physical and mental . As a medical receptionist I had to deal with a lot of other roles which meant working overtime without extra wage . I finally gave in my notice and is now giving english tuition as a 2nd language ( I am french) and manage my own schedule . Sometimes falling ill is an indication you have to change sth in your professional life even if it means less money .Happy life and good health is worth much more than a high flying job and money.
I hope you’re ok
I think that living with less and enjoying life is the best way to go. To appreciate the little things and not to fill our selves up with clutter. Make sense? People who love you will love you always
Got fired in January and had a canary smile the whole time I packed up my desk belongings. My depression was swallowing me whole. It's been a while since I have taken a break from the rat race. I know I am not ready to go back yet. I thank God for my supportive hubby and family.
I finally collapsed mentally & physically after 35 years of crazy professional life.....I too am diagnosed with PTSD, MDD, Anxiety 😥......
@@shanze5591 It was about 28 years for me in the accounting field. I have decided to become my own boss and do what I love. No more office environments for this lady!! May you find your passion and conquer it!!!
High corporate jobs are not for everyone , especially if you have a predisposition to anxiety .
Even narcissistic ppl get depressed doing those jobs.
this doc is incredibly therapeutic.
I haven't worked for 9 years. I don't have any friends, most of my kids hate me, I never get to see any of my grandchildren, I'm on disability, and nothing to do. My feet hurt so bad I can barely walk. I've had a sad childhood, and now I have a sadder life.
Hi Sandy...sorry to read what you wrote...I totally relate...I am totally alone...no connections to anyone...no children. ..menopausal and basically really miserable. ..on disability and don't much want to live anymore...I really related to what you wrote...sending you a big hug from Vancouver Canada...Allison
I've been there beside you both.. big hugs
damn why do ur kids hate u , sending positivr vibes to all of yall from a teen the idea of being alone and old scares me ngl and kids hating u would have a billio kids just to not be alone😂😂💛💛
@Sandy Holliday. Me too. Right down to the feet.
OMG, I can relate . Pain makes life unbearable
I just learned not to live up to family & other people's expectations, especially church responsibilities or volunteer work & put my right energy where it benefits me emotionally, mentally, socially, financially, etc. Sounds selfish but when the mind & body says step back, then step back or it will quit. The pressure to produce from family & other people continues but sanity is priceless.
Sheila P. McKinzie I call it "the disease to please."
My family has stopped talking to me because I refuse to cow to their stupid expectations of me. I've been much less stressed out ever since.
Amen shiela
So TRUE!
Very much agree. I also finally got some emotional energy vampires and users out of my life It became a real thing as I also deal with chronic fatigue and pain. I have no interest in having judgemental, critical people in my life - or the self-absorbed. it's time for me to get more self-focused in the most positive way possible.
Wish I could LEAVE my dreadful teaching job..entitled children..lazy parents..fake work colleagues..some devious snakes..favouritism..unrealistic expectations..increased workload..incompetence in management..sleep issues
honeymoon try private school...Ima a social worker and trying to be a teacher as well...but I heard private school is where it’s at
Hi hope a year on you are in a better place .
Wish I could LEAVE my dreadful doctor job.
Jonney Shih Do you really mean that?
beast1909 of course, i want to be an engineer
Within the first 30 seconds of this video, I could relate to each of the individuals interviewed.
My work was my life and when some major family tragedies arises my body had just shut down. Tried for years to stay at work but lost the battle after 10 years. Been declared disabled. The frustrating thing is that I really want to work but I can't. The lesson is that you must decide how important your health is to you, because believe me when it's gone it's sometimes impossible to reverse the damage.
Same
Going through the same thing! Was scanning comments to see if anyone had similar thoughts
Big hug to all these brave people
I used to be soooooo depressed I could not see myself out let alone watch a documentary like this without being triggered. Thank you God for growth 🙏
It worse if you have to leave your professional career due to physical pain then develop depression as a result of worries over financial situation.
Noticing again it’s professional people who are being interviewed ,there are jobs at societies bottom end that can be just as stressful
All work is stressful. Meeting demands that are not your own, having to be places on time, transportation in traffic, waiting for a bus, all create stress.
Yeah but everyone knows though people want to kill themselves. Not everyone knows it can be just as bad higher up.
Someone else made the point already but they’re right.. ppl assume that those in these “better” positions have a much easier time.. it’s showing that real life happens to everyone! Real life problems do not discriminate. To see it that way, you’ll have to stop with this “woe is me” attitude. Your comment just shows you see yourself and anyone “at the bottom” as victims and anyone “towards the top” is automatically “better off” somehow and it’s clearly not true.
What about the farmer?
@@annamarielewis7078 I can agree with that. I think you can be super taxed and stressed regardless of whether you have a "blue collar" or "white collar", or anything in between.
I'm 2 minutes into this and I'm already feeling inspired to quit my job and sell everything I have a travel freely for the rest of my life
Im a healthcare professional. I've had a nervous breakdown having to manage work and home. I know exactly how they feel!!!
It’s really tough to do both. Hugs. ❤️
Who can relate to stress and burnout?
Me
I'm off with severe depression at the moment, it's horrible.
Red Thanks for your lovely reply, I'm trying everyday ☺
Listen to the word of God. He will light up the darkness.. You will never get lost again .. Just put all your worries to the Lord God. He cares for you.
hoping all is well with you
Me too been off for almost 2yrs I will lose my job in a month and a half. They only hold your job for 2 yrs.
The lady who said she was expected to play all those roles without training or support is exactly me. I'm expected to do every job from mail delivery to budgets to chemistry & engineering at my job and flip from one role to another and just handle everything. I'm feeling myself starting to crack and I've told my supervisor. All she says is "I wish I had your job it is so much easier than mine". One day I'm going to crack, I feel on the edge of it.
I came to the edge of cracking under stress. I left my stressful job for a job i like for half the money. never looked back.
After more than 3 decades in nursing..... mostly aged care, I went to care for my elderly mother. It was easy & we had fun a lot of the time.
After 6 years, I ended up hospitalised with carer burnout. I had no clue.... the only manifestation was nausea & vomiting for a whole week... due to gastric ulcers. I was so grateful to the medical staff at the local regional hospital... however, some family members were far from supportive.🙄
I finally collapsed mentally & physically after 35 years of crazy professional life.....I too am diagnosed with PTSD, MDD, Anxiety 😥......
You find out who ACTUALLY cares for you 😓😓😓
I was bullied and rubbished in my last job and everyday was like going into battle. I was the breadwinner and there were money worries so the stress and depression was compounded. A sense of humour helped me somewhat but the negativity was suffocating. I still get dark thoughts.
Tintin Hickey Yes I understand
Same here I hope you’re doing so much better now 💕
At my last job a co-worker and I was having the same "Sunday Scaries" and at least once a week one of us was at the verge of tears. We talked each other off the ledge and both agreed that it was long past time for a change. She left and found a better working environment. I was a slave to the salary. I also knew that my position would eventually be unnecessary and waited to receive severance. When that day came, I couldn't wait to get my papers and walk out that door forever. I had over 20 years with the company and the last acquisition was a nightmare. My new job is everything I wanted and I love it! No, the money is not the same but I manage because I really love what I'm doing and my co-workers are fantastic. My only regret is waiting...it wasn't conducive to my mental health and wouldn't advise anyone to be a slave to the cash.
I’m watching this because I’m about to snap. Stress related to job and lack of money. I can totally relate to these men and women. Since I took a job in academia five years ago, I have been on meds and therapy, and I can barely get through each day. I hope I can find something else soon.
More strength to you..
-by a fellow stranger who is struggling as well
Academia is the worst! Literal brainwashing.
5:35 "Long hours do not work" He is absolutely correct.
ahhh my snapping point would be very much soon. this video helps. there are lots of us doing our best in holding back our emotions
Taking an SSRI isn’t a failure - 10 years later and it’s helped me no end
I went through this several years back. I've never heard anyone else describe what my breakdown felt like.
I had been under a lot of stress ar work for years..one day i woke up and literally could not move..i had no strength to even pick up a cup. I couldn't stop crying. I felt confused and helpless i couldn't even speak coherently. I could not leave the house. I felt so fearful of the whole world. I stayed like tgat for a whole week. My boss was just angry. That i wouldnt be coming in ..i could not talk properly. But i knew i would never go back..i couldnt operate myself at all. I thought i had contracted a terrible disease. My whole body hurt. I was deeply depressed couldnt look after myself even brushing my teeth was a big thing. Just slept a lot. I eventially went to a doctor for help.
Bad idea watching this on a Sunday night with a work week ahead 😂☠
October 15, 2015 is the day I broke, I had a nervous breakdown brought on by 18 months of harassment and bullying in the workplace. I was hospitalized for a week, went to a residental rehad facility for 28 days, was on medical leave from work for another month and just let go - I let go of everything, I didn't have the mental or physical strength to go on. I ran out of FMLA, I lost my apartment, was hospitalized again and became homeless - this over the course of a year. A family member gave me a place to stay. I started looking for work, but 6 months on nothing has come to fruition. I am once again on a downward spiral, but see a therapist every 2 weeks and am of course on meds (I cannot live without my meds). I wonder if I get a job, if I'll be able to hang on to it for long before I breakdown again. I sometimes wonder if I should keep trying or just pack it in.
It must be so hard to go through this...I'm in my house all day, I haven't gone outside months ago...my mom brings me food (we live together) and she takes care of me but I don't think she realizes how bad is my situation...I'm 22, I don't go to school nor I have a job, I don't have friends, it's also hard for me to trust people outside in the real world...I also think I need meds, but since I don't go anywhere by myself and I don't want my mom to judge my mental state, I don't think I can receive any treatment...I just wanna die everyday...also my parents just don't get along and our financial situation is very bad. I'm garbage..
I don't think you're garbage, I think you are hurting and need help. I know the fear of asking for help, being afraid no one will be there. But you need to take care of yourself - getting on meds saved my life. I encourage you to ask your mother to take you to the doctor so you can get help.
Mabel R ! No honey , you are just scared and stuck ! Pleace tell your doctor , you need a bit of help , you need to get checked out nevrologicly , psyckologicly , and you need advice. It s nothing wrong with you , you are scared and in a pattern you have lived a long time . We all need a little push sometimes and it s so esy to let days go into weeks ... weeks into months and so on ... You just need someone to teach you and show you what to do ! Baby steps ! There is a whole world out there ... You have to tell someone , ask your doctor for help and say you want to gradually get help to be more independent ! You want a better life , and that is not only possible but very doable ! When you get out more , start to work a bit , maby go in groups ..?? ... you will see more people and get friends ! When you see someone reguarly , you get to know people and you will find someone you like and become friends ... And you will get more confident when you do a job and with time , you will get more confident and care less about small stuff and change and grow with time ! I only talked to my mom and best friend when I was young . Now I feel so much better and so much has changed ! Open up , girl ! Everything / mohst things , will be ok ! Promise that your life will change for the better ! Baby steps ! One back , to forwards !! Pleace hold on ❣️ You are the 3. person in this colom that say the same thing , I have seen so far ! So sad , but you are not alone ! Used to feel like you and live like you when I was sick ! I m glad I didn't take my life , becaus now , I m a mom 💗, and even though lot of things could have ben much esyer , I m pretty ok ! Some days even lucky ! I had a really tough life , so I belive even if we are completly different probebly , You will think back at this time of your life , and think " I m soooo glad I didn't take my life , then I wouldn't be here now and I would never have the good life I now have "... Wish you all the best ❣️ Be pashient ❣️⛈☁️⛅️🌤🌞🌈💝🍀🐨🦄✌🏼🌬✨❣️😉
Mabel R Your not garbage... I think you're simply stuck and fearful. Making changes in your life IS frightening! Sometimes we tell ourselves that making changes is just not worth it, even if your current situation is actually making things worse! I hope you'll get the help you need and can move on with your life. I think you do deserve better in life... but, you'll have to take that first step for yourself.
Stop the meds , this is what is killing you .
This video gave me strength.
Everything they said hit the nail on the head for me. I am not myself and not quite sure who I ever was. Everyday I pray that something actually exciting will come along and that I’ll have an excuse to leave my job. My body is fighting me really hard right now and yet I’m still pushing back. I will go to work tomorrow and I will suffer through it. I am so sick of living like that and I just feel like there is no solution. It’s always all or nothing and right now it truly feels like I have nothing. So afraid to fail, yet currently failing. I really should be seeing a therapist, but I’d rather not be more of a financial burden than I already am to my family. I have this deep feeling that I won’t live the life I actually want to live.
I recognize those feelings. When I stop and think about my life I realized that I've had a really sad existence . I was born with a incurable autoimmune disease. I spent a lot of my childhood in the hospital. I was constantly alone and being alone as a kid in the hospital during the 90s its very traumatic. I feel like I never had a fair chance. I'm unable to work so I spend a majority of my time on couch. I feel like the only time I'm alive is when I'm asleep and dreaming.
I've felt exactly the same about 4 years ago. Every Friday night I was already dreading Monday. It got to the point when I wished to have a car accident on the way to work just be able to take a break. That's when I started to realise that something was awfully wrong in my life. I kept going for some more months but then I moved to a new flat and was off for summer holidays. As soon as I settled into my new home I knew that I couldn't go back to that job. It was impossible as my anxiety had risen to a never known level and I got severely depressed.
I was off sick for almost two years. In my country (Germany) you can't be fired due to sickness so I had to quit my job. It took me that long as I got a lot of pressure from my family. I worked for a reputable international company and was well paid so my parents couldn't understand why I would want to quit a safe job like that. But if there's one thing that I realised during those years then it's money truly can't buy you happiness.
After another 3 months at a daytime clinic, I finally managed to officially quit. Picking up my stuff was awful as I had to face my boss one last time but on the way home I felt such a massive relief! I actually screamed of joy in my car which I've never done before! This was the reassurance to me that I've made the right decision.
At the age of almost thirty, I started all over again. I decided to follow my long kept dream and started to study. Of course, studying also is stressful one money is tight but it's worth it. I'm currently doing my practical semester in the job that I always dreamt of doing and I've never felt so comfortable in my life for decades. It won't make me rich but it doesn't matter as long as I can make my living and I'm healthy.
So please don't you ever be scared to quit what drags you down and follow your heart! No matter what others are telling you: It's YOUR life and YOU have to live it! It's never too late! 😉
My worst fear. To snap. To not be able to held the facade anymore. What do I do if I snap, if I can't work anymore, if I can't do basic human interactions to survive, like going grocery shopping. I tell myself it won't happen but deep down I know it's a very true possibility. Such a scary, scary thought.
I've had this thought a few times in my life and it's been a more present reality than ever lately, so not trying to offer false hope because the world is scary. But all I can say is sometimes the best relief comes from breaking down...and that's an even scarier thought...that having to be vulnerable might actually be the only thing that breaks the cycle of fear and depression. Just realize that sanity in response to insanity is not a normal reaction and it's ok to break down. People might look at how weird or make fun of you for being "out of control," but they will never be able to experience life in an authentic way, a way that cant be faked. Inwardly they're probably jealous that they can't express themselves truly anymore because they've lost connection to their souls. So remember if you ever do "lose it" you just might find the key to happiness.
I’ve always felt like a failure because I couldn’t cope well enough with home, work, children and garden.
Maybe I’m just human.
Yep. Just human. Not Superman. Just human.
I'm glad I watched this because now I don't feel alone. I see, talk and deal with so many people I am drained by the end of the day. I don't even take care of myself anymore. I've even considered marrying rich so I don't have to work anymore. Isn't that awful?
yeah its aweful, but i do see why you would..:/
Marry rich.
Don’t marry Rich unless you really know the person is kind rich people sometimes I have their own agendas and feel everyone should cater to them.
At least you have the awareness of what you might be willing to do. It's hard out here right now. I have hope for you. ☺️ Whatever your situation.
It's not awful hun, its honest!!
What a blessing to have a wife like Jill.....What a GREAT support ....
What a beautifully collaborated, wonderfully empathetic documentary full of the promise of.... :"everything is going to be fiiiinnnnneeeee"......
It seems to me all these people are exceptionally intelligent and sensitive and not at all mad. I think people need a way to consiously detatch themselves from stress. I love to swim and listen to load music. I notice how they are all appreciating nature, it's so grounding.
This is a serious management problem. Despite working extremely hard these people are not recognised, not can they make significant headway as they are hamstrung. People begin to feel overwhelmed and hopeless. It's shocking how unequipped their management is to protect their employees and ensure they are supported.
This is the best explanation I have ever heard for mental pressures. Excellent and totally understandable. I feel so much for these people and hope they found peace.
Madeleine thank you ☺
There is not a breathing person who has not felt what is described...it is simply a matter of degree...
You are welcome....just be easy on yourself. We are all self-deprecating and think we are less than we are. So untrue, Andre
Madeleine you are so remarkable!.. I feel the sincerity in your words. Things that I'm not blessed to hear often so thank you again.
No you don't, you wish the worst for them, be honest.
HUGE kudos to everyone on here that realized their sanity is worth more than a paycheck! 💖
In the U.S.A. there is very little help anymore for people with mental/psychiatric/depression issues. Suicide rates are pretty high with so little support anywhere. It seemed to me that these good folks in this British program had better help, even if it did fail for some of them. Imagine having in house sessions with a psychiatric nurse! Imagine getting leave from work for coping with stress! Here, we just have to keep pushing on, or fail miserably. Even if one has insurance that covers psychiatric visits, there are limits to the number of visits. Ridiculous!
their is not that much help in the UK. most Jobs won't let you have time off for stress, its classed as sick leave and take to much and youl loose your job hence why so much stress over taking time off!
FML there's literally no where safe to thrive & survive without expectation of being a fukn robot
Patricia Roysdon So true. Zero empathy, support, help or chance to recover in the USA.
Patricia Roysdon That's very sad - in effect, you're just a drone bee - work your butt off and if you become useless to the hive, out you go!
My employer has too few employees, so does not have to follow FMLA rules. I am under so much pressure and stress, I feel I must quit my job or lose it completely. I have cut back on most of my outside responsibilities, while also decreasing my expenses, in order to survive on a lesser paying job. God keeps me going until then.
I have this shit and I am so sick and tired of it. I am a teacher and I can relate so much to the teacheer in this video. I desperately keep trying to get back to work but I quickly feel overwhelmed. After seeing thid video maybe I should just accept I am sick and take some time to focus o recovering and nothing more.
Denise Coelho That may very well be the best thing you could do to take care of yourself!🌺🌺
I'm sorry to hear this. I count down the minutes everyday until work starts , and afterwords all I can think about is now it's bedtime, then countdown to work again . I have previously had days like that from time to time, but it is now every single day , and my job is pushing us even more , even though it has been made public in many media avenues ,that the company pushes it's employees way too much . I have hypothyroidism and depression and anxiety , work from home, and it is still so overwhelming. How do I tell my amazing husband that I am 37 but feel as if I am 67 ? Best wishes to us all.
Im a teacher. I also got burned out. I retired early with penalty, but that $$ only endured one year bc I'm single parent with two children. I don't have much of a financial or family safety net so I eventually had to go back but I chose a higher paying district with better colleagues. It's still stressful and I plan to shift in a year with better planning this time.
I feel for you. Get lots of rest and find a hobby you love and have compassion for. It helps. Best to you my lady.
Try tutoring. Much more relaxed, one on one. Asians love having tutors. 💜