Boy I was not a good a Mom ...but then neither was mine..but I will apologize & take responsible for it to my daughter; who by the way is 49...I suppose se better than never getting it... thanks Jeff!❤️
How amazing that you can see it and speak out about this years later. I wish my mom could do the same. Just recognition about what happened would mean everything to me. You are doing the very very best thing you can do right now. 💚
I remember that I only started tuning out when I was a teenager to prevent me from listening to both of my parents talking trash about each other. Before that, I would hone in all my anger (especially towards my mother) and idealize things such as "taking over the world". Now I am both constantly angry at my lack of control over myself and my issues, and constantly tuning out from everything with no real way to cope with my stresses. I need practical solutions for my problems, but all I'm being told by my friends and therapists is to "focus on myself" until it makes no sense anymore. My trauma is very much affecting me to this day.
I’ve actually found that my trauma forced me from an early age to consider that someone always had it worse than me. That default helped me navigate the difficult times. If anything it’s given me a chronically positive outlook on everything. So my question would be if the trait we’ve adopted to cope gets positive feedback in your personal life, is it something that still needs addressed? It’s kind of become my hallmark personality trait lol…
Is it a bad thing to become a therapist as a response to childhood trauma? I had the opposite issue, incredibly over-surveilling and gaslighting parents so I think the reason I want to be a therapist is that it would give me greater clarity in inter-personal interactions and provide me a safe seat of ethicality to fall back on, because I would *know* how to treat people appropriately and *know* I was. I was telling my therapist I didn't know what to do and he actually got me to start thinking about becoming a therapist, I think I'd be a good one, and I know I'd be able to help people, but is that a disingenuous engagement with the profession? Would that be doing my clients a disservice to derive that kind of satisfaction/validation from our sessions? It feels kinda implicitly icky, idk. Sorry for ranting, genuinely curious to hear what you think about this because I love your content.
Hi what are your prices I have a therapist that is not spiritual and I feel that she’s not helping me at all and I’m getting into my spiritual awakening I need to heal a lot of trauma from my past and it’s affecting my present and I need extra help
This is exactly why I never became a parent. I used to joke around that I never wanted children because they’d just grow up to need extensive therapy later. Sometimes, it’s just best to not make new humans because we will do it wrong.
I love when you say, “Yes, I’m a therapist. I will always blame your parents or caregivers.” 📌
Boy I was not a good a Mom ...but then neither was mine..but I will apologize & take responsible for it to my daughter; who by the way is 49...I suppose se better than never getting it... thanks Jeff!❤️
How amazing that you can see it and speak out about this years later. I wish my mom could do the same. Just recognition about what happened would mean everything to me. You are doing the very very best thing you can do right now. 💚
I am a therapist and yes I became one because of child hood trauma. Really enjoy your videos. Love your honest authentic approach. ❤️
I'm so glad you mentioned nonverbal. I can't believe EVEN I didn't factor this into my own trauma response.
As someone who is both trying to heal and raise children, I greatly appreciate your content.
You’re way ahead of the average parent for even watching these videos. Your kids are lucky to have you.
@@TherapyJeff thank you Jeff 🥺
I love your explanations Jeff! You’re the best - and kudos on becoming a therapist to fulfill your need of being needed 😉😂
I remember that I only started tuning out when I was a teenager to prevent me from listening to both of my parents talking trash about each other. Before that, I would hone in all my anger (especially towards my mother) and idealize things such as "taking over the world". Now I am both constantly angry at my lack of control over myself and my issues, and constantly tuning out from everything with no real way to cope with my stresses. I need practical solutions for my problems, but all I'm being told by my friends and therapists is to "focus on myself" until it makes no sense anymore. My trauma is very much affecting me to this day.
I’ve actually found that my trauma forced me from an early age to consider that someone always had it worse than me. That default helped me navigate the difficult times. If anything it’s given me a chronically positive outlook on everything. So my question would be if the trait we’ve adopted to cope gets positive feedback in your personal life, is it something that still needs addressed? It’s kind of become my hallmark personality trait lol…
Great vibe. My mom and stepfather are grandiose, so their problems out weighed mine. I could win an award in tuning out.
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Thank you for ur content, sweet demeanor and humble words. It’s great
Thank you for helping me understand, therapy Jeff
Thanks for watchin!
Thank you for this.❤We love Gabor!
Love these videos, thank you!!! I'm a big fan of Gabor but he has a lot out there, is there anything you recommend? Thanks again!
Oh my god you are the BEST!!! I need you:)
thank you Jeff
You are just the best!!!
okay but that bit at 5:08 had me laughing out loud!
Lol not me being a peer support and persuing a social work degree AND having anxious attachment 🤪
Is it a bad thing to become a therapist as a response to childhood trauma? I had the opposite issue, incredibly over-surveilling and gaslighting parents so I think the reason I want to be a therapist is that it would give me greater clarity in inter-personal interactions and provide me a safe seat of ethicality to fall back on, because I would *know* how to treat people appropriately and *know* I was. I was telling my therapist I didn't know what to do and he actually got me to start thinking about becoming a therapist, I think I'd be a good one, and I know I'd be able to help people, but is that a disingenuous engagement with the profession? Would that be doing my clients a disservice to derive that kind of satisfaction/validation from our sessions? It feels kinda implicitly icky, idk. Sorry for ranting, genuinely curious to hear what you think about this because I love your content.
What if we don’t have anyone to help meet those needs?
Hi what are your prices I have a therapist that is not spiritual and I feel that she’s not helping me at all and I’m getting into my spiritual awakening I need to heal a lot of trauma from my past and it’s affecting my present and I need extra help
What solution sir
Can you do a video for parents please 🙏
What solution
what solution
What solution mam
Especially if you’re claiming to be “non binary”. Don’t listen to people who tell you the trauma isn’t related.
Of course it is.
I like you very much.
I like what you have to say but this bare tree cold looking background makes me uneasy😅
This is exactly why I never became a parent. I used to joke around that I never wanted children because they’d just grow up to need extensive therapy later.
Sometimes, it’s just best to not make new humans because we will do it wrong.