You will never know in a million years how incredibly inspirational you have been to this old soak. For the first time in my 56 years on god’s green earth I am actually looking forward to being alcohol free from midnight. The weird thing is, your delivery doesn’t feel even remotely preachy or hypocritical. You’ve made more sense in 20 minutes than I had during 3 months with my local rehab councillors (although they did help me stop spirits and wine😉). Next stop.. no more beer in 2024 … and I’m genuinely looking forward to it thanks to my mate Tim 👍🏻
I'm going to play this on loop - I need the clarity, focus, and support to make a change. All the best all for 2024. I gave up smoking overnight 30 years ago, never looked back. Need to tackle the wine demons with the same approach.
Thanks for this Tim. I quit in September 2022 aged 46 after many decades of heavy drinking. Its great we can now talk about this openly. You're a good man.
I was in the Royal Ulster Constabulary for 30 years, so you can just imagine what that was like. The drinking culture was way out of hand and I am a product of that. I have since recognised that everything bad that has ever happened in my life has had alcohol involved either directly or indirectly. Despite this I continued well beyond the point where I should have stopped. I now need to stop, but I am keeping it quiet.
I'm 6 months sober after 14 years heavily drinking, been in the Army I managed to avoid drinking for 22 years, after leaving I drifted into it. I stopped on the 2nd of January 2024, it just recently I've stopped feeling crap, knackered and brain fog and worst of all high levels of anxiety, so it takes a while to feel normal again after for so many years. I managed to kick it alone, family didn't understand and that was okay. I stopped sugar and eat more healthier foods. I'm 20 kgs lighter now and started doing park runs and jogging.
Throughout being sober I have gone to bed at 10:30pm religiously just because I'm naturally tired and can recognise that. Loads of meditation stuff on Spotify, yes it helps do it.
Top vid, chap. I'm ex RAFR, and now a teacher, and drinking faaaar too much. I am stopping. It WILL be utter utter shite, but it WILL be worth it, I'm telling no one (because everyone else is right, right?). Commend the bravery in speaking out. Have a good one, Al.
20 minutes Tim !! haha. I did helicopters professionally, and 99% didnt partake on an evening before a flying shift. If we sometimes got stuck in bad weather overnight somewhere, probably the worst time to drink, we often did. We worked hard and played hard. Now I am retired, drinking is a much easier option, and having gone mad in december it is now time to lift off the gas. Ive had spleen bother first diagnosed in November, and a string of tests throughout the festive period, more in early January. Now as we approach 2024 I intend to dump drinking for a while, my diet is fairly healthy apart from the drink. So good shout Tim, a time to reflect and look a bit more inward. Ive lost too many friends this year to not try and get healthier. I don't want to be them just yet. Keep a haad Tim.
I'm proud of you Tim. You are saving lives with these videos. That last point hit deep because its how my mum ended up, told 9 months before she died she had 6 months left, she gave up there and then, went into rehab, but her liver was at 10%, and after 9 months it caused her heart, kidneys and lungs to fail, 48 hours later we were turning off her life support and I walked from the relatives room into the ward, kissed her on the forehead and said "mum we are ceasing treatment, we're letting you go". It broke me and I've never recovered, but she was a nurse and would have wanted to know. Its also why I phrased like that, because it was in a language she understood What I will say to anyone who has had family or friends withdraw from them due to your drinking, if you can prove your taking positive steps they will be there for you. The day my mum went into rehab, as she was leaving, I kissed her on the forehead and told her how proud of her I was, and she burst out crying because she'd never heard me say that in 25 years. Now its one of my fondest memories of us. I love these videos so much Tim
Massive amount of respect for Tim for giving his own personal story on this, and for everyone who’s going to make the effort next year to be healthier, massive respect to you too!
I was in the mob for 24 years. I only drank because everyone else did, not because I enjoyed the taste but because of the fun socially ! Detachments and OOA pretty much constantly drinking. Lol. The Falklands especially where pretty much a blur. When I came out the RAF, I just gave up the booze without thinking. Maybe Im lucky to escape the cycle. If Id had a more stressful job then who knows.
I grew up in a naval family, my farther being a pilot and an alcoholic, My mother did not know how to handle this. Learning how to deal with this can be hard for some people to deal with. I've had to deal with this personally, and support is hard to find. I finally made it out, and fully appreciate your honesty and passion you bring to your channel. Keep looking up!
As an Army officer (Major) I got in trouble at Fort Blockhouse in Portsmouth for drinking too much. Wasn't clever and I do regret it. It was a natural progression from 6 years at Newcastle Uni in the 90's and then into the Army where the culture was lets get pissed. And I am a Doctor. Your video made sense.
It's forty years now since I left the British Army. In the late 70s, early 80s, it was a matter of routine to have a couple of pints with lunch in the Officers' Mess. I often wonder if that culture changed over the years. I can't imagine it was a sustainable situation.
I was always sceptical about doctors advice after living with a bunch of junior doctors at university. I was a maths and finance major with wall street plans, to leave the UK, but also a major health freak and gym rat. The medics would drink way excessive amounts and several even smoking. This was in early 2000's.
For me AA worked the best. After 3 months of doing it on my own it just lead me back to the bar. I didn't order that drink instead I went to AA. Been to 4 meetings this week over xmas period and thats helped me keep sane thru the tough times. I know people say 'oh I can't do the God stuff' - yeah just leave that do the rest and come back to it, but its a god of YOUR understanding not religion or church or anything, its NOTHING to do with all that bollocks, if you are curious and want to give up just give it a crack it might be the best thing you do and could save your life and the lives of other people who come into the fellowship after you. Pass on the message and stay sober. Thanks Tim.
I was in the RAF from 84 to 96 and there was a drinking culture throughout, if you didn't get involved in the piss ups you were considered to not be a team player and even worthy of scrutiny because of your anti social behaviour. I must say I had no problem with this, I was big into my rugby and a posting to Germany was the perfect storm. After I left, I moderated my drinking simply because that sort of opportunity no longer existed. I carried on playing rugby to a reasonable level, which involves much communal alcohol consumption, but nothing socially, as civvy street doesn't work that way; fast forward many decades and my wife died unexpectedly. I drank very heavily, so much so that I considered it a legitimate means of suicide. Two years later I still hadn't done any damage (and I put this down to resistance built up in the mob) and I simply got bored with being an alcoholic. I didn't stop drinking alcohol because I identified that the problem was me, not the booze. Nowadays I like to meet up with my girlfriend and share a bottle of wine, no big deal. What I'm trying to say is alcohol doesn't capture you, but you allow yourself to go down a path.
Thanks so much Steve, you have clarified the situation alot for me in your last sentence. But it took, what You went through to be able to pass that on. 😊🇬🇧
@@paulybassman7311 Thanks, I have been involved with veterans matters in recent years and I am pleased to say was part of the group which attended No 10 to see the treasury minister (two Xmas ago) to beg for funding for Op Fortitude, the scheme to remove veterans from street homelessness. The veterans minister was there and we had an unexpected visit from the Prime Minister who I must say was charming and attentive; we got the funding and things progress; interestingly, I was able to speak with people who work in veterans supported accommodation and they said that RAF veterans who needed help were rare (RAFA are really good apparently unlike the RBL), but every single one was an alcoholic, sometimes to the point of death. I don't know if this is worthy of further research but it seems peculiar to me.
Here I am - both an old and a bold pilot who has reached his biblical three-score & ten......intact. If totally quitting is what works for people - fine. Do it that way. Doing nothing is the worst option. Anyway, for what it's worth, I opt for control. How....? Do NOT allow alcohol consumption to become a HABIT. That's the key. Keep control. Engine's quit...? Fly it all the way down. Keep control.
What a great video Tim. So much great content delivered in a humble and authentic way. One thing I’d add that was critical for me: don’t just not drink. Not doing something is prohibition. Substitute the drinking with an ADVENTURE. Something you can get passionate about. Doesn’t matter what it is. I heard this from a Jordan Peterson podcast and it changed my whole outlook.
Honestly that video was just from the heart. Looks like he been through it and come out of it good. We have one life one body just step back and see the sense in what drinking does to you and the people around you too. Great video keep the good work up 😊
Keep them coming Tim, I'll bet you are getting through to a lot nice guys who spent too much time in the bar. They might not say much, but deep inside you're rhetoric is meaningful.
Day 2, Not a heavy drinker by any means, more social, Military background. drank significantly less over the Xmas period which seems to piss of a few "Mates" Taking inspiration from you Tim. Discussed with them and agreed to do Dry January, one lasted 17 hours, and tried to drag me back in. I'll manage the month (second time this year), Just my relationship with Alcohol has changed in 2023.
I had my first sober day yesterday, after a very long time of drinking AT LEAST 2 x 6 packs a night, mostly more than that (another 6 pack or so sometimes). This has been going on for about 3 years straight. Woke up, no shaking from withdrawals (although I know they will come again from time to time as my body adjusts). The Christmas/New Year period has been particularly intense on the drinking front. But woke up, much more clear headed, no shaking so far, not hungover and having to try to function. My goal is to control, not to completely stop. It's going to be hard, I know that, but I want to put the work in to make my efforts a success. However, until I am at a stage where I can control it, I will be dry. Keep giving this advice Tim, if people don't like it, like you said at the start of your video, there are plenty of other videos out there to go watch. Congratulations on the 12 months clear! Good luck to everyone in the comments that have gone through the experience, are already on their way, or are just starting. Follow Tim's advice and I am sure you will nail it! Good luck for 2024
As an ex sailor that took 5 years to do a complete dry January, I relate to everything you’ve said, it’s really refreshing to hear a direct, straight no nonsense debrief on giving up booze. I stop from January to may now, I look forward to stopping in January but enjoy drinking on holidays etc. it works for me. But great video!
I started at 14 ..now 61 ........spent over 40 years in law and order and 7 in the TA . ( a very fit drinker ) ........Drink was a way of life .......spent most of 2023 sober after watching your channel .........but the last week has been very hard as i've hit the bottle/Tin ..........I thought yomping in wales was hard ........this really sucks ......but I like your advice ...........2024 will be an interesting year for me
I'm taking a year off drinking alcohol now. I'm not an alcoholic or have issues surrounding alchol but I want to know I can do it if I want to. I want to reinforce my self control and see what it feels like to be clean from its effects for a year. After seeing the last video about alcohol I realised since the age of 17 I have never gone one full month without consuming some alcohol in one form or another. Its amazing how normalised alcohol is. Its a British past time.
25 year ex services, riddled with PTSD. Beer (in excess) has been my primary numbing agent for decades. Time to stop. You've resonated with me Tim, thank you, I'm starting today.
25 years as a military instructor pilot and now over 5 years along after releasing, I can relate to all that is being said here. I had to develop my own style of regemeted life or go off... luckily I am making progress. My nemesis is financial. So be it sobriety, chemicals or lack of financial mechanisms, one comes to terms with civilian life, hang in there, it can be done.
Well done the first year. 15:50 I progressed a career in corporate sales post RAF (1970) in a heavy drinking London company environment. Holding both Motor cycle and Car licences and covering some 30000 miles a year for business meant I began to see any alcoholic drink in terms of life without personal transport - impossible. Now 15 years retired the self discipline remains. Keep It Super Simple - KISS - helps me stop the overthinking that keeps the subject in the front of mind.
Hi Tim, I’ve watched this video and the other two in relation to this extremely important topic over and over again.. Never have I heard such wise words. I’m 57 and feel I’ve had the longest hangover for years.and thought time and time again I cannot keep doing this to myself for many more years. I like the way you say we are ill and we need to repair ourselves and get better. One day at a time on this mamouth journey and I’m on day two. Just like to add thanks for taking the time to make these very important posts as well as the simulator ones as well….
Thanks for sharing ur experience and advice Tim. I'm in my mid 40's now and my body and brain is definitely ringing the bell for last orders at the bar. I quit in 2016 for 3 months, felt great but went back to it. Quit for 6 months the first half of last year, was eating junk food to compensate so didn't really feel amazing but felt better. Going to drop it again for good this time and work toward the vastly better state of mind sobriety gives. Very inspiring stuff, thanks Tim 🫡
This video will help many men and woman stop drinking and I congratulate Tim on presenting a life saving message that many others attempt but fail. Keep up the content. I myself am an alcoholic but have been sober now for just over 16 years and agree with everything you have presented here.In my time though in recovery one thing I have realised that a real alcoholic can never control their drinking and I do believe its a progressive illness. My personal journey though has been through the rooms of AA but although I would strongly advise anyone who needs it to try AA I also believe it is not the only way. Your honesty and demonstration of humility here in this video is probably your most valuable tool so again I congratulate you Tim and you got my subscription.
Inspirational words and actions Tim. As an ex forces fast jet engineer, I understand the culture that is fuelled by alcohol, particularly when away on detachment as the “rule book” goes out of the window. A great video delivered with sincerity and humility. Many will learn from your personal story Tim. Thank you.
Hey Tim I don't normally comment on videos but felt bound to on this one. I stopped drinking in December 2019 and whenever I have had some alcohol since it somehow reminds me that I shouldn't be doing that now. It is fair to say at that time in 2019 I could not even have imagined how much better and how different life would become - with time and some pain - after stopping that. The gym - connecting with iron - and sparkling water are great tips that resonated with my experience. I liked the framing of the "70's diet" will try thinking of food that way, I've definitely noticed I do best on a diet of meat, potatoes, eggs, whey protein powder and some fruit and veg, some grains/bread but not too much.
With you 110% Tim! Truth hurts sometimes...let the lemmings leave you'll keep more people who understand rather than doubting Thomas clan. HNY Tim to you and yours all the best for 2024!
I completed Dry January last year and managed half of February before falling spectacularly off the wagon (thanks fucking Valentines Day!). I’ve managed a week here or there, since. Today is Jan 1 and I’m back to it, with experience and more determination. I wish all of you who are starting (or starting again) this alcohol free journey, the very best. It is fucking hard, but I remember feeling bloody brilliant before I fell off the wagon (I thought that one night would be fine because I’d done really well, so no worries! WRONG!!!!!). Happy New Year, all of you. And Tim, best to you and thanks for all you do and say, sir.
I was in the navy for 10 years left in 97 .....a little further down the food chain than yourself I was an able seaman! I can relate though...I joined in 87 and the drinking culture was engrained in the navy ... And not just drinking .... Heavy drinking and the hierarchy actually seemed to encourage it .... Unfortunately I carried the ethic on onto civilian life and now in my mid fifties I'm running into health issues.I hear alot of anecdotes regarding how good it was then compared with now but one of my shipmates is still serving as a lieutenant.... He says modern sailors tend to be into fitness and have hobbies etc ......I know we laugh but this can only be good thing....I'm sure the same is for the RAF and the Army aswell. Progress in the forces isn't all negative I believe.
Being M Navy, and Offshore, I always had dry time. When not working it was available, and very pleasant. What are the reasons for not Drinking? Yes we are all on our own journey. Great work Tim. Keep it up.
Thanks Tim! Your series of videos on this topic has helped me a lot to start quitting since this Christmas! Something I always wanted to do but struggled to keep up with. But Im determined to make it work this time!
I like you, buddy for 30 year I have supported the gang under the sea. would love a chat, I love a pint and will never stop having a beer no family but very happy
Thank you, you are so genuine, love your videos, what you said in this one really resonated, drinking my last drop of poison as I write this. big love x
Thanks for the video, I have been a heavy drinker in the past, having to do a what did I do last night check far too often. I rarely drink to excess now, living in a dry country where home brew is the only option. When i return to the UK, alcohol is a feature but now I drink a couple with a meal, rarely visit pubs and focus on making the most of my time.
Congrats on your humbling honesty, I self-medicated for years after returning from Afghan. The victim mentality will not help you until you admit everything is within your control, that's when you'll regain your power through discipline.
Honest straightforward No nonsense valuable information. You'r not gas lighting you'r just being Honest. Follow you on Apple podcast do you have any new ones lined up for the future. Great to listen to when out walking in the Mountain's of North Wales.
Tim, top vid 👍🏻 I’m sure your aviation related content is good, however, I haven’t watched any. I work as a commercial pilot so I have enough of the aviation bollocks from plenty of other sources. You’re honest up from perspectives about how to simply be decent, honest bloke is refreshing. Especially in the circus of a world that we now seem to be living in. It takes courage/a set of nuts to put out the content that you do. So keep them coming mate 👍🏻
Thank you for sharing this..Retired F16 Pilot Chris Lehto talked about the use of etoh within the military aviation community…he had etoh problems and stopped drinking too. Good for you both.
Another great video Tim, I always find whatever you choose to discuss is open, honest and from the heart so I always make time to watch till the end. I think the subject on drink will resonate with a lot of people, I have sign posted a few of my friends to your Channel who have a very unhealthy relationship with drink, as I really feel it will help them on their journey. I say listen to Tim, he knows his onions and he’s a former jet jockey so theirs another reason to listen. You’ve probably had them spill a beer at Rhosneiger on occasion when arriving runway 31 😏 If just one person could turn their life around by listening to you I’d say it’s a success…keep up the good work 👍🏼
Tim you are great and inspirational and help a lot in the experiences you share. Alcohol is always a use for blocking the true issues going on in your lives, seems an good way to make you feel better, but so not. Well done on the posts. Tris
Spoke volumes to me when, thanks for wearing your heart on your sleeve. Massive respect for your honesty. I am intelligent enough to know it's not good and not right so you're not gaslighting me. Thanks for sharing 🙏🫶🤜🤛
Been there , bought the T shirt, except when I disappeared from Cottesmore in 88on a sort of admin release. 1709 ish hours. The alcohol was the least of my problems. The cannabis ( fk you SIB) very very difficult, The speed ( very easy to give up). The opioids (easyish) Tjhe LSD simple.. The point is….. I don’t fkn know what the fk. The point of this message is I don’t know. But I’m still here. Good luck for 2024 everyone.
Agree, if surrounded by drinkers, don't tell them your quitting, they won't be supportive. See alcohol as a the enemy, something that wants to hurt you. Do something positive instead, gym, hobby, qualification, so that in a year you can ask yourself the question, how would I rather be, the new me or the old.
Sitting here watching this with a can in my hand. After coming out of DC as a young offender back in 79, tried to join the Paras but was refused bc of my criminal record as a juvenile joined the foreign legion earning my stripes. Now at 61 still struggling have been through the system. I'm listening. god do I drink tea lol.
Thank you so much for this information. Listening to what you've already been through and knowing what's ahead on this journey from the 1st will really help. Tough times are ahead but it can be dealt with. I really appreciate your honesty - you didn't have to do this. But in doing so is going to help someone, and I want it to be me. Happy New Year to you.
You are the coolest MF’r ! I relate to you very very much. I don’t know if I’m ready to quit and recently cut down. But when I’m ready, I’m going to put this on a loop! Love you man, thank you!
As an addendum. I think you might enjoy picking up the guitar or the piano.. I can teach you initially on line. It’s a beautiful distraction. It won’t save you, but it will soothe you.. just say hello and I’ll come cyber running. 2024 could be interesting we can top ourselves in 2025 😱😊. Say hello.
I've had stomach issues that seemed chronic. Hiatal Hernia and the shit and I was drinking alcohol like every day. One day I had enough. I started to binge watch youtube-videos like 'Sober Leon' (look him up), and the likes. And videos about alcohol's effect on the body. And I left the environment where I usually drink. Started to do daily walks along the beach. 2,5 years clean. I sleep well, no anxiety, stomach still fucked up - but a lot less - so I'm sticking to my new guns and I love them. 1. Don't drink. 2 Repeat. Godspeed.
You will never know in a million years how incredibly inspirational you have been to this old soak. For the first time in my 56 years on god’s green earth I am actually looking forward to being alcohol free from midnight. The weird thing is, your delivery doesn’t feel even remotely preachy or hypocritical. You’ve made more sense in 20 minutes than I had during 3 months with my local rehab councillors (although they did help me stop spirits and wine😉). Next stop.. no more beer in 2024 … and I’m genuinely looking forward to it thanks to my mate Tim 👍🏻
My god mate....my sentiments exactly.
Thank you, best of luck with it.
I'm going to play this on loop - I need the clarity, focus, and support to make a change. All the best all for 2024. I gave up smoking overnight 30 years ago, never looked back. Need to tackle the wine demons with the same approach.
Good Luck with that, had a 1854 wine bottle cellar collection. Which I drank dry, until the price went up too much. Damn.
You sound like me, but I'm still smoking as well😂🙄
@@paulybassman7311 Good luck!
How did the loop go? Did you make it mate? Hopefully you did.
Thanks for this Tim. I quit in September 2022 aged 46 after many decades of heavy drinking. Its great we can now talk about this openly. You're a good man.
I was in the Royal Ulster Constabulary for 30 years, so you can just imagine what that was like. The drinking culture was way out of hand and I am a product of that. I have since recognised that everything bad that has ever happened in my life has had alcohol involved either directly or indirectly. Despite this I continued well beyond the point where I should have stopped. I now need to stop, but I am keeping it quiet.
It's a very internal journey and not an easy one - best of luck with it.
I'm 6 months sober after 14 years heavily drinking, been in the Army I managed to avoid drinking for 22 years, after leaving I drifted into it. I stopped on the 2nd of January 2024, it just recently I've stopped feeling crap, knackered and brain fog and worst of all high levels of anxiety, so it takes a while to feel normal again after for so many years. I managed to kick it alone, family didn't understand and that was okay. I stopped sugar and eat more healthier foods. I'm 20 kgs lighter now and started doing park runs and jogging.
Throughout being sober I have gone to bed at 10:30pm religiously just because I'm naturally tired and can recognise that. Loads of meditation stuff on Spotify, yes it helps do it.
Top vid, chap. I'm ex RAFR, and now a teacher, and drinking faaaar too much. I am stopping. It WILL be utter utter shite, but it WILL be worth it, I'm telling no one (because everyone else is right, right?). Commend the bravery in speaking out. Have a good one, Al.
Think of it not as shite but develop an image of sober summer times doing the things and with the people you love.
20 minutes Tim !! haha. I did helicopters professionally, and 99% didnt partake on an evening before a flying shift. If we sometimes got stuck in bad weather overnight somewhere, probably the worst time to drink, we often did. We worked hard and played hard. Now I am retired, drinking is a much easier option, and having gone mad in december it is now time to lift off the gas. Ive had spleen bother first diagnosed in November, and a string of tests throughout the festive period, more in early January. Now as we approach 2024 I intend to dump drinking for a while, my diet is fairly healthy apart from the drink. So good shout Tim, a time to reflect and look a bit more inward. Ive lost too many friends this year to not try and get healthier. I don't want to be them just yet. Keep a haad Tim.
I'm proud of you Tim.
You are saving lives with these videos.
That last point hit deep because its how my mum ended up, told 9 months before she died she had 6 months left, she gave up there and then, went into rehab, but her liver was at 10%, and after 9 months it caused her heart, kidneys and lungs to fail, 48 hours later we were turning off her life support and I walked from the relatives room into the ward, kissed her on the forehead and said "mum we are ceasing treatment, we're letting you go". It broke me and I've never recovered, but she was a nurse and would have wanted to know. Its also why I phrased like that, because it was in a language she understood
What I will say to anyone who has had family or friends withdraw from them due to your drinking, if you can prove your taking positive steps they will be there for you.
The day my mum went into rehab, as she was leaving, I kissed her on the forehead and told her how proud of her I was, and she burst out crying because she'd never heard me say that in 25 years. Now its one of my fondest memories of us.
I love these videos so much Tim
Massive amount of respect for Tim for giving his own personal story on this, and for everyone who’s going to make the effort next year to be healthier, massive respect to you too!
I was in the mob for 24 years. I only drank because everyone else did, not because I enjoyed the taste but because of the fun socially ! Detachments and OOA pretty much constantly drinking. Lol. The Falklands especially where pretty much a blur. When I came out the RAF, I just gave up the booze without thinking. Maybe Im lucky to escape the cycle. If Id had a more stressful job then who knows.
I grew up in a naval family, my farther being a pilot and an alcoholic, My mother did not know how to handle this. Learning how to deal with this can be hard for some people to deal with. I've had to deal with this personally, and support is hard to find. I finally made it out, and fully appreciate your honesty and passion you bring to your channel. Keep looking up!
As an Army officer (Major) I got in trouble at Fort Blockhouse in Portsmouth for drinking too much. Wasn't clever and I do regret it. It was a natural progression from 6 years at Newcastle Uni in the 90's and then into the Army where the culture was lets get pissed. And I am a Doctor. Your video made sense.
It's forty years now since I left the British Army. In the late 70s, early 80s, it was a matter of routine to have a couple of pints with lunch in the Officers' Mess. I often wonder if that culture changed over the years. I can't imagine it was a sustainable situation.
I was always sceptical about doctors advice after living with a bunch of junior doctors at university. I was a maths and finance major with wall street plans, to leave the UK, but also a major health freak and gym rat. The medics would drink way excessive amounts and several even smoking. This was in early 2000's.
Well done Tim!!
For me AA worked the best. After 3 months of doing it on my own it just lead me back to the bar. I didn't order that drink instead I went to AA. Been to 4 meetings this week over xmas period and thats helped me keep sane thru the tough times. I know people say 'oh I can't do the God stuff' - yeah just leave that do the rest and come back to it, but its a god of YOUR understanding not religion or church or anything, its NOTHING to do with all that bollocks, if you are curious and want to give up just give it a crack it might be the best thing you do and could save your life and the lives of other people who come into the fellowship after you. Pass on the message and stay sober. Thanks Tim.
Good comment indeed.
I was in the RAF from 84 to 96 and there was a drinking culture throughout, if you didn't get involved in the piss ups you were considered to not be a team player and even worthy of scrutiny because of your anti social behaviour. I must say I had no problem with this, I was big into my rugby and a posting to Germany was the perfect storm. After I left, I moderated my drinking simply because that sort of opportunity no longer existed. I carried on playing rugby to a reasonable level, which involves much communal alcohol consumption, but nothing socially, as civvy street doesn't work that way; fast forward many decades and my wife died unexpectedly. I drank very heavily, so much so that I considered it a legitimate means of suicide. Two years later I still hadn't done any damage (and I put this down to resistance built up in the mob) and I simply got bored with being an alcoholic. I didn't stop drinking alcohol because I identified that the problem was me, not the booze. Nowadays I like to meet up with my girlfriend and share a bottle of wine, no big deal. What I'm trying to say is alcohol doesn't capture you, but you allow yourself to go down a path.
Thanks so much Steve, you have clarified the situation alot for me in your last sentence. But it took, what You went through to be able to pass that on. 😊🇬🇧
@@paulybassman7311 Thanks, I have been involved with veterans matters in recent years and I am pleased to say was part of the group which attended No 10 to see the treasury minister (two Xmas ago) to beg for funding for Op Fortitude, the scheme to remove veterans from street homelessness. The veterans minister was there and we had an unexpected visit from the Prime Minister who I must say was charming and attentive; we got the funding and things progress; interestingly, I was able to speak with people who work in veterans supported accommodation and they said that RAF veterans who needed help were rare (RAFA are really good apparently unlike the RBL), but every single one was an alcoholic, sometimes to the point of death. I don't know if this is worthy of further research but it seems peculiar to me.
Here I am - both an old and a bold pilot who has reached his biblical three-score & ten......intact. If totally quitting is what works for people - fine. Do it that way. Doing nothing is the worst option. Anyway, for what it's worth, I opt for control. How....? Do NOT allow alcohol consumption to become a HABIT. That's the key. Keep control. Engine's quit...? Fly it all the way down. Keep control.
The movie, The Pilot is also known as Danger in the Skies (1980) stars Cliff Robertson, himself a pilot and alcoholic.
I'll look it up, Thank you.
What a great video Tim. So much great content delivered in a humble and authentic way. One thing I’d add that was critical for me: don’t just not drink. Not doing something is prohibition. Substitute the drinking with an ADVENTURE. Something you can get passionate about. Doesn’t matter what it is. I heard this from a Jordan Peterson podcast and it changed my whole outlook.
Good point, Thank you, Graeme.
Honestly that video was just from the heart. Looks like he been through it and come out of it good. We have one life one body just step back and see the sense in what drinking does to you and the people around you too. Great video keep the good work up 😊
Awesome that you have made it a year! Congrats and good luck staying dry.
Keep them coming Tim, I'll bet you are getting through to a lot nice guys who spent too much time in the bar. They might not say much, but deep inside you're rhetoric is meaningful.
Day 2, Not a heavy drinker by any means, more social, Military background. drank significantly less over the Xmas period which seems to piss of a few "Mates" Taking inspiration from you Tim. Discussed with them and agreed to do Dry January, one lasted 17 hours, and tried to drag me back in. I'll manage the month (second time this year), Just my relationship with Alcohol has changed in 2023.
I had my first sober day yesterday, after a very long time of drinking AT LEAST 2 x 6 packs a night, mostly more than that (another 6 pack or so sometimes). This has been going on for about 3 years straight. Woke up, no shaking from withdrawals (although I know they will come again from time to time as my body adjusts). The Christmas/New Year period has been particularly intense on the drinking front. But woke up, much more clear headed, no shaking so far, not hungover and having to try to function.
My goal is to control, not to completely stop. It's going to be hard, I know that, but I want to put the work in to make my efforts a success. However, until I am at a stage where I can control it, I will be dry.
Keep giving this advice Tim, if people don't like it, like you said at the start of your video, there are plenty of other videos out there to go watch.
Congratulations on the 12 months clear!
Good luck to everyone in the comments that have gone through the experience, are already on their way, or are just starting. Follow Tim's advice and I am sure you will nail it!
Good luck for 2024
As an ex sailor that took 5 years to do a complete dry January, I relate to everything you’ve said, it’s really refreshing to hear a direct, straight no nonsense debrief on giving up booze. I stop from January to may now, I look forward to stopping in January but enjoy drinking on holidays etc. it works for me. But great video!
I started at 14 ..now 61 ........spent over 40 years in law and order and 7 in the TA . ( a very fit drinker ) ........Drink was a way of life .......spent most of 2023 sober after watching your channel .........but the last week has been very hard as i've hit the bottle/Tin ..........I thought yomping in wales was hard ........this really sucks ......but I like your advice ...........2024 will be an interesting year for me
Good luck John.
Always like listening to your logic no matter what the topic, keep the videos coming.
I'm taking a year off drinking alcohol now.
I'm not an alcoholic or have issues surrounding alchol but I want to know I can do it if I want to.
I want to reinforce my self control and see what it feels like to be clean from its effects for a year.
After seeing the last video about alcohol I realised since the age of 17 I have never gone one full month without consuming some alcohol in one form or another.
Its amazing how normalised alcohol is. Its a British past time.
25 year ex services, riddled with PTSD. Beer (in excess) has been my primary numbing agent for decades. Time to stop.
You've resonated with me Tim, thank you, I'm starting today.
Best of luck with it and remember that stopping often takes more than one attempt.
There is a really bad drinking culture in the military, wish I had of avoided it. You are actively encouraged to drink. Good job raising awareness
25 years as a military instructor pilot and now over 5 years along after releasing, I can relate to all that is being said here. I had to develop my own style of regemeted life or go off... luckily I am making progress. My nemesis is financial. So be it sobriety, chemicals or lack of financial mechanisms, one comes to terms with civilian life, hang in there, it can be done.
Well done the first year. 15:50 I progressed a career in corporate sales post RAF (1970) in a heavy drinking London company environment. Holding both Motor cycle and Car licences and covering some 30000 miles a year for business meant I began to see any alcoholic drink in terms of life without personal transport - impossible. Now 15 years retired the self discipline remains. Keep It Super Simple - KISS - helps me stop the overthinking that keeps the subject in the front of mind.
Hi Tim, I’ve watched this video and the other two in relation to this extremely important topic over and over again.. Never have I heard such wise words. I’m 57 and feel I’ve had the longest hangover for years.and thought time and time again I cannot keep doing this to myself for many more years. I like the way you say we are ill and we need to repair ourselves and get better. One day at a time on this mamouth journey and I’m on day two. Just like to add thanks for taking the time to make these very important posts as well as the simulator ones as well….
Thank you, Andrew.
Thanks for sharing ur experience and advice Tim. I'm in my mid 40's now and my body and brain is definitely ringing the bell for last orders at the bar. I quit in 2016 for 3 months, felt great but went back to it. Quit for 6 months the first half of last year, was eating junk food to compensate so didn't really feel amazing but felt better. Going to drop it again for good this time and work toward the vastly better state of mind sobriety gives. Very inspiring stuff, thanks Tim 🫡
This video will help many men and woman stop drinking and I congratulate Tim on presenting a life saving message that many others attempt but fail. Keep up the content. I myself am an alcoholic but have been sober now for just over 16 years and agree with everything you have presented here.In my time though in recovery one thing I have realised that a real alcoholic can never control their drinking and I do believe its a progressive illness. My personal journey though has been through the rooms of AA but although I would strongly advise anyone who needs it to try AA I also believe it is not the only way. Your honesty and demonstration of humility here in this video is probably your most valuable tool so again I congratulate you Tim and you got my subscription.
Progressive illness is a good way to understand it, Thank you, Vin.
hey Tim, thanks a lot, the "people are doing the same thing" idea works just great for various aspects of life, to be honest! great one!
Inspirational words and actions Tim. As an ex forces fast jet engineer, I understand the culture that is fuelled by alcohol, particularly when away on detachment as the “rule book” goes out of the window. A great video delivered with sincerity and humility. Many will learn from your personal story Tim. Thank you.
Hey Tim I don't normally comment on videos but felt bound to on this one. I stopped drinking in December 2019 and whenever I have had some alcohol since it somehow reminds me that I shouldn't be doing that now. It is fair to say at that time in 2019 I could not even have imagined how much better and how different life would become - with time and some pain - after stopping that. The gym - connecting with iron - and sparkling water are great tips that resonated with my experience. I liked the framing of the "70's diet" will try thinking of food that way, I've definitely noticed I do best on a diet of meat, potatoes, eggs, whey protein powder and some fruit and veg, some grains/bread but not too much.
My man… 1 RGR Capt 2 T Afghan. Thank you mate, FOXTROT Gen brother!
Fantastic, in your face, video. No fking about. Well done Tim. Keep these coming pls, Absolutely brilliant fella 👍👍👍👍
Good honest honesty again. Thanks Tim. All the best for '24.
Vince
With you 110% Tim! Truth hurts sometimes...let the lemmings leave you'll keep more people who understand rather than doubting Thomas clan. HNY Tim to you and yours all the best for 2024!
Thanks Tim. Honesty, humility and some good home truths about Alcohol. Very timely too. Well done 😉
I completed Dry January last year and managed half of February before falling spectacularly off the wagon (thanks fucking Valentines Day!). I’ve managed a week here or there, since.
Today is Jan 1 and I’m back to it, with experience and more determination.
I wish all of you who are starting (or starting again) this alcohol free journey, the very best. It is fucking hard, but I remember feeling bloody brilliant before I fell off the wagon (I thought that one night would be fine because I’d done really well, so no worries! WRONG!!!!!).
Happy New Year, all of you. And Tim, best to you and thanks for all you do and say, sir.
I was in the navy for 10 years left in 97 .....a little further down the food chain than yourself I was an able seaman! I can relate though...I joined in 87 and the drinking culture was engrained in the navy ... And not just drinking .... Heavy drinking and the hierarchy actually seemed to encourage it .... Unfortunately I carried the ethic on onto civilian life and now in my mid fifties I'm running into health issues.I hear alot of anecdotes regarding how good it was then compared with now but one of my shipmates is still serving as a lieutenant.... He says modern sailors tend to be into fitness and have hobbies etc ......I know we laugh but this can only be good thing....I'm sure the same is for the RAF and the Army aswell. Progress in the forces isn't all negative I believe.
Being M Navy, and Offshore, I always had dry time. When not working it was available, and very pleasant. What are the reasons for not Drinking? Yes we are all on our own journey.
Great work Tim. Keep it up.
Thanks Tim! Your series of videos on this topic has helped me a lot to start quitting since this Christmas! Something I always wanted to do but struggled to keep up with. But Im determined to make it work this time!
I like you, buddy for 30 year I have supported the gang under the sea. would love a chat, I love a pint and will never stop having a beer no family but very happy
Stopped drinking for 2 weeks and on keto diet!! Feeling much better . But craving a few beers on a daily basis.
Thank you, you are so genuine, love your videos, what you said in this one really resonated, drinking my last drop of poison as I write this. big love x
Absolutely love your approach Tim. I can really connect dude
Thanks for the video, I have been a heavy drinker in the past, having to do a what did I do last night check far too often. I rarely drink to excess now, living in a dry country where home brew is the only option. When i return to the UK, alcohol is a feature but now I drink a couple with a meal, rarely visit pubs and focus on making the most of my time.
Happy New Year to you and all your followers. Just finished my last bottle of red wine. Hopefully no looking back.
Congrats on your humbling honesty, I self-medicated for years after returning from Afghan. The victim mentality will not help you until you admit everything is within your control, that's when you'll regain your power through discipline.
Honest straightforward No nonsense valuable information. You'r not gas lighting you'r just being Honest.
Follow you on Apple podcast do you have any new ones lined up for the future.
Great to listen to when out walking in the Mountain's of North Wales.
Fabulous video Tim - respect for your honesty - very helpful video. Thank you
This Video is exactly what I needed to watch! Thank you :)
Tim, top vid 👍🏻
I’m sure your aviation related content is good, however, I haven’t watched any.
I work as a commercial pilot so I have enough of the aviation bollocks from plenty of other sources.
You’re honest up from perspectives about how to simply be decent, honest bloke is refreshing. Especially in the circus of a world that we now seem to be living in.
It takes courage/a set of nuts to put out the content that you do.
So keep them coming mate 👍🏻
Thank you and very much appreciated.
Crikey you talk like you fly! Fecking slow down. I love your honesty. I gave up drinking nearly a year ago and I dont miss it.
Thank you for sharing this..Retired F16 Pilot Chris Lehto talked about the use of etoh within the military aviation community…he had etoh problems and stopped drinking too. Good for you both.
Another great video Tim, I always find whatever you choose to discuss is open, honest and from the heart so I always make time to watch till the end. I think the subject on drink will resonate with a lot of people, I have sign posted a few of my friends to your Channel who have a very unhealthy relationship with drink, as I really feel it will help them on their journey. I say listen to Tim, he knows his onions and he’s a former jet jockey so theirs another reason to listen. You’ve probably had them spill a beer at Rhosneiger on occasion when arriving runway 31 😏 If just one person could turn their life around by listening to you I’d say it’s a success…keep up the good work 👍🏼
Thank you, Anthony.
Very refreshing and honest post, I am absolutely sure this will help so many people, thank you Tim.
Good info, and absolutely right.
Thanks Tim and a very happy new year to you and yours.
One day at a time. Do not think beyond that.
If you want to stop, just stop.. it's nobody's business but yours. I couldn't give a flying f*** what others think of me. Just do it.
That’s the first New Years Eve party sober at the age of 59 😂, you were right Tim…it’s just another night 👍
Thanks Tim,
Your a good man.
Tim you are great and inspirational and help a lot in the experiences you share. Alcohol is always a use for blocking the true issues going on in your lives, seems an good way to make you feel better, but so not. Well done on the posts. Tris
Spoke volumes to me when, thanks for wearing your heart on your sleeve. Massive respect for your honesty. I am intelligent enough to know it's not good and not right so you're not gaslighting me. Thanks for sharing 🙏🫶🤜🤛
Your vids are great Tim and never to long. Keep them coming 👍
Been there , bought the T shirt, except when I disappeared from Cottesmore in 88on a sort of admin release. 1709 ish hours. The alcohol was the least of my problems. The cannabis ( fk you SIB) very very difficult, The speed ( very easy to give up). The opioids (easyish) Tjhe LSD simple.. The point is….. I don’t fkn know what the fk. The point of this message is I don’t know. But I’m still here. Good luck for 2024 everyone.
Alcohol is poison. Thank you for inspiring me.
Agree, if surrounded by drinkers, don't tell them your quitting, they won't be supportive. See alcohol as a the enemy, something that wants to hurt you. Do something positive instead, gym, hobby, qualification, so that in a year you can ask yourself the question, how would I rather be, the new me or the old.
Tim, thanks mate. What a great video. Heart on sleave.
Sitting here watching this with a can in my hand. After coming out of DC as a young offender back in 79, tried to join the Paras but was refused bc of my criminal record as a juvenile joined the foreign legion earning my stripes. Now at 61 still struggling have been through the system. I'm listening. god do I drink tea lol.
Never stop the tea!
This is all true and dead accurate - thanks Tim!
Thank you, i am taking this advice on board,.best wishes,,.
Well said, good tips. You are helping people with this. Thanks for it.
Thank you.
Love this video mate. 10 mins or 15 mins video, it Doesn’t matter mate. Great content. Keep them coming. 😎👍
Thanks, Tony.
Hello, I am in that prison, tried to escape but gardians are stronger than me. good lock to all continued to fight. Hope i will escape one day.
Thank you so much for this information. Listening to what you've already been through and knowing what's ahead on this journey from the 1st will really help. Tough times are ahead but it can be dealt with. I really appreciate your honesty - you didn't have to do this. But in doing so is going to help someone, and I want it to be me. Happy New Year to you.
Thank you, happy new year.
You are the coolest MF’r ! I relate to you very very much. I don’t know if I’m ready to quit and recently cut down. But when I’m ready, I’m going to put this on a loop! Love you man, thank you!
I appreciate that
Not a drop since Dec 2018. Still have to fend off mates saying "go on, have a drink tonight".
Thank you. Wish me luck. Happy New Year. Great video.
As an addendum. I think you might enjoy picking up the guitar or the piano.. I can teach you initially on line. It’s a beautiful distraction. It won’t save you, but it will soothe you.. just say hello and I’ll come cyber running. 2024 could be interesting we can top ourselves in 2025 😱😊. Say hello.
I quit on January 14th 2018, best decision I ever made.
Respect! SIR!!!!
Congrats for not drinking, ex veteran, I have stopped drinking for 6 years but. Should of done it when i left the army earlier
I've had stomach issues that seemed chronic. Hiatal Hernia and the shit and I was drinking alcohol like every day. One day I had enough. I started to binge watch youtube-videos like 'Sober Leon' (look him up), and the likes. And videos about alcohol's effect on the body. And I left the environment where I usually drink. Started to do daily walks along the beach. 2,5 years clean. I sleep well, no anxiety, stomach still fucked up - but a lot less - so I'm sticking to my new guns and I love them. 1. Don't drink. 2 Repeat. Godspeed.
Thanks!
Very kind of you David, very much appreciated.
What an amazing video Sir! Happy New Year :)
Luv you Tim. Your videos are inspiring
Truth bombs Tim!......All the best everyone on your new year journey!
Thank you, it's hard, I'm trying
Tim, you say as it is, brilliant, you are amazing Happy New Year xx
thank you,
Watch the movie THE PILOT from the 80s. About an alcoholic airline captain. Great movie.
Lol, thanks for the recomendations.
Thank you, David.