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Love it. I have gotten so much benefit from developing an inner dialogue with myself. "What's going on, Aaron? Oh, you're afraid? What are you afraid of?" Crazy how helpful that is.
I agree with Aaron. These videos are so simple to understand and she even give nuance so that the listener can avoid extreme expectations from implementing them. Really glad for you Aaron. Love to hear it.
I wish more people had this knowledge. I believe a lot of political issues are tied up with people being unable to regulate their emotions and they come to believe things the rational mind would know is not true.
My dad always told me that I was my own worst enemy. I never understood what he meant but it was a layman's way of saying that I had emotional dysregulation
I loved learning about how you "do notes" in another video yesterday. You feel very hands on and right there with people who are working through their emotions and you mimic a caring attachment figure with guidance through "the storm" of the trauma awareness. I am working to get that kind of "love" inside me, so I can operate from it. Thank you, good woman. You make me want to be a counselor again! (To me you are in your Goddess Energy).
😆 Hugging myself just doesn't have the same affect as with a significant other. Laughing & Exercise is a good way to improve depression or any other negative emotions. I can tell you love helping others & are very passionate. Keep up the great work. 💂🏼♂️ 🙏🏼
Using colourful words like fabulous or great when You don't really feel like may be unauthentic and fake acting . It was a time when I loved say excellent what made others laughing with me . Actually all here say not too bad . That's the most in common . Was great to watch . Authentically .💚💚💚💚💚💚something green👍
Hey Doc, I really appreciate your videos. I'm pretty sure I'm a narcissist, and your videos have really helped me to take accountability for my thoughts and feelings. You're non-judgemental and practical approach to teaching these important skills has been a big catalyst in the change I've seen in my life over the last two years. Thank you so very much.
@@DocSnipes I appreciate it. I found your examples of a caregiver's prompts to a child help to develop their ability to express themselves very insightful. I think this is something my mother struggled with when I was growing up. She had her own struggles and may have been overwhelmed or just didn't have these skills. So, when I have an uncomfortable feeling or thought, I sort of imagine what I would say to a child who was feeling that and how I would lead them to express it. And it puts me in the position of being my own caregiver, instead of looking for others to make me feel better. It also helps me to care for others a little bit, because as I care for myself, I've noticed it's changed my language and made me more curious and kind outwardly. As I am able to meet my own needs, I don't have to use all my energy tying to get my needs met, and so I have a tendency to focus on others. Journaling also helped me a lot as well. I will watch your videos in sections, write a scenario, and then imagine how I would want to react - my ordeal reaction. Communication is key. I'm not ashamed of my feelings anymore. Outside of that, practical aspects like good sleep, diet, and exercise make a big impact. If you have time, I do have a question. Everything I see online says that narcissist don't get better and we should just be avoided. I don't want to go through life alone, or to think of myself as untouchable. How can I date again, but also be honest about what's wrong with me without scaring someone away? I think it's important to let someone know that I'm flawed and I may not be as quick to understand or as thoughtful as others, but I'm committed to working at it. Or is this probably as good as it gets and I should try to find a way to be content just being single? I'm not unhappy, but I feel like there could be more to life if I could share it with someone.
I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What tips will you use first for emotion regulation and to develop emotional intelligence?
@@DocSnipes I have watched as much as I could find of your emotional regulation videos since I was diagnosed with CPTSD 2 years ago. Your advice on grounding, square breathing, ice in my hands, and using the 54321 skills help me cope with distress in a very impactful way. I say out loud "I'm safe, the house isn't on fire, Chris and Ichy are safe (my fiance and Boxer)" and things close to that to get into my wise mind if possible for the circumstance. I deal with dysregulation on a pretty constant basis, so this is something I practice nearly every day. Learning about emotional intelligence and what it means for the forward motion of regulating my distress was new for me when I watched this video last night. It makes so much sense, though, and I have been reciting my emotions in my mind as a practice tool for when my feelings arise, needing a label for validating myself. It is amazing Dr. Snipes, how much you have taught me and how far I have come in my therapy toward getting past this awful conflict with PTSD I have been fighting with for way too long. I see a PTSD specialist, am currently in CPT, succeeded with CBT and DBT (Lenehan's education) and will be on my way to EMDR after this. As much as I am grateful for my personal therapy through my doctors here, I appreciate your offering and effort to make this world better and easier to live in. Working toward my rich and meaningful life (love the way you use that!!) I'm sure I will be watching your videos for the entirety. Even subjects that don't pertain to me directly have influenced the way I interact with others that the videos do. You're awesome!!
You’re so welcome. I am grate to be of service and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=emotionalintelligence
I like that you have the big categories for emotions. I thought if I was not able to identify exactly and interpret the emotion exactly, it was not worth my attention. But this is overly cognitive. Now I am able to tune in somewhat, and even though more precise understanding will come later as to what the exact situation is, I am trying to tune my attention to now. I have the ability to lend some sympathy then, which is what I never got with a narc mother and an extremely co-dependent father. Sympathy, for me, validates the feeling, and gives a sense of permission and legitimacy to it to make up where we, in the family, were not able to even feel emotions before without a lot of backlash... "if you cry, I will give you something to cry about". I also need to be able to NOT respond to other people's needs automatically, which is what I was doing instead, even though I am afraid they will get very, very mad. But I am not their emotional-regulation machine. I absolutely REFUSE to be that anymore.
Thank you for this. I prefer to check in with myself and I had to laugh when you used the term fabulous! Lol I am good with my emotions to a point. If someone is disrespecting my boundaries and I have repeatedly told them that there is an issue then naturally I will fire back. I do not prefer this method but even I have my limits. Thank you 🤔❤🇺🇸
Why didn’t I find these sooner? I feel better educated but still suffering from the effects of insecure attachment. I work on it but I am on auto response sometimes.
To answer your question: When children are involved and there is potential for far reaching repercussions, that could adversely affect them, for the rest of their lives 😢
Doc how do i say no to people without harming their emotions? I usually make a mess and break their expectations, therefore i cannot sleep at night. Does it mean i am dumb? Edit: Will CBT help me? Will it improve my way of communicating and decision making?
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=emotion
How to flee from a really physically dangerous environment, if police is togather with the physically hurting criminals, psychopaths. I am from Armenia, Yerevan and have nowhere to go
We are not born with emotional intelligence, so we can develop it and get good at recognizing and regulating our emotions. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=intelligence ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=DBT
👌More videos can be found on this topic at: ruclips.net/p/PLcB3trehXswhDimuZ6lD8yJL33aQMZN_A
❤️Self help activities and worksheets and concierge coaching with Dr. Snipes can be accessed at DocSnipes.com
👍Online Courses for Continuing Education (CEU, OPD, CPD) and Substance Abuse Counselor Certification
Love it. I have gotten so much benefit from developing an inner dialogue with myself. "What's going on, Aaron? Oh, you're afraid? What are you afraid of?" Crazy how helpful that is.
I am so glad that works for you and I appreciate you watching the video. What tips will you use first to develop emotional intelligence?
I agree with Aaron. These videos are so simple to understand and she even give nuance so that the listener can avoid extreme expectations from implementing them. Really glad for you Aaron. Love to hear it.
I wish more people had this knowledge. I believe a lot of political issues are tied up with people being unable to regulate their emotions and they come to believe things the rational mind would know is not true.
My dad always told me that I was my own worst enemy. I never understood what he meant but it was a layman's way of saying that I had emotional dysregulation
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I loved learning about how you "do notes" in another video yesterday. You feel very hands on and right there with people who are working through their emotions and you mimic a caring attachment figure with guidance through "the storm" of the trauma awareness. I am working to get that kind of "love" inside me, so I can operate from it. Thank you, good woman. You make me want to be a counselor again! (To me you are in your Goddess Energy).
Where is the notes video?
Hi Doc Snipes...my first live with you. Thank You for youre work it has helped me in my journey to a better underdtanding of me. 😊
Beautiful... that you seek to understand your wonderful self!
😆 Hugging myself just doesn't have the same affect as with a significant other. Laughing & Exercise is a good way to improve depression or any other negative emotions. I can tell you love helping others & are very passionate. Keep up the great work.
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Ikr his hands are much stronger than my tiny1z❤
Thank you for sharing! 😊
I never thought that emotions can have such complexity! That was an eye-opener!
You are so welcome!
Using colourful words like fabulous or great when You don't really feel like may be unauthentic and fake acting . It was a time when I loved say excellent what made others laughing with me . Actually all here say not too bad . That's the most in common . Was great to watch . Authentically .💚💚💚💚💚💚something green👍
Thank you so much for watching, Anita!
Hey Doc, I really appreciate your videos. I'm pretty sure I'm a narcissist, and your videos have really helped me to take accountability for my thoughts and feelings. You're non-judgemental and practical approach to teaching these important skills has been a big catalyst in the change I've seen in my life over the last two years. Thank you so very much.
You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it?
@@DocSnipes I appreciate it. I found your examples of a caregiver's prompts to a child help to develop their ability to express themselves very insightful. I think this is something my mother struggled with when I was growing up. She had her own struggles and may have been overwhelmed or just didn't have these skills. So, when I have an uncomfortable feeling or thought, I sort of imagine what I would say to a child who was feeling that and how I would lead them to express it. And it puts me in the position of being my own caregiver, instead of looking for others to make me feel better. It also helps me to care for others a little bit, because as I care for myself, I've noticed it's changed my language and made me more curious and kind outwardly. As I am able to meet my own needs, I don't have to use all my energy tying to get my needs met, and so I have a tendency to focus on others. Journaling also helped me a lot as well. I will watch your videos in sections, write a scenario, and then imagine how I would want to react - my ordeal reaction. Communication is key. I'm not ashamed of my feelings anymore. Outside of that, practical aspects like good sleep, diet, and exercise make a big impact.
If you have time, I do have a question. Everything I see online says that narcissist don't get better and we should just be avoided. I don't want to go through life alone, or to think of myself as untouchable. How can I date again, but also be honest about what's wrong with me without scaring someone away? I think it's important to let someone know that I'm flawed and I may not be as quick to understand or as thoughtful as others, but I'm committed to working at it. Or is this probably as good as it gets and I should try to find a way to be content just being single? I'm not unhappy, but I feel like there could be more to life if I could share it with someone.
Your videos have changed my life. So grateful for you, doc.
I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What tips will you use first for emotion regulation and to develop emotional intelligence?
@@DocSnipes I have watched as much as I could find of your emotional regulation videos since I was diagnosed with CPTSD 2 years ago. Your advice on grounding, square breathing, ice in my hands, and using the 54321 skills help me cope with distress in a very impactful way. I say out loud "I'm safe, the house isn't on fire, Chris and Ichy are safe (my fiance and Boxer)" and things close to that to get into my wise mind if possible for the circumstance. I deal with dysregulation on a pretty constant basis, so this is something I practice nearly every day. Learning about emotional intelligence and what it means for the forward motion of regulating my distress was new for me when I watched this video last night. It makes so much sense, though, and I have been reciting my emotions in my mind as a practice tool for when my feelings arise, needing a label for validating myself. It is amazing Dr. Snipes, how much you have taught me and how far I have come in my therapy toward getting past this awful conflict with PTSD I have been fighting with for way too long. I see a PTSD specialist, am currently in CPT, succeeded with CBT and DBT (Lenehan's education) and will be on my way to EMDR after this. As much as I am grateful for my personal therapy through my doctors here, I appreciate your offering and effort to make this world better and easier to live in. Working toward my rich and meaningful life (love the way you use that!!) I'm sure I will be watching your videos for the entirety. Even subjects that don't pertain to me directly have influenced the way I interact with others that the videos do. You're awesome!!
Great video as always!! You really changed the way I view the world. Thanks a lot.
I wish if you could do a video about PMDD and how to handle it.
I recently began attending a Mindfulness group and I have found it quite helpful....
I am so glad that works for you. Thanks for sharing
Clear and crisp 👌 thanks Dr Snipes
You’re so welcome. I am grate to be of service and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=emotionalintelligence
I need more "bunny rabbits" 😸 I'm burned out on stress. I need more happy moments. I have to make it a priority.
I am sorry you are burned out on stress and I appreciate you watching the video
Dr. Dawn you active my HPA axis!
My dopamine levels go all crazy 😍
Lol. Thanks for watching
I like that you have the big categories for emotions. I thought if I was not able to identify exactly and interpret the emotion exactly, it was not worth my attention. But this is overly cognitive. Now I am able to tune in somewhat, and even though more precise understanding will come later as to what the exact situation is, I am trying to tune my attention to now. I have the ability to lend some sympathy then, which is what I never got with a narc mother and an extremely co-dependent father. Sympathy, for me, validates the feeling, and gives a sense of permission and legitimacy to it to make up where we, in the family, were not able to even feel emotions before without a lot of backlash... "if you cry, I will give you something to cry about". I also need to be able to NOT respond to other people's needs automatically, which is what I was doing instead, even though I am afraid they will get very, very mad. But I am not their emotional-regulation machine. I absolutely REFUSE to be that anymore.
Love this women....red sweater looks great!!! 😍
Thank you for watching and for your kind words
You are just an awesome ❤ person.
Awww. Thank you so much for your kind words and thank you for helping me, by watching the video. What did you find most useful from it?
Thank you for this. I prefer to check in with myself and I had to laugh when you used the term fabulous! Lol I am good with my emotions to a point. If someone is disrespecting my boundaries and I have repeatedly told them that there is an issue then naturally I will fire back. I do not prefer this method but even I have my limits. Thank you 🤔❤🇺🇸
Thank you young lady
You’re so welcome. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it?
@@DocSnipes That's their thoughts and emotions and these are My thoughts and Emotions
So true!.
Thank you so much for watching, Valencia!
I LIVE for the yassified, thumbnails 😭
Thanks for watching
❤life changing for me❤
Grateful to be of serving
This is exactly why I listen to you-to learn why I act the way I do and how to grow and go healthier ❤Eternally Grateful
Thank you
Very good ❤
Thank you too! What was your favorite tip from the video?
You are georgous amazing
Thanks for the kind words and for watching the video. What did you find most useful from it?
I'm working on regulating my emotions in therapy as well as support groups...
That’s awesome! You’re doing a great job. Thanks for watching the video. Here are videos on DBT: ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=DBT
Thank you for making this information available. Are these PowerPoint slides available to subscribers?
Square breathing works well for me..
That’s awesome! Thanks for sharing and for watching
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Thank you for watching the video
Why didn’t I find these sooner? I feel better educated but still suffering from the effects of insecure attachment. I work on it but I am on auto response sometimes.
Lol I tell my spoiled youngself..
Time out key sit on piano bench🎉🎉🎉
Thanks for watching.
7:22-11:45
To answer your question: When children are involved and there is potential for far reaching repercussions, that could adversely affect them, for the rest of their lives 😢
Thanks for watching
Doc how do i say no to people without harming their emotions? I usually make a mess and break their expectations, therefore i cannot sleep at night. Does it mean i am dumb?
Edit: Will CBT help me? Will it improve my way of communicating and decision making?
Could you consider a presentation for those of us that deal with various sexual disfunction, caused by childhood sexual abuse?
its the genetic component I struggle with 😂
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=emotion
Having one without the other count?
It’s good you have one, having both would help you even more. What tips will you use first to improve the one you think you lack?
In other words try not to step on other's toes....
Thank you for your suggestion
How to flee from a really physically dangerous environment, if police is togather with the physically hurting criminals, psychopaths. I am from Armenia, Yerevan and have nowhere to go
I'm not very good at this.
We are not born with emotional intelligence, so we can develop it and get good at recognizing and regulating our emotions. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=intelligence
ruclips.net/user/DocSnipessearch?query=DBT