birds of a feather. Statler is friends with Angela. they talk regularly like real friends. If you like Statler you like Angela. Unsubscribe and tell reddit this channel sucks haha
As someone who has similar mental health issues, I was excited when I first saw your episodes, thinking they would finally show how loved ones take care of someone struggling with anxiety on top of the long distance relationship. I was angry on your behalf with how they continued to villainize you but the scene on the boat where she had no empathy, no patience, and no love for you when you obviously needed help to get through a panic attack, it just broke my heart. It has taken me over 30 years to accept that I am not a monster just because I have panic attacks and anxiety, how dare they act like you have anything wrong with you at all so they can get more views. You reclaiming your voice and image through this podcast is so brave and I am so proud and deeply respect your strength and bravery in not letting them take you down. Never let them take away, even a tiny bit, of who you are, you are perfect as you are, mental health and all
The way she talked to you on that boat it turned me off about your panic attacks. You're an amazing woman you're an amazing person and deserve all positivity, peace and happiness,dont ever forget that
not once did i ever think you were in the wrong in the show. i felt deeply stressed and concerned for you because your ex was taking advantage of you and they were very unwilling to put work into the relationship. you’re incredibly strong for persisting and speaking your truth! i’m so happy for this new chapter of your life💕
Statler, I was one of the viewers who never thought about you negatively. I saw you as someone sincerely in love and trying to find a common ground to make it work. Your ex-partner was full of obvious problems. The most apparent was allowing you to give up everything for her dream. She def. took advantage of you. If you love someone you wouldn't have them give you all their finacial backing, personal goals and trigger off health issues. Hang in there Statler. Many viewers are on your side. I'm glad you found your way home without the weight of her being. I wish you good luck and good health for your future 🙏♥️
I saw many red flags for you. She’s nomadic and doesn’t have a career and I felt she saw you as a means to finance her lifestyle. She’s a taker. The facts she hasn’t paid you for 1/2 of the van speaks volumes. I’m not surprised. Consider this a blessing in disguise. I hope you get what is owed to you. I was always team Statler 👍🏼
Having mental health issues myself, I love this podcast! Your ex-partner is horrible she was all about her. Not understanding your anxiety and panic attack really spoke volumes about who she really is. You deserve better!
I think you dodged a bullet. I really hated seeing the way that you were getting used. So many of us are told we deserve so much less than we do. We need to start seeing ourselves through the eyes of people that love us and accept us unconditionally. Its hard to listen to your gut if you've experienced abuse of any kind because your normal isn't normal at all. So happy to see you do this for yourself and I’ll be a subscriber until you stop. Really happy for you❤️
I never viewed you as the villain. When you were so obviously struggling having an anxiety attack on the boat and she cared less and even increased your anxiety level I was furious! This is a great idea, reality fans everywhere will tune in to see their favorites. I believe this will be huge. Excited to see where it goes. Good for you Statler!!
I was only on a single episode of Lifetime's "I Wasn't Expecting a Baby" and its probably a different experience than what you experienced but it was quite the odd and interesting experience that also caused a bit of stress and anxiety afterwards especially on social media. It was even worse when our local news covered it. I learned to not read the comments, but I still do sometimes. I am glad you are coming out about your experiences on Reality TV, I actually have always wanted this kind of podcast to happen. First time listener/watcher, forever subscriber. Thank you for talking about your experience, I loved you on the show and hated how they portrayed you.
I noticed one of the things that you weren't doing was getting some help. Do you do therapy, or do you just not talk about it? Being aware of your anxiety and doing something about it are two different things. Are you doing this podcast as therapy, or in addition to therapy?
I actually really enjoyed this!!!! Good for you Statler!! I can tell this is going to be good! I absolutely love the background! Love the calm scenery and the comfy chill outfit! Im all for it!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Statler my sister ADHDEr ..im not even 2 min in and im sold . Keep on keeping it real ! Im following this channel . Have a great day ! Greatings from The Netherlands .
Just ignore the haters. There are three sides to every story each of you and in the middle. People are just rude and they love to hate other people. You have to feel sorry for them. I wish you peace and better mental health.💕🥰
Great idea for a podcast! I will be watching. I am a lot like you so I understand about the anxiety/panic attack/ trust issues etc. When I'm upset just leave me alone and let me get through it. The van life looks fun but for me I gotta have my own space.
Im happy you decided to turn a negative into a positive. I can't imagine what it must be like to have so many people who don't even know you express hatred towards you. And as someone who has anxiety and despresion also, I know how greatly this must have affected you and your mental health. But you are handling it beautifully. I wish you much success with your podcast and your life.
There has to be give and take from both sides and trust, honesty, understanding and kindness, listening to each other is what makes a great lasting relationship ❤️ good luck, you deserve better!
Like what? What is TLC going to learn from this that haven't in the past decade? I'm pretty sure they are fully aware that most stories benefit from an antagonist and conflict makes for a more interesting storyline. That's their bread and butter and _we_ have kept them in business for 10 seasons and _multiple_ successful spin offs. Remember when Paul & Karine got fake robbed? 😂 yeah 90 day is 90% bs and if you didn't get that by now
Statler! I loved seeing you on the show representing neurodiversity. The rest of us saw through the patterns of production and bs and loved your earnestness! you deserve so much better than what we saw you go through. love seeing you speak your truth. never stop. ❤ best of luck 🤞🏼
Hello Statler, What a lovely podcast ! It’s wonderful to see you standing up for yourself and speaking your truth. I’m so sorry you have to deal with those negative people who think they are big and bad when they are behind a computer screen, and probably are very unhappy themselves. You keep doing you, you are a beautiful soul, honest and seem to feel more easily than most. Take Care, Wishing you all the best 💟
I don't think you looked bad on the show at all - it was Dempsey who looked incredibly selfish (not being up front that she had more money she could've contributed for the van, not understanding how hard it would be for you to be working a FT job while she was out exploring, etc.). At a minimum, she could've done things around the van while you worked so you could've had more time to explore together. So again, to me, you were not painted as the villain - especially not in your second season. I'm sorry you've gotten so much hate.
I believe everything she shared about her awful experience at the hands of writers and producers. I wish her all the best in happiness and finding the person who treats her with the same dignity and respect she gives them. Some life lessons are more painful than others.
I think you are so cool I remember when you posted on the 90 day page before you were on the show asking for us to be nice and you were so nervous keep strong and a big Hello from El Paso Tx
This is amazing she is doing this. What she is doing is nothing new as more and more people from 90 Day is speaking out and telling the truth, but she is making her platform the hub, the go to spot. I believe that 90 Day was mainly real-ish, until years ago i read a article online where they interview cast member and members of the family, and they said 90 Day crew made them look like the bad guy. Than you started seeing other 90 Day members started doing their own Tell All to tell how it really happen.
"Reality" TV has _never_ been real. 90 Day is no exception. It's still TV. Although not exactly scripted it's _heavily manipulated_ through direct producer manipulation to editing, etc. Otherwise it would be a lot more boring
As a fellow AuDHD person, I most definitely did not see you as the villain. You went so far above and beyond, I wanted to jump through the tv and rescue you.
I honestly felt like Dempsey was the villain. She showed zero compassion for you on the boat and complained instead of helping you when you were trying to work and needed that support. Not marriage material. Not even a friend would treat a friend like that…
Remember everyone gets hate comments STOP reading them you are giving them air they don’t deserve. Please please STOP reading the shit. Most balanced people know to take what they see with a grain of salt.
@Statler, do you have intention, if not already plan on seeking legal advice to retrieve money owed to you from your ex, including the things that haven’t been returned to you?
For the record I never looked at you as a villain - I think you are a beautiful young woman who has problems like all us and I am a straight woman - Dempsey is what we called in my day a flower child who has no idea of how to support herself she lives semi homeless and without any plan. Its not the life for many.
You have been my fav since day one. Your ex always seemed so selfish it drove me crazy! I’m so sorry for you getting f*cked financially by her- again, selfish!! 🤬 Glad you stepped out of your comfort zone and saw pretty places, hopefully the next trip will be with someone who gets and appreciates you. 💖 I hope more people will come on this podcast and tell the truth about how manipulative these shows can be. XX
I didn't actually watch the show myself but she always came off as flippant. She didn't seem invested in anyone but herself. Statler never felt like anything but authentic
I want you to know that I stopped watching the 90 day franchise way before this season of the other way. 90 day featuring abusers like Angela, Ed, Sarper, etc really turned my stomach & made me angry 😡 I’ll be watching closely.
I felt that Dempsey was using you. It's like she didn't really care about your anxiety attack, and the fact that she cheated on you, that was not acceptable. She was really living the life while you were financially supporting her.
Statler, I do appreciate you clearing up some aspects of how you were depicted and yes when you are in control it hits different. You come across differently here than you do in the show, and that deserves acknowledgement. It goes without saying that Reality TV ain't reality, we all know they edit the heck out of it to depict people in a certain light. I'm sorry if you feel wronged in how you were depicted. I'm sorry you got fucked over by yr ex. However, and I mean this in the most respectful pro mental health way possible, I don't know how much it serves you to make this yr mission. If you really are invested in yr mental health as you have said, I don't see how making and putting the vast amounts of energy (not only in production but mental) required to do everything yr doing in order to expose the behind the scenes truths of 90 Day or giving others that platform will GENUINELY benefit yr mental health, like genuinely. I just can hear my therapist saying How Does This Serve You (?) I mean, are your intentions vindictive? If so, that's not in all honesty good for yr soul, man. The healthier more mature thing to do would be to create a boundary from the toxicity. If you feel this environment/conversation is truly dysfunctional, why would you want to prolong that relationship? Is it monetary? Do you want to stay in the spotlight? Those things are not valiant or commendable in terms of yr mental health. It seems like it might benefit you to TRULY explore why it is your doing this. It might be best to just pull away, do the work off camera, cut off ties with whole thing, rebound mentally, financially, get back on track to real life away from the camera. Yr plate is already pretty full, why heap on a bunch of garbage? I say all this coming from a place of being pro mental health. And not just in a cliche slogan sense we don't really hear b/c we've heard it so often. Be kind to yrself. Advocating for yrself sometimes means letting go. Good luck to you. Sending you healing energy. Keep it positive.
@@MyName-wl6cd Ok, so yeah, I understand sippin the tea is entertaining, don't get me wrong, we are all human, we all experience this, the desire to sit in the colosseum is innate. Howevah....you know that I know that you know that we all know the most important thing if we truly care about each other as humans is to care about ppl's well being ultimately. I'd like to see Statler work through this shit, and maybe even come back at her best, transcend the anger and pain and maybe come back as her best self and become something else in front of the camera instead of being on a vengeance crusade which is how it feels. It seems in reality Statler is a caring and funny, and smart person, I hope she can heal and tap into those aspects of her personality and become a force of positivity. She has SO much potential. C'mon Statler, you got this! Walk towards that light, I believe in you and think you can do it! But you should think about changing yr path, this one is crazy and doesn't benefit you. I think you got it in you. Fuck us viewers, yr mental health is more important than all this BS. Again, saying this all with love. XO
Thank you for coming out and telling your truth. I stand with you. You are not wrong in how you feel. Don't ever let anyone tell you that. Internet trolls suck
I saw the way they villainized you and the way she treated you on the boat was awful. I’ve had anxiety since childhood and can’t imagine someone who claimed to love me treated me that way.
As someone who is also autistic and adhd AND BPD the way she treated you, or lack thereof any treatment towards you with empathy rubbed me the wrong way. And I liked you two a lot.
Honestly, I thought you were the problem until this season. This season it became clear Dempsey was using you. She clearly felt completely entitled to "living her best life" while you worked all day to finance that life.
Same!!! So proud of you for coming out and speaking the truth! It takes balls and you go girl 🙌 I was wondering if you could talk about what made you want to sign up for the show and what was that like?
As someone who loves 90 day anything... I didn't like your ex from the start and always was on your side. Excited to see how this video ends. I'm intl half way through
Yes Statler!! Watching from London, been waiting for this, i know u are fully aware but please dont think us Brits are all arseholes Keep being you & speaking your truth 😊
Honestly this annoys me so much, I saw a while back shes doing a holiday where random people can pay to go also, she clearly has no morals if she can just block you and not pay what she owes to you, absolutely awful way to be 😠
I also suffer from panic attacks. My heart went out to you when you were on the boat. I’m soooo sorry you went through those type if situations with a partner that didn’t want to understand. I’m very happy you are in a better mental space now. Take care of yourself.
i saw in the boat scene how your ex didn't ease your stress and anxiety.. just added to it. i'm glad you're doing okay now. i hope you meet someone who treats you how you deserve to be treated x
I am sorry you went through all of that. Just so you know, there is a family pretty close to you (Burleson) that totally gets you and is rooting for you, and wishing you the best.
Thanks for doing this podcast, Statler. You'r very articulate. You certainly weren't the villan on that show. I'm glad you're no longer with that woman, what's her name.
I would get a lawyer for the money she owes as well as your items. You need to involve legal aid. Also, just personally when my mental health is suffering I get off all social media and take a break. A lot of people forget that’s an option. It doesn’t have to be permanent but a few weeks to a few months detox does wonders for your mental health. Best of luck - but again, staying off social media is very helpful.
Looking forward to seeing more of these. One small suggestion, around 2 30 you switch position which is fine but the audio level drops significantly. Just keep this in mind or adjust the audio levels since as a viewer it can be tedious turning the volume up/down
You made a good impression on the show. The firstt red flag with Dempsey was when she still had money in her bank account, while you had to take out a loan to buy the van. Also, the fact that she wouldn't leave you alone on the ferry, even though you told her you were seasick. Then it was surprising that she didn't want to do anything in the van when you were the only breadwinner. Definitely hire a lawyer. So why weren't you on the Tell All? I think a lot of the contestants and the host would have stood up for you and confronted Dempsey.
I dont think the show paints people as one or the other it seems like they show equal faults and good qualities. I think people just form their opinions but in the end, no matter who you are, if random people watched little clips of any relationship there will be things that make you look good and things that make you look bad. The reason the show works is we can all remate to this.
Just please don't give Angela a voice. No one wants to hear how she spins that racism and abuse.
birds of a feather. Statler is friends with Angela. they talk regularly like real friends. If you like Statler you like Angela. Unsubscribe and tell reddit this channel sucks haha
As someone who has similar mental health issues, I was excited when I first saw your episodes, thinking they would finally show how loved ones take care of someone struggling with anxiety on top of the long distance relationship. I was angry on your behalf with how they continued to villainize you but the scene on the boat where she had no empathy, no patience, and no love for you when you obviously needed help to get through a panic attack, it just broke my heart. It has taken me over 30 years to accept that I am not a monster just because I have panic attacks and anxiety, how dare they act like you have anything wrong with you at all so they can get more views. You reclaiming your voice and image through this podcast is so brave and I am so proud and deeply respect your strength and bravery in not letting them take you down. Never let them take away, even a tiny bit, of who you are, you are perfect as you are, mental health and all
Do not listen to the haters. They are unhappy with their lives. We need to be kinder to each other.❤
The way she talked to you on that boat it turned me off about your panic attacks. You're an amazing woman you're an amazing person and deserve all positivity, peace and happiness,dont ever forget that
That was so horrible.
not once did i ever think you were in the wrong in the show. i felt deeply stressed and concerned for you because your ex was taking advantage of you and they were very unwilling to put work into the relationship. you’re incredibly strong for persisting and speaking your truth! i’m so happy for this new chapter of your life💕
Statler, I was one of the viewers who never thought about you negatively. I saw you as someone sincerely in love and trying to find a common ground to make it work. Your ex-partner was full of obvious problems. The most apparent was allowing you to give up everything for her dream. She def. took advantage of you. If you love someone you wouldn't have them give you all their finacial backing, personal goals and trigger off health issues. Hang in there Statler. Many viewers are on your side. I'm glad you found your way home without the weight of her being. I wish you good luck and good health for your future 🙏♥️
Agree with all of this, except I think she was very selfish and a scammer. Glad you got away and hope she will return your money.
Just pls pls do NOT have Angela on here!!
I saw many red flags for you. She’s nomadic and doesn’t have a career and I felt she saw you as a means to finance her lifestyle. She’s a taker. The facts she hasn’t paid you for 1/2 of the van speaks volumes. I’m not surprised. Consider this a blessing in disguise. I hope you get what is owed to you. I was always team Statler 👍🏼
Thank you so much for being you. 🦋
I’m so glad your doing this! I will definitely be following! Wishing you all the best of luck with everything!
Having mental health issues myself, I love this podcast! Your ex-partner is horrible she was all about her. Not understanding your anxiety and panic attack really spoke volumes about who she really is. You deserve better!
I think you dodged a bullet. I really hated seeing the way that you were getting used. So many of us are told we deserve so much less than we do. We need to start seeing ourselves through the eyes of people that love us and accept us unconditionally. Its hard to listen to your gut if you've experienced abuse of any kind because your normal isn't normal at all. So happy to see you do this for yourself and I’ll be a subscriber until you stop. Really happy for you❤️
I never viewed you as the villain. When you were so obviously struggling having an anxiety attack on the boat and she cared less and even increased your anxiety level I was furious! This is a great idea, reality fans everywhere will tune in to see their favorites. I believe this will be huge. Excited to see where it goes. Good for you Statler!!
Omg 😂 I'm so here for this
I was only on a single episode of Lifetime's "I Wasn't Expecting a Baby" and its probably a different experience than what you experienced but it was quite the odd and interesting experience that also caused a bit of stress and anxiety afterwards especially on social media. It was even worse when our local news covered it. I learned to not read the comments, but I still do sometimes. I am glad you are coming out about your experiences on Reality TV, I actually have always wanted this kind of podcast to happen. First time listener/watcher, forever subscriber. Thank you for talking about your experience, I loved you on the show and hated how they portrayed you.
Statler, I never thought that you were the villain. Dempsey did not want to work and wanted you to finance her nomad lifestyle.
I agree!
I noticed one of the things that you weren't doing was getting some help. Do you do therapy, or do you just not talk about it? Being aware of your anxiety and doing something about it are two different things. Are you doing this podcast as therapy, or in addition to therapy?
I truly admire you! Thank you you for doing this podcast!,,
I actually really enjoyed this!!!! Good for you Statler!! I can tell this is going to be good! I absolutely love the background! Love the calm scenery and the comfy chill outfit! Im all for it!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Statler my sister ADHDEr ..im not even 2 min in and im sold . Keep on keeping it real ! Im following this channel . Have a great day ! Greatings from The Netherlands .
Just ignore the haters. There are three sides to every story each of you and in the middle. People are just rude and they love to hate other people. You have to feel sorry for them.
I wish you peace and better mental health.💕🥰
Well said. I'm excited to see who comes on your show 🤗 .
Great idea for a podcast! I will be watching. I am a lot like you so I understand about the anxiety/panic attack/ trust issues etc. When I'm upset just leave me alone and let me get through it. The van life looks fun but for me I gotta have my own space.
Great idea for a pod cast! I am here for it.
Im happy you decided to turn a negative into a positive. I can't imagine what it must be like to have so many people who don't even know you express hatred towards you. And as someone who has anxiety and despresion also, I know how greatly this must have affected you and your mental health. But you are handling it beautifully. I wish you much success with your podcast and your life.
There has to be give and take from both sides and trust, honesty, understanding and kindness, listening to each other is what makes a great lasting relationship ❤️ good luck, you deserve better!
You’re my favourite forever 🖤 & I can’t thank you enough for truly being yourself! It’s helped me be more confident with myself 🥹🖤
This is what we need to hear! What really happens behind the scenes. TLC hope you learn something from this! 🤔
Like what? What is TLC going to learn from this that haven't in the past decade? I'm pretty sure they are fully aware that most stories benefit from an antagonist and conflict makes for a more interesting storyline. That's their bread and butter and _we_ have kept them in business for 10 seasons and _multiple_ successful spin offs. Remember when Paul & Karine got fake robbed? 😂 yeah 90 day is 90% bs and if you didn't get that by now
Statler! I loved seeing you on the show representing neurodiversity. The rest of us saw through the patterns of production and bs and loved your earnestness! you deserve so much better than what we saw you go through. love seeing you speak your truth. never stop. ❤ best of luck 🤞🏼
GIVE US THE TEA FOR FREE
Not every can afford the patron! Think of the broke people!
Hello Statler,
What a lovely podcast !
It’s wonderful to see you standing up for yourself and speaking your truth.
I’m so sorry you have to deal with those negative people who think they are big and bad when they are behind a computer screen, and probably are very unhappy themselves.
You keep doing you, you are a beautiful soul, honest and seem to feel more easily than most.
Take Care, Wishing you all the best 💟
Cool podcast idea -> hope many cast members come to interview with you.
I am glad you posted this. It was very nice to hear your side of the story.
I always loved your scenes on 90 day, definitely one of my fave cast members🫶🏼
I don't think you looked bad on the show at all - it was Dempsey who looked incredibly selfish (not being up front that she had more money she could've contributed for the van, not understanding how hard it would be for you to be working a FT job while she was out exploring, etc.). At a minimum, she could've done things around the van while you worked so you could've had more time to explore together. So again, to me, you were not painted as the villain - especially not in your second season. I'm sorry you've gotten so much hate.
Dempsey would rather go tour mountains alone. Exploring together would have helped the relationship IMO.
I believe everything she shared about her awful experience at the hands of writers and producers. I wish her all the best in happiness and finding the person who treats her with the same dignity and respect she gives them. Some life lessons are more painful than others.
I think you are so cool I remember when you posted on the 90 day page before you were on the show asking for us to be nice and you were so nervous keep strong and a big Hello from El Paso Tx
This is amazing she is doing this. What she is doing is nothing new as more and more people from 90 Day is speaking out and telling the truth, but she is making her platform the hub, the go to spot. I believe that 90 Day was mainly real-ish, until years ago i read a article online where they interview cast member and members of the family, and they said 90 Day crew made them look like the bad guy. Than you started seeing other 90 Day members started doing their own Tell All to tell how it really happen.
"Reality" TV has _never_ been real. 90 Day is no exception. It's still TV. Although not exactly scripted it's _heavily manipulated_ through direct producer manipulation to editing, etc. Otherwise it would be a lot more boring
Love this! Looking forward to watching future episodes! Congrats!
Giiirllll, I am here for that tea!
The right thing to do would be for her to pay you back for the van. It's super fucked up.
I still don't get why you were fired, though.
I think she broke her NDA and went on Instagram live and told everybody about their situation
Statler I have such admiration and respect for you. ❤
As a fellow AuDHD person, I most definitely did not see you as the villain. You went so far above and beyond, I wanted to jump through the tv and rescue you.
I love this. You were done dirty by 90Day and I suspect many others were too. Hope you get your share of the van and meet someone who has ambition.
Statler. ILY, you deserve positivity and love.
IMO Dempsey gave opportunist. Unwilling to compromise
I hope you eventually invite other 90 fiancé's from past cast production. Thanks girl Good job. Proud of you.❤
I subscribed so I won’t miss anything! Finally-someone from the franchises we follow who gets us RUclipsrs.
I'm hoping she gets around to reading and liking the comments 😊 And replying hopefully 🎉
I'm very interested to see who'll be on in the future, and the type of things we're going to learn! Great first ep
I honestly felt like Dempsey was the villain. She showed zero compassion for you on the boat and complained instead of helping you when you were trying to work and needed that support. Not marriage material. Not even a friend would treat a friend like that…
Remember everyone gets hate comments STOP reading them you are giving them air they don’t deserve. Please please STOP reading the shit. Most balanced people know to take what they see with a grain of salt.
Thank you Statler for dropping the hot tea and telling your story from your own perspective. 🎉🎉🎉
So, what specifically did you do to get banned from the tell all?
@Statler, do you have intention, if not already plan on seeking legal advice to retrieve money owed to you from your ex, including the things that haven’t been returned to you?
I loved this! Liked and subscribed!!
For the record I never looked at you as a villain - I think you are a beautiful young woman who has problems like all us and I am a straight woman - Dempsey is what we called in my day a flower child who has no idea of how to support herself she lives semi homeless and without any plan. Its not the life for many.
You have been my fav since day one. Your ex always seemed so selfish it drove me crazy! I’m so sorry for you getting f*cked financially by her- again, selfish!! 🤬 Glad you stepped out of your comfort zone and saw pretty places, hopefully the next trip will be with someone who gets and appreciates you. 💖 I hope more people will come on this podcast and tell the truth about how manipulative these shows can be. XX
I didn't actually watch the show myself but she always came off as flippant. She didn't seem invested in anyone but herself. Statler never felt like anything but authentic
All of this!
Same
I want you to know that I stopped watching the 90 day franchise way before this season of the other way. 90 day featuring abusers like Angela, Ed, Sarper, etc really turned my stomach & made me angry 😡 I’ll be watching closely.
My partner and I love you so much! ❤
I felt that Dempsey was using you. It's like she didn't really care about your anxiety attack, and the fact that she cheated on you, that was not acceptable. She was really living the life while you were financially supporting her.
Statler, I do appreciate you clearing up some aspects of how you were depicted and yes when you are in control it hits different. You come across differently here than you do in the show, and that deserves acknowledgement. It goes without saying that Reality TV ain't reality, we all know they edit the heck out of it to depict people in a certain light. I'm sorry if you feel wronged in how you were depicted. I'm sorry you got fucked over by yr ex.
However, and I mean this in the most respectful pro mental health way possible, I don't know how much it serves you to make this yr mission. If you really are invested in yr mental health as you have said, I don't see how making and putting the vast amounts of energy (not only in production but mental) required to do everything yr doing in order to expose the behind the scenes truths of 90 Day or giving others that platform will GENUINELY benefit yr mental health, like genuinely.
I just can hear my therapist saying How Does This Serve You (?) I mean, are your intentions vindictive? If so, that's not in all honesty good for yr soul, man. The healthier more mature thing to do would be to create a boundary from the toxicity. If you feel this environment/conversation is truly dysfunctional, why would you want to prolong that relationship? Is it monetary? Do you want to stay in the spotlight? Those things are not valiant or commendable in terms of yr mental health.
It seems like it might benefit you to TRULY explore why it is your doing this. It might be best to just pull away, do the work off camera, cut off ties with whole thing, rebound mentally, financially, get back on track to real life away from the camera. Yr plate is already pretty full, why heap on a bunch of garbage? I say all this coming from a place of being pro mental health. And not just in a cliche slogan sense we don't really hear b/c we've heard it so often. Be kind to yrself. Advocating for yrself sometimes means letting go. Good luck to you. Sending you healing energy. Keep it positive.
I love and agree with everything in your thoughtful reply but I’m still here for the tea 😅
@@MyName-wl6cd Ok, so yeah, I understand sippin the tea is entertaining, don't get me wrong, we are all human, we all experience this, the desire to sit in the colosseum is innate. Howevah....you know that I know that you know that we all know the most important thing if we truly care about each other as humans is to care about ppl's well being ultimately.
I'd like to see Statler work through this shit, and maybe even come back at her best, transcend the anger and pain and maybe come back as her best self and become something else in front of the camera instead of being on a vengeance crusade which is how it feels.
It seems in reality Statler is a caring and funny, and smart person, I hope she can heal and tap into those aspects of her personality and become a force of positivity. She has SO much potential. C'mon Statler, you got this! Walk towards that light, I believe in you and think you can do it! But you should think about changing yr path, this one is crazy and doesn't benefit you. I think you got it in you. Fuck us viewers, yr mental health is more important than all this BS. Again, saying this all with love. XO
Statler is beautiful and well spoken. Dempsey too but it does appear she took advantage of Statler. I’d like to hear from her perspective.
everyone was always on dempseys side but when i see dempsey she looked very rude. Team statler
Hey Statler!! I'm so excited! Do you have a promo code for the first month of Patreon?
Thank you for coming out and telling your truth. I stand with you. You are not wrong in how you feel. Don't ever let anyone tell you that. Internet trolls suck
Subscribed! So excited about this channel, such a great idea. I hope you get great guests or at least continue with it, no matter the direction ❤
Get a lawyer and sue her. You have proof of your deal! Best of luck!
The real people always missing from any Tell All ever are the producers, editors, directors, whatever.
I love this. I'm sorry that you receive so much hate. You do not deserve that.
I saw the way they villainized you and the way she treated you on the boat was awful. I’ve had anxiety since childhood and can’t imagine someone who claimed to love me treated me that way.
Girl, we need to get you a mic stand / arm 😂
Agreed otherwise she gonna get fit 💪
She should pay you the money she owes you ,karma will get her really respect you for your honesty
This is the tell all we want
As someone who is also autistic and adhd AND BPD the way she treated you, or lack thereof any treatment towards you with empathy rubbed me the wrong way. And I liked you two a lot.
Sending you love and light ❤❤❤
This is a great idea and i wish u the absolute best in your channel
love the chair!
As a fellow autistic person , I really loved you seeing in the shows. I felt so bad how it was so obvious Dempsey was just using you :(
Honestly, I thought you were the problem until this season. This season it became clear Dempsey was using you. She clearly felt completely entitled to "living her best life" while you worked all day to finance that life.
My favourite person in 90 day history by far! I’m so excited to keep watching !
Same!!! So proud of you for coming out and speaking the truth! It takes balls and you go girl 🙌
I was wondering if you could talk about what made you want to sign up for the show and what was that like?
Oh yes! ❤🎉😊 Love Statler! authentic and genuine ❤🎉😊
As someone who loves 90 day anything... I didn't like your ex from the start and always was on your side. Excited to see how this video ends. I'm intl half way through
We didn’t miss anything
Yes Statler!! Watching from London, been waiting for this, i know u are fully aware but please dont think us Brits are all arseholes
Keep being you & speaking your truth 😊
Honestly this annoys me so much, I saw a while back shes doing a holiday where random people can pay to go also, she clearly has no morals if she can just block you and not pay what she owes to you, absolutely awful way to be 😠
I will love if you interview Anfisa!!!
I also suffer from panic attacks. My heart went out to you when you were on the boat. I’m soooo sorry you went through those type if situations with a partner that didn’t want to understand. I’m very happy you are in a better mental space now. Take care of yourself.
i saw in the boat scene how your ex didn't ease your stress and anxiety.. just added to it. i'm glad you're doing okay now. i hope you meet someone who treats you how you deserve to be treated x
Please interview Ingrid from the current season! The guy she's dating (Brian) is the WORST! I'd love to hear her POV.
YYAASSS Girl keep it up, this is truly a passion of yours and it shows
I am sorry you went through all of that.
Just so you know, there is a family pretty close to you (Burleson) that totally gets you and is rooting for you, and wishing you the best.
Thanks for doing this podcast, Statler. You'r very articulate. You certainly weren't the villan on that show. I'm glad you're no longer with that woman, what's her name.
I would get a lawyer for the money she owes as well as your items. You need to involve legal aid. Also, just personally when my mental health is suffering I get off all social media and take a break. A lot of people forget that’s an option. It doesn’t have to be permanent but a few weeks to a few months detox does wonders for your mental health. Best of luck - but again, staying off social media is very helpful.
Please get Ingi on also. I think his reputation is being destroyed also
I totally agree with you.
nah he’s a literal child 😅
Do Rayne next!
I love it ! Proud of you !
Dont wanna get in trouble but you got fired and are spilling tea. Im so confused!
Looking forward to seeing more of these. One small suggestion, around 2 30 you switch position which is fine but the audio level drops significantly. Just keep this in mind or adjust the audio levels since as a viewer it can be tedious turning the volume up/down
You made a good impression on the show. The firstt red flag with Dempsey was when she still had money in her bank account, while you had to take out a loan to buy the van. Also, the fact that she wouldn't leave you alone on the ferry, even though you told her you were seasick. Then it was surprising that she didn't want to do anything in the van when you were the only breadwinner. Definitely hire a lawyer. So why weren't you on the Tell All? I think a lot of the contestants and the host would have stood up for you and confronted Dempsey.
I dont think the show paints people as one or the other it seems like they show equal faults and good qualities. I think people just form their opinions but in the end, no matter who you are, if random people watched little clips of any relationship there will be things that make you look good and things that make you look bad.
The reason the show works is we can all remate to this.
Why did you use the ferry when the Chunnel was an option?