The key for me is zero contact, no looking at social media, no reading texts or emails (all blocked), nothing. I've made that mistake before (got sucked back in). Not this time. Grief is slowly being replaced with relief.
Thank you for this comment I really needed it. You’re providing a ray of hope that your grief is being replaced by relief. This tells me that my grief will very soon be replaced by relief too.
So I've got her blocked and she still finds new ways to message me or she just shows up and leaves stuff of mine she kept from when we we're together. I'm not sure what to do at this point bc she also interferes in my dating life. On one hand I see it as a good thing some of these people have stopped talking to me, bc if they'll believe a random person then I don't wnata part of it. On the other hand it really sucks being shut out from new possibilities, and I find it hard to even bother anymore trying to find someone new simply bc shell get to them eventually. Even the ones who didn't believe her stopped talking to me simply bc my ex would harrass them until they got tired of the drama.
Be you. Be who you are because that is what they envied the most and that is why they couldn't handle, and that is why they effed up with you because of their own self-destructive nature.
💯!!! The good times were just moments... The actual relationship between the good moments were horrible! A good moment with him was always followed by a bad one, sometimes within an hour. It was ridiculous!
Right because my narcissist purposely fought me physically right before we went out separate ways, didnt wanna let their house and got mad because l called the police
Narcissist, can't understand a deep spiritual walk with the Lord. They'll go to Church and go thru the paces to act as if they understand. They don't. But when they actually see the Lord move in mysterious ways, it scares the shit out of them. The Holy Spirit protected me from my physical abuser. And from that moment on, Rod never attacked me again. God, never intends for us to be in harms way. I don't care if you are married. The Narcissist is hoping you will obey those vows & stay with them. They use that line, "I know you don't want the marriage to fail". That is one of their "hooks".
@@MentalHealness I am a realtor in Rochester Hills, Michigan for Key Realty One. Beth Kleehammer. In case you have anyone moving to southeast Michigan.
i was super upset over some bs with a narcissist and this really calmed me down and help me im going to go for a walk instead of dwell and be sad and continue to thrive thank you 😘😘😘😘
More into no contact I am more clear about my feelings. I may still love the narcs and they still may be able to trigger me. But I finally learned to love and respect myself enough to walk away and heal. I do not blame them or myself for the damage and pain anymore. I simply accept that they can not change and I can not allow them to hurt me anymore.
I think to me “winning” would be not giving a shit about him. Truly not caring. If someone mentioned his name I’d be like “who?” Because I had forgotten about him.
I was dealing in a narcissistic relationship for almost 2 years didn't even now what that meant tell i meet them and i felt trapped i felt crazy i felt so many things i cant even described it missed with me mentally physically and emotionally and im so hapoy now that im out of it that i haven't felt this happy in a long time i may have lost everything to get away from that narcissistic person but i never felt so much happier id rather live under a bridge then be with that person any more in my life
It's not over til I win? NO, it's over when I walk away. Winning is for competition and contests, Revenge is childish I wanted revenge too until I woke up and realized my revenge was forgiveness without re-entry.
I'm feeling really hurt tonight. I foolishly let the narcissist back in my life trying to give him the benefit of doubt knowing that it was a possibility he would hurt me again and he did without remorse just didn't care at all. I feel defeated, I feel like a joke and I'm humiliated. He hurt me for his own enjoyment. I feel so stupid because I let him back in. Smh
It’s really hard when you share a child I’m so tired of ignoring signs right in my face literally tonight was another scenario of his way and not mine. I love my baby’s father but dislike how he misused me. I find myself playing a role just to try and have him in our 1yo life but now I’m just like wait till the court hearing at the end of the year to hold him legally responsible and move on completely
"Healing is not a destination. Is is a journey." Thank you so much, Lee - with this you helped me to finally let go of pushing myself too hard. You are really doing such great work here. Really. Thank you.
Your videos are a REAL blessing and LIFESAVER! I was married for 32 years to this type of man...that left me last Christmas and it has been a devastating experience. Your videos are so helpful!!!!
I just left my sons father .. I’ve went through so much mental abuse and the shame of staying after being abused .. and I’ve pushed him out of my life.. it’s been so hard the last few days.. he’s been telling me he’s been talking to other women but he didn’t want to because he misses me.. and it hurts me still that I tried to love him so much and he still does not see what I had to endure .. and I blame myself too for staying when I knew he wouldn’t change .. I just had hope that one day he’ll see how wrong he is.. and now I guess he just won’t ever see it .. I’ve been going to church and going to god and crying so much for healing and the Pastor even told me god was saying love doesn’t hurt this much to leave this toxic man breaking me down in my life .. without even telling them my story .. and still I’m in shock .. like how can people really be this selfish and heartless 😢
For me, it is like solving a murder mystery. My narc, love bombed me, introduced me to all his friends & family, then married me & hit me the next day. It shattered my love & my trust for him. Then he began devaluing everything about me. I asked him, "Why did you marry me then"? He looked shocked? We were divorced within 3 months. But he stayed in my life and wanted to get back together during a course of 6 years. I knew in my spirit, that he was with other women all that time. And I didn't care what or where he was. I NEVER went back. But I still have these nagging questions "why" he cont. to call? And did he ever love me? Or was it all just a game to him?
So true. And remember, when things go wrong - and they will - it wasn't 'their' doing, it's just life. Crap happens. I've been dealing with that myself, and needed the reminder. I *am* living my best life, and that includes the crap too.
Yeah, but "life" just doesn't stir up crap everyday. The Narc lives for drama. If they don't have drama, they invent it. They will destroy their own lives, just to have drama.
Thank you so much for this video. I appreciate your time effort and wisdom you have put into this. God bless you for helping me out of a very dark time using this video and your words. God bless.
And the real thing I meant to comment on is how right you are my #CLUSTERBuddy. Today I am again confident in the resolve that I want nothing to do with that carnival. I love that carnival but I can no longer abide clowns and mirror mazes. Thanks for taking something that is often a handicap for people and becoming more aware (even though awareness can painful and exhausting in my experience ESPECIALLY since awaren does not mean healed. The awareness alone is some first level shit and level up still has to happen 💯) So you are fucking leveling up and getting many of the same needs met while giving people information so that they can level up as well which means that you're acting in a way as you deserve to feel accomplished and that you're good enough,smart enough, and gosh darn it people like you. Giving the tea so everyone can come up instead of pushing people down and then convincing yourself of that same end result.
No matter where they go, what they do, who they’re with they will still be miserable because they will be with themselves. They cannot stand it so they will never be happy.
Lee, I'm excited for your global recovery workshops. You and Ben are doing a phenomenal job getting people out of the brain fog! I know how cats can be, and my Tabitha looks just like your furbaby, and she has that "I've arrived" attitude 😂
I don't need 2 seek revenge cuz they will get their karma...just bcuz of who they r which r mean heartless individuals they will get theirs...Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord...he will repay...It's bout me now...Just not having 2 deal with the narc is a GREAT RELIEF!!!! My life is much happier now!!!!
Love Yourself More... exactly right. I was discarded by my covert narcissist husband. I feel I was sold a fake bill of goods and now I know who he really is after living together for six months. Three times in the past year he's mentioned divorce. He won't file, though. He wants me to It's been heartbreakingly difficult, but each day I find something to be grateful for and do something for me. I make myself do it. I have also been going to therapy for the past three months. Glow up!
I actually never considered the idea of "winning"...until now... Hindsight being 20/20, I always felt like people were playing with me or using me. I had to take accountability and accept the fact that I allowed these behaviors to consume me especially since I offered my services on a silver platter to people who would minimize my efforts, including friends. I felt like I was a loser while I was with my ex and all I can say is after I went no contact, I dont feel that way anymore. I found that I've dealt with a few narcs back to back. I couldnt even withstand a healthy relationship although I was with one person who was worthy of that. I realized I have been broken for a long time. I removed alot of people from my life alongside my ex narc. Now, I dont feel like a loser. I dont feel like I'm always doing something wrong. I smile more amd worry less. No more chess pains, no anxiety, eating better, working out more and lost 40 lbs in the process, I can even do a couple pushups now, lol. So in that case, to me, I am winning!!!🤯😁
@@sheemay4281 my therapist keeps telling me it won’t make me feel better. I know she’s living life and I’m still stuck on it. I don’t want to be stuck like this but I can’t let it go. There’s this hole in me and I can’t closure. Some days I’m ok and others I want revenge. Also I’m sorry you went through that. You don’t deserve that. I have empathy for her but also that’s no excuse for the way she treated me.
this is stupid... we get wounded and done wrong by people who we genuinely cared for and loved... they are cool and unbothered with their lives now, but here we are still mending our broken hearts.. honestly im just in a state of shock.. like how can he do those things to me after all I did for him... he just didnt care.. most of it was a lie.. i wanna expose him so he would think twice messing with people.. i feel like if i just keep quiet and not fight back, i could be his enabler.. @@TheLoneWolf4Life
you seem like you're deeply hurt... it will get better in time... your life is way better without her... you saved yourself time. As empaths, our lesson is to not give pearls to pigs.. and to trust our instincts.. at least we are aware now that such bad people exist in this world..
It's a win-win situation The one because you allow them to win and you only allow that because by them winning you win too you win Freedom you win yourself back . LET THEM WIN AND CELEBRATE THEIR WINNING...because in the end ..you both come out winning..just don't let ur win show cus if they notice you're happy that's when a narcissist will demand a rematch just to try to keep it going drag it on and find a away to make you want to tap out metaphorically emotionally speaking....
Pack your shit and disappear and go be yourself and let them continue on going through people like water... never knowing what it truly means to love another person at all. To me that is worst hell ever.
@@Swahps I ran into him on zoosk by accident! Cheating again! Proves my point they never change or learn from their past mistakes or behavior at all! That’s leaving is the only way to beat them! Today is 158 days of no contact!
I shared my dream vision with my ex, he said I am not ready to do that, so I waited for him. He left me and in a matter of weeks has gone to do my dream.
@@MentalHealness I'm coming at this from a spiritual warfare perspective. The devil uses our bitterness to keep us trapped. When we forgive and give it to Jesus, he sets us free from that burden in our hearts. I'm not religious, I am saved by the grace of God... Jesus is my best friend and I know who the son sets free is free indeed. Jesus said to come to him all who heavy burdened and labor and he will give us rest for our souls. 😊 And God said vengence is his so .... Ya know...
I told him I hate to be ignored. I was in tears stressing this to him. I told him I love his voice. He blocked both my phones and the entire hospital where I work because calls go through the switchboard. I am doing better than I thought I would. He left the job and blocked all his new work friends here on the phone and social media. FOH!😂😂😂
I m crying watching this video is been 1 year and 4 months i have a lot of bad days i try to get over but i feel like is a road block in my mind 😢i m trying.I m trying
@MentalHealness riddle me this.... If insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome...... what would you call someone that does the same thing over and over again knowing what the outcome is going to be and knowing it's not going to be different and continuing to do it because the want and hope of a a different outcome pushes you to keep on
Realised 3 months ago that my partner/father of my now 8 month old was a narcissist who was living a double life. Terrified and overwhelmed about trying to coparent. He's refusing to pay child maintenance or let me double barrel our child's surname. Would appreciate any advice on how to negotiate with this type of person 😫
Yea I wanna go out and get better but they just wanna hold me back. Yes I’m dependent on them so like they say I’m not giving them a good enough reason, when there is no reason why they wouldn’t let me do something that would help me except they don’t wanna lose control.
I’m on RUclips trying to look up videos on how to heal from a narc because the last family member I trusted used me for money probably in more ways than just this thing I found out but she has been really irritating me bad this week, 7 months ago I ended things with her and all of a sudden she has the money, time to afford to build a brand new house RIGHT ACROSS from my apartment! I’ve been hearing for years excuses why she can’t help me, take me somewhere, hang out, etc then she gets a new bf and immediately has plenty of time for him and not only that I’ve seen her here early morning to late evening with her bf (which I found out he is moving in with her when she said she couldn’t possibly think of a way to move in with him lol). But she’s been here all week to work on her house but she is here manipulating me and lying saying she’s so broke she just can’t take off work 😂 so it’s been more than stressful and I am trying not to give my energy to her cause she doesn’t care but it’s hard to see someone you cared so much for do this to you:(
I'm married to a narcissist I left him 5 months ago but after 1 month no contact he got me talking to him again by love bombing me again I didn't go back but it's like we were in the beginning stage when we had just met and everything was good it's like I liked it like that where I didn't really have to deal with all the drama and fighting and he was nice but he got tired of me not moving back and not making it official so he moved on I think he had her as a back up plan while he waited to see if he was gonna convince me again but I didn't so next day he has a gf he told me because I made him waste his time and effort. I'm mad at myself for getting sucked back in amd feel like when I barely left him I'm very hurt and now he's living his life and I'm stuck again and very hurt. I'm confused at myself because I'm the one that left and didn't want to go back but I feel like I care alot and love him and I'm so depressed now and feel very lonely
I feel my wife has Narcissistic traits I am by no means a doctor. We had a conversation about her lying of omission. She tells me to never lie to her but then she will ask me to omit things constantly from friends and family. So I called her a “lair” and she lied about lying go figure.
Been 2 months since I left ... didn't expect to go thru a grieving process kinda threw me for a loop ... it's getting a little better each day ... he's called a couple times, I call em fishing expiditions, he's testing the waters to see if he might could come back. Not in so many words, but the question is there all the same ... didn't expect him to call so soon ... Hoping karma kicks his ass, but I'm what's important now! So if it happens it happens, if not, oh well at least it's not me dealin with him anymore ... Still in the discovery process of me without him. Anything else is gravy!
Forgot to say thanks so much Mr Lee Hammock for the education and strength to know I could do it and stay strong!! I'm gonna be ok for now, but in the future I'm gonna be great!! I am enough!
how can I let go of resentment from an ex narcissist treatment and how his mother also enables him . she also pays his rent after I left him because she didn't want him to move back home with her and he can’t afford to pay his rent The mother still try’s to contact me but I don’t engage with her
Can someone tell me how to forget that narcissistic person? I cannot stop thinking of her and i hate it. I want to move on because that person is rotten.
Two of your famous quotes:
1. What triggers you controls you
2. Abuse is on them, but the healing is on you.
Yesss, and i like " its been around them long enough"
The key for me is zero contact, no looking at social media, no reading texts or emails (all blocked), nothing. I've made that mistake before (got sucked back in). Not this time. Grief is slowly being replaced with relief.
What if theres a child? 🫠
Thank you for this comment I really needed it. You’re providing a ray of hope that your grief is being replaced by relief. This tells me that my grief will very soon be replaced by relief too.
Same omg I had to stop reading the messages and just delete
I'm trying to do that and move on, but I'm in love with this person.
So I've got her blocked and she still finds new ways to message me or she just shows up and leaves stuff of mine she kept from when we we're together. I'm not sure what to do at this point bc she also interferes in my dating life. On one hand I see it as a good thing some of these people have stopped talking to me, bc if they'll believe a random person then I don't wnata part of it. On the other hand it really sucks being shut out from new possibilities, and I find it hard to even bother anymore trying to find someone new simply bc shell get to them eventually. Even the ones who didn't believe her stopped talking to me simply bc my ex would harrass them until they got tired of the drama.
Be you. Be who you are because that is what they envied the most and that is why they couldn't handle, and that is why they effed up with you because of their own self-destructive nature.
Every time a think about my narc and the “good times” I think about the horrible crap I went through and that keeps me from going back.
💯!!! The good times were just moments... The actual relationship between the good moments were horrible! A good moment with him was always followed by a bad one, sometimes within an hour. It was ridiculous!
Vengeance is Mine sayeth The Lord..
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Yessssssssss!!!!!
Right because my narcissist purposely fought me physically right before we went out separate ways, didnt wanna let their house and got mad because l called the police
Narcissist, can't understand a deep spiritual walk with the Lord. They'll go to Church and go thru the paces to act as if they understand. They don't. But when they actually see the Lord move in mysterious ways, it scares the shit out of them. The Holy Spirit protected me from my physical abuser. And from that moment on, Rod never attacked me again. God, never intends for us to be in harms way. I don't care if you are married. The Narcissist is hoping you will obey those vows & stay with them. They use that line, "I know you don't want the marriage to fail". That is one of their "hooks".
@@earlofmar7987 exactly!
No contact allows you to heal from the massive car wreck you went through!
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@@MentalHealness I am a realtor in Rochester Hills, Michigan for Key Realty One. Beth Kleehammer. In case you have anyone moving to southeast Michigan.
i was super upset over some bs with a narcissist and this really calmed me down and help me im going to go for a walk instead of dwell and be sad and continue to thrive thank you 😘😘😘😘
More into no contact I am more clear about my feelings. I may still love the narcs and they still may be able to trigger me. But I finally learned to love and respect myself enough to walk away and heal. I do not blame them or myself for the damage and pain anymore. I simply accept that they can not change and I can not allow them to hurt me anymore.
If you get out alive you have won
I think to me “winning” would be not giving a shit about him. Truly not caring. If someone mentioned his name I’d be like “who?” Because I had forgotten about him.
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Because of you I started therapy and this journey is well worth it
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I appreciate every single video you do, Lee. You like the big brother I never had 😅
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Winning looks like peace of mind.
I was dealing in a narcissistic relationship for almost 2 years didn't even now what that meant tell i meet them and i felt trapped i felt crazy i felt so many things i cant even described it missed with me mentally physically and emotionally and im so hapoy now that im out of it that i haven't felt this happy in a long time i may have lost everything to get away from that narcissistic person but i never felt so much happier id rather live under a bridge then be with that person any more in my life
It's not over til I win? NO, it's over when I walk away. Winning is for competition and contests, Revenge is childish I wanted revenge too until I woke up and realized my revenge was forgiveness without re-entry.
I don't want or need revenge.
I need to listen to this every day 😔
I'm feeling really hurt tonight. I foolishly let the narcissist back in my life trying to give him the benefit of doubt knowing that it was a possibility he would hurt me again and he did without remorse just didn't care at all. I feel defeated, I feel like a joke and I'm humiliated. He hurt me for his own enjoyment. I feel so stupid because I let him back in. Smh
Pick yourself back up and start again is all❤️ like he said this is a journey and in the end you'll win💪🏾
I hope that you’re healing now ❤❤
It’s really hard when you share a child I’m so tired of ignoring signs right in my face literally tonight was another scenario of his way and not mine. I love my baby’s father but dislike how he misused me. I find myself playing a role just to try and have him in our 1yo life but now I’m just like wait till the court hearing at the end of the year to hold him legally responsible and move on completely
It's ok we human we learn over time u r doing great
"Healing is not a destination. Is is a journey." Thank you so much, Lee - with this you helped me to finally let go of pushing myself too hard. You are really doing such great work here. Really. Thank you.
Congrats going to UK 👍 helping more people❤️good job Lee☺️
Thank you
Lee, I appreciate all the hard work you do to help people..and information you give from your perspective. 💕
I appreciate that
You've helped me in so many ways possible. Thank u so much.
You are so welcome!
Keep up the good work my brudda! 🤛🏾💯
Thanks! Will do!
Your videos are a REAL blessing and LIFESAVER! I was married for 32 years to this type of man...that left me last Christmas and it has been a devastating experience. Your videos are so helpful!!!!
I just left my sons father .. I’ve went through so much mental abuse and the shame of staying after being abused .. and I’ve pushed him out of my life.. it’s been so hard the last few days.. he’s been telling me he’s been talking to other women but he didn’t want to because he misses me.. and it hurts me still that I tried to love him so much and he still does not see what I had to endure .. and I blame myself too for staying when I knew he wouldn’t change .. I just had hope that one day he’ll see how wrong he is.. and now I guess he just won’t ever see it .. I’ve been going to church and going to god and crying so much for healing and the Pastor even told me god was saying love doesn’t hurt this much to leave this toxic man breaking me down in my life .. without even telling them my story .. and still I’m in shock .. like how can people really be this selfish and heartless 😢
For me, it is like solving a murder mystery. My narc, love bombed me, introduced me to all his friends & family, then married me & hit me the next day. It shattered my love & my trust for him. Then he began devaluing everything about me. I asked him, "Why did you marry me then"? He looked shocked? We were divorced within 3 months. But he stayed in my life and wanted to get back together during a course of 6 years. I knew in my spirit, that he was with other women all that time. And I didn't care what or where he was. I NEVER went back. But I still have these nagging questions "why" he cont. to call? And did he ever love me? Or was it all just a game to him?
Thanks for the video. Creating art can be helpful in healing.
you’re welcome
So true. And remember, when things go wrong - and they will - it wasn't 'their' doing, it's just life. Crap happens. I've been dealing with that myself, and needed the reminder. I *am* living my best life, and that includes the crap too.
Yeah, but "life" just doesn't stir up crap everyday. The Narc lives for drama. If they don't have drama, they invent it. They will destroy their own lives, just to have drama.
So grateful I found your channel. Healing is slow but steady.
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"i am watching your videos like im doing movie marathon"! ☺️🍿🎥
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It's not over till I win.
What does winning look like to you?
Cherishing every word of this video Lee.
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Thank you 🥺💗 you are impressive
Thank you so much for this video. I appreciate your time effort and wisdom you have put into this. God bless you for helping me out of a very dark time using this video and your words. God bless.
you’re welcome
And the real thing I meant to comment on is how right you are my #CLUSTERBuddy. Today I am again confident in the resolve that I want nothing to do with that carnival. I love that carnival but I can no longer abide clowns and mirror mazes. Thanks for taking something that is often a handicap for people and becoming more aware (even though awareness can painful and exhausting in my experience ESPECIALLY since awaren does not mean healed. The awareness alone is some first level shit and level up still has to happen 💯) So you are fucking leveling up and getting many of the same needs met while giving people information so that they can level up as well which means that you're acting in a way as you deserve to feel accomplished and that you're good enough,smart enough, and gosh darn it people like you. Giving the tea so everyone can come up instead of pushing people down and then convincing yourself of that same end result.
No matter where they go, what they do, who they’re with they will still be miserable because they will be with themselves. They cannot stand it so they will never be happy.
Lee, I'm excited for your global recovery workshops. You and Ben are doing a phenomenal job getting people out of the brain fog!
I know how cats can be, and my Tabitha looks just like your furbaby, and she has that "I've arrived" attitude 😂
😅😅 Thank you
Trust me I'M A WINNER...I LEFT THE NARC...I'M THE HAPPIEST I'VE EVER BEEN N MY LIFE!!!!
This video is so helpful for me as it is getting me clues on how to move on. Thank you 🙏
Glad it was helpful!
I'm going through the pain of this now
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I don't need 2 seek revenge cuz they will get their karma...just bcuz of who they r which r mean heartless individuals they will get theirs...Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord...he will repay...It's bout me now...Just not having 2 deal with the narc is a GREAT RELIEF!!!! My life is much happier now!!!!
Love Yourself More... exactly right. I was discarded by my covert narcissist husband. I feel I was sold a fake bill of goods and now I know who he really is after living together for six months. Three times in the past year he's mentioned divorce. He won't file, though. He wants me to It's been heartbreakingly difficult, but each day I find something to be grateful for and do something for me. I make myself do it. I have also been going to therapy for the past three months. Glow up!
I actually never considered the idea of "winning"...until now... Hindsight being 20/20, I always felt like people were playing with me or using me. I had to take accountability and accept the fact that I allowed these behaviors to consume me especially since I offered my services on a silver platter to people who would minimize my efforts, including friends. I felt like I was a loser while I was with my ex and all I can say is after I went no contact, I dont feel that way anymore. I found that I've dealt with a few narcs back to back. I couldnt even withstand a healthy relationship although I was with one person who was worthy of that. I realized I have been broken for a long time. I removed alot of people from my life alongside my ex narc. Now, I dont feel like a loser. I dont feel like I'm always doing something wrong. I smile more amd worry less. No more chess pains, no anxiety, eating better, working out more and lost 40 lbs in the process, I can even do a couple pushups now, lol. So in that case, to me, I am winning!!!🤯😁
Yes freedom 🎉thank you for your healing ❤️🩹 honesty God bless you beb😇🙏🏽
Wow lee you have been going all over the world lately its awesome
I appreciate and love you SO MUCH Lee 🙏🏻❤️ thank you seriously
I have to go No Contact by tomorrow because he’s planning on coming back and I’m so sad stressed and scared
stay strong and safe
Glow up
Self-love
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I’m dealing with that this morning. I want revenge. And I hate feeling like this😭
i feeell you... i wanna expose him sooo BAD
@@sheemay4281 my therapist keeps telling me it won’t make me feel better. I know she’s living life and I’m still stuck on it. I don’t want to be stuck like this but I can’t let it go. There’s this hole in me and I can’t closure. Some days I’m ok and others I want revenge. Also I’m sorry you went through that. You don’t deserve that. I have empathy for her but also that’s no excuse for the way she treated me.
this is stupid... we get wounded and done wrong by people who we genuinely cared for and loved... they are cool and unbothered with their lives now, but here we are still mending our broken hearts.. honestly im just in a state of shock.. like how can he do those things to me after all I did for him... he just didnt care.. most of it was a lie.. i wanna expose him so he would think twice messing with people.. i feel like if i just keep quiet and not fight back, i could be his enabler.. @@TheLoneWolf4Life
you seem like you're deeply hurt... it will get better in time... your life is way better without her... you saved yourself time. As empaths, our lesson is to not give pearls to pigs.. and to trust our instincts.. at least we are aware now that such bad people exist in this world..
@@sheemay4281 will she ever realize the damage she’s caused
This cracked me the hell up, the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else lmaoooooo ha!
this actually helped a lot. thank you
Love the cat so mischievous...
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It's a win-win situation The one because you allow them to win and you only allow that because by them winning you win too you win Freedom you win yourself back . LET THEM WIN AND CELEBRATE THEIR WINNING...because in the end ..you both come out winning..just don't let ur win show cus if they notice you're happy that's when a narcissist will demand a rematch just to try to keep it going drag it on and find a away to make you want to tap out metaphorically emotionally speaking....
I loved ALL the video but just about lost my mind over the KITTY!
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Winning is just not feeling hurt anymore
"Narcat" I love it! Black cats are the best. They get a bum rap, but I wouldn't trade mine in for the world 😻❤
It's just so hard to heal but I know I'm getting there
Its hell being with them! I wish i knew about this earlier 😕
Pack your shit and disappear and go be yourself and let them continue on going through people like water... never knowing what it truly means to love another person at all. To me that is worst hell ever.
This explains my certain person perfectly
@@Swahps I ran into him on zoosk by accident! Cheating again! Proves my point they never change or learn from their past mistakes or behavior at all! That’s leaving is the only way to beat them! Today is 158 days of no contact!
@@Cellia836 im trying to go no contact. This situation is still fresh...i was doing well, until yesterday.
I don’t want revenge. I just don’t want to miss him anymore
I shared my dream vision with my ex, he said I am not ready to do that, so I waited for him. He left me and in a matter of weeks has gone to do my dream.
Don't seek revenge cuz u will stay entangled
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@@MentalHealness I'm coming at this from a spiritual warfare perspective. The devil uses our bitterness to keep us trapped. When we forgive and give it to Jesus, he sets us free from that burden in our hearts. I'm not religious, I am saved by the grace of God... Jesus is my best friend and I know who the son sets free is free indeed. Jesus said to come to him all who heavy burdened and labor and he will give us rest for our souls. 😊 And God said vengence is his so .... Ya know...
I told him I hate to be ignored. I was in tears stressing this to him. I told him I love his voice. He blocked both my phones and the entire hospital where I work because calls go through the switchboard. I am doing better than I thought I would. He left the job and blocked all his new work friends here on the phone and social media. FOH!😂😂😂
Please wait it out listen to us to are farther along with healing you can do this its the best feeling ever!!!!!!!
What a beautiful cat! ♥️
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@@MentalHealness ♥️
I m crying watching this video is been 1 year and 4 months i have a lot of bad days i try to get over but i feel like is a road block in my mind 😢i m trying.I m trying
Never clicked so fast on a video!😂
😂 lol the mom, Grandma and them tho 😆😆
Thank you excellent message.
@MentalHealness
riddle me this....
If insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome...... what would you call someone that does the same thing over and over again knowing what the outcome is going to be and knowing it's not going to be different and continuing to do it because the want and hope of a a different outcome pushes you to keep on
I love this!!!
Realised 3 months ago that my partner/father of my now 8 month old was a narcissist who was living a double life. Terrified and overwhelmed about trying to coparent. He's refusing to pay child maintenance or let me double barrel our child's surname. Would appreciate any advice on how to negotiate with this type of person 😫
Today is day #11 no contact. This happens every few weeks when he blocks me. Then calls me after about a week or so asking me when I'm coming back...
It hurts that I was pulled into a demonic web of deceit with a narc, male and female
Yea I wanna go out and get better but they just wanna hold me back. Yes I’m dependent on them so like they say I’m not giving them a good enough reason, when there is no reason why they wouldn’t let me do something that would help me except they don’t wanna lose control.
I’m on RUclips trying to look up videos on how to heal from a narc because the last family member I trusted used me for money probably in more ways than just this thing I found out but she has been really irritating me bad this week, 7 months ago I ended things with her and all of a sudden she has the money, time to afford to build a brand new house RIGHT ACROSS from my apartment! I’ve been hearing for years excuses why she can’t help me, take me somewhere, hang out, etc then she gets a new bf and immediately has plenty of time for him and not only that I’ve seen her here early morning to late evening with her bf (which I found out he is moving in with her when she said she couldn’t possibly think of a way to move in with him lol). But she’s been here all week to work on her house but she is here manipulating me and lying saying she’s so broke she just can’t take off work 😂 so it’s been more than stressful and I am trying not to give my energy to her cause she doesn’t care but it’s hard to see someone you cared so much for do this to you:(
I'm married to a narcissist I left him 5 months ago but after 1 month no contact he got me talking to him again by love bombing me again I didn't go back but it's like we were in the beginning stage when we had just met and everything was good it's like I liked it like that where I didn't really have to deal with all the drama and fighting and he was nice but he got tired of me not moving back and not making it official so he moved on I think he had her as a back up plan while he waited to see if he was gonna convince me again but I didn't so next day he has a gf he told me because I made him waste his time and effort. I'm mad at myself for getting sucked back in amd feel like when I barely left him I'm very hurt and now he's living his life and I'm stuck again and very hurt. I'm confused at myself because I'm the one that left and didn't want to go back but I feel like I care alot and love him and I'm so depressed now and feel very lonely
They lose in the end with karma and my x is getting his right now
I feel my wife has Narcissistic traits I am by no means a doctor. We had a conversation about her lying of omission. She tells me to never lie to her but then she will ask me to omit things constantly from friends and family. So I called her a “lair” and she lied about lying go figure.
I’m actually divorcing mine after a whooping month for the same issue.
Been 2 months since I left ... didn't expect to go thru a grieving process kinda threw me for a loop ... it's getting a little better each day ... he's called a couple times, I call em fishing expiditions, he's testing the waters to see if he might could come back. Not in so many words, but the question is there all the same ... didn't expect him to call so soon ... Hoping karma kicks his ass, but I'm what's important now! So if it happens it happens, if not, oh well at least it's not me dealin with him anymore ... Still in the discovery process of me without him. Anything else is gravy!
Forgot to say thanks so much Mr Lee Hammock for the education and strength to know I could do it and stay strong!! I'm gonna be ok for now, but in the future I'm gonna be great!! I am enough!
@@Iamflamingosruleupdate???😢
Thank you ❤
Hope you will have a meet up in Louisiana!
It's hard. I love the hood loving partner. Very much dislike how he treats me.
My ex came by where i live by this park while married and lives 2 hours away . I feel hes self obcessed and stalkerish. Im scared
4:21 Don’t go to Australia!
But I live in Australia what do I do now? 😳
Crying at 8:25😂 oh lord lol
how can I let go of resentment from an ex narcissist treatment and how his mother also enables him . she also pays his rent after I left him because she didn't want him to move back home with her and he can’t afford to pay his rent
The mother still try’s to contact me but I don’t engage with her
you’re welcome
you’re welcome
Am I too much of a cliché, hopes, romantic or should I burn all of my exes belongings that he gave to me?
You're hilarious 😂😂 the dad the granddad..
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I'd love to do a one on one zoom chat with you man, how do I line that up?
I don't care who the narc is with cuz they r now someone else's PROBLEM...they will seeeeee...lol
I recomend Ayahuaska she show you who you are and how to be happy..
Sadly, that’s tough to access for most people, but I’ve heard amazing things!
That’s demonic and occultist. Please don’t ❤
Can someone tell me how to forget that narcissistic person? I cannot stop thinking of her and i hate it. I want to move on because that person is rotten.
Love yourself more
I can't do it
How can I get a one on one?
How can I get a consultation I need help !!
Get behind me Satan
Their life is revenge
Cute cat 🐈⬛
Yessssssssssssssssssssss🎉