This is such a help[ful and comforting video. I am a 38 years old man who has had hair dysmorphia since childhood and I can totally relate. I can say this applies to men as well.
Ugly cried so hard because this video was so comforting, I've been struggling with hair dysmorphia since I was 13 years old. I have spent the past summer obsessing about my hair, cutting a few pieces everyday, looking up pretty girls with gorgeous hair as a habit. Now that online classes have started I can't focus on the class because I would be distracted by my hair and I would miss discussions because of it. I am 16 years old now and I want to have long hair like any other girl my age but, due to hair dysmorphia I would end up cutting it every chance I get. I have been looking for solutions but the sources says that I would have to get Behavioral Therapy which I can't get since I'm only 16 years old and my parents doesn't believe in dysmorphias. Thank you for the wonderful video. I'm for sure gonna try this tips.
Ive had this since i was 16 and im now 37, in less then 2 months i went black, red, blonde, ash blonde, chestnut, dark brown and now a cherry red. And i have lost long hair and its now short and i still do it! i had a eating disorder when i was younger and obsessed about eating healthy and being thin, have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression, another weakness i could fall into is tattoos i have 8 or piercing but ive managed to stay away from completely going nuts in that catagory. The hair and body thing is a struggle.
Thank you for opening up and sharing. I know it's not easy. Even in our adulthood we carry these things with us. Just know that there are a lot of us out there that struggle with this too. The beauty of being obsessive and self conscious is that we are very self aware and by being aware of out dysmorphia we can choose to let it pass or we can choose to let it bother us. Just know we have a choice, even when it's difficult. We are strong and capable! You can always feel free to reach out to me further through social media 💖 ✌️
I could have written this myself! I’m 38 now too .. seeing that u wrote this a year ago. Omg the fucking hell is unreal. I have bleached and cut my hair ( mostly chemical cuts LOL) more times than I can begin to count . My hair is a chin length eternal Bob yet I STILL won’t leave alone. I then fell into an amazing cover up of wigs + extensions which I’ve now wasted a whole inheritance from my Nan on … so sad but true … it’s a non stop obsession that just won’t leave me alone ! Online shopping is the worst thing ever to enable it too . Ive had to take every mirror in my house down before for every time I go to wash my hands I’m fussing with it again , ‘oh it looks shit… need to take out n re-do’ omg what if ppl knew I had no hair left ?! They wouldn’t give me the time of day …. And of course with all the wild colors n long hair it’s become a party piece so everyone now expects me to have this flawless mane of hair …. Ffs … so now not only am I on my case 24-7 about it , other ppl are too 🙈 I got to the point I wouldn’t even open door to postman without a wig on 🙈And alike u I also had my eating issues .. mine was in in young adult hood. I also hate my eyes so that too is a constant source of buying lashes , eyeshadows etc to ‘make them look better’ and I know it’s impossible for my hair or eyes to ‘look better’ because it’s my actual brain that needs the adjustment. Also now I’m getting older I’ve decided my bum is too hideous for the world to see so I cover it up every day now with various shirts round waist , long cardigans u name it …. Ahhhhhh lord … I’ll never be happy , satisfied. I have so many compliments every day from women + men alike but it’s not that they think it’s this bully on my shoulder that won’t piss off. And the reason I have never sought help is because I’m scared of ppl thinking it’s vanity because of the way I doll myself up every day without fail …. If only it was …. If bloody only . I just wish I was someone else tbh . Anyone but me and that’s not even looking wise … someone without my brain
We all have a distorted view of ourselves unfortunately I cut my hair super short because of insecurities concerning my hairline Just wanted to say that I absolutely adore your hair, can’t lie! But it’s your face that I believe is your best feature... just sayin Anyway I hope this will be well received All the best to you :)
Mathias Manser Thank you so much for the sweet compliments! I browsed your channel and it looks like good content. I will watch your videos when I have more time. ✌ Be well, Antonia
I am so sorry to hear you are going through agoraphobia. Small steps and you will heal. I can relate, I have panic disorder and I have gone through times where I did not want to leave my house in fear that I would have an attack. I want to share more about my journey with coping with anxiety and do more mental health related videos as well. I hope you are getting the love and support you need to heal. Sending love and prayers your way :)
I just read your comment! Sending out so much love. You have been through so much. I hope you are able to feel more confident! 🖤🖤 May your day be amazing today. You are beautiful, worthy, and strong!! ✌️
I have BDD and hair dysmorphia. I had anorexia when I was 12 years old. I have tattoos and piercings. The reason for all this? A narcissistic personality disordered mother.
Aw sending out so much love! I know it's not easy. My parents werent narcissistic but they worked all the time. I was by myself a lot. I also didn't have many friends. I always felt kind of average ya know. So I felt like controlling my food and exercise was something I was good at. But in reality I really needed more love from my family and friends but I pushed away. Like you, still healing from this. Tattoos and piercings are a great form of self expression! I don't have any tattoos but I do like to express myself with jewelery sometimes and of course growing my hair. Additionally taking up instruments was helpful for me. Also thank you for reaching out, BDD, hair dysmorphia, and anorexia is all quite difficult to talk about. I truly wish you the best. Lots of love and strength 💪 ❤️
I love your hair alot and you inspire me ! I’m now very close to waist. I want to ask what do you think of: if you used them. I want to buy a natural shampoo and don’t know what is the most natural out of these. 1-andalou naturals shampoo 2-avalon shampoo 3-organic exellence 4-petal fresh 5-derma e scalp relief shampoo
Thank you so much for the sweet comments! So Andalou is a great shampoo and conditioner! My boyfriend uses the stem cell thickening one and his hair is very thick now! I have seen a difference. I've used their deep conditioning packets, the rose one, and it makes my hair very soft and smells great! I love Avalon Organics, it's my favorite one you mentioned, I use their Lemon Clarifying Shampoo and Conditioner and it makes my hair feel so clean and soft. I'm not familiar with Organic Excellence or Petal Fresh. I have never used Derma E shampoo but I do use their Charcoal face wash and it's amazing! Great brand! Some other natural brands I love are Giovanni, Nature's Gate, and Maple Holistics.
This is currently a big struggle for me right now 😔 Ive literally try everything to make my hair better the last two years and the results just aren’t there.
Aw! It can be really frustrating. I understand the struggles. A lot of it is trial and error until you find what works for you. Also knowing your hairs porosity is big too. And sometimes finding people with similar hair types as yours as seeing what they use can be helpful. Hang in there, good things are coming 💖
Every time I have to go do something important such as going to school my hair always feels uncomfortable that it bothers me so much that I can’t focus. It gives me so much anxiety that I just can’t function. I am always stressing and overthinking my hair all the time. I don’t care if it looks good or not, I just want it to feel comfortable. Can you tell me if this is hair dysmorphia or if this is something else? Thank you
It could be hair dysmorphia, it sounds a lot like a sensory issue with how it feels which could totally be connected. I also am heating some self consciousness which can be connected to hair/body dysmorphia as well as social anxiety.
Seeing a counselor may be helpful if you are able to. A lot of times therapy like CBT and DBT are good at addressing body dysmorphia and boosting self confidence. ❤️
I wish you all the best in coping and learning what is best for you. I took about a year off of social media and found it to be really good for learning to love myself and stop comparing. Sending lots of love your way. Hope you can realize how amazing and beautiful you are!
@@naturallyantonia thank you for the kind words!!! I’m already off of social media pretty much since 2020. I’m only using youtube. I’ve always had such a struggle with feeling like my sense of beauty was tied to my hair. Recently , after having Covid last year, my hair started falling out and got thin. It was pretty long and I was finally loving it. But then I ended up cutting it super short in an episode of depression and dysmorphia due to going into menopause. I started HRT , so doing better.... but my hair being so short has been such a challenge to my ego. I miss my long think hair and am struggling to feel attractive and “ like myself”. Everyone around me says it looks great but I keep having the perception that I don’t look good or like the way it feels..... I know it’s all in my mind and I’m doing my best to love and accept myself. Your video is the first time I’ve heard of this disorder and throughout my whole life I’ve had such a distorted relationship with my hair . It always seemed like no one else takes their hair as “ seriously” as me or is as disturbed by hair cuts or bad hair days... i was always so emotional around my hair...it always seemed so irrational to me as well but I couldn’t deny my experience. Now I’m realizing I do have a form of dysphoria. I had never considered it before. Now that I know , I can try to move on from it. That saying “ it’s only hair” has always bothered me, bc to me it’s always been so much more. Thank you 💞
I always say, how will you be blessed with more hair if you don’t love it already! It’s p hard to manifest more of something you hate. I feel it’s why when ppl who focus hardcore on their hair, it never seems to grow yet when they leave it alone, changes are evident
This is such a help[ful and comforting video. I am a 38 years old man who has had hair dysmorphia since childhood and I can totally relate. I can say this applies to men as well.
Ugly cried so hard because this video was so comforting, I've been struggling with hair dysmorphia since I was 13 years old. I have spent the past summer obsessing about my hair, cutting a few pieces everyday, looking up pretty girls with gorgeous hair as a habit. Now that online classes have started I can't focus on the class because I would be distracted by my hair and I would miss discussions because of it. I am 16 years old now and I want to have long hair like any other girl my age but, due to hair dysmorphia I would end up cutting it every chance I get. I have been looking for solutions but the sources says that I would have to get Behavioral Therapy which I can't get since I'm only 16 years old and my parents doesn't believe in dysmorphias. Thank you for the wonderful video. I'm for sure gonna try this tips.
Aww I am happy I provide your comfort. Wishing you all the best with school. 💕
Revisiting these videos. I am finding as I am growing my hair longer that this is something I am struggling with
Sending love to you Tiffany, I know it can be difficult at times. Be kind to yourself and know the feeling is only temporary. 🌹
Ive had this since i was 16 and im now 37, in less then 2 months i went black, red, blonde, ash blonde, chestnut, dark brown and now a cherry red. And i have lost long hair and its now short and i still do it! i had a eating disorder when i was younger and obsessed about eating healthy and being thin, have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression, another weakness i could fall into is tattoos i have 8 or piercing but ive managed to stay away from completely going nuts in that catagory. The hair and body thing is a struggle.
Thank you for opening up and sharing. I know it's not easy. Even in our adulthood we carry these things with us. Just know that there are a lot of us out there that struggle with this too. The beauty of being obsessive and self conscious is that we are very self aware and by being aware of out dysmorphia we can choose to let it pass or we can choose to let it bother us. Just know we have a choice, even when it's difficult. We are strong and capable! You can always feel free to reach out to me further through social media 💖 ✌️
I could have written this myself! I’m 38 now too .. seeing that u wrote this a year ago. Omg the fucking hell is unreal. I have bleached and cut my hair ( mostly chemical cuts LOL) more times than I can begin to count . My hair is a chin length eternal Bob yet I STILL won’t leave alone. I then fell into an amazing cover up of wigs + extensions which I’ve now wasted a whole inheritance from my Nan on … so sad but true … it’s a non stop obsession that just won’t leave me alone ! Online shopping is the worst thing ever to enable it too . Ive had to take every mirror in my house down before for every time I go to wash my hands I’m fussing with it again , ‘oh it looks shit… need to take out n re-do’ omg what if ppl knew I had no hair left ?! They wouldn’t give me the time of day …. And of course with all the wild colors n long hair it’s become a party piece so everyone now expects me to have this flawless mane of hair …. Ffs … so now not only am I on my case 24-7 about it , other ppl are too 🙈 I got to the point I wouldn’t even open door to postman without a wig on 🙈And alike u I also had my eating issues .. mine was in in young adult hood. I also hate my eyes so that too is a constant source of buying lashes , eyeshadows etc to ‘make them look better’ and I know it’s impossible for my hair or eyes to ‘look better’ because it’s my actual brain that needs the adjustment. Also now I’m getting older I’ve decided my bum is too hideous for the world to see so I cover it up every day now with various shirts round waist , long cardigans u name it …. Ahhhhhh lord … I’ll never be happy , satisfied. I have so many compliments every day from women + men alike but it’s not that they think it’s this bully on my shoulder that won’t piss off. And the reason I have never sought help is because I’m scared of ppl thinking it’s vanity because of the way I doll myself up every day without fail …. If only it was …. If bloody only . I just wish I was someone else tbh . Anyone but me and that’s not even looking wise … someone without my brain
Sending you so much love! ❤️
Love this message!!! I am def overly critical of my hair that's for sure. I am going to try to be nicer to myself about it. Thank you.
JusDes So good to hear! Yes being nice and loving ourselves is so important ❤ Much peace and love to you✌
We all have a distorted view of ourselves unfortunately
I cut my hair super short because of insecurities concerning my hairline
Just wanted to say that I absolutely adore your hair, can’t lie!
But it’s your face that I believe is your best feature... just sayin
Anyway I hope this will be well received
All the best to you
:)
Mathias Manser Thank you so much for the sweet compliments! I browsed your channel and it looks like good content. I will watch your videos when I have more time. ✌
Be well,
Antonia
You're very welcome! And thanks for checking it out!@@naturallyantonia
A smart, beautiful, and compassionate young lady! Honored to be your social media follower. Keep up the great work! ♥
I think I’m going thru this currently! It’s so hard.
So sorry to hear this! Sending love and good vibes your way 🌿🌛💜
Th8s is my current situation and has led to agoraphobia.
I am so sorry to hear you are going through agoraphobia. Small steps and you will heal. I can relate, I have panic disorder and I have gone through times where I did not want to leave my house in fear that I would have an attack. I want to share more about my journey with coping with anxiety and do more mental health related videos as well. I hope you are getting the love and support you need to heal. Sending love and prayers your way :)
I commented on one of the other ladies who commented, hope u read that too , thank u for this video 🖤🖤🖤
I just read your comment! Sending out so much love. You have been through so much. I hope you are able to feel more confident! 🖤🖤
May your day be amazing today. You are beautiful, worthy, and strong!! ✌️
@@naturallyantonia The road is long and winding 😕 Ahh thank you xxxxxxx ditto to you too 🖤🖤🖤
wonderful wise counsel.........i wish i had heard this when i was a teen.
Anthony Cox Thank you! I wish I would have known this as a teen! I think teenage years are such a strange time.
I used to struggle with this a lot! Really love this video, friend!
Wow dear same me long hair.....
GEM LOVE Yes so many can relate to this. ❤ You're beautiful by the way.
You would make a great talk show host.
Aw thanks! :) A talk show host would be a cool career! I am going to be a mental health therapist.
I have BDD and hair dysmorphia. I had anorexia when I was 12 years old. I have tattoos and piercings.
The reason for all this? A narcissistic personality disordered mother.
Aw sending out so much love! I know it's not easy. My parents werent narcissistic but they worked all the time. I was by myself a lot. I also didn't have many friends. I always felt kind of average ya know. So I felt like controlling my food and exercise was something I was good at. But in reality I really needed more love from my family and friends but I pushed away. Like you, still healing from this. Tattoos and piercings are a great form of self expression! I don't have any tattoos but I do like to express myself with jewelery sometimes and of course growing my hair. Additionally taking up instruments was helpful for me. Also thank you for reaching out, BDD, hair dysmorphia, and anorexia is all quite difficult to talk about. I truly wish you the best. Lots of love and strength 💪 ❤️
@@naturallyantonia Thank you so much!
Great sharing. Very informative video. We just joined you Sis
Clarisse J. You're welcome. 😊 Thanks for joining me, more to come!
I love you baby girl.you are beautiful sol, and your hair is fantastic.
I love your hair alot and you inspire me ! I’m now very close to waist. I want to ask what do you think of: if you used them. I want to buy a natural shampoo and don’t know what is the most natural out of these.
1-andalou naturals shampoo
2-avalon shampoo
3-organic exellence
4-petal fresh
5-derma e scalp relief shampoo
Thank you so much for the sweet comments! So Andalou is a great shampoo and conditioner! My boyfriend uses the stem cell thickening one and his hair is very thick now! I have seen a difference. I've used their deep conditioning packets, the rose one, and it makes my hair very soft and smells great! I love Avalon Organics, it's my favorite one you mentioned, I use their Lemon Clarifying Shampoo and Conditioner and it makes my hair feel so clean and soft. I'm not familiar with Organic Excellence or Petal Fresh. I have never used Derma E shampoo but I do use their Charcoal face wash and it's amazing! Great brand! Some other natural brands I love are Giovanni, Nature's Gate, and Maple Holistics.
Thank you soo much! Upload more often. my goal is classic length like yours❤️
Beautiful soul! Thank you for sharing :)
Aww thanks Chris! And you are very welcome 💜🙂
This is currently a big struggle for me right now 😔 Ive literally try everything to make my hair better the last two years and the results just aren’t there.
Aw! It can be really frustrating. I understand the struggles. A lot of it is trial and error until you find what works for you. Also knowing your hairs porosity is big too. And sometimes finding people with similar hair types as yours as seeing what they use can be helpful. Hang in there, good things are coming 💖
Thank you so much
Every time I have to go do something important such as going to school my hair always feels uncomfortable that it bothers me so much that I can’t focus. It gives me so much anxiety that I just can’t function. I am always stressing and overthinking my hair all the time. I don’t care if it looks good or not, I just want it to feel comfortable. Can you tell me if this is hair dysmorphia or if this is something else? Thank you
It could be hair dysmorphia, it sounds a lot like a sensory issue with how it feels which could totally be connected. I also am heating some self consciousness which can be connected to hair/body dysmorphia as well as social anxiety.
@@naturallyantonia Do you know how I can get this treated?
Seeing a counselor may be helpful if you are able to. A lot of times therapy like CBT and DBT are good at addressing body dysmorphia and boosting self confidence. ❤️
Nice video
HairBuilder Thanks hun! I enjoy your videos as well. ☺
Omg! I think this is what’s happening with me!
I wish you all the best in coping and learning what is best for you. I took about a year off of social media and found it to be really good for learning to love myself and stop comparing.
Sending lots of love your way. Hope you can realize how amazing and beautiful you are!
@@naturallyantonia thank you for the kind words!!! I’m already off of social media pretty much since 2020. I’m only using youtube. I’ve always had such a struggle with feeling like my sense of beauty was tied to my hair. Recently , after having Covid last year, my hair started falling out and got thin. It was pretty long and I was finally loving it. But then I ended up cutting it super short in an episode of depression and dysmorphia due to going into menopause. I started HRT , so doing better.... but my hair being so short has been such a challenge to my ego. I miss my long think hair and am struggling to feel attractive and “ like myself”. Everyone around me says it looks great but I keep having the perception that I don’t look good or like the way it feels..... I know it’s all in my mind and I’m doing my best to love and accept myself. Your video is the first time I’ve heard of this disorder and throughout my whole life I’ve had such a distorted relationship with my hair . It always seemed like no one else takes their hair as “ seriously” as me or is as disturbed by hair cuts or bad hair days... i was always so emotional around my hair...it always seemed so irrational to me as well but I couldn’t deny my experience. Now I’m realizing I do have a form of dysphoria. I had never considered it before. Now that I know , I can try to move on from it. That saying “ it’s only hair” has always bothered me, bc to me it’s always been so much more. Thank you 💞
You're very welcome! I am glad to hear you now feel a sense of validation. It's not "just hair" and you are not crazy. :)
I always say, how will you be blessed with more hair if you don’t love it already! It’s p hard to manifest more of something you hate. I feel it’s why when ppl who focus hardcore on their hair, it never seems to grow yet when they leave it alone, changes are evident