Hey, can you tell me about the first time you meet your husband? Who is Pluto and who is Moon? Is he attracted to you first or you attracted to him first? Also, how tight the orb between Moon and Pluto? Also, do you guys have 8th overlays beside moon-Pluto synastry? Sorry I ask too much, I fell hard for a guy whose Pluto conjuct my Moon (orb 4), I dunno how he feels as Pluto person.
@@alexisvcc3354 but his Moon falls in my 8th house, and my Pluto conjuct his Moon, his Pluto fall in my 4th house. He has Moon square pluto Natally and I read from other forum, it is said 8th house has Upper hand when involves the fast moving planet like Moon and I heard mostly Moon person is feel intimidated by house person, but I dunno too since he is Pluto and his Moon fall in my 8th house. Venus fall in other 8th, I heard 8th house holds the card whether to have connection with planet person or not(based from internet forum I read), but I share 8th house overlays and many pluto with this guy and god knows who has upper hand, him being planet overlays my personal planet in 8th house, but my Pluto touch most of his planet. I dunno his birth time so IDK which houses I activate his planets.
I have this with my boyfriend. I'm the moon and he's Pluto. It's a wide orb but I definitely feel it. I felt it right from the beginning. I was scared of him at first, and still am a little bit on a very subtle level. Like something about him makes me feel very vulnerable, uncomfortable, but also excited and intense. He actually stalked and spied on me when we first started talking. We've gone through quite a bit of ups and downs. He also has a Scorpio Moon too. Also, my Pluto squares his Mars... *sigh*
i dated a Scorpio girl and she also had lots of personal planets in Scorpio , and 8th house planets - don't forget to check Juno for both and house placements. pluto can be like a monster that comes out at night to scare you. not head on like mars , but hiding in the shadows, a retro Juno or 12 house juno is bad .
My moon squares his Pluto but his Pluto also trines my sun conjunct his moon in my 8th house. His Pluto squares his sun. My Pluto sextiles his sun. However his mars t-squares my Venus in opposition to my Pluto. Not sure if these positive Pluto/Sun aspects can aid in a positive soul transformation or not. I keep trying to pull away, but he is so good at pulling me back in. I think this is a narcissist/codependent relationship. I want to help him but realizing that the best I can probably do is work on myself, put myself first and decrease contact. I have become a close friend (my Saturn/pallas conjunct his Chiron in his 12th house and his SN conjunct my moon in 7th house). Not so easy to just walk away. Oh did I mention a grand air trine between Venus/moon/Pluto in water houses in composite? Smh...
Marjorie Baldizzi Could you elaborate more on being suspicious of the Moon? In what way? You feel the moon is faking his feelings for you? That somehow he's not genuine? As the Moon I feel so confused because I thought it's obvious for the Pluto person to see that the moon is just hopelessly attracted.
“we want to dominate the Moon person in ALL aspects“ I see. So Pluto knows the Moon's feelings but that still is not enough? Pluto wants to be the only one that exits in the Moon's world ---- But that's already the truth for the Moon, for me at least. Did he really flirt with other people? From what I read from you it's most likely the Moon can be completely innocent yet Pluto just can't stop being suspicious. I feel so sad. I mean, for two people who deeply love one another (I assume the Pluto does?), there's no sense of security, Or precisely because of the fact that the feelings are so intense, we can't bear the thoughts of losing each other. I'd really like to know from a Pluto's perspective, is there anything that the Moon can do or say, that would make you feel secured, finally?
Marjorie Baldizzi I really respect the Pluto person's feelings, but thinking that the Moon is not genuine just because they talk to other people?! Even if they do look flirtatious, unconsciously this is one of the ways to get the Pluto person's attention. But in the end, it's all about Pluto, the rest of the world has got nothing on him.
When you described all the junk coming out of the moon, I imagined pluto making all the planets barf, like they're puking out their demons or something. 😂
i have this with my husband and we both have issues, mine being with abandonment and yes we've been to therapy. I think were doing a pretty good job handling it though.
This explains a LOT. I have this with my mother lol. We have an AMAZING relationship, but she can get to me on an emotionally visceral level like NO ONE I've ever known. We have this 0degree orb so it is PREVALENT. But there are plenty of other things and aspects between us that make our relationship quite pleasant and love filled. Lots of work we've had to do over the years, though, particularly with me learning to control my impulse to lash out at her. She's never really understood how she can trigger me, and frankly neither have I hahaha. Sending her this vid now!
@@robinwalz4323 can you tell me the first time you met with your hubby? are you moon or Pluto? who is obsessed more? I share this with someone, I am moon. I am curious about Pluto person's feelings.
Yeah, run away if you can't stand this relationship. Many people fail in this relationship because Plutonian is dealing with trauma, psychological, vurnerability, transform each other to the best version and RAW honesty to reach deepest level of intimacy and understanding, facing your own demon to destruct and rebirth as new person to help each other heal, and die down our ego. This is why many Plutonian relationship only temporary because people are exhausted in the middle, however I do admire those who succeed in this relationship.
You are amazing! Spot on ;) ...down to the BDSM-part. I'm also having Pluto square moon in natal chart.. and other Pluto issues. Your videos on plutonic relationships are so revealing and I just wanna thank you sweatheart!
We have this with eachother both ways my pluto square his cap moon his pluto opposite my Taurus moon. ..pluto moon connection is a karmic bond...not always easy. Obsessive. Deep deep rooting pulling, soul trigger, did I mention obsession. I saw him across the parking lot before I met him and I saw and felt mySelf levitate out of my body. He would enter the building, I would have no control over mySelf and would have to go straight to him and look at him or stare. He would have to look away or walk over and hit me or grab my body or throw water on me = pluto venus square. Play both ways but intense. He felt it too, he said he couldn't control himself around me. He has moon saturn conjunct. Very controlled emotionally. We both have scorpio rising (pluto ascendant he is) It was so intense. Passion. I miss him. We also have mars conjunct in 8th. We are here to remind eachother of our mission = love. The universe wants us to grow and learn and be happy. Blessings and Light.
You're the only person I've ever heard mention feeling like your levitating and your soul is leaving your body. This is exactly how I've felt with this person. It's like even in my sleep, I feel like my soul is going towards him. If we're in the same room, we're trying to be near each other. 😂 it's fucked. We're not together, but it's like the most intense force I've ever felt.
alex b - well it wasn’t a healthy relationship but yes I was in love with him and I was conned into thinking he love me... but it is toxic and it wore me down.
@@animalames78 I am very sorry to read that, but according to my understanding and comments, in the square between pluto and moon, pluto should obsess and go crazy for the moon. Also I see that in quadrature the intensity is mostly felt by both
You’re so right...This aspect can be veeeery damaging. I have an exact 0 degree square with this guy (I’m moon, he’s Pluto) along with mars square pluto (double)...I can’t help feeling like I need him emotionally but he is cruel and controlling (natal venus square pluto). We both won’t let go, but I need to before things get abusive. I can’t see how this aspect could have a positive outcome for any two people, unless there’s a ton of harmonious aspects and extreme emotionally maturity on both ends. Even then, it will still be obsessive.
I would never attempt a plutonic relationship without 1) the Enneagram and a mindfulness practice, 2) Astrology, and 3) the principles of non-violent communication. (I also use tarot and feng shui.) Changes can and do happen, but insanely slowly. Be prepared to fight a protracted battle where you learn your boundaries, what kind of behavior you'll put up with, and what crosses a line for you. Depending on how important this relationship is to your soul path, it will take years, and it can involve years apart if that's what it takes for personal growth to happen (and for you both to be safe of course!).
I think it depends on the moon sign as well. I'm a capricorn moon. I had a narcissist try the pick up artist (PUA) tactics on me which include the hot/cold attention giving/ abusive tactic designed to confuse the victim as well as gaslighting and deflection. He was more damaged than I ever was after I started going through one by one of the ways in which he was INADEQUATE since that is why a narc fears the most. Then I kicked him off of facebook and blocked him. He was so incensed that he couldn't control me that he deleted his FB account. LOL So it *really* depends on the moon placement.
i have capricorn moon and all guys who were born with pluto in libra potentially squaring my moon. :D i have one aspect of this with a guy, i was the moon squaring his pluto and it was real bad.. but i get the positive point out of it: it wakes me up to consciousness like ive been sleeping this whole life. only if you look inside yourself. damaging but end up beautiful for our own development. idk what pluto will experience... but as moon person i am becoming more aware and i am more in tune with my emotions and limitations, although i will never forget and i am still feeling the anxiety and uneasyness around him
I have moon in cap squaring his Pluto in Libra. There is uneasiness here. But I have done quite a bit of work with my cap moon beforehand. I will say that this person has brought up my abandonment issues and insecurities and childhood issues around my father. There is a strong emotional connectedness that has been tough to ignore. It feels so good to touch...although other aspects may be influencing this as well. I haven't had any explosive moments with him. But I usually walk away (retreat) and calm down if some passionate emotion is arising and assess my feelings (cap moon/cancer rising/Aqua sun). Thank God we don't live together and this is kind of a touch and go relationship which is probably for the better. But it does leave me longing for him and drains my life force as a result. I am using this tie up to go deeper to learn more about my own dark side and weaknesses and to clear it up. Not easy but I feel it is worth it.
I've read all of the awesome insightful comments on this thread. And I think I can say I have felt all of--maybe most--of the emotions (pos and neg) each has experienced. Im so grateful to have gotten your insights and experiences....ALSO I want to share what I have noticed as a Cap moon (female) squared to a Libra Pluto man. Im thinking if the Pluto is a man, how he handles the female moon is going to be based on his own emotional maturity, his relationship to his feminine self and therefore his mother. This guy has sun in cancer (moon) square Pluto in his natal chart but trines is moon (in Aquarius). His Uranus t-squares his moon opposite Venus. He is not comfortable in his feminine self. He fears he is "different" in this respect. He also has been raised by a tough mother who was focused on business and practical matters and was abandoned by the father before he was born. (Corresponds with my cap moon which conjunct his Cap lunar eclipse and SN in Aqua). So you see, he does not know what to do with feminine energy. There is an imbalance. Management of it is foreign to him. I think he wants to learn but fears the assertive side of the feminine. Interestingly, some positive changes are happening with his mother where he is witnessing her feminine side and they are beginning to bond. I think he is on the brink of deep healing. On my end, cap Pluto is transiting my moon in 7th house (cancer rising). I am being challenged to let go of the dire need to be in a relationship where someone makes me feel happy and secure all of the time. I am being forced to be ok with being alone and finding joy within me. I cannot lean on this guy to be my everything. We have a deep bond and friendship with intense love and caring for each other, but nothing promising. I'm still trying to get to know him and weed out narcissism to be honest. But we are going very very slow. My advice is to go slow, study the other person's chart, character, past behavior. And pay attention to where you need to heal and set boundaries because no one should have total control over you, or can make you totally complete, or completely happy. 💗💗
The person I likes Pluto is square my aquarius Moon in the 4th house 😅 I’m scared because I’m so invested way too early on. This person feels like the one and I’m a long way from having them and anything can happen still. It’s scares me that I get depressed the days between message replies. This is insane. I won’t be in the mood to do anything, zapping between shows and movies feeling restless, frustrated and down. I didn’t sign up for this. I want to optimize and not put all my eggs in one basket, but soon after we started talking I stopped responding to anybody else because he keeps my full emotional attention. I hope his Pluto feels something too :0
His Mars squares my Moon too 0°20 orb and his Sun is opposite it. Oh and his Venus is quincunx it. Man.. my Moon is really afflicted here 😅 I have Pluto square Moon natally too, as well as Moon trine Venus and Moon semisextile Neptune.
@@binkao2938 the aspects that you mention between you and your partner, resemble mine with someone special (except for your sun opposite its moon) you as a person of the moon, your moon square his pluto, do you feel "obsessed"? (since you have your square moon your pluton natally?)
How interesting. I find I've been viewing a lot of your difficult synastry aspect videos lately, and I'm always bummed in hearing them, but I also know that it's necessary to dive into the potential negatives of every relationship. I'm currently dating someone with whom I have this aspect and I'm the moon person. It's the only aspect to my moon we have. My moon is in my 8th house to begin with, and it's been intriguing witnessing this at play. It doesn't repel me, as a Scorpio/8th house dominant person I not only am not afraid of anything when it comes to relationships but I also ALWAYS attract Pluto-flavored relationships ranging in intensity, healing, or toxicity. When we drink, aka are in an unconscious state, this aspect has become apparent. There was one time in particular we exchanged eye contact when I was tipsy crying and he had this deep contempt in his eyes. It was like, "Oh, grow up." No words. It was multi-layered, because though I wasn't at the time able to reveal why I was crying, it felt manipulative on both our parts. This dynamic seems to be only visible in that type of consciousness, but it's not un-tappable, either. It has me laughing because in our conscious state we are so "evolved". Lol. His moon conjuncts my Jupiter. His moon conjuncts pluto in his own chart. His pluto also sextiles my Venus in my first house. His jupiter conjuncts my Pluto and Venus in scorpio on my ascendant, and my jupiter conjuncts his Pluto in Virgo. It seems that we Plutonian people effortlessly attract each other, crave each others depth, and that's why we're meant to work it out with each other. I can't imagine myself marrying someone who isn't Plutonian, also. He's perhaps the same. There is a slow reveal. Also, our composite moon has great aspects. Composite sun in the 8th. Phewf
Ugh, this aspect has followed me my whole life, I have it natally and now in a double whammy/composite in my primary relationship. It's not good. Transformative, yes but very draining and a struggle.
Thank you so much for this Jewel! I have this aspect exact with my long-term boyfriend, and your description is very accurate. I also have Moon square Pluto in my natal chart, so does that mean that I have this aspect with everyone around my own age? If so, it makes sense why I was such a loner in school...
I would say Pluto is narcissistic, we all have Pluto in our charts - so there a little narcissism in everyone. And moon is definitely codependent in this dynamic... Pluto is controlling and has a never ending NEED - Pluto is hollow and empty and very very hungry, and moon is a codependent giver. Both are damaged and both are hungry. Passionate relationships are painful. These passionate relationship happen when too people are on the run from their own pain...they then run each to other and BAM 💥 they passion is electric. They are a mirror image of each other’s pain...moon is avoiding their pain by giving and giving (that’s what they did with their narcissistic parent) and Pluto is filling up on the giving... then exhaustion sets in because moon gets empty, ill and the relationship ends, but the attachment to the painful relationship is sooo strong, if you can’t learn and grow from it after it ends....you will keep coming back together! Until you finally block forever ... grow... and... heal. And healing can take forever😕 We were both plutonic, he has sun sq Pluto (very controlling) and I have venus in Scorpio, moon in the eighth house, Pluto sextile sun, moon trine Pluto, Scorpio asc, Pluto in 12 House (codependent rescuer, not aware of my power) he beat up a previous ex during their relationship (I wasn’t aware of this while I was with him... found out afterwards) all his exes were codependents and he is a renowned user (again wasn’t aware during the relationship). He is definitely a narcissist... and I wanted to heal him!! Fat chance that was ever gonna happen!! 🤣🤣
Hungry for nolege. Just dodged a bullet. The moon person. Hes obsessed and hungry.senced it at the time.im not into that likely I financially secure and have my own place and he lives too far away.
Hi Jewel! Thanks for your informative teachings. We first and only former love have a double whammy each others Moons square the other’s Pluto. We met at the age of 12 and ever-since cant keep away from each other no matter how we talk each other or hurt each other out of the relationship. We have become hyper aware of how we both exhaust each other emotionally. I am forever blocking and unblocking him for the past decade. This has really helped me to heal as we know we have hit a final break wall. That love doesnt have to continue in order to exit. It just does and you can move on. But we also have his pisces Sun Square my scorpio Pluto & his Pluto Conjunct Sun in scorpio!!! I love him unconditionally. We love the drama and miss it but now almost 16 years later we find it almost unnecessary and now just an unatural way to live.
I have this with my husband .I don't know which is the moon person though.I do have abandonment issues but we're not into S&M though..LOL..We do have drama but we've realized our mistakes and are both taking responsibility..
I am the moon person and my daughter is the pluto person. Her father and I divorced when she was born. She gave me the power to get out of all my toxic relationships. I have to work on myself and our relationship not to give her the responsability to save me and/or to become codependant. Our bond is very strong and healthy.
I have my Pluto square my person’s Moon, Venus and my Pluto trine her Sun. On her part, she has her Pluto trine my Mercury. I don’t talk much with her but I definitely feel this unwanted obsession over her :( It sucks, because there is something about her that just draw me towards her but I resist. I wonder if this feelings is reciprocated on her side too, but for sure it was visible on my side though I don’t show it to her.
Even tho I’m answering two years later, this might help someone I can assure, that it was reciprocated from the other person as well. Finding myself in „her“ position right now kinda. His pluto squares my moon, conjunct my sun, venus and mars. I feel obsessed with him but am also questioning if he feels the same 🫣 my pluto trine his moon..
This is crazy to me. Although you're talking synastry, I have this in composite with my significant other. We have mostly trines and sextiles... but moon is square to pluto. It is so hard despite our seemingly loving relationship
It's interesting that in practice the roles often end up being reversed in long term relationships. Once commitment sets in, Pluto tends to give up their control in order to maintain their partner at any cost and gives into some very toxic behaviors of the moon person. To be frank, Moon person ends up revealing their worst features to the Pluto person and Pluto is so captivated at the beginning of this process that they become deeply entrenched in a codependent relationship where they lose the power the held at the onset of the relationship. Expect control issues from Pluto at the beginning to shift to the Moon person becoming outright manipulative, gaslighting and potentially outright abusive. Far worse than any Mar/Pluto pairing.
I believe in what you say, but I also believe that what you comment potentially happens when the moon is the man squaring the pluto of the woman, because if you notice there are many comments from women who were the moon and ended up damaged by male plutons. In other words, it seems that women always occupy the position of the moon regardless of whether in theory or in the synastry chart they do not represent it, therefore they experience the worst part ... more likely
This literally happened in my moon square pluto relationship. I was Pluto. I see so many comments saying Pluto is the abuser but that was not the case for mine. The only control I had was self control. The moon person was extremely jealous, manipulative, and straight up abused me emotionally, verbally, and almost physically. I definitely did see their nasty side and even told them I hated them when they pushed me far enough. This aspect is absolutely crazy and i don’t think it’s something I would want to experience again personally. We also had mars/Pluto double whammy and ascendant/Pluto as well so I’m sure that didn’t help at all. Lol.
Hey Jewel! My moon squares my partners Pluto, but other aspects are absolutely astonishing. I've pretty much found my soulmate! Other aspects: My Venus Conjunct my partner's Jupiter My Jupiter Sextile my partner's Moon My Sun Trine my partner's Mercury My Moon Trine my partner's Jupiter My Moon Square my partner's Saturn My Venus Trine my partner's Sun My Jupiter Sextile my partner's Venus My Saturn Sextile my partner's Neptune My Saturn Trine my partner's Pluto What do you think? Will moon square pluto aspect be weaker because of other good aspects? Thank you so much!
Look also through your synastry for any biquintiles and quintiles. Also Neptune aspects - as Neptune can either make a relationship appear different than it really is or show unconditional love, but unconditional love only if there are also a lot of Saturn aspects to ground that energy.
I think that's what's going on with me too.Me and my hubby have this aspect but we've been together 25 years.He drives me insane but the love is deep so I think other aspects keep us together.
Wow! I have this aspect with someone. His Pluto squares my Moon, which conjuncts my Venus (2°) so really this aspect impacts both planets. Also, my Pluto opposes his Moon. We have an unspoken bond but for the most part I'm the one that doesn't trust it/ want it. His Moon is in my 12H and conjuncts his natal Lilith (yikes!). I always feel like he can see into me and it makes me VERY uncomfortable but safe at the same time. His Sun conjuncts my South Node so I'm convinced we knew each other in a previous life and we may even have been lovers 🙆♀️🤷♀️
I have this with a married co-worker, along with other aspects that show attraction, and we often have lunch at the office kitchen together and more than once, I noticed that people give us dirty looks..I think it's because there is a very hard to control, and probably very visible attraction between us. Lord knows what it must look like when we sit close and chat about casual topics like film preferences in a lively manner...normally I'd think those are very light topics of conversation, but I often find myself getting lost in his eyes. He also seemed to open up pretty fast to me about some rather personal issues. His Mars is also conjunct my Moon-Mars-Jupiter stellium, my Mars is trine his Moon. My Pluto is square his Moon, and in our composite, we have Sun-Venus-Mars conjunct. I don't know about the Moon person in this equation, but I definitely feel an almost uncontrollable attraction towards him. I am pretty sure he feels it too, actually. I hope he does not see me as a "Dracula" figure though. And again, don't know about him, but I definitely feel and act uncharacteristically around him. Normally, I look at even the slightest hint of infidelity with maximum disdain, and have never allowed myself to even be attracted to a married man. But with this one, it's like controlling my feelings is totally out of the question, I feel crazy drawn to him. So far, my will has prevailed, but lawd, have mercy...
Bibi Sobieski it’s reflecting to you your inability to have control over your attraction for people who aren’t right for you, this being on a very surface level. I’m sure you’ll experience more plutonic things if you get to know him on a deeper level. If I were you I’d use all the energy I can muster and pull back.
Also if he’s married and you know you have an attraction yet still don’t pull back, and think what you’re doing is ok that’s also a plutonic issue. Other people giving you both looks for not respecting emotional and relationship boundaries is something that would call attention. If neither of you practice polyamory or open relationships then you both need to back off. This semi-crossing boundary thing shows you won’t have respect for each other’s boundaries as well if you do end up fucking or whatever. Also there’s a thing called emotional cheating! And this is coming from someone who is polyamorous, so 💁🏼♀️ I’m coming from an objective POV, everything has boundaries.
@@SaikouJenny lol, I would not have an affair with a married man, but there is definitely a strong attraction there. I just meet with him at lunch a few times per week, nothing severe, but yeah dirty looks have happened more than once..I do not think it is fair though, it's not like we are talking weird inappropriate sexual stuff, it's really casual conversation-like movies, work, travels, cooking etc. But we often sit right next to each other or right across from one another in the office kitchen(there is just one long table with lots of chairs on either side) and look at one another a lot while talking...so dunno, maybe we come across as too familiar/intimate? Not in what we speak, but mannerisms? Dunno. I am also not sure if we actually have a Moon-Pluto square, since I do not know his time of birth. My Pluto is in 15 Scorpio, his Moon can be anywhere between 2 and 13 degrees Aquarius. I just felt we most likely do, because the description matches to a large extent, with regards to intensity of attraction, especially. Irrespective of the Moon-Pluto though, we have more than enough aspects that would explain attraction, including his Pluto trine my Sun and Venus within a 3 degree orb. Maybe that was the Plutonian vibe I was getting? I also have my Eros conjunct his Mars within a 4 degree orb, I guess that adds more gasoline to the fire... Also, his Venus and Jupiter are conjunct my Asc, his Venus is conjunct my South Node too. And what exactly is "emotional cheating" anyway? I guess you can call any affection you have for anyone other than your partner to be "emotional cheating".
@@AstroMartine Im going to say you're a bit of a homewrecker and you had an affair with a married man be it emotional or physical. Remember baby the natal/synastry chart is just a blueprint of how things can develop but you still have FREE WILL to not carry out an emotional relationship with a married man. Cant blame the cosmos for being a 304 girl that's all you. Hopefully, after 4 yrs you learned that and took responsibility for your actions and not the sYnAsTrY yOu FeLT with someone you shouldn't be messing with in the 1st place.
Love to know what you think, recently met someone and have this aspect...He is the moon in the 12 house at 8 degrees and I am the Pluto in the 11 house at 10 degrees. We have a close moon venus conjunction and my Sun, mercury and mars falls in his 1 house and we have venus conjunct asc. but my venus in his 12th. Sun/moon conjunctions DW but wide 10 and 12 degrees and venus square mars and much more....instant chemistry...me 12/11/61 Libra rising, he's 02/07/64 Sag rising..
Both of my parents have their Pluto in Leo square to my Moon/Lilith in Taurus and in opposition to the Sun in Auquarius of my sister. Needless to say we were a very extreme family...*)! The interesting thing is that I with my Taurus Moon was the one braking away from the familiy and my sis with her Aquarius Sun stayed because of the money and emotional dependency. I guess the need for freedom, integrity and atonomy of Lilith is stronger than the one of Aquarius.
Symbolsysteme Maybe the Leo opposition to her Sun is more like a "dance" and a back-and-forth effect that keeps her going in circles with your parents. Meanwhile you have a square which may offer more resistance and repulsion which drove you out.??? I have this tie up with my mother (her Pluto in leo opposite my aqua sun). But her Scorpio sun squares my sun. I got away from her as fast as I could. It was like living with the devil. But my boss had her Pluto in Leo opp my sun also but her Gemini sun TRINE my sun. I felt the uncomfortable energy from the beginning when i met her. But she slowly pulled me in....very subtle manipulative charming ways....we were good as long as I was her happy servant. But when I realized I was re-enacting codependent behavior that I had with my mom with her and started pulling away then it got really really tricky. A slippery slope. Pinpointing the manipulation waslike a moving target--quantum particle...lol. With my vibrational tools i truly believe I helped her to decide to retire. I tried to find other jobs but I swear that woman had a hold on me!! When she left, a door finally opened 9 months later that allowed me to move out of that office. I am not where I want to be job-wise, but better than where I was before.
I know this is old but to answer your question. I am the Pluto person n he is the moon person n I have never felt so obsessive over a person in my life. Its actually scary but the pull is very strong
I had this aspect with a person I dearly loved! He was a great person, still love him. Actually my Venus was opposite his Pluto too! From my perspective, he came out of a toxic relationship before me and he had a child. I felt deep compassion for him, so I tried to do everything possible to make him feel comfortable. He kinda was very insecure but I tried my best I be as compassionate as possible. In my attempt to make the situation for him better I lost myself. Then I ended blaming him 🥺. I felt like he was not prioritizing me and taking me for granted. After we broke up he totally disconnected from me. Sometimes I wonder if I did him worse. Even though he told me when he broke up, that he didn’t hate me. Also, my immaturity was to completely breakdown when huge conflicts came up. Then I would say I want to break up but it was hard to cope with the conflict for me. Then he would feel threatened and break up with me. Eventually, I felt super overwhelmed because he kept unconscious repeating the same things and I ended up super breaking down and actually breaking up. Then the relationship ended.
If you both have moon square Pluto in the natal.. is this disregarded in synastry/composite? Me and my partner both have moon in Aquarius Pluto in Scorpio, both exactly square!! I wonder if I should be taking our Pluto square moon into more consideration.. I had just ignored them as I thought I am well adapted to that Pluto/moon energy anyway.. what are your thoughts?? (My sun,venus,jupiter all in Scorpio too) he is Capricorn sun,mercury,venus. Sorry to overload you with information. Thank you so much for all you do your videos have taught me so much💗🍬🐰bless you
Are you plutonian yourself? Strong aspects to pluto in your chart or Scorpio/8th house placements? Plutonian people tend to be drawn to plutonian relationships so they have that theme a lot in synastry. Or pluto could be ruling your relationship houses, 5, 7, or 8 so you are attracted to people who aspect your pluto.
Very much true in my new relationship. Aquarius Moon, me, and Scorpio Pluto him. Though his Saturn is also conjunct my Moon. I'm quite happy to give control away. Tired of my own Pluto square 8H Moon control issues.
No wonder why I despise my mother in law. My natal moon pluto conjunction is exactly square her pluto in Leo. She pretends that she's doing nothing to ruin my life, yet she will not give up her control and power over myself, her son, and now my daughter.
Pluto is very comfortable in the 8th house and Scorpio. From what I have seen this does change the dynamic considerably as Pluto person has a much easier time dealing with their plutonic issues of control. However, this doesn't prevent the dynamic from emerging, but rather that Pluto person can deal with their end more... but actually become slightly more vulnerable to the Moon's uncontrolled issues coming forth just by virtue of being around you. People are transits, so no matter how YOU (as Scorpio/8th house Pluto) deal with your issues, it does not mean that the issues that are pouring out from the moon person are dealt with. In long term relationships, this can be actually far more harmful for 8th house Pluto person than moon person.
he's sun conjunct pluto i nscorpio (conjunct exact my ic), leo moon in 8th (fantastically aspected though) it was my pluto square his moon we hate each other. i'm in therapy now, hopefully he's as emotionally and psychologically fucked over as much as i am can you tell i'm still bitter about it :) moon square pluto 👍
So natally I have moon in Aquarius in the 12th house. But my moon isn’t afflicted besides having it in the horrible sign of Aquarius. 😆The guy I like has moon in Pisces in the 6th. Both our moons are squared by eachothers Pluto so we have this double whammy. Im worried... his pluto and venus conjunct my chiron all in the 8th house! so this is looking very karmic. But I want longevity 😔 I like him so much. Wish we didn’t have the square 😕
Is there a solution or is the only solution to not have this connection in your life? I’m deep in this, both of us on the low frequencies you described with our own natal conflicts with these planets. Me the moon in my 2nd with his Pluto in my 12th. We have been in and out of each other’s lives for 10 years. He was my first “love”. But this aspect is palpable. A weekly, sometimes daily occurrence. And we discuss how significant an issue it is yet when we try to distance, miss each other greatly. When this aspect is not activated we are joyful, falling asleep on the phone every night (likely unhealthy), making each other laugh. But it gets activated when I fear abandonment (natal issue) which is activated by a past of him constantly needing to reinvent himself and move far away (I imagine his natal issue). I express my feelings hoping for comfort and he dismisses, refuses responsibility, says it’s all my problem and stops taking my calls. In those moments it feels like he’s the only one with the power to heal my emotional spiral. It’s very toxic and a classic attachment theory issue. Just every time I try to cut him out and protect myself, we somehow get pulled back together. We have lived on opposite continents and still found each other. Feels like I can’t shake him. I was hopeful I’m meant to learn something from this dynamic, but from your analysis I’m wondering if this can possibly end in any other way than in my emotional destruction and his resentment and thinking I’m insane? We have some other big aspects too…Mars trine Pluto, Pluto trine Sun, sun trine sun, Venus trine Jupiter, Venus opposite moon, moon opposite Jupiter, Venus trine Mercury….all tightly orbed. Lots of cardinal signs. So is there any solution? If not, please let me know so I can save myself from this! Thank you so so much for your video. I at least feel seen and heard and appreciate having an explanation for what’s happening. Apologies for the length of this. Hoping this resonates with someone else. It’s nice to know we’re not alone in these situations.
It depends on your natal Moon's position. I have the Moon in its own sign of Cancer so that already makes it strong but that's not all. The Moon is not only squaring Pluto but also trining Uranus and believe me, nobody tries to mess up with me because I already know all these psychological games and I expose them in a minute. If anyone thinks that it's always 'poor and weak Moon losing to strong and manipulative Pluton' then I can assure them it is not.
Dalia Madrid Dalia Madrid Since I already have this energy in my own chart, I think I can handle it better in synastry. I have this aspect with a guy and believe me, I already know all his mind games and the things he does to make me jealous because I already know how it works. It's hilarious 😂😂😂 his attemps are hilarious, I just ignore him when he behaves like that.
With my step-daughter we had: My Pluto square her moon and Mercury. Her Pluto square my Venus. It was terrible. We just couldn't get along no matter what. From bigger issues to day to day we just didn't like each other. DEFINITELY some nasty power plays.
I have this EXACT aspect with my childhood best friend's boyfriend... It is very unsettling because he started openly flirting with me right after I got out of my tumultuous longterm relationship! It's like he thinks I must be unstable / insecure enough now for him to manipulate easily... I personally do not feel that attraction that Jewel speaks of but HE does seem very, uh.. thirsty. It's creeping me out! I love my best friend more than anyone in my life and I want to be in her presence as much as I can nowadays, but most of the time he is there too, so I feel stuck in this anxiety-inducing dynamic.
The luminaries ( the sun and moon) typically have up to a ten degree orb in synastry unless it's an asteroid in question, then maximum three degrees unless it's Chiron. I know, it's complex. I will do a video on orb allowance today or tomorrow. I have been meaning to get to that. Good question.
i would Look for the close aspects first - zero degrees to maybe 3 or 5 . then how happy is the planet over all , if jupiter or Venus is there - and is the person used to that energy ? if they are a Scorpio person or have scorpio rising or a lot of personal planets in Scorpio then - it like throwing water on a person who just came out of a pool - they won't hardly notice it ... and check if any thing is retrograde the close aspects tend to define - the wide ones are more background . and check the degree of the planet - lets say if its a new born Pluto at zero to 2 degrees - its not mature - thats a lot different from 28 or 29 D. - so that is to say a mature Pluto will feel a lot different then a new born baby pluto.. or retro etc... but pluto can be a force to reckon with.
Yes but not always directly. Depends on how much you've worked on it in your own natal, but even so it still may show. You have to make a conscious effort for change and really focus on yourself, and your independence in the relationship. Once you allow yourself to be dependent, you're pretty much screwed.
For me, this is not something I’ve conquered in myself, so yes I become very obsessed. It’s hard for me to let go of anyone I’ve ever had a relationship with. I have Scorpio in the 7th house and Pluto in the 7th as well so... yeah I’m pretty much crazy 😭😢
Just had a double whammy with another and it showed up in our composite too. Nearly all other aspects were harmoneous but this is a deal breaker for me so had to say goodbye.
The funny thing is that he has the same aspect on his own and me too just lower degrees, we’re both Leo moons square Pluto but his Pluto is Sagittarius 1st degree and mine is Scorpio 19th degree, my moon doesn’t square his Pluto though
I have this aspect with someone I recently met. The strange thing is that in the composite chart the aspect is Moon Trine Pluto. Why is there a difference between the two chart types?
I just went on a date with a guy whose moon is square my Pluto by 0 degrees. Is this aspect alone enough for concern and for me to stop pursuing him? All the other aspects are trines and conjunctions of the inner planets.
Stephanie as the Pluto person what do u feel towards the moon person ? I really want to understand this aspect as- I'm trying to do my sis and bf synastry I want to know that he will not hurt her.
Yes its my pluto in Saggitarius squares her Pisces Moon. But she also has Pluto in Saggitarius, and I have Moon in Sagitarius. But you Said it well its all about resolving my pluto issues first, i have pluto in conjunction with Moon and Mercury. So yes i think this is the most important with pluto, the moon and Chiron resolving trauma, deep emotions - wounds.
+Sandsower NO, that typically increases the problem since the Aspect is found in both people and then it shows up between them. It makes it a bigger theme.
Could you please do a vid on Mercury in Cancer? I feel Merc doesn't get much recognition when it comes to compatibility/synastry. And it's tricky for me being a Merc in Cancer having a Venus in Cancer in rx natally conjunct it.
I liked your video, very informative! I have an additional question: if there's Person's A moon+sun squares Person's B pluto, A's venus sextiles B' s pluto and A's mars trines B's pluto: who's the stalker in this configuration- who's obsessed in your opinion? Thanks!
@Magdalena K many testimonies affirm that the pluto the obsessed since it is a square, if it were conjunction the serious obsession of the sun or moon, what are you?
Is this similar for a transit synastry (is that even a thing?) Where both people are experiencing this transit personally and in a relationship? Some of the things here ring true. So I wonder.
I have natal moon square Pluto and major emotional issues with my mom. I like a guy, but my Pluto squares his Moon, I'm running a Pluto opposite Venus transit, and his Pluto trines my Venus, My Pluto squares his Mars, his Pluto inconjunct my Mars, and we have Eros conjunct Eros to the exact degree!!!! And his Pluto in Scorpio is in my 12th house!!!! I have major abandonment issues and just got out of narcissistic relationships and don't want to go into another one!!!!! I keep getting psychic headaches and it's very frustrating!!!!
Depends on the house Pluto person has natally, and depends how both planet overlays each other. This is why birth time and place is important. Example Pluto in 4th person conjuct other moon in 7th house. Now, Pluto person might caring and nurturing the moon person, while moon in 7th house may bring equal partnerships and balance relationship. Now, let's say his Pluto falls in your 10th overlay, that means he can transform you in your carreer and ambition(10th).
Absolutely. That was my case. My moon in Leo square his mars/pluto conjunction. Most painful experience I’ve lived hands down. This person knew how to hurt me and how to take my power away. Pluto can be ruthless in this synastry aspect.
I am the pluto person and sometimes I am shocked by the pain, anger and rage I seem to stir up in him. But I guess it has to do with the individual too. Like Jules say always go back to the natal charts.
Can you explain more on those two.aspects? How were you feeling as the pluto and as the venus ones? As i have them both too with a guy and curious what orbs also thank you💙
@@Cinderella-mc8kf Hi, it was just a very, very intense connection, but he played mind games, and made me feel like i was not good enough-i am talking about the Venus opposition Pluto here. i have never been so sexually attracted to someone-i have had much better looking boyfriends, but this was off the scale, for both of us. However, he didn't want to give much more, like he was afraid of something. With the Moon square Pluto, i accepted him completely, but i felt like i needed to stay in control because of the way he was. He had a lot of emotional baggage. He said he didn't trust me even though i gave him absolutely no reason not too! In the end, he gaslighted me after 4 years, but he has tried to contact me since then, but i haven't responded for my own sanity. The relationship was always just 'surface', it never really got off the ground. It upset me more than the 15 year relationship i had with my first love. Hope this has helped.
I have this with someone double whammy.. moon conjunct pluto in composite chart. His Moon conjunct my mar. Mars conjunct mars in cancer. My moon in capricorn opposite his mars in a wide orb. In my own chart i have moon square pluto so i tend to gravitate towards men who have this synastry aspect with me.. i like intensity hades and persephone themed relationships
I’m interested in this guy and my 12H Pluto is square his 9H moon and his natal moon is also square his moon 🥹 definitely can see the sadistic stuff w/ him. And I’m down for it 🙃🤣
I had this aspect with ex girlfriend..also my saturn squares her moon and my mars conjucts her moon..she was helpless and completly enchanced by me...sadism is deminutive.
Thanks for sharing, I'm the moon person in a pluto/saturn square moon dynamic and yeah I'm completely incapacitated. Coming to accept I will be obsessed with this person for a very long time.
TheQueenOfTheSaahra Exactly as Jewel described, totally obsessed, to the point of losing oneself. I'm so interested in what Pluto thinks of the moon. Are there any other contacts in your synastry where you may be the planet person? Because as Jewel described, the Pluto person seems to have much less of their feelings involved...
+CM Ewig we have mars pluto dw ( my mars in scorpio conjinct his pluto and my pluto opposite his mars in taurus ) , and i have my pluto square his leo moon... his moon opposite my mc , his moon trine my sun.. my venus trine his sun ... some Saturn squares dw.. but i feel this pluto because i do show him that i dont care about him sometimes but deep down am so in love with him deeeeply in love, very jaloues very possesive of him.... i love him so mush ... pluto is strong at pretending and cutting ties but believe me deep down he love the hell out of the moon.. plz tell me how do u feel as the moon person...
TheQueenOfTheSaahra thank you for your insights! I found them quite similar to my experience. I'm the moon, and is just hopelessly attracted to the Pluto person and I definitely showed it to him --- not that I want to, I simply couldn't help. Jewel was so right, it feels like the Pluto person cut me through and I'm no longer able to hide my emotions anymore. Just the way he looks at me makes me shiver. And I feel very uneasy, nervous, a bit scared when I'm around him. And those emotions are like the entourage to my never- ending love and fascination towards him.
+CM Ewig but why are you afraid ?? are you afraid to loose him or afraid from love or from him... as pluto person I want to know everything about the moon , and I can feel his emotioons I can feel when he slighlty try to be away from me and then I get angry because I want him to love me all the time as much as I love him... pluto is extremes he dont show it but when he loves he loves extremly... honestly because of our fights we broke up , but I still love hin deeply and miss him like hell when but I dont show it at all ... it is all inside.. do you think that he miss me too as the moon?
My father's moon is square my Pluto. He has nothing to do with me. I just get phone calls every so often. I tried to cut him off but he found a way to creep back in, using my younger brother. He won't even hug me. He left my family when I was 15. He is a complete narcissist.
His Pluto is conjunct my ascendant (3 degrees) and his Pluto is also square my moon (0 degrees), what could the results be like? Can somebody explain please? :( ty!
I have natal Moon opposite Pluto and he has natal Moon square Pluto. My Pluto squares his Moon and his Pluto opposes my Moon. Also my Moon is conjunct to his ascendant and his Moon is conjunct to mine. Ouch 😭
Mom Pluto square my Moon. Elder Brother Mars square my Moon, he also has Nessus in Cancer 1st house. Everyday I walk home from school telling myself this is not a Home sweet home but a Home Hell Home. Failed Suicides and Suicidal years growing up. These people need to be cut off for me to be able to live. My husband told me I have no family, fact is I am an orphan. I think what he says is true.
I dont really recognize myself in this one... I have been attracted by him since the beginning. But I am not really obsessed either. It feels very safe and secure. But we have a good synastry. I feel like somehow sometimes he doesnt get the depth of my emotions and feels triggered by them. I have moon in 8th and he has pluto in the 5th. So it's like he doesnt like to acknoledge pain in his life for himself, so he doesnt really feel comfortable when I am showing emotions. But nevertheless he is very supportive and caring. Its just that his first reaction to my emotions, especially when i am sad, are defensive somehow. For the s/m stuff, not the case... but I wish 😂 We are very codependant though
My husband and I have this aspect and your right .Hes been disturbing me for 25 years..LOL..
and yet you still married him hahaha
Sexy cutiepie Are you pluto or moon?
Hey, can you tell me about the first time you meet your husband? Who is Pluto and who is Moon? Is he attracted to you first or you attracted to him first? Also, how tight the orb between Moon and Pluto? Also, do you guys have 8th overlays beside moon-Pluto synastry? Sorry I ask too much, I fell hard for a guy whose Pluto conjuct my Moon (orb 4), I dunno how he feels as Pluto person.
@@Elwen-xs7gr in the conjunction it is different, moon is obsessed with pluto
@@alexisvcc3354 but his Moon falls in my 8th house, and my Pluto conjuct his Moon, his Pluto fall in my 4th house. He has Moon square pluto Natally and I read from other forum, it is said 8th house has Upper hand when involves the fast moving planet like Moon and I heard mostly Moon person is feel intimidated by house person, but I dunno too since he is Pluto and his Moon fall in my 8th house. Venus fall in other 8th, I heard 8th house holds the card whether to have connection with planet person or not(based from internet forum I read), but I share 8th house overlays and many pluto with this guy and god knows who has upper hand, him being planet overlays my personal planet in 8th house, but my Pluto touch most of his planet. I dunno his birth time so IDK which houses I activate his planets.
I have this with my boyfriend. I'm the moon and he's Pluto. It's a wide orb but I definitely feel it. I felt it right from the beginning. I was scared of him at first, and still am a little bit on a very subtle level. Like something about him makes me feel very vulnerable, uncomfortable, but also excited and intense. He actually stalked and spied on me when we first started talking. We've gone through quite a bit of ups and downs. He also has a Scorpio Moon too. Also, my Pluto squares his Mars... *sigh*
i dated a Scorpio girl and she also had lots of personal planets in Scorpio , and 8th house planets - don't forget to check Juno for both and house placements. pluto can be like a monster that comes out at night to scare you. not head on like mars , but hiding in the shadows, a retro Juno or 12 house juno is bad .
My moon squares his Pluto but his Pluto also trines my sun conjunct his moon in my 8th house. His Pluto squares his sun. My Pluto sextiles his sun. However his mars t-squares my Venus in opposition to my Pluto. Not sure if these positive Pluto/Sun aspects can aid in a positive soul transformation or not. I keep trying to pull away, but he is so good at pulling me back in. I think this is a narcissist/codependent relationship. I want to help him but realizing that the best I can probably do is work on myself, put myself first and decrease contact. I have become a close friend (my Saturn/pallas conjunct his Chiron in his 12th house and his SN conjunct my moon in 7th house). Not so easy to just walk away. Oh did I mention a grand air trine between Venus/moon/Pluto in water houses in composite? Smh...
Marjorie Baldizzi Could you elaborate more on being suspicious of the Moon? In what way? You feel the moon is faking his feelings for you? That somehow he's not genuine? As the Moon I feel so confused because I thought it's obvious for the Pluto person to see that the moon is just hopelessly attracted.
“we want to dominate the Moon person in ALL aspects“ I see. So Pluto knows the Moon's feelings but that still is not enough? Pluto wants to be the only one that exits in the Moon's world ---- But that's already the truth for the Moon, for me at least. Did he really flirt with other people? From what I read from you it's most likely the Moon can be completely innocent yet Pluto just can't stop being suspicious. I feel so sad. I mean, for two people who deeply love one another (I assume the Pluto does?), there's no sense of security, Or precisely because of the fact that the feelings are so intense, we can't bear the thoughts of losing each other. I'd really like to know from a Pluto's perspective, is there anything that the Moon can do or say, that would make you feel secured, finally?
Marjorie Baldizzi I really respect the Pluto person's feelings, but thinking that the Moon is not genuine just because they talk to other people?! Even if they do look flirtatious, unconsciously this is one of the ways to get the Pluto person's attention. But in the end, it's all about Pluto, the rest of the world has got nothing on him.
When you described all the junk coming out of the moon, I imagined pluto making all the planets barf, like they're puking out their demons or something. 😂
ROFL....Cuz it's true!
That’s deep. 🤯
i have this with my husband and we both have issues, mine being with abandonment and yes we've been to therapy. I think were doing a pretty good job handling it though.
This explains a LOT. I have this with my mother lol. We have an AMAZING relationship, but she can get to me on an emotionally visceral level like NO ONE I've ever known. We have this 0degree orb so it is PREVALENT. But there are plenty of other things and aspects between us that make our relationship quite pleasant and love filled. Lots of work we've had to do over the years, though, particularly with me learning to control my impulse to lash out at her. She's never really understood how she can trigger me, and frankly neither have I hahaha. Sending her this vid now!
I am the moon person btw. :)
Sounds like me and my husband..We drive each other nuts but we cant leave each other..lol
@@robinwalz4323 can you tell me the first time you met with your hubby? are you moon or Pluto? who is obsessed more? I share this with someone, I am moon. I am curious about Pluto person's feelings.
Love your hair.
I like how you explain that first you see aspects, then the house and the. The sign.
Then the house *
Wow I must run away, I'm the Moon person and no thanks I don't want something like this in my life.
Yeah, run away if you can't stand this relationship. Many people fail in this relationship because Plutonian is dealing with trauma, psychological, vurnerability, transform each other to the best version and RAW honesty to reach deepest level of intimacy and understanding, facing your own demon to destruct and rebirth as new person to help each other heal, and die down our ego. This is why many Plutonian relationship only temporary because people are exhausted in the middle, however I do admire those who succeed in this relationship.
I admire those who leave these relationships
@@Elwen-xs7gr I did run away, that relationship is in the past since years ago
You are amazing! Spot on ;) ...down to the BDSM-part. I'm also having Pluto square moon in natal chart.. and other Pluto issues. Your videos on plutonic relationships are so revealing and I just wanna thank you sweatheart!
RoyalGossipForum hi would you mind sharing more informatiom?are you the pluto person or moon?
We have this with eachother both ways my pluto square his cap moon his pluto opposite my Taurus moon. ..pluto moon connection is a karmic bond...not always easy. Obsessive. Deep deep rooting pulling, soul trigger, did I mention obsession. I saw him across the parking lot before I met him and I saw and felt mySelf levitate out of my body. He would enter the building, I would have no control over mySelf and would have to go straight to him and look at him or stare. He would have to look away or walk over and hit me or grab my body or throw water on me = pluto venus square. Play both ways but intense. He felt it too, he said he couldn't control himself around me. He has moon saturn conjunct. Very controlled emotionally. We both have scorpio rising (pluto ascendant he is) It was so intense. Passion. I miss him. We also have mars conjunct in 8th. We are here to remind eachother of our mission = love. The universe wants us to grow and learn and be happy. Blessings and Light.
You're the only person I've ever heard mention feeling like your levitating and your soul is leaving your body. This is exactly how I've felt with this person. It's like even in my sleep, I feel like my soul is going towards him. If we're in the same room, we're trying to be near each other. 😂 it's fucked. We're not together, but it's like the most intense force I've ever felt.
I had a relationship with this aspect in synastry...I was the moon he was the the Pluto.....Love/hate relationship. He knew how to hurt me.
My moon is natally in the 8th house though and natally trine pluto
@@animalames78 Did you love him?
alex b - well it wasn’t a healthy relationship but yes I was in love with him and I was conned into thinking he love me... but it is toxic and it wore me down.
@@animalames78 I am very sorry to read that, but according to my understanding and comments, in the square between pluto and moon, pluto should obsess and go crazy for the moon.
Also I see that in quadrature the intensity is mostly felt by both
@@animalames78 Do either of you have pluto-moon contacts in your birth chart?
do you have your moon squaring your pluto in your natal chart?
You’re so right...This aspect can be veeeery damaging. I have an exact 0 degree square with this guy (I’m moon, he’s Pluto) along with mars square pluto (double)...I can’t help feeling like I need him emotionally but he is cruel and controlling (natal venus square pluto). We both won’t let go, but I need to before things get abusive. I can’t see how this aspect could have a positive outcome for any two people, unless there’s a ton of harmonious aspects and extreme emotionally maturity on both ends. Even then, it will still be obsessive.
Amanda W. I have this. I’m the Pluto person and have Venus sq Pluto natally. It’s tough :/
When you have this natally it means the Pluto person is your whole age group. Definitely resonates how I felt about them then and now.
How you feel?
I have this with my crush and I'm scared of this aspect!
I would never attempt a plutonic relationship without 1) the Enneagram and a mindfulness practice, 2) Astrology, and 3) the principles of non-violent communication.
(I also use tarot and feng shui.)
Changes can and do happen, but insanely slowly. Be prepared to fight a protracted battle where you learn your boundaries, what kind of behavior you'll put up with, and what crosses a line for you. Depending on how important this relationship is to your soul path, it will take years, and it can involve years apart if that's what it takes for personal growth to happen (and for you both to be safe of course!).
I think it depends on the moon sign as well. I'm a capricorn moon. I had a narcissist try the pick up artist (PUA) tactics on me which include the hot/cold attention giving/ abusive tactic designed to confuse the victim as well as gaslighting and deflection. He was more damaged than I ever was after I started going through one by one of the ways in which he was INADEQUATE since that is why a narc fears the most. Then I kicked him off of facebook and blocked him. He was so incensed that he couldn't control me that he deleted his FB account. LOL So it *really* depends on the moon placement.
i have capricorn moon and all guys who were born with pluto in libra potentially squaring my moon. :D i have one aspect of this with a guy, i was the moon squaring his pluto and it was real bad.. but i get the positive point out of it: it wakes me up to consciousness like ive been sleeping this whole life. only if you look inside yourself. damaging but end up beautiful for our own development. idk what pluto will experience... but as moon person i am becoming more aware and i am more in tune with my emotions and limitations, although i will never forget and i am still feeling the anxiety and uneasyness around him
does he hurt you?? why you feel afraid???
I have moon in cap squaring his Pluto in Libra. There is uneasiness here. But I have done quite a bit of work with my cap moon beforehand. I will say that this person has brought up my abandonment issues and insecurities and childhood issues around my father. There is a strong emotional connectedness that has been tough to ignore. It feels so good to touch...although other aspects may be influencing this as well. I haven't had any explosive moments with him. But I usually walk away (retreat) and calm down if some passionate emotion is arising and assess my feelings (cap moon/cancer rising/Aqua sun). Thank God we don't live together and this is kind of a touch and go relationship which is probably for the better. But it does leave me longing for him and drains my life force as a result. I am using this tie up to go deeper to learn more about my own dark side and weaknesses and to clear it up. Not easy but I feel it is worth it.
My moon is in cancer. Same problem I guess. I suffered a lot of psychological violence in intimate connections.
Exactly the same here, I wonder what the pluto person feels...guess it is just the attraction I feel towards him
I've read all of the awesome insightful comments on this thread. And I think I can say I have felt all of--maybe most--of the emotions (pos and neg) each has experienced. Im so grateful to have gotten your insights and experiences....ALSO
I want to share what I have noticed as a Cap moon (female) squared to a Libra Pluto man. Im thinking if the Pluto is a man, how he handles the female moon is going to be based on his own emotional maturity, his relationship to his feminine self and therefore his mother. This guy has sun in cancer (moon) square Pluto in his natal chart but trines is moon (in Aquarius). His Uranus t-squares his moon opposite Venus. He is not comfortable in his feminine self. He fears he is "different" in this respect. He also has been raised by a tough mother who was focused on business and practical matters and was abandoned by the father before he was born. (Corresponds with my cap moon which conjunct his Cap lunar eclipse and SN in Aqua). So you see, he does not know what to do with feminine energy. There is an imbalance. Management of it is foreign to him. I think he wants to learn but fears the assertive side of the feminine. Interestingly, some positive changes are happening with his mother where he is witnessing her feminine side and they are beginning to bond. I think he is on the brink of deep healing.
On my end, cap Pluto is transiting my moon in 7th house (cancer rising). I am being challenged to let go of the dire need to be in a relationship where someone makes me feel happy and secure all of the time. I am being forced to be ok with being alone and finding joy within me. I cannot lean on this guy to be my everything. We have a deep bond and friendship with intense love and caring for each other, but nothing promising. I'm still trying to get to know him and weed out narcissism to be honest. But we are going very very slow. My advice is to go slow, study the other person's chart, character, past behavior. And pay attention to where you need to heal and set boundaries because no one should have total control over you, or can make you totally complete, or completely happy. 💗💗
The person I likes Pluto is square my aquarius Moon in the 4th house 😅 I’m scared because I’m so invested way too early on. This person feels like the one and I’m a long way from having them and anything can happen still. It’s scares me that I get depressed the days between message replies. This is insane. I won’t be in the mood to do anything, zapping between shows and movies feeling restless, frustrated and down. I didn’t sign up for this. I want to optimize and not put all my eggs in one basket, but soon after we started talking I stopped responding to anybody else because he keeps my full emotional attention. I hope his Pluto feels something too :0
Correction: my moon falls in my 5th house, not the 4th.
His Mars squares my Moon too 0°20 orb and his Sun is opposite it. Oh and his Venus is quincunx it. Man.. my Moon is really afflicted here 😅
I have Pluto square Moon natally too, as well as Moon trine Venus and Moon semisextile Neptune.
Hi. Im curious any update on your relationship??? I also have this aspect with someone i like.
Really invested emotionally
@@binkao2938 the aspects that you mention between you and your partner, resemble mine with someone special (except for your sun opposite its moon)
you as a person of the moon, your moon square his pluto, do you feel "obsessed"? (since you have your square moon your pluton natally?)
I feel the exact same, but I'm the Moon. Well, we both are Moon and Pluto actually...
she explains it so well
How interesting. I find I've been viewing a lot of your difficult synastry aspect videos lately, and I'm always bummed in hearing them, but I also know that it's necessary to dive into the potential negatives of every relationship.
I'm currently dating someone with whom I have this aspect and I'm the moon person. It's the only aspect to my moon we have. My moon is in my 8th house to begin with, and it's been intriguing witnessing this at play. It doesn't repel me, as a Scorpio/8th house dominant person I not only am not afraid of anything when it comes to relationships but I also ALWAYS attract Pluto-flavored relationships ranging in intensity, healing, or toxicity.
When we drink, aka are in an unconscious state, this aspect has become apparent. There was one time in particular we exchanged eye contact when I was tipsy crying and he had this deep contempt in his eyes. It was like, "Oh, grow up." No words. It was multi-layered, because though I wasn't at the time able to reveal why I was crying, it felt manipulative on both our parts. This dynamic seems to be only visible in that type of consciousness, but it's not un-tappable, either. It has me laughing because in our conscious state we are so "evolved". Lol.
His moon conjuncts my Jupiter. His moon conjuncts pluto in his own chart. His pluto also sextiles my Venus in my first house. His jupiter conjuncts my Pluto and Venus in scorpio on my ascendant, and my jupiter conjuncts his Pluto in Virgo. It seems that we Plutonian people effortlessly attract each other, crave each others depth, and that's why we're meant to work it out with each other. I can't imagine myself marrying someone who isn't Plutonian, also. He's perhaps the same. There is a slow reveal. Also, our composite moon has great aspects. Composite sun in the 8th. Phewf
We share a lot of the same aspects including a Composite 8th house stellium. Phew is right.
Ugh, this aspect has followed me my whole life, I have it natally and now in a double whammy/composite in my primary relationship. It's not good. Transformative, yes but very draining and a struggle.
It really sucks
Thank you so much for this Jewel! I have this aspect exact with my long-term boyfriend, and your description is very accurate. I also have Moon square Pluto in my natal chart, so does that mean that I have this aspect with everyone around my own age? If so, it makes sense why I was such a loner in school...
I would say Pluto is narcissistic, we all have Pluto in our charts - so there a little narcissism in everyone. And moon is definitely codependent in this dynamic... Pluto is controlling and has a never ending NEED - Pluto is hollow and empty and very very hungry, and moon is a codependent giver. Both are damaged and both are hungry. Passionate relationships are painful. These passionate relationship happen when too people are on the run from their own pain...they then run each to other and BAM 💥 they passion is electric. They are a mirror image of each other’s pain...moon is avoiding their pain by giving and giving (that’s what they did with their narcissistic parent) and Pluto is filling up on the giving... then exhaustion sets in because moon gets empty, ill and the relationship ends, but the attachment to the painful relationship is sooo strong, if you can’t learn and grow from it after it ends....you will keep coming back together! Until you finally block forever ... grow... and... heal. And healing can take forever😕
We were both plutonic, he has sun sq Pluto (very controlling) and I have venus in Scorpio, moon in the eighth house, Pluto sextile sun, moon trine Pluto, Scorpio asc, Pluto in 12 House (codependent rescuer, not aware of my power) he beat up a previous ex during their relationship (I wasn’t aware of this while I was with him... found out afterwards) all his exes were codependents and he is a renowned user (again wasn’t aware during the relationship). He is definitely a narcissist... and I wanted to heal him!! Fat chance that was ever gonna happen!! 🤣🤣
Hungry for nolege. Just dodged a bullet. The moon person. Hes obsessed and hungry.senced it at the time.im not into that likely I financially secure and have my own place and he lives too far away.
Been there!
Hi Jewel!
Thanks for your informative teachings.
We first and only former love have a double whammy each others Moons square the other’s Pluto.
We met at the age of 12 and ever-since cant keep away from each other no matter how we talk each other or hurt each other out of the relationship.
We have become hyper aware of how we both exhaust each other emotionally. I am forever blocking and unblocking him for the past decade. This has really helped me to heal as we know we have hit a final break wall. That love doesnt have to continue in order to exit. It just does and you can move on.
But we also have his pisces Sun Square my scorpio Pluto & his Pluto Conjunct Sun in scorpio!!!
I love him unconditionally. We love the drama and miss it but now almost 16 years later we find it almost unnecessary and now just an unatural way to live.
I have this with my husband .I don't know which is the moon person though.I do have abandonment issues but we're not into S&M though..LOL..We do have drama but we've realized our mistakes and are both taking responsibility..
Leo hand gestures
I am the moon person and my daughter is the pluto person. Her father and I divorced when she was born. She gave me the power to get out of all my toxic relationships. I have to work on myself and our relationship not to give her the responsability to save me and/or to become codependant. Our bond is very strong and healthy.
I have my Pluto square my person’s Moon, Venus and my Pluto trine her Sun. On her part, she has her Pluto trine my Mercury. I don’t talk much with her but I definitely feel this unwanted obsession over her :( It sucks, because there is something about her that just draw me towards her but I resist. I wonder if this feelings is reciprocated on her side too, but for sure it was visible on my side though I don’t show it to her.
Even tho I’m answering two years later, this might help someone
I can assure, that it was reciprocated from the other person as well. Finding myself in „her“ position right now kinda. His pluto squares my moon, conjunct my sun, venus and mars. I feel obsessed with him but am also questioning if he feels the same 🫣 my pluto trine his moon..
This is crazy to me. Although you're talking synastry, I have this in composite with my significant other. We have mostly trines and sextiles... but moon is square to pluto. It is so hard despite our seemingly loving relationship
It's interesting that in practice the roles often end up being reversed in long term relationships. Once commitment sets in, Pluto tends to give up their control in order to maintain their partner at any cost and gives into some very toxic behaviors of the moon person. To be frank, Moon person ends up revealing their worst features to the Pluto person and Pluto is so captivated at the beginning of this process that they become deeply entrenched in a codependent relationship where they lose the power the held at the onset of the relationship. Expect control issues from Pluto at the beginning to shift to the Moon person becoming outright manipulative, gaslighting and potentially outright abusive. Far worse than any Mar/Pluto pairing.
I believe in what you say, but I also believe that what you comment potentially happens when the moon is the man squaring the pluto of the woman, because if you notice there are many comments from women who were the moon and ended up damaged by male plutons.
In other words, it seems that women always occupy the position of the moon regardless of whether in theory or in the synastry chart they do not represent it, therefore they experience the worst part ... more likely
exactly what happened to me wow
This literally happened in my moon square pluto relationship. I was Pluto. I see so many comments saying Pluto is the abuser but that was not the case for mine. The only control I had was self control. The moon person was extremely jealous, manipulative, and straight up abused me emotionally, verbally, and almost physically. I definitely did see their nasty side and even told them I hated them when they pushed me far enough. This aspect is absolutely crazy and i don’t think it’s something I would want to experience again personally. We also had mars/Pluto double whammy and ascendant/Pluto as well so I’m sure that didn’t help at all. Lol.
I have sun, moon and Pluto square my boyfriends Pluto. It’s a nightmare but he’s having the time of his life and is “so in love”. Send help.
This totally happened to me. I’m the Pluto person. The moon began to manipulate me, years of gaslighting. My god, I’m the shell of a person I was.
Hey Jewel! My moon squares my partners Pluto, but other aspects are absolutely astonishing. I've pretty much found my soulmate!
Other aspects:
My Venus Conjunct my partner's Jupiter
My Jupiter Sextile my partner's Moon
My Sun Trine my partner's Mercury
My Moon Trine my partner's Jupiter
My Moon Square my partner's Saturn
My Venus Trine my partner's Sun
My Jupiter Sextile my partner's Venus
My Saturn Sextile my partner's Neptune
My Saturn Trine my partner's Pluto
What do you think? Will moon square pluto aspect be weaker because of other good aspects? Thank you so much!
Do Why depends on your own moon and how it’s aspected like she says.
Look also through your synastry for any biquintiles and quintiles. Also Neptune aspects - as Neptune can either make a relationship appear different than it really is or show unconditional love, but unconditional love only if there are also a lot of Saturn aspects to ground that energy.
Oh you commented this two years ago! How did this play out for you? Lol
I think that's what's going on with me too.Me and my hubby have this aspect but we've been together 25 years.He drives me insane but the love is deep so I think other aspects keep us together.
The trine between the sun and the moon is one of the best.
Wow! I have this aspect with someone. His Pluto squares my Moon, which conjuncts my Venus (2°) so really this aspect impacts both planets. Also, my Pluto opposes his Moon. We have an unspoken bond but for the most part I'm the one that doesn't trust it/ want it. His Moon is in my 12H and conjuncts his natal Lilith (yikes!). I always feel like he can see into me and it makes me VERY uncomfortable but safe at the same time. His Sun conjuncts my South Node so I'm convinced we knew each other in a previous life and we may even have been lovers 🙆♀️🤷♀️
Liz I have this as the Pluto person squaring his Venus and my south node conjuncting his Venus/Mars so definitely past life lovers. Sigh.
I have this with a married co-worker, along with other aspects that show attraction, and we often have lunch at the office kitchen together and more than once, I noticed that people give us dirty looks..I think it's because there is a very hard to control, and probably very visible attraction between us. Lord knows what it must look like when we sit close and chat about casual topics like film preferences in a lively manner...normally I'd think those are very light topics of conversation, but I often find myself getting lost in his eyes. He also seemed to open up pretty fast to me about some rather personal issues. His Mars is also conjunct my Moon-Mars-Jupiter stellium, my Mars is trine his Moon. My Pluto is square his Moon, and in our composite, we have Sun-Venus-Mars conjunct. I don't know about the Moon person in this equation, but I definitely feel an almost uncontrollable attraction towards him. I am pretty sure he feels it too, actually. I hope he does not see me as a "Dracula" figure though. And again, don't know about him, but I definitely feel and act uncharacteristically around him. Normally, I look at even the slightest hint of infidelity with maximum disdain, and have never allowed myself to even be attracted to a married man. But with this one, it's like controlling my feelings is totally out of the question, I feel crazy drawn to him. So far, my will has prevailed, but lawd, have mercy...
Bibi Sobieski it’s reflecting to you your inability to have control over your attraction for people who aren’t right for you, this being on a very surface level. I’m sure you’ll experience more plutonic things if you get to know him on a deeper level. If I were you I’d use all the energy I can muster and pull back.
Also if he’s married and you know you have an attraction yet still don’t pull back, and think what you’re doing is ok that’s also a plutonic issue. Other people giving you both looks for not respecting emotional and relationship boundaries is something that would call attention. If neither of you practice polyamory or open relationships then you both need to back off. This semi-crossing boundary thing shows you won’t have respect for each other’s boundaries as well if you do end up fucking or whatever. Also there’s a thing called emotional cheating! And this is coming from someone who is polyamorous, so 💁🏼♀️ I’m coming from an objective POV, everything has boundaries.
@@SaikouJenny lol, I would not have an affair with a married man, but there is definitely a strong attraction there. I just meet with him at lunch a few times per week, nothing severe, but yeah dirty looks have happened more than once..I do not think it is fair though, it's not like we are talking weird inappropriate sexual stuff, it's really casual conversation-like movies, work, travels, cooking etc. But we often sit right next to each other or right across from one another in the office kitchen(there is just one long table with lots of chairs on either side) and look at one another a lot while talking...so dunno, maybe we come across as too familiar/intimate? Not in what we speak, but mannerisms? Dunno. I am also not sure if we actually have a Moon-Pluto square, since I do not know his time of birth. My Pluto is in 15 Scorpio, his Moon can be anywhere between 2 and 13 degrees Aquarius. I just felt we most likely do, because the description matches to a large extent, with regards to intensity of attraction, especially. Irrespective of the Moon-Pluto though, we have more than enough aspects that would explain attraction, including his Pluto trine my Sun and Venus within a 3 degree orb. Maybe that was the Plutonian vibe I was getting? I also have my Eros conjunct his Mars within a 4 degree orb, I guess that adds more gasoline to the fire... Also, his Venus and Jupiter are conjunct my Asc, his Venus is conjunct my South Node too. And what exactly is "emotional cheating" anyway? I guess you can call any affection you have for anyone other than your partner to be "emotional cheating".
@@SaikouJenny P.S. I just realized that my Pluto is square his Sun in 20 Leo...so, more Pluto stuff.
@@AstroMartine Im going to say you're a bit of a homewrecker and you had an affair with a married man be it emotional or physical. Remember baby the natal/synastry chart is just a blueprint of how things can develop but you still have FREE WILL to not carry out an emotional relationship with a married man. Cant blame the cosmos for being a 304 girl that's all you. Hopefully, after 4 yrs you learned that and took responsibility for your actions and not the sYnAsTrY yOu FeLT with someone you shouldn't be messing with in the 1st place.
Love to know what you think, recently met someone and have this aspect...He is the moon in the 12 house at 8 degrees and I am the Pluto in the 11 house at 10 degrees. We have a close moon venus conjunction and my Sun, mercury and mars falls in his 1 house and we have venus conjunct asc. but my venus in his 12th. Sun/moon conjunctions DW but wide 10 and 12 degrees and venus square mars and much more....instant chemistry...me 12/11/61 Libra rising, he's 02/07/64 Sag rising..
Both of my parents have their Pluto in Leo square to my Moon/Lilith in Taurus and in opposition to the Sun in Auquarius of my sister. Needless to say we were a very extreme family...*)! The interesting thing is that I with my Taurus Moon was the one braking away from the familiy and my sis with her Aquarius Sun stayed because of the money and emotional dependency. I guess the need for freedom, integrity and atonomy of Lilith is stronger than the one of Aquarius.
Symbolsysteme Maybe the Leo opposition to her Sun is more like a "dance" and a back-and-forth effect that keeps her going in circles with your parents. Meanwhile you have a square which may offer more resistance and repulsion which drove you out.???
I have this tie up with my mother (her Pluto in leo opposite my aqua sun). But her Scorpio sun squares my sun. I got away from her as fast as I could. It was like living with the devil. But my boss had her Pluto in Leo opp my sun also but her Gemini sun TRINE my sun. I felt the uncomfortable energy from the beginning when i met her. But she slowly pulled me in....very subtle manipulative charming ways....we were good as long as I was her happy servant. But when I realized I was re-enacting codependent behavior that I had with my mom with her and started pulling away then it got really really tricky. A slippery slope. Pinpointing the manipulation waslike a moving target--quantum particle...lol. With my vibrational tools i truly believe I helped her to decide to retire. I tried to find other jobs but I swear that woman had a hold on me!! When she left, a door finally opened 9 months later that allowed me to move out of that office. I am not where I want to be job-wise, but better than where I was before.
Would this kind of apply to the composite aspect too? If not, could you do a moon square Pluto composite?! 💞 Love your channel.
sunandpluto Yes it would
But both people would feel that way
Is it possible to be the other way round?
The pluto person to feel that magnetic pull to the moon person?
I know this is old but to answer your question. I am the Pluto person n he is the moon person n I have never felt so obsessive over a person in my life. Its actually scary but the pull is very strong
i agree, very sadistic
I had this aspect with a person I dearly loved! He was a great person, still love him. Actually my Venus was opposite his Pluto too! From my perspective, he came out of a toxic relationship before me and he had a child. I felt deep compassion for him, so I tried to do everything possible to make him feel comfortable. He kinda was very insecure but I tried my best I be as compassionate as possible. In my attempt to make the situation for him better I lost myself. Then I ended blaming him 🥺. I felt like he was not prioritizing me and taking me for granted. After we broke up he totally disconnected from me. Sometimes I wonder if I did him worse. Even though he told me when he broke up, that he didn’t hate me. Also, my immaturity was to completely breakdown when huge conflicts came up. Then I would say I want to break up but it was hard to cope with the conflict for me. Then he would feel threatened and break up with me. Eventually, I felt super overwhelmed because he kept unconscious repeating the same things and I ended up super breaking down and actually breaking up. Then the relationship ended.
If you both have moon square Pluto in the natal.. is this disregarded in synastry/composite? Me and my partner both have moon in Aquarius Pluto in Scorpio, both exactly square!! I wonder if I should be taking our Pluto square moon into more consideration.. I had just ignored them as I thought I am well adapted to that Pluto/moon energy anyway.. what are your thoughts?? (My sun,venus,jupiter all in Scorpio too) he is Capricorn sun,mercury,venus. Sorry to overload you with information. Thank you so much for all you do your videos have taught me so much💗🍬🐰bless you
Why am I ALWAYS the Pluto person?!
Are you plutonian yourself? Strong aspects to pluto in your chart or Scorpio/8th house placements? Plutonian people tend to be drawn to plutonian relationships so they have that theme a lot in synastry. Or pluto could be ruling your relationship houses, 5, 7, or 8 so you are attracted to people who aspect your pluto.
@@graciekattan6618 this is me /:
I know right?!
I am plutonic
Very much true in my new relationship. Aquarius Moon, me, and Scorpio Pluto him. Though his Saturn is also conjunct my Moon. I'm quite happy to give control away. Tired of my own Pluto square 8H Moon control issues.
No wonder why I despise my mother in law. My natal moon pluto conjunction is exactly square her pluto in Leo. She pretends that she's doing nothing to ruin my life, yet she will not give up her control and power over myself, her son, and now my daughter.
Is the Pluto person's power diminished if the partner's moon is in Scorpio or the 8th house? Thank you
Pluto is very comfortable in the 8th house and Scorpio. From what I have seen this does change the dynamic considerably as Pluto person has a much easier time dealing with their plutonic issues of control. However, this doesn't prevent the dynamic from emerging, but rather that Pluto person can deal with their end more... but actually become slightly more vulnerable to the Moon's uncontrolled issues coming forth just by virtue of being around you. People are transits, so no matter how YOU (as Scorpio/8th house Pluto) deal with your issues, it does not mean that the issues that are pouring out from the moon person are dealt with. In long term relationships, this can be actually far more harmful for 8th house Pluto person than moon person.
Cut me open and I keep bleeding,keep,keep bleeding love.
are you pluto or luna?
She's deff moon lmao
Is this how this aspect feels in synastry?
@@alexisvcc3354 Moon.
@@r011ing_thunder6 Lmao
What if his moon squares my pluto, and my sun squares his pluto? 😮 (maybe important to say he has sun square pluto himself)
My sun and moon square my boyfriends pluto too! And his sun squares his pluto as well. Would love to hear how that relationship was for you
he's sun conjunct pluto i nscorpio (conjunct exact my ic), leo moon in 8th (fantastically aspected though)
it was my pluto square his moon
we hate each other.
i'm in therapy now, hopefully he's as emotionally and psychologically fucked over as much as i am
can you tell i'm still bitter about it :)
moon square pluto 👍
So natally I have moon in Aquarius in the 12th house. But my moon isn’t afflicted besides having it in the horrible sign of Aquarius. 😆The guy I like has moon in Pisces in the 6th. Both our moons are squared by eachothers Pluto so we have this double whammy. Im worried... his pluto and venus conjunct my chiron all in the 8th house! so this is looking very karmic. But I want longevity 😔 I like him so much. Wish we didn’t have the square 😕
my moon squares everyone of my generation’s pluto, i am sick to my stomach listening to this because it sums up almost every relationship Ive had
Same😭 I hate everyone’s sag Pluto squaring my moon😩
Is there a solution or is the only solution to not have this connection in your life? I’m deep in this, both of us on the low frequencies you described with our own natal conflicts with these planets. Me the moon in my 2nd with his Pluto in my 12th. We have been in and out of each other’s lives for 10 years. He was my first “love”. But this aspect is palpable. A weekly, sometimes daily occurrence. And we discuss how significant an issue it is yet when we try to distance, miss each other greatly. When this aspect is not activated we are joyful, falling asleep on the phone every night (likely unhealthy), making each other laugh. But it gets activated when I fear abandonment (natal issue) which is activated by a past of him constantly needing to reinvent himself and move far away (I imagine his natal issue). I express my feelings hoping for comfort and he dismisses, refuses responsibility, says it’s all my problem and stops taking my calls. In those moments it feels like he’s the only one with the power to heal my emotional spiral. It’s very toxic and a classic attachment theory issue. Just every time I try to cut him out and protect myself, we somehow get pulled back together. We have lived on opposite continents and still found each other. Feels like I can’t shake him. I was hopeful I’m meant to learn something from this dynamic, but from your analysis I’m wondering if this can possibly end in any other way than in my emotional destruction and his resentment and thinking I’m insane? We have some other big aspects too…Mars trine Pluto, Pluto trine Sun, sun trine sun, Venus trine Jupiter, Venus opposite moon, moon opposite Jupiter, Venus trine Mercury….all tightly orbed. Lots of cardinal signs. So is there any solution? If not, please let me know so I can save myself from this! Thank you so so much for your video. I at least feel seen and heard and appreciate having an explanation for what’s happening.
Apologies for the length of this. Hoping this resonates with someone else. It’s nice to know we’re not alone in these situations.
What happens if the person already has Pluto square moon in natal chart ?
+Dalia Madrid That aspect can describe someone who is already ripe to attract a plutonic relationship.
I have this aspect natally, and attract these relationships like bees to honey..
wow how do you manage? Are they all intense?
It depends on your natal Moon's position. I have the Moon in its own sign of Cancer so that already makes it strong but that's not all. The Moon is not only squaring Pluto but also trining Uranus and believe me, nobody tries to mess up with me because I already know all these psychological games and I expose them in a minute. If anyone thinks that it's always 'poor and weak Moon losing to strong and manipulative Pluton' then I can assure them it is not.
Dalia Madrid Dalia Madrid Since I already have this energy in my own chart, I think I can handle it better in synastry. I have this aspect with a guy and believe me, I already know all his mind games and the things he does to make me jealous because I already know how it works. It's hilarious 😂😂😂 his attemps are hilarious, I just ignore him when he behaves like that.
Yes, very good report on this ...
With my step-daughter we had:
My Pluto square her moon and Mercury.
Her Pluto square my Venus.
It was terrible. We just couldn't get along no matter what. From bigger issues to day to day we just didn't like each other. DEFINITELY some nasty power plays.
This aspect makes me so nervous about coming off as a creep to the person I'm crushing on 😭
I have this EXACT aspect with my childhood best friend's boyfriend... It is very unsettling because he started openly flirting with me right after I got out of my tumultuous longterm relationship!
It's like he thinks I must be unstable / insecure enough now for him to manipulate easily...
I personally do not feel that attraction that Jewel speaks of but HE does seem very, uh.. thirsty. It's creeping me out!
I love my best friend more than anyone in my life and I want to be in her presence as much as I can nowadays, but most of the time he is there too, so I feel stuck in this anxiety-inducing dynamic.
I guess he is the Pluto person
How about moon square Pluto composite? Thanks I love your videos. It's very enlightening. I binge watch them
Hi Jewel, why does the moon person crave the Pluto person so much if it causes them so much pain?
It's a trama bond. I just dodged a bulet. He lives too far away .
found this on almost the 2 year anniversary of the video!
Jewel, would sesquiquadrate apply here? Like a mini square?
Yes.
This aspect can get bad, recommend but also don't. I also have sun square pluto going both ways
What orb would you give this? :) I have a 10 degree org with someone, I'm the moon person.
The luminaries ( the sun and moon) typically have up to a ten degree orb in synastry unless it's an asteroid in question, then maximum three degrees unless it's Chiron. I know, it's complex. I will do a video on orb allowance today or tomorrow. I have been meaning to get to that. Good question.
i would Look for the close aspects first - zero degrees to maybe 3 or 5 . then how happy is the planet over all , if jupiter or Venus is there - and is the person used to that energy ? if they are a Scorpio person or have scorpio rising or a lot of personal planets in Scorpio then - it like throwing water on a person who just came out of a pool - they won't hardly notice it ... and check if any thing is retrograde the close aspects tend to define - the wide ones are more background . and check the degree of the planet - lets say if its a new born Pluto at zero to 2 degrees - its not mature - thats a lot different from 28 or 29 D. - so that is to say a mature Pluto will feel a lot different then a new born baby pluto.. or retro etc... but pluto can be a force to reckon with.
I have a question for people who have this aspect "natally", when do you find this aspect in synastry with someone? Are you obsessed?
Yes but not always directly. Depends on how much you've worked on it in your own natal, but even so it still may show. You have to make a conscious effort for change and really focus on yourself, and your independence in the relationship. Once you allow yourself to be dependent, you're pretty much screwed.
For me, this is not something I’ve conquered in myself, so yes I become very obsessed. It’s hard for me to let go of anyone I’ve ever had a relationship with. I have Scorpio in the 7th house and Pluto in the 7th as well so... yeah I’m pretty much crazy 😭😢
Jewel, can this video be used for Composite Moon Square Pluto as well?
Just had a double whammy with another and it showed up in our composite too.
Nearly all other aspects were harmoneous but this is a deal breaker for me so had to say goodbye.
The funny thing is that he has the same aspect on his own and me too just lower degrees, we’re both Leo moons square Pluto but his Pluto is Sagittarius 1st degree and mine is Scorpio 19th degree, my moon doesn’t square his Pluto though
I have this aspect with someone I recently met. The strange thing is that in the composite chart the aspect is Moon Trine Pluto. Why is there a difference between the two chart types?
I just went on a date with a guy whose moon is square my Pluto by 0 degrees. Is this aspect alone enough for concern and for me to stop pursuing him? All the other aspects are trines and conjunctions of the inner planets.
Stephanie as the Pluto person what do u feel towards the moon person ? I really want to understand this aspect as- I'm trying to do my sis and bf synastry I want to know that he will not hurt her.
Yes its my pluto in Saggitarius squares her Pisces Moon. But she also has Pluto in Saggitarius, and I have Moon in Sagitarius. But you Said it well its all about resolving my pluto issues first, i have pluto in conjunction with Moon and Mercury. So yes i think this is the most important with pluto, the moon and Chiron resolving trauma, deep emotions - wounds.
Does it help if the moon person is heavily plutonic themselves?
I don't think so, that might actually cause even more manipulation, because the Moon understands what Pluto is up to, so she'll behave accordingly
His moon in Pisces is squaring my pluto in Sagittarius plus my pluto is in his 8th house but he has moon opposition pluto n pluto in the 8th natally
Great explanation!
Hi Jewel. Is 7,07 orb too big to be concidered?
Well, it is not about orb must be less than certain degree. The question is, how you both feel towards each other as Moon and Pluto person???
I have the same question.
hi. amazing as always. You could do moon square venus.
We both have this natally and in synastry his pluto my moon, and my pluto his moon.Does this make it easier?
+Sandsower NO, that typically increases the problem since the Aspect is found in both people and then it shows up between them. It makes it a bigger theme.
Could you please do a vid on Mercury in Cancer? I feel Merc doesn't get much recognition when it comes to compatibility/synastry. And it's tricky for me being a Merc in Cancer having a Venus in Cancer in rx natally conjunct it.
I have this with my husband im the moon. So exhausting relationship.
How does the opposition work?
How about pluto square the ascendant in synastry!!!!!!
Thank you Jewel!!
I liked your video, very informative! I have an additional question: if there's Person's A moon+sun squares Person's B pluto, A's venus sextiles B' s pluto and A's mars trines B's pluto: who's the stalker in this configuration- who's obsessed in your opinion? Thanks!
@Magdalena K many testimonies affirm that the pluto the obsessed since it is a square, if it were conjunction the serious obsession of the sun or moon, what are you?
Is this similar for a transit synastry (is that even a thing?) Where both people are experiencing this transit personally and in a relationship? Some of the things here ring true. So I wonder.
I have natal moon square Pluto and major emotional issues with my mom. I like a guy, but my Pluto squares his Moon, I'm running a Pluto opposite Venus transit, and his Pluto trines my Venus, My Pluto squares his Mars, his Pluto inconjunct my Mars, and we have Eros conjunct Eros to the exact degree!!!! And his Pluto in Scorpio is in my 12th house!!!! I have major abandonment issues and just got out of narcissistic relationships and don't want to go into another one!!!!! I keep getting psychic headaches and it's very frustrating!!!!
If anyone has the moon in this aspect ....can you answer.something for me....can the Pluto person bring up pain, anger and rage in the moon person?
Depends on the house Pluto person has natally, and depends how both planet overlays each other. This is why birth time and place is important. Example Pluto in 4th person conjuct other moon in 7th house. Now, Pluto person might caring and nurturing the moon person, while moon in 7th house may bring equal partnerships and balance relationship. Now, let's say his Pluto falls in your 10th overlay, that means he can transform you in your carreer and ambition(10th).
Amazing interepation. How about natal Pluto 7th but partners square Moon, but that partners has Mars and Uranus Conjuncting your pluto?
Absolutely. That was my case. My moon in Leo square his mars/pluto conjunction. Most painful experience I’ve lived hands down. This person knew how to hurt me and how to take my power away. Pluto can be ruthless in this synastry aspect.
@@valentinemusic16 I'm so sorry, did you love that person? What feelings did you have as the person of the moon towards him?
I am the pluto person and sometimes I am shocked by the pain, anger and rage I seem to stir up in him. But I guess it has to do with the individual too. Like Jules say always go back to the natal charts.
He was the Moon and i was the Pluto, but he was the master manipulator. But my Venus also opposes his Pluto....It was a bad relationship.
Can you explain more on those two.aspects? How were you feeling as the pluto and as the venus ones? As i have them both too with a guy and curious what orbs also thank you💙
@@Cinderella-mc8kf Hi, it was just a very, very intense connection, but he played mind games, and made me feel like i was not good enough-i am talking about the Venus opposition Pluto here. i have never been so sexually attracted to someone-i have had much better looking boyfriends, but this was off the scale, for both of us. However, he didn't want to give much more, like he was afraid of something. With the Moon square Pluto, i accepted him completely, but i felt like i needed to stay in control because of the way he was. He had a lot of emotional baggage. He said he didn't trust me even though i gave him absolutely no reason not too! In the end, he gaslighted me after 4 years, but he has tried to contact me since then, but i haven't responded for my own sanity. The relationship was always just 'surface', it never really got off the ground. It upset me more than the 15 year relationship i had with my first love. Hope this has helped.
@@menlove251 thank you very much 💙
@@Cinderella-mc8kf What is the orb of that square?
Were there aspects with Saturn?
Does semi-square have a similar effect?
Yes
I have this with someone double whammy.. moon conjunct pluto in composite chart. His Moon conjunct my mar. Mars conjunct mars in cancer. My moon in capricorn opposite his mars in a wide orb. In my own chart i have moon square pluto so i tend to gravitate towards men who have this synastry aspect with me.. i like intensity hades and persephone themed relationships
I’m interested in this guy and my 12H Pluto is square his 9H moon and his natal moon is also square his moon 🥹 definitely can see the sadistic stuff w/ him. And I’m down for it 🙃🤣
I had this aspect with ex girlfriend..also my saturn squares her moon and my mars conjucts her moon..she was helpless and completly enchanced by me...sadism is deminutive.
Thanks for sharing, I'm the moon person in a pluto/saturn square moon dynamic and yeah I'm completely incapacitated. Coming to accept I will be obsessed with this person for a very long time.
i hate this aspect! does pluto feel attracted/intense too?
deffinetely! I was pluto and I was super obsessed and possesivr jealous everything.. I loved him dearly.. how does the moon feel???
TheQueenOfTheSaahra Exactly as Jewel described, totally obsessed, to the point of losing oneself. I'm so interested in what Pluto thinks of the moon. Are there any other contacts in your synastry where you may be the planet person? Because as Jewel described, the Pluto person seems to have much less of their feelings involved...
+CM Ewig we have mars pluto dw ( my mars in scorpio conjinct his pluto and my pluto opposite his mars in taurus ) , and i have my pluto square his leo moon... his moon opposite my mc , his moon trine my sun.. my venus trine his sun ... some Saturn squares dw.. but i feel this pluto because i do show him that i dont care about him sometimes but deep down am so in love with him deeeeply in love, very jaloues very possesive of him.... i love him so mush ... pluto is strong at pretending and cutting ties but believe me deep down he love the hell out of the moon.. plz tell me how do u feel as the moon person...
TheQueenOfTheSaahra thank you for your insights! I found them quite similar to my experience. I'm the moon, and is just hopelessly attracted to the Pluto person and I definitely showed it to him --- not that I want to, I simply couldn't help. Jewel was so right, it feels like the Pluto person cut me through and I'm no longer able to hide my emotions anymore. Just the way he looks at me makes me shiver. And I feel very uneasy, nervous, a bit scared when I'm around him. And those emotions are like the entourage to my never- ending love and fascination towards him.
+CM Ewig but why are you afraid ?? are you afraid to loose him or afraid from love or from him... as pluto person I want to know everything about the moon , and I can feel his emotioons I can feel when he slighlty try to be away from me and then I get angry because I want him to love me all the time as much as I love him... pluto is extremes he dont show it but when he loves he loves extremly... honestly because of our fights we broke up , but I still love hin deeply and miss him like hell when but I dont show it at all ... it is all inside.. do you think that he miss me too as the moon?
Can someone fall in love with this aspect or is iT more a paychological issue without necessarily falling in love?
I think it's possible, with Pluto you'll experience great fear as well though
what can i watch to figure out the mars sq moon aspect mars in the 8th house
This makes sense. I feel like I'm under hypnosis. I have no control. 😅 and he has pluto squaring my mars. I'll probably die 😂
My father's moon is square my Pluto. He has nothing to do with me. I just get phone calls every so often. I tried to cut him off but he found a way to creep back in, using my younger brother. He won't even hug me. He left my family when I was 15. He is a complete narcissist.
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How does this work in composite
We have this aspect both ways AND Sun Moon exact conjunct..
His Pluto is conjunct my ascendant (3 degrees) and his Pluto is also square my moon (0 degrees), what
could the results be like? Can somebody explain please? :( ty!
my ex and i had this double whammy
I have natal Moon opposite Pluto and he has natal Moon square Pluto. My Pluto squares his Moon and his Pluto opposes my Moon. Also my Moon is conjunct to his ascendant and his Moon is conjunct to mine. Ouch 😭
Mom Pluto square my Moon. Elder Brother Mars square my Moon, he also has Nessus in Cancer 1st house. Everyday I walk home from school telling myself this is not a Home sweet home but a Home Hell Home. Failed Suicides and Suicidal years growing up. These people need to be cut off for me to be able to live. My husband told me I have no family, fact is I am an orphan. I think what he says is true.
I dont really recognize myself in this one... I have been attracted by him since the beginning. But I am not really obsessed either. It feels very safe and secure. But we have a good synastry.
I feel like somehow sometimes he doesnt get the depth of my emotions and feels triggered by them. I have moon in 8th and he has pluto in the 5th. So it's like he doesnt like to acknoledge pain in his life for himself, so he doesnt really feel comfortable when I am showing emotions.
But nevertheless he is very supportive and caring. Its just that his first reaction to my emotions, especially when i am sad, are defensive somehow.
For the s/m stuff, not the case... but I wish 😂
We are very codependant though
What is the orb for this aspect?