Amen! Personally, I don't believe there is ever the perfect person for anyone. It's just timing. Meeting someone on the same road you're on moving in the same direction in life. Hopefully, you stay on the same road. That's the best we can do.
Your commentaries are so accurate. I am African-American and Spaniard Philippino. I see so many women with various values according to how they are raised.
you are in for an amazing, eye-opening surprise in the PH. more choices than you'll know what to do with. sorting out the bad ones can get time consuming. but.. you only need to stick with one good one.
Great content Reekay. I’ve had my list for a couple of years now. Unfortunately, the U.S. isn’t exactly teeming with reasonable prospects. Maybe it’s time to look elsewhere.
Excellent points being made! There is no such thing as the perfect person. That has been my problem. Always looking for that special person that checks all the boxes. I'm in the Philippines on vacation right now. Everywhere you turn is a pretty girl that could be a possible partner. It's just finding one that checks those five major points and does not bring too much drama into your life. They will all bring a little drama. It's how you deal with it that will determine the success of the relationship.
You figure this out by being on vacation in PH? The only way you can get into details like Rekay is saying is to live there permanently and spend a lot of time on finding the girl who might be a match for you. Just because girls look at you and smile at you doesn't mean they are interested in you. They could have a husband and 3 kids. it is in Pilipino culture to be nice and not to be rude.
It’s true that we only have one life to live, and it is a very short one….. I think we make too much of a big deal about nothing for in the end it really doesn’t matter…. Every relationship you’ve ever had will eventually end anyway, and nothing last forever. certainly don’t think that you’re so important in this world, for we are barely grains of sand among the vastness of this infinite universe.
Reekay, I hope since I am older I am also wiser. Everything you said in this video resonates my truth as well. Met my LDR recently there and it was even more amazing than I thought it would be , but still that was only 3 weeks. We are both cautious about our status and next steps as we continue to gather more knowledge of our relationship. We build trust every day and learn . So far it's good but we both plan on a long getting to know process and I think that is healthy asyou and many others advocate...it is just sage advice. Thanks for all the stories and knowledge you share! Peace!
Good video and i think it not only the persona of the Filipinas...But the attitudes and cultural aspects that draw you in and at that stage of your life....Is exactly what you need, as you expand and expound upon it...While she is doing the same for her life and goals too. As you said...there is in my humble opinion as a "soulmate", but a perfect "storm" of circumstances and incidences that draw you towards them...Just as that person feels the same if possible though rare. You are so right, as this can be a life-long quest, if not meeting your standards and criterion at the sates of your life, but the goal is finally "settle" with one as close to the all that you are wanting in a woman, and also...Loyalty and good traits that grow and stabilize over time. Actually in the world there are millions of women...And millions of possibilities if you could ever meet them all, based on yours and their criteria for success. There is a fear or "missing out",which makes some men greedy and overreaching when they go the islands, thanks to persona and welcoming features of the women. My "deal breakers" are lying and loyalty issues and finances based in reality and certain personal traits are compatible to me and my lifestyle. Just a few but could change in time and age. Feelings are one thing...Reality and the world/personal/familial influences at those times are another thing, and can affect the outcomes. Peace
There are hundreds of women suitable for each man. I love your must have list. I have a different one, but is a mandatory have list. There is a personality match issue. There is a religion match (close enough). Great video and advice.
1. Follows the principles of heart love. 2. Enjoys love making. 3 Cooks and cleans with my help. 4. Create a family together. That may mean only the two of use or 1 or 2 children. This is an concept of living life fully in the marriage. 5. I probably know but forgot. Laugh. Deal breakers next week.
Hallo Sir I was falling in a the same traps l'm from Germany to a US wife she was have 3 growing up kids, ones the trust was going after 4 years l was going back to Germany 🎉
For the must-haves that are more or less binary (yes or no) like kids, relocating, etc. do you think it is wrong/rude to just outright ask at the beginning? I don't mean in like the first five minutes of meeting but seems like it might save time for both parties to just get it out of the way.
Heck no! Sorting out the basics sooner rather than later is a kind and strategic course of action: it does not waste either her time or yours. Time is a precious and diminishing resource.
Must haves: Attractive, honest, loyal, funny, and willing to move to America. Deal breakers: Tattoos, more than one child, over 40, heavy drinker, high maintenance. As always, great content!
This can be as complex as making a cake with the icing from scratch. What shape is it, how many layers, what flavor is it. What kind of icing. How many layers. Will there be sprinkles, or piped in decorations. But I've never met anyone who wants fried oysters in their cake.
I’m so westernized that I’m still figuring out this 5 character traits to be honest. And now I’m realizing with the Philippines that you almost have a magic wand. Any other specifics ways to create that least never really having made one before??
So I am a social worker and am living here now. What I suggest is to consider what are you naturally attracted to, all good relationships start here. Also look at what caused you problems in the past. What did you argue about? What caused you stress? What irritated your partners? What irritated you? You can be unreasonable here. But the key is honestly. Know thy self. Also dream big, especially in areas where your typical filipina can excel, not areas where cannot (providing you with a $10k allowance). If you are picky like me, you will likely go through a lot of girls. It's okay have fun. But remember, your habits, even mental ones will distract you on your quest. If you choose to just sleep around, you will not develop the skills to know the right one when you come across her. And you will not be trustworthy enough to keep her, satisfied. She will tend to distrust. Filipinas have been hurt a lot. Wins require focus.
spoiler alert; there is ALWAYS another greener option. always. many of them. what a man has to decide at some point in his life is whether or not he's ready to actually commit. without that, he repeatedly meet and breakup with woman after woman.
Great advice, I really like the perspective. I believe we have certain compatibility points and someone that meets most of them people consider "soulmates" but there can be more than one & it can be exceedingly rare. Accepting less than "perfect" is part of maturity. Are all these models in the video from modeling pics or is this what you see on the street over there ?
When a woman asks me if I believe in soulmates, I turn the question around and ask her, "How rare do you think they are? One in a million?" They invariably say yes. Then I say, "That means you have at least 8000 soulmates walking around out there. I suggest you go find one." 😎
I can hear this guy all day, his calm voice with logic and wisdom to finding our perfect match.
Stay in shape, Quiet, agreeable, coachable, understand her role.
Good luck finding that 😂
@@jbrown8601 not in the west
Amen! Personally, I don't believe there is ever the perfect person for anyone. It's just timing. Meeting someone on the same road you're on moving in the same direction in life. Hopefully, you stay on the same road. That's the best we can do.
If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with 😂😂😂
Your commentaries are so accurate. I am African-American and Spaniard Philippino. I see so many women with various values according to how they are raised.
As someone with zero prospects, it feels like these channels are selling me a fairytale. But I won't know until I see for myself, one day maybe.
you are in for an amazing, eye-opening surprise in the PH. more choices than you'll know what to do with. sorting out the bad ones can get time consuming. but.. you only need to stick with one good one.
Henry, I have been listening to you and a number of others for 5? 6? years now. You have continued to get wiser, as others have fallen to the wayside.
Great content Reekay. I’ve had my list for a couple of years now. Unfortunately, the U.S. isn’t exactly teeming with reasonable prospects. Maybe it’s time to look elsewhere.
Well I have 2 years gaining knowledge from hearing from various sources like yourself is much appreciated and having patience is key 👍
Excellent points being made! There is no such thing as the perfect person. That has been my problem. Always looking for that special person that checks all the boxes. I'm in the Philippines on vacation right now. Everywhere you turn is a pretty girl that could be a possible partner. It's just finding one that checks those five major points and does not bring too much drama into your life. They will all bring a little drama. It's how you deal with it that will determine the success of the relationship.
You figure this out by being on vacation in PH? The only way you can get into details like Rekay is saying is to live there permanently and spend a lot of time on finding the girl who might be a match for you. Just because girls look at you and smile at you doesn't mean they are interested in you. They could have a husband and 3 kids. it is in Pilipino culture to be nice and not to be rude.
Very good advice, balanced.
Your soulmate is someone who is as imperfect as you are 😊
It’s true that we only have one life to live, and it is a very short one….. I think we make too much of a big deal about nothing for in the end it really doesn’t matter…. Every relationship you’ve ever had will eventually end anyway, and nothing last forever. certainly don’t think that you’re so important in this world, for we are barely grains of sand among the vastness of this infinite universe.
that is the truth.
Well balanced with guard rails.
Well said. Good advice for dating anywhere on the planet.
Thank you for the video 👌
Reekay, I hope since I am older I am also wiser. Everything you said in this video resonates my truth as well. Met my LDR recently there and it was even more amazing than I thought it would be , but still that was only 3 weeks. We are both cautious about our status and next steps as we continue to gather more knowledge of our relationship. We build trust every day and learn . So far it's good but we both plan on a long getting to know process and I think that is healthy asyou and many others advocate...it is just sage advice. Thanks for all the stories and knowledge you share! Peace!
Good video and i think it not only the persona of the Filipinas...But the attitudes and cultural aspects that draw you in and at that stage of your life....Is exactly what you need, as you expand and expound upon it...While she is doing the same for her life and goals too. As you said...there is in my humble opinion as a "soulmate", but a perfect "storm" of circumstances and incidences that draw you towards them...Just as that person feels the same if possible though rare.
You are so right, as this can be a life-long quest, if not meeting your standards and criterion at the sates of your life, but the goal is finally "settle" with one as close to the all that you are wanting in a woman, and also...Loyalty and good traits that grow and stabilize over time.
Actually in the world there are millions of women...And millions of possibilities if you could ever meet them all, based on yours and their criteria for success. There is a fear or "missing out",which makes some men greedy and overreaching when they go the islands, thanks to persona and welcoming features of the women.
My "deal breakers" are lying and loyalty issues and finances based in reality and certain personal traits are compatible to me and my lifestyle. Just a few but could change in time and age.
Feelings are one thing...Reality and the world/personal/familial influences at those times are another thing, and can affect the outcomes. Peace
There are hundreds of women suitable for each man. I love your must have list. I have a different one, but is a mandatory have list. There is a personality match issue. There is a religion match (close enough). Great video and advice.
If a Filipina is regularly asking you in the first 3 months of dating if you are cheating on her get rid of her
1. Follows the principles of heart love. 2. Enjoys love making. 3 Cooks and cleans with my help. 4. Create a family together. That may mean only the two of use or 1 or 2 children. This is an concept of living life fully in the marriage. 5. I probably know but forgot. Laugh. Deal breakers next week.
Great information 🙏🙏🙏
Great Vlog and good analysis.
My Filipina wife of 20+ years is A; my soul mate ;B my gorgeous and loving wife C ;My life partner ; still !!! ❤
Positives:
Smart
Mature
Loyal
Attractive
Kind
Deal Breakers:
Drama
Substance Abuse
Children
Spendthrift
Sloppy
To me people become soulmates after years of dedication and care.
Hallo Sir
I was falling in a the same traps l'm from Germany to a US wife she was have 3 growing up kids, ones the trust was going after 4 years l was going back to Germany 🎉
For the must-haves that are more or less binary (yes or no) like kids, relocating, etc. do you think it is wrong/rude to just outright ask at the beginning? I don't mean in like the first five minutes of meeting but seems like it might save time for both parties to just get it out of the way.
Heck no! Sorting out the basics sooner rather than later is a kind and strategic course of action: it does not waste either her time or yours. Time is a precious and diminishing resource.
Must haves: Attractive, honest, loyal, funny, and willing to move to America. Deal breakers: Tattoos, more than one child, over 40, heavy drinker, high maintenance. As always, great content!
This can be as complex as making a cake with the icing from scratch. What shape is it, how many layers, what flavor is it. What kind of icing. How many layers. Will there be sprinkles, or piped in decorations. But I've never met anyone who wants fried oysters in their cake.
I’m so westernized that I’m still figuring out this 5 character traits to be honest. And now I’m realizing with the Philippines that you almost have a magic wand. Any other specifics ways to create that least never really having made one before??
So I am a social worker and am living here now. What I suggest is to consider what are you naturally attracted to, all good relationships start here. Also look at what caused you problems in the past. What did you argue about? What caused you stress? What irritated your partners? What irritated you? You can be unreasonable here. But the key is honestly. Know thy self. Also dream big, especially in areas where your typical filipina can excel, not areas where cannot (providing you with a $10k allowance). If you are picky like me, you will likely go through a lot of girls. It's okay have fun. But remember, your habits, even mental ones will distract you on your quest. If you choose to just sleep around, you will not develop the skills to know the right one when you come across her. And you will not be trustworthy enough to keep her, satisfied. She will tend to distrust. Filipinas have been hurt a lot. Wins require focus.
But than again... tell me, when the search is over? Is the grass really greener over next fence?
spoiler alert; there is ALWAYS another greener option. always. many of them.
what a man has to decide at some point in his life is whether or not he's ready to actually commit. without that, he repeatedly meet and breakup with woman after woman.
I loved thr 5th Element movie
i've seen it twice. amazing visuals for the time.
Ok Ok I like the eye candy while you talk. But are they all Filipina? Some look Thai. Great advice as always....
Great advice, I really like the perspective. I believe we have certain compatibility points and someone that meets most of them people consider "soulmates" but there can be more than one & it can be exceedingly rare. Accepting less than "perfect" is part of maturity.
Are all these models in the video from modeling pics or is this what you see on the street over there ?
When a woman asks me if I believe in soulmates, I turn the question around and ask her, "How rare do you think they are? One in a million?"
They invariably say yes.
Then I say, "That means you have at least 8000 soulmates walking around out there. I suggest you go find one." 😎
American Woman… Stay Away From Me!!!