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  • @jerk
    @jerk Год назад +15

    😈😈 finish listening to ALL the stories here ruclips.net/p/PL4qCR1644UR0Z4S8QKTe0MYZFVaNXuAUY

    • @user-mb3kx8fi7r
      @user-mb3kx8fi7r Год назад +1

      First

    • @Idiotrelay
      @Idiotrelay Год назад

      HOW IT IS 2 DAYS IT WAS JUST MADE

    • @miau_OF
      @miau_OF Год назад

      ​​​@@Idiotrelay's bc in that moment the video was only visible for people the creator (I am the jerk?) choosed and he commented

    • @AgentGamer5000
      @AgentGamer5000 Год назад

      @miau_OF yeah, you're right

  • @jasoncarpp7742
    @jasoncarpp7742 Год назад +84

    Assuming *Story 1* is true, it's insane how some co-worker treat others. You'd think the boss would take the complaint seriously and do something about the offending co-worker, rather than laughing the employee out of the office. How rude!

    • @MathieuDuval
      @MathieuDuval Год назад +4

      Yea i had a few boss like that, and i don't doubt that it's true.

    • @smithsmith1956
      @smithsmith1956 Год назад

      Hr complaints on females from a male are almost never taken seriously. Meanwhile, a female can simply say a male creeps her out for simply existing and hr is all over his a$$.

    • @briansmith2113
      @briansmith2113 Год назад +3

      when younger I was that boss. ran a tacobell at 20 and kinda laughed at an older coworker complaints about a younger female harassing. he was close to 40 she was like 19 at best. I failed that employee. I had to fire her for trying to pull him to the back 3 days later. his wife did not fail a thing though as she's kicking the little girl ass in the parking lot after on the same day and was on her way before I could even fire her. I did apologize to him and his family and learned a lesson from then on especially with me being the victim later in life funny enough now that I think about it.

    • @Charles-7
      @Charles-7 Год назад +1

      and an example of why both needs to be equally treated, especially when it comes to sexual acts towards someone who isn't comfortable with it.

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад +3

      @@Charles-7 Our reactions to this are, sadly, still sexist-male harasses female, he gets rightly vilified; female harasses male, he is treated as a liar.

  • @Mechjoc
    @Mechjoc Год назад +11

    The last one... The brother is free to say, "I want a dress code at my wedding." Just as the poster is free to say, "I don't want to go." A compromise could be met, but it doesn't sound like the brother and fiancé want to.

    • @Voltaic_Fire
      @Voltaic_Fire Год назад +1

      It's their day and if they want a dress code then they can have one, they're certainly not obligated to cater to the tomboy sister at their wedding.

    • @Mechjoc
      @Mechjoc Год назад +1

      @@Voltaic_Fire Not Tom boy, but you're right. They can have one. Just like the poster can also decide not to go. It'll piss people off, but hey. Free will is a bitch like that.

    • @Voltaic_Fire
      @Voltaic_Fire Год назад

      @@Mechjoc I'm not arguing against her option not to go, her desires and the desires of the couple were incompatible so I think not going was the best option. And she is a tomboy, she's a woman who prefers to dress and act more like a man but isn't trans, unlike "non-binary" that isn't a new concept.

    • @DaBakedToast
      @DaBakedToast Год назад

      ​​@@Voltaic_Fireou sound extremely anti LGBTQ+ so just do everyone a favor do your research on the LGBTQ+ community and make sure you at least have more than a basic understanding of the LGBTQ+ community before commenting, so shut up... Please
      Edit: this is referring to how you call the OP a tom boy when they are non-binary

    • @orelliaorellia142
      @orelliaorellia142 11 месяцев назад

      For me (a woman) it is the same situation as if I would be asked to wear something super revealing as part of a dress code. Like, you are free to have a dress code, I am free to not want to spend a really uncomfortable day feeling bad in my clothes and wanting to hide in the near bathroom as much time as possible.
      I also agree with the comment that it seems targeted a bit at the OP since they are the only reason why such a rule should been set up.

  • @QuickManEXE
    @QuickManEXE Год назад +32

    Story 1: Jessica deserved to get fired and lose pretty much everything in her divorce. Just because you're a woman, does not mean you get a free pass to harass people. I know many bosses and HR's are useless that way, but there really cant be that double-standard, and its sad that nothing happens until someone either snaps or sues. People really need to learn how to both take NO for an answer and leave people alone.
    Story 2: A nice case of malicious compliance here. Good thing the OP didnt have to deal with any grief over this too.
    Story 3: The line "Go back to your country" happens all over the world, not just Germany.... very ignorant and stupid. As for the Karen, she was an idiot and hopefully the paperwork gets delayed or rejected if she were to come back again.
    Story 4: Oh boy, i always hate people that think they can get away with things or have special treatment just because their family (in this case husband) works for the police. Also, i think its extremely disturbing that someone like Jane was running a daycare. Thank god it shut down, she definitely should not be allowed near children. Also glad that her stupid husband was suspended, but too bad he wasn't fired. I hate police that think they are above the law and can do anything just because they are police. This all reminds me of a much older video on here where a cop was on a super powertrip and finally got sacked thanks to the guy that owned a gun range.
    Story 5: Ana is a big insensitive jerk here. The OP legit needs an eplipsy-trained service dog and they are literal life savers for those people. The OP doesnt just have "a dog", they have a lifeline and legally allowed to have them anywhere. Since the OP had a bad seizure like that without Bailey, Ana really should consider herself very lucky that the OP didnt decide to sue her for that. She literally put her life in danger by forcing the OP to keep Bailey outside. OP is not a jerk.... anyone who think so is a complete idiot. Ana doesn't deserve anyone in that friend group (or anyone in general) as a friend. Screw Ana.
    Story 6: The MIL here is a psycho and has a bad case of both empty nest syndrome and baby rabies. I would never ever allow her to take the baby alone, because i think the likelyhood of her taking off with the baby is very high.... especially if she is refering to him as "my baby". I think the OP needs to set more boundaries here, or go low to no contact and even get a restraining order here. I think its only a matter of time before the MIL tries something awful here.
    Story 7: While the OP isn't a jerk for not wanting to attend the wedding, it still is the brother's wedding so he and his wife has every right to have whatever kind of dress cose they want to. No one is a jerk here, but i do think things could be handled much differently and better by both parties here.

    • @mygreywolf
      @mygreywolf Год назад +2

      That was too much to read. People like the verbal script versus a lengthy wordy script.

    • @QuickManEXE
      @QuickManEXE Год назад +4

      @@mygreywolf They do say "jerk or not a jerk and why" a lot. I'm just giving my 2 cents on it is all.

    • @mygreywolf
      @mygreywolf Год назад +1

      @@QuickManEXE Lol, thanks for the summary!

    • @GenocidalSquid
      @GenocidalSquid Год назад

      Okay maybe Story 7 in my eyes was DRASTIC. To set the record, I try to be respectful towards all parties involved, so while I do have some scruples or a degree of being uncomfortable or unfamiliar with everything related, I try to at least keep moderation. TLDR; I respect OP's decision and the reaction may have been necessary, but I think all problems aside should be considered an exception.

    • @KadeBoucher-nr6lu
      @KadeBoucher-nr6lu Год назад +3

      Story 7 it doesn't matter if it's the brother's wedding it's disrespectful to just brush off someone's identity like that the op shouldn't be forced to wear something that they find offensive to them

  • @dutchvanderbilt9969
    @dutchvanderbilt9969 Год назад +9

    Two things: 1. Someone has a service dog they need that service dog and you have no authority or right to say where they can and cannot bring their service dog. That's service dog goes wherever they are person goes no questions asked. If you don't want the dog there then you don't want the person there either.
    2. That Grandma is demonstrating some seriously concerning behavior towards her grandchild and I would seriously consider putting her up in a psych ward or something. And honestly I really don't think you can give her a choice in the matter because ultimately I doubt that she's going to make the right choice for the good of herself and for others.

    • @JadeCaro
      @JadeCaro Год назад +3

      This. Agreed and agreed. Grandma's really creeping me out and I'd be too concerned to allow her to be anywhere close to my child. Eek

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад

      @@JadeCaro Extreme case of empty nest syndrome-have her committed ASAP.

  • @CreatingArt3185
    @CreatingArt3185 Год назад +10

    The grandmother story you just know she’d call social services on op if she ever tried to go non contact

  • @Myfavorites2012kcdj
    @Myfavorites2012kcdj Год назад +9

    #6 My mom groomed my daughter this same way, and I had to use her as a babysitter. Long story short, my mom disowned me in 2000, and my daughter is now 48 and to this day will not speak to me or her dad.

    • @SenseiRaisen
      @SenseiRaisen Год назад

      WOW! your mother deserve a beatdown for that.

  • @GodsPrincess4eva
    @GodsPrincess4eva Год назад +2

    Story #4’s outcome of the karen & her policeman husband is throughly satisfying!

  • @GodsPrincess4eva
    @GodsPrincess4eva Год назад +7

    Story #5: honey, you do not have to apologize for anything. You did not do anything wrong. I think it’s time you get some new friends that are more supportive of your medical condition. I had something similar happen during the beginning of my breast cancer diagnosis. There were a few people around me that I thought were going to be supportive but I was wrong. They didn’t flat out say that I was looking for attention every time I talked about my diagnosis but they would look at me a certain way. SMH. Thank God they are no longer apart of my life!

  • @R4yj4ck
    @R4yj4ck Год назад +58

    Story 7: "Put aside your identity" What a quick and easy phrase to know your family don't respect you

    • @GabePickles3837
      @GabePickles3837 Год назад

      I agree.

    • @killerking354breh7
      @killerking354breh7 Год назад +5

      Bruh, maybe they just want a traditional wedding? Like just cause you feel like a computer doesn’t mean that you can just say no I won’t do what is expected

    • @H3xx99
      @H3xx99 Год назад +11

      @@killerking354breh7 Traditional weddings means that people who look and dress like men wear suits. OP Dresses as a man, and presents as Male. Ergo, OP should wear a Suit. But OP has been specifically singled out to wear a dress. Even though they present as Male. I'll give you a hint, in case this is giving you trouble. If someone presents as male, that means, untill they tell you otherwise, they're male and should be treated as such. Otherwise, the contents of their pants are none of your business and has nothing to do with the clothes they should or should not wear.

    • @killerking354breh7
      @killerking354breh7 Год назад +9

      @@H3xx99 bruh, that’s called a tomboy and even then, put away your pride for one day to honer your brothers wishes and even if she was singled out then what? Who cares cause it’s all about fucking feelings when the op is not special

    • @killerking354breh7
      @killerking354breh7 Год назад

      @@H3xx99 and I never said anything about what’s in their pants? I may be someone who literally only supports lgbtq not the motherfuckers who wanna feel special and give make themselves alphabet people

  • @FallenA-hr9lb
    @FallenA-hr9lb Год назад +8

    Story 5 could actually sue the ex friend and the parents because the service dog wasn’t able to do their job, also wouldn’t you be actually apologetic to your friend for sending them to the hospital when it could’ve been avoided

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад

      Disbelief in the need for a service dog for anything other than blindness is not only ignorant, it is also malicious. If Ana and her ilk are still being jerks, hang that lawsuit over their heads like a Sword of Damocles.

  • @juliabanes204
    @juliabanes204 Год назад +6

    As a person who is invisibly disabled (I only need crutches in winter, and most of the time I only have one within reach if I'm tired) I can really relate to the epilepsy poster; it's exceptionally hard on us when people don't believe/brush off our needs. I have an aunt who doesn't really believe that I'm disabled enough to have a special parking disk; I nearly walked out on Mom's Christmas day lunch when she made a comment that I didn't seem to be bad enough to justify it. Mom saw my face and quickly jumped in to shift the conversation on. Yes, I didn't *seem* to be bad enough but she didn't see the toll it took on my body to just be out of bed, dressed, with makeup on. I had to move from the small cottage I was renting, into living with a family relative, and it resulted in taking me three days of full bed-rest just to recover enough to slowly start taking care of myself and looking for work. Anyone need an admin or basic accounts person or someone to remotely guide their kids through their schoolwork??

  • @H3xx99
    @H3xx99 Год назад +12

    In the last story, The OP is nonbinary and Male presenting, ergo even though they were born with female sex organs, they present as Male, Dress as Male, and are extremely uncomfortable in feminine clothing. The fact that their family do not respect them enough to let them dress in their appropriate attire, aka, a suit, shows that the request was made maliciously.

    • @ScryeTheMindless
      @ScryeTheMindless Год назад

      OOOOORRRRR MMMAAAYYYBBEEE The needs of the many out why the few. OR Maybe they could of just gone as a guest. So hell mate i really gotta ask are you lot (take it how ever you want in order to justify flipping your lid) all just born selfish or is it kinda of like a self-taught kind of self-entitlement? Cause not everyone is as toxic as what ever mob you emerged from.

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад +1

      Yeah, I'm thinking old school logic combined with a Machiavellian dress code.

  • @gotenblack2542
    @gotenblack2542 Год назад +11

    The reason for the boss not helping is because he’s a simp

    • @Charles-7
      @Charles-7 Год назад

      and likely thinks that men can't be raped as often as women, when in reality it's not uncommon.

  • @fullmetalgamer6062
    @fullmetalgamer6062 Год назад +7

    Story 6: It's time to put your foot down and lay down the boundaries. If she doesn't like it, you should tell her she won't be allowed to see your children until she gets her act together. Don't let her guilt trip tactics defile you.

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад

      MIL could simply adopt if she has severe empty nest syndrome.

  • @iceprincess8054
    @iceprincess8054 Год назад +3

    Story5: OP, I used to have seizures when I was growing up and they are extremely scary for everyone involved. My mom used to NEVER get much sleep until she knew that I wasn’t going to have a seizure if she went to sleep. So I now (25f turning 26) are still capable of having them again. So no you aren’t the jerk. Ana most definitely is the biggest jerk and so is her family.

  • @firefly4f4
    @firefly4f4 Год назад +5

    Last story:
    OP is NOT the jerk. Full stop, no exceptions. Leave any gender out of it, and please tell me what's inappropriate on any level for ANYONE to wear a suit to a wedding?

    • @ScryeTheMindless
      @ScryeTheMindless Год назад

      Yeah sorry that isn't gonna to work because if leaving gender out of it...... they would of worn the dress. So maynbe wait for the penny to drop before claiming a full stop.... And here, the answer you had asked for "please tell me what's inappropriate on any level for ANYONE to wear a suit to a wedding?" When it goes against the dress code set by the Bride and groom, ya know for THEIR WEDDING.

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад +1

      @@ScryeTheMindless Logic seems to denote they set the dress code maliciously due to their lack of respect for OP's gender identity. The groom had to have known about OP presenting as male.

    • @DaBakedToast
      @DaBakedToast Год назад

      ​@@ScryeTheMindlessyou sound so anti LGBTQ+ right now, just shut up, the bride and groom made the dress maliciously and could very easily come to a compromise that doesn't make the OP uncomfortable for story 7

  • @KING_OF_HELL999
    @KING_OF_HELL999 Год назад +3

    Bro I would say "Dude just kick your mom out or go away and leave her"

  • @JOBSPYGAMES
    @JOBSPYGAMES Год назад +3

    People who talk about grass and never touch it.

  • @ElecticalCheetah
    @ElecticalCheetah Год назад +3

    Op and her husband should have grown back bones, never allowed guilt tripping,
    They need to sit down with their son and ask what has grandma been saying to him and start to distance him away from her, because that isn’t right

  • @AmadallisCosplay
    @AmadallisCosplay Год назад +2

    op in th last story is absolutely not the AH/jerk. How fawking dare you ask someone to litterally denounce who they are for "their wedding" like mcscuse me WHAT?!😭

  • @multigameswithryan9215
    @multigameswithryan9215 Год назад +3

    Janes partner could have gotten fired for misconduct and potentially even harrasment. It's sad that it's this rare for a police officer to get fired for such. I remember a video with an officer speeding 85 Mph on a 35 NEXT TO A SCHOOL. He only got fired. He didn't get arrested just fired. Except this was not in the U.S or a western European country so I suppose that could be part of it

  • @ayiir7
    @ayiir7 Год назад +5

    Story 7: I’m a woman who hates wearing dresses/skirts, makeup, purses, et cetera. And, I was asked to be a bridesmaid once and wear a dress and a full face of makeup along with a few other things I wouldn’t be caught in otherwise. There had to be a compromise somewhere, and imo, the person who the event is actually for and about shouldn’t be the one who had to do it. It was an honor to be asked play that part in her wedding and if it makes her happy, I’ll wear all of it for a few hours. It’s not my wedding. It’s not about me and what makes ME comfortable. It’s about her and what makes HER happy. I’d want my wedding to be exactly as envisioned. This isn’t a matter of prejudice, but of actual pride. We need to learn how to love and make sacrifices for others and when it’s appropriate to be on the receiving or giving ends of that sacrifice.

  • @robertscholfield4048
    @robertscholfield4048 5 дней назад

    The Coo Husband may have got his job back but he will have a flashlight shining up it forever

  • @robertraynj13
    @robertraynj13 Год назад +1

    Story 6: that woman would never see my children again. I would file a restraining order against her and move to another state.

  • @ez90ify
    @ez90ify Год назад +3

    Story 5 honestly i would have tried to sue anna since she wanted the service dog out and the op had hit her head when she had the seizure

  • @DanielGonzalez-qk6sd
    @DanielGonzalez-qk6sd Год назад +7

    Story 7: honestly, I am going to say this really is a case of no jerks here.
    Regardless of how people feel this *is* the wedding of OP’s little brother. As such, he and his future wife can 100% state any limits they want and it is justified.
    That said, just because the brother and future wife can set up any limits or requirements, does not mean they are exempted from consequences. A consequence of this will be not having OP arrive. They need to weigh that amongst any other pros and cons.
    On that note OP needs to do the same. This situation, more the likely, will be a precedent setting situation for how things are handled in the family. OP needs to decide if creating a rift/ risking going low or no contact is something they want to do.
    Overall though I see no jerks here.

    • @killerking354breh7
      @killerking354breh7 Год назад +1

      Yeah, cause to me the op can just let her pride go for one day and I understand the brother wants a dress code with a more traditional wedding, I can understand that the op is a tomboy whose more comfortable in male clothing

  • @Mongolenfreak
    @Mongolenfreak Год назад +4

    Last Story is easy: the ones hosting the party/wedding decide on the rules, the ones with invitation decide if they are ok with them or stay home. If op's brother wanted them there, they have the power to change the rules, but they don't have the power to change op and their identity.

  • @AugustaSleepy
    @AugustaSleepy Год назад +1

    These are scheduled uploads and I love them as their always posted at 7:45-7:46p.m my time and 11:15-11:16a.m my time.

  • @arandompersonintheinternet8425
    @arandompersonintheinternet8425 Год назад +2

    damn!, Happy one million subs!!

  • @totallyworksperfectly5424
    @totallyworksperfectly5424 Год назад +1

    Epilepsy is so bad, I have epilepsy and was diagnosed when I was 16 years old. It wrecked my life, I don't recommend it at all. Now I am 19 years old, lost my car license and living in a carravan park

  • @TheIzzlzzy
    @TheIzzlzzy Год назад +1

    I appreciate it when you play Race the Sun, it’s a childhood game I played a lot, and I’m sad it was shut down on the ps3.

  • @carriemeadows9119
    @carriemeadows9119 Год назад +1

    CONGRATS ON 100k

  • @alejandrofigueroa2431
    @alejandrofigueroa2431 Год назад +1

    0:00 Story No. 1
    2:38 Story No. 2
    5:16 Story No. 3
    7:16 Story No. 4
    10:53 Story No. 5
    14:16 Story No. 6
    18:17 Story No. 7

  • @dragonweyr44
    @dragonweyr44 Год назад +3

    1st story: The strangest thing about this story is that she was hitting on a gay man. What was she hoping to accomplish?

    • @Charles-7
      @Charles-7 Год назад +1

      not sure if the op mentioned that part, yet yeah sexually harassments towards men can't just be laughed off like that, it should be treated the same way a women gets sexually harassed

    • @dragonweyr44
      @dragonweyr44 Год назад +1

      @@Charles-7 Believe it or not, I, a man was the victim of a false sexual harassment complaint in 1994
      I was working in a factory as a temporary worker and a woman who got off on filing false sexual harassment charges, filed one on me.
      I didn't get fired because of her but I never got hired on full time either

    • @Charles-7
      @Charles-7 Год назад +1

      @@dragonweyr44 if only sexual harassments charges had doctors involved, just to prove if there is really any injuries in that part of the body.
      and also in spite of me not being born yet, I'm so sorry that you were facing that false claim at the time.

    • @dragonweyr44
      @dragonweyr44 Год назад +1

      @@Charles-7 The truly sad part of that encounter was, although I worked RIGHT NEXT to this woman, in the two weeks I knew her, I only spoke literally less that 20 words to her
      At the time of the incident, I had worked as a temp for this company for about 6 months and they hire after 9.
      This woman was a full time employee but I just met her 2 weeks before
      I posted the full story on reddit

  • @brandonnewby178
    @brandonnewby178 15 дней назад

    1:26: *Boss: C'mooon, bro... Did you _see_ that dress?!

  • @ACandCC
    @ACandCC 10 месяцев назад +1

    Story 1: Couldn't tell if OP was a guy in a straight relationship and Jessica was a Bisexual woman, or OP was a gay guy in a relationship and Jessica was straight. Now I know. Amd OP is not a jerk!

  • @brianrogers7360
    @brianrogers7360 Год назад +1

    That mother that's trying to take over with the baby, remove her from the equation. She is dangerous.

  • @linbeifong9760
    @linbeifong9760 Год назад +8

    Story 7:
    The OP's family are the jerks.
    If the OP feels most comfortable in more masculine presenting clothes, then they should be able to do that. Most cisgender people don't understand what gender dysphoria feels like and how it can mentally damage someone.
    They shouldn't have to suffer in a dress if it makes them uncomfortable. Sure, the guests should accommodate for the bride and groom since it's their day, but forcing someone to wear something that causes them mental harm is crossing a line, in my opinion.

    • @Park-Kim_VMin
      @Park-Kim_VMin Год назад +3

      😂 I love guy clothes, but I am a woman I identify as one as well I was also born as one this is called a tomboy. I do not have gender dysphoria I don't believe I'm a boy and I don't think I'm a man in fact I know I'm a woman.

    • @dimitriusmendez13
      @dimitriusmendez13 Год назад

      The Op identifies as non-binary, they don't have a gender, calling them a tomboy is really offensive and just assuming your situations are similar is wrong

    • @killerking354breh7
      @killerking354breh7 Год назад +1

      Bruh, maybe they just want a traditional wedding? Like just cause you feel like a computer doesn’t mean that you can just say no I won’t do what is expected

    • @linbeifong9760
      @linbeifong9760 Год назад +2

      @@killerking354breh7 Like I said, it's my opinion. You don't have to agree.

    • @linbeifong9760
      @linbeifong9760 Год назад +2

      @@Park-Kim_VMin And that's great. I'm saying that there are people who don't conform with the gender binary of male or female, who feel more comfortable in clothes designed towards a specific gender.
      And there are women who prefer more masculine clothing without identifying as trans or nonbinary.

  • @leslielewis3564
    @leslielewis3564 Год назад +4

    Grandma needs a psychiatrist 😂

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад

      Extreme case of empty nest syndrome right there. She's had a lot of time to think about adopting a child as a contingency option instead of trying to steal her own daughter's child.

  • @gaigegates2784
    @gaigegates2784 Год назад

    Congratulations on 1million subs

  • @darthkai9047
    @darthkai9047 Год назад

    Happy 1 mill🎉

  • @11rahimis1234
    @11rahimis1234 Год назад +2

    Story 6 You NEED, NEEEEEEEEEEEED to get mother in law AWAY from you and your family NOW. Her obsession is disgusting and she needs serious help. You need to get away from her fast and make sure she does not come near you or your family until she gets help

  • @Listentotheread
    @Listentotheread Год назад +2

    If someone is non binary, then why would it matter? I don’t like wearing dresses either, but for a special occasion, pictures being taken, its one day for heavens sake. Sometimes you do things to make others happy, especially when they are your family and you love them.

    • @DaBakedToast
      @DaBakedToast Год назад

      No, I don't you understand, he doesn't feel like he belongs wearing feminine clothing and it's really insensitive and kinda anti LGBTQ+ of the Bride and groom and kinda you too, to assume they can just deal with it it's like going to school naked you feel humiliated, and now I'm definitely not the best person to explain this because I'm explaining it to my understanding as someone who supports the LGBTQ+ community, but I believe I have enough of the basic understanding needed to explain this

  • @mrrobloxgaming3613
    @mrrobloxgaming3613 Год назад +1

    The karen could of bin like I don't need help I got this

  • @tobybarclay6215
    @tobybarclay6215 Год назад +1

    My mom has epilepsy too and has only gotten a focal sizeer once

  • @rtcdebbie
    @rtcdebbie Год назад +2

    non binary is not the jerk

  • @HoneyBeeCrafts
    @HoneyBeeCrafts Год назад +1

    Story 1: female here. Had a Susie at FedUp. She still works there. Flirts very badly with all males. But I sadly wasn’t left out. My hubby works with us. She doesn’t flirt with him, I’d see it. I kept asking the managers to put me somewhere else and telling them why. She flirts with them too. Just laughed me off.
    They talked with her about it. She went to hr. I told them to look at the cameras, they would see her coming at me , claiming I was flirting with one her men. Nope, not me, still happily married and I wouldn’t disrespect my coworkers like that.
    Hr didn’t care, rolled eyes and fired me. Making sure I couldn’t work at any other FedUp either.
    She’s not single, tells everyone she’s in a motel because her landlord sucks. She also has 4 kids, 3 large dogs, two ended up giving her 8 puppies.. and 3 vehicles…. What motel is letting all that rent a room. And why didn’t anyone at work catch on to her lies. The happy cheater also lied her bf was abusing her.
    She’s now manager, still gets nearly all guys to quit, but she thinks it’s the job lol. Hubs still works there but not for much longer, hopefully. He’s got another job lined up.
    Sadly, I don’t have a lawyer friend whom could have helped me because it’s not slander if it’s true.

  • @ognjensavic-dj2fm
    @ognjensavic-dj2fm Год назад

    Good work on. Getting 1 mil man

  • @AlphamaleAO
    @AlphamaleAO 9 месяцев назад

    First guy is a GIGA CHAD

  • @whitewolf8458
    @whitewolf8458 Год назад +3

    Yeah you are the herk for allowing grandma for talking over...just do things yourself on your own..dont call her or tell her or meet her, jusr do it yourself.

  • @monroerobbins7551
    @monroerobbins7551 Год назад

    3:42 like the reference from the OP about Bill and Ted :>

  • @MDonteMoore
    @MDonteMoore Год назад +3

    Story 7: I am confused. First the Bride to Be asked OP to be part of the bridal party and with that stated there was a dress code for the Bridal Party. Then when the OP follows up the dress code is now mandatory for all guests. Did it change or was that always going to be the outcome? Look I understand some people are all about Tradition, but I do not believe tradition should ever override your family. Tradition sounds great until it includes something that excludes you. I am on the OPs side for this one.

    • @DaBakedToast
      @DaBakedToast Год назад +1

      Thank you so many of the people replying and making posts about this story sound and probably are anti LGBTQ+ which makes me so sick, and feel so bad for the LGBTQ+ community, but you are an absolutely based guy or gal or nonbinary or trans or any other gender (had to make sure I specified the main groups on the topic of LGBTQ+ or else probably would be harassed and called a hypocrite and I wanted to give most types of people proper representation in my comment)👍

    • @MDonteMoore
      @MDonteMoore Год назад

      @@DaBakedToast thanks, I'm just an average person or human works as well. :-)

    • @DaBakedToast
      @DaBakedToast Год назад

      @@MDonteMoore you're welcome

  • @Slimmark2
    @Slimmark2 Год назад +1

    @baby story, go NO CONTACT with MIL... And make sure the cops know the situation....

  • @GLItCh761_
    @GLItCh761_ Год назад

    i love lising to this in the backround well playing games

  • @WolfyLady73
    @WolfyLady73 Год назад

    Story 7 I have hated dresses and skirts for most of my life. I wouldn't feel comfortable with that request. I would/have worn dress pants and a blouse to weddings, funerals, or anything that requires dressing up. I wouldn't go if that was the requirement.

  • @Bigdan678
    @Bigdan678 Год назад +1

    Dude u should be a psychiatrist. What u say is deep my dude

  • @midnightbluefairy
    @midnightbluefairy Год назад +41

    The last story is typical toxic anti-pride behaviour: if they showed up in a dress, $5 says the bride will go on saying “See? Doesn’t it feel better wearing girl clothes? You make a big deal about this gender neutral BS but you should dress like a normal person more often” or possibly a more subtle back-handed compliment. Don’t go my dear, it’s clear entrapment 😡

    • @mygreywolf
      @mygreywolf Год назад +7

      If you are asked to represent the bride expect to wear a dress. Unless of course if it's a non contemporary wedding. Which this is not. You are ultimately promoting trans bulling. Both sides need to stop the bs.

    • @Park-Kim_VMin
      @Park-Kim_VMin Год назад +3

      ​@@mygreywolf Agree 💯

    • @killerking354breh7
      @killerking354breh7 Год назад +5

      Bruh, maybe they just want a traditional wedding? Like just cause you feel like a computer doesn’t mean that you can just say no I won’t do what is expected

    • @dollface2907
      @dollface2907 Год назад +8

      the thing with the last one is a wedding is about the bride and groom, given she was asked to put her gender identity aside for one day makes me think if she we to the wedding she would have the spotlight on her as a non biniary and not the bride and groom, the funny thing is if you were asked by your brother or sister to put aside your identity for one day i think you can do it for family tbh the op seems abit self fish for only thinking about herself given it seem the couple want a traditional wedding which is fine

    • @wowgek7
      @wowgek7 Год назад +1

      op is being difficult in the last story if she doesnt feel like either gender she can just pick if you dont wanna wear the dress do the suit its that simple op doesnt seem to want to do either

  • @cliffordmaynard6559
    @cliffordmaynard6559 2 месяца назад

    On the story about the Seizure dog,op you are absolutely NOT the jerk, that CRAZY girl, her mother and her sister ARE the jerks. Just let them be OUT of your life and your friends lives,you all will be better off with out her in your alls life's.

  • @SEK-Clan
    @SEK-Clan Год назад +1

    The Story with the German speaking country was not Germany because it is basically illegal to insult someone.
    It is also illegal not helping someone!!

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад +2

      It could've been Switzerland or Austria-the people in those countries speak German too.

    • @SEK-Clan
      @SEK-Clan Год назад

      @@JamesDavy2009 Yeah that’s was I was thinking 2

  • @joosyjulie
    @joosyjulie Год назад +1

    Story 1: Jessica obviously was one of those women that think a gay man can be changed, if they just had the right woman, namely her.
    Service dog lady, just block them.
    Story 7. Huh? I am definitely female, yet I would wear trousers to a wedding as I hate skirts.

  • @brandonnewby178
    @brandonnewby178 15 дней назад

    19:03: I remember when people listening to voices in their heads got psychiatric help they needed instead of special treatment they didn't deserve.

  • @Spamtonthedude_
    @Spamtonthedude_ Год назад +1

    Grass is a type of plant with narrow leaves growing from the base. Their appearance as a common plant was in the mid-Cretaceous period. There are 12,000 species now.[1]
    A common kind of grass is used to cover the ground in places such as lawns and parks. Grass is usually the color green. That is because they are wind-pollinated rather than insect-pollinated, so they do not have to attract insects. Green is the best colour for photosynthesis.
    Grasslands such as savannah and prairie where grasses are dominant cover 40.5% of the land area of the Earth, except Greenland and Antarctica.[2]
    Grasses are monocotyledon herbaceous plants. They include the "grass" of the family Poaceae, which are called grass by ordinary people. This family is also called the Gramineae, and includes some of the sedges (Cyperaceae) and the rushes (Juncaceae).[3] These three families are not very closely related, though all of them belong to clades in the order Poales. They are similar adaptations to a similar life-style.
    With around 780 genera and around 12,000 species,[1] the Poaceae is the fifth-largest plant family, after the Asteraceae, Orchidaceae, Fabaceae and Rubiaceae.[4]
    The true grasses include cereals, bamboo and the grasses of lawns (turf) and grassland. Uses for graminoids include food (as grain, sprouted grain, shoots or rhizomes), drink (beer, whisky), pasture for livestock, thatching thatch, paper, fuel, clothing, insulation, construction, sports turf, basket weaving and many others.
    Many grasses are short, but some grasses can grow tall, such as bamboo. Plants from the grass family can grow in many places and make grasslands, including areas which are very arid or cold. There are several other plants that look similar to grass and are referred to as such, but are not members of the grass family. These plants include rushes, reeds, papyrus and water chestnut. Seagrass is a monocot in the order Alismatales.
    Grasses are an important food for many animals, such as deer, buffalo, cattle, mice, grasshoppers, caterpillars and many other grazers. Unlike other plants, grasses grow from the bottom, so when animals eat grass they usually do not destroy the part that grows.[5] This is a part of why the plants are successful. Without grass, soil may wash away into rivers (erosion).

    • @MikinessAnalog
      @MikinessAnalog Год назад

      i want the kind that's used on golf courses lol

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад

      They also have a pleasant-to-us in-danger smell.

  • @codyturner9741
    @codyturner9741 Год назад

    Im a dog person myself as long as the dog wasnt tearing anything up(which being trained it wouldnt) id have no problem an if i need the dog out for a good reason id try to see what i could do to make it easier maybe move the party outside or something

  • @mygreywolf
    @mygreywolf Год назад

    Let's just face it. What the bride and groom wants is their thing. Their day, their way. If you are asked to be part of the bridal party, then know you will adhere to their dressing specifications. In this day and age they really need to be upfront and allow you to turn the honor down. But then dress appropriately as a witness to the matrimony as you feel comfortable. Compromise is easy once you allow it to happen.

    • @DaBakedToast
      @DaBakedToast Год назад

      So what are you saying you agree with the OP for story 7 or what?

  • @Charles-7
    @Charles-7 Год назад

    with story 6: the op better step up and lay down some strict boundaries and remind her that a kid needs their parents, one who gave birth to them, and the other who offered the seed of life to his egg, if the MIL is still doing it after op telling her that she needs time with her own flesh and blood and with his father too(if he's still around that is), then the only option left to really stop her, is to have police involved and file a restraining order for the child's sake.

  • @brandonnewby178
    @brandonnewby178 15 дней назад

    14:41: So is this like, a reverse oedipus?

  • @timothygeorge335
    @timothygeorge335 11 месяцев назад

    20:01 as a straight male that has been maid of honor several times for friends yes I felt awkward as hell at the time but damn can I rock a dress😂

  • @paylove5173
    @paylove5173 Год назад +2

    That last story why doesn’t the brother just allow them to be a groomsman instead of a bridesmaid sent it seems to fit more of the masculine presenting gender identity

  • @viviennemorgan7217
    @viviennemorgan7217 Год назад +3

    is op female or male when jessica started flirting with her or him?

    • @viviennemorgan7217
      @viviennemorgan7217 Год назад +1

      and i wonder what happened to jessica?

    • @QuickManEXE
      @QuickManEXE Год назад +1

      Looks like the OP is male, but really wasn't clear.

    • @linbeifong9760
      @linbeifong9760 Год назад +2

      OP is male (pretty sure).
      Jessica says that she likes it when men play hard to get, but she was getting impatient.

    • @Charles-7
      @Charles-7 Год назад

      she was flirting with a man who is already taken, and was not only sexually harassing him (not a joke mind you) yet was putting her own marriage in jeopardy.

  • @brandonnewby178
    @brandonnewby178 15 дней назад

    16:16: How though?!?!

  • @LunaP1
    @LunaP1 Год назад

    Story 6, grandma is missing a straight jacket. Screw trying to reason with her because she is beyond mentally unstable and is becoming a danger to everyone.

  • @firealt9883
    @firealt9883 Год назад +1

    Whats the game thats being played in the background?

  • @Idiotrelay
    @Idiotrelay Год назад

    Finally, another story first

    • @miau_OF
      @miau_OF Год назад

      Nuh uh

    • @Idiotrelay
      @Idiotrelay Год назад +1

      @@miau_OF I AM THE FIRST

    • @miau_OF
      @miau_OF Год назад

      @@Idiotrelay am I'm the jerk shorts got first so nuh uh

  • @cliffordmaynard6559
    @cliffordmaynard6559 2 месяца назад

    On the story about the CRAZY mil, you all need to tell NO. She is crossing some boundaries and you all need to put your foot down on her WERID behavior.

  • @Charles-7
    @Charles-7 Год назад +2

    this is why males should be treated as equally as females when being sexually harasses, it's ridiculous to think that men can't be raped, when it doesn't just happen in that hole, it also the case in the other where both genders has it, and that too can be injured when something is forcefully inserted into it, without the consent of the victim btw, so yeah men being sexually harassed should taken as seriously as women, not being laughed off like that.

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад

      Our perceptions of sexual harassment and domestic violence, along with those of the justice system are sadly sexist against men.

    • @Charles-7
      @Charles-7 Год назад

      @@JamesDavy2009 yeah, they just never seem to notice that particular hole can get damaged as much as the other.

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад

      @@Charles-7 People have been known to die from damage to the rectum.

    • @Charles-7
      @Charles-7 Год назад

      @@JamesDavy2009 from losing that much blood through it?

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад

      @@Charles-7 More like the microbiome getting into the bloodstream. The large intestine has an ecosystem of microbes.

  • @brandonnewby178
    @brandonnewby178 15 дней назад

    15:43: how are you allowing this question mark are you living with her or something?

  • @skittlemenow
    @skittlemenow Год назад

    The one about the racist in Germany. If I was the dude I would have helped her out at the end instead of closing it. He's only reinforcing the racist beliefs the way he did things. You can't beat hate without love.

    • @skittlemenow
      @skittlemenow Год назад

      That lady with the psycho MIL needs to cut ties. That's absolutely insane and sounds like it will get dangerous. That last story is freaking annoying. Yes you absolutely are the jerk the wedding isn't about you stop trying to make it about you.

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад +1

      Germany is one of three countries I know of that have German as an official language; the other two being Austria and Switzerland.

  • @crosshair213
    @crosshair213 Год назад +1

    for the last story i feel like the brother and his wife should be a bit more understanding as i myself am of the LGBTQ+ but at the same time her being non binary and all can swallow her pride a bit as it is only one event, if they just always wanted her to be one gender then i could see the problem but with it being a wedding for the brother and his wife i think that she can go with what they ask for the wedding but make it clear that she won't always do that and will want to be herself

  • @voidthe3f859
    @voidthe3f859 Год назад +13

    Story 7: absolutely NOT the jerk, as somebody who is a male but thinks of themselves as both genders the brother, future wife, and mother are ALL in the wrong. They caused this rift upon themselves OP is not to blame for this despite what her family and family-in-law say, they disrespected OP’s boundaries by setting up a dress code that THEY KNEW would tick OP off and then getting angry at OP because they didn’t want to go to their wedding due to the dress code? Not cool, if i were in this position i too would NOT attend the wedding and if my family and family-in-law try to guilt trip me i would keep deflecting them unless they changed the dress code FOR GOOD. Once again my claim is STRONGLY that OP is NOT the jerk in this story, hats off to OP for handling the situation rather well though! I know a lot of other people that are non-binary would have their fuses cut down rapidly and would explode on those that tried to get them to stick to a binary that they didn’t want

    • @killerking354breh7
      @killerking354breh7 Год назад +1

      Bruh, maybe they just want a traditional wedding? Like just cause you feel like a computer doesn’t mean that you can just say no I won’t do what is expected

    • @dollface2907
      @dollface2907 Год назад +1

      the last story is really an everyone sucks, and the irony is op could of put her feeling aside for one day for her family, also people seem to forget that the day is about 2 people and some of these stories is either a family member or a friend wanting the day to be catered to them, also the other thing is if wedding guests dont know op is non binary then it might turn into a coming out and ruin the day for the bride and groom, there is sadly no winning here

    • @linbeifong9760
      @linbeifong9760 Год назад

      ​@@dollface2907There are cisgender women who wear suits.
      It's not only a nonbinary thing.

  • @marywood5438
    @marywood5438 Год назад

    what game is that?

  • @Bobdrew-bs7pn
    @Bobdrew-bs7pn Год назад

    Nice

  • @TonicRobotnik
    @TonicRobotnik 7 месяцев назад

    For that last one, I have to admit OP is being a bit of a jerk. As a fellow non binary person, I’ve stood my ground on the matter of “I’m going to dress in what makes me most comfortable”. That being said, when my sister asked me to attend her wedding I knew she already had an outfit for me in mind. She planned that wedding since we were still rocking single digits, and unfortunately already had to compromise so much of her original plan. From the venue to the catering, and even her in laws going against her will and paying to have an open bar when she’d wanted it to stay a dry event. Her future sister in law was even making it a personal goal to get a more expensive “white” dress. The color was at least nixed by a unanimous ruling from both families, as the color of the women’s dresses had to be burgundy or as close to that color as possible. Which brings me back to my point. My sister wanted me to be there, but she wanted me to wear a nice dress. She even offered to pay for it, which I declined, but the point had been made. I wore the prettiest burgundy dress to my sister’s wedding and I don’t regret it. A beautiful ceremony, a memorable occasion, and it was worth every bit of discomfort. My sister didn’t need me making a stink about my attire on a day that doesn’t concern me. It wouldn’t have made a difference to anyone else, but it mattered to her what I wore. Being able to support my sister in the littlest way meant so much to her.
    It was a big important event, but in no way does it revolve around me, it’s not my place to make a stink because I personally did’t want to follow a dress code. So yeah, I’d have to say the last OP was being a jerk. Not their day, not their say. If bro really wants them there, they should go for that reason alone. Be a little uncomfortable, it’s one day.

  • @VlRU7S
    @VlRU7S Год назад +3

    Honestly I feel bad for the woman in the beginning
    “Some woman was flirting with me and instead of just getting hr to do something I absolutely ruined her existence m”

    • @aidenmcknight-hh6ck
      @aidenmcknight-hh6ck Год назад +1

      Good job bro

    • @awesomebros711
      @awesomebros711 Год назад +3

      I have to disagree with you on this one, if it was some mild flirting every now and then, then I would agree, but this was closer to sexual harassment then anything. She knew he was taken and still persisted, he even tried to talk to her and report the behavior and nothing worked.

    • @VlRU7S
      @VlRU7S Год назад

      @@awesomebros711 well that falls under the whole hr thing more than most but I do agree that she should have stopped, but I think the guy should have also stopped with getting her fired

    • @ivorynk752
      @ivorynk752 Год назад +2

      He tried going to HR and they dismissed him

    • @awesomebros711
      @awesomebros711 Год назад

      @@VlRU7S I can agree with that, the divorce help was a bit much

  • @Denise-pn1tj
    @Denise-pn1tj Год назад

    #7 is being the jerk. There’s a reason they said a dress code. It has nothing to do with so much targeting the OP but they want their wedding to look a certain way. If OP shows up wearing a tuxedo but it’s obviously the sister of the groom it just looks weird. No offense, but this is their day. This is their wedding one day to conform is not a huge deal. Missing their wedding would really be a jerk move and would be regretted later. It does no harm to conform for one day. When you’re in a wedding, you wear what they have you wear. The men wear whatever suits their assigned, and the women wear whatever dresses there a sign doesn’t matter what you want to be presenting as if you’re standing on one side of the aisle you’re going to wear with that side of the aisle is wearing.

  • @Manbanpli
    @Manbanpli Год назад

    Bro in story 3 if you wanted the man to help me you had to put points on charisma not on speed

  • @Goodnight426
    @Goodnight426 Год назад

    Bro you ain’t first

  • @livie4lifeslayyas
    @livie4lifeslayyas Год назад +3

    Co-Worker won't STOP Hitting on Me, so I help Her Ex-Husband WIN their Divorce

  • @hugiel847
    @hugiel847 Год назад

    Story 1: is the op gay???

  • @Dragunov1111
    @Dragunov1111 Год назад

    I wana see that six...

  • @mariahernandezdiaz243
    @mariahernandezdiaz243 5 месяцев назад

    Is it just me or does the narrator sound different

  • @Alex_Fierro2772
    @Alex_Fierro2772 Год назад +3

    The last story: so I’ve seen people in the comments are saying “oh they can just put their pride away for a day” first of all, once your out, it’s not that easy to do and sucks. Second, you forget about gender dysphoria. Seeing as clearly none of you know how that feels, so here, it can feel like this: imagine you’re at school, and about to head to your next class, walk into the room, and realize it’s the wrong room. You look around, realizing these are all the wrong people, you shouldn’t be here. Everyone is looking at you, knowing you don’t belong there. You want to get out of the room as quickly as possible. That’s how gender dysphoria can feel. So I hope some of you realize that no, op was not in the wrong, and the bride/groom were being jerks, singling out op, and making them wear something they don’t feel comfortable wearing that gives them gender dysphoria.

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад +3

      I get having dress codes at a wedding-last one I attended had me wear red-but explicitly stating something as common sense as men wearing suits and women wearing dresses screams malice and a lack of respect towards the OP.

    • @Alex_Fierro2772
      @Alex_Fierro2772 Год назад +2

      @@JamesDavy2009 yes, exactly.

  • @YourAverageGamer-
    @YourAverageGamer- Год назад

    987th like (love your vids but am running out of nice things to say (that I haven’t already commented) so hopefully I can think of some more)

  • @Billy_plays2017
    @Billy_plays2017 Год назад

    Hi

  • @solopr2260
    @solopr2260 Год назад

    Pls get Csgo game play

  • @JordanScottking
    @JordanScottking Год назад

    1M!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @sarahwoodyard6533
    @sarahwoodyard6533 Год назад

    Then don't go to the wedding. If you can't figure out what's between your legs, stay home. Doesn't make you or the wedding party a jerk. Makes the wedding a traditional one and you are simply not comfortable with the genetic tradition of men and women. Stay home, send a card.
    OR
    Talk to the bridal party and ask if you can wear a fancy business suit..

  • @raybonilla1506
    @raybonilla1506 Год назад +1

    story #5: only reason they would be a jerk is because they knowingly walked away from their service dog knowing that they could have a seizure in someone else's home. they could have just left especially since it is Ana's house and she did not want the dog there. if OP stayed knowing that a seizure could happen and ruin the way people see Ana because she is not comfortable with dogs or has a slight case of Cynophobia, then OP is a bit of a jerk.

    • @JamesDavy2009
      @JamesDavy2009 Год назад +2

      I haven't thought of the cynophobia aspect, but that doesn't excuse Ana of accusing the OP of faking a disability.

  • @v.crowley
    @v.crowley Год назад

    Last story.. op is kinda a jerk… if they’re non binary.. then they shouldn’t been too conformities to one gender… so yeah.. if you can’t wear an outfit of even a few hours for a family members wedding…. That’s kinda entitlement ….. yea it’s uncomfortable.. but it won’t kill you to put up with it

  • @bensgalley1368
    @bensgalley1368 Год назад

    Yeah for the last story I only believe in two genders and all that. But in this situation it's a little different and a little simpler. Look your allowed to do what makes you happy and have fun with it. But if someone host a wedding or party they are allowed to set a dress code. And it isn't right to enforce a dress code and allow exceptions. Not they probably could have said it better or phrased it better to the op. But at the end of the day if you go to a hosted a event and there is a dress code. Don't expect any exceptions cause if you hold one person to it you need to hold all of them to it. It's just that simple