"I might as well put a lawn chair in the back of a pick up truck and call that a vacation" 😂 omg I relate to you Darlene on a level you don't even understand
This video is one of the reason I have subbed and watch you. You are such an honest soul. None of us are perfect and you are willing to share this part of you with us. Thanks
Girl I feel your pain. I try and fail soooooo many times. I try to reuse and repurpose but I just keep adding to the pile. Lack of drive and energy are very real. Every time I look at the pile could lay down and sleep for a day.
Powerful video, thank you for sharing. I'm not giving advice, but sharing what I did with a less than beautiful couch. I called furniture shops and asked what they did with their fabric samples when discontinued. They gave me their samples for free, and I covered a HUGE 3 seat couch with them in a funky patchwork pattern. Front, back, sides and cushions. Free samples, glue sticks and a hot glue gun. I then LOVED my couch And got another couple more years out of it. If I spilled something on a cushion, I would peel off the dirty patch and that's it. I kept a few patches for mishaps, and have made tote bags to sell or donate.Again, not advice, just a share to change my outlook on a couch I was not ready to get rid of yet. When I did finally pass the couch on, a young man getting his first place wanted my couch because it was SO cool and one of a kind and all his friends could fit on it!
Watching you is like seeing myself. Thank you for your videos and being human. You are such a delight and wonderful. Love your videos and think you are one of the bravest women I have ever witnessed! Thank you!
Gayle gills the rest of that sentence is" and if I don't need it, someone I know may need it". It is easier for me to "not" accumulate things with practice. I don't have problems getting rid of stuff and my excess has helped a lot of people a lot of different times. It is always a work in progress, but as I have aged, I want to downsize and minimalize- total opposite of how I use to be.
Darlene, thank you for sharing this video. Believe me when I tell you that, compared to my home, yours is extremely neat and organized. Maybe it's because I'm older, more relaxed about it, and have been collecting my hoard of fabrics and yarn for more years, but that's not likely true. In addition to yarn and fabrics, I also have a hoard of magazines and an old, but comfortable couch that I enjoy lying on while I watch RUclips on the TV. Anyway, I enjoyed watching your video and thanks for letting me know that I'm not alone. I do move stuff between my house and garage, back and forth, and even purchased 32 of the 58-quart clear plastic bins from Walmart, but the hoard just grew into them. Thank you for your videos. I enjoyed doing a crumb quilt project!!
My kitchen table is OVERFLOWING with STUFF so I understand your comment about anything that can be piled up is piled up! I'm so overwhelmed by all my "STUFF" it is paralysing!
I just watched this video and it's a year old. I am the same...I totally understand and have never met or known anyone I can relate to this way. Thank you for your honesty...it helps me. I'm not changing anytime soon either. It would be way way too sad. The burden you feel, I get it, most don't. You're a gem Darlene, I would know. :)
Thank you for your sharing. More than half the world is like us. We are museum curators.When my kids clean for me, everything feels so empty. I don't like empty spaces for some reason.
I just watched you make that small quilt on the brown chair. You are like me. I buy things because i can use it. I make things, because i can........ then just store it. I store things, stack things and cannot throw away. My heart goes out to you, such a strong, honest lady xxx
It was very brave of you to post this I wish that I could show you mine.i had the same lamp base breaking up problem .Pain of get rid off stuff Totally understand
I totally understand you. I have worked hard to get better and get rid of things because of my family but I understand you. I unlike you am a shopaholic to though, so to much comes in. I am always telling my husband, "Everything is only a $1" and I spent $80. I am getting much better with both, but it only comes when you are ready and not until, if it never does so be it. It is your life and you need to live for you.
Here's a fun story for you. I put an old couch on the curb with a FREE sign on it. 2 guys knocked on the door and asked me to save it for them so they hauled it to my garage while they went to borrow a truck to haul it. Came back little later and tied it on top of a tiny car and left. About 2 weeks later one guy came back, they had split up and he wanted a written paper that the couch was his. LMBO. They were fighting over trash.🤣🤣
Put things you don't want on the sidewalk with a cardboard FREE sign...it will be gone in a instant. No door answering, no dump fee, and you can cool your room with the window cooler. I just found you via the glass buttons. Fun project I will be trying. thank you.
Kind of hard to do when you live in the last house on a dead end. And even if I could do that, I wouldn't. Hoarders don't like to get rid of junk. Just don't.
Hi Darlene. This is my 3rd time watching this. I like your honesty. I’m also a almost hoarder. I collected cookbooks (besides other things). My daughter decided I had to get rid of most of them, because I never cooked anything from them (lol). It was soooo painful. I knew I had to do it because my house was getting so overwhelmed with stuff. I wouldn’t have done it except for her. It actually took three years to get rid of most of them. I managed slowly get rid of some more stuff cuz I was moving to a condo. But I still have too much “stuff”. I have ten boxes of Christmas stuff - only use 3 boxes. Had a craft/ sewing room built downstairs- have 8 boxes of fabric and 10 boxes of craft crap that don’t fit in a 18x20 room. I have over prolly 250 pen/pencils that I go thru every couple years and throw out ones that are dried up. I even try to revive them by putting in glasses of hot water before I throw them out. Why??? I have about 10 boxes of her toys and 2 bins of school stuff. Why??? She is not a hoarder, I know she will just get rid of them when I die I’m not a people person either. Live alone and don’t care to talk to anyone, except my daughter and then it’s usually by text lol I’m pretty good at organizing the junk but not giving away. If you ever want a pretty quite helper to just organize crap, give me a call!
I understand how you feel. I find getting rid of things very painful also. I deal with depression so I know that my old brain deals with my stuff in different ways. I keep a big plastic giveaway bag hanging in my bedroom. I try to put something in as often as possible. I also keep one downstairs also and add stuff that needs to go. I know how you feel. I especially cannot get rid of items from my home growing up. My mum kept our home pristine. Everything had it’s place. So there are many of us out here. Keep talking. It will help.
Girl that is not horrible a good mix of soapnwater on the arms and a new fabric on the arms, with how innovative you are with fabric , maybe sew some arm pocket thingies (I hope ya know what I mean lol I don't know what they're called!) Maybe quilt the back and seat? Tons of options .....but if and when I absolutely have to get rid of things de-cluttering videos do kind of help motivate me plus the fact that I need money now more than I need this item that I can't dust , manage or make room for....I sell mostly locally and sit everything out side (basically a pitch pick up) I never have to talk or see anyone , got me a deck box for that purpose and I open my door and drop it in like 1.5 seconds lol trust me I'm just like you in alot of ways ....you are more active than me (and very inspiring btw) but I have someone to do the daily chores and errands for me ....but I did read up on agoraphobia and alot of it hit home.....but really I don't think it's bad to be a homebody because if I'm out and about I'm out for an adventure and I'm trying to behave 🤗😉😘😋🎉💜 hang in there , you being able to talk about it and share was a HUGE (step) progress 👏😊
Thank you for your honesty. One of my most precious dear friend was a hoarder. I love this woman but I hurt her without knowing by trying to make her get rid of things. She would hide tears and say please help me. What she was asking was for me to love her anyway. She is an amazing artist and everything inspired her. She wanted to be organized and tidy but her muse often won out. I finally just stopped trying to help. She still apologizes to me when a new hoard starts. I feel awful that i made her feel that she needs to do that. I just love her now and we are both happy. Keep your stuff. Try to be safe. Be you. Feel loved
Just watched your video about your hoarding things.I live in the UK and I so wish I lived in the USA. You are a truly lovely person and I watch as many of your tutorials and tag alongside as l can. Your friends are so lucky to have you so don’t ever change xx
I always shove old furniture out on the driveway with a sign "free to a good home" and people pick them up and cart them off. I do not have to deal with anyone, and someone gets something they can deal with, hopefully they are able to fix them up to a usable stage. As far as magazines, I throw them out with the trash a little at a time. The nicer ones I donate to a local auto repair for their waiting room, removing the mailing labels from them first. Easy steps. Good luck.
Living on a dead end street with no traffic kills that idea. lol But really, I have so much regret when I give something away that it's better to just keep it. The pain of regret is unbearable.
I am so glad you posted this! I used to be obsessed with cleaning but since it landed me with nervous breakdowns I just don't do much of anything any more... You are not alone!
Thank you so much, Darlene, for sharing this. I totally understand cause I feel being in the exact same boat like you. I have come to accept the way I am rather than feeling bad about not being able to part from my stuff, and what people think about me. It helped me a great deal to feel more at ease, after I have started to organize my things e.g. sort them and put them up onto shelves I built making use of otherwise empty walls. This freed up so much space on the floor for me to live (and even have visitors!) and relax. Also, it is very satisfying to know exactly where everything is, and I am proud now of my possessions and organization skills. Making lemonade out of too may lemons, just delicious!
No advice, but lots of good thoughts sent your way. Your honesty is so refreshing. Thank you. Your (sometimes gruff) sweetness always shines through in your videos. You have a big heart, that's evident, so know that there are people that really like who you are.
I grew up in a hoarded home and thought it was normal. Now that I’m older, and battle with hoarding tendencies; I put stuff in a box and donate it a month later. Never sneaking a peek to remember what was in the box. I’m dreading the day when my parents pass and I will have to deal with the burden with what’s left behind. Show your love to your family by dealing with it now. It hurts, but it’s bittersweet, you can do it. Take baby steps- you can do it.
OMG, the rubber band comment reminded me of how upset I got when my sister threw away "MY GOOD TWIST TIE!". You know the plasticized ones that come in electronics packaging? Not just a paper one like from a loaf of bread! I might NEED it someday!
I know what you mean by hoarding stuff. But I managed to get rid of a lot of stuff. Someone told me ask my self if I will use it it not throw it away. And it does work.
I completely understand how you feel due to I feel the same and can't seem to let go of anything and I tag sale a lot and my way of thinking is, I COULD USE THAT ONE DAY. But never do and with being raised one way and doing the opposite, well we had a clean house and we couldn't sit in the living room and my living room is a clutter box. And yes I'm being rebellious because I couldn't really have much of anything growing up. I had to sin on the floor at my own house and when we visited other people / family houses.. It's a sign for me that now I'm grown and I can make and break rules and you can't say or do shit about it! (saying that last part towards my mother).... So I get it.... Thanks for sharing your video, when you didn't have to!
Hey at least your honest , I appreciate you for it !! If I may tell you my story , as my mom grew older the more she hoarded and so she needed to go in a nursing home because of health reasons . I moved in her home and cleaned it oh boy , she apologized, I told her it’s ok mom . But I told my kids they will never clean away my “ junk “ it was hard and I won’t do that to my kids 😔my story
Yard sales are too much work. At my age and health it is not feasible anymore. But, I still love to stop at a few.lol I have had to reel myself in on accumulating "stuff". I can so relate to you. .....
I do understand Darlene, I live in a beautiful house, most of which is clean and tidy, but my rooms are a disaster, and every time I think of sorting it out I feel physically sick! None of my family understand, I've asked for help but they don't think they can help me x x
I can understand. My mother had the hoarding gene, Hoarders helped us girls understand why mother's house was the way it was. We just could not get it clean as she would fill things up as fast as we could clean it. I have noticed I have the hoarding gene. I finally hired ahousekeeper to help me downsize, and she comes every 2 weeks to clean for me. Health reasons plus age, have made it really hard for me to keep house anymore. But maybe consider hiring someone to help you out. It really helps.
I stumbled on you this morning (I'm stuck in bed sick) and I have to say, I absolutely ADORE you and your channel. You are completely, just unfiltered you and I love it. There's nothing about views or clickbait....just you. I love this.
I don't sleep on a couch but i do sleep in a twin bed. My room is very tiny and with my desk and one of my 18 sewing machines there's no room to move. I too don't seem to like dealing with people much anymore, even when i go to town, my son goes in while i wait outside in the van. Occasionally ill go in and grab what I need and get out. My house is full of stuff did i mention the 18 sewing machines in cabinets? I feel I "might" need everything at some point. LOL Big hugs, you are not alone.
I agree you are brave to let us see. My house is closer to turner to a hoarder house then yours. I know I always got rid of things before but as I get older 55 it's very hard for me to get rid of things. My friend and my mom try helping me but then I seem to need something they threw out.lol
I am similar, I have good intentions. I can’t cope with mess, if things were really tidy then not hard to keep up. Accumulating mess is so stressful. Life can be hard,not easy. Love your real ness, honesty and vulnerability. Thus us what makes us human. I agree, living life as you are, I’m tired of trying to be something else, embrace self you are awesome. Xxxto you.
So glad I happened upon your channel. I must be your twin and we were separated at birth. Have tried doing the turn-a-round, and it backfired on me, many times. You are NOT alone : )
I was made to get rid of some things and I still regret it. So I totally understand. I will not let my husband get rid of anything more. When you are ready maybe Sandy can help you remove things a little at a time. Just don't feel to bad, I totally get it. In fact I have a recliner that I had bought brand new that I let my dad recover from a hip replacement. It doesn't look bad but it is so broken down. I use it all of the time now and I will not remove it. My father passed away about six years ago and it has his rearend print in it.
I am there wit you. Before my husband died we lived in a small house for a few years, Not a lot of room. I saved everything and added to it as often as possible. I had a giant box under the kitchen table. I can't remember how long it was there. One day I noticed the box was gone. I had a fit. My husband had taken it. When I got done ranting he quietly said. I'll make a deal with you. You tell me whats in the box and I'll tell you where it is. And I couldn't remember to save my life.
OMG you MUST be my sister from another mister!! lol my house is the same, I also am a hoarder and NEVER want to answer my door or have company!! LOL LOVE your videos, you crack me up, I also have no filter and curse like a sailor, been thinking about starting a youtube to make some extra cash ( I am disabled) just don't know how nor have the cameras and such, would LOVE some suggestions
Hi Darlene, Have you found it's easier to 'let go' since ZC? Your video could be me. I do find it's easier to let things go now ZC for 7 months, although starting is the hardest part. Ha!
I know you posted this ages ago, but I just wanted to say it was really brave of you to post this. I have the opposite problem. I constantly throw things out. If there's the slightest bit of clutter anywhere, I'll immediately throw out like a whole bin bag full of stuff to clear stuff out. :/
I liked this video. Been sleeping on the couch as long as i can remember but i have Aspergers Syndrome and for me personally it's a security thing. Makes me feel safe. When my couch broke i also put pillows under the pillow but just got hold of a new couch, just like the old one that broke. I'm so happy. I don't do well with unwanted changes in my life. Also have a "fat tv" lol :D
I get the clutter thing trust me. I so the same as you, move one pile to make room for another. But your doing just fine. It's your house live the way you wany.
So glad you put up this video. My best friend has the same, and I mean really the same issues. You are saying the very same things, the same feelings etc. I'm going to have her watch this video because she feels like it's just her and she's alone with this. She's been paying people to piles from point A to point B and then back again. It would be such a blessing to her to hear this. Especially the white trash comments. Her family and other friends don't understand the actual emotional pain and stress that she goes through. Hopefully you understand that this video may be helping some one else deal and not feel alone. Thank you thank you. Your a beautiful woman and if others don't like it ,f-**k them.
I hate that you feel shame, I wish that you could feel exceptance , that you could just know that who you are right now is ok. Maybe you’ll change , maybe you won’t, but be ok with today.who you are is not how you keep house, your fun, funny, kind, imaginative, creative, caring. That’s who you are.
Please don't hate anything that I feel. Saying you hate that I feel shame is like saying there is something wrong with the way I feel about something. I want to be free to feel anything I want without worrying that someone is going to feel bad for me or worse, hate that I'm feeling it.
"I might as well put a lawn chair in the back of a pick up truck and call that a vacation" 😂 omg I relate to you Darlene on a level you don't even understand
This video is one of the reason I have subbed and watch you. You are such an honest soul. None of us are perfect and you are willing to share this part of you with us. Thanks
Girl I feel your pain. I try and fail soooooo many times. I try to reuse and repurpose but I just keep adding to the pile. Lack of drive and energy are very real. Every time I look at the pile could lay down and sleep for a day.
I applaud your honesty. There are more people that can relate, than you think. Thank you Darlene. You are not alone, either.
Powerful video, thank you for sharing. I'm not giving advice, but sharing what I did with a less than beautiful couch. I called furniture shops and asked what they did with their fabric samples when discontinued. They gave me their samples for free, and I covered a HUGE 3 seat couch with them in a funky patchwork pattern. Front, back, sides and cushions. Free samples, glue sticks and a hot glue gun. I then LOVED my couch And got another couple more years out of it. If I spilled something on a cushion, I would peel off the dirty patch and that's it. I kept a few patches for mishaps, and have made tote bags to sell or donate.Again, not advice, just a share to change my outlook on a couch I was not ready to get rid of yet. When I did finally pass the couch on, a young man getting his first place wanted my couch because it was SO cool and one of a kind and all his friends could fit on it!
Watching you is like seeing myself. Thank you for your videos and being human. You are such a delight and wonderful. Love your videos and think you are one of the bravest women I have ever witnessed! Thank you!
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Oh dear. Talk to me about "hoarder tendencies", lol.
I am just like you. I don't like dealing with the public, lol
I love the movie Grey Gardens. There are 2. One is a documentary and one an actual movie. I love them both!
I love them both too.
You are such a treasure...just keep being real. Throw a lovely quilt over the crappy chair. Love your videos xo and bless YOU!
my favorite saying has always been...i cant get rid of that, i might need it one day
Gayle gills the rest of that sentence is" and if I don't need it, someone I know may need it". It is easier for me to "not" accumulate things with practice. I don't have problems getting rid of stuff and my excess has helped a lot of people a lot of different times. It is always a work in progress, but as I have aged, I want to downsize and minimalize- total opposite of how I use to be.
Darlene, thank you for sharing this video. Believe me when I tell you that, compared to my home, yours is extremely neat and organized. Maybe it's because I'm older, more relaxed about it, and have been collecting my hoard of fabrics and yarn for more years, but that's not likely true. In addition to yarn and fabrics, I also have a hoard of magazines and an old, but comfortable couch that I enjoy lying on while I watch RUclips on the TV. Anyway, I enjoyed watching your video and thanks for letting me know that I'm not alone. I do move stuff between my house and garage, back and forth, and even purchased 32 of the 58-quart clear plastic bins from Walmart, but the hoard just grew into them. Thank you for your videos. I enjoyed doing a crumb quilt project!!
You are a good person and people really like you, that's what is most important. Hugs.
If you only knew how many people don't like me. Not. At. All. lol
Why not make some pretty slip covers for the couches/chair? You could change it up per season.
Let me this idea!! 🎉👍Thanks
Thank you for explaining the need to keep items.
My kitchen table is OVERFLOWING with STUFF so I understand your comment about anything that can be piled up is piled up!
I'm so overwhelmed by all my "STUFF" it is paralysing!
I just watched this video and it's a year old.
I am the same...I totally understand and have never met or known anyone I can relate to this way. Thank you for your honesty...it helps me. I'm not changing anytime soon either. It would be way way too sad. The burden you feel, I get it, most don't. You're a gem Darlene, I would know. :)
Thank you for your sharing. More than half the world is like us. We are museum curators.When my kids clean for me, everything feels so empty. I don't like empty spaces for some reason.
I just watched you make that small quilt on the brown chair. You are like me. I buy things because i can use it. I make things, because i can........ then just store it. I store things, stack things and cannot throw away. My heart goes out to you, such a strong, honest lady xxx
No judging, do what makes you happy! You make everything enjoyable, I look forward to watch another video.
It was very brave of you to post this I wish that I could show you mine.i had the same lamp base breaking up problem .Pain of get rid off stuff Totally understand
I totally understand you. I have worked hard to get better and get rid of things because of my family but I understand you. I unlike you am a shopaholic to though, so to much comes in. I am always telling my husband, "Everything is only a $1" and I spent $80. I am getting much better with both, but it only comes when you are ready and not until, if it never does so be it. It is your life and you need to live for you.
Here's a fun story for you. I put an old couch on the curb with a FREE sign on it. 2 guys knocked on the door and asked me to save it for them so they hauled it to my garage while they went to borrow a truck to haul it. Came back little later and tied it on top of a tiny car and left. About 2 weeks later one guy came back, they had split up and he wanted a written paper that the couch was his. LMBO. They were fighting over trash.🤣🤣
marjorie schultz Too funny!
Wild lol
Put things you don't want on the sidewalk with a cardboard FREE sign...it will be gone in a instant. No door answering, no dump fee, and you can cool your room with the window cooler. I just found you via the glass buttons. Fun project I will be trying. thank you.
Kind of hard to do when you live in the last house on a dead end. And even if I could do that, I wouldn't. Hoarders don't like to get rid of junk. Just don't.
Hi Darlene. This is my 3rd time watching this. I like your honesty. I’m also a almost hoarder. I collected cookbooks (besides other things). My daughter decided I had to get rid of most of them, because I never cooked anything from them (lol). It was soooo painful. I knew I had to do it because my house was getting so overwhelmed with stuff. I wouldn’t have done it except for her. It actually took three years to get rid of most of them. I managed slowly get rid of some more stuff cuz I was moving to a condo. But I still have too much “stuff”. I have ten boxes of Christmas stuff - only use 3 boxes. Had a craft/ sewing room built downstairs- have 8 boxes of fabric and 10 boxes of craft crap that don’t fit in a 18x20 room. I have over prolly 250
pen/pencils that I go thru every couple years and throw out ones that are dried up. I even try to revive them by putting in glasses of hot water before I throw them out. Why???
I have about 10 boxes of her toys and 2 bins of school stuff. Why???
She is not a hoarder, I know she will just get rid of them when I die
I’m not a people person either. Live alone and don’t care to talk to anyone, except my daughter and then it’s usually by text lol
I’m pretty good at organizing the junk but not giving away. If you ever want a pretty quite helper to just organize crap, give me a call!
I understand how you feel. I find getting rid of things very painful also. I deal with depression so I know that my old brain deals with my stuff in different ways. I keep a big plastic giveaway bag hanging in my bedroom. I try to put something in as often as possible. I also keep one downstairs also and add stuff that needs to go. I know how you feel. I especially cannot get rid of items from my home growing up. My mum kept our home pristine. Everything had it’s place. So there are many of us out here. Keep talking. It will help.
You are so worthwhile and WORTH IT. You’re not happy but you are still trying. Just sending love
Best wishes. Love your honesty, I'm struggling with it all too. Oi ! Home repairs! To do list - over and over.
Girl that is not horrible a good mix of soapnwater on the arms and a new fabric on the arms, with how innovative you are with fabric , maybe sew some arm pocket thingies (I hope ya know what I mean lol I don't know what they're called!) Maybe quilt the back and seat? Tons of options .....but if and when I absolutely have to get rid of things de-cluttering videos do kind of help motivate me plus the fact that I need money now more than I need this item that I can't dust , manage or make room for....I sell mostly locally and sit everything out side (basically a pitch pick up) I never have to talk or see anyone , got me a deck box for that purpose and I open my door and drop it in like 1.5 seconds lol trust me I'm just like you in alot of ways ....you are more active than me (and very inspiring btw) but I have someone to do the daily chores and errands for me ....but I did read up on agoraphobia and alot of it hit home.....but really I don't think it's bad to be a homebody because if I'm out and about I'm out for an adventure and I'm trying to behave 🤗😉😘😋🎉💜 hang in there , you being able to talk about it and share was a HUGE (step) progress 👏😊
Thank you for your honesty. One of my most precious dear friend was a hoarder. I love this woman but I hurt her without knowing by trying to make her get rid of things. She would hide tears and say please help me. What she was asking was for me to love her anyway. She is an amazing artist and everything inspired her. She wanted to be organized and tidy but her muse often won out. I finally just stopped trying to help. She still apologizes to me when a new hoard starts. I feel awful that i made her feel that she needs to do that. I just love her now and we are both happy.
Keep your stuff. Try to be safe. Be you. Feel loved
Just watched your video about your hoarding things.I live in the UK and I so wish I lived in the USA. You are a truly lovely person and I watch as many of your tutorials and tag alongside as l can. Your friends are so lucky to have you so don’t ever change xx
lol "The little stuffed animal family." You are hilarious!
I always shove old furniture out on the driveway with a sign "free to a good home" and people pick them up and cart them off. I do not have to deal with anyone, and someone gets something they can deal with, hopefully they are able to fix them up to a usable stage. As far as magazines, I throw them out with the trash a little at a time. The nicer ones I donate to a local auto repair for their waiting room, removing the mailing labels from them first. Easy steps. Good luck.
Living on a dead end street with no traffic kills that idea. lol But really, I have so much regret when I give something away that it's better to just keep it. The pain of regret is unbearable.
I hear ya... my husband is the same way. I risk my life at times. Lol
I am so glad you posted this! I used to be obsessed with cleaning but since it landed me with nervous breakdowns I just don't do much of anything any more... You are not alone!
This is like hearing you tell the story of my life. I thought I was the only one..... xxx
Thank you so much, Darlene, for sharing this. I totally understand cause I feel being in the exact same boat like you. I have come to accept the way I am rather than feeling bad about not being able to part from my stuff, and what people think about me. It helped me a great deal to feel more at ease, after I have started to organize my things e.g. sort them and put them up onto shelves I built making use of otherwise empty walls. This freed up so much space on the floor for me to live (and even have visitors!) and relax. Also, it is very satisfying to know exactly where everything is, and I am proud now of my possessions and organization skills. Making lemonade out of too may lemons, just delicious!
No advice, but lots of good thoughts sent your way. Your honesty is so refreshing. Thank you. Your (sometimes gruff) sweetness always shines through in your videos. You have a big heart, that's evident, so know that there are people that really like who you are.
I feel your pain so well big hugs
Darlene you are truly an amazing person, please don't changed xx
I grew up in a hoarded home and thought it was normal. Now that I’m older, and battle with hoarding tendencies; I put stuff in a box and donate it a month later. Never sneaking a peek to remember what was in the box. I’m dreading the day when my parents pass and I will have to deal with the burden with what’s left behind. Show your love to your family by dealing with it now. It hurts, but it’s bittersweet, you can do it. Take baby steps- you can do it.
OMG, the rubber band comment reminded me of how upset I got when my sister threw away "MY GOOD TWIST TIE!".
You know the plasticized ones that come in electronics packaging?
Not just a paper one like from a loaf of bread!
I might NEED it someday!
you're not the only one , bless you xx
So What happened to "The crappy assed chair" as you called it... in the end? xx
I know what you mean by hoarding stuff. But I managed to get rid of a lot of stuff. Someone told me ask my self if I will use it it not throw it away. And it does work.
I am there too. Just overwhelmed to the point of giving up for now.lol
I completely understand how you feel due to I feel the same and can't seem to let go of anything and I tag sale a lot and my way of thinking is, I COULD USE THAT ONE DAY. But never do and with being raised one way and doing the opposite, well we had a clean house and we couldn't sit in the living room and my living room is a clutter box. And yes I'm being rebellious because I couldn't really have much of anything growing up. I had to sin on the floor at my own house and when we visited other people / family houses.. It's a sign for me that now I'm grown and I can make and break rules and you can't say or do shit about it! (saying that last part towards my mother).... So I get it.... Thanks for sharing your video, when you didn't have to!
Hey at least your honest , I appreciate you for it !! If I may tell you my story , as my mom grew older the more she hoarded and so she needed to go in a nursing home because of health reasons . I moved in her home and cleaned it oh boy , she apologized, I told her it’s ok mom . But I told my kids they will never clean away my “ junk “ it was hard and I won’t do that to my kids 😔my story
just love your honesty right up my alley. so sorry you are having a hard time
Yard sales are too much work. At my age and health it is not feasible anymore. But, I still love to stop at a few.lol I have had to reel myself in on accumulating "stuff". I can so relate to you. .....
I do understand Darlene, I live in a beautiful house, most of which is clean and tidy, but my rooms are a disaster, and every time I think of sorting it out I feel physically sick! None of my family understand, I've asked for help but they don't think they can help me x x
LOL! Sorry the chair didn’t look that bad to me.Whats that say about me?
I can understand. My mother had the hoarding gene, Hoarders helped us girls understand why mother's house was the way it was. We just could not get it clean as she would fill things up as fast as we could clean it. I have noticed I have the hoarding gene. I finally hired ahousekeeper to help me downsize, and she comes every 2 weeks to clean for me. Health reasons plus age, have made it really hard for me to keep house anymore. But maybe consider hiring someone to help you out. It really helps.
When you are ready, you will get it done. Gd bless you.
I stumbled on you this morning (I'm stuck in bed sick) and I have to say, I absolutely ADORE you and your channel. You are completely, just unfiltered you and I love it. There's nothing about views or clickbait....just you. I love this.
Welcome to the madness! I hope you can stick around. I do tend to scare people off... lol
Thank You for putting this up it has made me understand my sister much better.
Your candor is inspiring and just know, I for one do understand how you feel.
I will keep this short and simply say, "Thank you." and that you did a good thing opening up like this on video. I am glad you did post it.
I don't sleep on a couch but i do sleep in a twin bed. My room is very tiny and with my desk and one of my 18 sewing machines there's no room to move. I too don't seem to like dealing with people much anymore, even when i go to town, my son goes in while i wait outside in the van. Occasionally ill go in and grab what I need and get out. My house is full of stuff did i mention the 18 sewing machines in cabinets? I feel I "might" need everything at some point. LOL Big hugs, you are not alone.
I agree you are brave to let us see. My house is closer to turner to a hoarder house then yours. I know I always got rid of things before but as I get older 55 it's very hard for me to get rid of things. My friend and my mom try helping me but then I seem to need something they threw out.lol
That was very brave of you. I also have issues with purging. My sister can just throw things out, I can't seem to bring myself to.
I am similar, I have good intentions. I can’t cope with mess, if things were really tidy then not hard to keep up. Accumulating mess is so stressful. Life can be hard,not easy. Love your real ness, honesty and vulnerability. Thus us what makes us human. I agree, living life as you are, I’m tired of trying to be something else, embrace self you are awesome. Xxxto you.
So glad I happened upon your channel. I must be your twin and we were separated at birth. Have tried doing the turn-a-round, and it backfired on me, many times. You are NOT alone : )
I was made to get rid of some things and I still regret it. So I totally understand. I will not let my husband get rid of anything more. When you are ready maybe Sandy can help you remove things a little at a time. Just don't feel to bad, I totally get it. In fact I have a recliner that I had bought brand new that I let my dad recover from a hip replacement. It doesn't look bad but it is so broken down. I use it all of the time now and I will not remove it. My father passed away about six years ago and it has his rearend print in it.
I am there wit you. Before my husband died we lived in a small house for a few years, Not a lot of room. I saved everything and added to it as often as possible. I had a giant box under the kitchen table. I can't remember how long it was there. One day I noticed the box was gone. I had a fit. My husband had taken it. When I got done ranting he quietly said. I'll make a deal with you. You tell me whats in the box and I'll tell you where it is. And I couldn't remember to save my life.
Hugs to you Darlene
I have lots of stuff too and can’t get rid of it-I might need it someday !!
OH if u EVER wanna get rid of fabrics holler at me!! I also make quilts and CONSTANTLY looking for fabrics
Use those blinds that you showed us after the c-pap to replace the ones that were ripped up bu squirrels.
OMG you MUST be my sister from another mister!! lol my house is the same, I also am a hoarder and NEVER want to answer my door or have company!! LOL LOVE your videos, you crack me up, I also have no filter and curse like a sailor, been thinking about starting a youtube to make some extra cash ( I am disabled) just don't know how nor have the cameras and such, would LOVE some suggestions
Thank you for sharing Darlene...thinking of you.
Aww bless you I live in the UK wish I lived near you to come round and help you also have a cuppa and a chat. Take care xx
Jayne Vassar I'm in the UK too, and love Darlene. I have many of her tendencies too x
I was born in UK, I wish I could have a cup of coffee (or tea) with you there :) and talk about my clutter and recent major organizations.
i also sleep on a couch. and I do not know why I am hoarding so much crafting stuff that i want to use.
Hi Darlene, Have you found it's easier to 'let go' since ZC? Your video could be me. I do find it's easier to let things go now ZC for 7 months, although starting is the hardest part. Ha!
I know you posted this ages ago, but I just wanted to say it was really brave of you to post this. I have the opposite problem. I constantly throw things out. If there's the slightest bit of clutter anywhere, I'll immediately throw out like a whole bin bag full of stuff to clear stuff out. :/
I liked this video. Been sleeping on the couch as long as i can remember but i have Aspergers Syndrome and for me personally it's a security thing. Makes me feel safe. When my couch broke i also put pillows under the pillow but just got hold of a new couch, just like the old one that broke. I'm so happy. I don't do well with unwanted changes in my life. Also have a "fat tv" lol :D
What a great personal message to put out there. I feel so much like you. Thanks for sharing.
I get the clutter thing trust me. I so the same as you, move one pile to make room for another. But your doing just fine. It's your house live the way you wany.
This video is sooooo relatable!
So glad you put up this video. My best friend has the same, and I mean really the same issues. You are saying the very same things, the same feelings etc. I'm going to have her watch this video because she feels like it's just her and she's alone with this. She's been paying people to piles from point A to point B and then back again. It would be such a blessing to her to hear this. Especially the white trash comments. Her family and other friends don't understand the actual emotional pain and stress that she goes through. Hopefully you understand that this video may be helping some one else deal and not feel alone. Thank you thank you. Your a beautiful woman and if others don't like it ,f-**k them.
the honesty... :)
Thank you for making this video. Hugs!
Your honesty helps me
Darlene, believe me you are not alone. You could actually be a sister to my sister and me.
I enjoy these different crAfts very much
Darlene your a great person, I enjoy watching you.
I so wish I could take yr pain away.
No judgement here
hugs
I really wanna see the squirrel video but I can't find it 😖.
Here it is: ruclips.net/video/UcitsBMnS60/видео.html
Thank you!
"there's nothing I can do"
And more hugs
Totally agree about parting with 'stuff'. Just start with the rubbish americans call trash) you can part with. love, Chris Hunt North Wales, UK
That's the whole problem. I don't want to part with any of it. It's all trash.
Take one room at a time
Hugs x
You said you were going to shut the comments off. Guess I'm ignorant to the ways of RUclips....how come I able to comment? Or am I really commenting?
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Yup. That's me.
love it❤️
Believe it or not without you saying I know the base problem for both of us
Candy Santillo
Omg, we need to talk, I know that pain, I know that pain....
I hate that you feel shame, I wish that you could feel exceptance , that you could just know that who you are right now is ok. Maybe you’ll change , maybe you won’t, but be ok with today.who you are is not how you keep house, your fun, funny, kind, imaginative, creative, caring. That’s who you are.
Please don't hate anything that I feel. Saying you hate that I feel shame is like saying there is something wrong with the way I feel about something. I want to be free to feel anything I want without worrying that someone is going to feel bad for me or worse, hate that I'm feeling it.
I like you.
Skylar is All the Help you Need. Enjoy you Time with Her and Fuck the Rest.:>)