My mom left her studies to be with my dad to wash his uniform for work and cook plus clean for him. She dropped out because my father was feeling threatened. Now after 25 year he has left her for a younger woman and she has gone back to school at 5 years ago when she was 40+ years old. Now the pressure is on me i cant afford to be free and a child like my peers. I cannot enjoy my life because of the poverty in my family sometimes i get very angry
6 years ago I left work and college bcz my hubby didn't like that and I was 24 that time,so I was a house wife and he was a tax driver,he cldnt provide every for us including our daughter, we struggled a lot sometimes my daughter wld eat pap and um'tanya(hot water with sugar)i wld cry soon much,it happened he lost his job and things really went bad I wldnt even not have pads and I wld ask my mom and grandma for it and food ,but I sat down and asked myself if I wld live the rest of my life like that and my daughter, 2016,I had enough bcz I even asked him to allow me to w go work so I wld help and he refused that's when I took the decision to give back home bcz he said if I go back to school or work we done,and that was it,now I'm working and providing for my kid
haybo!! what sort of man would rather watch you starve then to have you work? if he cant provide for his family fully, why would he ask you to leave work!! yhooo!
Guys, remember to watch the Ads as well. PREACH SISTA, I totally agree that women should rally behind each other. I always imagine a world where women clayed together, how powerful the world would be. I mean, if a woman can single-handedly raise four kids, does whatever needs to be done to kept them fed, went to school, groomed to be upstanding members of the community and become responsible taxpayers, just imagine if she became President or CEO of a Conglomerate or even a leader of a community. At the end of the day, it comes with unity and support for each other. As for you and "Mr. B", we witnessed it, we saw your unconditional love for him. You worshipped the ground he walked on. That's why when you went to your cousin's place in October, whispering in your videos, I suspected that there was something amiss at home because the Owamie I knew, couldn't stay away from him. What matters now is the fact that you came to realize the truth about the brother and I can imagine how painful this was for you. Your happiness comes first. I love how you acknowledge and appreciate the good that happened in the relationship. You're a good woman Owamie. Keep it up.
@@beautymellz5600 I had to read my comment more than ten times to check where I I said or indicated or implied or made a move about me wanting Owamie, is it my view about women supporting each other, yet I'm not accused of wanting every woman in the world for that comment or me encouraging Owamie to be happy or the fact that I've been a long time supporter of Owamie who by the way has taken us on her life's journey many times before? So please help me, where in my comment where I said or implied that I wanted Owamie? Thanks
@@clantis Hai my brother I was just joking. Only thing I like about you is that you're always supporting the great advice she's always giving. So yeah I just happen to come across your comments very often so yah I see ya😁
@@beautymellz5600 Oh okay. I appreciate your clarification. And I accept that you were joking😊 I love to support people making moves to inspire other people. If you have a channel, I'll subscribe and watch your content, including watching the adverts😊
@@clantis I love strong and inspiring ppl like her as well. No I do not have a channel unfortunately maybe I will consider it in future the since I went through a lot myself. Keep well fellow ninja👍
True being an independent woman makes it hard to maintain a relationship with someone who gets mad at the fact that you ask nothing from them. Big up Ninja
My mom always said and keeps on reminding me that never depends on a man even if he's your husband, she will say look at me, make your own money so that when the ish hit the fan u have your own money to survive
This is close to home except for me I put my dreams on hold to help build someone's dreams....after 7 years of supporting them on the way of their dreams which were finally achieved, boooom they left me for someone else, I was no longer "their type"..But because grace speaks I am on the great path of recovery!
@@lebogangretshedisitswelesi957 sis b strong. I just left such a relationship. Been 3 months but I'm ok nw I'm stronger n my heart is adjusting. I asked macelf hw I wld survive but is I am surviving. I cldnt C macelf being alone again but here I am. IV begun to dream again, went back to d shelf where I packed my dreams and left them in dust n took em back. As I speak I'm occupied networking n finding mentors n my brain hard at work coming up with strategic plans to realise my dreams. Doing all that brought back the fire and excitement I had lost for life. So sis ugon b gud trust me...ul get used n b bzy wth positive, chase Ur drums again. Never too late
I learned that being a housewife needs one to have a backup plan or two, just in case things go south and by back up plan, I don't mean another man😂 . I loved what you said about education, it truly is our liberation. Independence is also your protection.
It’s sad how man secretly don’t want their woman to advance in life, we always see these things but too afraid and find reasons to stay. Sad we put up with crap
Men want to feel like they are in control. Her having her own money meant he would not be able to control her. If she ever needed maybe a makeup palette or even a jacket, she would have to ask him for money. She wouldn't be able to go anywhere because he controls the finances. Money makes the world go round.
Very sad,we nolonger have man with enough ball to stand their woman shining,it’s intimidating to them.I witness this with my parents and I only thought it’s only a thing that happens at home only I am relieved now that owami has talked about it
Owamie..... I hope you realize what an important conversation this is. Married woman especially tend to let go of their dreams and aspirations because they are comfortable and think they will always have their spouses support and that's not always the case. We as women need to be reminded of such. Make sure you are okay in all aspects with or without your partner. I can't thank you enough for this ❤️
Been through this. I was forced into leaving teaching forced to stay in the village while my ex was enjoying in jozi forced my way into living with him in jozi. The family was trampling all over our marriage. After 10 years I left that marriage with 2 kids I am still trying to rebuild up to this day. All my dreams were canned and sealed I was suffocating 😭😭😭 everybody was allowed to dream just not me. Saba ama inlaws and a rubber back husband
Ninja I can relate on this matter: It is because our human nature cannot comprehend the reality that a person who is supposed to love you can actually sabotage you. It reminds me of my ex-husband, the man wanted me to literally fail in life. He went out of his way and unfortunately he succeeded until I decided to choose my life and choose my destiny. I walked out of that marriage alive. I walked out with my worth intact... the failures I encountered became life lessons. The man damaged my career, I also dropped out of tertiary, became depressed and lost my job. I lived in a shack that I built because he didn’t want to walk. Oh it was bad. But ninja we make out alive and we thrive Look at you ... May God just elevate honey. You have been through too much ♥️♥️♥️
Went through the same thing dropout of varsity in my last year, told me to have his child. Whenever i applied for jobs he would manipulate me that its not worth it. His family was against me i was hospitalized for depression. Took years to recover an come out of the manipulation got a job never told him about the interview that was my breakthrough, now he claims he made me im the one who ruined the marriage apparently 🤦♀️. Im happy i can provide for kids something he fails to do
Our big sister is going through the most but she is handling the journey very well. Speak about it and we are here to listen. You are going to be okay.
My mom is a single mother my dad passed when I was 5yrs old. She always tells me to neva depend on my husband and to have something on the side. She always encourages me to be an independent women always. She is 60 and shes a force to be reckoned with thanx for encouraging all the ladies outcha. When ure head is in the clouds it's not easy to see the coming storm 🥰😍🤩💗🙋🏾♀️!!
This man disappoints me. He could see that his woman is a hustler of note who has potential to far surpass his success yet still did not bother to do self assessment to align himself with her purpose. He did not even see that she had "us," "our," in all her deeds. He was concerned with playing god to her. Umtnu akenziwa njalo no matter where they come from. He walked away from all that he helped build now another man will be the beneficiary of his labour. Together with Owamie they will break records while Mr B is busy playing blesser with his R2.
You need to understand what caused a break up. The man moved on with his new girl and still with the new girl This has nothing to do with the ex wife but everything to do with the new girl When there is break up, the person who was dumped will usually speak bad about their exes
@@chabalichabali8714 To my understanding the break up was caused by his insecurities over her success hence he cheated with the woman who is in the position Owamie once was. He wanted Owamie to remain there kanti uthini had other plans. Yes it has everything to do with the ex wife.
@@chabalichabali8714 Ok I am fine with this Owam might be talking bad about mr B but still mr B failed, you equip someone then when someone is up there you leave and you leave for downgrading .It make sense for me when owam says big guy was intimadated by her success but he couldn't say much bad things bcz he was there for owam when she was building her success ... so definitely someone who is intimadated wont come to your eyes and say stop doing many RUclips videos and do not do consultation bcz you making more money than me ,h/s will better leave you or bring negative energy but atleast owams business was at the peak seasons so mr B he didn't have any control over it ,so he decided to be a R 2 blesssor to other women down the street where his ego will be strengthen .The next when owam got one of the top business mans ,he will be like I helped that women when she got nothing but you left her ...what an impulsive decision he did shem .
Thank God you were not comfortable being a housewife. Ladies lets not rely on men. Dont leave your dreams for a man Don’t stay with a man that does not encourage and support your dream. If Owamie hadn’t done all this she would be a divorced, poor woman. I learned a lot from your experience and i hope all ladies that follow you learn too. Wish you all the best ❤️
@@Tshepiso. i know hey 😂😂😂😂😂but its a reality. Men will hardly tell you that they dont like you or you dont look good. Men talk with actions. If he control or abuse you, he doesnt love you. If he protect and do whats best for you then you know he loves you. He will never tell you to your face that you are less attractive than his sidechick, read the signs/actions
@@Tshepiso. did your ex ever tell you that he doesnt love you anymore? They will either go silent or come with a stupid excuse like you are making more money than me and all of that. Reality is that you are no longer loved A guy will never say that with his mouth😀😀
No his not going to regret anything if I as man I no longer love you I no longer love my, you being a good woman means nothing I want what I want not what you think I want, not all man need good woman being good means nothing to some guys.
I on the other hand happen to be the one doing everything financially in relationships and thats why its easy for me to walk away, I always say I will never depend on a man finacially not even my own father and brothers, I never want a man to ever throw it back in my face and tell me that I am who I am because of him. You are a strong amazing woman and we love to hear it, I'm so proud of you to think as Venda women we are taught otherwise, I never see myself submitting to a man who doesn't grie my as a woman emotionally spiritually mentally also physically my health should be a priority, compromising myself will never happen again. I've lost alot of money along the way but my dignity and self worth remain intact. Thank you for choosing to share your experiences with us we appreciate them.
100℅ The nice thing is that you can easily replace the money lost. However, when you lose your dignity and self worth that can be very hard to build to restore that. Some become internally damaged for the rest of their lives.
Of *ALL* the storytimes you did, this has to be my second best. The best being the one you narrated *HOW* you chose your future over your in laws who never even liked you, you're a ROCK Wamie❤️❤️❤️
I wish my mom heard this when she needed it, after 4 babies. My dad did a number on her, at 42 she has never worked anywhere in her life . Now I must pick up and be mom and dad to my younger sisters. God sees though!
You have no idea how repetitive that situation is ... I'm going through the same thing I'm the first born of 4 kids and my mom is 40 something. Only she is working now thank God but she doesn't stay with us. Honestly she is the best but parenting kids while you are a kid is not easy but I'm learning way more than I wouldve had she stayed with us because I was not gonna be as open to learning like currently.
Mashuda Tshikhathi your mum is young 42 years she can start again. I am 41 year old woman I feel I have a chance to restart my life. She can start again. All the best
This is such a powerful video.. The fact that you saw how much drive you have in you is really amazing. You worked really hard to get to where you are and you are right, you went through what you needed to at the time that it happened. Keep doing what makes you happy!
Ninja, first things first. Thank you ♥. You may get a knock for doing these video's but you are building the nation if not nations. People want entertainment but the fact of the matter is that people are going through hell. Therefore when one is able to listen to such from you, it becomes relatable and one is able to grasp your life lessons and internalize them. We appreciate you Ninja ... the nunjus and their grandmas don't. But we do lol...Keep going!! You just begun your journey to greatest ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
Actually I do not think she would have thought of leaving especially in her case where Mr B cheated once ...I know many that are sitting in marriages because of poverty .....ladies I am currently broke because I am unemployed at the moment but i promised myself that i wont allow a man to decide for me or have any promise of nice things or let love blind me ..luckily I became so scared when someone promise to do things for me or when h/s does even if its a friend or family .my worry is h/s going to do this for me till when .
A lot of men actually think that financial support is all of that when it comes to keeping a woman... But honestly one of the reasons why Owamie stayed was because of the emotional support 💯 we as women feed on emotions, hence emotional abuse scars are much deeper than any other form of abuse 🤧
Thank God you saw the light Ninja. Imagine had you settled/shrinked yourself to nurse his insecurities. Shuu😩💔. So much greatness would have gone to waste. Womandla baby✊🏿. Bereka mosadi!!❤️❤️❤️
Hey girl I understand how you feel, my mother was also a nurse most of her adult life and a brilliant one (started nursing in her early 20s) when she needed her profession's help the most they let her down and she died due to negligence
Wamie how was your relationship when you were making more money than him and had a joint bank account? Were you allowed to just withdraw R10 000 and get something? I'm learning so much from this. Thank you
I understand how it feels to be betrayed by someone you once unconditionally loved. Take your time to heal , not everyone will have the same vision or understand your decisions . Just be true to yourself even when you feel vulnerable, pain or grief. Stay strong Sis💪💪❤️
Individuality within any relationship is huge! Only be dependent on God. Thank you for highlighting this kind of topics woman NEVER talk about. Married woman would rather praise a woman for worshipping her man.
I remember how happy you were ninja and believe when you say you don't regret anything, and I love the fact that you tell your without spitting anyone. For now I believe that you're at the right place when God needs you to be and enjoy every moment. Ninja nation ❤
Men can be so controlling I have to hide the stuff I buy for me and the kids. And I always felt like I'm the wrong one I'm wasting money. But something a at the back of my mind says you work so hard why are you not spoiling yourself.
Thank you for this Owamie. For me I finished varsity but I can't find a job. This year I want to work for myself. You are right it's hard to be dependent on someone
Owami I have written a book expressing my experiences under my husband's fake love. I managed to go up to a Doctoral degree but his "pulling" me down left me a "seriosly poor person". After that all the fake love was taken away from me & he left me. I'm now a retired woman that gathered no "moss" meanwhile he enjoys life.
We listening Owamie I'm listening your videos are everything needed some of us are still young and naive blinded by love so video like this help us to think out of box and deal with plan B and C we are listening ☝️
That pain you have gone through I know it very well. .when you are in love you become indenial or blind about the obvious things which will affect you later.
Owami you are really a good example of "marriage is not an achievement!" imagine leaving an actual achievement like a degree, a career. For a man. A marriage certificate.
His family showed you who he is lol but life is like that, we realize things after being exposed + knowing better. I think he grew jealous of you bcz he wasn't the hero anymore... you could stand on your own two feet, you could provide.
Honestly ladies, the only people you should love is yourself, your kids, your family (the ones who care for you) and close friends. Men don't invest in loving us, we must take notes from them. Atleast that's what I do.
nope just make a wise choice by choosing the right men. Stop being selfish, all children need a father and it is your responsibility to choose the right father for your kids.
It’s really important to do a lot of self development before making a commitment to marriage . There’s nothing wrong with a man wanting a housewife but there’s everything wrong with a woman not fully realising what that means for her self sufficiency and development . I’m glad Owami is addressing this and she shows to have really done a lot of inner work and not just blaming her ex which is what a lot of us ladies do . Some of our heartbreaks are from our disappointment in the men we chose than what they did !
About the nurses dropping the ball to do with your mother its so sad really. My uncle is a police man and his brother died because of police negligence My aunt is in charge of licensing ambulances and 1 day when my grandmother needed emergency help the ambulance dispatched to assist did not have oxygen which led to her death Its a painful cycle indeed
The naivety at that age is so strong, you can easily make rush decisions that could affect your life and sometimes permanently. Thank God you were always someone who behind the scenes are thinking what is next. The worst would be to live in a comfort zone and never want anything great for yourself. Living your life through someone else's wishes and dreams. Kudos to you for this one ❤✌✅
As a woman it is important to have your own , there are a lot of women out there who would have killed to be in a position where a man does everything, I guess that's why the slay queen trend exists. there are still women that are brought up in their families to depend on a man, not marry a guy if he does not make a certain amount of money obviously because they need to be 'taken care of' .its sad that your own was the one bringing you down .hind sight is 50/50 I guess.
Owamie thank you for sharing your story with us, I am a woman who walks heart to achieve my dreams, women Like Us they need to get a partner( housbent who will love,support and push their dreams to to come true 🙏❤
It means most man generally do not like their woman to be successfull even though they mostly admire successful woman from afar as long as it is not his woman so sad hey your story has just reminded me of my past my ex fiance found me when i had nothing just finished school ,but was unemployed with a baby he promised to take care of us and yes he did then after 2 or 3 years i woke up from slumber and i started having dreams about my future they way he would laugh at me and tell me that people with degrees and diplomas are unemployed what makes me thing i will make it fast forward i made it he became my biggest hater making sure that everything i do fails , he would even call my work place and say things to get me fired at work luckily i had a great boss and i had already told him everything about my life and the life at home so he rubisshed him , i ended up braking up with him thank God we were still engaged not married so we need to teach our sons to do better , this life thing inzima struuu
Thank you Owamie for sharing your story , I salute your bravery especially because you are empowering young people out there who could sometimes be naive. I like it when you talk of the red flags that were there at hindsight. Am sure one or two girls will take your advice and most importantly you are sawing a seed that will germinate in someone s life. God richly bless you dear, what was meant to be will be and congratulations on your new car👏🏾👏🏾💪🏽👍💃🥰
I can relate to the situation you described cause I lived it until I decided to quit the marriage and started to glow and prosper in life. I looked so old when I was married and now I looked 15years younger than my age Thank Goodness I got out!!
Yes this things happens . Atleast you are still young and you could turn your situation around and you have something that you fall into, imagine if this happened when you were fifty ? This is really an eye opener , I salute 😳😲😲😳
I noticed even on vlogs when he spoke he would talk over you. It was always about him nje, narsisistic traits that we only see now that its all over. Thanks for sharing nathi siyafunda ukubona inkinga emtwini..
Yooh. Went back to school at28, after falling pregnant at 19. I felt so much lost and incomplete without finishing that diploma. I finished it. I feel so whole and Great. Man will embarrass you n hold you back.
Owami thank you so much for sharing your personal experience with us. you really don't have to but I like it when we ladiez instead of breaking we are building each other.♥️
To me I really don't see him being selfish. I see a man who can be there for thier wives no matter what and proofing that he is a man. I consider yourself lucky to have found such a man.some men will let you seat at home and never even support you. Not unless he straight come out and said actually Owami I need you to quit and be a house wife. If he did all that out of love and you consider it selfish.might hurt him
She said in her video where she spoke about her getting a divorce that he told her that he cheated because she is making more money than him. That's why he cheated with a woman who cooks pap at the side of the road.
Is this Big guy ? One thing i always say is have your own money as a woman no matter the relationship status , depending on someone else’s money puts u in a very vulnerable position
My mom left her studies to be with my dad to wash his uniform for work and cook plus clean for him.
She dropped out because my father was feeling threatened. Now after 25 year he has left her for a younger woman and she has gone back to school at 5 years ago when she was 40+ years old.
Now the pressure is on me i cant afford to be free and a child like my peers. I cannot enjoy my life because of the poverty in my family sometimes i get very angry
So glad she went back at it. Keep pushing dear...karma will deal with the rest. High5
Yho babe I feel you
I wish to like your comment more than once.
I'm so sorry
WOW 🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️🙆🏽♀️
6 years ago I left work and college bcz my hubby didn't like that and I was 24 that time,so I was a house wife and he was a tax driver,he cldnt provide every for us including our daughter, we struggled a lot sometimes my daughter wld eat pap and um'tanya(hot water with sugar)i wld cry soon much,it happened he lost his job and things really went bad I wldnt even not have pads and I wld ask my mom and grandma for it and food ,but I sat down and asked myself if I wld live the rest of my life like that and my daughter, 2016,I had enough bcz I even asked him to allow me to w
go work so I wld help and he refused that's when I took the decision to give back home bcz he said if I go back to school or work we done,and that was it,now I'm working and providing for my kid
I commend your resilience, well done babes
Well done babes
haybo!! what sort of man would rather watch you starve then to have you work? if he cant provide for his family fully, why would he ask you to leave work!! yhooo!
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Wow you really a strong person may God bless
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PREACH SISTA, I totally agree that women should rally behind each other. I always imagine a world where women clayed together, how powerful the world would be. I mean, if a woman can single-handedly raise four kids, does whatever needs to be done to kept them fed, went to school, groomed to be upstanding members of the community and become responsible taxpayers, just imagine if she became President or CEO of a Conglomerate or even a leader of a community. At the end of the day, it comes with unity and support for each other.
As for you and "Mr. B", we witnessed it, we saw your unconditional love for him. You worshipped the ground he walked on. That's why when you went to your cousin's place in October, whispering in your videos, I suspected that there was something amiss at home because the Owamie I knew, couldn't stay away from him.
What matters now is the fact that you came to realize the truth about the brother and I can imagine how painful this was for you. Your happiness comes first.
I love how you acknowledge and appreciate the good that happened in the relationship. You're a good woman Owamie. Keep it up.
Yini ngathi uyamfuna u Owamie 😁
@@beautymellz5600 I had to read my comment more than ten times to check where I I said or indicated or implied or made a move about me wanting Owamie, is it my view about women supporting each other, yet I'm not accused of wanting every woman in the world for that comment or me encouraging Owamie to be happy or the fact that I've been a long time supporter of Owamie who by the way has taken us on her life's journey many times before?
So please help me, where in my comment where I said or implied that I wanted Owamie? Thanks
@@clantis Hai my brother I was just joking. Only thing I like about you is that you're always supporting the great advice she's always giving. So yeah I just happen to come across your comments very often so yah I see ya😁
@@beautymellz5600 Oh okay. I appreciate your clarification. And I accept that you were joking😊
I love to support people making moves to inspire other people. If you have a channel, I'll subscribe and watch your content, including watching the adverts😊
@@clantis I love strong and inspiring ppl like her as well. No I do not have a channel unfortunately maybe I will consider it in future the since I went through a lot myself. Keep well fellow ninja👍
True being an independent woman makes it hard to maintain a relationship with someone who gets mad at the fact that you ask nothing from them. Big up Ninja
Yes
My mom always said and keeps on reminding me that never depends on a man even if he's your husband, she will say look at me, make your own money so that when the ish hit the fan u have your own money to survive
Look at you glowing and full of life and joy. You did that. You learnt and elevated yourself. Mad respect for you.❤️
Yes
This is close to home except for me I put my dreams on hold to help build someone's dreams....after 7 years of supporting them on the way of their dreams which were finally achieved, boooom they left me for someone else, I was no longer "their type"..But because grace speaks I am on the great path of recovery!
This resonates with me strongly thanks for sharing sis 🙏🤩🤩💐
This is really healing.
Judith I'm in the same situation as we speak right now 😭😭😭😭😭it's so hard and scary cos I can't remember how to be on my own
@@lebogangretshedisitswelesi957 sis b strong. I just left such a relationship. Been 3 months but I'm ok nw I'm stronger n my heart is adjusting. I asked macelf hw I wld survive but is I am surviving. I cldnt C macelf being alone again but here I am. IV begun to dream again, went back to d shelf where I packed my dreams and left them in dust n took em back. As I speak I'm occupied networking n finding mentors n my brain hard at work coming up with strategic plans to realise my dreams. Doing all that brought back the fire and excitement I had lost for life. So sis ugon b gud trust me...ul get used n b bzy wth positive, chase Ur drums again. Never too late
@@lebogangretshedisitswelesi957my mother who was a housewife left her marriage of 30 years and got a job
Thank you for your vulnerability and letting us in on this journey. You are a strong and beautiful woman Owamie❤️.
Yes
"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." - Soren Kierkegaard
Beautifully said
Love it!
@@jessicabradley6657 charity begins at home sis Lee, this what I see as healing . By the way it's a process.✌️✌️🙏
Wow, brilliantly said ❤️ I can totally relate.
Owami, why show your two appels to every one? Are you going to disco??
Your facts saved me. I swear, I was very close to messing things up.
Love is dangerous and when you are that deep all you think of is that this person wants the best for you.. Owamie you making me rethink my life 😭😭😭😭
Me too girl
We will be fine
I learned that being a housewife needs one to have a backup plan or two, just in case things go south and by back up plan, I don't mean another man😂 . I loved what you said about education, it truly is our liberation. Independence is also your protection.
It’s sad how man secretly don’t want their woman to advance in life, we always see these things but too afraid and find reasons to stay. Sad we put up with crap
Men want to feel like they are in control. Her having her own money meant he would not be able to control her. If she ever needed maybe a makeup palette or even a jacket, she would have to ask him for money. She wouldn't be able to go anywhere because he controls the finances. Money makes the world go round.
It has nothing to do with control, the love was just not there
People must give you a nice excuse so you dont feel very bad
We think it's love.
Very sad,we nolonger have man with enough ball to stand their woman shining,it’s intimidating to them.I witness this with my parents and I only thought it’s only a thing that happens at home only I am relieved now that owami has talked about it
@@zami4945 so men must just accept contolling women just because they earn more?
Owamie..... I hope you realize what an important conversation this is.
Married woman especially tend to let go of their dreams and aspirations because they are comfortable and think they will always have their spouses support and that's not always the case.
We as women need to be reminded of such. Make sure you are okay in all aspects with or without your partner.
I can't thank you enough for this ❤️
Yes marriage is not a career.
@@beewest5704 Indeed
@@beewest5704 definitely not
Marriage is like slavery to me bububhanxa nje bento ndisitsho nditshatile.
@@zukiem5091 I'm so sorry to hear that
The signs are always there, we choose to ignore them. People don't change, u just realise who they are truly.
they will rather kill than tell you they dont love you
True🤞
Been through this. I was forced into leaving teaching forced to stay in the village while my ex was enjoying in jozi forced my way into living with him in jozi. The family was trampling all over our marriage. After 10 years I left that marriage with 2 kids I am still trying to rebuild up to this day. All my dreams were canned and sealed I was suffocating 😭😭😭 everybody was allowed to dream just not me. Saba ama inlaws and a rubber back husband
You will be Alright sbhubu sending you virtual hugs🤗
@@mckenzierise26 thank you ma babe ❤
Ilwaaa ntombooooo, all is NOT lost Sisi
It’s never too late to start afresh. No age, race,background, stands in our way. Sending you lots of love💕
@@mishumoyatshilidzi ❤ untombo usempini babe thank you
Ninja I can relate on this matter: It is because our human nature cannot comprehend the reality that a person who is supposed to love you can actually sabotage you.
It reminds me of my ex-husband, the man wanted me to literally fail in life. He went out of his way and unfortunately he succeeded until I decided to choose my life and choose my destiny. I walked out of that marriage alive. I walked out with my worth intact... the failures I encountered became life lessons. The man damaged my career, I also dropped out of tertiary, became depressed and lost my job. I lived in a shack that I built because he didn’t want to walk. Oh it was bad.
But ninja we make out alive and we thrive
Look at you ... May God just elevate honey. You have been through too much ♥️♥️♥️
Went through the same thing dropout of varsity in my last year, told me to have his child. Whenever i applied for jobs he would manipulate me that its not worth it. His family was against me i was hospitalized for depression. Took years to recover an come out of the manipulation got a job never told him about the interview that was my breakthrough, now he claims he made me im the one who ruined the marriage apparently 🤦♀️. Im happy i can provide for kids something he fails to do
@@Nobuhle412 he was never worth it sis. I am glad you came out alive and well. Keep the flag high for your kids and keep soaring 🌹🌹🌹
Yes so sad
Our big sister is going through the most but she is handling the journey very well. Speak about it and we are here to listen. You are going to be okay.
So many girls have aborted their destiny cause of a man, especially dropping out of a varsity, sad.
Can we please get "10 things that you were not allowed to do as a wife" thats if its not too personal for you
The power in this video. The truth in this video. The kind of girl talk we need. Thank you Wamie ❤
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My mom is a single mother my dad passed when I was 5yrs old. She always tells me to neva depend on my husband and to have something on the side. She always encourages me to be an independent women always. She is 60 and shes a force to be reckoned with thanx for encouraging all the ladies outcha. When ure head is in the clouds it's not easy to see the coming storm 🥰😍🤩💗🙋🏾♀️!!
When you said you know that you onced fully loved someone. I felt it, wise words. Just learnt something
It was not love if it is in past tense
As a young girl in my early 20s I'm very happy to be your subscriber! I'm learning! I love you sis Owamie😍😍😍
Okay at first i hated these story times, but now i must admit that i am hooked keep them coming Wamie❤❤❤❤
This man disappoints me. He could see that his woman is a hustler of note who has potential to far surpass his success yet still did not bother to do self assessment to align himself with her purpose. He did not even see that she had "us," "our," in all her deeds. He was concerned with playing god to her. Umtnu akenziwa njalo no matter where they come from. He walked away from all that he helped build now another man will be the beneficiary of his labour. Together with Owamie they will break records while Mr B is busy playing blesser with his R2.
You need to understand what caused a break up. The man moved on with his new girl and still with the new girl
This has nothing to do with the ex wife but everything to do with the new girl
When there is break up, the person who was dumped will usually speak bad about their exes
@@chabalichabali8714 To my understanding the break up was caused by his insecurities over her success hence he cheated with the woman who is in the position Owamie once was. He wanted Owamie to remain there kanti uthini had other plans.
Yes it has everything to do with the ex wife.
@@chabalichabali8714 Ok I am fine with this Owam might be talking bad about mr B but still mr B failed, you equip someone then when someone is up there you leave and you leave for downgrading .It make sense for me when owam says big guy was intimadated by her success but he couldn't say much bad things bcz he was there for owam when she was building her success ... so definitely someone who is intimadated wont come to your eyes and say stop doing many RUclips videos and do not do consultation bcz you making more money than me ,h/s will better leave you or bring negative energy but atleast owams business was at the peak seasons so mr B he didn't have any control over it ,so he decided to be a R 2 blesssor to other women down the street where his ego will be strengthen .The next when owam got one of the top business mans ,he will be like I helped that women when she got nothing but you left her ...what an impulsive decision he did shem .
someone said love is blind but divorce will open your eyes
A family friend of ours used to say Nyala onyele...thlala othlalefe...and here it is today
It was a high Court Judge from South Gauteng division in a divorce case
Thank God you were not comfortable being a housewife.
Ladies lets not rely on men.
Dont leave your dreams for a man
Don’t stay with a man that does not encourage and support your dream.
If Owamie hadn’t done all this she would be a divorced, poor woman.
I learned a lot from your experience and i hope all ladies that follow you learn too. Wish you all the best ❤️
Men will find any excuse, its not about money or control.they will rather kill than tell you they dont love you anymore
@@chabalichabali8714 well that's dumb 😒😒😒
@@Tshepiso. i know hey 😂😂😂😂😂but its a reality. Men will hardly tell you that they dont like you or you dont look good. Men talk with actions. If he control or abuse you, he doesnt love you. If he protect and do whats best for you then you know he loves you. He will never tell you to your face that you are less attractive than his sidechick, read the signs/actions
@@chabalichabali8714 Mxm!!!
@@Tshepiso. did your ex ever tell you that he doesnt love you anymore? They will either go silent or come with a stupid excuse like you are making more money than me and all of that.
Reality is that you are no longer loved
A guy will never say that with his mouth😀😀
All I know is Mr B will regret ruining such a beautiful union with his wife.
He's already regretting it. He probably See's all her vlogs, and how happy she is. Man can be Soo selfish and dumb haai
As we speak right now, he's already regretting.
Lol I thought the same thing when owamie was in Cape Town and I don't think he he's been to cape Town 😩😭😂😂😂😂
No his not going to regret anything if I as man I no longer love you I no longer love my, you being a good woman means nothing I want what I want not what you think I want, not all man need good woman being good means nothing to some guys.
You will hear a lady say you will never find someone like me, but that's the exact reason I left you is because I no longer want someone like you.
I on the other hand happen to be the one doing everything financially in relationships and thats why its easy for me to walk away, I always say I will never depend on a man finacially not even my own father and brothers, I never want a man to ever throw it back in my face and tell me that I am who I am because of him. You are a strong amazing woman and we love to hear it, I'm so proud of you to think as Venda women we are taught otherwise, I never see myself submitting to a man who doesn't grie my as a woman emotionally spiritually mentally also physically my health should be a priority, compromising myself will never happen again. I've lost alot of money along the way but my dignity and self worth remain intact. Thank you for choosing to share your experiences with us we appreciate them.
100℅ The nice thing is that you can easily replace the money lost.
However, when you lose your dignity and self worth that can be very hard to build to restore that. Some become internally damaged for the rest of their lives.
Atleast you still have your dignity,I still try to build mine
Owami what you have stepped in is purpose 🙌.
Of *ALL* the storytimes you did, this has to be my second best. The best being the one you narrated *HOW* you chose your future over your in laws who never even liked you, you're a ROCK Wamie❤️❤️❤️
O,g needed to hear this, was actually questioning if this what I'm experiencing and now my thoughts are validated
If a man loves you, he will not abuse, control or intentionally offends you.
Sometimes the truth is he is just not in love with you/anymore
I wish my mom heard this when she needed it, after 4 babies. My dad did a number on her, at 42 she has never worked anywhere in her life . Now I must pick up and be mom and dad to my younger sisters.
God sees though!
May God give you strength sis ❤️❤️
Mashudu I'm sorry about your comment may God strengthen your mom and you guys too 🥰
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You have no idea how repetitive that situation is ... I'm going through the same thing I'm the first born of 4 kids and my mom is 40 something. Only she is working now thank God but she doesn't stay with us. Honestly she is the best but parenting kids while you are a kid is not easy but I'm learning way more than I wouldve had she stayed with us because I was not gonna be as open to learning like currently.
Mashuda Tshikhathi your mum is young 42 years she can start again. I am 41 year old woman I feel I have a chance to restart my life.
She can start again. All the best
Your braids shbubu!! They look super stunning😍😍..
This is such a powerful video.. The fact that you saw how much drive you have in you is really amazing. You worked really hard to get to where you are and you are right, you went through what you needed to at the time that it happened. Keep doing what makes you happy!
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Ninja, first things first. Thank you ♥. You may get a knock for doing these video's but you are building the nation if not nations. People want entertainment but the fact of the matter is that people are going through hell. Therefore when one is able to listen to such from you, it becomes relatable and one is able to grasp your life lessons and internalize them. We appreciate you Ninja ... the nunjus and their grandmas don't. But we do lol...Keep going!! You just begun your journey to greatest ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
Well said
I have never been there but I agree that it would have been difficult to leave if you were entirely dependant on him.
Actually I do not think she would have thought of leaving especially in her case where Mr B cheated once ...I know many that are sitting in marriages because of poverty .....ladies I am currently broke because I am unemployed at the moment but i promised myself that i wont allow a man to decide for me or have any promise of nice things or let love blind me ..luckily I became so scared when someone promise to do things for me or when h/s does even if its a friend or family .my worry is h/s going to do this for me till when .
I APPRECIATE such vidoes.hope u heal hun❤
A lot of men actually think that financial support is all of that when it comes to keeping a woman... But honestly one of the reasons why Owamie stayed was because of the emotional support 💯 we as women feed on emotions, hence emotional abuse scars are much deeper than any other form of abuse 🤧
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I took a flight straight to the comment section 🤣🤣
Me too🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thank God you saw the light Ninja. Imagine had you settled/shrinked yourself to nurse his insecurities. Shuu😩💔. So much greatness would have gone to waste. Womandla baby✊🏿. Bereka mosadi!!❤️❤️❤️
Hey girl I understand how you feel, my mother was also a nurse most of her adult life and a brilliant one (started nursing in her early 20s) when she needed her profession's help the most they let her down and she died due to negligence
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Askies cc💖💖💖
Wamie how was your relationship when you were making more money than him and had a joint bank account? Were you allowed to just withdraw R10 000 and get something?
I'm learning so much from this. Thank you
Ooh Owamie🤗 I'm sure it must be so painful when you reflect back❤️❤️❤️🌺🌺
I understand how it feels to be betrayed by someone you once unconditionally loved. Take your time to heal , not everyone will have the same vision or understand your decisions . Just be true to yourself even when you feel vulnerable, pain or grief. Stay strong Sis💪💪❤️
It’s horrible.
So inspiring. You're like a motherly figure to me
Individuality within any relationship is huge! Only be dependent on God.
Thank you for highlighting this kind of topics woman NEVER talk about. Married woman would rather praise a woman for worshipping her man.
I remember how happy you were ninja and believe when you say you don't regret anything, and I love the fact that you tell your without spitting anyone. For now I believe that you're at the right place when God needs you to be and enjoy every moment.
Ninja nation ❤
I remember that video. I was so shocked to hear you say you had a panic attack from that. Love is something else hey.
Owamie sis, we haven’t forgotten about the Dear Owamie series, we’re gonna hold you accountable 😉
Men can be so controlling I have to hide the stuff I buy for me and the kids. And I always felt like I'm the wrong one I'm wasting money. But something a at the back of my mind says you work so hard why are you not spoiling yourself.
God knows I I LOVE such videos. It’s the transparency for me ninja 🙌🏿
Thank you for this Owamie. For me I finished varsity but I can't find a job. This year I want to work for myself. You are right it's hard to be dependent on someone
Owami I have written a book expressing my experiences under my husband's fake love. I managed to go up to a Doctoral degree but his "pulling" me down left me a "seriosly poor person". After that all the fake love was taken away from me & he left me. I'm now a retired woman that gathered no "moss" meanwhile he enjoys life.
Your make up and hairdo. Wowza, I'm sure the outfit is popping 🎉 🎉
We listening Owamie I'm listening your videos are everything needed some of us are still young and naive blinded by love so video like this help us to think out of box and deal with plan B and C we are listening ☝️
That pain you have gone through I know it very well. .when you are in love you become indenial or blind about the obvious things which will affect you later.
Owami you are really a good example of "marriage is not an achievement!" imagine leaving an actual achievement like a degree, a career. For a man. A marriage certificate.
His family showed you who he is lol but life is like that, we realize things after being exposed + knowing better. I think he grew jealous of you bcz he wasn't the hero anymore... you could stand on your own two feet, you could provide.
Honestly ladies, the only people you should love is yourself, your kids, your family (the ones who care for you) and close friends. Men don't invest in loving us, we must take notes from them. Atleast that's what I do.
nope just make a wise choice by choosing the right men. Stop being selfish, all children need a father and it is your responsibility to choose the right father for your kids.
Honey shibooboo. I love the authenticity of your storytelling. ❤❤❤ you look amazing Owami.
It’s really important to do a lot of self development before making a commitment to marriage . There’s nothing wrong with a man wanting a housewife but there’s everything wrong with a woman not fully realising what that means for her self sufficiency and development . I’m glad Owami is addressing this and she shows to have really done a lot of inner work and not just blaming her ex which is what a lot of us ladies do . Some of our heartbreaks are from our disappointment in the men we chose than what they did !
About the nurses dropping the ball to do with your mother its so sad really.
My uncle is a police man and his brother died because of police negligence
My aunt is in charge of licensing ambulances and 1 day when my grandmother needed emergency help the ambulance dispatched to assist did not have oxygen which led to her death
Its a painful cycle indeed
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Ghaaal..You are the best that has ever happened in women liberation !
Thank U for the high-light Queen !!
It happens to all women Olwami. Don't blame yourself. You are strong women. ❤
One Day I will quote this 🥰❤️
The naivety at that age is so strong, you can easily make rush decisions that could affect your life and sometimes permanently.
Thank God you were always someone who behind the scenes are thinking what is next. The worst would be to live in a comfort zone and never want anything great for yourself. Living your life through someone else's wishes and dreams.
Kudos to you for this one ❤✌✅
As a woman it is important to have your own , there are a lot of women out there who would have killed to be in a position where a man does everything, I guess that's why the slay queen trend exists. there are still women that are brought up in their families to depend on a man, not marry a guy if he does not make a certain amount of money obviously because they need to be 'taken care of' .its sad that your own was the one bringing you down .hind sight is 50/50 I guess.
Owamie thank you for sharing your story with us, I am a woman who walks heart to achieve my dreams, women Like Us they need to get a partner( housbent who will love,support and push their dreams to to come true 🙏❤
makeup ntombooooo aiii uyalwa cc❤️❤️❤️❤️much love❣️
Thank you so much for your channel that teaches us so much.
It means most man generally do not like their woman to be successfull even though they mostly admire successful woman from afar as long as it is not his woman so sad hey
your story has just reminded me of my past my ex fiance found me when i had nothing just finished school ,but was unemployed with a baby he promised to take care of us and yes he did then after 2 or 3 years i woke up from slumber and i started having dreams about my future they way he would laugh at me and tell me that people with degrees and diplomas are unemployed what makes me thing i will make it fast forward i made it he became my biggest hater making sure that everything i do fails , he would even call my work place and say things to get me fired at work luckily i had a great boss and i had already told him everything about my life and the life at home so he rubisshed him , i ended up braking up with him thank God we were still engaged not married
so we need to teach our sons to do better , this life thing inzima struuu
When a man really loves you, he will love you whether successful or not
All the rest are just excuses
Oh my God so wicked
@@bellznjollz80 its easy to say we don't like successful women than saying we don't love you
I just love love love your story times.
Thank you Owamie for sharing your story , I salute your bravery especially because you are empowering young people out there who could sometimes be naive. I like it when you talk of the red flags that were there at hindsight. Am sure one or two girls will take your advice and most importantly you are sawing a seed that will germinate in someone s life. God richly bless you dear, what was meant to be will be and congratulations on your new car👏🏾👏🏾💪🏽👍💃🥰
I'm super proud of you Owamie 😍thank you for your honesty.
Thank you for this storytime 😍 really made me think about my relationships ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you.
You are accurate and very informative.
This is such a complex issue. Thank you for sharing your experience.
I can relate to the situation you described cause I lived it until I decided to quit the marriage and started to glow and prosper in life. I looked so old when I was married and now I looked 15years younger than my age
Thank Goodness I got out!!
Yes this things happens . Atleast you are still young and you could turn your situation around and you have something that you fall into, imagine if this happened when you were fifty ? This is really an eye opener , I salute 😳😲😲😳
Team Botswana 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
Hi 😊👋
Love your courage, most woman stay and suffer their entire lives.
Thanks Owami. I really needed to hear this advice before is too late.
I am tearing, can't explain but I feel your pain
This is what iam regreting now , thank you for this message it really help
*Do not ever leave anything for a man* 😫😫 I felt that!! Sis ndiyakuva! ** I hear you!!
I noticed even on vlogs when he spoke he would talk over you. It was always about him nje, narsisistic traits that we only see now that its all over.
Thanks for sharing nathi siyafunda ukubona inkinga emtwini..
Owamie u a so quiet and can see they is life after divorce u a glowing my daughter i love u you a so strong from mama Margaret lone hill fourways
I love you Owam, you are such a strong woman and you inspire me and equip me with your life story ❤️❤️❤️
Tjooo you've opened my eyes to so many things on this video.. Thank you so much owami. Your honesty teaches us a lots. You are a real ninja
Yooh. Went back to school at28, after falling pregnant at 19. I felt so much lost and incomplete without finishing that diploma. I finished it. I feel so whole and Great. Man will embarrass you n hold you back.
Thank you for sharing this, I really needed to hear it.
Live for the future Owamie! Mr B will thrive on hearing you talk about him.
It's not about hi. But me, my story and my Ninjas
I’m sorry I commented.
You really inspire me ❤️ your story is similar to my story. I break down everyday
Owami thank you so much for sharing your personal experience with us. you really don't have to but I like it when we ladiez instead of breaking we are building each other.♥️
To me I really don't see him being selfish. I see a man who can be there for thier wives no matter what and proofing that he is a man. I consider yourself lucky to have found such a man.some men will let you seat at home and never even support you. Not unless he straight come out and said actually Owami I need you to quit and be a house wife. If he did all that out of love and you consider it selfish.might hurt him
If you want a woman that wants to work, to not work then that's selfish because you only think about what you want.
@@lifewithzeldawillemse true.but I haven't heard where he said she shouldn't work.
She said in her video where she spoke about her getting a divorce that he told her that he cheated because she is making more money than him. That's why he cheated with a woman who cooks pap at the side of the road.
Also, I wouldn't say she should consider herself lucky because he cheated no matter what the real reason is. He cheated.
Yeah ,he was there for her no matter what until she was making more money than him
Thank you owamie you’re changing lives❤️
We blessed to have someone like you, u always open our eyes❤❤❤much luv sis😘😘😘
Is this Big guy ? One thing i always say is have your own money as a woman no matter the relationship status , depending on someone else’s money puts u in a very vulnerable position
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