Agree,to turn the tables on the irresponsible parents I would take temporary custody over the nephews,then hire the stepsister as the nanny,only under that circumstances the stepsister could move in with the husband "specifically to grant the wellbeing of the children", however they will have a time limit to get back on their tracks in order to recover custody of the kids, because as they put it "involves innocent kids".
@@rextar9961 one side or not the money is his not his sister's and his apartment is his not his sister's. So no fuck the other side she needs to get a job and divorce that dead beat and get child support
Story 4: Most people under the influence of anesthesia would call for the mother, regardless of their closeness, because the mother's presence is comforting enough. Also, most hospitals only allow one visitor in the room in 5 minutes turn, the OP should've just waited. Totally the jerk in this situacion.
Last story. The wife was wanting her husband to choose her over his mom under aneasthesia. Kinda weird. Why not wait to see him after his mom. Despite what you and her went through. You put your feelings aside to put him first. If she's that of a problem avoid her or break up with him.
When you ask someone for help, you play by their rules, fact. The sister wanting to stay at the OP’s place showed she and her husband would not respect OP’s opinions and feelings. From how the story is written, OP was not being unfair or outrageous and the people trying to guilt them into bending over should feel ashamed.
The thing that pissed me off the most was everyone saying that the op had two options like no you’re asking him for help after you fucked your life up therefor you don’t get to make the options or call the shots like bruhhhh
Judging from the kind of attitude the sister displayed the OP had a fat garantee he would within weeks live under the tyranny of his sister and in law. They would not respect any of his rules.
story 3: the parents would not have ever tried to reconcile with her if they did not need money. Additionally, when she called it sinner money they doubled down and said "Where did you go wrong" instead of apologizing and saying they no longer felt it was a sin. If you have never been disowned by your parents, you don't understand what it's like. You are literally thrown into the world with no safety net and most of the time for things that a parent should forgive their child for. If a parent disowns a child, they should follow through and not come crying back the moment the child is more successful.
me: you CANT be saying that when yuo a striper your STRIPER I WOULD HAVE DISSOWEND YOURIGHT THERE AND GET A RESTRAINING ORDER ACTUALLY I WOULDNT EVEN ASK YO BUM AHH FOR HELP
story 4: I think the wife was the jerk, because her husband was coming off an anesthesia! I speak from my own experience, when someone is coming off an anesthesia, the person cannot think clearly. It happened to me that when I was coming off an anesthesia I called for my mother and said "Mom, please turn off the lights, I want to sleep" and I don't even remember saying that, It was my mother that told me what happened! Sometimes I even woke up screaming or crying and later I didn't remember a thing of what had happened!
My dad actually tell to my mom after coming from anestesia from his accident "to call a person at his work (his boss) to tell he won't be able to go to work today", and then fall sleep. My mom was like OP here but the medic who was there tell that people often does this things on anestesia as well and if he forgot after it's because of that. My dad to this day didn't remember said those exact words.
Last one: OP is a bit- I mean jerk. A mother’s love is greater than any other (if she was a good mother). Also he was waking up from anesthesia. Has she never seen those videos of people waking up from anesthesia and acting goofy or aloof?
Sister deserves absolutely nothing. Both were given their equal share. Just because she spent it all, doesn’t give her claim to anything. Plus, the apartment is from his mom so she has zero right to that either
The sister is the jerk, she shouldn’t be a stay at home mom, she should work if she has financial hardship, if she doesn’t have a degree she can look for a trade and work as a tradeswoman.
In the inheritance story, OP is not the jerk even if their decision leaves two children homeless. As much as family should always be there to support one another, that does not mean that the moment you realize you've made a mistake that will haunt your children, you put the responsibility on someone else's shoulders while crying about how unfair the world is. You are responsible for your own children, as someone who lives with a person who literally acts like he does everything and that the world owes him while he works for less than minimum wage by *choice* and has never considered changing jobs to make even his own life significantly better; I can't tell you how frustrating it is to sit there and listen to someone blame everyone else for the issues they themselves are in control of.
YES. That story pissed me off so much because of the sheer entitlement shown by the brother in law. Demanding money and shelter for 4-5 people is absurd, and they should be humble and embarrassed to even have to ask that if that's something they caused themselves. And if a father truly is thinking about his family, he'd gladly take the offer of shelter for his wife and kids, and go find a place to stay somewhere else, just because that would mean his family would be safe and getting the help they need.
@Koala Eucalyptus If he was truly a father he would have said OK And go look for shelter elsewhere we'll keep youing on his wife and kids but instead he decides he feels offended by what the poster did Walt the sisters too busy trying to accuse him of hurting family when no the one who risks her son's being homeless is not The poster it's her because she can't get over her I have to do whatever he says weak spine, Instead of the core of her that's a mother that should be focusing on her kids even if she wanted to show solidarity she should just let her kids stay with the OP then.
Story 4- Wife is the jerk. I've had dozens of surgeries over the years and I almost always ask for my mom to come when I came out of it, even if I knew she wasn't there when I went in. Mom is a comforting thing for some people. Blaming someone when their high on meds like that, for wanting their mom after surgery, is petty and childish,
Yup, me too! Every time I've had surgery and was coming out of it, I always cry and ask for my mom, even as an adult. It's a reaction and something I can never control. When I had surgery and was with my ex-fiancé, he understood this and was never offended when this happened. He was told ahead of time that this would most likely happen and it did. Mothers are usually someone who is there to comfort their kids when they don't feel well and anesthesia does make people revert to their childhood and feelings as they are waking up. The OP was so selfish and unreasonable even after she told that this is normal by a nurse.
Stripper story, op's parents disowned her, therefore she is not obligated to help the birth donors! Way to go for op to turn the "family helps family" on the aunt and uncle! Hospital story, Op have you ever had general anaesthesia?, whilst coming out out of it people can say the craziest things not normally said by them. In this case i will say you are wrong in this!
(Stripper story)She is a little bit of a jerk though because she didn’t help her parents who needed help but she has a point for not helping them since she was abandoned by them
It would be more powerful to help them after putting them in their place. She's right, she has no obligation to help them. When she does, it's because she's a good person. She can forever be the fallen one and remain exiled, or she could lead by example and show her parents how you treat your fellow human beings. But she was completely justified in what she's done so far in denying and telling them off. Would just be nice to show them it takes a non-christian to do the right thing.
Stripper Story: The parents didn't bat an eye when they left their daughter alone, but now have no problem asking for her help after about a decade. She is not at all obligated to help them after what they did to her, and she should not feel guilty about doing so. However, they are her parents after all, and in their time of need, and knowing that they have medical condition, it's a little sensitive topic. In my opinion, it's totally up to OP what she thinks she should do, and she is not the jerk here.
Story #4 are the stories that make you go “there’s no way people are this stupid.” She really got mad that her husband under heavy sedation called for his mom when he wasn’t even half conscious yet? The nurse even told her it’s a natural response for humans to call for mommy when they feel extremely confused and scared. Yet decided to get mad anyways? Then has the nerve to act like some victim and say she “wasn’t being petty”? I bet whatever argument her and her mother in la, had was 100% her fault she sounds like a Karen that wants the world to revolve around her.
Story 4 making me so mad, what a horrible wife, dude wasn't even in a concious state of mind and yet she holding accountable like he did it on purpose, plus she COULD've seen him after the mom, but showed he actually didn't care. Poor dude dealing with surgery and a bad wife.
Not gonna defend the wife on venting, but nothing wrong with leaving, since she could not have visited him after the mom. It is specifically stated, that he was only allowed one visitor for the day
Let me repeat, what was said "we were told only one person goes into the room for the day"(14:19-14:21). Please double check before making claims@@xabitron
For story one I'm on the Op's side. I shared a house with my sister. That was a mistake. We're too different now. OP sharing their house with their sister, plus kids, would only end in tears and frustration. There are plenty of services out there that could help the sister. She could also get a job. It's not much, but if she budgets correctly she should have enough to buy food.
He didn't have a problem with the sister and kids staying, just the deadbeat, hostile husband. The fact that the guy jumped from, "Can you do us a favor?" to "You should give us half your money." shows what kind of guy he is. It also wouldn't be a solution since they'd already blown twice that amount, already. If he cared about his wife and kids, he'd agree to those terms so they have a roof over their heads and then do everything in his power to afford a place of their own.
Last story the OP is the jerk …. U can’t always be the first priority being a gf or a wife … u should be given equal importance yes but for some people their bond with their parents is more strong and has been there longer than u so u can’t blame him for calling for his mom in his sleep get over urself
Mother legit came out after 10 minutes to give her what she wanted as well, showing she is worried for her son, the OP and the relationship between the OP and her son despite the argument they had But OP seems to be the one rejecting everything
That kind of shit is going to put this us vs her thing into the air with them. Op is not just a jerk but a stupid one for not understanding or try to understand how dugs can mess with your brain ..hell he might have even woke up vomiting and who is most likely there when you were a child and sick and vomiting? Your mom, it just makes sense he called out to her.
Story 1. Nope. You’re under no obligation to invite anyone into your house. Relative, friend, or rando in the street. You’re especially not under any obligation to invite someone you have some sort of problem with into your house. I happily did not invite two of my brothers ex’s into my house. They were both toxic and master manipulators. Did i feel bad? Yeah, for about 10 minutes while my brain ran through all the issues they’d caused. Then i had no shits left to give. Stripper. You can give them your weeks pay, but next week they’ll be back with their hand out again whilst simultaneously insulting you. Do yourself a favour and stay disowned. They made their own beds.
I love how people get exactly what someone else got, they’re frivolous and waste what they get and then expect the other person to pony up and give more because they’re not responsible enough to be, well responsible. And then the other person‘s the asshole for not bending to their will. It’s just ridiculous how people think. And you know, I’m sorry but maybe the idea of her children and her being homeless will light a fire under their ass. Because if he gives her anything, she’s not gonna win lesson nothing will change. She’s gonna be taking advantage and utilizing her children as a tool to manipulate guilt and bully others into complying with what she wants. The fact is the sister and the modern law sound like they have a low bit of growing up to do still. And the OP needs to stand firm and let them know that they will not be taken advantage of or guilted into compliance. The fact is the husband can get a hotel and see his children away from the office house whenever he wants. And maybe it’ll encourage them to get their shit in order and take care of themselves.
@@definitelynotthatgworl5090 Assuming they don't live in a third world shithole, it's basically impossible for those kids to be "Homeless". The second the parents are no longer providing sufficient aid or keeping them in school the state comes and takes them away. The only people left on the street are the ungrateful deadbeats.
Story 4: even if he WASN'T on anesthesia, its alright if he wanted his mother. The op is being very unreasonable and petty. The mother didn't even stay for very long just to make time for the op to come see him. She is Making the situation about herself even tho the husband is the one who just got out of surgery.
As a land owner, we have a specific clause in the rental contract that gives the renter FULL rights to any spring crop they planted in the fall. This is a standard clause that is any farm contract.
I like that that people blame others for THEIR misuse of money... like seriously she's 26 and a mother. The sister and brother in-law(particularly the brother in-law) is the jerk. But being an adult the sister should see the ridiculous statements from the brother in-law. I know that the sister is stressed, having 2 small kids with no money, but that shouldn't determine how you impulsively spend money. Certain it ain't fair to burden others with their own issues. Love y'all!
The op in the first one is spot on. To have a brother-in-law live with him would be pure hell. There sister is the one who decided to choose this idiot not them.
The last story the OP is the jerk. read between the lines, her husband had surgery and when he woke up he didn't make it about her, her self centered brain could not let go of the fact, that in this time she was not the star of the movie. classic narcissistic behavior, especially because anyone really thinking about the story would say "why would it matter?" she then went out of her way to post this story to build a case against her husband in hopes that someone will take sides, so she can use it to prove that this isn't just a petty, insignificunt, selfish reason to be upset with your husband after waking up from a surgery. i absolutely despise these types of people, they do not care about you or anyone, it's not YOUR movie.
In the last story she is a jerk Because mom is a men's first love isn't it more than enough The wife may be over caring but no one to more to a man than his mom if raised corectly
Story 4 yes you're the jerk. Anesthesia is one hell of thing. Coming out of it you can hallucinate extremely hard. Even if he looked at you he might not even be able to recognize you because it can extremely distort reality and even make you hear things that were never even said.
#3: I always hate when people just abandon someone and only get in contact again when they need something from them. That is so ignorant and selfish. The OP doesn't owe them anything and has absolutely no reason to feel guilty. Seems like her parents didn't either when they abandoned and disowned their own child for living her own life
Wow. This last story is the first one I've heard on this channel where the OP was actually the jerk. Though, I haven't watched all the videos on this channel, so there have probably been more.
Story 4: a person cannot predict how they come out of anesthesia. It it a weird feeling waking from anesthesia, you don’t know exactly where you are, who is with you, and what you say.
Story 1: don't let them in your house or you will never get rid of them if you do, it's your home, it's meant for you, your children and your spouse, no one else. His sister and that deadbeat man are two people, two people should be more than enough to find a job and a place for them self. Trust your gut, never go against your gut, if your gut tells you no, then it must be no.
I don’t see why the op in story 4 was so insecure over something so small as him wanting his mom. There was no reason why she had to visit him before his mom did. If she really loved him she would’ve put his needs before her “hurt feelings”. Leaving the hospital over that is so childish and I feel bad for the husband.
Story 1: tell them to pound sand and go no contact with them and anyone who harassed you about it. They are grown ass adults and it's no one's responsibility to do anything for them. They made their life choices now they can deal with them.
Story 4: Yeah, she's the jerk. Her husband just had surgery, don't care how minor (if it was, don't think she said), surgery still messes with you. You don't leave your husband there just because he called for his Mom. She made it all about her, when someone has surgery, it's not about you!
"I want my mom" might be the saddest sentence in the English language. It is what almost all people say when they're in so much distress that they can't reason anymore. Waking up out of the dreamless haze of anesthesia in pain, confused, possibly scared, these are the words that your brain gives you. She is the jerk. The other two OPs are good.
For the anesthesia story and the husband asking for the mom, the OP definitely overreacted. When you are under anesthesia and coming out of it afterwards, you don't always have control over what you say or how you react. As someone who has had MANY surgeries, even as an adult and when I was with my ex-fiancé, when I come out of the surgery I always cry and ask for my mom while freaking out. It's not something I could control as I was still all loopy from the anesthesia. My ex-fiancé totally understood and was never offended when this happened. This also happens other times when I would had other strong medications. OP acted very childish and was also told that this is a common reaction from people coming out of anesthesia and STILL decided to leave the hospital and abandon her husband. Rude and inconsiderate
On story 4 it depends on how much anasthesia they used. If it was a lot, then it’s understandable that the guy would call for his mom since it’s natural animal instinct that when we feel in danger or scared to call for our mother. But if it wasn’t much then the op still isn’t justified, even an incredibly small amount of anasthesia can make it seem like your either high or drunk or both
Story #1 not the jerk because the sister's husband sounds abusive, story #2 not the jerk especially if the rest of the family could help out, story #3 the jerk because anesthesia is a pretty trippy.
Story 2 - Someone in my city had a dispute over farmland ownership within their family due to unpaid debts. The courts ordered the farm owner's property seized and publicly sold to compensate the family member who was owed money. The farm went for sale publicly and the original owner started threatening people making bids. In the end, a random unrelated person bought the farm. Before the land ownership was transferred over, the original owner connected all the water sprayers with RoundUp and killed all of the blueberry shubs on the farm, causing over $1.5 million in damages. Not to mention the soil cannot be used to grow plants for years as the RoundUp needs to break down, and blueberry bushes take years to grow. The courts awarded the new farm owners $1.5 million, seized the guy's house and sold that too.
Seen story 2 before. Reminds me of another story where a landlord tried to pull something like that on a tenant where they had made a lot of improvements to the home on their own dime and the landlord wanted to kick them out but keep the improvements so they could profit, so they went and tore out everything they paid for.
last one that is jerk bc like his was there his entire life gave him birth and he loves her more then his own life so obviously he would call her first
On the last story, i can confirm that your brain isn't always there when you first wake up from anesthesia. The first time i went under, i was having an endoscopy done. I woke up and looked at my dad and asked for Arbys curly fries. I have no recollection but i wanted a kfc bucket size curly fries.
The story of the Good Samaritan came to my mind when I heard the commenter talk about OP, the sinner being more kind and compassionate than them, the “God fearing saints”.
In story #1 op isnt reeaaaallly the jerk but she should offer to let the kids in because they’re kids and have no involvement in the situation. If the parents disagree, so be it.
The last one is a big time jerk 🤦🏼♂️ if you’re waking up in this weird state of mind in a hospital room wouldn’t you call for your mom? I don’t care how old you are 🤣
Story #4 it’s normal for you to call out for your mum in that situation, I’ve had a few minor surgery’s and always when I either wake up or come back to reality I’m always calling out for my mum so I don’t understand why OP is so mad about this
On the first story, OP's not the jerk, that's his brother-in-law for trying to gaslight the sister into doing what he wants. As for what to do, I'd suggest partitioning to get his nephews into his custody as OP seems to be the only logical adult with the resources to care for them.
Story one: just repeat to step mom that shes also parroting the deadbeat husband, and if they don’t withdraw , cut contact because its so toxic and disgusting that their using children to force a decision , also change the locks and reinforce the door since the deadbeat might try to break in when your not home or worse
The 2nd story, the land-owner would have made ALL of that $1.5 million besides owing the property taxes and the cost of hiring someone to harvest it. The land-owner did not pay for the seeds (which is not bad for cotton but for corn or soybeans, that would have been about $250000 worth of seed), not paid any of the labor in maintaining/inspecting the field, and did not pay the equipment maintenance and fuel cost. This is completely insane of the land-owner to do. Legally, the farmer could have gotten a lawyer and filed a injunction to stop the land-owner from ending the lease. Arguing a case that the land-owner causing irreparable harm, I would think that would be a easy case to win.
Not even close. I read this and decided to respond. To truly understand we would need to see the lease. However, the farmer had no obligation to put in all that work and under most leases improvements made to the property belong to the landlord NOT the tenant. (Best example would be if you get permission to install built in cabinets. You can't just rip them out.) In the story here the big red flags are the herbicide and the depleted soil. If he had a decent attorney, the landowner likely got some kind of settlement of judgment.
In the last story OP is not the jerk because only one person could enter and it was his mom. Why would the OP wait if she cant come in the room. Its not like her husband can sense that she is in waiting room. That means if she countinued waiting it would be waisting time for no reason.
“Anesthesia can do odd things to your brain when you wake up” I had surgery a few months ago and when I woke up I didn’t remember getting put under anesthesia, I only remember being in the waiting room, so I thought that I had fallen asleep in the waiting room and they woke me up for my surgery 😂
For the first story: I always laugh that these ppl shift the blame for their hardships when they don’t get their way. OP did not make them have kids, OP did not make them lose THEIR jobs, OP didn’t waste THEIR inheritance. These ppl need to learn to grow up and take accountability for their OWN bad decisions.
Eff that...they're your sisters kids, they're her responsibility to provide for! It's not your problem that they're constantly having financial issues. She needs to be working. Obviusly it isn't enough financially for just the brother in law to work. He needs to quit giving in to his sister...all he's doing is enabling all of them!
If this sister amd brother in law , think they are in the right , tell them to take it to court!! And when they lose , counter sue for the legal fees . I love scorched earth.
For the first Story. I'm amazed that she even considers, helping someone else after what already was shown and said. Like, Bro.. here are 5,- Bucks for Gas. GL! Now get outta my sight and never dare to talk to me again.
Yes, the wife is absolutely petty. The two probably been married for no more than 5 maybe 10-15 years at most, but the husband has been a son all his life. So all of his child, teen, and young adult memories that are ingrained in his very being is far more significant compared to his marriage that's barely 1 or 2 decades? You got a couple more decades of marriage before you're able to pull rank from your husband's mother. Dude probably forgot he's even married let alone whom he's married to. Just narcissistic entitlement and self importance.
Story 2: apparently its a common practise for landowners to do this. So the main reason why they do it is obviously to reap the profits with free labour but most of the time is because they are changing industry. So after they reap the profit off farmers, they will put up the land as development sites, so they could either get a grant from the government to develop buildings for whatever uses (housing, offices, hotels, etc) or they could sell the land to developing companies. Most of them will sell the land in exchange for alot of money and some perks after development (free house).
The farmer should have never signed a lease for less time than was needed to take his crop to harvest. That's just bad business. He was justified in his revenge but he caused the situation he found himself in.
Story #4: yes, OP, you’re TA. Personally, I would whale for my moms comfort, even if I couldn’t think clearly. My mom is personally comforting for me, as she has always been there. It’s very very reasonable for him to call his mom, I don’t know what’s up with you OP.
Story 3: i thin the op is not a jerk but I feel like she could show that she stands above them and that helping people even if they treated you bad is the "right path" im an atheist but my way is helping people if I can and it's not about Religion and going to hell or haven but helping people because the world would be much better if everyone treated people like they would want to be treated at a hard time like this one for example, regardless if this money is earned stripping or working at an office job.
@@Alex-cc8yf i never said she ows them but think about it it's likely that after the help they would realize there mistake and maybe change there way of living, people are not born evil the circumstances make people what they are and one good will can maybe switch them. Even if they continue to bad-mouth the help or her way of helping at least the op can be sure for herself she tried to change this rotten world where no one cares less about the people around them and priorities money over everything... But it's only my opinion I know culture differences are one aspect of disagreement between people
@@kirillreiz7707 they were ready to cut every contact to their own child just bc she made her own life choices. When people are that deep in their religious swamp I find it very hard to believe they could just change. Maybe they would've silently kept in touch with their daughter knowing that now they'd really owe her then but they'd probably still hate her lifestyle. However idk these people in person so I'm just speaking from personal experiences.
@@Alex-cc8yf i get your point and it's true that they mistreated her in the worse way that could possibly be , it shows me that they are not good parents mostly because there parents forced the mindset of being religious to them and the parents of the op only knows this one way. I personally don't understand religious people all this religion makes no sense in every point. I still think the op broke out of this circle of idiocied way of living which is outdated by far and the help she could provide its could be just could be possible that the parents change there way of thinking just because of the circumstances they are in at that moment. I know it's hard to forgive and I agree it takes a lot of courage and will to forgive a mistreated like this but I think a second chance should be given to everyone so they could learn from the passt and maybe carry this to the future generations. The 2nd chance I'm talking about is specific for social mistreated and psychological toxicity because i know it sound Double standard but a human who is willing to kill another human or abuse them in a physical way wasted the right for a 2nd chance. I'm just a human and I realize that my words are bs for some people and I can understand this, still I hope the world changes to a better one I hate to see this world burning like it's right now.
Last story - OK, 1st time in a long time, YES... You ARE the jerk! Yep, OP is quite a bit jealous of Mom. &She's taking his 'Freudian slip' way too personally. I've had similar things happen to ME, while in a medical haze.🤦🏾♀️😌
Story 1: I would have told them all to get lost.. NOT the jerk! They’re demanding money or a place to live instead of asking and he already laid down his stipulations which she already turned down. She’s lucky OP would even consider letting her entitled a$$ in HIS home. She already got her money and squandered it on god knows what and she continues to keep putting herself in the situation she’s in. She’s almost 30 with kids and needs to grow up, be responsible and get a job. I would have cut contact with her and her family regardless of kids. The kids are not his responsibility and neither is his sister or the husband. They need to fix their own situation. If OP keeps fixing her problems she’s never going to learn to fix her own. Absolutely mind blowing that the stepmother agreed with the sister and her husband. It’s just so entitled and mind blowing that none of them see how its SO wrong! Definitely not the jerk at all.
Third option DO NOTHING don't let them move in or give the a dime if you start it will never end if you let them move I he will be there and before you know it your supporting them all. The step mom can still take them in. THIS IS A CAN OF WORMS THAT NEVER CLOSE. NTA NTA stepmother now taking care of her own child
Story #2- WoW! That farmer got his revenge, &THEN some! I'm w/it,tho. Greedy ppl NEED their "Karmic Comeuppance". Is THIS what you'd call 'malicious compliance'??🤔😆😂👍🏾 & $500?! That's a LOT of $$$, especially for HS kids in the 90s! Wish I had that job. I'm laughing at that Greedy-a** owner, tho.🤣
It’s wrong blame someone for what they do or say while doped up and barely even half conscious or less. I wouldn’t blame my wife if she called out for Barney the Friendly Purple Dinosaur instead of me! He could’ve been crying for his mom because she dreamed that she was dead and was crying about that not yet realizing it was just a dream, or maybe he though he was 5 and didn’t even remember he had a wife. These drugs can mess with your head!
The first story, the sister needs to grow a backbone dude. I cannot stand those kinds of family members who do not have the strength or sense to see through their SO’s bullshit and call them out for it.
If I was the OP in story one, I'd troll the sister so hard " But your husband says... But your husband says.... But your husband says.... " Until finally, I'd ask, " Can you even speak for yourself? "
If you let him in he will never leave. Plus you need to take into consideration that if you allow your sister & nephew's move in you very well may come home 1 day & find him living there! Something to think about ....
I don’t blame OP#1, but I get how they might blame theirself. But they actually said yes, the kids can move in. OP is not the reason the kids are homeless.
Story 4: Calling for the mom makes perfect sense. Mothers can often be seen as a sign of comfort.
Yep, Still she sucks imho.
True. His wife is a total jerk here
Agree 👍
@@madhuriphadke7947 yep
Good point
story #1 op is not the jerk true jerk is husband of op sister because his demands are so absurd and if someone not see it than this person is blind
Indeed OP in story #1 is not true jerk. Unfortunately, it seems some people here cannot see that, lol
Agree,to turn the tables on the irresponsible parents I would take temporary custody over the nephews,then hire the stepsister as the nanny,only under that circumstances the stepsister could move in with the husband "specifically to grant the wellbeing of the children", however they will have a time limit to get back on their tracks in order to recover custody of the kids, because as they put it "involves innocent kids".
Unless the story we know is just in one side
Yeah no shit sherlock
@@rextar9961 one side or not the money is his not his sister's and his apartment is his not his sister's. So no fuck the other side she needs to get a job and divorce that dead beat and get child support
Story 4: Most people under the influence of anesthesia would call for the mother, regardless of their closeness, because the mother's presence is comforting enough. Also, most hospitals only allow one visitor in the room in 5 minutes turn, the OP should've just waited. Totally the jerk in this situacion.
Totally agree. Someone is a little too narcissistic and self absorbed she forgot the world doesn’t revolve around her 😂
I agree
I agree too
Im thinking if she was the one who came out of the surgery under the effects of anesthesia then she might call for her Mom first too.. What a douche.,
i agree like most of the time a child sees their mom as the first or second person they see
Last story. The wife was wanting her husband to choose her over his mom under aneasthesia. Kinda weird. Why not wait to see him after his mom. Despite what you and her went through. You put your feelings aside to put him first. If she's that of a problem avoid her or break up with him.
Yes like his mom asumming she is his biological mom has been with him since birth even if she wasn't his bio mom she raised him.
Spoken like a true mama's boy.
She's losing at a game only she is playing, that's hilarious.
@@janetrose3929 loving your mom
And dad is ok,i hope someone loves you.
@@icekingforyou 😶
When you ask someone for help, you play by their rules, fact. The sister wanting to stay at the OP’s place showed she and her husband would not respect OP’s opinions and feelings. From how the story is written, OP was not being unfair or outrageous and the people trying to guilt them into bending over should feel ashamed.
You can say that again
The thing that pissed me off the most was everyone saying that the op had two options like no you’re asking him for help after you fucked your life up therefor you don’t get to make the options or call the shots like bruhhhh
@@vee5316 What's that supposed to mean?
@@stevensavoy927 they're basically saying, the sister and husband have no right to make demands in their position.
Judging from the kind of attitude the sister displayed the OP had a fat garantee he would within weeks live under the tyranny of his sister and in law. They would not respect any of his rules.
story 3: the parents would not have ever tried to reconcile with her if they did not need money. Additionally, when she called it sinner money they doubled down and said "Where did you go wrong" instead of apologizing and saying they no longer felt it was a sin.
If you have never been disowned by your parents, you don't understand what it's like. You are literally thrown into the world with no safety net and most of the time for things that a parent should forgive their child for. If a parent disowns a child, they should follow through and not come crying back the moment the child is more successful.
me: you CANT be saying that when yuo a striper your STRIPER I WOULD HAVE DISSOWEND YOURIGHT THERE AND GET A RESTRAINING ORDER ACTUALLY I WOULDNT EVEN ASK YO BUM AHH FOR HELP
story 4: I think the wife was the jerk, because her husband was coming off an anesthesia! I speak from my own experience, when someone is coming off an anesthesia, the person cannot think clearly. It happened to me that when I was coming off an anesthesia I called for my mother and said "Mom, please turn off the lights, I want to sleep" and I don't even remember saying that, It was my mother that told me what happened! Sometimes I even woke up screaming or crying and later I didn't remember a thing of what had happened!
My dad actually tell to my mom after coming from anestesia from his accident "to call a person at his work (his boss) to tell he won't be able to go to work today", and then fall sleep. My mom was like OP here but the medic who was there tell that people often does this things on anestesia as well and if he forgot after it's because of that. My dad to this day didn't remember said those exact words.
Last one: OP is a bit- I mean jerk. A mother’s love is greater than any other (if she was a good mother). Also he was waking up from anesthesia. Has she never seen those videos of people waking up from anesthesia and acting goofy or aloof?
Yeah! I've seen one where a person literally cried because she thought the fish in the fish tank were drowning! 😂
Story 1 OP is not the Jerk, the brother in law is an irresponsible fool that needs to be humbled.
And their stepmom is just trying to shove the responsibility onto op so she doesn't have to deal with it.
Sister deserves absolutely nothing. Both were given their equal share. Just because she spent it all, doesn’t give her claim to anything. Plus, the apartment is from his mom so she has zero right to that either
@@mksmike Indeed
@@mystery8207 Her husband sounds mainpulative so I wouldnt hold her 100% accountable.
The sister is the jerk, she shouldn’t be a stay at home mom, she should work if she has financial hardship, if she doesn’t have a degree she can look for a trade and work as a tradeswoman.
In the inheritance story, OP is not the jerk even if their decision leaves two children homeless. As much as family should always be there to support one another, that does not mean that the moment you realize you've made a mistake that will haunt your children, you put the responsibility on someone else's shoulders while crying about how unfair the world is. You are responsible for your own children, as someone who lives with a person who literally acts like he does everything and that the world owes him while he works for less than minimum wage by *choice* and has never considered changing jobs to make even his own life significantly better; I can't tell you how frustrating it is to sit there and listen to someone blame everyone else for the issues they themselves are in control of.
YES. That story pissed me off so much because of the sheer entitlement shown by the brother in law. Demanding money and shelter for 4-5 people is absurd, and they should be humble and embarrassed to even have to ask that if that's something they caused themselves. And if a father truly is thinking about his family, he'd gladly take the offer of shelter for his wife and kids, and go find a place to stay somewhere else, just because that would mean his family would be safe and getting the help they need.
@Koala Eucalyptus If he was truly a father he would have said OK And go look for shelter elsewhere we'll keep youing on his wife and kids but instead he decides he feels offended by what the poster did Walt the sisters too busy trying to accuse him of hurting family when no the one who risks her son's being homeless is not The poster it's her because she can't get over her I have to do whatever he says weak spine, Instead of the core of her that's a mother that should be focusing on her kids even if she wanted to show solidarity she should just let her kids stay with the OP then.
That last story...OP sounds like a Karen, I mean come on, getting mad over what someone says after surgery and running off out of insane jealousy
Story 4- Wife is the jerk. I've had dozens of surgeries over the years and I almost always ask for my mom to come when I came out of it, even if I knew she wasn't there when I went in. Mom is a comforting thing for some people. Blaming someone when their high on meds like that, for wanting their mom after surgery, is petty and childish,
Yup, me too! Every time I've had surgery and was coming out of it, I always cry and ask for my mom, even as an adult. It's a reaction and something I can never control. When I had surgery and was with my ex-fiancé, he understood this and was never offended when this happened. He was told ahead of time that this would most likely happen and it did. Mothers are usually someone who is there to comfort their kids when they don't feel well and anesthesia does make people revert to their childhood and feelings as they are waking up. The OP was so selfish and unreasonable even after she told that this is normal by a nurse.
Stripper story, op's parents disowned her, therefore she is not obligated to help the birth donors! Way to go for op to turn the "family helps family" on the aunt and uncle!
Hospital story, Op have you ever had general anaesthesia?, whilst coming out out of it people can say the craziest things not normally said by them. In this case i will say you are wrong in this!
(Stripper story)She is a little bit of a jerk though because she didn’t help her parents who needed help but she has a point for not helping them since she was abandoned by them
@@fixablecell6028 but she was a stripper, i mean even if you're not religious no one would want their daughter to be a sex worker or a stripper
It would be more powerful to help them after putting them in their place. She's right, she has no obligation to help them. When she does, it's because she's a good person. She can forever be the fallen one and remain exiled, or she could lead by example and show her parents how you treat your fellow human beings. But she was completely justified in what she's done so far in denying and telling them off. Would just be nice to show them it takes a non-christian to do the right thing.
Stripper Story:
The parents didn't bat an eye when they left their daughter alone, but now have no problem asking for her help after about a decade. She is not at all obligated to help them after what they did to her, and she should not feel guilty about doing so. However, they are her parents after all, and in their time of need, and knowing that they have medical condition, it's a little sensitive topic.
In my opinion, it's totally up to OP what she thinks she should do, and she is not the jerk here.
@@fixablecell6028 she got disowned. What parents? She has no parents
Story #4 are the stories that make you go “there’s no way people are this stupid.” She really got mad that her husband under heavy sedation called for his mom when he wasn’t even half conscious yet? The nurse even told her it’s a natural response for humans to call for mommy when they feel extremely confused and scared. Yet decided to get mad anyways? Then has the nerve to act like some victim and say she “wasn’t being petty”? I bet whatever argument her and her mother in la, had was 100% her fault she sounds like a Karen that wants the world to revolve around her.
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Story 4 making me so mad, what a horrible wife, dude wasn't even in a concious state of mind and yet she holding accountable like he did it on purpose, plus she COULD've seen him after the mom, but showed he actually didn't care.
Poor dude dealing with surgery and a bad wife.
Ditto!
The fact that she left the hospital and started venting on redit is so childish and embarrassing like her poor husband
Not gonna defend the wife on venting, but nothing wrong with leaving, since she could not have visited him after the mom. It is specifically stated, that he was only allowed one visitor for the day
he was only allowed one visitor AT A TIME not for the full, day@@Physithor
Let me repeat, what was said "we were told only one person goes into the room for the day"(14:19-14:21). Please double check before making claims@@xabitron
For story one I'm on the Op's side. I shared a house with my sister. That was a mistake. We're too different now. OP sharing their house with their sister, plus kids, would only end in tears and frustration. There are plenty of services out there that could help the sister. She could also get a job. It's not much, but if she budgets correctly she should have enough to buy food.
He didn't have a problem with the sister and kids staying, just the deadbeat, hostile husband. The fact that the guy jumped from, "Can you do us a favor?" to "You should give us half your money." shows what kind of guy he is. It also wouldn't be a solution since they'd already blown twice that amount, already. If he cared about his wife and kids, he'd agree to those terms so they have a roof over their heads and then do everything in his power to afford a place of their own.
Love your content. It’s just so chill to listen to these stories and watch the game in the background lol.
Last story the OP is the jerk …. U can’t always be the first priority being a gf or a wife … u should be given equal importance yes but for some people their bond with their parents is more strong and has been there longer than u so u can’t blame him for calling for his mom in his sleep get over urself
Try telling that to women nowadays. They want all the equality, but only if it's in their favour.
Mother legit came out after 10 minutes to give her what she wanted as well, showing she is worried for her son, the OP and the relationship between the OP and her son despite the argument they had
But OP seems to be the one rejecting everything
@@grey984 I know smh
@@lemmykilmister545 to me mom>>>
That kind of shit is going to put this us vs her thing into the air with them. Op is not just a jerk but a stupid one for not understanding or try to understand how dugs can mess with your brain ..hell he might have even woke up vomiting and who is most likely there when you were a child and sick and vomiting? Your mom, it just makes sense he called out to her.
Story 1. Nope. You’re under no obligation to invite anyone into your house. Relative, friend, or rando in the street. You’re especially not under any obligation to invite someone you have some sort of problem with into your house. I happily did not invite two of my brothers ex’s into my house. They were both toxic and master manipulators. Did i feel bad? Yeah, for about 10 minutes while my brain ran through all the issues they’d caused. Then i had no shits left to give.
Stripper. You can give them your weeks pay, but next week they’ll be back with their hand out again whilst simultaneously insulting you. Do yourself a favour and stay disowned. They made their own beds.
I love how people get exactly what someone else got, they’re frivolous and waste what they get and then expect the other person to pony up and give more because they’re not responsible enough to be, well responsible. And then the other person‘s the asshole for not bending to their will. It’s just ridiculous how people think. And you know, I’m sorry but maybe the idea of her children and her being homeless will light a fire under their ass. Because if he gives her anything, she’s not gonna win lesson nothing will change. She’s gonna be taking advantage and utilizing her children as a tool to manipulate guilt and bully others into complying with what she wants.
The fact is the sister and the modern law sound like they have a low bit of growing up to do still. And the OP needs to stand firm and let them know that they will not be taken advantage of or guilted into compliance. The fact is the husband can get a hotel and see his children away from the office house whenever he wants. And maybe it’ll encourage them to get their shit in order and take care of themselves.
Well said
@@definitelynotthatgworl5090 Assuming they don't live in a third world shithole, it's basically impossible for those kids to be "Homeless". The second the parents are no longer providing sufficient aid or keeping them in school the state comes and takes them away. The only people left on the street are the ungrateful deadbeats.
Story 4: even if he WASN'T on anesthesia, its alright if he wanted his mother. The op is being very unreasonable and petty. The mother didn't even stay for very long just to make time for the op to come see him. She is Making the situation about herself even tho the husband is the one who just got out of surgery.
As a land owner, we have a specific clause in the rental contract that gives the renter FULL rights to any spring crop they planted in the fall.
This is a standard clause that is any farm contract.
I like that that people blame others for THEIR misuse of money... like seriously she's 26 and a mother. The sister and brother in-law(particularly the brother in-law) is the jerk. But being an adult the sister should see the ridiculous statements from the brother in-law. I know that the sister is stressed, having 2 small kids with no money, but that shouldn't determine how you impulsively spend money. Certain it ain't fair to burden others with their own issues. Love y'all!
The op in the first one is spot on. To have a brother-in-law live with him would be pure hell. There sister is the one who decided to choose this idiot not them.
The last story the OP is the jerk. read between the lines, her husband had surgery and when he woke up he didn't make it about her, her self centered brain could not let go of the fact, that in this time she was not the star of the movie. classic narcissistic behavior, especially because anyone really thinking about the story would say "why would it matter?" she then went out of her way to post this story to build a case against her husband in hopes that someone will take sides, so she can use it to prove that this isn't just a petty, insignificunt, selfish reason to be upset with your husband after waking up from a surgery. i absolutely despise these types of people, they do not care about you or anyone, it's not YOUR movie.
the whole reason of the subreddit is to post a clearly i am not the jerk story
I like how he's like a judge from court reading who is the one that is the jerk
In the last story she is a jerk
Because mom is a men's first love isn't it more than enough
The wife may be over caring but no one to more to a man than his mom if raised corectly
#1 Good for you!! Stand your ground...they deserve NOTHING from you...her fault she spent her inheritance!!!
Story 4 yes you're the jerk. Anesthesia is one hell of thing. Coming out of it you can hallucinate extremely hard. Even if he looked at you he might not even be able to recognize you because it can extremely distort reality and even make you hear things that were never even said.
#3: I always hate when people just abandon someone and only get in contact again when they need something from them. That is so ignorant and selfish. The OP doesn't owe them anything and has absolutely no reason to feel guilty. Seems like her parents didn't either when they abandoned and disowned their own child for living her own life
Wow. This last story is the first one I've heard on this channel where the OP was actually the jerk. Though, I haven't watched all the videos on this channel, so there have probably been more.
Watch some more videos you’ll definitely see see more of that I promise u lol
Tbh, this guy is the best voice actor of this channel, and yes there are multiple voice actors
Story 4: a person cannot predict how they come out of anesthesia.
It it a weird feeling waking from anesthesia, you don’t know exactly where you are, who is with you, and what you say.
Story 3: Maybe give them enough money to help them scrape by, but let them know that in return, they can't bother you anymore for any reason.
Story 1: don't let them in your house or you will never get rid of them if you do, it's your home, it's meant for you, your children and your spouse, no one else. His sister and that deadbeat man are two people, two people should be more than enough to find a job and a place for them self. Trust your gut, never go against your gut, if your gut tells you no, then it must be no.
I don’t see why the op in story 4 was so insecure over something so small as him wanting his mom. There was no reason why she had to visit him before his mom did. If she really loved him she would’ve put his needs before her “hurt feelings”. Leaving the hospital over that is so childish and I feel bad for the husband.
This is probably the 20th video that I watched and only now, on story 4, I think that the OP was without a doubt a jerk
Story 1: tell them to pound sand and go no contact with them and anyone who harassed you about it. They are grown ass adults and it's no one's responsibility to do anything for them. They made their life choices now they can deal with them.
Story 4: Yeah, she's the jerk. Her husband just had surgery, don't care how minor (if it was, don't think she said), surgery still messes with you. You don't leave your husband there just because he called for his Mom. She made it all about her, when someone has surgery, it's not about you!
"I want my mom" might be the saddest sentence in the English language. It is what almost all people say when they're in so much distress that they can't reason anymore. Waking up out of the dreamless haze of anesthesia in pain, confused, possibly scared, these are the words that your brain gives you. She is the jerk. The other two OPs are good.
You're a boy or a man?
For the anesthesia story and the husband asking for the mom, the OP definitely overreacted. When you are under anesthesia and coming out of it afterwards, you don't always have control over what you say or how you react. As someone who has had MANY surgeries, even as an adult and when I was with my ex-fiancé, when I come out of the surgery I always cry and ask for my mom while freaking out. It's not something I could control as I was still all loopy from the anesthesia. My ex-fiancé totally understood and was never offended when this happened. This also happens other times when I would had other strong medications. OP acted very childish and was also told that this is a common reaction from people coming out of anesthesia and STILL decided to leave the hospital and abandon her husband. Rude and inconsiderate
On story 4 it depends on how much anasthesia they used. If it was a lot, then it’s understandable that the guy would call for his mom since it’s natural animal instinct that when we feel in danger or scared to call for our mother. But if it wasn’t much then the op still isn’t justified, even an incredibly small amount of anasthesia can make it seem like your either high or drunk or both
Story #1 not the jerk because the sister's husband sounds abusive, story #2 not the jerk especially if the rest of the family could help out, story #3 the jerk because anesthesia is a pretty trippy.
You missed the farmers story, story 2 is story 3 and story 3 is story 4
that farmer story had me rolling, the level of revenge he pulled is definitely my style of revenge
Story 2 - Someone in my city had a dispute over farmland ownership within their family due to unpaid debts. The courts ordered the farm owner's property seized and publicly sold to compensate the family member who was owed money. The farm went for sale publicly and the original owner started threatening people making bids. In the end, a random unrelated person bought the farm. Before the land ownership was transferred over, the original owner connected all the water sprayers with RoundUp and killed all of the blueberry shubs on the farm, causing over $1.5 million in damages. Not to mention the soil cannot be used to grow plants for years as the RoundUp needs to break down, and blueberry bushes take years to grow. The courts awarded the new farm owners $1.5 million, seized the guy's house and sold that too.
Obviously in such a case you burn your house down before it can be taken.
@@CidVeldoril yes but then more money is taken
Seen story 2 before. Reminds me of another story where a landlord tried to pull something like that on a tenant where they had made a lot of improvements to the home on their own dime and the landlord wanted to kick them out but keep the improvements so they could profit, so they went and tore out everything they paid for.
last one that is jerk bc like his was there his entire life gave him birth and he loves her more then his own life so obviously he would call her first
On the last story, i can confirm that your brain isn't always there when you first wake up from anesthesia. The first time i went under, i was having an endoscopy done. I woke up and looked at my dad and asked for Arbys curly fries. I have no recollection but i wanted a kfc bucket size curly fries.
I love these stories :shelterin:
The story of the Good Samaritan came to my mind when I heard the commenter talk about OP, the sinner being more kind and compassionate than them, the “God fearing saints”.
In story #1 op isnt reeaaaallly the jerk but she should offer to let the kids in because they’re kids and have no involvement in the situation. If the parents disagree, so be it.
He did
The last one is a big time jerk 🤦🏼♂️ if you’re waking up in this weird state of mind in a hospital room wouldn’t you call for your mom? I don’t care how old you are 🤣
Story #4 it’s normal for you to call out for your mum in that situation, I’ve had a few minor surgery’s and always when I either wake up or come back to reality I’m always calling out for my mum so I don’t understand why OP is so mad about this
On the first story, OP's not the jerk, that's his brother-in-law for trying to gaslight the sister into doing what he wants. As for what to do, I'd suggest partitioning to get his nephews into his custody as OP seems to be the only logical adult with the resources to care for them.
Story 1: Cease all contact, file for restraining order if the sibling in question won't stop harassing me, take it to court if situation escalates.
Story one: just repeat to step mom that shes also parroting the deadbeat husband, and if they don’t withdraw , cut contact because its so toxic and disgusting that their using children to force a decision
, also change the locks and reinforce the door since the deadbeat might try to break in when your not home or worse
The 2nd story, the land-owner would have made ALL of that $1.5 million besides owing the property taxes and the cost of hiring someone to harvest it. The land-owner did not pay for the seeds (which is not bad for cotton but for corn or soybeans, that would have been about $250000 worth of seed), not paid any of the labor in maintaining/inspecting the field, and did not pay the equipment maintenance and fuel cost. This is completely insane of the land-owner to do. Legally, the farmer could have gotten a lawyer and filed a injunction to stop the land-owner from ending the lease. Arguing a case that the land-owner causing irreparable harm, I would think that would be a easy case to win.
Not even close. I read this and decided to respond. To truly understand we would need to see the lease. However, the farmer had no obligation to put in all that work and under most leases improvements made to the property belong to the landlord NOT the tenant. (Best example would be if you get permission to install built in cabinets. You can't just rip them out.) In the story here the big red flags are the herbicide and the depleted soil. If he had a decent attorney, the landowner likely got some kind of settlement of judgment.
In the last story OP is not the jerk because only one person could enter and it was his mom. Why would the OP wait if she cant come in the room. Its not like her husband can sense that she is in waiting room. That means if she countinued waiting it would be waisting time for no reason.
Last story: yes, you're the jerk. Your mother in law seems like a nice person so please take some time to reflect upon your actions
Not many mother in laws like that out this lady really needs to get her shit together
“Anesthesia can do odd things to your brain when you wake up”
I had surgery a few months ago and when I woke up I didn’t remember getting put under anesthesia, I only remember being in the waiting room, so I thought that I had fallen asleep in the waiting room and they woke me up for my surgery 😂
For the first story: I always laugh that these ppl shift the blame for their hardships when they don’t get their way. OP did not make them have kids, OP did not make them lose THEIR jobs, OP didn’t waste THEIR inheritance. These ppl need to learn to grow up and take accountability for their OWN bad decisions.
op did offer a place for the kids also, he didn't say they can't meet their dad outside. mental gymnastics are next level
Story 2, that land owner got lucky every farmer i know would have total salted the land to the point that nothing would ever grow again
Story 4 : OP IS A JERK. the first one i see since i'm following you '3'
Eff that...they're your sisters kids, they're her responsibility to provide for! It's not your problem that they're constantly having financial issues. She needs to be working. Obviusly it isn't enough financially for just the brother in law to work. He needs to quit giving in to his sister...all he's doing is enabling all of them!
On the second story, the farmer should have poisoned the land so it would be completely useless! Imo the farmer didn't go far enough!
It’s hard to poison the land I think.
@@1mol831
It can be done.
@@waktosha7378 you gotta spend money to buy poison.
@@waktosha7378 I'm sure the EPA would weigh in on that.
If this sister amd brother in law , think they are in the right , tell them to take it to court!! And when they lose , counter sue for the legal fees . I love scorched earth.
Story 1: Well if op doesn't to take them in why doesn't the stepmom?
If there's family to shame him for "Putting kids out on the street", there's family to take those kids in.
Dude got greedy, deserved every bit of that punishment
Story 1: the op's half sister's husbands is the one that's making the demands???
No it’s her husband
@@Imrazorac your right
For the first Story. I'm amazed that she even considers, helping someone else after what already was shown and said.
Like, Bro.. here are 5,- Bucks for Gas. GL! Now get outta my sight and never dare to talk to me again.
Yes, the wife is absolutely petty. The two probably been married for no more than 5 maybe 10-15 years at most, but the husband has been a son all his life. So all of his child, teen, and young adult memories that are ingrained in his very being is far more significant compared to his marriage that's barely 1 or 2 decades?
You got a couple more decades of marriage before you're able to pull rank from your husband's mother. Dude probably forgot he's even married let alone whom he's married to. Just narcissistic entitlement and self importance.
You a man/boy?
Story 2: apparently its a common practise for landowners to do this. So the main reason why they do it is obviously to reap the profits with free labour but most of the time is because they are changing industry. So after they reap the profit off farmers, they will put up the land as development sites, so they could either get a grant from the government to develop buildings for whatever uses (housing, offices, hotels, etc) or they could sell the land to developing companies. Most of them will sell the land in exchange for alot of money and some perks after development (free house).
The farmer should have never signed a lease for less time than was needed to take his crop to harvest. That's just bad business. He was justified in his revenge but he caused the situation he found himself in.
The sisters husband said he was manipulative when he literally manipulated the guys sister
Story #4: yes, OP, you’re TA. Personally, I would whale for my moms comfort, even if I couldn’t think clearly. My mom is personally comforting for me, as she has always been there. It’s very very reasonable for him to call his mom, I don’t know what’s up with you OP.
1: not a jerk 2: comming from a farmer background...not a jerk 3: overly religious people get on my nerves...so imo...not a jerk
Salute to the farmer. I hope he reads this one Day.
Bro, you're a *legend.*
Second comment 1st to like
Heh
OP in story 1:
"There is no your half of the inheritance! There is only my all of it!
Why should I be penalized because of your sloppiness?!"
Story 3: i thin the op is not a jerk but I feel like she could show that she stands above them and that helping people even if they treated you bad is the "right path" im an atheist but my way is helping people if I can and it's not about Religion and going to hell or haven but helping people because the world would be much better if everyone treated people like they would want to be treated at a hard time like this one for example, regardless if this money is earned stripping or working at an office job.
Oof
So always help no matter what they did to you? Seems kinda stupid. She doesn't owe them crap
@@Alex-cc8yf i never said she ows them but think about it it's likely that after the help they would realize there mistake and maybe change there way of living, people are not born evil the circumstances make people what they are and one good will can maybe switch them. Even if they continue to bad-mouth the help or her way of helping at least the op can be sure for herself she tried to change this rotten world where no one cares less about the people around them and priorities money over everything... But it's only my opinion I know culture differences are one aspect of disagreement between people
@@kirillreiz7707 they were ready to cut every contact to their own child just bc she made her own life choices. When people are that deep in their religious swamp I find it very hard to believe they could just change. Maybe they would've silently kept in touch with their daughter knowing that now they'd really owe her then but they'd probably still hate her lifestyle. However idk these people in person so I'm just speaking from personal experiences.
@@Alex-cc8yf i get your point and it's true that they mistreated her in the worse way that could possibly be , it shows me that they are not good parents mostly because there parents forced the mindset of being religious to them and the parents of the op only knows this one way. I personally don't understand religious people all this religion makes no sense in every point. I still think the op broke out of this circle of idiocied way of living which is outdated by far and the help she could provide its could be just could be possible that the parents change there way of thinking just because of the circumstances they are in at that moment. I know it's hard to forgive and I agree it takes a lot of courage and will to forgive a mistreated like this but I think a second chance should be given to everyone so they could learn from the passt and maybe carry this to the future generations. The 2nd chance I'm talking about is specific for social mistreated and psychological toxicity because i know it sound Double standard but a human who is willing to kill another human or abuse them in a physical way wasted the right for a 2nd chance.
I'm just a human and I realize that my words are bs for some people and I can understand this, still I hope the world changes to a better one I hate to see this world burning like it's right now.
Last story -
OK, 1st time in a long time, YES... You ARE the jerk! Yep, OP is quite a bit jealous of Mom. &She's taking his 'Freudian slip' way too personally. I've had similar things happen to ME, while in a medical haze.🤦🏾♀️😌
Story 1: I would have told them all to get lost.. NOT the jerk! They’re demanding money or a place to live instead of asking and he already laid down his stipulations which she already turned down. She’s lucky OP would even consider letting her entitled a$$ in HIS home. She already got her money and squandered it on god knows what and she continues to keep putting herself in the situation she’s in. She’s almost 30 with kids and needs to grow up, be responsible and get a job. I would have cut contact with her and her family regardless of kids. The kids are not his responsibility and neither is his sister or the husband. They need to fix their own situation. If OP keeps fixing her problems she’s never going to learn to fix her own. Absolutely mind blowing that the stepmother agreed with the sister and her husband. It’s just so entitled and mind blowing that none of them see how its SO wrong! Definitely not the jerk at all.
Third option DO NOTHING don't let them move in or give the a dime if you start it will never end if you let them move I he will be there and before you know it your supporting them all. The step mom can still take them in. THIS IS A CAN OF WORMS THAT NEVER CLOSE. NTA NTA stepmother now taking care of her own child
In story 4 I think it goes without saying when you’re in the hospital for a loved one…it ain’t about you.
Story #2-
WoW! That farmer got his revenge, &THEN some! I'm w/it,tho. Greedy ppl NEED their "Karmic Comeuppance". Is THIS what you'd call 'malicious compliance'??🤔😆😂👍🏾
& $500?! That's a LOT of $$$, especially for HS kids in the 90s! Wish I had that job. I'm laughing at that Greedy-a** owner, tho.🤣
It’s wrong blame someone for what they do or say while doped up and barely even half conscious or less. I wouldn’t blame my wife if she called out for Barney the Friendly Purple Dinosaur instead of me!
He could’ve been crying for his mom because she dreamed that she was dead and was crying about that not yet realizing it was just a dream, or maybe he though he was 5 and didn’t even remember he had a wife. These drugs can mess with your head!
Story #4 men blown to bits on the battlefield both young and old call out to their mothers.
The first story, the sister needs to grow a backbone dude. I cannot stand those kinds of family members who do not have the strength or sense to see through their SO’s bullshit and call them out for it.
I think I understand why OP #1 doesn't like his half-sister's husband
you have the perfect voice, you dont stutter or have trouble reading whatsoever
Story 1.....anyone that tells me my decision is wrong......IS CUT OFF FOREVER PERIOD!
#1 don't let them move in, remind she already spent her inheritance money so she gets no more, her hubby needs to find another job
The last one was TOTALLY the jerk and petty. If I were her husband I would be pissed at her.
If I was the OP in story one, I'd troll the sister so hard " But your husband says... But your husband says.... But your husband says.... " Until finally, I'd ask, " Can you even speak for yourself? "
If you let him in he will never leave. Plus you need to take into consideration that if you allow your sister & nephew's move in you very well may come home 1 day & find him living there! Something to think about ....
“You have one of two options” like he’s obligated to 💀💀
I respect that farmer on #2 so much
considering they DISOWNED her, she should remind them of that
I don’t blame OP#1, but I get how they might blame theirself. But they actually said yes, the kids can move in. OP is not the reason the kids are homeless.
It would have been more than just the labor. Presumably, the farmer paid for the seed, fuel for the vehicles, insurance, etc.
Cotton Farm: Thats why you put up the lease in a way that you are allowed to harvest it.