the loneliness epidemic (short film)
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- Опубликовано: 29 дек 2020
- We talk about depression, anxiety and other mental health issues, but we often forget one of the biggest side effects: loneliness.
In this video, I tried to capture the feelings & mood of living in lockdown, but also shine some light on the issue of feeling left out, whether there's a pandemic going on or not.
I wrote this based on emails I received & browsing through thousands of pages online.
I just want to say that although this video doesn't have an actual happy ending - so many of the stories I've read online had one - please don't give up. The right time and the right people will come along at some point... I know it's even harder now, but we can get through this.
Feel free to share your experience and connect in the comments. Love to you all.
Please know you're not alone in feeling lonely.
Kat xx
This is where you can seek help:
www.suicidepreventionlifeline....
www.suicide.org/suicide-hotlin...
samobojstwo.pl/
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Please note, some of the footage was taken (most, actually, a few shots by me), from the pexels website, due to current circumstances. I live in the UK where the new strain is much more contagious than the original one, so I sadly couldn't shoot myself.
Authors of footage: cottonbro, Yaroslav Shuraev, Patrick Tomasso.
Author of the thumbnail photo: Italo Melo
written & edited by me :)
#lonely #loneliness #depression 
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www.napiorkowska.net/donations Thank you!!! And bless all of you who have helped me out with a donation already. I have been struggling enormously in terms of finances through this pandemic.
Kat if you need anyone to translate to Portuguese I can help you. I just want your videos to reach more people :)
@@julliesoares6475 Great idea! I could try to do the same with spanish.
@@johanssonb And I would be glad to help with translating to Hungarian, if that'd be needed!
@@johanssonb hi love, could you please try and translate and send it to me through email (kat [at] napiorkowska.net). Possibly one sentence in ENG next to the translated one so that I know how to place it, I'll have to add it manually since youtube turned that feature off.
@@CasssETS hi love, could you please try and translate and send it to me through email (kat [at] napiorkowska.net). Possibly one sentence in ENG next to the translated one so that I know how to place it, I'll have to add it manually since youtube turned that feature off.
I never thought how someone that I don’t know could translate exactly what I’m thinking in such a beautiful way. Thank you, Kat.
+1
Absolutely. Every single word..
Exactly, i just couldn't say it myself
True
While I was watching the movie, I thought exactly the same.
I want someone to be afraid of losing me'
Hit close to home.
NO one will , just be that one
And i want to be afraid of someone's lose
My heart tightened
I don’t know you, but I am afraid of losing you. And I care about you.
Never imagined that I would be this lonely in my twenties.
I really do feel that i'm missing out on life everyday. And no matter how hard I try to make friends, i'm never able to make a deeper connection. And it gets even harder by each year into adulthood... You really miss being a child.
exactly what I feel right now....
I feel you! 💜
i feel the same way
Probably you have set your boundaries and not letting yourself open up. I am not saying this is going to be easy, but you have to let go off your mental restrictions.
You know, this is gonna sound like some gorilla marketing. But check the video "Nodus Tollens" by "dictionary of obscure sorrows".
Has the same energy as this one, just that it offers a more "positive" end.
The two work well in tandem though. Her work is more introspective, His work is more general with a positive twist.
They should collab, tbh.
“I find myself in a room full of faces feeling more alone than in my bed alone at midnight.”
couldn’t have said it better
When I read these comments, I really want to have a big meeting with everyone who saw and liked this video.
right¡ me too
That feeling when you want to be forgotten by everyone but what you really want is to be found.
talked to my therapist about this actually, that pandemic or not for me not much has changed. I'm not even unattractive or some kind of horrible person to justify it. Yet, I have no friends, no family, no significant other. Didn't manage to make lasting friendships at school and then, being almost 30, I'm all alone. My cat, whom i feel so grateful to have is my closest person who is there every single day. I just can't relate to most people, tried making friends so many times, always felt much worse than being alone. I find people on YT, in podcasts, books, or musicians way more relatable than people I've met in my life. It feels like it will just never change and spending time with just one person who likes me and i like them back seems like an impossible mission. And every new year reminds me of that. Cause nothing changes.
Keep tyring, I try it too. I hope we will find someone...
@@z.8605 You will 💕
@@SisterhoodPathways I wish you the best!:))
I feel exactly the same !
I try too but people don't need to have a friends or I dont know... I m 20
this video is literally my life. why is it so hard to make friends and so hard to be loved
Tell me about it 😒
@@sedzanimoreblessingmaduwa7780
I thought they're asking us a question? lol.
Yep! Loneliness is one of the most difficult experiences to deal with in life.
@@skunko1871 More like the lack of experience. Grief is harder than death, I reckon. I feel as if loneliness is grieving for the people you've never lost, and people you've never had a chance to grow close with.
@@Adelaideanegg 😢
Welp getting bullied is even worse trust me
Sending hugs 💕
ooo witam panią
I wanted it so badly now😞
@@jittugeorge3454 😘😘😘 have these all.
I read it as sending thugs, u know Skyrim thugs
I am 28, and I am genuinely fearful of how much more time I have to spend on this world.
I know exactly how that feels
How are you doing now?
Your not alone in that friend
omg. This video spoke to my soul. “When i was younger i thought id be at my happiest right now, instead i cant help but that ive been cheated out of life” had me in tears. Because this thought crosses my mind at least 10 times every single day. I dont know what’s happening to me. Im siting here watching my life slowly fall apart wondering if this is part of transitioning to adulthood?
Adulthood seems like a trap we've running towards it without knowing what it is... why no one told me?..
Gosh i feel everything this, too 😩
Check out Sadghuru (he is Indian guru) on youtube💕 He has some films about loneliness and stuff. I can really tell u what he says helps a lot! I wish you all the best in life 🍀
Loneliness and feeling isolated is one of the main reasons to get depression
I'm in it for several years now, the pandemic changed nearly nothing for me but it's interesting to see how even healthy people suffering under these conditions make me realize social distancing is really a threat and maybe depression and other illness could be cured if people would have a sense of community not feeling they against the world
Im 19 and this is how I feel almost everyday. It comes and goes but when the feeling comes back I feel so cold and unloved.... I hate it
me too man. I thought after i left high school a couple years ago it might get better but it hasn't
I’m 16 been battling depression since I was six it’s really hard
It's like seeing familiar faces every single day but not knowing their personalities.
It's like waiting for someone to genuinely talk with you, but you can't find one.
It's like waking up to zero notifications, even on your birthday.
It's like having a constant fear of not having anyone to care about you.
It's a lot more...
yeah, days like birthdays are the worst, because literally no one cares/remembers or even knows. When I started my own business, I thought for a short second to get another sim card, for the company purposes. But then i remembered that i have no social life anyway, so what's the point
Anyone else sometimes feels alone amongst their families?
All my cousins are much older or younger than me. I used to get that feeling but as I got older, it felt better. I still have a sister who I talk to and my younger cousins like to play Minecraft with us
It's the "it felt like everyone silently faded from my life" for me
All people in this comment section, feel this way. We will find each other. Keep being strong, you are not alone, we are everywhere, it just takes times to find each other.
I went from a small town to a big city. Never have I felt more alone.
Ironic that there’s more people in the city
I think us people who feel this way, should have a community and just talk about these things that are more important to us than anything. There are some who don't even have family relatives to share anything with. We have to do this and support each other to keep going and preventing to waste our energy just waiting for the right time!
Hi you can talk to me if you want
i agree
Hey friend !
yes, I agree, i mean, that´s actually a really good idea, but how?
I have Autism. I've always felt like the spectator watching everyone else connect with each other easily. I've always felt alone. The times I have tried I'm just treated like I'm retarded and not worth talking to. Just ask me anything and I will answer back.. Every birthday, Christmas or any other special day is a reminder that I'm alone and never part of anyone's memory or happiness.
And it just gets worse each year. I actually talk to animals more than people.
I'm sorry to hear that... some people are so cruel and indeed animals are way better than them... I hope u find ur peace in life ❤🙏
If you want I can chat with you :) I am sensitive and empathetic and I will hear about your story with pleasure
Diagnosed with autism recently and can totally relate to this . One thing life has taught me , is that no matter how hard life is, and no matter how long we have to endure painful circumstances, there is always always ALWAYS hope and there’s always a possibility that things can change. And when they do, you appreciate them so much more than if you’ve always had them.
Remember, “if you’re going through hell, dig deeper and keep going “ because you really never know when the tide will turn.
Hi you can talk to me if you want
funny coincidence my name is sarah too and u wrote it just the way i like to write it (with h ) i would be so happy if we talked together
Feels like we’re living in a bubble that we can’t get out of. A bubble that keeps us isolated from the real world. No matter what you do, who you’re around, where you go, who you love, that bubble of loneliness never seems to burst.
if I didn’t have your channel I would actually believe that I am literally the only person that is so lonely, thank you a lot for contributing to society and giving all those lonely souls sympathy, you are making a difference)
While watching this video, I felt as if I was hearing myself, because that is exactly the way I feel each day of my life.
This video is a summary of my last few years. Thank you for realizing that I am not alone with this.
You just put words on my feelings. When this pandemic is over I'm still here lonely like I always been.
I relate to this so much...being alone is one of the worst feelings..😞
I relate so badly
same
Addressing loneliness is, like you have already stated, probably one of the most pressing issues in our modern day society. I think you highlighted many people's perception of life and, perhaps more importantly, their awareness of despairing solitude. Your videos always make me reflect and I think that is a sign of a truly well communicated premise. A Goldilocks dramaturgy artform; giving not too much or too little information, but just the right amount for the viewer to both relate and think.
I wonder why - why lately our society is so so lonely?
i don't know why i am so emotional. it's the same as you described i waste my time and after the whole day when it's finally night time i cry and it's the same cycle goes on everyday. it's so hard to do stuff i'm so tired all the time i lost my motivation. noone even checks up on me cuz noone cares! even if i die noone will even care
HxtedBarbie No. You're wrong. I care. I don't know you but I really do care. And every human life, when gone, hurts everyone. So, reach out to another and help that person. Guaranteed, you will feel great. Every living thing on the face of this earth is terribly important.
I did not expect to see you here, but I'm kind of not surprised. I'm sorry to hear you are going through the same. One day, we'll break the invisible wall and the chains that prevent us from moving on, finding our purpose in life and actually have some genuine fun! Be blessed!
Hi you can talk to me if you want
If you're feeling lonely, instead of looking for someone who will listen to you, be the one who listens to someone. Instead of waiting for help, help someone and see how quick the feeling of loneliness passes.
Twój film wypełnia każdą komórkę mojego ciała, mówi o wszystkim, czego doświadczyłam i co czuję każdego dnia. Ten rok był trudny pod względem relacji, ale wcale nie był inny. Bo samotności doświadczam od bardzo dawna, bez względu na pandemię czy dystans społeczny. Dziękuję za Twoją twórczość, mówi za mnie to, co mi samej trudno powiedzieć na głos.
"There's 7 billion people in this planet surely you'll find someone"
That line never helped me
That line made me feel so unwanted by the whole world
I highly doubt this ever helped anyone maybe they used it as an excuse
7 billion people in this planet and yet half of them are feeling extremely lonely
"FOR ONCE I WANT SOMEONE TO BE AFRAID OF LOOSING ME"
I am glad this covid epidemic happened. Normal people are forced to experience a tiny bit of loneliness and depression I've been feeling my entire adult life.
That's exactly what I thought and how I feel..
@@matea3026 it was funny seeing them literally riot because their coffee shops, night clubs, gyms and whatever else were closed because of the epidemic.
@@nikolapetrovic4814 exactlyy! In this case, I'm glad that I'm an introvert so it wasn't a problem for me at all to deal with the covid rules
@@matea3026 I am too, I only ever go outside for work. Also, social anxiety and a severe stuttering problem. Needless to say I never had any friends or girlfriends. If I wasn't forced to wage slave to feed myself I wouldn't even go outside, there is no point.
The shots in your short films always are so mesmerizing.. I could watch them and listen to your voice for hours and hours. I feel really lucky to have wonderfull people around me. To all of you lonely souls, I wish you to find a person who will really care for you and cherish you for who you really are. I'm sure you are all awsome people! Sending all of you virual hugs
I came so early, you make me feel that ı'm not alone, so thank you for that A LOT
being 21 seeing this really hurts. i see everyone complains how this pandemic is awful and stressing, yet for me, it feels just the same as before. no friends to build deep connection with. or even someone to talk to daily. my life doesn’t change. yet everyone around me is growing, here im spend time at my room doing nothing.
"they only wait for their time to speak" how accurate and saddening this is... I actually feel this with most of the people,only not with my mom and brother... Most of people can't even listen, they don't need meaningful talk...
"I felt the same way before this started and I will feel the same way after it ends" 😔... and for once I want someone to be afraid of losing me.
This is so beautiful. "Each Christmas reminds me that I'm in the same spot I was 12months ago" so true. This type of video is exactly what inspired me to finally share my storytelling on my channel!
I felt everything said in this video, and thank you for this 🙏
Ogladajac mialam lzy w oczach. Dotknelas tym filmem mojego serca.
I used to watch your videos in the past, when my dark nights was something new for me, now, I'm not better at all but I wanna thank you from my heart for saying everything I'm hiding inside my soul and can't tell to anyone without hearing their judgments.
Thanks Kat 💕
I m 16 nd I nvr thought some1 would ever be able to express my inner feelings in such an exact way. Lots of love from India. 💕
I really ... truly ... weirdly.. cant beleive how much id been touched by this video. No exageration... but i feel like my heart is gonna get out of my chest and my tears just dropped out. The script and your voice are .. undescribebal ❤❤😞
I've got my teddy bear! I'm not kidding, whenever i feel crushed I go to my one&only stuffed animal and I give em a nice hug, try it y'all..pls do💗
@Benalkama Benalkama yes it is! like I donnu ab u but I kinda of have no one to hug and when I do they picture me as creepy soooo yea👻🍭
It's better to be alone rather than be surrounded by fake people, trust me
Love this comment!
i've lived in the centre of both those worlds my entire life
Od dobrych kilku minut zastanawiam się co napisać w tym komentarzy, a bardzo bym chciała to zrobić. Mimo, że ten film nie rozwiąże moich problemów, to dobrze wiedzieć, że człowiek nie jest sam i inni też się z tym borykają. Dobrze było go teraz zobaczyć. Uderzył w czuły punkt, wzruszył, ale też jakoś pokrzepił. Dziękuję.
this hit me hard , i always feel like im the only one in the world that feels like this
ur video is awesome as always and makes me cry. thank u for understanding all the lonely people.
For 2021 I want a hug and for just once I want someone to be afraid of losing me 🙏🏾
ive never heard something that puts the way i feel into words like this. this is exactly how my life is. kind of sad how many people can relate.
Piękny film, kompletnie nie rozumiem, dlaczego nie ma co najmniej 10 razy tyle wyświetleń, bo zdecydowanie na to zasługuje. Dziękuję za to, co robisz Kat
Nie spodziewałem się tutaj pani
Currently going thru this but I refuse to stay in that place for too long
Wow. Such a beautiful expression. That's the magic of language - not everyone has to be a poet, or a writer, because theres always someone, somewhere, that can translate your own emotion for you when you fall short of the words. Loneliness truly is the biggest, most untouched epidemic - and you've conveyed it perfectly. Thank you for this.
Absolutely beautiful and haunting. This almost reminds me of a Terence Malick (Tree of Life, Days of Heaven) or Charlie Kaufman movie, that introspective voiceover that feels like the inside of your own head
. Any other channels like this you'd recommend?
"I want a hug" made me tear up. I was holding out but that really hit me hard.
just wow, incredibly put together where I could not find the proper words for
Every time when I watch your videos, I not only watch but also feel them. Incredible video full of feelings. Very sad because I known these feelings every day for the last 10 years. So for me some a pandemic / epidemic and lockdown is nothing because I am trained to be alone. When this all ends in the world, it's great, but for me it just goes on. And every time when I watch these videos, I'm sadder than before, but at least I know that I'm not the only one who has these feelings. But anyway.... great video Kat like always :)
P.S. And thanks to Google Translate. It was hard to write what I felt and wanted. :-P :-D
Blimey I needed to hear someone else saying this, especially now. I never anticipated loneliness so soon either. Thanks for making this art :)
This touched me and made me cry, you just touched exactly the wounds in me
This is the most powerful video ive ever seen... Great job as always Kat
You said the words out loud I thought but couldn’t put in words for years! Thank you🤍🙄
Omg that was a powerful speech. And that’s me down to a tee. Every time you mention your lonely to people they don’t grasp it. Keep smiling we will get through this together
I love this video with my entire being, every single second of it, I feel like you've literally been in my head. After a year of therapy I reached the conclusion that this feeling of loneliness and despair in general is not going anywhere, it will always be there in the corner of my mind.
Another amazing work Kat, felt so real and relatable. Keep it up! what your doing is unique
i would be so happy if you start something like a podcast. I love your voice, it calmes me so much!
I already have. The videos are called soft spoken
This is the most relatable thing ever ! The last line literally filled me with tears
This is beautiful because it is exactly how I feel. 100% on the spot. Thank you so much for helping by making this.
This is absolutely stunning, and very brave of you to be able to show these feelings of vulnerability through these words. I'm sure a lot of people can relate, thank you for speaking up the truth and make it okay for people to feel this way. Sending love and light xxx
captures it perfectly
wow. I am totally speechless- For the past few years i have been trying desperately to understand myself and the way i’ve been feeling but no words or description helped. This video is such an important video because it gives words to us, people suffering horribly because of our minds. Thank you so very much for giving description and actual words to the very issue that has been tormenting me, you don’t understand how much your videos have helped me.
I don’t know if I should ignore this feeling and keep pushing myself to find friends, or acknowledge its existence and deal with the crushing pain.
This was truly beautiful. Sending out a hug to anyone in need of one. You’re definitely not alone in feeling lonely.
This video was so perfect, especially the ending. Thank you so much dear Kat.
i cannot explain how helpful and comforting ur videos are, thank you
You have such a unique way of speaking.
Your voice is so touching, so beautiful, so understanding..
YES!!! I swear your videos make me feel understood when everyone else rejects my feelings and calls me to dramatic! Please don’t stop making these! We need you!
I've never clicked on a video this fast.
Keep up the amazing work and I hope you'll get that hug, Kat.
Thank you Kat. You have put into words my feelings I really did not know there were others who felt the same emotionally I often go for walks just as you described 😔 the rain too for some reason comforts me
The best video about loneliness that I have ever seen... You did a wonderful work, it was magic to watch
Thank you for this beautiful video, Kat. You captured the way I feel so accurately. I wish you relief from loneliness and many hugs and happiness.
Beautifully expressed. I do feel the The issue is not really loneliness. The issue is such widespread inability for people to connect, to be genuinely open to each other, to be present with each other. And the system we live in, more so than ever, maintains the conditions for such poor connection. It favours life quantity over life quality. Nothing more apparent to demonstrate this than the average age of a Covid death as measured against the mental health and social impacts on millions of people all over the world due to lockdowns and restrictions.
I been waiting for this video, i knew you just will speak out my feelings , it’s such a nice feeling when you see and hear your feelings , it’s such a relief, so thankful for you I really appreciate it. It’s been 2 years of loneliness . Yeah, No one understand, it’s just you did .... that’s me you talk about in the video. Thank you, you just made my night
Words can't quite explain how comforted your videos make me feel.
your videos always make me feel understood. thank you for this
I always listen to your videos when I feel down. Thank you
Your videos are amazing, they are so beautiful and make me feel like I’m not the only one in this world with all these problems. Thank you.
Thank you for making us feel understood and a little less alone 🖤
The story of my life.
Sending hugs. Thank you for understanding.
Great work! I Just came Up with the Idea, that it IS normal to feel lonely. Thank you Kat for giving These Feelings a Voice and speak for mental health awareness
the visual beauty of the described loneliness is remarkable - but also so incredibly sad 🖤🌠🌿
If this keeps up, all going to lose will to live. This is an actual hellish nightmare that needs to end
I'm 25 years old and i rarely cry, and here i found myself having tears in my eyes while listening to this. it really touched something inside me.
I love your voice. I feel it deeply. I feel like, you are talking my disoriented and scattered thoughts in sentences. It's really soothing. I don't want to get up from the bed. Just want to be wrapped up like this......
You just explained in ~4 minutes how I felt for years, I couldnt be able to explain it myself, or just was afraid of people misunderstanding what I meant. I still feel this way...
Thank you, now I'm actually glad these words are out there, so through you, my voice can be heard too.
Jak zawsze w punkt, wszystkie moje myśli zebrane i zobrazowane. Kasiu jesteś absolutnie niesamowita! Mam nadzieje, ze kiedyś będzie mi dane Cię spotkać osobiście i uściskać za wszystkie cudowności, które robisz.
You spoke my words deeply kept in my head. Thank you. 💕
This video is amazing, i like these kind of videos and thank you for making such a high quality content for us, waiting for more ;)
2021 is going to be awesome.
Your art is far more than great. I lose myself in it, as if my emotional world becomes visually and aurally tangible. Your videos are a place for me to escape from the real world for a brief moment, whenever I need it. Incredibly great. ❤