I wasn’t raised in a nuclear family. My parents were extremely ignorant & evil souls that got married for the most bimbo, wayward and meaningless reasons. My father ran away and I was then abused all my life until I couldn’t take the torture of my mother anymore who just wanted to sit around blaming everything and take her self created pain out on me, instead of take accountability and work on herself to create a better reality for me, my bro and herself. I finally left after an extreme outburst of not being able to take it anymore and ventured in a life of gangs, violence, drugs and criminal activities due to the pain, hating myself thinking I wasn’t worthy of love and always questioning what the point of being alive was. After trying to end my life, I was introduced to wisdom, logic and through a deep isolated study and observation of everything around me, I eventually journeyed towards the conclusion that there is a God that made this world, and then I journeyed towards Islam. I’m still isolated and alone, but wallahi what this brother is saying about the importance of nuclear families is an understatement. I may not have been alive today because of its absence in my own life. I still feel very lonely, very isolated but Alhamdulillah through the adopt of deep logic and a utilisation of my time where my mind is engaged always, I have learnt to cope in simply not being idle. But deep within the walls of my heart & subconscious lies an extreme violent pain ready to take someone’s life. It’s the sins of generation x & z that have come to these western countries & abandoned faith, chose ignorance & sins and then got married out of them foolish decisions without religion as the guiding foundation for their marriage to then have them fall apart and their ignorance and hatred towards one another is directly put upon the children, who then grow up extremely wayward, lost, delusional & full of pain and self hatred that is inflicted upon them from foolish, sinful and ignorant parents. This then multiples and the cycle grows and grows as these new wayward people are going to adopt whatever foolish ideology is pumped to them from their addiction of social media. This brother is extremely wise & intelligent and I value his use of his personal time to address what he’s understood from studies, but relying on studies alone isn’t sufficient to address the true extent and scope of the reality behind todays wayward and broken world. I would appreciate if some of what I’ve shared can be used by this brother to give me some Islamic insight on how I can deal with my hidden trauma and rage.
The lack of trust issue is true but I also think the lack of attraction is interesting because I feel like it also has more to do with Muslim men being complacent with extending their gaze around on social media and in our Western communities. And now they are unfairly expecting Muslim women to match those unrealistic and filtered beauty standards. And not only that, but they are expecting to get the “beautiful womanly feminine” rewards before they’re even married. Why should a young Muslim woman in her 20s 30s trust a strange Muslim man and be all charming and feminine? That’s against our Islamic code of conduct. So if you’re not getting that, it’s not because she is not attractive, it’s because you need to first marry her the proper Islamic way then you can start asking for your rights
If one of our sisters is being told by men to be more flirty to get married, she's around the wrong men. Our sisters should only entertain the men that want to go through the Wali (guardian) to get married. Allah knows best.
Hi, I was wondering how a muslim woman can get a divorce. My husband said he wants a divorce once. We aren't living together his character is disgusting as he wqnts freedom and feels caged when i want to know where he has gone, and what pictures he hid from me. His family defended him saying its the west, he went to uni, so he had friends which eere girls, as if thats ok. And so they made excuses for him, which he then used on me, and also gaslit me and so i dont know the nature of the pictures on his phone, but whatever it was, was surely haram, and I would love to be free of him and his family who have made my life hell. I am living in a homeless shelter alone and cannot even look for another spouse bc they aren't freeing me, and dont bother providing for me.
More info: i did not recieve any mahram. My parents took mahram behind me back and recieved 4 grand. I did not find out till after the marriage, and they also kept that money. So i dont believe i owe him any mahram back, since i never recieved any, nor did i ask for such a large sum. I did recieve a couple gold rings (not as mahram im sure) when we were doing the nikkah, which i threw away bc it was clear how he didnt care for me. He wants me to return them, but i dont have them and i dont have £500 to pay it off right now. Do i owe him the payments of the rings and how do i divorce him?
@@rainbow0027 please sister. Go to your local and nearest mosque and discuss the situation with a sheikh or someone respected in the community. I doubt the internet has very good advice to deal with a situation that specific. May Allah bless you and help you in your situation.
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I wasn’t raised in a nuclear family. My parents were extremely ignorant & evil souls that got married for the most bimbo, wayward and meaningless reasons. My father ran away and I was then abused all my life until I couldn’t take the torture of my mother anymore who just wanted to sit around blaming everything and take her self created pain out on me, instead of take accountability and work on herself to create a better reality for me, my bro and herself.
I finally left after an extreme outburst of not being able to take it anymore and ventured in a life of gangs, violence, drugs and criminal activities due to the pain, hating myself thinking I wasn’t worthy of love and always questioning what the point of being alive was.
After trying to end my life, I was introduced to wisdom, logic and through a deep isolated study and observation of everything around me, I eventually journeyed towards the conclusion that there is a God that made this world, and then I journeyed towards Islam.
I’m still isolated and alone, but wallahi what this brother is saying about the importance of nuclear families is an understatement. I may not have been alive today because of its absence in my own life.
I still feel very lonely, very isolated but Alhamdulillah through the adopt of deep logic and a utilisation of my time where my mind is engaged always, I have learnt to cope in simply not being idle. But deep within the walls of my heart & subconscious lies an extreme violent pain ready to take someone’s life.
It’s the sins of generation x & z that have come to these western countries & abandoned faith, chose ignorance & sins and then got married out of them foolish decisions without religion as the guiding foundation for their marriage to then have them fall apart and their ignorance and hatred towards one another is directly put upon the children, who then grow up extremely wayward, lost, delusional & full of pain and self hatred that is inflicted upon them from foolish, sinful and ignorant parents. This then multiples and the cycle grows and grows as these new wayward people are going to adopt whatever foolish ideology is pumped to them from their addiction of social media.
This brother is extremely wise & intelligent and I value his use of his personal time to address what he’s understood from studies, but relying on studies alone isn’t sufficient to address the true extent and scope of the reality behind todays wayward and broken world. I would appreciate if some of what I’ve shared can be used by this brother to give me some Islamic insight on how I can deal with my hidden trauma and rage.
Jazakallah. Very insightful Khutbath about an important topic for our times.
Really insightful
Great work Mashallah
Please quote the Ayaths which encourages but not an obligation for women to attend Jumuah Salah.
The lack of trust issue is true but I also think the lack of attraction is interesting because I feel like it also has more to do with Muslim men being complacent with extending their gaze around on social media and in our Western communities. And now they are unfairly expecting Muslim women to match those unrealistic and filtered beauty standards. And not only that, but they are expecting to get the “beautiful womanly feminine” rewards before they’re even married. Why should a young Muslim woman in her 20s 30s trust a strange Muslim man and be all charming and feminine? That’s against our Islamic code of conduct. So if you’re not getting that, it’s not because she is not attractive, it’s because you need to first marry her the proper Islamic way then you can start asking for your rights
If one of our sisters is being told by men to be more flirty to get married, she's around the wrong men. Our sisters should only entertain the men that want to go through the Wali (guardian) to get married.
Allah knows best.
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Hi, I was wondering how a muslim woman can get a divorce. My husband said he wants a divorce once. We aren't living together his character is disgusting as he wqnts freedom and feels caged when i want to know where he has gone, and what pictures he hid from me. His family defended him saying its the west, he went to uni, so he had friends which eere girls, as if thats ok. And so they made excuses for him, which he then used on me, and also gaslit me and so i dont know the nature of the pictures on his phone, but whatever it was, was surely haram, and I would love to be free of him and his family who have made my life hell. I am living in a homeless shelter alone and cannot even look for another spouse bc they aren't freeing me, and dont bother providing for me.
More info: i did not recieve any mahram. My parents took mahram behind me back and recieved 4 grand. I did not find out till after the marriage, and they also kept that money. So i dont believe i owe him any mahram back, since i never recieved any, nor did i ask for such a large sum. I did recieve a couple gold rings (not as mahram im sure) when we were doing the nikkah, which i threw away bc it was clear how he didnt care for me. He wants me to return them, but i dont have them and i dont have £500 to pay it off right now. Do i owe him the payments of the rings and how do i divorce him?
@@rainbow0027 please sister. Go to your local and nearest mosque and discuss the situation with a sheikh or someone respected in the community. I doubt the internet has very good advice to deal with a situation that specific. May Allah bless you and help you in your situation.
@@idisagree8902very good advice may Allah reward you the internet has Juhal who may only make the problem worse for her
Is dr Nasser married???
yes.... with 4 children
This man is speaking the truth mA