The Rights Of The Husband
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- Опубликовано: 16 окт 2013
- By Rasheed Barbee
A discussion on 9 rights of a husband over his wife. From the seminar, The Rights of the Spouses (September 2013), Toronto, Canada.
Audio source: www.troid.ca/index.php/women/n...
Rights of the husband (9)
- The wife obeys because she fears Allah swt. Obedience
- The wife thanks hee husband when she is in need of him. Graditute
- The wife does not anger her husband nor does she become angry with him
- The wife is loving and merciful with her husband in statement and in action
- She preservers the honor of her husband and herself
- The wife hides the secrets of her husband
- The woman has the preserve
the home of her husband and she cannot allow anyone in without the permission of her husband
- She preserves his wealth and does not buy anything of his wealth without his permission
- She does not fast an optional fast without his permission
I have to listen to this EVERYTIME...... (smh)........
Shaheeda Abdullah
بارك الله فيكم
جازاك الله الخير
Please can I ask how do you reconcile being obedient to husband when he doesn't fulfil a right of yours. Are you suppose to sacrifice that right in obedience to the husband
your not sacrificing anything sis, your giving your husband his rights for your own safety, for your own sake, remember its for Allah and not for your husband. To each is his own burden, if he doesn't give you your right(s) then remember that he will meet his lord and so will you, do not compromise your deen/ jannah for nobody!!
This requires more detail, perhaps you can pose the question privately. For example, if your husband did not want you to leave your home and work, you should respect that? However, what if you are leaving the home to work simply because the electric has been cut off. In this case, you may be compelled to disobey him out of need. Another example is that he doesn't allow you to go through his wallet and take money to buy things (some men are fine with this, others aren't). However, there is no milk in the house and the kids are hungry and he refuses to go out (lazily). So, what if you disobey him and take the money and go to the store anyway? So for situations like this, they require detail (and privacy) and the advice of the people of knowledge. Each situation has details and circumstances. If replied to generally (without details provided), an incorrect understanding is possible. A larger example would be when a husband refuses to be intimate with his wife (ever). This is grounds for annulment in many cases. Should the wife obey him in his decision? Is obeying his decision in this regard a means for corruption of a person's chastity and emotional wellbeing? Details are important in these situations.
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