Risks and Tips for Separated Men | Should You Date When You're Separated?
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- What are the major risks and tips for separated men and should you date when you're separated or in a nasty divorce?
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Love the dark red lipstick. You don't even have to try. All these guys swooning about your eyes. They don't even know the best part. Good call.
You are so beautiful if I had a chance to hold your hand I would and to take you out for a nice cup of coffee get to know you better💞🦄💞💯🏁💯🦄
Wish I heard this video last year, I was in the separation stage I chose someone poorly and she led me on to believe that I was the one. She moved on to someone else after deceiving me till the last minute. Being lonely and heart broken makes you think emotionally and less logically.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
" It's good to have a female friend with the female perspective but she won't know what she's talking about because most women don't " I can live with that.
When I became separated, I could not date for a long time. It seemed like I would be cheating, commiting adultery, and so I waited until the divorce was completed. Even then, it took me over a year to finally date. I dont know how some people can disconnect from their feelings for a loved one so quickly.
If they're treated poorly, that disconnect can't come soon enough. Nonetheless, there are many risks and a lot of healing, especially if they were treated poorly. :)
@Aldous Huxley Like that one, thanks. I've been keeping a list of quotable quotes for over 35 years. Yours, "Niietzche's", will have a place of honor. Cheers
@Aldous Huxley Here's one for you: "Never let success go to your head, and never let failure go to your heart". - Ziad K. Abdelnour
Here's a humorous one: "If a man speaks in the forest with no woman around, is he still wrong? -Bill Peters
That's partly my thing too.
I've nearly went out with a couple girls now. One uses meth. The other 2 we're asking for money....
It's a fuckin mess I don't even wanna deal w rn. Gonna wait til I get my own place.
my husband and i just started our 3 month trial seperation and i without thinking said 3 tines im not interested in dating at all. he said he wants to keep his options opened during the seperation. broke my heart ad usual.
When I was separated, I didn't feel comfortable dating.
After my divorce I avoided dating separated women.
My thought was and still is, handle our business first...then we can talk.
@@charliesmith_ Being friends is fine, I don't believe dating while separated is.
A separated person is still connected to their partner and they need to make a decision about their relationship...
Then if it is 'over,' the rebound factor becomes another issue.
@@charliesmith_ All good points Charlie.
I just know from my experience with my separation and divorce. Plus, I've seen people go back to 'try to work it out.' So I think it's best to leave the separated come to the end of their journey, wether it's divorce or reconciliation.
I am a female and recently recommended your channel to my significant other. He is learning a lot from your videos. Your words of wisdom are invaluable. We both are learning. Thank you.
Its amazing how you answer so many people's responses-very down to earth & real too!
Anna, This was pretty much spot on. You described me. I listened with great interest. Thank you.
Hey freckles, thanks for the great videos.
So this is my story: 15yrs married and currently fresh and still newly separated almost 3 months. My husband was the one who left, during the hardest time of his life where his mother was dying of lung cancer. He cheated on me and now moved into her house because they are so "in love". She is more then 10yrs younger and has never been married. We have an 11 and 14yr old daughters together. They were the ones who found out about their fathers infidelity. So they want nothing to do with his new girlfriend. Him and I have spoken about the possible future of filing for divorce etc, and he said there isn't any rush for it because everything is still so new and fresh🤮 he admitted to me that at times he feels lost and losing his mind but he is just trying to find happiness. While I'm not going to lie, since all this has happened, I've learned so much about myself and have changed for the better. Im going to continue to work on myself and our kids but I am just conflicted about if he will eventually come back or would it be worth taking him back? I know and learned my faults as to why he left. But this whole thing has been hard
I totally agree with everything you've, Anna. Thanks for the practical advise amd more power to your channel.
I never ever consider dating women that are separated. The risk of them going back. No thanks.
Exactly. Plus who wants to be the rebound guy! :)
@@YourWingmam The danger is not worth the benefits.
Oh for crying out loud. She needs to get laid. As long as she's NOT in the weepy, woe is me mode, take the usual precautions but help her out.
It doesn't matter to me. If they go back , they do. They did you a favor. It shows they dont see your value
Tip 1 is absolutely correct...
I've been binge watching your videos for about a week now, and I'm really glad I found this video! It fits my situation perfectly! Thank you!
Welcome aboard!
I just want to give a shout to my ex who cheated on me. It really doesn't matter who is at fault so there is no point blaming each other now...We both lose.
Very sad.
Humour, spontaneity and bags of common sense make these some of the best relationship videos on the net, Anna, and I wish you every success building your business this way. Your videos are informative as well as enjoyable and relaxing to watch. As a lawyer myself, currently paying a lot of money to other lawyers doing my divorce, I empathise with the comments about the expense on ones capital. It also has clearly shown me the difference between what the good divorce lawyer and the bad divorce lawyer does and does not do.
Hello
There's this man I will like you to contact he help me and get my partner back
Beautiful wisdom.
I watch your videos (subscribed actually) and enjoy listening and holding out hope. I've been divorced for 7 years now but being an intovert is very limiting. Will keep watching.
Thanks for the tips,Anna. I had (I think) the right idea(I know what I did that caused my marriage to fail,what I need to do to improve myself,and not to get too involved until I have my shit together),but when I'm ready,I'll be able to get out there. Thanks again,I'd be happy to have you as a friend(pretty sure anyone you pointed out to me would be great!)
Anna, you are amazing! (And I LOVE your western Canadian accent!) Excellent advice.
Thanks so much for watching and commenting! :)) #eh
Anna, I really like listening to you speak.. I am sure you have helped a lot of people make positive adjustments in their life. This is a great look for you, by the way. :)
Thank you Anna for your advice. . . .I need to straighten myself out before I choose to get involved. Not fair to a good woman to deal with my past.
Wasn't planning on this situation but, I will try and make better decisions before I move on. Love your videos and advice. Thank you!
Making myself better, big key. Not obsessing on finding someone, obsess on becoming a healthy me and someone will find me.
I blew it after getting divorced the first time. And married after only two months of dating. And now I’m legally separated. I have to take it slow
I wish I would have had you in my corner after my first wife left me . Thanks for being there. FM
good info. Yes we do have failures
Dear Anna, I cherish your way seeing us humans emotionally struggling with our lives, the tips are very wise and helpful. Ours son is living and experiencing this situation, divorce pending. Objectively speaking, He is great human being, excellent father and good friend to many people, unfortunately He lost trust in His eccentric wife. I do enjoy watching videos of yours, thank you🙂🌹🙏
Her advice is solid. The more people you talk to the more people you can meet.
Anna hi, well said, here here. I took a year off completely no dating no intimacy. Wow, did I find myself! Lovely just.
You just wasted a year you'll never get back.
I left my wife 5 years ago. Still married though and we get along better at a distance. I am happy getting on with my life without women. I could have sued for divorce under grounds of unreasonable behaviour, but as is usual the case the courts would find in her favour, irrespective of blame or circumstance. The whole system stinks and is stacked against men. I am in the UK.
Yep
Yep, Fellas get a clean slate with no strings or guilt then move on and start smiling. It takes time to get over separation and divorce and there will be financial stress when she takes it all.
But if you were the financial brain then remain strong and independent and keep using it to rebuild your wealth. Above all, stay healthy, happy and smile a lot. Anna you are a gem.
@Anna I like this backdrop & newlook, Congrats on lastweeks vid its doing very well!#3 learning form the past is very vital. Hows your health this week, you look calm and demure in this video?
Thank you! :)
@@YourWingmam by the way can you bring back your old themesong & the shoulder shrug with the cheeky card toss
Thanks for that. I had never really considered women’s perspective and perception of men who are separated. I have been through most of the steps but held off on divorce out of consideration for my ex-partner and health challenges she has faced. There are no assets to quibble over as these were lost (including our home) through business bankruptcy. Not mine. We raised a fine family and we have agreed we now have quite different needs that we are unable to meet for each other. I am honest about this with ladies I meet. As a mate recently said, if a man is widowed he is seen in a sympathetic way. Even though he may have not been a good person. Whether separated or divorced, he is automatically seen in a more critical way. It is as it is. Now I understand some of the reluctance.
Its ok Anna. It's your channel. You can promote your program all you want
Thanks for the reply.
I won't be watching anymore as I learnt most of the stuff through experience (albeit too late for me but hopefully not for others who watch here) but keep up the good informative work as clearly your feminine insight is a lens through which others may learn from. Colin.
Thanks, Colin. (Never think you know enough about women. I don't and I'm one of them lol) ;)
Therein lies the issue, Anna! Sexes are biologically different as you investigated many moons ago. No matter how much one sex knows about the other, the ability to be part of that other world view are mutually exclusive. I cannot see your social construction of attraction any more than you see mine. But, in explaining your research and experiences it comes from you, and then as men we decide how best to assimilate and accommodate the data into our multiple informational schemas of attraction. It's my schematic interpretation from experience mostly.
@@YourWingmam The more you know, the more you realize you don't know.
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I'm happier being single with no woman in my life ......i put em in the friend zone right away.
Especially nowadays. Be polite, friendly, but they need to be kept at a distance....you'll end up supporting them.
well said. I use that time for things I could never do when I've been with my ex.
@@Last_one_before_I_go On a leash also.
If you can't treat your partner as your maid , better live alone.
Gorgeous ❤️
Thank you! Cheers! :)
I've had women approach and come on strong even knowing full well I am married!! I have to make it clear through conversation that I don't cheat, sex ain't gonna happen, but I'm happy to be friends.
I subscribed because you know coach Cory Wayne!
Coach Corey is one of the few gentlemen coaches who not only understands women but has a man's back about it. He seems like a good man. Thanks for the sub! :))
@@YourWingmam I've got both his books. Take care now!
Anna you described my situation. My soon to be ex left me in October. After 30 days of no contact she called me and said you are free to move about the country. I decided then to start dating. Do not want to lonely the rest of my life. She started dating also. I have been upfront with the few women that I have met. It's about 80 20 some have no issue with my situation. .some do to bow out. Haven't met anyone that turns me on. Was married to a BPD and severe alcoholic. Thanks Anna.
Hope you watched my last video so you can watch for red flags! Good luck out there! :)
My wife left in early 2018 and I just focus on my children. She had been
planning to do so since 2014 when we both had job and mortgage issues.
Wife doesn't want to initiate or follow through with divorce
proceedings for unknown reasons. She's already bought a house of her
own... I can see my children anytime (very blessed for that) and we
basically leave each other alone. I now own a home of my own again as
well and current job is very stable (just after she left). I'm just
going to have to initiate the divorce at this time and bite whatever
bullet the courts throw my way :) Thanks for your video Anna!
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There's this man I will like you to contact he help me and get my partner back
Happy Tuesday Anna! 🌷
Back at you and Happy St. Paddy's Day (if you're on this side of the world today)! 🍀
@John Gonzalez hermano happy st.pats tuesday hope your having your green juice lol lol
@@YourWingmam Happy St. Patrick's day and I'll be ready to have some wine once I arrive home 🍷☘☘😊
@@jarodorla6949 Buenas tardes hermano, estoy esperando a llegar a mi casa para tomar el vino (red juice 😄)
@@johngonzalez4298 cheers to that hermano! lol
No Get your divorce over with conclude that business and get on with your life. I did it and there were no complications
Good on you! A wise choice. :))
So you are saying no dating or sex until you are divorced? Heck no. Think of it as spring training. Every opportunity you miss, you never make up for. You need practice...so practice.
Anna is the best!!!😁😁😁
Hard to do when on lockdown.
Ms. WingMa'am; you're so perfect!!! Literally. What your deal???
I will never date a separated person ever again. It ended very badly for me. She told me she needed time to heal but all that time she was sleeping with another man. I am devastated.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Woman love seperated men...the power of stealing him away from his wife is enormously selfish...I know cause shes gone..the single guy doesnt have enough drama to compete..sound strange ?..not in this broken society
This. If you go to any workplace, who's getting the most attention from female coworkers? Married men. Especially married men in positions of power.
Sounds accurate
When I first jumped into dating after the split, I saw the push back of the newly available man that I had become. I didn't take offense to it at all, but I could see that the majority of the quality women were out of reach because of the legal connection. Was still easy to get dates and I had fun. I have continually worked on myself, ran my business, and reflected on every aspect of my 28 year marriage. At least now, my foresight is bigger than my hindsight!
Legal connection?
@@nannaed7833 Legally connected to my ex, and the concern that I was not emotionally available.
Date while separated? What could go wrong? When things go south with your significant other, while you still have a future ex-wife? Now you have two women who hate your guts.
Totally correct - ex got nasty and new relationship did not survive the resulting stress.
I just joined knitting...
Im not currently dating. Been 3 years ago. Broke it off and walked away from my ex gf. We dated for 2 years too self centered etc. Just got worse. My Life is much better. Gym , No Drama , no Stress. Retired military veteran. Gym and music lover. Teaching myself guitar now 🎸🎸 Take care Red your the Best darlin. ❤️🥰🔥🙏🙏💯👍✌️
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
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You're a very attractive woman. Plus I like your advise.
❤looking at her
Good morning from the UK Anna, your advice has been extremely helpful but I've decided that I'm better off on my own. Just one question though, don't you get creeped out by some of the comments you get. There's some very weird guys out there.
And how, right? This one is full of them.
Divorce is difficult especially since there a no Queensbury Rules only laws to enrich attorneys.
What's wrong with going to knitting club or going to learn to knit
High risk. Being the first during separation..you become a rebound person
I have been separated three years, decree nisi is through just doing the financial payoff. I dated after 6 months, it's not been a problem having female friends. I still live alone, and I am not looking for anything serious until its finalised.
There needs to be breaks taken between relationships. People act like they HAVE to be booed up constantly, and I’m guessing that’s a validation issue. 🤦♀️🤷♀️
Sex between consenting adults is OK anytime. Every date doesn't have to be a prelude to a long term love affair. Many of the guys here are heartbroken and don't realize that isolating makes the pain and loneliness worse. Dating should be fun. There really is no other requirement. The longer you wait, the more fun you miss out on. Tick-tock.
X-Man my dates are most definitely preludes to a friendship that can possibly turn into a relationship. I don’t date casually. I need to get to know a man. What he’s about. What he likes. What he doesn’t like. Tossing sex into the equation too early makes that task almost impossible. I’m also a nursing student so my life is currently dedicated to my kids and my education. I’m certain it won’t always be this way. I am working on myself. I feel bad for the heart broken guys. I myself have trust issues. Me tossing a fella the pussy ain’t gonna fix neither of those issues. 🤷♀️
Waiting to date until getting settled in New life, dust is settled and separation agreement is in place - so no kick back..
What do you do if the female friend that is being your wing-woman and introducing you to her female friends is actually the person you want to be with???
Move on...it's like the 2nd car you have that you like, but not enough to keep - so you are being marketed.
What about when you are married and have kids does it have a big impact on the kids life
You look SO PRETTY and who said men are focused on looks ?
Sorry Anna, no friend zone. If she isn't cool with your situation, then he needs to move on, because she's not into him enough. When a gal is really interested, she'll claim what she wants.
how about a date.. ?
So, im in the wrong mostly for my separation. We were living together but she and I decided to part ways and live separately. Right now she nor I can see in front of us and she does not see its worth fighting for. We have plans to move into our separate apartments in the next 4 months or so but until then are still sleeping in the same bed. We have 4 kids together and we already know how we plan to divide the time up with them. She (and I am coming to realize this as true too) believe i need to be alone to have time to grow into myself. She claims she is fine getting back together if after a year I "get my shit together". Ultimately I feel she will see other men (scares me...obviously) but should I try dating or just focus on me?
Just signed the final divorce papers...no prob, I'm done. I'm very ready but local hang outs are full of younger women that are just not attractive because of age difference. I'm 40 and 25 year old girls are fun for ego boost but really...really? I'll take my 50% in the breakdown in the marriage but I know myself, my worth and the boundaries for BS. This might take time and I'm well beyond forcing anything at this point if I can only meet people my age. Any recommendations for how to meet women who are late 30's / early 40's (family growing/merging age)? Bar scenes are bunk tbh. 40 at a bar feels awkward AF. Any response would be great, keep on being wonderful and thanks for the content.
Im more lost than you ... love Of my life left me at 52, thats both of us, we were together since our teens.Im 58 yo now. But anyway I got my shit together, paid her out, focused on work and even took up karate, gymnastics and meetup guitar group. The problem is obviously that I'm way older than most of the women I meet and the women my age are not interested either. So 6 years have passed and not one lady interested in a financially sound guy who stands 5 feet 10, fit as a fiddle, who will give anything a go ...and I apparently look a bit like george clooney with a buzz cut! Ha women....go figure.
but if you are separated should you tell a potential date ? Anna
Yes, absolutely. Or she'll find out at some point and not trust you for lying by omission of pertinent information. #integrity
When we're on vacation we stay in the same room and she always forgets to carry her towel into bathroom and after taking shower calls me for the towel and put her hand out and take it. She is a muslim hijab girl and don't allows me to kiss or hug her but she does like this more often. Asks me to close my eyes and changes the dress in front of me. Shall I consider these kind of acts as invitation and go inside the bathroom or just act as a nice guy like what I'm doing now??!! Can any expert advice me please??
As a woman I can honestly say having briefly dated a separated man, I don’t regret the ten dates but brought it to an ubrupt halt because realized I was not at MY best. He was not ready tho said no emotional connection no intimacy with ex, there because one daughter first year uni.. a lot of wealth. I realized money couldn’t make me feel peace of mind or safe.
A woman needs to feel there’s some foundation if she’s a quality woman over the age of 40. He was 13 years my senior. I could’ve played the game but feels an exhausting endeavour.
It’s like chasing a man who technically is taken, and deep down a fearful resentful soul who needs to heal. As a healer I’m not here to be used up and then potentially a man reconciles. All woman know this.
My fathers wife, married friends encouraged me but my nervous system said no way!! Although I started to see him peel his hard layers to a cool fun guy, I’m not interested In Feeling I’m the other woman no matter what a man says. Action says still married and owning everything still together. No thanks!!
Out of the people in my normal circle - my customers, workers, friends, acquaintances, extended family members, there are very few married people in that group and this is a large number of people.
I suspect though that if someone IS separated it's BECAUSE they found someone else. It's pretty rare someone (who is normal, with no mental issue) wakes up one day and says "I want to be all by myself"
There may be a 'leverage' risk but it is temporary. In a lot of cases it is "ugh, I gotta get away from this person" and not "Hey! Let me ruin my life and ruin theirs too by trying to make them unhappy, even though I don't want to be near them anymore"
If you're not married, don't do it. Live together. Be cognizant of the state law in your area about how long before community property has to be divided - in some places you run into that even if not married, if you've lived together long enough (see "Lee Marvin Palimony case")
Living together with the understanding that either party can move on if they wish is WORKABLE.
Marriage is not WORKABLE.
And it has fallen out of favor, immensely, and been discredited. Living together for less than palimony time: yes. Marriage? Get a clue. No.
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What if she’s the one who asked for the divorce?
Love your opinions.. Nothing to do with the site.. I think you look very lovely with the short hair you had. And yes.. You are still very attractive just the way you are :)
Thanks for watching, commenting and complimenting! :))
Never compliment women...They have no respect for validation bro's...Women crave validation from men...They will chase the men who never validate them and turn their nose to the one's who do by making them just friends if you are lucky.
We're all different. I think she's stunning with the LONG hair.
@@kylerobinson3313 No doubt I think she is hot as hell...Amazing lips on her...Trust me , if she was my woman , I would spend the entire night slow,y and passionately kissing her.....I just reserve giving compliments for women I am in a relationship with and never give them freely.
@@Brett_B73 You are validating them about the wrong things. They do love to be flattered but not usually about how smart they are, not at first anyway. You have you look them right in the eye and tell them how sexy and gorgeous they are (or something along those lines).
A woman doesn't get all dolled up to hear you say you respect their judgment and think they are clever. Tell them about the fire they light inside you. Don't be overtly crude but make sure there's no misinterpreting you want them for rubbing up against. Maintain regular eye contact and a "cat the caught the mouse" smile.
If you can do that and also maybe make them laugh a little, you'll figure out it is ALWAYS what you should do. That's what the guys you think are never validating them are doing. It can take some practice, start now.
After being Married and becoming Single again. I prefer Single, I do what I want when I want without constant are your ready yet and other never ending drama. I did very well for myself and retired early, it is like cat-nip to women... I politely decline advances and walk away.
Preach !!! I am a doctor and as soon as women hear the "d" they are like bees on honey. I have always kept to myself & put myself through university working as a model. I graduated debt-free. I need to invent "gold-digger repellent" for men who are successful to spray on like deodorant.
Separated women don't seem to have a problem with it ...
Just as risky for women. I did a blog for them a long time ago and said the same stuff. (Or for men who date separated women. Maybe more dangerous, even.) The guy who wrote this was dating before separated, hence his spot on analysis of the risks. :)
When God created man - he created a prototype. When he created woman - he created a masterpiece and Anna you are a masterpiece and a mastermind.
Will I be able to have one female friend after the divorce while healing one to two yes.???
What if you want to reconcile with your wife, how do start to retract her ?
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There's this man I will like you to contact he help me and get my partner back
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How can she demand anything if she is already pregnant from the new guy after 8 months separation?
Still liked the video, and love your content overall anyway...... but I am going to say, some advice on this subject should be taken with a grain of salt.
Being separated 15 months. with no kids of my own, has been slow going, and if i had my way, it would have been divorce status 3 months ago already.
There is definitely a cool down period, I'd even say a 1 year cycle to go through to get over things completely and sort your self out so you don't make the same mistakes in the next relationship, and live another loop in life.
In my opinion you can't wait for the Divorce, you need to get back into the swing of things as soon as you are starting to feel ready, as you have to start somewhere. The whole separation to divorce can be really slow, which is definitely my case. I have no interest in getting back with my Ex, we haven't even spoken for at least 10 months. I'd say she is probably bitter as mentioned in the video and wants to drag things out, as I just want to move on.
I have been out on the dating scene for about 6 months and at 42, i'd say 95% of the girls I have meet, have also been separated, divorced, or have an understanding that life happens. In fact i would say, that if you haven't had kids, been married, or a fairly long term relationship by 40, there is probably something off about you i.e. unable to commit, let go, or something deeper that stops you from following your heart, and just going for it.
I see some girls on the dating sites around my age, who wouldn't even accept if you were divorced with no kids, i've ran into a couple of those.... to which i think that is very unrealistic to be honest, and they are really limiting themselves to what is potentially out there.
Anyway, All the best to you all, but for what it's worth, start of with a few dates to start somewhere, as you progress, you are highly likely to match with people who Mirror you and match where you are in life, so when you are really "Ready", then you are likely to match with someone who is really "Ready" to.
Good advise Matt. I would only add; open up your list of "requirements". They mostly serve to limit you and they keep you looking for the same type. if you do what you did, you'll get what you got. Try some new types. Dating should be fun and adventurous, not an attempt at a replay. Not every date needs to be your dream girl. You may find a dream girl you never imagined.
@@x-man5056 Yep, essentially :)
Dont know how I missed this vid.what is your view ,on having a relationship for 22years(ex narc) ,but never married..older kids,,house..separated now for 3yrs.
I'm sure given the chance she would look for any reason to screw me over.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
I did not date anyone in 15 years because ex had powerful lawyers ..ex fought divorce to the end and always wanted to use court system for pay back...children live with me..we free from the whole system and I am ready to find true love
having her as your friend to fix you up is terrible advice. if she doesn't want to date you don't get upset just tell her you understand and keep it moving. you don't a new friend who was formally someone you were romantically into to fix you up. she has lost interest and its rare that in those circumstances she will change her mind.
also keep in mind the fact you were married shows you aren't afraid of commitment, and that says a lot. if a woman doesn't see that, keep it moving on to the next one.
Men who have been married before usually want to get married again. I've told my girlfriend, I will never get married, because I don't have a marriage addiction I consider marriage is a raw deal for men. I've told my girlfriend, if she really wants to find a man to marry her she needs to find a man with a marriage addiction, that's a man who has already been married before & to tolerate him having to give half his money away to his ex-wife. She's staying around because dating a financially cleaned out divorced man don't appeal to her.
Note if your a man & you want to keep your SMV high, stay single & grow your success. Take a note from Leonardo Decaprio. He's in his 40's & won't date a woman over 25 & replaces then regularly. My girlfriend knows she is easily replaced, that's why she don't leave.
Strategically, an effective plan if that's as deep as you need to get (not every man needs more than that and that's ok). :)
Good plan. Just make sure your assets don't get commingled and DON'T LET HER MOVE IN. Some states recognize common-law marriages - you could get stuck.
All women my friend. Happy to be single with no hassles.
I am in what is likely a very toxic relationship with a woman who is diagnosed with Bipolar/Schizophrenia. I do love her... but she has deliberately stopped taking her meds in the past and has made life nearly unbearable. Now I have to give them to her by hand at night and shine a flash light in her mouth to make sure she has swallowed them all. Recently she left me for 2 months... I felt guilty because I actually started enjoying the 2 months of peace. I know that I am emotionally and mentally better off without her... but I made a promise when I married her... "in sickness and in health"... I would never be able to abandon her with a good conscience... and when she's medicated she's okay... but this is not the life I expected.
How about you don't. Whether you are a man or women if you are just separated but not divorced you are still married (Don't cheat). Be mature enough to finalize things with one person before you hop to the next relationship. If you don't have time single and on your own after the marriage is over you will not heal from the injury of the divorce. It also send a message to anyone you date that you would cheat on them.
Great point! :)
love the look Anna, it's like a high school girl, grade eleven, a little arty, a little goth -- it looks good!
Not something to say to a grown, mature woman you are trying to flatter Chris. The undertones are a little creepy in fact.
@@x-man5056 oh relax!
@@cjwright79 Creepy. You love the look of a junior in high school. I did too when I was IN high school. You obviously aren't unless you are using your Dad's picture.
If you are trying to impress Anna, know this; she is a fan of Sigmund Freud. You are definitely stepping on yourself comparing her to a school girl.
Grown women like men who like grown women. Figure it out.
@@x-man5056 you're way too cynical and think far too much for your own good, or for mine!
When I was separated I made it a point to have sex with someone before divorce was final...My EX had insecurities about being cheated on because she was once cheated on...I am not the cheater type and never cheated on anyone but what she did to me made me want to do what I did...The fact she started seeing a man before filing to divorce me made me justified...I know 2 wrongs do not make a right but at least I felt like I got something for the price I paid.
Then your values weren't really that far different than hers. Cheating is a vice and so is revenge. Perhaps at different levels but still. Nonetheless, if you feel better then good for you. :)
@@YourWingmam You are nobody to judge....
Yeah...... The bitterness. It affects everything. Outlook, sleep, planning, etc.
And, you're right- clean your own house and streamline your life.
Haven't started confiding in the cats yet but I can see it happening if I don't get it together. Wish there were more female motorcycle riders.
My divorce has yet to start. Totally apprehensive about those impending consequences.
I don't want to be divorced .
I am still on love with my wife and you x
In this country, you have to be separated 4 years before applying for a divorce. In fact, divorce is only recently legal (1995). The idea is that there could be reconciliation and a "tearing of the sheets," during that time. It's possible, but during that time it's not uncommon to pair up with someone else, have a new relationship and have children. If both separates have no desire to reconcile and/or marry again (age appropriate), then a divorce is moot unless pressured into it. Sorry Anna, we don't have ice hockey in this country.
Wish you could do a video about widower's (young and old) expectations who've had a long and great marriage but find themselves adrift in the new dangers of the dating world. It's just not like it used to be..prenup??, lawyers??..bad actors.. the list goes on.. Caution...Will Robinson...Caution...!
That sounds like multiple videos! Hopefully, some of the videos I've got coming up will answer some of these questions. Thanks for the comment! :)
@@YourWingmam Thanks. I see you cover separated, divorced and single men but happily married (was) widowers have different baggage but are facing the same issues. Thanks again.
In an impending divorce you have to realize that your finances are in a state of flux and the full impact can become fully known right at the end. So it is important that your new girlfriend not get false impressions of your ability to provide at a certain level. Eg, your dating life revolves around your boat and you suddenly find that you have to sell the boat to pay off your ex. Now what have you got in common with your new girlfriend? There are countless illustrating examples. [The boat thing is from real life (not mine).] This point can be highlighted and underlined when there are your children involved (aren't there always?).
So, if women don't "want a fixer-upper" why do most women seem to want to (often significantly) change the men they're with?
No more 'almost divorced'...as I am now the owner of a decree absolute. Didn't really want to see anyone as the legal issues dominated my thoughts and I'm very conscientious about not being an adulterer. I know...must be backward. But now I'm free and single again...not a divorcee...even if it's just semantics. You're quite correct about staying positive...very hard though as I spent many months in abject, negative rumination that bowdlerised more propitious life cogitations, unfortunately. I should note, however, I would have made an exception had I met you. I didn't of course! I was very honest and that's my main problem apart from my niceness and penchant for crisps! 🤣 Anyway, no helping her out from me as I instigated divorce but that's another story. On a personal note, you're looking better and less stressed than an earlier video.
Congratulations on your freedom! Don't forget to self-quarantine lol ;)
Did that, in part, during divorce.
Corona virus is a bitch! 😱
Thanks (I think) 🤔 but don't need another small, creepy, insouciant sentient in my life! 🤣 The rest is redacted.
doesn't just suck it vacuums -- sucks on one end and blows on the other
Haaaaa! Good one!