Top 10 things NEVER to say during a Pelvic Exam
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
- Enjoy the humor, and uneasiness, knowing they are real statements students and clinicians have actually told patients. Learn from the past of others so you don't repeat these mistakes!
What humorous (or perhaps mildly inappropriate) things have you heard or said in a doctor's office?
Gynecologist was doing an exam on one of the girls that worked in his office (I thought was awkward in and of itsel) and he started discussing the billing during the exam. She told me that's why she "fired" him as her gyno. (Her exact words.) The same gynecologist, during my exam, was discussing how much he hates to sweat when he's at work but doesn't mind it if he's at home mowing the lawn and drinking a beer. Also mentioned my grooming, told me how he thinks it should be done. I guess he thinks there should always be hair so he doesn't feel like he's examining a prepubescent tween.
I didn't appreciate when my gyno brought in a student without even asking me first. Ask us first, please! They're both down there and my gyno's like "take a look at this, right next to the swab!" I had cervical cancer and he was showing the student the cells. I understand that they need to learn and I probably would've said yes anyway, I just like to think I have some control over the situation and it made me angry that I wasn't asked.
ABSOLUTELY! Consent is essential, especially when it's concerning things like this. I'm so sorry you were deprived of a voice and treated like a specimen.
One of my friends had testicular cancer and the oncologist asked him if his students could examine him. He was like sure what the heck. But there were like TEN students lmao. He was a good sport about it.
You can always say no and request the uninvited student/ whoever leave the room.
I recently had some similar surgery to my male parts. At every visit with the surgeon, there was always a second staff member in the room. I'm sure for good reason. On my last visit, he did have a student in there as well, but I was asked in advance.
@@nickcarroll8565 Doctor (to the students): “Have you ever seen anything like this!? Those things are the size of GRAPEFRUITS!”
One time, I got my yearly pap smear from my general physician. I wasn't really comfortable doing this (I would have preferred going to a Female OB/GYN) but, in the moment, HE talked me into it. I was nervous and uncomfortable, my legs were already in the stirrups, and he asked me if everything was okay. I told him, "I have some anxiety about these exams. I don't like getting them, but I guess nobody likes getting them, huh?" He said, "Hahaha, you'd be surprised." Then he turned to the nurse in the room and said to her, "We have some women who like it so much that they request to have one when they don't even need one! Hahahaha!!!!!"
WHAT THE ENTIRE FV€K‽
Who says that? I mean, even if it's true, WHAT DOCTOR SAYS THAT‽‽ 🤦♀️
Wow! Creepy!!!
@@darkdaygirl WHAT A PERVERT
Time for a new dr.
I have never ever ever had a woman ask for an unnecessary pelvic.
@@nickcarroll8565we have at our clinic.
One lady who had borne eight children tried to get monthly visits. She was told it wasn't needed as her tests were normal and at her age one every five was fine. She responded with
"After eight children that doohickey ( the speculum) is the only time I feel anything at all. Besides the doctor is cute"
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Doctors, please don't make us laugh during the exams... that can, and does create embarrassing problems... I speak from experience. 😅😅😅
Lol yep I can relate. 😂
Lol I'm usually the one trying to make my obgyn laugh. Not while she's doing the exam, but before and after. I mean, I don't want her hands to shake because I'm being myself. 😂
I used to worry about things like that. Now I figure, if the doc makes me laugh, and something happens, then the doc deserved it.
My gyn has never made me laugh during a pelvic exam, but I have wanted to make a joke.
Oh my goodness yes! I once laugh and I shot the equipment right into the doctors lap. Lol
One time when I had an examination done to rule out a rash to be causing some issues. I had a guy and a student do the examination. The guy said, "Don't worry, there is no judgement. But since you dad is here just pretend I am not and he is the only one here."
It made it more awkward.
XD How about "NO! HELL NO!" What female wants their father looking at, and all up in, their down under? *violent shuddertwitch* No other member of the family, either.
One of my first prenatal exams I told the doctor and his assistant that I wasn’t this naked when I got myself into the situation
When I was younger, I had a male gynecologist doing the pelvic exam, and he knocked some thing inside which was painful. When I gasped, he said “oh, that didn’t hurt.“ I have avoided male gynecologists ever since.
That’s weird how did he know what hurt?
@@jamesrkrau2481 He didn't. Doctors have god complexes
I would of hit him in his privates and smiled 😃 and said oh, that didn't hurt. Lol 😆 😆
He may as well have said "suck it up, buttercup".
True story:
I was having my 1st pap exam, age 15 or 16. It was Halloween and my 6' 4" doctor came in, ducking under the doorway, in a Cyclops costume. He was trying to lighten the mood for everybody and I was already uncomfortable with what was about to happen in the 1st place so this didn't help and I could not see his face. I'd never me him before.
(Although that may have been better I don't know.)
Anyway during the exam he made me laugh and the speculum popped out and landed across the room!
Omg. 😮
The next time I had one was probably 20 years later.
I absolutely believe you. A lady Dr was telling me that when she was a student and performed one, the exact same thing happened. So you're not the only one, take comfort in that. (This was at least 30 years ago.)
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Nice! Speculum shooting buddies!!! I kinda hit the doc with mine, lol
Y'all have demonstrated in just a few sentences why I enjoy coming to RUclips comment sections omg 😂🤣😂🤣🤣
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Made my doctor fall off his stool when I said “Welcome to my she shed”✌️👽
I made mine, the nurse, AND the student laugh because
Dr: Any chance you could be pregnant?
Me: Only if my vibrator has more powers than I'm aware of!
Y'all feel free to use that one if you're ever in that mood. 😊
🤣🤣 That is FABULOUS!
My she shed!!! 😂😂😂😂
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Made me fall off my couch reading it 😂😂😂😂😂😂
a friend of mine went to her yearly exam. while the doctor was doing the exam she asked my friend if she had a dog. friend's head bobbed up and she asked, "you can tell that from THERE???". the doctor laughed and said no, she was just making small talk.
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I became pretty close friends with my GP when I was in my early teens. She gave me my first pap exam, and knew how scared I was of it! She was such a sweetheart, and after the exam was done and I had put my bottoms back on, she came in and said, "Oh sorry, I didn't recognize you with your clothes on!" It is my favorite comment a doc has made to me to this day. That was over 15 years ago. I loved her!!
My mom went for her first exam in 1948. She was 18. My grandma didn't talk about self health care sex nothing. Mom's girlfriend told her she should go. Mom said when they told her to undress from the waist down and get on the table. The dr. Came back in explained mom had to lay down. Lol. He went to do the exam and mom still had her underpants on. The dr. Started laughing and left the room. The explained she had to remove her underpants and mom said she couldn't until her wedding night. The got the dr. Who just laughed harder and got a female dr. My mom never spoke to her girlfriend again. She is 93 and laughs about it now. I got my period really early before mom could talk to me about it. When it started I started screaming "I'm a witch". And ran out of the house screaming it over and over. Lol. They chased me down and mom straighten it out. I was glad that was over. Until came again. She forgot the every 28 day thing. 😆 so when I pick on her she gives it right back. Boy I love ❤️ 😍 💖 ❣️ 💕 my mom.
I’m sorry, but if that blond kid came to do my exam, I’d nope outta there FAST.
Awesome. It is fantastic. Really good. I love the X’s and check marks with the buzzer. I think it great. Funny but informative.
Haha
I truly hate pelvic exams, I have a Very long vagina and it's difficult to get a pap smear. I went to a nurse practitioner that put a poster of flowers on the ceiling so you could look at that and have something to look at besides the typical doctors exam room ceiling. It helped me relax.
I wish more GPs and OB/GYNs would do that. It would relax the patient more.
I'm a retired nurse and oh my goodness, my doctors and I have pretty much heard and seen it all!!! Although I have my own stories to tell, when I had my very first pelvic exam, the doctor nor the nurse explained anything to me, I was so embarrassed that I covered my face with the sheet... they laughed 😢😢, I decided at that time, I would never do that to anyone. Years later, worked at a family practice and actually saw the doctor that I worked with for my pap smear, now I knew every word that he was going to say and beat him to it..we were all just laughing our butts off, he finally just looked at me and said, lay back girl😅😅😅...oh also during his training, he told me a story about one of his pelvic exams where he had inserted the speculum, opened it up and saw bright green.?.you'll it was a condom!!! From then on, he would insert a finger before placing the speculum in so he wouldn't get a surprise 😅😅
Did he pull out the bright green that could cause some problems later?
@@jamesrkrau2481 He sure did!! 😆
@@jamesrkrau2481 No he left it there. In fact, it's still up there to this day.
Where do you think sherik came from??? 🤔 lol 😆 😂 🤣 😅 😄
When the doctor pulled out that green balloon of heroin, was he duty-bound to report it the authorities? Or could he hold onto it for ‘medicinal purposes?’
Ripped open my gown and yelled get er done doctor and her med student about died by the way I work in nursing
When I in clinicals for my NP, I needed to complete a pelvic exam on a patient. She happended to be a lesbian (first clinical pap BTW) and just prior to starting, she noted I was nervous and tells me "... don't be nervous, a guy has not been down there for 2 decades. There is no way your going to disappoint!" I just about died right then and there.
Doctors, don’t act surprised if they patient says it hurts when you put the speculum in. For goodness sake, keep it in a warming drawer
When I was much younger and didn’t have health insurance I went to my local Planned Parenthood for my GYN exams, I was pleasantly surprised to see the speculum resting on a heating pad to warm it up. Unfortunately that was the first and only appointment since I wasn’t “planning” to become a parent. I started going to our city’s health clinics for my GYN appointments. They didn’t warm the speculum
And for heaven's sake, be generous with the lube!
I might have to play this during my next exam 😂😂😂 The nurse would love it
I was the patient getting my annual exam with a new doctor, because mine had retired. He was down there doing his work and we were chatting a little, he asked about my kids and I said one of my daughters has red hair like I do. He said, I kid you not, "SO, YOU'RE A NATURAL REDHEAD??" And no, I was not waxed. I found a female GYN after this.
My first examination I went to my mother's ob/gyn, legs up in the stirrups and they comments on how I look exactly like my mother....uhm, okay? (I for sure hope they meant my face!)
I highly doubt it. That is a joke from “Knocked Up”.
@@DavidWilliams-so2dy whatever you say, David. Guess you must know my life better than I do 🙄
Nope. Just an uncanny ability to recognize BS.
@@DavidWilliams-so2dy today in: things I’ve seen in a movie couldn’t possibly happen in real life. Get a grip, David.
There. There. I know. It’s frustrating getting called out on your crap. You’re very triggered by it so something about it resonates with you. Maybe you should get a grip?
This was hilarious!!!
Thanks! I wish we could take credit for it but these are real!!!
I have asked my gynecologist to bring a dust buster next time, I also asked him if he found what he was looking for.
I found this equal parts disturbing and hilarious. Well done! 😂👍
I slid off the table during my last one lol ..didn't hurt myself other than my pride!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣ohhhh S**t, Idk what I'd do if my gyn said Any of that stuff! Hilarious guys!!
I honestly just prefer the descriptive. Tell me what’s going on, why, and what to expect. Much more comfortable and safe.
I would think the scariest thing to say would be, "Uh-oh!"
I literally LOL’d 😂😂😂 good job 😅
The OB-Gyn would never go gloveless in front of witnesses.
And bring things up BEFORE people are undressed. I booked an ultrasound at a private gyn, to check if it was cysts of cancer. When I was undressed, I got asked if I had a papsmear done recently. Since I was taken by surprise, I was honest, and said that I had not, so the reaction was "Ah, I'll do one while I am at it". Not even "Do you want me to take one?", but just assuming I wanted one done.
I have severe (invisible) chronic health issues, and have due to this made a very deliberate choice to not get this done. Why? Cause risking to be expected to get a new pap done every 3-6 months for a year, risking surgery, chemo, and other things that will reduce my already minimal quality of life? No. Not worth it, for me. Ovarian cancer kills fast, so that made sense to get checked out, but something that might be an issue in 5-20 years time? It is irrelevant.
Same goes for rectal penetration, not an issue for my sake, but many are unaware that it is sometimes done, and do not think of asking themselves. If that is a habit you have as a doctor? Let people know beforehand, so they can leave if they are not able or willing to cope with it. I have a friend that had booked a papsmear, and it did not occur to her at all that she would get a finger stuck inside her rectally (and why would she?), and reacted to this in the same way as people would react to an assault. Combine that with that there is no real help to cope with these things (even therapists will tend to focus on that "they are doctors, it is for your best interest", and kept putting the blame on her.)... and it did not end well.
She died from cancer a decade later, that would most likely be possible to treat. This was a woman with zero history of mental health issues, no abuse, no rapes, no nothing, the only thing that flipped her over was the doctor that took it for granted that she could do what she wanted. Makes me wonder how many cases like this there is around, that is never mentioned, blamed on previous history of sexual abuse, or brushed away with that it is the patients responsibility to decline.
Getting a Pap smear doesn’t mean you’re setting yourself up for checks every 3-6 months that’s just if it shows anything. If it’s nothing it’s every 3 years (in Sweden at least). In Sweden a pap smear doesn’t involve any anal examination god that would be even more awkward no thanks.
Indeed. And I have no interest in followups every 3-6 months for something that might become an issue in years time, when I am unlikely to be alive. Those 2-5 days it takes for me to recover (from travel and so on) every 3-6 month? They are better spent enjoying life when I can. By now, it is a very deliberate choice from me to not risk having that information. That was taken away from me, and it took a long time for that I managed to forgive myself.
And you are correct, rectal penetration is not something that is needed for a pap. She booked a papsmear, and the gyn had a "let's do it all while we have you on the table" approach, and checked her more thoroughly, without giving her time to think. I know of others that have had similar experiences, and it seems frequent enough that I have started to ask before I as much as take off my shoes. If they then tell me that they have that kind of habit, I leave. If they can blindside patients in one aspect like that, they are likely prone to it in others.
I am just too worn out for that kind of games by now.
Bimanual exams (rectovaginal) used to be common. I have never performed one on an asymptomatic patient as they are horribly invasive and there is literally no evidence that it changes outcomes.
I went in for a colonoscopy at the VA two years ago,there were two nurses ,both named Meghan,one was white and the other SE Asian.
Both commented on my tan. They said it was nice.
This was before the drugs.
It might be even more barrier breaking if you also rotated the patient role between you. Thanks for a laugh, yet so much of the negative was also too much of my experience.
Oh Lord, you've had Dr's Say some of this stuff?? 😲
My friend told me her new gynecologist said to her during the exam- you remind me of my wife.
Every time their is a student i let them come in, they always ask first. They never say anything (the student)
Medicinema does it again!
Student doctors should practice on each other. Men shouldn't become OB/GYN's Period !
I once had a urologist asking me some questions about "down there". I told her I had a rash and she recoiled in horror: " Eww you don't have anal herpes DO YOU?!?!" I couldn't believe 1) her reaction and 2) there is such a thing as anal herpes. 😆 Luckily it was not anal NOR vaginal herpes but excema..
Cleared right up with topical lotion.
Uh, anal herpes absolutely exists
I just wanted to say, I had my fair share of scary procedures. Like when they swab you for yeast infections. Don't ever laugh when the girl flips out and screams. I screamed and I made a PA laugh. Awkward ASF.
I wonder why men are Gyne's in the first place? I think they should all be women, for all the obvious reasons.
For the same reasons there are female urologists.
@@laylalayla6630 Sorry but that's a spurious argument. Only women see Gynecologists. Nice try, though.
@@rorystorm4284 Doesn’t matter. I answered your question. Regardless of whether patients see a doctor of the same sex or not you will still find male gynos and female urologists. Keep trying.
@@laylalayla6630 I wasn't asking you anything. You're a male, right lol!
@@rorystorm4284 I was simply educating you on your ignorant comment and now you don’t have a comeback. Keep trying.
1:17 What's with the accent? She didn't have it later.
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I once had an OB-GYN who told me I was fat during a pelvic exam.
That's awful.
Well…are you?
LOL funny