Such beautifully authentic sharing to which I completely relate and about which most of us don’t usually speak so openly. Doing that is an example for all of us of so much courage. It has probably already happened by now, but I still feel compelled to say, this too will pass. Triggered feelings must be allowed for the energy to move and heal. Then safety can almost always be found by acknowledging the present circumstances and grounding oneself there. You already know this, and your words and compassion have been so helpful to so many. I suppose it can never hurt to hear it from someone else when the pain is intense ❤
Hey, thank you for sharing. I have been on the journey since about a year and it has not been until the last few weeks that I have identified the belief that I am not good enough. I have in a way seen that before but I’ve realized I’ve been doing all the same mistakes in this trauma/spiritual journey. My Big trigger used to be just beeing alone. And now, knowing it’s all just thoughts I decided to go and live alone. My whole life I’ve been trying to spend my time with others but did not realize why and now I wanted to face it. But. There was no kindness, no gentleness in it whatsoever. I kept pushing myself to be alone to „learn it” and „accept it”. I kept pushing myśleć for not being good enough at accepting myself etc. My biggest share is that we need to learn to trust. I know how hard it is when any move feels dangerous. To me, after the glimpse every thought seems dangerous. For months. So whatever the heart tells you guys trust it. Mine tells me to give it all a break and indulge with some food podcasts to think what I’m going to make for all the lovely friends at the weekend. Take care, I wish you all the best ❤
"There was no kindness, no gentleness in it whatsoever. I kept pushing myself to be alone to „learn it” and „accept it”. I kept pushing myśleć for not being good enough at accepting myself etc. My biggest share is that we need to learn to trust. I know how hard it is when any move feels dangerous. To me, after the glimpse every thought seems dangerous. For months. " Been like that for a long while. Feeling you express this it might prove us both, vigilant, but wrong. There is kindness, this video and your comment proves it. Perhaps it it not trusting others not to violate us; but trusting ourselves not letting it be a violation..... I feel you, I find it very upsetting, but maybe we should let go and trust ourselves. XXX Mac
I thank you so much for this sharing. I have been going thru an intensely challenging time since many months being on the edge of bankruptcy with 150 people working in my two Wellness Hotels. The death of my wife who took care of the finances has left me in a horrible situation. Friends have said that they are surprised that I am still alive. Now my situation is in a phase where I can withdraw and let my lawyers take care of things. I am feeling terrible and don’t see an end in sight. I will seek safety for my poor nervous system and hope for a speedy recovery. It’s hard to manage. Thank again for your insights. 😂 ❤
Thanks for your ongoing reminders to go gently. I have my very own flavour of nervous system shut down and it mainly feels like sleep deprivation even if it seems like I'm getting decent sleep. Do your eyes also ever get dry and squinty? It feels like being a snail retreating into its shell. I don't get the same emotional flavour, it seems, as I tend to be cut off from emotions at those times of overwhelm. Post-Awakening does seem like a catch 20 for us in that way - full on awesomeness (or occasional not-so awesomeness) is extra taxing with traumatized nervous systems. A part of me still believes it is part of my sensitive nature but the 20+ years of nonstop fight or flight and insomnia sure left a mark. Thanks again and take great care! ❤
You appeared at such an amazing moment! I am working on simplifying for overwhelm and there you are!! Thank you for the many suggestions. As I switch to more self help videos, it’s incredible how people like you appear! So grateful!
You are an amazingly brave and inspiring human being, Its just comforting to hear someone speak so eloquently about what so many of us are going through. May you receive everything you need to heal. God bless you for your openness and honesty ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I don't understand why I feel hypervigilant ant traumatized. I think I had a pretty easy childhood with loving parents. Sure my mom used to hold me and cry because my dad was cheating on her, and certainly he was occasionally angry with me and didn't seem to like who I was, but for the most part I think i felt secure and loved. I didn't like hearing them yell at and argue with each other after I'd gone to bed, but isn't that stuff more common than not? How did other kids escape becoming hypervigilant people pleasers who feel they must be great at everything and become totally locked up and frozen when they're scared or stressed out? I really don't understand why I crawl under a rock and pull into my shell and feel guilt and shame about doing so when I do. Life is good, but I could be so much more productive and effective and satisfied.
Hey there. I get you, it's so hard to know why this arises for us, this is why it's often referred to as complex, because it's not one or two things but loads of different conditions over time. Don't worry to much about what cause all this, the best thing we can do is gently recognise what's going on for us and learn to build safe embodied practices to help provide ease. 🙏
For each of us individually these things will vary. The literal definition of trauma is when a situation or accumulation of situations leads to overwhelm. That will lead to varied and very different outcomes for each individual and their unique circumstances. Babies and young children have nervous systems that are easily overwhelmed ❤❤
Hi there, have you looked into TRE. I was lucky enough to come across this early in my awakening journey and I have a significant history of childhood sexual abuse and trauma. TRE (trauma/tension release exercise) taps into a natural mechanism your body has been culturally conditioned to suppress by about 7 years old. It’s a game changer and will help you to do exactly what you’re looking to do. Gently and naturally learn nervous system regulation. The body re learns it actually ❤ if you look for David Becelli and TRE you’ll find an easy introduction video. He essentially designed it as self help but with more severe trauma it can be useful to find a facilitator. Lots of love to you
Such beautifully authentic sharing to which I completely relate and about which most of us don’t usually speak so openly. Doing that is an example for all of us of so much courage. It has probably already happened by now, but I still feel compelled to say, this too will pass. Triggered feelings must be allowed for the energy to move and heal. Then safety can almost always be found by acknowledging the present circumstances and grounding oneself there. You already know this, and your words and compassion have been so helpful to so many. I suppose it can never hurt to hear it from someone else when the pain is intense ❤
Thanks Jenny, I appreciate you so much ❤️
It sounds so simple when you say it; I have been thinking it but believing in oneself appears to be harder than initially imagined.
So wise, really appreciate all you share 🙏
Hey, thank you for sharing. I have been on the journey since about a year and it has not been until the last few weeks that I have identified the belief that I am not good enough. I have in a way seen that before but I’ve realized I’ve been doing all the same mistakes in this trauma/spiritual journey. My Big trigger used to be just beeing alone. And now, knowing it’s all just thoughts I decided to go and live alone. My whole life I’ve been trying to spend my time with others but did not realize why and now I wanted to face it.
But.
There was no kindness, no gentleness in it whatsoever. I kept pushing myself to be alone to „learn it” and „accept it”. I kept pushing myśleć for not being good enough at accepting myself etc.
My biggest share is that we need to learn to trust. I know how hard it is when any move feels dangerous. To me, after the glimpse every thought seems dangerous. For months.
So whatever the heart tells you guys trust it. Mine tells me to give it all a break and indulge with some food podcasts to think what I’m going to make for all the lovely friends at the weekend.
Take care, I wish you all the best ❤
"There was no kindness, no gentleness in it whatsoever. I kept pushing myself to be alone to „learn it” and „accept it”. I kept pushing myśleć for not being good enough at accepting myself etc.
My biggest share is that we need to learn to trust. I know how hard it is when any move feels dangerous. To me, after the glimpse every thought seems dangerous. For months. "
Been like that for a long while.
Feeling you express this it might prove us both, vigilant, but wrong.
There is kindness, this video and your comment proves it.
Perhaps it it not trusting others not to violate us; but trusting ourselves not letting it be a violation.....
I feel you, I find it very upsetting, but maybe we should let go and trust ourselves.
XXX Mac
I thank you so much for this sharing. I have been going thru an intensely challenging time since many months being on the edge of bankruptcy with 150 people working in my two Wellness Hotels. The death of my wife who took care of the finances has left me in a horrible situation. Friends have said that they are surprised that I am still alive. Now my situation is in a phase where I can withdraw and let my lawyers take care of things. I am feeling terrible and don’t see an end in sight. I will seek safety for my poor nervous system and hope for a speedy recovery. It’s hard to manage. Thank again for your insights. 😂 ❤
I'm so sorry for all you're going through. That sounds so hard, and I'm sending you lots of well wishes. Go gently ❤️
Great self awareness dearest Simon. Sending Blessings of Inner Peace and Freedom 🙏❤ and much love 😘
Aah raven, right back at you. ❤️
Thanks for your ongoing reminders to go gently. I have my very own flavour of nervous system shut down and it mainly feels like sleep deprivation even if it seems like I'm getting decent sleep. Do your eyes also ever get dry and squinty? It feels like being a snail retreating into its shell. I don't get the same emotional flavour, it seems, as I tend to be cut off from emotions at those times of overwhelm. Post-Awakening does seem like a catch 20 for us in that way - full on awesomeness (or occasional not-so awesomeness) is extra taxing with traumatized nervous systems. A part of me still believes it is part of my sensitive nature but the 20+ years of nonstop fight or flight and insomnia sure left a mark. Thanks again and take great care! ❤
Thank you for sharing so openly ❤️
Yes, same here. My eyes do that too! Same background. Thank you.
You appeared at such an amazing moment! I am working on simplifying for overwhelm and there you are!! Thank you for the many suggestions. As I switch to more self help videos, it’s incredible how people like you appear! So grateful!
It's my absolute pleasure. I know how tricky this can be. ❤️
Thank you for this. Really resonated, I'm sure a lot of people will be helped by this. Nice one. 🙏
My pleasure thanks so much for your lovely comment ❤
You are an amazingly brave and inspiring human being, Its just comforting to hear someone speak so eloquently about what so many of us are going through. May you receive everything you need to heal. God bless you for your openness and honesty ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Anne you have brought a tear to my eye. Thanks so much for such a lovely comment and your support wishing you all the ease and peace in the world. ❤
Thank you for the reminders. 🙏🏻♥️😊
Hello hello! I found you through David Mc Donald.
Loving you’re stuff so far
This video reminds me much of myself.
I don't understand why I feel hypervigilant ant traumatized. I think I had a pretty easy childhood with loving parents. Sure my mom used to hold me and cry because my dad was cheating on her, and certainly he was occasionally angry with me and didn't seem to like who I was, but for the most part I think i felt secure and loved. I didn't like hearing them yell at and argue with each other after I'd gone to bed, but isn't that stuff more common than not? How did other kids escape becoming hypervigilant people pleasers who feel they must be great at everything and become totally locked up and frozen when they're scared or stressed out?
I really don't understand why I crawl under a rock and pull into my shell and feel guilt and shame about doing so when I do. Life is good, but I could be so much more productive and effective and satisfied.
Hey there. I get you, it's so hard to know why this arises for us, this is why it's often referred to as complex, because it's not one or two things but loads of different conditions over time. Don't worry to much about what cause all this, the best thing we can do is gently recognise what's going on for us and learn to build safe embodied practices to help provide ease. 🙏
For each of us individually these things will vary. The literal definition of trauma is when a situation or accumulation of situations leads to overwhelm. That will lead to varied and very different outcomes for each individual and their unique circumstances. Babies and young children have nervous systems that are easily overwhelmed ❤❤
Hi there, have you looked into TRE. I was lucky enough to come across this early in my awakening journey and I have a significant history of childhood sexual abuse and trauma. TRE (trauma/tension release exercise) taps into a natural mechanism your body has been culturally conditioned to suppress by about 7 years old. It’s a game changer and will help you to do exactly what you’re looking to do. Gently and naturally learn nervous system regulation. The body re learns it actually ❤ if you look for David Becelli and TRE you’ll find an easy introduction video. He essentially designed it as self help but with more severe trauma it can be useful to find a facilitator. Lots of love to you
@@Awakehereandnow Thank you for your response - that is very helpful!
@@debbiemiller163 Thanks for your support and for helping me to better understand.
Profoundly helpful. Deepest gratitude for what you share. 🤍
It my absolute pleasure ❤️