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I have been suffering from a burnout after my team member left, having to handle everything by myself. I had my one chance last week to correct it by demanding the right remuneration but I messed it up by asking too little. It has been killing me ever since. 😔 I don't know if my energy to work will ever come back. I am so disappointed with myself.
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@@sahibathind5373 too late... You gonna get a response... It is accurate because psychologically we are all the same... There is no difference between our psyches.
I think many people feel like this at this point. A lack of appreciation for ones efforts, repetitive work, and being disconnected from one's work(not getting to see the monetary and societal benefits that come from a persons work) , has caused many people to feel like this.
Add to that sleep disorders, feeling like you’re falling behind and/or that you’re a failure, the need to be able to do/fix things on your own, not being able to do to “simple stuff” like replying to text messages, dreading tasks that are piling up, overthinking things, not being able to not think about anything for a second, let alone a minute. I could go on about this for hours, but I’ll stop ;-;
@@arirosenberger1181 If you are in a real proper burnout, I can guarantee you, you will not recover in a matter of a few months. It might even take multiple years, so yes
I set boundaries. I take off work. I reset my brain so it doesn't affect my day to day. Go for a walk. Lay in the grass and stare at the sky. No music. No RUclips. No sound but outside. Your body grounding and sounds you hear will do you wonders
I don’t think there’s an individualist solution that isn’t a band-aid, its something everyone has to work together on. We are all dissatisfied with out work and society, so let’s change it to one we are happy about, one where we have free time, enough to rest and play and do fun things and recharge. One where we don’t dread our co-workers or other people because they could replace use if we slip up.
For me it’s a struggle to even read a text message. I’ll avoid opening it, then avoid replying because I don’t feel I’m at my best to offer something as simple as a two word response. It’s absurd, but so difficult to challenge.
It's not absurd! I understand. It really can be hard when you feel like you don't even have enough to give yourself, especially if you also fear you may be judged or anything like that on top. It's ok. If it's a friend, you can tell them that it's not that you're mad at them or anything, but you're feeling quite low and maybe depleted and may not always answer, or do so promptly. In any case, please forgive yourself and remember that your struggle is valid and it can and will get better. One step at a time.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo RUclips channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
@@Jelloanno they dont "got this" and they shouldnt. this person is actually seeking help, like most people. we shouldnt force this person (or anyone) to continue. this is like saying 'keep going' when someone mentions how the road is full of glass. to first commenter, your job hurts you, doing it more or doing it harder wont solve it. there is nothing wrong with getting out of that (any) job
This is so me, bestie... ❤ Me 0.00001 second after waking up before I even get out of bed knowing that I need to go to work. I got the looming sense of impending doom that makes me go: "fuck."
My burnout isn't even work... it's life as a whole. Been getting slammed over and over with huge issues and I don't even want to get out of bed. I try my best to put on my happy face and make sure I'm not worrying anyone but it's hard to keep moving sometimes. I'm not suicidal like I used to be... I just don't even care enough to want to do anything.
The two things that have helped me with this same sort of situation are to do *something*, no matter how small it is, and to seek a relationship with Jesus. Just moving forward in some way, even if it seems like it doesn't matter, can get you out of a funk. Living for a purpose greater than yourself and that isn't determined by your circumstances is freeing, as well. But, more importantly, Jesus loves you and has a plan for you to be successful, just maybe not in the way you envision for yourself. He wants a relationship with you and to give you hope in Him and eternal life with the Father.
"I try my best to put on my happy face and make sure I'm not worrying anyone" I can identify with how you feel and I am truly sorry for what you are going through
I feel this so much right now. I don’t want to go anywhere. I don’t want to do anything. Anything I want to do I avoid because I want to give it the proper time and attention it deserves but am too out of focus to do so. It’s like I’m overloaded. Too much negativity on the news. Too many people wanting my time. I just want to turn off my phone, and stay in bed for a few years.
For me theses are only signs for severe stress but not for burnout yet. I had a burnout done years ago. When you have reached that level you are unable to do anything because you are totally exhausted. Not even eating. Your whole system needs to recover because there is zero energy. It’s a total break down. It took me 5 months ti be able to go back to work - 3 hours per day first and we slowly increased the working time week by week. Thank god in Germany this time / your earnings are covered by the health insurance by law and so I had no financial problems.
I completely understand this. I'm a second year PhD student. I work from 8am to 8-9pm everyday. During weekends also. I don't have breaks unless I get very sick. Today I asked my advisor if I can have a break on Sundays. He got upset giving me a lecture about how important these years are and I should not waste any time. Not even a single day. He's paying me as a research assistant and he expects me to work 24/7. I'm very accomplished I published 13 papers in 2 years, attended multiple conferences and give lectures on other classes. My peers envy my achievements but I feel like I'm dying inside.
Me preguntaría " qué es ser exitoso?" es un cliché pero en la vida todo requiere balance. Mi hijo de 11 años comenzó el liceo esta semana. Una noche tuvimos una charla reflexiva y me dijo: " cuando tú elegias trabajar me dejabas a mí atrás, aprendí a dormir mucho para que se hiciera más corto tu regreso" hasta ahora me duele😢 En ese momento debia trabajar muchas horas para mantenernos y tener un salario un poco más digno. Hoy lo haría diferente. No me lo dijo como reproche ni nada, solo estuvimos recordando sus años y el progreso hasta esta nueva etapa. Es un gran niño-adolescente, será un gran hombre❤
Please choose to take a break before you're made to by your physical and mental health. It's quite clear you are more than capable of exceeding. You can and must take a break. Please❤❤
I have all the signs of burnout but also no reason to be burnt out. But now I’m burnt out stressing about all the things I didn’t accomplish while being burnt out.
go back to childhood...you'll see there were signs. And how it affected your adult ..everything. Nurse here, reading and crying through tear stained pages of "I'm dying to take care of you."
Add to this, it's an internal fight to wake up everyday literally, Can't keep anything down in the morning. Anxiety answering the phone & opening the laptop. Can't sleep or over sleep to escape reality. Deleting social media so no one can reach me. Procrastination, bad hygiene. Doing nothing on the weekends, having no energy for hobbies or going out.
@The0Red0King I was like this till i couldn't take it any more & quit. I stayed unemployed for a long time, took lot's of therapy & medication for some time to get over this. Please if you can seek therapy before it gets worse do that & look for new jobs before you can't take it anymore. I know it's not easy but it will pass. I hope you the best :)
I’m burnt out, depressed, stressed, anxious, being bullied at work and tbh there’s alot more I won’t say here. How I’m still alive at this point says a lot about my coping ability.
I wish I could quit my 9-5 (technically 10-7 as I work overnight) and do what I want to do... when I am not working/sleeping/ spending time with kiddos I am baking bc it makes me feel good. I am VERY burned out with my current job. I need my job to pay the bills though
I understand what you’re saying. The thought of having to do my night routine, showering brushing my teeth and figuring out what to eat is sooo overwhelming. 😞 and then if you don’t do any of it, you face the consequences
That happened to me as a homemaker. I worked as hard as I could for them, and they treated me like dog poop. By the time I was discarded, my brain was barely even functioning. I could barely bring myself to do anything in my household after that. It’s been two years, and I’m happy to say that I finally started cooking again. I have to tell y’all that it’s so much nicer to do things when you don’t have unappreciative jerks around acting like they’re owed.😀
I’ve been there before and now am no longer ger going to sit down for anybody to treat me like shit. I’m mirroring the same character. Love yourself first and others will treat you well.
There's no end to this though. I have to work to keep a roof over my head and food in my stomach. I can't just stop working, but I am so tired of being tired, I never feel fully rested.
You will one day I promise just keep working and keep trying to find things to get your instead bur ugh yes I feel you but the world defiantly needs you!
@@MisssKayy This is embarrassing to comment. People should be able to be alone lol. And retiring isn't happening, I'm 25, and they're talking about raising the retirement age to 70! 😊
Yep...I'm more aware of it, after going through it....never again. It cost me a lot of time, that I can't get back. But it is what it is. All we can do is go forward
can’t tell if you actually came to that conclusion or you thought you were somehow making a counter argument…. cuz yeah…. most people DO have burnout.. it’s intentional that everybody is overworked in society..
It’s very simple to turn your lives over to Jesus Christ. Yes you’re still going to have hard times, but he makes it so much easier. That means having a change of heart and a complete change of the way you’re living repent and accept him in your life surrender to him.
which makes things worse -- no one but me and a few others, are talking about the anti-social media being a DRUG people use to distract themselves and they do nothing for others. Doing for others is therapeutic. As well as gets you out with other people. This is the most isolating, disturbing time in which I've ever lived. It's part of a plandemic...
Food deprivation is also a sign where you choose sleep over food (going out to buy groceries, or cooking time,etc) to the point that you’re numb to hunger. I experienced this.
anxiety and depression cause brain changes...appetite suppression because the chemicals in the brain sense threat and the blood is going to survival mode. Anorexia is the same coin, opposite side as what she's doing with binging (and many then purge - so dangerous ).
I can so relate!!! I live on coffee. And sometimes I swear to you I will stop and literally ask myself " When was the last time I ate? Two days? Three? " It's insane. But I will pick sleep over food any day. Always been this way. If it's an hour nap versus a lunch hour to eat, the nap will always win.
Theory: Burnout happens because people need intentional rest; time set aside to truly relax and not think about work, not just time not doing work. Without this, burnout sets in super quickly. Without boundaries to when work can interfere with your life, it overtakes you.
Agree. And if thoughts about work or tasks pop up, say no we’re not doing work today. It helps to say this out loud. Tell yourself “no” and allow yourself to rest.
I literally shut down since Christmas 🎄⛄ and slept whenever I wanted and ate whatever I wanted (within reason). Got real deep sleep. My face is cleared, and I FEEL light although I still have things to work on exhaustion and dehydration snuck up on me.
Its what we call vacation in Europe. I take minimum an entire month off in summer and weeklong vacations several time during a year. Only way to do this long term. But I also got 44 vacation days a year, Every country should legally mandate at least 30.
This video almost made me cry for how accurate it was. I’ve been burned out for a few years but at some point I decided to embrace it instead of beating up myself for being lazy, anxious, and sad. My life was hard and I worked hard, so I decided I could enjoy a little bit of “free time”. It’s not a solution and I still freak out sometimes but at least I went from a living corpse to a living lazy person 😅
Find a side business you can happily devote a couple hours a week to. Let the burn out motivate you to planting your own trees, even if it takes a decade you'll have your own income source eventually and you'll be able to retire early from your dead end job.
@@fresh_kerfer absolutely, a good side hustle will GIVE the person energy, fulfillment, and hope for the future. Like how you may play video games for eight hours and just want another eight hours to keep playing. You can get the same energy and sense of accomplishment from learning a skill like wood working or carpentry, electronic repair, art in general, moulding and creating epoxy countertops etc etc etc. I flip houses on the side and if I can get to a project house two - 8 hour days a week I get to learn new skills and go to sleep much happier than when I just grind away all week. People experience burn out not because they're working long hours, but because they have lost any sense of accomplishment from their work. Video games provide a world to learn and conquer. Find worlds to conquer in the real world and you'll fill that hole in your soul. We're meant to accomplish great things, not toil day in and out doing the same dozen or so things.
@@fresh_kerfer not sure why my last reply got removed. Long story short, a good side hustle will renew the spirit. It provides growth and hope. Or just lay in bed feeling bad for yourselves.
Heyy I know I can understand you but it's gonna be okay I really hope you'll better and hope you fall in love with being alive again ♡ all love and prayers 🤍
This what I experienced a few years ago. I felt I was losing it at work. It was due to taking on many projects and not saying no. Fixing other people’s mistakes at work. Realizing the same people continued the same patterns while I continued to self destruct. Finally left the toxic environment.
I have to admit all of the above ! Burn out for over two years , just functioning not living. To afraid to relax in case I stop and give up ! I tell no one I do not want sympathy just understanding as to what's happening. I can see it now! that has to be going in the right direction . This information is so valued , thank you 😊
@mystifiedmargot1970 I have and he doubled my medication . I felt no interest from him at all . I am not a person that asks for help normally . I had three calls from the surgery during the pandemic all to ask me to get vaccinated . Nothing else matters anymore especially mental health .
Yep - I still don't miss social work. The chronic stress was awful. 3 years later I took a massive pay cut in another field, but my job now is low stress, I have regular periods (was often late when in the previous job), am 11kg lighter and much happier overall.
@@xkaruu5122 absolutely! To be honest I've found the pay cut hard and haven't ever fully adjusted to being so ongoingly conscious about spending/saving, but for me it has still been beyond worth it overall.
What is the low stress job you now have? I currently am on the look out for a low stress job because my personal life has high emotional stress: I live with my elder parents and their marriage is domestically turbulent on a daily. So I’m almost always emotionally and mentally burnt out. My current work has toxic coworkers which causes me severe anxiety to work with them. This job provides good health insurance however I personally don’t think it’s worth staying all because of health coverage. I rather seek happiness over health insurance.
If only I had seen this video 25 years ago, I would have been able to understand my emotions and avoid multiple suicide attempts and endless chains of self-sabotage. Thank you for THIS!
I don’t even call it burnout. To me it’s just the human brain fighting against such an unnatural existence. Work for money so you can pay bills that never stop. No way we’re supposed to be living like this.
Agreed. I think it's time for us to ask ourselves how we keep ourselves in this way of life, and how to actually move towards what we want life to be. We need to be questioning everyone who insists on the status quo as much as we can, because at this point it's just strange. Why are we forcing things that give us bad results?
I sort of did this - took a leave from my teaching job to finish my PhD. Whole new sense of life and freedom but it was really hard to return to the world of work. Still struggling with it 5 years later. I miss the freedom of feeling like I had time for myself, even though I eas living on the bare minimum. It's just sad we have to give up almost all of our time for our jobs now. ,
@christinegreen3974 I put my 2 weeks notice in last week and NO REGRETS! I am in school for massage therapy at age 50 and I love it ❤ find and follow your bliss 🎉
This is so helpful to see. I don't know about anyone else, but I know when I feel like this I blame myself and think that I am flawed rather than seeing it as a symptom of being overwhelmed and burned out.
Yeah. Well as my therapist says most burn out are just part of depression lol As this happend to me I went to a clinic afterward but because I had to wait three months most of the strong symptoms were gone and I went back to my general "everything is great until i burn out" and my doctor didn't underand that (at first at least)
One positive thing about getting let go , if you can be optimistic, is to look at it like you’re been done a favor by being released from the problem of being overworked and possibly underpaid. Now you have the freedom to spread your wings and search for a new career that better suits your needs. Hopefully the money situation is okay. Temp agencies are everywhere and it’s a sure way to bring in money fast legally.
Number two is what keeps people in the state of burnout. Living a passive life, wasting away in front of a tv, a phone or a computer is a major stressor in itself.
Vacations are literally so important. I was going through this every day of the year at old jobs where I never got any vacations. Now, Im able to take a week off twice a year or so and I dont hate being alive as much. We are not meant to work 5 days a week every week our whole lives! 2 free days a week with adult responsibilities or mental health issues is not enough time outside of work for a person to be happy and fulfilled!
I don't understand how you guys work with no vocations in America. Here in Poland we have 20-24 paid vocation days a year. 4 weeks a year basically. And it's 28 in Russia.
@@annastasia.1 in Russia it's 28 + you have about 20 extra days-off cause we have long holidays in January and May which are also paid by the government ... I can't imagine that people work with only 5-10 days-off per year
I’m someone who can’t take off a week or more because I then don’t want to go back at all. I’d be good with Wednesdays off in addition to weekends. Or just random days when I just can’t stay awake or need a mental break. I’ve also always had jobs that are emotionally draining.
I have burnout. Not because I am overworked. But I have Chronic pain and health issues. Am burnt out from picking up the pieces after every health emergency. Hard one to explain to people.
Oh I get it! I am a nurse, and when I died in 2020, I got literally no healthcare and was kicked to the curb because I refused their murder attempt (vent) and suddenly had no access to the basic care I spent 24 years giving. I am "burnt out" from chronic abuse from childhood that 'followed me' into school, which felt normal, then work and then healthcare I had to fight for tests to prove I was having a stroke and I was still denied care. The all the appointment to hear "yeah, you have this and that and this and that" nothing we can do (after they caused it). The same family bullies who abused me as a child were laughing as this all happened as an adult. I discovered through trauma therapy I was never able to call trauma due to being used to getting shamed and blamed and I apologized to my abusers for 'making them want to abuse me'..this led me to be the best damn nurse there is, but hated by management, dated and befriended emotionally absent people, and then further self-defeating behaviors, scared to end relationships that gave me consistent breadcrumbs I learned to "appreciate" as my standards were low, but I was told I had high expectations. To not want more than breadcrumbs when I give 110% to people who give 1% and complain I don't give then 130% when I react to the pain they caused but it's my expectations? It's a LOT. And a lot of THIS, causes health issues. I so get a version of your story with out knowing the details. I more than get it. As a patient AND a nurse, now out of work - but I had to literally crash, burn and die to start really digging into the necessary and I would have if I only knew I had to and thought I was doing okay, but knew I wasn't..just didn't make the time to be still enough to work hard core on it between two nursing jobs, teaching Zumba, and doing work for the church, etc. I kept myself unintentionally busy serving others, which was both healing...AND a drug. Had no idea. The Lord healed many people through my wound-based helping of others. However, I had to die to learn how to do life in a healthier way where I respected myself as worthy of love from God over who I am,, not what I did and for whom. What a life lesson. Often times I regretted surviving what I medically should not have as I left with lethal scenarios in 2020, but here I am and if I made it this far, I know God took me through the high tides, to work on....me. I 'get it.' Let us say a prayer for each other and do the right things to heal and deal. Soaking in pity on anti-social media is NOT the way.
I think acting is her hidden talent. She portrays those feelings so true that it makes us listen to her more with our absolute attention. Thank you doc!
um more like that is really HER. another of people that go into that work either really really messed up...or saw very bad crap with others. ie..dad blew his brains out so now is a therapists to help people...ie help dad and the mess after. key to a good therapist is they don't do victim and get past it. sad but a min of 50% in that field are worthless.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo RUclips channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
Did that recently. Was working myself into a frenzy. Doing school online while dealing with toxic people dragging me down daily. Had to eventually disappear from friends, and other people who had no business in my life. I had to choose my mental health over that of other's for once in my life. 💜💕🦋🔥👑🔥🦋💕💜
@@kelvinfannon8416 No not always someone else's fault. Judging another person's life without knowing is even worse. Until a person has lived in someone else's shoes it's best not to judge. 💜💕🦋🔥👑🔥🦋💕💜
This is 100% me Right now..also Stucking in a Job that makes me cry just when thinking about work everytime, makes me emotional and physically exhausted and anxious. I guess the only way out is the Way out! Wish me luck 🍀
This is exactly where I’m at right now. I slowly feel like I’m shutting down completely. My health is in the worst shape it’s ever been in. I feel like there’s something inside me that is slowly killing me; almost like a virus/disease eating away from the inside out. Idk what to do or where to turn because as I’m describing to my doctors as to how I’m feeling, none of them are giving me any answers or suggestions that can help me. I wish I lived in an area where mental health was treated as it should be, like a cancer that without treatment starts to shut everything down. Please pray for me. Thanks
@debrajones4010 It's been years since I've been at this stage, but I still feel what your describing deep in my bones. It's an awful place to be & I hope you find what you need to get past it too❤
I hit this wall a couple months ago and can’t shake it! I dread even waking up and it has affected things outside of work that i use to enjoy I have ZERO energy or wanting for anything at the moment which depresses me even more and i feel guilty because my burnout affects other people negatively
I’m in the same boat! I struggle to get out of bed to do anything. I rarely leave the house because I have zero energy or motivation to make the effort to leave the house. It’s getting really bad and I don’t know how to really resolve it. Best of luck with everything. Hope and pray it gets better for you.
I experienced major burnout. Sometimes its a slow process that builds up and it’s hard to notice. I kinda started giving up on life. Just wanna say to everyone that you aren’t alone, and to keep on going. Sometimes a simple change is all it takes. Spend some time working out or just change your environment. Your average job is not worth your whole being and life. Even if you have to cut some people out of your life that may be causing you to feel this way. Do whatever it takes to pull through. I believe in you.
I have a talk with my boss today because I could not keep up the work, doe to my depression and I am feeling quiet stressed out because it is really hard to talk about it. But I want to thank you because for some reason your comment just gave me back some energy and motivation for today
@@faru789breathing exercises, journaling when you feel overwhelmed (your writing doesn’t have to make sense or be perfect. Just write it all out) as well as yoga. Be kind to yourself and read the Bible if you don’t already. This helps a lot. Have a great day 💗
@@hedgehogshill3522 that’s the best thing to do. Talk about it and write it down. If you physically see your problems and worries written down it’s a lot easier to process and figure out a way to deal with them. And sometimes even writing it down will help you realize the solution or just be at ease with whatever it is that’s bothering you. If it’s your job than find some sort of hobby outside of work to heal your soul, if that doesn’t work than find a job that suits your personality, values, or lifestyle better. Something that you can be proud of or find some more joy out of doing. I wish you the best in your pursuit of happiness my friend. 💙👍
@@faru789 don’t stay stagnant. Always keep pushing your comfort zone out further. Wether that’s finding new hobbies, ways to make money, spending more time bettering yourself or others around you, or just keep trying to progress in your classes and your fitness routine. Honestly as long as your moving forward and trying to progress you will be fine. It doesn’t matter what you are doing as long you keep pushing forward. A great thing that I do is write down my thoughts or goals or ideas and than slowly figure out ways to work on those ideas or goals.
This was me for almost two years when I was in school. The sense of relief I felt when I graduated and I could have a normal life again was unreal. To anyone struggling with this, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
School is like prison but you also know you will be released and free when you finish. Getting burnout as an adult is different because you have more responsibilites and its usually much harder to find a way out. I experienced both. If a job is getting you down quickly find something else and quit or it will consume you. Never stay in a dead end job you hate I never last more than 2 years anywhere.
This is me right now. I'm functioning at 50% as of late, and while I have a list of things to do, I don't want or have the motivation to do any of them. I used to care but now I just do enough so they don't realize how much I suck. My therapist says I need to take a break, but she clearly doesn't have my life.
This is literally me, idk I loved studying, I enjoyed dancing, I always did my tasks before time, but slowly I got slower, I didn't wanna study, just gaming and eating, like I don't dance anymore, just I became a complete different person overtime
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo RUclips channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
Same, before I had a lot of energy to do many things, but after some time I started to procrastinate and forget about my hobbies and interests, often sitting on my phone, but now I want to change this and I want to change for better
@@backups2542 thanks, ill try doing that. even after a year ago im still struggling i think im getting worse too.. hope you have a great life though, thanks again!!
@@sev honestly I have cried every week for the past five months but that's cos I was required to leave people and not go back I don't think it's a simple cure Ask yourself how did I get like this? Then be kind to yourself Give yourself moments to enjoy nothingness, enjoy doing time doing things for fun to stimulate happy endorphins I think it's not just me and you that feel sad I think everyone is because we are being forced and separated away from our natural human instincts but take each minute of the day as it comes and remember you are needed
Your posts just came into my feed and they are describing me so accurately. High functioning depression and burnout here. I’m apathetic towards work and to too many things in my personal life.
I cannot ever fit in with the people around me. When I am with my friends I constantly feel like I don't belong with them, I feel excluded and different which makes it difficult for me to have any friends which makes me extremely lonely. I don't know what I am doing wrong but at the end of the day, I have nobody with me. I keep getting paranoid over the simplest of things and overthink them. I seem to relate with every single one of your videos but I don't know what I am supposed to do after that. I don't know how to improve my situation or come out of my misery. People just never stay with me, no matter how hard I try and this makes me believe that probably I am doing something wrong or I am at fault but I don't know what I am doing so wrong.
This really is the issue with youtube health videos, they actually don't help at all. Be kind to yourself, turn off your computer (it really makes everything only worse) and get some sleep. Maybe read a good book. In the long run I would suggest you to get a good therapist to help you in the process. My best wishes to you! I feel the same and we ill get through this.
I used to feel the same way i meet one friend who never leave me . I felt like not worth but always tell me that he died for me and I felt relaxed and full presence of peaceful I can’t explain.John 14:27
Workloads have gotten out of hand in many fields, I have refused promotions because the increased pay did not cover the 24/7 responsibilities/time commitment. Instead I invest into short term rentals for extra income, I value balance and am so grateful I can come home and be mentally/emotionally present with my family.
What they don't tell you is how long it will take your brain to recover from it. I'm 2 yrs out from a particularly bad case of burnout that I was compelled by my life circumstances to ignore, and honestly I don't know if I will ever fully be my old self again when it comes to productivity.
I Was like this, I took D3 and drank more water. I quit coffee for 6 months now and started working out again. What helped was writing in journal, my thoughts and feelings, I hope the people that are in this will break free!
I was burned out by my csr job dealing with doctors some of which were self entitled, demanding & arrogant, so I quit. I’d rather work at MacDonalds at least once you serve the customer you may never deal with them again, but when they have a policy number you can’t escape them. Not worth it! 🙌🏼 🇨🇦
@@daytradingwithm9530 I just started Therapy. I had to wait for it for 2 years to even find it. So im far from telling how I got better, cause im still in pretty bad shape :“)
Change career ditch the booze and junk food do some exercise you'll feel much better. I never do the same job more than 2 years before getting fed up of it so I leave and do something else rather than start to burn out or self destruct.
I’m a single mother of a special needs child. I swear I’m burnt out every single week. Been nearly 6 years of it. My body is definitely rewired and runs on stress 😭
Dr. Julie, this is such an important topic! Burnout is often overlooked until it's too late, and your clear, concise breakdown of the signs is incredibly helpful. Recognizing symptoms early can make a huge difference in managing stress and maintaining mental health. Thank you for raising awareness and providing valuable insights in such an accessible format! 🙏
@@naraendrareddy273what do you mean without doing 'anything'. Burn out can come from many aspects in life not necessarily only work... There is definitely something in your life that is consuming your energy even if it is only emotionally... I understand shaming isn't nice especially from bosses however try to seek help so you can heal yourself and feel better about your life and be able to pinpoint what isn't working for you that is leading you to a burning point... Sending you healing and love.
@@whichiscynth You're totally right. To escape from work or anything I don't like I do all sorts of things. RUclips, games, and whatnot. Maybe those are the reasons.
@@whichiscynth Also my mind, my thoughts go wild. Constant worrying, contemplating, overcomplicating simple things. I feel like I have ADHD. Didn't get diagnosed though.
That was me for the last 9 years until I realised it was my job. I quit 4 weeks ago and went to a new place and I he difference is astounding, my anxiety is non existent
Story of my life. Absolutely hate coming to work or even clocking in remotely. I use to love my job my office closed and they sent me somewhere else. It’s been hell ever since but hopefully I’ll be escaping soon. I’ve never felt this way about a job in all my life
I have phases of this but I always know its the job causing it, I get fed up for awhile and then leave and do something else. Never done more than 2 years in any job.
Oh its worst when you try to suppress it for a long time! And thats what I'm doing right now! But the problem is i can't even let it go that easily, nor i can tell!
Experienced this so many times. I would breakdown because I could not make any progress in school activities, but also couldn't be productive because my mood's not in the right place. My tactic during these times is just rest and sleep, then pick the activity right back up when that feeling has vanished or lessened.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo RUclips channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
I think since COVID and the rise of social injustice and war, the radicalisation of everything, the large amount of news and content consumed per hour, plus the lack of socialisation since the isolation period, everyone's gone through it at least once or at least had depression or anxiety
As someone who has ADHD and has experienced burnout a few years ago, I can tell you they're nothing alike (as long as your ADHD is well-treated, that is).
Been there,done that. So glad that I don't work anymore. Just dealing with everyday things like house work is enough. I have ADHD it's tough to focus on stuff.
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I have been suffering from a burnout after my team member left, having to handle everything by myself. I had my one chance last week to correct it by demanding the right remuneration but I messed it up by asking too little. It has been killing me ever since. 😔 I don't know if my energy to work will ever come back. I am so disappointed with myself.
@@bhumikachandra7342 It's so fascinating how quickly my outbreaks stopped and I got cured permanently from HSV 1&2. All thanks to @Draloha1 ruclips.net/channel/UC_YFEEZEr1BxGkNg1d4vqww 💙
I wonder if your videos are intended to "classify" people as having some psychological problem in order to sell what you are selling....??
How is this so accurate?!
(Rhetorical Question... Don't answer commentor!)
@@sahibathind5373 too late... You gonna get a response... It is accurate because psychologically we are all the same... There is no difference between our psyches.
Can someone be burnt out with life?? This is how I feel constantly
That's how l feel 😮
yea like ive been feeling this way for years non stop... (im in university)
yep. i’ve been there for years.
I have life burnout after going thru so much and never having a moment to catch my breath here i am... simply existing
I think many people feel like this at this point. A lack of appreciation for ones efforts, repetitive work, and being disconnected from one's work(not getting to see the monetary and societal benefits that come from a persons work) , has caused many people to feel like this.
That dread and anxiety of the idea of the work waiting for you before youve even seen it is real
Yeah starting work tomorrow after leave 😢
i wake up every morning hating mornings for this reason
This has been my major problem for the last few months
@@dragonboyyy9572You will be fine , the fears horrible but you can do it !
Depression sucks. SSRIs are a scam in that dept. Fresh air, exercise, and healthy food. Maybe microdosing depending on what state you live in.
Other signs include loss of interest in hobbies, physical issues like headaches, stomach problems , and emotional distress.
Add to that sleep disorders, feeling like you’re falling behind and/or that you’re a failure, the need to be able to do/fix things on your own, not being able to do to “simple stuff” like replying to text messages, dreading tasks that are piling up, overthinking things, not being able to not think about anything for a second, let alone a minute. I could go on about this for hours, but I’ll stop ;-;
Indeed and not to forget. Get up even more tired then when you did go to bed. Even when you have 10 hours or more sleep.
Is it possible to be in a burnout for months or years?
@@arirosenberger1181 If you are in a real proper burnout, I can guarantee you, you will not recover in a matter of a few months. It might even take multiple years, so yes
@@arirosenberger1181 yes, I have almost for 2 years ..
I set boundaries. I take off work. I reset my brain so it doesn't affect my day to day. Go for a walk. Lay in the grass and stare at the sky. No music. No RUclips. No sound but outside. Your body grounding and sounds you hear will do you wonders
Thank you for the actual advice. Disappointing that this video pointed out a problem with no solution
Yeah, this definitely works, but too bad my boss won't give me my time off. There should be a law against refusing people their earned PTO!
Too bad not everyone has grass to stand on... pardon me if I don't want to risk stepping on some dog piss
I’m seriously about to start doing this.
You are correct. I do the same. Unplug and turn of every electrical device and go outside and ground. It is so helpful and resetting
Me who’s watching this to avoid something: we’ll I guess by watching this video I have become the video
Me too 😹
Hahah…. Err…. Yes.
U spoke my heart
Me too
Yesssss💀
Please do a long video about this. coping strategies, ways to alleviate it, and dealing with a stressful job would be helpful. Thank you!
Yes please.
Yes
Yes
I don’t think there’s an individualist solution that isn’t a band-aid, its something everyone has to work together on. We are all dissatisfied with out work and society, so let’s change it to one we are happy about, one where we have free time, enough to rest and play and do fun things and recharge. One where we don’t dread our co-workers or other people because they could replace use if we slip up.
Well....there's quitting. Not advisable for all but sometimes the only way not to lose your s*** .
For me it’s a struggle to even read a text message. I’ll avoid opening it, then avoid replying because I don’t feel I’m at my best to offer something as simple as a two word response. It’s absurd, but so difficult to challenge.
It's not absurd! I understand. It really can be hard when you feel like you don't even have enough to give yourself, especially if you also fear you may be judged or anything like that on top. It's ok.
If it's a friend, you can tell them that it's not that you're mad at them or anything, but you're feeling quite low and maybe depleted and may not always answer, or do so promptly.
In any case, please forgive yourself and remember that your struggle is valid and it can and will get better. One step at a time.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo RUclips channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
It’s nice to know I’m not the only one.
Same!
Same!
I'm still healing from burnout 7 years ago. Still getting better daily
Caught myself saying “I want to go home” before I had even left for work. All I can do is sleep and cry lately.
Youve got this. You are so much stronger than you think! ❤
You okay? I don't like leaving people feeling like this when I see them, I'm here if you want to talk.
@@Jelloanno they dont "got this" and they shouldnt. this person is actually seeking help, like most people. we shouldnt force this person (or anyone) to continue. this is like saying 'keep going' when someone mentions how the road is full of glass.
to first commenter, your job hurts you, doing it more or doing it harder wont solve it. there is nothing wrong with getting out of that (any) job
@@ege8240I think they were trying to be supportive, but you're right, there's nothing wrong with quitting and finding something better for yourself.
This is so me, bestie... ❤
Me 0.00001 second after waking up before I even get out of bed knowing that I need to go to work.
I got the looming sense of impending doom that makes me go: "fuck."
My burnout isn't even work... it's life as a whole. Been getting slammed over and over with huge issues and I don't even want to get out of bed. I try my best to put on my happy face and make sure I'm not worrying anyone but it's hard to keep moving sometimes. I'm not suicidal like I used to be... I just don't even care enough to want to do anything.
Keep strong, you can do this. We all love you ❤
Going through the same thing! Wish i had the words for both of us to help us want to keep going 😢
The two things that have helped me with this same sort of situation are to do *something*, no matter how small it is, and to seek a relationship with Jesus.
Just moving forward in some way, even if it seems like it doesn't matter, can get you out of a funk.
Living for a purpose greater than yourself and that isn't determined by your circumstances is freeing, as well. But, more importantly, Jesus loves you and has a plan for you to be successful, just maybe not in the way you envision for yourself. He wants a relationship with you and to give you hope in Him and eternal life with the Father.
You lack discipline. Pull your finger out
"I try my best to put on my happy face and make sure I'm not worrying anyone" I can identify with how you feel and I am truly sorry for what you are going through
I feel this so much right now. I don’t want to go anywhere. I don’t want to do anything. Anything I want to do I avoid because I want to give it the proper time and attention it deserves but am too out of focus to do so.
It’s like I’m overloaded. Too much negativity on the news. Too many people wanting my time. I just want to turn off my phone, and stay in bed for a few years.
Perfectly describes my state of being for the past 5 years. Having 3 young kids in the mix and a toxic husband makes it so much worse.
@@hadilayyad6147:(((
Wtf, how are you talking about your husband...
Same hon. Same.🫶🏽
@@PflanzenChirurgy not?
For me theses are only signs for severe stress but not for burnout yet. I had a burnout done years ago. When you have reached that level you are unable to do anything because you are totally exhausted. Not even eating. Your whole system needs to recover because there is zero energy. It’s a total break down. It took me 5 months ti be able to go back to work - 3 hours per day first and we slowly increased the working time week by week. Thank god in Germany this time / your earnings are covered by the health insurance by law and so I had no financial problems.
Germany sounds like Heaven on Earth
Its better to call it burnout before you getting a burnout.
@@tamiajacksonIt isnt....
@@tamiajackson Don't kid yourself.
I completely understand this. I'm a second year PhD student. I work from 8am to 8-9pm everyday. During weekends also. I don't have breaks unless I get very sick. Today I asked my advisor if I can have a break on Sundays. He got upset giving me a lecture about how important these years are and I should not waste any time. Not even a single day. He's paying me as a research assistant and he expects me to work 24/7. I'm very accomplished I published 13 papers in 2 years, attended multiple conferences and give lectures on other classes. My peers envy my achievements but I feel like I'm dying inside.
That's hell 😐
Don't let them push you around boundaries 😊❤
Me preguntaría " qué es ser exitoso?" es un cliché pero en la vida todo requiere balance.
Mi hijo de 11 años comenzó el liceo esta semana. Una noche tuvimos una charla reflexiva y me dijo: " cuando tú elegias trabajar me dejabas a mí atrás, aprendí a dormir mucho para que se hiciera más corto tu regreso" hasta ahora me duele😢
En ese momento debia trabajar muchas horas para mantenernos y tener un salario un poco más digno. Hoy lo haría diferente. No me lo dijo como reproche ni nada, solo estuvimos recordando sus años y el progreso hasta esta nueva etapa. Es un gran niño-adolescente, será un gran hombre❤
That’s no way to live the one life you have. I am so sorry.
Please choose to take a break before you're made to by your physical and mental health. It's quite clear you are more than capable of exceeding. You can and must take a break. Please❤❤
When you take a vacation because of burnout and then worry about the work waiting for your return from avoiding burnout 😮💨
Omg YES THIS
I felt that deep in my soul 😢😢😢
There is a button called, I dont care. Push It !
being human sucks…
Yep; that is always the thing I notice
I'm 4/4 in this video. I start the work week already looking for the weekend, and start the weekend dreading going back to work.
Same as me now
May the Lord be with you..
Jesus’ yoke is light
how very emo
You need to start looking for a different job bro.
That’s me!!!
Somebody said that the thought of going back to bed at night is the only thing that wakes them up in the morning. That’s me everyday.
Literally..
For me going to bed makes me have mental breakdowns because I know I have to get up in the morning
@@ohyeah904 same. I could be exhausted but still can't fall asleep because I overthink at night. I wish I could fall asleep like these people
@@ohyeah904same. I dread bedtime because I know it will just speed up the time to have to wake up and go to work in the morning. Every night.
And numb stress with a lot of social media, which unfortunately will make you more depressed…
I have all the signs of burnout but also no reason to be burnt out. But now I’m burnt out stressing about all the things I didn’t accomplish while being burnt out.
Ditto here 2
Same
go back to childhood...you'll see there were signs. And how it affected your adult ..everything. Nurse here, reading and crying through tear stained pages of "I'm dying to take care of you."
FOR LITTERALY NO REASON LIKE BEING STRESSED FOR NO REASON STRESSES ME OUT EVEN MORE TO THE POINT I CANT DO SHIT!
a 12 year old speaking btw!
Add to this, it's an internal fight to wake up everyday literally, Can't keep anything down in the morning. Anxiety answering the phone & opening the laptop. Can't sleep or over sleep to escape reality. Deleting social media so no one can reach me. Procrastination, bad hygiene. Doing nothing on the weekends, having no energy for hobbies or going out.
Do some workout, it'll help.
too real
This has been me for some months now. Especially the waking up part 😪
@The0Red0King
I was like this till i couldn't take it any more & quit. I stayed unemployed for a long time, took lot's of therapy & medication for some time to get over this. Please if you can seek therapy before it gets worse do that & look for new jobs before you can't take it anymore. I know it's not easy but it will pass. I hope you the best :)
Crazy literally me i got goosebumps reading this
I’m burnt out, depressed, stressed, anxious, being bullied at work and tbh there’s alot more I won’t say here. How I’m still alive at this point says a lot about my coping ability.
Please stay strong I believe you are more than you think…
I feel the same way
Find someone you can talk to for support. 🫶
It was me 6 months ago before quitting my job. I was so burned out and after quitting, i felt like a new person, excited, and positive ❤
Not stressed and depressed cos you had to go through unemployment?
@@JasKhalidthe elites don’t own us. This is why you save money in case something like that happens
@@JasKhalid not at all coz i have prepared everything..
I wish I could quit my 9-5 (technically 10-7 as I work overnight) and do what I want to do... when I am not working/sleeping/ spending time with kiddos I am baking bc it makes me feel good. I am VERY burned out with my current job. I need my job to pay the bills though
@@therefore-I-AM that's pretty much how it is
I’ve had the flu for the past week and it’s the most rest and peace I’ve had in years. I hate my job.
When I went into hospital to have a c section for my second baby it was like a holiday for 2 days 😅
that's how I've been for over a year and people say I've gotten lazy. i wish i had the mental strength i used to have and prove that I'm not lazy
glad I am not the only one feeling like this. shocked how many of us are stuck in this situation. This is not normal! What is happening to society?
I'd tell you but odds are you won't want to hear it. Most don't.
Corporate greed and the errosion of the middles class.
Literally me today. I had a breakdown with how overwhelmed I was. The thought of feeding myself was overwhelming
i'm sorry to hear that. but you'll get through this!! :D 🥰
@@tanan9480 thanks love ❤️
I'm sorry that you're going through this. Please know that you are not alone. Praying for you. 🙏🏻❤️
I understand what you’re saying. The thought of having to do my night routine, showering brushing my teeth and figuring out what to eat is sooo overwhelming. 😞 and then if you don’t do any of it, you face the consequences
Literally me. Whats been helping is me reducing caffeine intake and reducing work load (no overtime).
That happened to me as a homemaker. I worked as hard as I could for them, and they treated me like dog poop. By the time I was discarded, my brain was barely even functioning. I could barely bring myself to do anything in my household after that. It’s been two years, and I’m happy to say that I finally started cooking again. I have to tell y’all that it’s so much nicer to do things when you don’t have unappreciative jerks around acting like they’re owed.😀
therapy might help see how you’ve allowed ppl to think it’s okay to treat i that way
❤
Happy for you, Foxie! Glad you're in a better place.❤
I’ve been there before and now am no longer ger going to sit down for anybody to treat me like shit.
I’m mirroring the same character.
Love yourself first and others will treat you well.
Thanks everyone for your supportive comments. One of the things I failed to mention is that I wasn’t in a position to leave,
There's no end to this though. I have to work to keep a roof over my head and food in my stomach. I can't just stop working, but I am so tired of being tired, I never feel fully rested.
You will one day I promise just keep working and keep trying to find things to get your instead bur ugh yes I feel you but the world defiantly needs you!
You will get through this! Never give up, never lose heart! ❤
You might need to get a spouse to help you out or just retire.
@@MisssKayy This is embarrassing to comment. People should be able to be alone lol.
And retiring isn't happening, I'm 25, and they're talking about raising the retirement age to 70! 😊
my only advice to this chronic pattern is work as you until you save enough to plan a vacation for yourself 🫂
This was me thankfully I’m not living in fear anymore and I resign from my job and I’m in the process of pursuing my passion 😊❤!!!
What are you doing nowadays?
@@Happiness379 I am still working in the field I have been working in the past several years
If these are signs of burnout then 95% of the people have burnout
yup!
That's exactly what is going on, most of us are driving with the "check engine" light on and hoping we will make it to the next rest stop
Yep...I'm more aware of it, after going through it....never again. It cost me a lot of time, that I can't get back. But it is what it is. All we can do is go forward
can’t tell if you actually came to that conclusion or you thought you were somehow making a counter argument…. cuz yeah…. most people DO have burnout.. it’s intentional that everybody is overworked in society..
So true! The days I binge watch or scroll through a ton of social media is the day I’m avoiding a very difficult task.
It’s very simple to turn your lives over to Jesus Christ. Yes you’re still going to have hard times, but he makes it so much easier. That means having a change of heart and a complete change of the way you’re living repent and accept him in your life surrender to him.
..... no @@marshalllee2509
which makes things worse -- no one but me and a few others, are talking about the anti-social media being a DRUG people use to distract themselves and they do nothing for others. Doing for others is therapeutic. As well as gets you out with other people. This is the most isolating, disturbing time in which I've ever lived. It's part of a plandemic...
Food deprivation is also a sign where you choose sleep over food (going out to buy groceries, or cooking time,etc) to the point that you’re numb to hunger. I experienced this.
anxiety and depression cause brain changes...appetite suppression because the chemicals in the brain sense threat and the blood is going to survival mode. Anorexia is the same coin, opposite side as what she's doing with binging (and many then purge - so dangerous ).
i cook my brownies and cookies at 10 pm every night BOTH of them in 1 day and my mom said not to cook at night... i wish
You are absolutely right. I can relate.
Oops me and it’s scary but comfortable at the same time ❤😢
I can so relate!!! I live on coffee. And sometimes I swear to you I will stop and literally ask myself " When was the last time I ate? Two days? Three? " It's insane. But I will pick sleep over food any day. Always been this way. If it's an hour nap versus a lunch hour to eat, the nap will always win.
Thank you Dr. Julie
Theory: Burnout happens because people need intentional rest; time set aside to truly relax and not think about work, not just time not doing work. Without this, burnout sets in super quickly. Without boundaries to when work can interfere with your life, it overtakes you.
Agree. And if thoughts about work or tasks pop up, say no we’re not doing work today. It helps to say this out loud. Tell yourself “no” and allow yourself to rest.
I literally shut down since Christmas 🎄⛄ and slept whenever I wanted and ate whatever I wanted (within reason). Got real deep sleep.
My face is cleared, and I FEEL light although I still have things to work on exhaustion and dehydration snuck up on me.
The problem is for a lot of us to keep the roof over heads we can't shut out work, because we have responsibilities that can pop up at any time.
Its what we call vacation in Europe. I take minimum an entire month off in summer and weeklong vacations several time during a year. Only way to do this long term. But I also got 44 vacation days a year, Every country should legally mandate at least 30.
@karinavoggel5i 741
I agree, more time off from work is good.
This video almost made me cry for how accurate it was. I’ve been burned out for a few years but at some point I decided to embrace it instead of beating up myself for being lazy, anxious, and sad. My life was hard and I worked hard, so I decided I could enjoy a little bit of “free time”.
It’s not a solution and I still freak out sometimes but at least I went from a living corpse to a living lazy person 😅
Find a side business you can happily devote a couple hours a week to. Let the burn out motivate you to planting your own trees, even if it takes a decade you'll have your own income source eventually and you'll be able to retire early from your dead end job.
@@nonyabiz9340did you just tell a person with burnout to get a side hustle?
@@fresh_kerfer absolutely, a good side hustle will GIVE the person energy, fulfillment, and hope for the future.
Like how you may play video games for eight hours and just want another eight hours to keep playing. You can get the same energy and sense of accomplishment from learning a skill like wood working or carpentry, electronic repair, art in general, moulding and creating epoxy countertops etc etc etc.
I flip houses on the side and if I can get to a project house two - 8 hour days a week I get to learn new skills and go to sleep much happier than when I just grind away all week.
People experience burn out not because they're working long hours, but because they have lost any sense of accomplishment from their work. Video games provide a world to learn and conquer. Find worlds to conquer in the real world and you'll fill that hole in your soul. We're meant to accomplish great things, not toil day in and out doing the same dozen or so things.
@@fresh_kerfer not sure why my last reply got removed. Long story short, a good side hustle will renew the spirit. It provides growth and hope.
Or just lay in bed feeling bad for yourselves.
@@fresh_kerfer are you suggesting that staying a victim of your circumstances will make everything fix itself?
It’s painful.. I can’t even sleep, it’s 3:17am now
I just wanna run away from my life.
Heyy I know I can understand you but it's gonna be okay I really hope you'll better and hope you fall in love with being alive again ♡ all love and prayers 🤍
@_liza7 Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️ it really helps me feel stronger 🙏
@@a99g 🤍 just don't give up, keep going ♡ this is what ur future self needs the most. 🤍🤝🏼 all power to you !!!!
Take melatonin
Hey...I just wanted to say me too. You aren't alone in this, it's heavy but you can do it. Keep moving forward
This what I experienced a few years ago. I felt I was losing it at work. It was due to taking on many projects and not saying no. Fixing other people’s mistakes at work. Realizing the same people continued the same patterns while I continued to self destruct. Finally left the toxic environment.
I would really like to read how to overcome burnout, from you.
Yup me too
Exactly
take a break
Same here!
Same
I have to admit all of the above ! Burn out for over two years , just functioning not living. To afraid to relax in case I stop and give up ! I tell no one I do not want sympathy just understanding as to what's happening. I can see it now! that has to be going in the right direction . This information is so valued , thank you 😊
Please speak to someone and definitely go to your doctors. ❤
ive been the exact same. every morning i feel terrible, and now with the amount of stress recently its been very strong.
@mystifiedmargot1970 I have and he doubled my medication . I felt no interest from him at all . I am not a person that asks for help normally . I had three calls from the surgery during the pandemic all to ask me to get vaccinated . Nothing else matters anymore especially mental health .
Yep - I still don't miss social work.
The chronic stress was awful. 3 years later I took a massive pay cut in another field, but my job now is low stress, I have regular periods (was often late when in the previous job), am 11kg lighter and much happier overall.
Sounds like you made the right choice ❤
@@xkaruu5122 absolutely! To be honest I've found the pay cut hard and haven't ever fully adjusted to being so ongoingly conscious about spending/saving, but for me it has still been beyond worth it overall.
Happy to hear that!
What's your job now if you don't mind me asking? I'm glad you are doing better!💕
What is the low stress job you now have? I currently am on the look out for a low stress job because my personal life has high emotional stress: I live with my elder parents and their marriage is domestically turbulent on a daily. So I’m almost always emotionally and mentally burnt out. My current work has toxic coworkers which causes me severe anxiety to work with them. This job provides good health insurance however I personally don’t think it’s worth staying all because of health coverage. I rather seek happiness over health insurance.
If only I had seen this video 25 years ago, I would have been able to understand my emotions and avoid multiple suicide attempts and endless chains of self-sabotage. Thank you for THIS!
I don’t even call it burnout. To me it’s just the human brain fighting against such an unnatural existence. Work for money so you can pay bills that never stop. No way we’re supposed to be living like this.
Agreed. I think it's time for us to ask ourselves how we keep ourselves in this way of life, and how to actually move towards what we want life to be. We need to be questioning everyone who insists on the status quo as much as we can, because at this point it's just strange. Why are we forcing things that give us bad results?
Totally agree
We take meds to cope with a toxic dysfunctional society
Because inflation brought us here. My grandparents owned their homes cars and everything nice debt free, and didn't work like this.
EXACTLY THAT!
How not to....
Sometimes I think i need to take a rest from work for a year and focus on myself
I did that once & it was one of the best decisions I ever made.
with the burnout buildup, it may be something we all need
I sort of did this - took a leave from my teaching job to finish my PhD. Whole new sense of life and freedom but it was really hard to return to the world of work. Still struggling with it 5 years later. I miss the freedom of feeling like I had time for myself, even though I eas living on the bare minimum. It's just sad we have to give up almost all of our time for our jobs now.
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@christinegreen3974 I put my 2 weeks notice in last week and NO REGRETS! I am in school for massage therapy at age 50 and I love it ❤ find and follow your bliss 🎉
My soul desperately needs this 😢. I need to re-discover and re-build my self-esteem because work has broken me down from all the misery it provides.
This is so helpful to see. I don't know about anyone else, but I know when I feel like this I blame myself and think that I am flawed rather than seeing it as a symptom of being overwhelmed and burned out.
It worked for me when I spoke up about what (who) was bothering me at work. I feel relieved and free.
Totally agree with this. Every task gets so difficult to do. You can't focus and have this sense of being lost.
Me every single day. Unable to escape. Feeling trapped forever.
What’s even better is when you get fired during burnout which triggers depression.
Yeah. Well as my therapist says most burn out are just part of depression lol
As this happend to me I went to a clinic afterward but because I had to wait three months most of the strong symptoms were gone and I went back to my general "everything is great until i burn out" and my doctor didn't underand that (at first at least)
One positive thing about getting let go , if you can be optimistic, is to look at it like you’re been done a favor by being released from the problem of being overworked and possibly underpaid. Now you have the freedom to spread your wings and search for a new career that better suits your needs. Hopefully the money situation is okay. Temp agencies are everywhere and it’s a sure way to bring in money fast legally.
Number two is what keeps people in the state of burnout. Living a passive life, wasting away in front of a tv, a phone or a computer is a major stressor in itself.
so true.. lately i feel like im living a passive life! just waiting out the day to end through scrolling the phone and binge eating!
This thread makes me feel relief that I'm not the only one!
Vacations are literally so important. I was going through this every day of the year at old jobs where I never got any vacations.
Now, Im able to take a week off twice a year or so and I dont hate being alive as much.
We are not meant to work 5 days a week every week our whole lives! 2 free days a week with adult responsibilities or mental health issues is not enough time outside of work for a person to be happy and fulfilled!
I don't understand how you guys work with no vocations in America. Here in Poland we have 20-24 paid vocation days a year. 4 weeks a year basically. And it's 28 in Russia.
@@annastasia.1 in Russia it's 28 + you have about 20 extra days-off cause we have long holidays in January and May which are also paid by the government ... I can't imagine that people work with only 5-10 days-off per year
@@annastasia.1 yeah thats crazy
We get 5 weeks here in austria
I’m someone who can’t take off a week or more because I then don’t want to go back at all. I’d be good with Wednesdays off in addition to weekends. Or just random days when I just can’t stay awake or need a mental break. I’ve also always had jobs that are emotionally draining.
I have burnout. Not because I am overworked. But I have Chronic pain and health issues. Am burnt out from picking up the pieces after every health emergency.
Hard one to explain to people.
Me too. Fibro here.
I totally get what you mean! Same here...
From the American diet and pollution? they are killing Americans because of greed and profit.
Oh I get it! I am a nurse, and when I died in 2020, I got literally no healthcare and was kicked to the curb because I refused their murder attempt (vent) and suddenly had no access to the basic care I spent 24 years giving. I am "burnt out" from chronic abuse from childhood that 'followed me' into school, which felt normal, then work and then healthcare I had to fight for tests to prove I was having a stroke and I was still denied care. The all the appointment to hear "yeah, you have this and that and this and that" nothing we can do (after they caused it). The same family bullies who abused me as a child were laughing as this all happened as an adult. I discovered through trauma therapy I was never able to call trauma due to being used to getting shamed and blamed and I apologized to my abusers for 'making them want to abuse me'..this led me to be the best damn nurse there is, but hated by management, dated and befriended emotionally absent people, and then further self-defeating behaviors, scared to end relationships that gave me consistent breadcrumbs I learned to "appreciate" as my standards were low, but I was told I had high expectations. To not want more than breadcrumbs when I give 110% to people who give 1% and complain I don't give then 130% when I react to the pain they caused but it's my expectations? It's a LOT. And a lot of THIS, causes health issues. I so get a version of your story with out knowing the details. I more than get it. As a patient AND a nurse, now out of work - but I had to literally crash, burn and die to start really digging into the necessary and I would have if I only knew I had to and thought I was doing okay, but knew I wasn't..just didn't make the time to be still enough to work hard core on it between two nursing jobs, teaching Zumba, and doing work for the church, etc. I kept myself unintentionally busy serving others, which was both healing...AND a drug. Had no idea. The Lord healed many people through my wound-based helping of others. However, I had to die to learn how to do life in a healthier way where I respected myself as worthy of love from God over who I am,, not what I did and for whom. What a life lesson. Often times I regretted surviving what I medically should not have as I left with lethal scenarios in 2020, but here I am and if I made it this far, I know God took me through the high tides, to work on....me. I 'get it.' Let us say a prayer for each other and do the right things to heal and deal. Soaking in pity on anti-social media is NOT the way.
Fibro sufferer too. No one gets it because our illnesses are invisible.
I think acting is her hidden talent. She portrays those feelings so true that it makes us listen to her more with our absolute attention. Thank you doc!
um more like that is really HER. another of people that go into that work either really really messed up...or saw very bad crap with others. ie..dad blew his brains out so now is a therapists to help people...ie help dad and the mess after. key to a good therapist is they don't do victim and get past it. sad but a min of 50% in that field are worthless.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo RUclips channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
Yes. I have definitely been burnt out with anything I did. I am grateful I still got something important done.
Can you make a video about what we should do about this?
Yes I will look at making a video
@@DrJulie thank you
@@DrJulie thank you so much
@@DrJulie Thank you
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Did that recently. Was working myself into a frenzy. Doing school online while dealing with toxic people dragging me down daily. Had to eventually disappear from friends, and other people who had no business in my life. I had to choose my mental health over that of other's for once in my life.
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Always someone else’s fault
@@kelvinfannon8416 No not always someone else's fault. Judging another person's life without knowing is even worse.
Until a person has lived in someone else's shoes it's best not to judge.
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@@Anastasia11101 😂😂 ok love
John14:27
This is 100% me Right now..also Stucking in a Job that makes me cry just when thinking about work everytime, makes me emotional and physically exhausted and anxious. I guess the only way out is the Way out! Wish me luck 🍀
Go and find yourself another job. It was also hard to me but at the end who wants to hate their job where they have to spend most of their day there?
Wow,... this explains a lot about my attitude towards everything 😮
Try having chronic depression while dealing with burnout. It’s a loop of never ending dread…
This is exactly where I’m at right now. I slowly feel like I’m shutting down completely. My health is in the worst shape it’s ever been in. I feel like there’s something inside me that is slowly killing me; almost like a virus/disease eating away from the inside out. Idk what to do or where to turn because as I’m describing to my doctors as to how I’m feeling, none of them are giving me any answers or suggestions that can help me. I wish I lived in an area where mental health was treated as it should be, like a cancer that without treatment starts to shut everything down. Please pray for me. Thanks
@debrajones4010 It's been years since I've been at this stage, but I still feel what your describing deep in my bones. It's an awful place to be & I hope you find what you need to get past it too❤
الله المستعان
Nailed it
@@cassettetape7643 any advice on how to get myself back to feeling somewhat normal? It would mean the world to me!❤️
I hit this wall a couple months ago and can’t shake it!
I dread even waking up and it has affected things outside of work that i use to enjoy
I have ZERO energy or wanting for anything at the moment which depresses me even more
and i feel guilty because my burnout affects other people negatively
Maybe it's got something to do with the fact you are "gay"
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I’m in the same boat!
I struggle to get out of bed to do anything. I rarely leave the house because I have zero energy or motivation to make the effort to leave the house.
It’s getting really bad and I don’t know how to really resolve it.
Best of luck with everything. Hope and pray it gets better for you.
@@alexisrohm9350 🙏💛
same boat I dread the idea waking up the next day knowing what I have to deal with.
I experienced major burnout. Sometimes its a slow process that builds up and it’s hard to notice. I kinda started giving up on life. Just wanna say to everyone that you aren’t alone, and to keep on going. Sometimes a simple change is all it takes. Spend some time working out or just change your environment. Your average job is not worth your whole being and life. Even if you have to cut some people out of your life that may be causing you to feel this way. Do whatever it takes to pull through. I believe in you.
which would be your advice for someone who still goes to high school and already works out?
I have a talk with my boss today because I could not keep up the work, doe to my depression and I am feeling quiet stressed out because it is really hard to talk about it. But I want to thank you because for some reason your comment just gave me back some energy and motivation for today
@@faru789breathing exercises, journaling when you feel overwhelmed (your writing doesn’t have to make sense or be perfect. Just write it all out) as well as yoga. Be kind to yourself and read the Bible if you don’t already. This helps a lot. Have a great day 💗
@@hedgehogshill3522 that’s the best thing to do. Talk about it and write it down. If you physically see your problems and worries written down it’s a lot easier to process and figure out a way to deal with them. And sometimes even writing it down will help you realize the solution or just be at ease with whatever it is that’s bothering you. If it’s your job than find some sort of hobby outside of work to heal your soul, if that doesn’t work than find a job that suits your personality, values, or lifestyle better. Something that you can be proud of or find some more joy out of doing. I wish you the best in your pursuit of happiness my friend. 💙👍
@@faru789 don’t stay stagnant. Always keep pushing your comfort zone out further. Wether that’s finding new hobbies, ways to make money, spending more time bettering yourself or others around you, or just keep trying to progress in your classes and your fitness routine. Honestly as long as your moving forward and trying to progress you will be fine. It doesn’t matter what you are doing as long you keep pushing forward. A great thing that I do is write down my thoughts or goals or ideas and than slowly figure out ways to work on those ideas or goals.
I never enjoyed my work,I focus on the good things I'll do after my shifts, this helps most of the time.
The best advice I've received is if you think you can keep on going for a little bit longer you're already burnt out.
This was me for almost two years when I was in school. The sense of relief I felt when I graduated and I could have a normal life again was unreal. To anyone struggling with this, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
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School is like prison but you also know you will be released and free when you finish. Getting burnout as an adult is different because you have more responsibilites and its usually much harder to find a way out. I experienced both. If a job is getting you down quickly find something else and quit or it will consume you. Never stay in a dead end job you hate I never last more than 2 years anywhere.
This is me right now. I'm functioning at 50% as of late, and while I have a list of things to do, I don't want or have the motivation to do any of them. I used to care but now I just do enough so they don't realize how much I suck. My therapist says I need to take a break, but she clearly doesn't have my life.
Oh. This described me perfectly.
This is literally me, idk I loved studying, I enjoyed dancing, I always did my tasks before time, but slowly I got slower, I didn't wanna study, just gaming and eating, like I don't dance anymore, just I became a complete different person overtime
Me too 😅...
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo RUclips channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
I think u have a gaming addiction
I think you have a shaming addiction@@maryanne7161
Same, before I had a lot of energy to do many things, but after some time I started to procrastinate and forget about my hobbies and interests, often sitting on my phone, but now I want to change this and I want to change for better
I cry and study, wake up, realise I’m still alive and cry
Well the world needs you so after the tears do some actions..could be a little tidying or dance. some movement usually helps me after tears
@@backups2542 thanks, ill try doing that. even after a year ago im still struggling i think im getting worse too.. hope you have a great life though, thanks again!!
@@sev honestly I have cried every week for the past five months but that's cos I was required to leave people and not go back
I don't think it's a simple cure
Ask yourself how did I get like this?
Then be kind to yourself
Give yourself moments to enjoy nothingness, enjoy doing time doing things for fun to stimulate happy endorphins
I think it's not just me and you that feel sad I think everyone is because we are being forced and separated away from our natural human instincts but take each minute of the day as it comes and remember you are needed
Hugs ❤
Omg I'm so sorry: that sounds awful. 😢🥺 Just know that you're needed and that you would be missed if you weren't here. 🥰 Sending strength and hugs. ❤
Your posts just came into my feed and they are describing me so accurately. High functioning depression and burnout here. I’m apathetic towards work and to too many things in my personal life.
I feel you on so many levels!
I cannot ever fit in with the people around me. When I am with my friends I constantly feel like I don't belong with them, I feel excluded and different which makes it difficult for me to have any friends which makes me extremely lonely. I don't know what I am doing wrong but at the end of the day, I have nobody with me. I keep getting paranoid over the simplest of things and overthink them. I seem to relate with every single one of your videos but I don't know what I am supposed to do after that. I don't know how to improve my situation or come out of my misery. People just never stay with me, no matter how hard I try and this makes me believe that probably I am doing something wrong or I am at fault but I don't know what I am doing so wrong.
This really is the issue with youtube health videos, they actually don't help at all. Be kind to yourself, turn off your computer (it really makes everything only worse) and get some sleep. Maybe read a good book. In the long run I would suggest you to get a good therapist to help you in the process. My best wishes to you! I feel the same and we ill get through this.
I feel exactly the same😢
I used to feel the same way i meet one friend who never leave me . I felt like not worth but always tell me that he died for me and I felt relaxed and full presence of peaceful I can’t explain.John 14:27
Happy Camper supplement or just ginseng, and True Calm help with brain chemicals so you feel more grounded ❤
You have time on your side. Focus on yourself and drown out all the outside noise. Theres still lots of time left
Workloads have gotten out of hand in many fields, I have refused promotions because the increased pay did not cover the 24/7 responsibilities/time commitment. Instead I invest into short term rentals for extra income, I value balance and am so grateful I can come home and be mentally/emotionally present with my family.
What they don't tell you is how long it will take your brain to recover from it. I'm 2 yrs out from a particularly bad case of burnout that I was compelled by my life circumstances to ignore, and honestly I don't know if I will ever fully be my old self again when it comes to productivity.
literally went through the same thing. on my third year now still struggling to get back on track
I go out for a walk with no music just enjoying nature and listening to the birds. Take deep breaths and feel the wind blow. This truly helps.
I Was like this, I took D3 and drank more water. I quit coffee for 6 months now and started working out again. What helped was writing in journal, my thoughts and feelings, I hope the people that are in this will break free!
I feel like every video I watch of yours, you are talking about me. Thank you for making these.
I've spent my full night eating and scrolling as can't face anything else. Your video is literally me 😆😴
A lot of us are don’t worry ❤
I was burned out by my csr job dealing with doctors some of which were self entitled, demanding & arrogant, so I quit. I’d rather work at MacDonalds at least once you serve the customer you may never deal with them again, but when they have a policy number you can’t escape them. Not worth it! 🙌🏼 🇨🇦
That was me my whole life. My only regret is that no one including myself noticed how bad my mental health was from early childhood.
how did/ what are you doing to overcome that? struggling with the same due to early childhood
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I just started Therapy. I had to wait for it for 2 years to even find it. So im far from telling how I got better, cause im still in pretty bad shape :“)
I’m struggling with this at the moment. It is a massive hindrance on my life. It’s changed me for the worse.
Change career ditch the booze and junk food do some exercise you'll feel much better. I never do the same job more than 2 years before getting fed up of it so I leave and do something else rather than start to burn out or self destruct.
I’m a single mother of a special needs child. I swear I’m burnt out every single week. Been nearly 6 years of it. My body is definitely rewired and runs on stress 😭
I 'm so sorry 😢
Hugs!!!
Wow I can only imagine I just started working with autistic /delayed kids two months ago their in pre k and whewww it’s definitely more than alot
Dr. Julie, this is such an important topic! Burnout is often overlooked until it's too late, and your clear, concise breakdown of the signs is incredibly helpful. Recognizing symptoms early can make a huge difference in managing stress and maintaining mental health. Thank you for raising awareness and providing valuable insights in such an accessible format! 🙏
I think a lot of us know we’re burnt out but don’t have any idea how to fix it. Especially if it’s multifaceted and not just work.
I feel burnt out without doing anything. And Im being shamed by the bosses and made to feel guilty.
@@naraendrareddy273what do you mean without doing 'anything'. Burn out can come from many aspects in life not necessarily only work... There is definitely something in your life that is consuming your energy even if it is only emotionally... I understand shaming isn't nice especially from bosses however try to seek help so you can heal yourself and feel better about your life and be able to pinpoint what isn't working for you that is leading you to a burning point... Sending you healing and love.
@@whichiscynth You're totally right. To escape from work or anything I don't like I do all sorts of things. RUclips, games, and whatnot. Maybe those are the reasons.
@@whichiscynth Also my mind, my thoughts go wild. Constant worrying, contemplating, overcomplicating simple things. I feel like I have ADHD. Didn't get diagnosed though.
I quit my job last month and this is on point. I don't know why these corporations want to bleed us to death.
It’s ridiculous!
Because they are evil and heartless. The only thing they want is the power to do whatever they want, whenever they want, and damn anybody else.
I lost my job due to relentless bullying and work overload that led to burnout and depression. I am glad that I am out.
This is how I felt after graduating with my PhD. I relate to everything shared in this video. Thank you.
20+ years still burning strong
I’ve just had 2 weeks off bc of exhaustion, 5 work days in again, I feel like I need another 4 weeks at least :)
Happened to me in new years eve, got a month and a half of vacation from school and I feel like I needed another year lol
Yes, I strive to high GPA :(
You’re just a lazy
That was me for the last 9 years until I realised it was my job.
I quit 4 weeks ago and went to a new place and I he difference is astounding, my anxiety is non existent
I hope find a better place to, still struggling
Story of my life. Absolutely hate coming to work or even clocking in remotely. I use to love my job my office closed and they sent me somewhere else. It’s been hell ever since but hopefully I’ll be escaping soon. I’ve never felt this way about a job in all my life
I have phases of this but I always know its the job causing it, I get fed up for awhile and then leave and do something else. Never done more than 2 years in any job.
Overwhelming dread and anxiety is MEEEE! It’s like I’m going for an exam EVERY DAY 😔
Thank you for sharing this is definitely me right now.
Oh. Now that explains why I cried every single hours today. Hmm.
This is exactly what I am experiencing right now...
Can you please do a video about how one can overcome it?
Oh its worst when you try to suppress it for a long time! And thats what I'm doing right now! But the problem is i can't even let it go that easily, nor i can tell!
So true… and the cravings and bing eating :( Thank you Dr. Julie @DrJulie
Once I found myself throwing a folder to the ground, like on this video 😯 left that job shortly after.. Very true video! 👍🏻😃
Hey Dr Julie. Please make a video on how to overcome burnout. It would be a great help
Experienced this so many times. I would breakdown because I could not make any progress in school activities, but also couldn't be productive because my mood's not in the right place. My tactic during these times is just rest and sleep, then pick the activity right back up when that feeling has vanished or lessened.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo RUclips channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
I think since COVID and the rise of social injustice and war, the radicalisation of everything, the large amount of news and content consumed per hour, plus the lack of socialisation since the isolation period, everyone's gone through it at least once or at least had depression or anxiety
POV: you have ADHD and this is literally just default mode
I think I have adhd but I'm not sure. But yeah, this is my default mode unless it's the first day of school
True tho-
Word.
As someone who has ADHD and has experienced burnout a few years ago, I can tell you they're nothing alike (as long as your ADHD is well-treated, that is).
Adhd + burnout 😭
This is me after 4 years at home with my kids n endless house work....
Been there,done that. So glad that I don't work anymore. Just dealing with everyday things like house work is enough. I have ADHD it's tough to focus on stuff.