I always taught my kids to STAY seated during a meal from age 1. Most especially In a restaurant. No negotiating! It's meal time. If ya don't wanna sit for 15 or 20 minutes n eat. .that's it...ya don't get dessert..n ya don't EAT again for the evening! Both of my kids were very well behaved at the table by age 1! ⁹
It's great you taught them to respect mealtime, my concern is using dessert as a bribe 😩 this video has more context: ruclips.net/video/pH5Oyl561Vc/видео.html
The only solution I have found is to reserve the child’s media time for dinner and lunch. They can watch their shows as they sit and eat. If they stop eating I pause the video and remind them to have some more, also works well for vegetables. Usually 30-40 mins is enough time.
Bryce, have you considered that distracting them in this way doesn't help them learn to like the foods they're eating? It also distracts them from following their natural hunger and fullness cues.
@@FamilySnackNutritionist same here, I know it is not the right thing to do, but my baby will only eat with distractions, either TV or toys or books, otherwise she will sit on the chair for only 1-5 minute and cried to get down so I will end up chasing her to feed. If I don’t do this, she won’t eat much and she will be hungry at night and crying so I will have to give her milk like 3am I need to sleep too… any suggestions please?🙏
Hi! Thanks for the video, very helpful! I have a question, when my 2 year old is done and wants to wash up but we aren't done, do we wash her up and then continue to eat while she finds something else to do around the house? I find when we go back to finishing our meals she then wants to come sit on my lap while I'm still eating. She hardly ever finishes her plate, so when she climbs up on my lap she will sometimes want me to feed her bites from her unfinished plate. This is frustrating because I want to enjoy my dinner.
Sounds like you already know the answer - you want to eat your meal without a child on your lap. In terms of finishing the meal, are you concerned she's not eating enough due to pickiness? Have you watched this video about the Mealtime Roles? ruclips.net/video/WFdWQuPfnto/видео.html I help parents move to more positive mealtime dynamics to sort out behaviors like this in my online course. It's loaded with info, tips and strategies for parents to navigate mealtimes: bit.ly/MealtimesWithoutMeltdowns
could you recommend the toddler seat that's comfortable? We use Fisher-Price Healthy Care Booster Seat on a regular chair. our toddler's legs do rest on the regular chair, but his legs and his hip is not 90 degree, it's less than 90 degree. Thanks!
My issue is that our highchair is terrible, but we can't get a new one yet, and s booster chair didn't seem safe with the chairs we have (they're very unstable). She stands in her highchair to eat or is on her knees, although she'll stay at the table for quite a while
Do you have recommendations on chairs or chair/table set for little kids (small 2 yr old) and older kids (6 yr old)? They like to eat at the kids table but it's not appropriate position for both of them due to difference in their body sizes
It really depends. My personal recommendation is that children and their adult caregivers sit together at the table so they can model behaviours around eating. You'll like this video about family meals and how to best do them practically: ruclips.net/video/_pYiEWSYDWI/видео.html
At what age do most kids stop being strapped down in a booster seat or whatever? I can’t seem to get my 3yo to stay seated for more than a minute with out a buckle
Depends on a child! Some kiddos are great at staying in their chairs without the straps earlier. Ideally we have them strapped to keep them safe and not to MAKE them stay. Why do you think kiddo doesn't want to stay at the table?
Wonderful video! I think the table is a big issue for us. We have a counter height table do it doesn't fit the high chair or even my 5yo on the chair either. (Even with boosters). Do you have any recommendations for higher tables?
Hi I am Megan I am 10 years old and I love food I was a very fussy eater then now I have just wanted a lovely dinner and then a just lose my appetite can you please help if you can and my mum is getting worried and so am I
We have 3, a 5 year old that doesn’t like to stop playing to eat and twin 2.5 yr girls that have started to copy. We moved far, have lots of Chang in general with that and have been settling in our new home for 4 months now. We don’t have high chairs and getting the girls to sit to eat dinner had been unsuccessful. The boy can sit longer but once the girls are going bonkers he can’t keep focus. It has been a struggle with our boy since the start of the pandemic when he was just under 3, and girls were newborns. He was improving until the high chairs were removed and girls are expected to be on normal chairs. I was considering boosters for the girls but not sure they will put up with being strapped in anymore. Any tips would help. Dinner is the most stressful part of our day as a family, thank you
Hi! That's hard for sure and it sounds like you're doing an amazing job. Have you noticed any improvements or new changes? If you'd like more support I'll link my online course below, you can also reach out to me on Instagram or FB in a DM as coaching may be a better option so you can get the personalized advice you'd benefit from. Online course: theplumpantry.com/mealtimes-without-meltdowns/ facebook.com/family.snack.nutritionist instagram.com/family.snack.nutritionist/?hl=en
Yeah my almost 2 year old will sit and eat for a few minutes and then push her plate away and tell me she is all done, I double check with her and she insists and refuses another bite. I clean her up and set her down and she will either then eat the rest on the go or ask for a snack a short period of time later.
That's a boundary issue, as I recommend in this video, children should be sitting when eating. I highly recommend you watch this video about the Mealtime Roles: ruclips.net/video/WFdWQuPfnto/видео.html And also the link to my online course loaded with info, tips and strategies for parents to navigate mealtimes: ttps://bit.ly/MealtimesWithoutMeltdowns
Hi my son is 1y and 10 months and I struggle with him to eat at the childminder, at home everything is fine but there doesn't want nothing and he doesn't want to sitting on the chair. What I can do? How to manage this situation ? Thank you
Hi! I just transitioned my 21 month old to a toddler table and chair for meals/snacks. I came searching for help, as I’m having difficulty keeping him seated during meal times. So far, I’ve been sitting with him at the toddler table and chair to encourage him to stay seated. I’m thinking that this will temporary as he adjusts, but it’s been almost a week and he’s still wandering, or wants to sit on my lap. Should I keep doing this (sitting with him at the toddler table) or maybe get a booster seat so he can sit at the dining table with adults?
My son (6) will get up and wander and then say he isn’t finished if I try to clear up his plate. It is very difficult to keep him at the table. I’m interested to try a foot rest, but what would you recommend if they insist on getting up and wandering and returning to their food?
You said to let them down when they say they’re done and not make them stay longer, which I get. But what if they’ve been sitting for a very short amount of time and not eaten very much? Then asks for more food later? My son is 2.5yo and does this sometimes because he wants to go off and play or do whatever he was doing before dinner. If he hasn’t been at the table long I often tell him dinner isn’t over yet, we’re going to sit for a few more minutes. Is that an ok thing to do?
I can see how that's frustrating, making it clear that it's a mealtime and they need to finish what they're doing & come eat. This overlaps some with this schedules video: bit.ly/MealtimeSchedules
my child will turn 3years old next month but he still dont set to eat,he is very picky he wont eat at all by using s spone so i used my hands to feed him,what should i do so he eat with a spone ?
I understand the reason for not having the child wait until you’re done. However, we come from a large family (five kids), and when one finishes and goes off and plays, then some of the other ones do too, and I can tell they weren’t done. Then 20 min later, they’re hungry and getting a snack. 😏
@@FamilySnackNutritionist my 10 yo son also struggles with eating. We’ve done Occupational Therapy to help. The problem with not letting him get a snack after the meal is that he will get migraines. If he doesn’t like something, he won’t eat. And then he’ll get a migraine with vomiting for two days. The younger two add a lot of stress with their screaming and behavior. It’s made meantime unpleasant. So we’re starting to feed them separately from the older three because I really want a peaceful, good meal. I can tell my 10yo is sensitive to stimulation, and that doesn’t help his stress around meantime.
That sounds really tough for you, in addition to 5 kids - having to feed them separately. Do you have a medical answer to the migraines? Truly sounds like you'd benefit from some one on one support. I have a slot open for a new client in December, you can book a free discovery call here: bit.ly/WorkWithThalia
Hello am struggling with my 15 months baby with sitting on the table or high chair to eat! He sits for a minute or 2 and he wants to start roaming around the house! I've tried the things u said but still he just want to leave!
Yh im struggling with her just sitting witj food point blank. She’s constantly eating on the move usually behind me. No matter how i tell her to sit and eat she won’t.
That sounds stressful ad definitely not ideal. Usually behaviours like this have to do with mealtimes in general. There are soo many strategies you can put into practice to help them sit, eat, and enjoy meals. Have you watched the free video for my Mealtimes without Meltdowns course? The course helps parents navigate mealtime situations including ones like this: bit.ly/MealtimesWithoutMeltdowns
What is the appropriate amount of time for a12 month old to sit for meals? We have been struggling to get him to sit happily during meal times or even a couple minutes and often wants to sit on our laps which then turns into him playing on the floor. Thanks!
Sitting in a highchair of some sort right from 6 months. It's safe than lap sitting because you can see their face and ensure they're chewing and swallowing.
Hi! RUclips and my IG (instagram.com/family.snack.nutritionist/?hl=en) channel are filled with free info as I believe parents need access to high quality information. You can access my free phrase guide here: theplumpantry.com/free-phrases-guide/ I've also got a free masterclass for babies/starting solids coming up to launch my new baby course, you can join that here: www.subscribepage.com/startingsolidsmasterclass
I am at my witts end with my son. He is 33 months old (just over 2.5 years). I put the tv off and toys away before meal times. He will sit to eat for a few bites and then will want to wake up to play while he eats, which would be okay if he would remember that he's eating 🤦🏽♀️ he takes up to an hour and a half to finish his meals sometimes, even with me trying to feed him. He will have food in his mouth and stop chewing and just keep the food in his mouth for the longest time and I have to remind him to chew and swallow. He constantly talks with food in his mouth despite me constantly telling him not to because he may choke. He is not a fussy eater but he would rather do anything else than sit and eat. I am so frustrated and tired of repeating myself and shouting at every single meal time. I honestly want to run away and cry 🧘🏽♀️🧘🏽♀️🧘🏽♀️
Hi Kerusha, That sounds really stressful for you and your kiddo/family and its great you want to make positive changes. Starting now makes all the difference. The most affordable option to get you started is my Mealtimes Without Meltdowns course. It's helped 1000s of parents approach mealtimes from a positive, respectful place and improve picky eating. Let me know if you've got more questions or feel like coaching is a better option for you 💜 bit.ly/MealtimesWithoutMeltdowns Please feel free to contact me directly via FB or Insta
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I always taught my kids to STAY seated during a meal from age 1. Most especially In a restaurant. No negotiating! It's meal time. If ya don't wanna sit for 15 or 20 minutes n eat. .that's it...ya don't get dessert..n ya don't EAT again for the evening! Both of my kids were very well behaved at the table by age 1!
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It's great you taught them to respect mealtime, my concern is using dessert as a bribe 😩 this video has more context: ruclips.net/video/pH5Oyl561Vc/видео.html
My daughter has a disability and this makes it easier to transition her into good eating habits. Thank you for sharing !!
Glad to hear it's helpful
Valuable tips, thank you!
Very good tips. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
The only solution I have found is to reserve the child’s media time for dinner and lunch. They can watch their shows as they sit and eat. If they stop eating I pause the video and remind them to have some more, also works well for vegetables. Usually 30-40 mins is enough time.
Bryce, have you considered that distracting them in this way doesn't help them learn to like the foods they're eating? It also distracts them from following their natural hunger and fullness cues.
@@FamilySnackNutritionist same here, I know it is not the right thing to do, but my baby will only eat with distractions, either TV or toys or books, otherwise she will sit on the chair for only 1-5 minute and cried to get down so I will end up chasing her to feed. If I don’t do this, she won’t eat much and she will be hungry at night and crying so I will have to give her milk like 3am I need to sleep too… any suggestions please?🙏
Very helpful. Thank you
So glad!
This was a fabulous video!! Thank you! I cant wait for tomorrow to start implementing some changes!
Wonderful to hear!
Hello! Thank you for those tips! Should we stress on eating at the table even for snacks?
It's really up to you, being seated is a primary concern. Is your child walking around?
Hi! Thanks for the video, very helpful! I have a question, when my 2 year old is done and wants to wash up but we aren't done, do we wash her up and then continue to eat while she finds something else to do around the house? I find when we go back to finishing our meals she then wants to come sit on my lap while I'm still eating. She hardly ever finishes her plate, so when she climbs up on my lap she will sometimes want me to feed her bites from her unfinished plate. This is frustrating because I want to enjoy my dinner.
Sounds like you already know the answer - you want to eat your meal without a child on your lap. In terms of finishing the meal, are you concerned she's not eating enough due to pickiness?
Have you watched this video about the Mealtime Roles? ruclips.net/video/WFdWQuPfnto/видео.html
I help parents move to more positive mealtime dynamics to sort out behaviors like this in my online course. It's loaded with info, tips and strategies for parents to navigate mealtimes: bit.ly/MealtimesWithoutMeltdowns
could you recommend the toddler seat that's comfortable? We use Fisher-Price Healthy Care Booster Seat on a regular chair. our toddler's legs do rest on the regular chair, but his legs and his hip is not 90 degree, it's less than 90 degree. Thanks!
Ikea has some new chairs that meet this recommendation!
My issue is that our highchair is terrible, but we can't get a new one yet, and s booster chair didn't seem safe with the chairs we have (they're very unstable). She stands in her highchair to eat or is on her knees, although she'll stay at the table for quite a while
I've even stacked books on a regular chair and done my best with a foot rest
Do you have recommendations on chairs or chair/table set for little kids (small 2 yr old) and older kids (6 yr old)? They like to eat at the kids table but it's not appropriate position for both of them due to difference in their body sizes
It really depends. My personal recommendation is that children and their adult caregivers sit together at the table so they can model behaviours around eating. You'll like this video about family meals and how to best do them practically: ruclips.net/video/_pYiEWSYDWI/видео.html
hi. My baby is 11 moths old. He refuse to sit on the chair and eat. So my maid carry him and walk and fed him. I really want to change that
Hmm, why do you think that is? Is something unpleasant for him when he's in his highchair?
At what age do most kids stop being strapped down in a booster seat or whatever? I can’t seem to get my 3yo to stay seated for more than a minute with out a buckle
Depends on a child! Some kiddos are great at staying in their chairs without the straps earlier. Ideally we have them strapped to keep them safe and not to MAKE them stay. Why do you think kiddo doesn't want to stay at the table?
Wonderful video! I think the table is a big issue for us. We have a counter height table do it doesn't fit the high chair or even my 5yo on the chair either. (Even with boosters). Do you have any recommendations for higher tables?
Hi Michelle, I'm not aware of any. Is it a possibility to relocate to a standard height table?
Hi I am Megan I am 10 years old and I love food I was a very fussy eater then now I have just wanted a lovely dinner and then a just lose my appetite can you please help if you can and my mum is getting worried and so am I
Hi Megan, thanks for your note. Your mom can send me a message via instagram or email and we can chat about ways I can help support you both
@@FamilySnackNutritionist what is your Instagram ?
instagram.com/family.snack.nutritionist/
We have 3, a 5 year old that doesn’t like to stop playing to eat and twin 2.5 yr girls that have started to copy. We moved far, have lots of Chang in general with that and have been settling in our new home for 4 months now.
We don’t have high chairs and getting the girls to sit to eat dinner had been unsuccessful. The boy can sit longer but once the girls are going bonkers he can’t keep focus.
It has been a struggle with our boy since the start of the pandemic when he was just under 3, and girls were newborns. He was improving until the high chairs were removed and girls are expected to be on normal chairs.
I was considering boosters for the girls but not sure they will put up with being strapped in anymore.
Any tips would help. Dinner is the most stressful part of our day as a family, thank you
Hi! That's hard for sure and it sounds like you're doing an amazing job. Have you noticed any improvements or new changes? If you'd like more support I'll link my online course below, you can also reach out to me on Instagram or FB in a DM as coaching may be a better option so you can get the personalized advice you'd benefit from.
Online course: theplumpantry.com/mealtimes-without-meltdowns/
facebook.com/family.snack.nutritionist
instagram.com/family.snack.nutritionist/?hl=en
Yeah my almost 2 year old will sit and eat for a few minutes and then push her plate away and tell me she is all done, I double check with her and she insists and refuses another bite. I clean her up and set her down and she will either then eat the rest on the go or ask for a snack a short period of time later.
That's a boundary issue, as I recommend in this video, children should be sitting when eating.
I highly recommend you watch this video about the Mealtime Roles: ruclips.net/video/WFdWQuPfnto/видео.html
And also the link to my online course loaded with info, tips and strategies for parents to navigate mealtimes: ttps://bit.ly/MealtimesWithoutMeltdowns
Hi my son is 1y and 10 months and I struggle with him to eat at the childminder, at home everything is fine but there doesn't want nothing and he doesn't want to sitting on the chair. What I can do? How to manage this situation ? Thank you
Does he struggle to eat there or is it just he doesn't want to sit in the chair?
Hi! I just transitioned my 21 month old to a toddler table and chair for meals/snacks. I came searching for help, as I’m having difficulty keeping him seated during meal times. So far, I’ve been sitting with him at the toddler table and chair to encourage him to stay seated. I’m thinking that this will temporary as he adjusts, but it’s been almost a week and he’s still wandering, or wants to sit on my lap. Should I keep doing this (sitting with him at the toddler table) or maybe get a booster seat so he can sit at the dining table with adults?
Do YOU want to be sitting at the toddler table or would you prefer he sits with you at the table?
My son (6) will get up and wander and then say he isn’t finished if I try to clear up his plate. It is very difficult to keep him at the table. I’m interested to try a foot rest, but what would you recommend if they insist on getting up and wandering and returning to their food?
HI that sounds really hard! Staying super consistent with the boundary and expectation!
@@FamilySnackNutritionist I’ve said that I will assume he is finished his meal if he leaves the table. He is a determined fellow. . .
Thank you!!! ☺️
You're so welcome!
You said to let them down when they say they’re done and not make them stay longer, which I get. But what if they’ve been sitting for a very short amount of time and not eaten very much? Then asks for more food later? My son is 2.5yo and does this sometimes because he wants to go off and play or do whatever he was doing before dinner. If he hasn’t been at the table long I often tell him dinner isn’t over yet, we’re going to sit for a few more minutes. Is that an ok thing to do?
I can see how that's frustrating, making it clear that it's a mealtime and they need to finish what they're doing & come eat. This overlaps some with this schedules video: bit.ly/MealtimeSchedules
my child will turn 3years old next month but he still dont set to eat,he is very picky he wont eat at all by using s spone so i used my hands to feed him,what should i do so he eat with a spone ?
Does he turn his head away? What does he do when you don't feed him with your hands?
What if the children are in the cafeteria with timed lunch. The child must sit.
Do you find your kids eat more slowly than the time given? That really is a struggle I hear from parents (and it is for my own kids too)
I understand the reason for not having the child wait until you’re done. However, we come from a large family (five kids), and when one finishes and goes off and plays, then some of the other ones do too, and I can tell they weren’t done. Then 20 min later, they’re hungry and getting a snack. 😏
How are you handling it? The less battles we start at the table the better. With 5 kids (depending on age) the 'right' answer will vary
@@FamilySnackNutritionist my 10 yo son also struggles with eating. We’ve done Occupational Therapy to help. The problem with not letting him get a snack after the meal is that he will get migraines. If he doesn’t like something, he won’t eat. And then he’ll get a migraine with vomiting for two days. The younger two add a lot of stress with their screaming and behavior. It’s made meantime unpleasant. So we’re starting to feed them separately from the older three because I really want a peaceful, good meal. I can tell my 10yo is sensitive to stimulation, and that doesn’t help his stress around meantime.
That sounds really tough for you, in addition to 5 kids - having to feed them separately. Do you have a medical answer to the migraines? Truly sounds like you'd benefit from some one on one support. I have a slot open for a new client in December, you can book a free discovery call here: bit.ly/WorkWithThalia
Hello am struggling with my 15 months baby with sitting on the table or high chair to eat! He sits for a minute or 2 and he wants to start roaming around the house! I've tried the things u said but still he just want to leave!
Hi Joanne, without knowing more it's tough to connect the dots. Are you on IG? Feel free to send me a Dm. How is you 15mo eating in general?
@@FamilySnackNutritionist yeah sure I will add u now
My 5 and 3 years old don't listen at all . We don't go out much
Why do you think they don't listen? Is it difficult setting boundaries like this?
Yh im struggling with her just sitting witj food point blank. She’s constantly eating on the move usually behind me. No matter how i tell her to sit and eat she won’t.
She’s going to be three in april.
That sounds stressful ad definitely not ideal. Usually behaviours like this have to do with mealtimes in general. There are soo many strategies you can put into practice to help them sit, eat, and enjoy meals. Have you watched the free video for my Mealtimes without Meltdowns course? The course helps parents navigate mealtime situations including ones like this: bit.ly/MealtimesWithoutMeltdowns
What is the appropriate amount of time for a12 month old to sit for meals? We have been struggling to get him to sit happily during meal times or even a couple minutes and often wants to sit on our laps which then turns into him playing on the floor. Thanks!
Sitting in a highchair of some sort right from 6 months. It's safe than lap sitting because you can see their face and ensure they're chewing and swallowing.
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Why is ur guide so expensive like $99, can't afford it 🙁
Hi! RUclips and my IG (instagram.com/family.snack.nutritionist/?hl=en) channel are filled with free info as I believe parents need access to high quality information.
You can access my free phrase guide here: theplumpantry.com/free-phrases-guide/
I've also got a free masterclass for babies/starting solids coming up to launch my new baby course, you can join that here: www.subscribepage.com/startingsolidsmasterclass
Haha do you deal with a lot of parents who also happen to be sociopaths?
What makes you say that?
I am at my witts end with my son. He is 33 months old (just over 2.5 years). I put the tv off and toys away before meal times. He will sit to eat for a few bites and then will want to wake up to play while he eats, which would be okay if he would remember that he's eating 🤦🏽♀️ he takes up to an hour and a half to finish his meals sometimes, even with me trying to feed him. He will have food in his mouth and stop chewing and just keep the food in his mouth for the longest time and I have to remind him to chew and swallow. He constantly talks with food in his mouth despite me constantly telling him not to because he may choke. He is not a fussy eater but he would rather do anything else than sit and eat. I am so frustrated and tired of repeating myself and shouting at every single meal time. I honestly want to run away and cry 🧘🏽♀️🧘🏽♀️🧘🏽♀️
Hi Kerusha, That sounds really stressful for you and your kiddo/family and its great you want to make positive changes. Starting now makes all the difference. The most affordable option to get you started is my Mealtimes Without Meltdowns course. It's helped 1000s of parents approach mealtimes from a positive, respectful place and improve picky eating. Let me know if you've got more questions or feel like coaching is a better option for you 💜 bit.ly/MealtimesWithoutMeltdowns
Please feel free to contact me directly via FB or Insta
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