A very comforting idea about the small child STILL trying to help us the only way it knows how. I have never heard this before. Of course a child would offer immature immediate self soothing solutions. What other kind of help could a child offer? So much healthier than believing we are beset by devil's. Also gives us the option of thanking the child for the offered support but then moving to an adult place of coping.
You may be interested in reading a book titled 'Homecoming: Reclaiming and Healing Your Inner Child' by John Bradshaw. It's about this small child inside, that is wounded. And it's also about various defense mechanisms applied when being exposed to traumatic events in childhood.
“that child is trying to protect you still. thank him or her for what they are trying to do, even if it is making your life miserable. acknowledge that that little kid is doing the best they can. show them the love and understanding that should have been shown to you.” I’ve been in such a rut because for over a decade I’ve known I’m traumatized, I just can’t remember or understand why. i live with debilitating self doubt and triggers and panic attacks and i am only comfortable when I’m alone, which is all well and good and vaguely manageable when i’m single or living alone, but i recently moved in with a wonderful man and i’ve gone numb again. i keep beating myself up for not knowing why i’m like this and even being like this but i think perhaps saying thank you to my child self may help for the time being. your videos are so comforting and helpful. they’ve been more helpful than anything i’ve found while searching for answers for years upon years.
I am a recovering addict, I used for 20 years. I have now been clean almost 7 years. This makes sense to me about living in my addiction and the hopelessness I felt. Like nothing was ever going to change, but it did change. Sometimes even now it is hard to recognize that, I get triggered and have been made aware of them, but sometimes they creep up on me. My inner self is not a child, its a teenager. The me when I started using drugs and she is still trying to protect me.
It's like listening to my inner self 20 years from now. Everything is so spot on and clearly expressed, there are many times I exclaim while watching "Yes! He gets it! Someone actually understands - someone who lived it."
Yes this feeling of learned helplessness has plagued me my entire adult life. I feel like that elephant that could easily break free (my friends keep reminding me), but I've been conditioned to not even try. It's very sad and difficult to overcome
Your videos are well done and very helpful especially when I’ve lost perspective due to my traumatic experiences. I lived through eighteen years of violence, humiliation, parental drug and alcohol abuse, sexual humiliation and degradation, financial insecurity, guilt, shame and fear. I developed a lot of ineffective reflexes to try and compensate for the neglect and humiliation. I’m much older no but continue to experience CPTSD on a daily basis. It never goes away.
Very true ,thanks for making me aware of conditioning and how can we deal with it as an adult. I experience this with my mother I am conditioned as child that if I dispute with her she may try to harm herself., which now as an adult I know she will not but the fear is so intense that I don't want to cross her or hurt her.
Watched all you’re videos last night and they were extremely soothing to hear. Like it, was a meditation where I was learning all about what I love to learn. I love it I love it I LOVE IT!
@@healingfromcomplexptsd2767 Your videos had the same effect on me. I hope you are better and will create more. If you are not doing well, we will understand! You seem to be a wonderful human being
Thank you. “Lex Fridman is dangerous” 18 min inspirational video on RUclips ends w the poem “if” by R Kipling Which is best, Law abiding citizen, forest gump, green mile 51st dates Hancock click or Stepbrothers
I just discovered your channel. everything is very well explained and I recognize myself in all you say. Living with Cptsd is very hard. But I'm in therapy for this now. Thank you for these videos, it helps me. Love it !
I'm glad it was a little helpful to you, and that you are in therapy. I started making videos again. They are a bit different, but I am hoping they will be even more helpful to people.
I'm glad it was a little helpful to you. I started making videos again. They are a bit different, but I am hoping they will be even more helpful to people.
Thank you for your videos, they are certainly helping others that have to deal with cPTSD. And I hope that you are well. Much strength to you on your healing journey.
Thank you. Its a long journey, but right now I am in a positive place. I started making videos again. They are a bit different, but I am hoping they will be even more helpful to people.
Yes, please continue making videos! I heard you say in one that you were disappointed by the response being less than you had expected. It can take a long time for any channel to gain a foothold. Don't let that hold you back. Your content is high quality and very helpful. I suspect it may also be therapeutic for you. Even if you cover different topics, if you get something positive from producing them, don't stop. You are likely having a more significant and positive impact on people's lives than you may recognize. 🤗
Excellent message.. This is what happens when your life as a vulnerable child is controlled and hijacked by a self centered selfish, self serving , narcissist abuser.
I'm glad it was a little helpful to you. I started making videos again. They are a bit different, but I am hoping they will be even more helpful to people.
This is such a wonderful video. Would it be ok with you if I mirrored it on my channel and gave you full credit with link? I also understand if you don't want me too. Have a great day!
Eu am invatat neputinta in copilarie. Am incercat in repetate randuri sa fug de acasa si nu am reusit. Dupa asta am incercat sa ma sinucid. Intr un final la 15 ani am reusit sa plec . Este oribil sa te simti neputincios prins in capcana . La maturitate ma simt din nou neputimcioasa sa plec de langa un sot narcisic.
A very comforting idea about the small child STILL trying to help us the only way it knows how. I have never heard this before. Of course a child would offer immature immediate self soothing solutions. What other kind of help could a child offer? So much healthier than believing we are beset by devil's. Also gives us the option of thanking the child for the offered support but then moving to an adult place of coping.
You may be interested in reading a book titled 'Homecoming: Reclaiming and Healing Your Inner Child' by John Bradshaw. It's about this small child inside, that is wounded. And it's also about various defense mechanisms applied when being exposed to traumatic events in childhood.
Inner child work is very helpful. I am using IFS(Internal Family Systems) to help me.
“that child is trying to protect you still. thank him or her for what they are trying to do, even if it is making your life miserable. acknowledge that that little kid is doing the best they can. show them the love and understanding that should have been shown to you.” I’ve been in such a rut because for over a decade I’ve known I’m traumatized, I just can’t remember or understand why. i live with debilitating self doubt and triggers and panic attacks and i am only comfortable when I’m alone, which is all well and good and vaguely manageable when i’m single or living alone, but i recently moved in with a wonderful man and i’ve gone numb again. i keep beating myself up for not knowing why i’m like this and even being like this but i think perhaps saying thank you to my child self may help for the time being. your videos are so comforting and helpful. they’ve been more helpful than anything i’ve found while searching for answers for years upon years.
I am a recovering addict, I used for 20 years. I have now been clean almost 7 years. This makes sense to me about living in my addiction and the hopelessness I felt. Like nothing was ever going to change, but it did change. Sometimes even now it is hard to recognize that, I get triggered and have been made aware of them, but sometimes they creep up on me. My inner self is not a child, its a teenager. The me when I started using drugs and she is still trying to protect me.
Me too. I am just out of a 20 year battle with addiction
It's like listening to my inner self 20 years from now. Everything is so spot on and clearly expressed, there are many times I exclaim while watching "Yes! He gets it! Someone actually understands - someone who lived it."
I'm glad you found it useful.
Yes this feeling of learned helplessness has plagued me my entire adult life. I feel like that elephant that could easily break free (my friends keep reminding me), but I've been conditioned to not even try. It's very sad and difficult to overcome
Thank you. It really helps to know that there's someone out there who understands, and speaks to people like us with kindness and compassion.
Thank you, for this video. This is a reflection of my childhood experience. I’m just beginning to heal. It’s been a Long and winding road for sure.
Your videos are well done and very helpful especially when I’ve lost perspective due to my traumatic experiences. I lived through eighteen years of violence, humiliation, parental drug and alcohol abuse, sexual humiliation and degradation, financial insecurity, guilt, shame and fear. I developed a lot of ineffective reflexes to try and compensate for the neglect and humiliation. I’m much older no but continue to experience CPTSD on a daily basis. It never goes away.
I wish you healing and peace.
Very true ,thanks for making me aware of conditioning and how can we deal with it as an adult.
I experience this with my mother I am conditioned as child that if I dispute with her she may try to harm herself., which now as an adult I know she will not but the fear is so intense that I don't want to cross her or hurt her.
Watched all you’re videos last night and they were extremely soothing to hear. Like it, was a meditation where I was learning all about what I love to learn. I love it I love it I LOVE IT!
Thank you so much for the encouragement. Ive been a bit down lately. I needed to hear that.
@@healingfromcomplexptsd2767 Your videos had the same effect on me. I hope you are better and will create more. If you are not doing well, we will understand! You seem to be a wonderful human being
Thank you. “Lex Fridman is dangerous” 18 min inspirational video on RUclips ends w the poem “if” by R Kipling Which is best, Law abiding citizen, forest gump, green mile 51st dates Hancock click or Stepbrothers
Thank you very much for spreading explanations of cPTSD, and in such simple and layperson-friendly way. Hoping for more videos soon!
I just discovered your channel. everything is very well explained and I recognize myself in all you say. Living with Cptsd is very hard. But I'm in therapy for this now.
Thank you for these videos, it helps me. Love it !
I'm glad it was a little helpful to you, and that you are in therapy. I started making videos again. They are a bit different, but I am hoping they will be even more helpful to people.
thanks to this channel very very much ♥️
You really get it. Amazing channel
It all just makes so much sense now. Looking forward to all your other videos. Thank you.
I'm glad it was a little helpful to you. I started making videos again. They are a bit different, but I am hoping they will be even more helpful to people.
🙏🏼Thank you for your efforts!
I hope you are healing well 🙏🏼
Thank you for your videos, they are certainly helping others that have to deal with cPTSD. And I hope that you are well. Much strength to you on your healing journey.
Thank you. Its a long journey, but right now I am in a positive place. I started making videos again. They are a bit different, but I am hoping they will be even more helpful to people.
@@healingfromcomplexptsd2767 Do you have another channel where we can follow you?
Just discovered your channel. Love the videos!
Yes, please continue making videos! I heard you say in one that you were disappointed by the response being less than you had expected. It can take a long time for any channel to gain a foothold. Don't let that hold you back. Your content is high quality and very helpful. I suspect it may also be therapeutic for you. Even if you cover different topics, if you get something positive from producing them, don't stop. You are likely having a more significant and positive impact on people's lives than you may recognize. 🤗
Thank you!
Thank you. I started making videos again. They are a bit different, but I am hoping they will be even more helpful to people.
Excellent message.. This is what happens when your life as a vulnerable child is controlled and hijacked by a self centered selfish, self serving , narcissist abuser.
Yes, this somewhat resonated with me, the stories were very helpful. I really wish your voice was a little upbeat, it sounds so deary.
Is this why I dream of being trapped often
Thank you
Yes this is me 100%
I'm glad it was a little helpful to you. I started making videos again. They are a bit different, but I am hoping they will be even more helpful to people.
Yup.
This is such a wonderful video. Would it be ok with you if I mirrored it on my channel and gave you full credit with link? I also understand if you don't want me too. Have a great day!
Thankyou so much for this video so helpful for me 🙏
You're welcome.
You're welcome.
Very helpful. Thanks.
Wonderful vídeo!
Thank you!
Please make more videos
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Eu am invatat neputinta in copilarie. Am incercat in repetate randuri sa fug de acasa si nu am reusit. Dupa asta am incercat sa ma sinucid. Intr un final la 15 ani am reusit sa plec . Este oribil sa te simti neputincios prins in capcana . La maturitate ma simt din nou neputimcioasa sa plec de langa un sot narcisic.
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Thank you