The problem is Clown World is entirely predicated on the idea that there is some "bigger, better deal" just waiting around the corner. That goes for not only marriage and relationships. It's true of friendships, jobs, careers, houses, cars, consumer goods -- everything. There no longer exists the idea of "good enough" because something can never be good enough. There is perfection or nothing.
I may be biased but I'm starting to think the description of humanity as "never being satisfied and always wanting more" wasn't describing all of humanity but more like women and a subset of men. I know there is a sizable subset of men who are content to just chill. I know because me and my friends are like that.
I realized that most women don't see men as people, but as Ken dolls to place in their lives where they want (particularly for "their day") The minute that they realize that a man has a mind and will of his own, deal's off.
I don't have to have a woman make me food, Country boy can survive! - but if a woman today is trying to make you food, she is really trying, and it's impressive.
Older generations of women taught their daughters "the key to a man's heart is his stomach". Boomers and younger moms "you deserve a high earning prince in perfect shape but don't have to contribute anything".
More accurately, they think they settle. In actuality, theyre getting only what they deserve, but their ego wont let them be happy unless they feel like they're getting the better end of the deal. It's their curse.
@@scrocrates6380 very few people settle. We get the best we can, or the best we think we can keep. If a female marries an avg dude, she always thinks he's beneath her, even if she is undesirable to any other man
I had a girl break up with me and she LITERALLY said the words "I feel like we're in the same league, and I want something better." What makes it worse is that looking back, she wasn't in my same league, I was quite a bit above her.
That's too close to the philosophy of existentialism. They don't like the weight choices have on their life so they run from that exercise in introspection
So whiterabit, you're advocating telling women to settle? I'm against that just in case some blue bill guys get snagged. I guess the best that can be done is to push the red pill to men to do what they can to minimize or outright avoid her cheating. DNA tests. No girls trips. No working late. No hanging around ex boyfriends, etc, etc, all the things the red pill teaches.
Men settle too. Most of us are getting the woman we can get. We don't have unlimited options. Maybe the really good looking guys do but not the vast majority of us.
@@nashtrucker I’ve been married for 22 years. There wasn’t anything happening here so I went to the Philippines to find a wife. I’m an OG Passport bro. We used Air Mail. I had dial up, she had a pen. It’s gas some unique challenges and certainly isn’t for everyone. I know lots of guys married their first serious girlfriend. For Gen X guys, a lot of us have five or less lifetime partners. Listen to Cap talk about his experiences. It’s always been challenging.
@JohnSmith-wx9wj Exactly. Men are easy to please. Not fat & not crazy is enough to make the vast majority of men happy. For some reason men don't have difficulty realizing & accepting that we don't get to date/marry the head cheerleader. Women have a hard time accepting they couldn't lock down the super hot millionaire. 😂😂😂😂
I feel like I'm running into that at work. Women Giving me choosing signals. They are attractive but I know they are settling for me. When they were younger they had Chad so to speak. They don't understand me saying no.
@@Ezberron thank you for saying that. I try my best to have a no policy for all my female co workers. I'm a male teacher at a school full of female teachers. I'm not Chad, I'm a normal guy at the right place and time. Best way to never get divorced is to never get married, and don't dip pen in company ink.
I like the joke about the woman searching the world to find the perfect guy. One day she finds him only to discover to her horror he's looking for the perfect woman
I think we have to re-evaluate what we mean by "tens". I made the mistake multiple times in my 20s in valuing women solely by their physiques, instead of scrutinising their behaviours in addition. I don't believe that lanky, makeup-clad supermodels are "tens". I believe the tens are actually the gorgeous but modest small-town gals with no ambitions about going to the big cities to make lots of currency. Yes, they do exist - I know, my hometown had a population of 3000. If a gal is not going to make my life happier, it doesn't matter what she looks like - she may as well be a zero.
The clock starts ticking loudly. They let Beta Bob marry them. They get the kid(s) then realise that Beta Bob isn't ringing their bell. Then they divorce him, thinking that their SMV is the same as it was before Beta Bob and the kids.
but she also makes sure to run out the clock. she nags Bob to get a bigger house and a better job so when she finally pulls the pin, she can claim the highest alimony payment she can wring out of him. She takes the kids and "goes to live her best life!" expecting Fabio to inexplicably fall in love with a 42 year old divorcee with 3 kids.
the real problem comes when the "cute" girl meets the hunky guy that, because he's been with lots of girls, is really REALLY good in bed. He basically blows her mind sexually. So, not only does she feel like she's hit the jackpot in the looks category but now she's deeply DEEPLY bonded to him because her biology is like "oh. hell. that was amazing. HAVE HIS BABIES!" where his biology is "yeah, just another tinder hookup."
Their whole strategy depends on derpy guys that never got any attention just waiting around until they're 30. They love bomb and porn star the poor guy for a year or two and then do a full court press for the ring. It used to work all the time but guys now see what happens in divorce court. When you hear phrases like "starter husband" it shows the real face of the game. But to answer your concern, you don't let her pick you. you pick her. and the only way to be sure that she's the best pick for you is to have more than one to pick from.
Saying women almost always settle is an incomplete thought. If we were to say women almost always settle at their level - well now that's more of reality and complete thought. A woman might think she's a 10 but might be closer to a 6 with makeup isn't going to end up with a guy that's an objective 10. She can have sex with a 10 but he's not _wifing_ her up. She might get a guy who is a 6 or 7 range but that's if she isn't remaining defiant and becomes a spinster.
I'm 6ft. At time I was 280lbs, drove an old truck n made 30k a year. Ex said she couldn't settle. She left for a skinny lil dude who works oil rigs n lives off debt. Now I'm 240lbs n drive multiple old trucks wit almost no debt n make around 120k a year. Ex has gotten so fat her thighs hang over her knees. gf now likes to live simple n wouldn't care if I drove a rusted 70s Toyota. If this doesn't make sense blame youtube cuz they keep cutting it up.
Women never date or marry down, they're never settling. Just because you don't get everything your delusions demand, doesn't mean you're settling, it means you're getting what you deserve and no more. Men always marry down. They're settling.
@@PaulB-q3dbut they still got the best they could get. They feel like they settled because they over value themselves, and place themselves above men who are their betters or equals
Yes but the way the sexes settle are from opposite directions. women start expecting a 10 and slowly and resentfully lower their standards until they find a guy that they can control. Men don't expect a porn star so they start at 1 and see which ones give him the time of day. based on that, he decides if he wants to bother or not.
I had to research because I have yet to hear of this. I paused this video, my curiosity was that strong. Returned to this video, Mind blown… Cappy is spot on with sanity being future wealth.
so how is reproduction supposed to work ideally in this modern world? It seems like such a pain in the ass, and I've been just being single to avoid it. I'm 32 and I'm realizing I probably do want to have kids to keep my family and genetic legacy alive, my siblings are not having kids between 4 of us, I feel like I have to do it.
how can I reproduce with the least amount of struggle and strife, I don't like they way women get involved in nagging and over buying houses and cars, I have a simple life and I like it
In theory, you could have a surrogate. but I'm not even sure how legally safe that is. Divorce court is so shamelessly unforgivingly pro-wife that almost no legal documents are enough to protect the husband.
As Orion Taraban said in a video, "All women play blackjack." Except it's not 21, it's more like 31. I think the problem really started in the 80s, when girls' toys went from being mainly domestic-themed to princess-themed.
Beauty and the Beast did more damage to dating than anything in the world. At least little mermaid she had to do something to get her prince (make a deal with a dark power) but in Beauty, she just sort of shows up and ends up taming him by nagging him for who he is. Dude is a monstrously hunky dude with a fricking castle and servants. hot? check. powerful? check. Rich? check. elegant lifestyle? check. absolutely no effort required? check check check. People often forget that belle was the brainy one and that ALL of the other girls were chasing Gaston. you can't be belle AND one of Gaston's girls. tik tok and instagram just get you gastons, not beasts.
@Ezberron I liked Belle. She wasn't a vain princess, unlike most Disney heroines. She liked to read, & called out a rich guy for being a miserable a55hole.
The funny thing about Ryan Gosling is that on the WHATEVER podcast some lady there rated him a 6 out of 10 when he was playing Ken in the Barbie Movie. Top tier guy, 6 pack abs, loaded with cash, lots of high level connections (parties etc) and he's only a 6 ? LMAO
@@JohnSmith-wx9wj once you say "I do" you're really should have said "I'm done." because most marriages are traps. so yeah, they tolerate it because it's almost always "cheaper to keep her" double so once you've got a couple of kids. most doomed marriages the guy is trying to keep it together not because of the wife but the kids.
The constant pursuit of going after “more” and “better” will always be their detriment
The problem is Clown World is entirely predicated on the idea that there is some "bigger, better deal" just waiting around the corner. That goes for not only marriage and relationships. It's true of friendships, jobs, careers, houses, cars, consumer goods -- everything. There no longer exists the idea of "good enough" because something can never be good enough. There is perfection or nothing.
I may be biased but I'm starting to think the description of humanity as "never being satisfied and always wanting more" wasn't describing all of humanity but more like women and a subset of men. I know there is a sizable subset of men who are content to just chill. I know because me and my friends are like that.
@@Torgo1001 perfectly said
@@Dertro that’s possible. I do believe some innovation is required in some aspects of life and isnt needed in some
I realized that most women don't see men as people, but as Ken dolls to place in their lives where they want (particularly for "their day") The minute that they realize that a man has a mind and will of his own, deal's off.
"Why didn't you ever get married?"
No woman ever made me food.
I don't have to have a woman make me food, Country boy can survive! - but if a woman today is trying to make you food, she is really trying, and it's impressive.
It's not about the food, it's the intent and implications, if they make you food it means they care about you.
Older generations of women taught their daughters "the key to a man's heart is his stomach".
Boomers and younger moms "you deserve a high earning prince in perfect shape but don't have to contribute anything".
I never met a married man who was not guilty of settling .
More accurately, they think they settle. In actuality, theyre getting only what they deserve, but their ego wont let them be happy unless they feel like they're getting the better end of the deal. It's their curse.
@@scrocrates6380 very few people settle. We get the best we can, or the best we think we can keep. If a female marries an avg dude, she always thinks he's beneath her, even if she is undesirable to any other man
I think Men settle really. But we are sogaslit we do not know.
@@jackdeniston6150Men settle and make peace with it, women settle and hate it
I had a girl break up with me and she LITERALLY said the words "I feel like we're in the same league, and I want something better." What makes it worse is that looking back, she wasn't in my same league, I was quite a bit above her.
@@Meton2526is she still single?
Women need their own RP reality check, to tell them the guy they found by 25 is the best they are ever going to do.
That's too close to the philosophy of existentialism. They don't like the weight choices have on their life so they run from that exercise in introspection
So whiterabit, you're advocating telling women to settle? I'm against that just in case some blue bill guys get snagged. I guess the best that can be done is to push the red pill to men to do what they can to minimize or outright avoid her cheating. DNA tests. No girls trips. No working late. No hanging around ex boyfriends, etc, etc, all the things the red pill teaches.
Men settle too. Most of us are getting the woman we can get. We don't have unlimited options. Maybe the really good looking guys do but not the vast majority of us.
you get women?
@@nashtrucker I’ve been married for 22 years. There wasn’t anything happening here so I went to the Philippines to find a wife. I’m an OG Passport bro. We used Air Mail. I had dial up, she had a pen. It’s gas some unique challenges and certainly isn’t for everyone. I know lots of guys married their first serious girlfriend. For Gen X guys, a lot of us have five or less lifetime partners. Listen to Cap talk about his experiences. It’s always been challenging.
But you learn to be happy with that. Women can't seem to do that.
Or unlimited time for that matter
@JohnSmith-wx9wj Exactly. Men are easy to please. Not fat & not crazy is enough to make the vast majority of men happy. For some reason men don't have difficulty realizing & accepting that we don't get to date/marry the head cheerleader. Women have a hard time accepting they couldn't lock down the super hot millionaire. 😂😂😂😂
Let ‘em settle fellas just don’t be the one she settles for.
I feel like I'm running into that at work. Women Giving me choosing signals. They are attractive but I know they are settling for me. When they were younger they had Chad so to speak. They don't understand me saying no.
@@cd0130 never ever play with someone at work. that's a time bomb waiting to happen. but sounds like you already said no.
@@Ezberron thank you for saying that. I try my best to have a no policy for all my female co workers. I'm a male teacher at a school full of female teachers. I'm not Chad, I'm a normal guy at the right place and time.
Best way to never get divorced is to never get married, and don't dip pen in company ink.
"Gurlzz, if you want the top tier guy you're going to have to timeshare him" Epic!
As with most things in life. Most people do not get what they want.
George Carlin said it best "in life, there's a few winners and a whole lot of losers."
We’re all losers just some lose less than others
I like the joke about the woman searching the world to find the perfect guy. One day she finds him only to discover to her horror he's looking for the perfect woman
I think we have to re-evaluate what we mean by "tens". I made the mistake multiple times in my 20s in valuing women solely by their physiques, instead of scrutinising their behaviours in addition. I don't believe that lanky, makeup-clad supermodels are "tens". I believe the tens are actually the gorgeous but modest small-town gals with no ambitions about going to the big cities to make lots of currency. Yes, they do exist - I know, my hometown had a population of 3000. If a gal is not going to make my life happier, it doesn't matter what she looks like - she may as well be a zero.
Well said. There are a lot of physical “10s” that I’ve lost interest in the moment I’ve heard them speak.
Physically they start as a number. Personality adjustments can take her overall rating up or down.
The clock starts ticking loudly. They let Beta Bob marry them. They get the kid(s) then realise that Beta Bob isn't ringing their bell. Then they divorce him, thinking that their SMV is the same as it was before Beta Bob and the kids.
but she also makes sure to run out the clock. she nags Bob to get a bigger house and a better job so when she finally pulls the pin, she can claim the highest alimony payment she can wring out of him. She takes the kids and "goes to live her best life!" expecting Fabio to inexplicably fall in love with a 42 year old divorcee with 3 kids.
Guys are willing to sleep down, not marry down. This creates false expectations for women by the time they want to marry
Marry across or play smart and marry above your social/sexual market value
the real problem comes when the "cute" girl meets the hunky guy that, because he's been with lots of girls, is really REALLY good in bed. He basically blows her mind sexually. So, not only does she feel like she's hit the jackpot in the looks category but now she's deeply DEEPLY bonded to him because her biology is like "oh. hell. that was amazing. HAVE HIS BABIES!" where his biology is "yeah, just another tinder hookup."
I dread to the idea of living with a woman who ''settled'' with me.
Their whole strategy depends on derpy guys that never got any attention just waiting around until they're 30. They love bomb and porn star the poor guy for a year or two and then do a full court press for the ring. It used to work all the time but guys now see what happens in divorce court. When you hear phrases like "starter husband" it shows the real face of the game.
But to answer your concern, you don't let her pick you. you pick her. and the only way to be sure that she's the best pick for you is to have more than one to pick from.
"There are not ugly women, there are always paper bags." Benjamin Lee
Saying women almost always settle is an incomplete thought. If we were to say women almost always settle at their level - well now that's more of reality and complete thought. A woman might think she's a 10 but might be closer to a 6 with makeup isn't going to end up with a guy that's an objective 10. She can have sex with a 10 but he's not _wifing_ her up. She might get a guy who is a 6 or 7 range but that's if she isn't remaining defiant and becomes a spinster.
Kings, just don't settle on ran throughs and life will be good. Maybe not super fantastic, but far far from miserable.
When you realize how women think and what they’re looking for, it really is like when Neo first sees the smoking, smoldering city of reality.
I'm 6ft. At time I was 280lbs, drove an old truck n made 30k a year. Ex said she couldn't settle. She left for a skinny lil dude who works oil rigs n lives off debt. Now I'm 240lbs n drive multiple old trucks wit almost no debt n make around 120k a year. Ex has gotten so fat her thighs hang over her knees. gf now likes to live simple n wouldn't care if I drove a rusted 70s Toyota. If this doesn't make sense blame youtube cuz they keep cutting it up.
Title Correction: *Women almost always BELIEVE they settle*
They never had _all_ the apparent options to start with
Women never date or marry down, they're never settling. Just because you don't get everything your delusions demand, doesn't mean you're settling, it means you're getting what you deserve and no more.
Men always marry down. They're settling.
They never hear this enough. The man you are already in a relationship with was already the best you were going to get. It's all downhill from here.
Everyone has the best they can get.... T. Leykis
No, men actually love the person, women love the level the man is at.
@@PaulB-q3dbut they still got the best they could get. They feel like they settled because they over value themselves, and place themselves above men who are their betters or equals
@@PaulB-q3d
That may be true, but it doesn't refute the statement.
Men usually love the body more than the person inhabiting it.
Goin to a jazz club tonight, hoping for the best, expecting the worst 😂
Just don't let the 304's ruin the evening 🎶 music! Enjoy!
Men settle too.
And they deserve everything that comes to them for that.
Yes but the way the sexes settle are from opposite directions. women start expecting a 10 and slowly and resentfully lower their standards until they find a guy that they can control. Men don't expect a porn star so they start at 1 and see which ones give him the time of day. based on that, he decides if he wants to bother or not.
The pirate ghost couldn't cut it.... No man dead or living can satisfy a real woman!
I had to research because I have yet to hear of this. I paused this video, my curiosity was that strong.
Returned to this video, Mind blown…
Cappy is spot on with sanity being future wealth.
@garygrimes8506 No better way to Enjoy the Decline than with a wealth of sanity.
so how is reproduction supposed to work ideally in this modern world? It seems like such a pain in the ass, and I've been just being single to avoid it. I'm 32 and I'm realizing I probably do want to have kids to keep my family and genetic legacy alive, my siblings are not having kids between 4 of us, I feel like I have to do it.
how can I reproduce with the least amount of struggle and strife, I don't like they way women get involved in nagging and over buying houses and cars, I have a simple life and I like it
In theory, you could have a surrogate. but I'm not even sure how legally safe that is. Divorce court is so shamelessly unforgivingly pro-wife that almost no legal documents are enough to protect the husband.
Your comment about the wedding gifts was funny. First time I’ve laughed today.
As Orion Taraban said in a video, "All women play blackjack." Except it's not 21, it's more like 31. I think the problem really started in the 80s, when girls' toys went from being mainly domestic-themed to princess-themed.
Beauty and the Beast did more damage to dating than anything in the world. At least little mermaid she had to do something to get her prince (make a deal with a dark power) but in Beauty, she just sort of shows up and ends up taming him by nagging him for who he is. Dude is a monstrously hunky dude with a fricking castle and servants. hot? check. powerful? check. Rich? check. elegant lifestyle? check. absolutely no effort required? check check check.
People often forget that belle was the brainy one and that ALL of the other girls were chasing Gaston. you can't be belle AND one of Gaston's girls. tik tok and instagram just get you gastons, not beasts.
@Ezberron I liked Belle. She wasn't a vain princess, unlike most Disney heroines. She liked to read, & called out a rich guy for being a miserable a55hole.
Men too. We don’t want used women but that’s all there is
The Dog with the Bone.
The funny thing about Ryan Gosling is that on the WHATEVER podcast some lady there rated him a 6 out of 10 when he was playing Ken in the Barbie Movie. Top tier guy, 6 pack abs, loaded with cash, lots of high level connections (parties etc) and he's only a 6 ? LMAO
They may settle but r seldom satisfied.......which would explian the high divorce rate.
But you notice most men tend to learn to be happy with the woman they have, even if they really shouldn't.
@@JohnSmith-wx9wj There's a reason why gay men have lower divorce rates than straight marriage, and lesbian marriage has the highest divorce rate.
@@JohnSmith-wx9wj once you say "I do" you're really should have said "I'm done." because most marriages are traps. so yeah, they tolerate it because it's almost always "cheaper to keep her" double so once you've got a couple of kids. most doomed marriages the guy is trying to keep it together not because of the wife but the kids.
Isn't the correct title for this “All People Settle“