Conflicts in Relationships 1. Conflicts in relationships are inevitable in healthy relationships, it does not mean you are not in love. If you agree with everything one of us is unnecessary. 2. Do not ghost your partner. Communicate that you are hurt and talk later. 3. When you resolve conflicts together the relationship gets stronger and you attain a new understanding. 4. If your partner knowingly disrespects you continuously be ok with their absence instead of compromising your boundaries to accommodate their disrespect. Love is not pain and disrespect. 5. Do not be afraid of disagreeing. Know how to communicate your boundaries. Do not complain about the clowns in your life. Why keep going to the circus? 6. Establish agreements and step back. 7. Know your partner and control your temper. Apply wisdom and respect your partner. Timing and tone are very important. Separate the person from the problem. 8. Love is not given in relationships but shared. Do not be selfish. 9. You and your partner must be accountable, open to constructive criticism and to each other. 10. Use actions to resolve problems and stop making excuses. 11. Stop being easy to emotionally read in every situation.
It's important that people act when the wrong doing partner disrespect them . What works for me is, I tell him my boundary, then if/when he does it again, I walk away. Simple.
If we agree on everything, one of us is unnecessary. Conflicts are important, they give us depth in relationships, a new consensus. It is disrespectful to offend someone knowingly. You had better adjust your life to their absence than to their disrespect.
When you say that is a healthy relationship we often imply, a relationship with the following characteristics; 1. They know each other well and are able to resolve conflicts within themselves quietly. 2. They practice tolerance and appreciate that no marriage is perfect. 3. They know their strengths and weaknesses, and are able to compromise where sharp differences tend to occur. 4. Their personality trait matches well from the beginning 5. They know the value of love and its attributes. 6. They were brought up well. 7. They resolve conflicts in stages-Internally, parents or professional therapists before the world knows. 8. They run their marriage far from social media. 9. They practice a high degree of respect to each other and know each one's responsibilities by discharging them to the letter without abandon. 10. They never use sex to demand for goods or answers. Any marriage with the above can be termed as perfect or near perfect because there shall never be one with 100% perfection. A marriage without submission, respect, appreciation and compromises shall never stand. Shall either lead to a cold war, separation and divorce or co-parentimg.
All the above are null when Jesus isn't involved dear. Submission to God of both man and woman is the key for an healthy couple. You can't disrespect, can't cheat, can't do whatever harmful if you're faithful to God. 👋👋From 🇨🇩
all those people who listen to benjamin"'s show should show change in their lifes and work together to change our societylet be a good example and change start with us.
On the intimacy challenge by the wife, Benjamin did not advice the Lady how to spice their romance and ensuring intimate communication with the husband. And the woman with the anger issue should dissect the cause of her outbursts or anger..
Conflicts in marriage needs careful discussion. I have seen a couple divorce, they lost everything they had, including friends who were always there when they were a couple.
You repeat the same thing over and over again and hurt me knowingly that's disrespect!!..and disrespect and love don't coexist!!..noone should disrespect you, then say they love you ...pain and love doesn't coexist ...love is patient,love is kind,love has self control...I would rather adjust my life to your absence than have to adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect.dont ask when will these games stop??? Know that the games will stop when you stop playing...the things in your life continue because you allow them to continue... .awesome!!! Such wisdom is rare
Dont be soo afraid of conflict and disagreement that you allow your boundaries to be crossed..dont complain about the clowns in your life ask yourself why you keep going to the circus..dont ask when this games will stop they will stop when you stop playing..what continues in your life is what you allow Men attach to much of their identity to their sexuality that when you correct them they feel attacked be careful...God told you that the man who marries you will be your ruler...but He also told you to choose your ruler..choose wisely When you are treated with passive aggressiveness behave the same way..when he goes silence go silent too..stop pursing him..dont use words you action... Stop treating your partner like a God you have options no matter what. you dont stay in a marriage for kids....maybe God left you because you have another God by staying with a cheating husband your risking disease and other things.it can only get worse...children need you to be there for you not for you to stay in a painful relationship without peace
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WE WANT BENJAMIN AS A PRESIDENT CANDIDATE. HE IS A GEM OF KENYA.
Like ' I would rather adjust my life to your absence than adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect' Hurting me knowingly?
Mr Benjamin, I have really learnt a lot. I never new how to set boundaries now I know.
God bless you.
I am listening from Jamaica and I’m loving and appreciative of these advises. Just wishing it was all in English.
This gentleman Benjamin is Heavenly sent,much love for you Zulu
Conflicts in Relationships
1. Conflicts in relationships are inevitable in healthy relationships, it does not mean you are not in love. If you agree with everything one of us is unnecessary.
2. Do not ghost your partner. Communicate that you are hurt and talk later.
3. When you resolve conflicts together the relationship gets stronger and you attain a new understanding.
4. If your partner knowingly disrespects you continuously be ok with their absence instead of compromising your boundaries to accommodate their disrespect. Love is not pain and disrespect.
5. Do not be afraid of disagreeing. Know how to communicate your boundaries. Do not complain about the clowns in your life. Why keep going to the circus?
6. Establish agreements and step back.
7. Know your partner and control your temper. Apply wisdom and respect your partner. Timing and tone are very important. Separate the person from the problem.
8. Love is not given in relationships but shared. Do not be selfish.
9. You and your partner must be accountable, open to constructive criticism and to each other.
10. Use actions to resolve problems and stop making excuses.
11. Stop being easy to emotionally read in every situation.
It's important that people act when the wrong doing partner disrespect them . What works for me is, I tell him my boundary, then if/when he does it again, I walk away. Simple.
Benjamin, you are amazing and explain everything so well. THANKS!
Yes he does!
This is very good. I get lost when changing language... since I’m not from Kenya. But this is fruitful information.
When will the games stop - they will stop when you stop playing . Thanks Benjamin
If we agree on everything, one of us is unnecessary.
Conflicts are important, they give us depth in relationships, a new consensus.
It is disrespectful to offend someone knowingly. You had better adjust your life to their absence than to their disrespect.
hey, you look amazing Joyce.very nice ...waiting for the tablets of wisdom from Benjamin.Thank God for Zulu
Loooooooove u Joyce.
Am addicted to u Benjamin.
Thank u very much Ben.
Continue teaching, am noting.
Blessedlove
benjamin should be given a chance to lecture our young boys and girls in this country,
Mauline kanguha I agree with You this guy is the best
When you say that is a healthy relationship we often imply, a relationship with the following characteristics;
1. They know each other well and are able to resolve conflicts within themselves quietly.
2. They practice tolerance and appreciate that no marriage is perfect.
3. They know their strengths and weaknesses, and are able to compromise where sharp differences tend to occur.
4. Their personality trait matches well from the beginning
5. They know the value of love and its attributes.
6. They were brought up well.
7. They resolve conflicts in stages-Internally, parents or professional therapists before the world knows.
8. They run their marriage far from social media.
9. They practice a high degree of respect to each other and know each one's responsibilities by discharging them to the letter without abandon.
10. They never use sex to demand for goods or answers.
Any marriage with the above can be termed as perfect or near perfect because there shall never be one with 100% perfection.
A marriage without submission, respect, appreciation and compromises shall never stand. Shall either lead to a cold war, separation and divorce or co-parentimg.
All the above are null when Jesus isn't involved dear.
Submission to God of both man and woman is the key for an healthy couple.
You can't disrespect, can't cheat, can't do whatever harmful if you're faithful to God.
👋👋From 🇨🇩
Hi Joyce...pls add subtitles. Love the show Watching from 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦
Hi Masego... in future, turn on cc on your screen.
@@Joyprincess. turning on "cc" doesn't translate kenyan language 🤦🏾♂️
I love your show guys. .... Always on point..... Keep it up.
Waoh!!! In very sober mood.your outfits are on point.
when will these clowns in my life go away - when you stop going to the circus - Wisdom
Wow like you hair style thanks for show with Benjamin
all those people who listen to benjamin"'s show should show change in their lifes and work together to change our societylet be a good example and change start with us.
Smart smart indeed!
I have learnt alot from Benjamin thanks
Ati hii sio MANDAZI. LOL. I am DEAD.
Love the show always
On the intimacy challenge by the wife, Benjamin did not advice the Lady how to spice their romance and ensuring intimate communication with the husband. And the woman with the anger issue should dissect the cause of her outbursts or anger..
Conflicts in marriage needs careful discussion. I have seen a couple divorce, they lost everything they had, including friends who were always there when they were a couple.
You repeat the same thing over and over again and hurt me knowingly that's disrespect!!..and disrespect and love don't coexist!!..noone should disrespect you, then say they love you ...pain and love doesn't coexist ...love is patient,love is kind,love has self control...I would rather adjust my life to your absence than have to adjust my boundaries to accommodate your disrespect.dont ask when will these games stop??? Know that the games will stop when you stop playing...the things in your life continue because you allow them to continue... .awesome!!! Such wisdom is rare
Dont be soo afraid of conflict and disagreement that you allow your boundaries to be crossed..dont complain about the clowns in your life ask yourself why you keep going to the circus..dont ask when this games will stop they will stop when you stop playing..what continues in your life is what you allow
Men attach to much of their identity to their sexuality that when you correct them they feel attacked be careful...God told you that the man who marries you will be your ruler...but He also told you to choose your ruler..choose wisely
When you are treated with passive aggressiveness behave the same way..when he goes silence go silent too..stop pursing him..dont use words you action...
Stop treating your partner like a God you have options no matter what. you dont stay in a marriage for kids....maybe God left you because you have another God by staying with a cheating husband your risking disease and other things.it can only get worse...children need you to be there for you not for you to stay in a painful relationship without peace
AMEN!
Thanx but some phrases are said in kiswahili.here in ug. We are. Underdogs.plz.
Alot of wisdom here with zulu
Mnunulie chai huyu Benja
I was on tat rlnxhp, the guy used to do wrong to me, i used to forgive him, but now i said let it b, i better b n move on
SMSs written in Kenyan language please translate into English 😭🤦🏾♂️ I'm from 🇿🇦
Am dating an ugandan guy and he did exactly that
So sorry. I knew a Ugandan guy who was like that.