Creates a stockholm syndrome also. I was subconsiosly simping for my mom, instead of other women up until I was like 23. Vicious cycle, the tragic thing is that in the real world, its not only women who ruthlessly take advantage of you, but the men push you around also. A vicious cyle of creating the very men they complain about.
And that's just the beginning. It will get to a level where sexually liberated BW will open their legs and order their sons to get it. Since they're indoctrinated to not deal with mature men, their minds will certainly turn to that before beastiality.
@@logic9869 That's a bullshit narrative. One of the reason why so many Black men want nothing to do with Black women is because of the trauma, abuse they endured at the hands of their Black mother. Go into the local stores in Black neighborhoods, all you will see if Black women in bonnets cursing out their young sons and calling them "Bruh".
Yep. But that desire for masculine energy must be recieved by nature's order. If they can't get it from a man they will look for it from their sons. I was so happy when my mom got remarried, but now I feel bad for HIM...
Amen, my mom’s been that way and still is to this day. I’m so glad I parted ways, her saying she loves me was nothing but lies. Her manipulating, abusive behavior and trying to stalk my social media, destroy my friendships, basically everything was why I didn’t want nothing to do with her. To make it worse, my brothers and her ex boyfriend claim that she’s trying to keep me from being a part of society in general (no job, no money, not to have a career, no potential). She’s never been happy with herself and then trying to keep me from doing anything that I want in life, heck no, I had to get out of there- going no contact was the best thing for me. The behavior of trying to explain to her isn’t worth it.
Man i dated a girl she would make her son open her car door for her every day and compliment her when he got home from school it was weird man! And she would always say “if nobody else love me that boy love me.” And TWERKS in front of him. All type of stuff. Young girl too like 26.
Almost as if when she lose her virginity, and realizes that she can use her genitals to get things. That mindset persists, until its too late to adopt a modest approach.
Their education normally stops after they have a child at an early age. Diapers babysitters daycare they become immature mothers they're not thinking about science mathematics or any other sciences.
Speaking from experience. My mother was a big ball of chaos and stress. my father only stayed because divorce is expensive. Didnt stop her from telling me how he wasnt shit and secretly closing the door and venting to me about how horrible my father was.(retired officer in the military and software engineer who paid most of her bills)... after college she would cuss me out for thinking about leaving her alone with her husband. get on her knees and would cry and beg me never to leave. She was a misreble woman who seemed defeated and destroyed. As if she was shattered into a million pieces. But, the world sees her as a well accomplished therapist with multiple degrees. Very selfish. Basically, the embodiment of a demon posses person who is trying to act like a normal citizen. Just a misreble defeated, selfish person. I was always a little afraid to leave her because she breaks down and gets very pitiful. Like a 9 year old in the grocery store throwing a tantrum because she cant get a piece of candy. Selfish. unsupportive. screams and yells when she is unhappy. chases you around the house. but wont let you leave her. I ended up moving out and changing my number. The woman is a certified nutcase..... But, Im learning that most women are
Good for you. You have to set boundaries even when it's family. When you said that your mother was, "The embodiment of a demon possessed person who is trying to act like a normal citizen." I could relate to that statement. My mother is a HYENA that dragged her children through and all around the lost value system - controlling, manipulative, abusive and narcissistic. But to the outside world only displayed herself to be a charming person. Once I realized I was trauma bonding with her and that she would never take any accountability for all her BS... I HAD TO LET HER GO and haven't spoken to her in 2 years.
She was therapist?? SHIT!! Alot of these Modern Women are nutty AF!! Just ask Johnny Depp!! My mother would tell me intimate things about my step father like he couldnt satisfy her in bed!! I was like moma STFU!! I was thinking it anyway!!
I went through the same thing and am still dealing with it as a 56 yr old man and my mother passed away!! I was supposed to go to the Million Man March but, my mother ( in her words) Was not feeling well and I had to stay home with her. I missed out on countless job and education opportunities!! Now i'm trying to catch up but somethings are gone forever!!
@@saintgermain6031 We're the few who've managed to escape Dawg. Growing up, I always wondered why men are stuck in the hood. I used to think they're bums but now I realise they've been purposely sabotaged to be completely dependent
I was out at dinner and saw a teenage boy with his mom walking in to be seated. His eyes met mine and I could tell this kid was like “maaaaaan, she need a man.”
It will get worse to a level that so-called sexually liberated BW will open their legs and order their sons in. Since they're indoctrinated to not deal with mature men and dykism is unsustainable, they'll centainly try that before graduating into full beastiality. The ancients were wiser and saw how the future would be if humans were "free" at the expense of the natural balance. Western Civilization/Modernization is a disaster. Go back to your ancient cultures and put your females back in order while you still can.
I saw a woman today at CVS pharmacy and she was rubbing her son the way a woman rubs her husband or boyfriend. I kept looking and she looked at me. It was a mind your business look. I felt sorry for the boy (11 years old) and then I came across this site. Do these woman believe this is appropriate
I once saw a mother running her fingers through her sons hair in a convenience store and the boy couldn't have been any more than ten years old and he was clearly uncomfortable.
I’ve seen this sick shit and it’s disturbing, I’ve seen women walk around almost naked in front of their sons to provoke some reaction, I’ve seen them cater and baby them so they won’t leave , sick shit and of course you can’t tell them there wrong
Yes. I've seen a woman walk around with a robe untied and her titties falling out around her kids. I was so shocked...but she's big mama so you can't tell them anything
SELFISHNESS IS SPIRITUAL GANGRENE. CHARACTER IS THE PERSONALITY OF THE INNER/SPIRIT MAN. CHARACTER IS THE CAGE THAT PROTECTS THE CROWN OF THE SOUL & THE DRESS CODE OF DISCERNMENT.
This is a HUGE problem in the community! As a former teacher at the Elementary level in the inner city I saw this many times and saw how it crippled those boys. These women have the unmedicated gall to criticize the boys and blame them for how they turn out. SMDH!!
A while ago I noticed that sistas automatically dont trust men from a single mom home. I got the impression that they knew that the boys arent raised correctly. U just basically confirmed my thoughts.
But at the same time those women will say ''if he treats his mama right, he'll treat me right'' Mind you all that is a code for saying ''if she can manipulate him ..so can i''
@@mentlinc I'm really talking about women 40yrs old and up. They dont take men seriously. I have 4 daughters, 2 nieces, a sister, a mom and 3 ex wives that all belong to the gynocrrats.. lol. That's what I noticed. They all treat modern men like ish and they are raising their boys to submit to and to rely on women. Bc a dad wasnt there to tell them : boy! Dont believe that ish.. I was lucky.. my mom and dad stayed together until he passed in 98. And I still managed to screw up my life before it even got started. Lol. I'm good now tho.. u can survive it. Just keep calm and do the right thing and u'll be alright.
So freaking true! You wouldnt believe the opportunities I had to give up or put off due to my mother's "feelings". Strangely enough my older sisters didn't have to go through this 🤔😒🤦🏾♂️
@@charbrim100 oh please 🙄🙄 the only reason why they're so "strong" is because they like most black women have a MUCH stronger support system from the jump. Also in the black community everybody tends to take the daughters side if they have problems with their mothers, encourages them to run free and think for themselves and tell sons to suck it up and "look after her" which is a HUGE disadvantage for us as black men 😑🤦🏾♂️
@@arthurm.358 stop lying. You men are just too weak to stand up to your mothers. Y’all think all women are problems except the ones y’all came from. Put them on a pedestal for some strange reason while low key resenting them because 8/10 she couldn’t keep your father around. Black mothers are way tougher on their daughters then their son. This is why most men raised by single mothers are weak, insecure and emotional
I have lived everything you talked about in this video. My mother (rest her soul) treated me like a son-husband for most of my life, especially as I got older. I remember a situation where me and my mother were out together, and another woman stated " You have a good-looking husband!" And my mother responded by saying "No, He is not my husband, He is my son." It was very embarrassing. Furthermore, I couldn't even have girlfriends because she would get insanely jealous and order me to not see her anymore. She felt she had to compete with the girlfriend for my affection.
We live in a world 🌍 where we are influenced by demonic perverted spirits, and combine that with what the bible says about the natural wickness of the human flesh and heart
I made a decision to fracture the maladaptive link that my mother formed as soon as I was capable of walking away and supporting myself. I stayed on campus during holidays weekends etc in undergrad because of it. The emotional stress that this places on Blk boys is heavy and psychologically damaging if not checked. Thank you Kendra for another well needed discussion.
I had to move away to detox that mess out of my system. it was so weird to me my mom was so evil to my now wife and subliminally evil to me...but has a whole husband. my brother unfortunately is deep in that spell so much that i haven't seen him in almost ten years. Thank you so much for this because folk just do not know how deep this gets and how damaging the fallout is once you decide to get from under that spell....and yes it is a spell and you can't convince me otherwise.
Black Women👠 : "I know if he treats his mama right, he'll treat me right" 🦨...only means : if his mother can manipulate his emotional -intelligence I can too.
It's sad when women come across men that are trapped in this and they're older in 40's and 50's and they don't even realize that they are trapped in that
This mind set these single black mothers who view there sons as their "son/husband" I find to be very DISTURBING. This could run along the line of an INCESTUOUS relationship. She EXPECTS the son to take care of her NEEDS....in some cases ALL OF HER NEEDS..... This is a bunch of BULLSHEE-IT!! Maybe this explains why a lot of young black athletes who are blessed with the skills and talent to make it into the professional league of either Basketball, Baseball or Football, shortly after signing their first "BIG MONEY" contract. They immediately buy momma a big house that she CAN'T AFFORD to live in nor maintain, and before he himself realizes it, HE can no longer AFFORD it either because his playing days were cut short due to injuries etc..
I was a son husband also. I Love your channel. One of the few women run channels I subscribe to as a man. I'm one of the few who escaped the clutches of an overbearing mother (Not without the help of male guidance though like Kevin Samuels, StephIsCold etc). She kept me close in my formative years, never allowed me to do anything difficult eg. Made me quit my first job I had and made me wear crappy, baggy clothes. Obviously my dad was never in the house, but at least I know him. She has never ever allowed me to be given masculine advice in my formative years as a result, I grew up so confused in my tertiary years not having any social skills and relationship experience. At 25, I struggle to form good relationships with women and I can't feel sorry for young men who don't escape and still stuck in this sickening complex. I feel guilt now that I've left her and she's now living alone back home, can't help that I am gonna have to take care of her very soon at the expense of my own life and peace of mind.
Love the passion from Kendra, especially from a black woman that is holding other black women accountable! Cause some of these women can't hear the same message from a BM!
It absolutely torture I grew up a husband son, I developed an unhealthy attachment style that took a long time for me to rectify that disorder. Spot on crimson 💯
And when they get tired of the children and everyday stresses of life, they drop the kids off with family and run out on a girls trip to Miami or some other place
This is so true, I journaled about this the other day. Sad but so true that these women are raising these babies like this, it’s perverted as heck n stems from daddy issues in some cases. Smh
Kendra I see it all the time in Miami. 40t something year old chics tongue kissing in the middle of the streets n post it on social media. Mind me now they both have kids past the age of 12 what a damn mess.
I’ve always said this , a woman cannot raise a man. I’ve seen this behavior from men I’ve dated in the past along with female associates / family members contributing to this. It’s sad when some men defend this behavior. Thanks again Sistah for dropping this hot fiyah 🔥🔥💯
Amen, my mom’s tried everything on me. She thinks I’m her husband when I’m not and to make matters worse, her ex-boyfriend’s claiming she’s trying to protect me from dating any woman I associate with, any friend I talk to, me not having a life of my own. She’s never been happy with herself, wanted to keep me from seeing any other family members I want to get to know, basically everything. I had to go no contact to protect my health and safety. Your life is important to you, don’t let your mom get in the way of it.
My mother was 16 years old when she left my father. I remember her telling me that l wouldn't amount to a hill of beans. I was only a small child but l knew she took me away from my father and it upset me greatly. I didn't have the power to do anything about it so l decided to not speak which was in my power. Me not speaking upset her because everyone would say that boy should be talking. My mother took me to a child psychiatrist but l still wouldn't talk for a very long time, close to a year. I didn't start to talk until my grandmother who was a wonderful woman who l loved very much came to visit and asked me to talk to her. After my grandmother left and went back home my mother proceeded to destroy my childhood by having five other kids out of wedlock all of who I love and had to care and protect while she was God knows where. I was her man of the house.
It took me two years to find out why my son would cry all the time. I came home for lunch one day and caught my wife letting our two year old son, at that time, play with her nipples. I lost my Efing mind. I said now I see why he wont stop crying. WTF are you doing? He's now thirty three with no children, no girl friend, has nothing to do with me, live around the corner from his mom. My daughter be telling me they act like a couple. My ex-wife has said out her mouth, giggling like that mess is funny, that he treats her like he is her husband. They are both sick.
Thank you. Had a lady friend stop speaking to me because I told her she was ruining her son. Bless you and I hope that more Black women are listening and changing for good.
A "Sensitive..but... IMPORTANT . cultural" topic in a "Manless..Fatherless" Black "Family"... Female headed household. I'm a 66 year old Black Man.. I have seen and lived through this "unnatural" dynamic. B1
I saw this with my mother and later my husband. It's so covert it's often hard to see. But it deeply affects men and they cannot be the man they need to be and later a father/husband because they are still their mother's man. Usually in these videos, the speaker is speaking in general terms about this situation. But you went straight for the mothers and it was beautiful to hear! Thank you! Every mother with a son-husband needs to hear this message. You pulled no punches. This became a problem with Boomer women and then got worse with my generation (gen X). No man in the house or an emotionally absent father and the son becomes her man. ☹
That's how my mom was with 3 out of the four boys because she didn't care about what our dad did, so she replaced my dad with us without the sex. For sex she was giving it to our father but yet didn't want us boys to have wives.
@@avuyilecakwebe6880 she wanted us her son's to be son- husbands to replace our father but we've rebelled against that , because since our father wasn't giving her attention nor paying the bills she tried to replace him with us.
@@avuyilecakwebe6880 basically we got our own lives even though only one of us got married but the experience of what my mom's did kinda of carried over in my relationships because I would subconsciously pick women that those traits but not realizing it until I was in my late 40's but that's why I'm not in a relationship now but I'm happy because I'm on my purpose which is my music and DJing
This is true. I saw a celebrity mother making her son her man and a woman. I'm learning more that I'm not safe with my mother. I fight to break through the Son Husband dynamic while searching for my marriage!
Thanks for this video....such an important message. Just imagine the embarrassment that poor kid in the video is gonna face in school when other kids see that video. It's a disgrace that women don't consider this.
Yes Crimson you just keep doing it, she was about to kill that dance, until her SON walked out and put her in check. ( he did know what she was about to do ).
That video was supposed to be funny, however it's troubling because that boy hasn't got any real power to stop her from making bad decisions. He's a result of her bad decisions, that's that ish.
Get them right Sistah!!! You have opened my eyes to soo many things that’s hidden right in front of us… You are healing generational curses and hopefully will make it easier for us Black men to take our rightful place in our black homes..
It's actually a cop out!! It's the controlling attitude... I can't control another man but I can control my son!!! He can't even develop pathway to manhood because he's already been thrust into it as a kid! All because of her inability to grow up herself and her controlling attitude she robs him of his manhood as well as his development of his manhood.
OMG This was so good i had to put on the caption. Shes getting excited and i dont want to miss a word. After you said Kardashian sex tape and kids I was like WHOOOOOAAAAAA. Ivsaw that years ago. Nobody should film that. Ahe didn't miss a drop. She was thirsty.. AND HER KIDS ARE GOING TO SEE THAT!. Yup thats mom. Yup. Try to explain that one. YOU CANT. God works in mysterious ways. YOU GO GIRL!!!!!
Thank you for bringing attention to this Sister! Unfortunately I fell victim to this. I finally threw up my hands and was out. This was dealing with a supposed woman of God that chose to put her son above her husband. Sad.
Thank you sooo much Sista for spreading light to the different situations within our community. It is very necessary. Our ancestors are definitely still here, My Sista you remind me of Cicely Tyson and Maya Angelou as we try to get our people back on the right track.
Keep on, keeping on! If we had more of this wisdom and values today which was lost during the "Babies having Babies" Era and the proliferation of the media promoting our men and women disrespecting each other, we wouldn't be in this condition.
This needs to go viral because this is very common in our culture. People know its been happening for decades but its swept under the rug. Quiet as it's kept its the reason so many "Son Husbands" don't possess the ability to hold down relationships. Im glad a woman is calling it out because when a man tries to rectify the situation he gets belittled, degraded and cast out.Its so bad that sons nowadays are raised to be their retirement plan and their sisters are raised to take care of the " Son Husband in their mother's place when she expires. It's a sick cycle that has been normalized.
I wouldn't have believed it if I didn't see it with my own eyes, one of my classmates told me in so many words that he and his mom slept and showered together. I didn't believe it until he said go up to my house at night and look in the bathroom window. Sure enough there i saw them both naked together getting out of the tub. He was 17, she was probably mid-late 30's.
I was raised in this exact situation and for my whole life I thought I was crazy even though my instincts always told me that there was something wrong with the situation and that it wasn't me. Thank you for this video. You've done so much more than you can understand for me right now. It really shows me that these are real things that happen and I was never crazy. All this was real. I was not delusional. All the things I thought about were real. Thank you so much
Facts....our women have no regard for what they do on the internet! Listen to Crimson ladies.....when this administration changes, a lot of this chaotic behavior will come back to haunt you!
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These mothers just want a man who cannot tell them no. These black mothers want submissive men a little boy or son is the closest thing to get
Yes
Yes, the guilt the son into being their submissive providers. But they maintain the dominance and authority of the matriarchy.
Creates a stockholm syndrome also. I was subconsiosly simping for my mom, instead of other women up until I was like 23. Vicious cycle, the tragic thing is that in the real world, its not only women who ruthlessly take advantage of you, but the men push you around also.
A vicious cyle of creating the very men they complain about.
Right on 💯
I searched this whole comment section for this one comment! You definitely deserve a six pack of 🍺, real shit
This Son-Husband thing is SICK on so many levels...🤨
And that's just the beginning. It will get to a level where sexually liberated BW will open their legs and order their sons to get it. Since they're indoctrinated to not deal with mature men, their minds will certainly turn to that before beastiality.
💯
Emotional Incest
Sisters are hard on their girls but cater to their boys
@@logic9869 That's a bullshit narrative. One of the reason why so many Black men want nothing to do with Black women is because of the trauma, abuse they endured at the hands of their Black mother. Go into the local stores in Black neighborhoods, all you will see if Black women in bonnets cursing out their young sons and calling them "Bruh".
They don’t want a man cause they want to be out of order. Poor children
Exactly!
Yep. But that desire for masculine energy must be recieved by nature's order. If they can't get it from a man they will look for it from their sons. I was so happy when my mom got remarried, but now I feel bad for HIM...
A woman with a son husband should be avoided at all costs.
YES
Especially don't marry a son- husband, Mommy will always be first and that can eventually turn him into a Narcissist.
I wish I did this years ago smh
A man that is a son husband should be avoided at all cost
I keep telling guys. Love mom, but get away from her, cause she's detrimental to your growth as a man.
Amen, my mom’s been that way and still is to this day. I’m so glad I parted ways, her saying she loves me was nothing but lies. Her manipulating, abusive behavior and trying to stalk my social media, destroy my friendships, basically everything was why I didn’t want nothing to do with her. To make it worse, my brothers and her ex boyfriend claim that she’s trying to keep me from being a part of society in general (no job, no money, not to have a career, no potential). She’s never been happy with herself and then trying to keep me from doing anything that I want in life, heck no, I had to get out of there- going no contact was the best thing for me. The behavior of trying to explain to her isn’t worth it.
If a man even halfway said he had a, "daughter-wife" people would be screaming for his head. He would be in jail in less than 24 hours.
Raising the men they complain about…
Say this LOUDER!
EXACTLY!!!
Man i dated a girl she would make her son open her car door for her every day and compliment her when he got home from school it was weird man! And she would always say “if nobody else love me that boy love me.” And TWERKS in front of him. All type of stuff. Young girl too like 26.
It's a good thing you left her. She forces him to do those things. It didn't come genuinely and she believes the delusion she created.
Didn't realize how deep this runs in the Black community, including Caribbean women, until I saw my x wife do it to my youngest son. Smh.
we only touched the surface here!
So Caribbean women and Black American women are the same?
@@bluejay9968 Of course they are not the same.
@@bluejay9968 pretty much
@@bluejay9968 We have the same issues in both communities.
I notice when women have children in their teens, they don't grow past that too much
@@Mike_M. it's worse with children
Almost as if when she lose her virginity, and realizes that she can use her genitals to get things.
That mindset persists, until its too late to adopt a modest approach.
One of the truest statements I've ever heard!
You're absolutely right. Damn good observation.
Their education normally stops after they have a child at an early age. Diapers babysitters daycare they become immature mothers they're not thinking about science mathematics or any other sciences.
Laziest of Groomers. In the best interest of the child? Yea right. But the Father get portrayed as a monster.
These chicks are very sick.
I agree
Speaking from experience. My mother was a big ball of chaos and stress. my father only stayed because divorce is expensive. Didnt stop her from telling me how he wasnt shit and secretly closing the door and venting to me about how horrible my father was.(retired officer in the military and software engineer who paid most of her bills)... after college she would cuss me out for thinking about leaving her alone with her husband. get on her knees and would cry and beg me never to leave. She was a misreble woman who seemed defeated and destroyed. As if she was shattered into a million pieces. But, the world sees her as a well accomplished therapist with multiple degrees. Very selfish. Basically, the embodiment of a demon posses person who is trying to act like a normal citizen. Just a misreble defeated, selfish person. I was always a little afraid to leave her because she breaks down and gets very pitiful. Like a 9 year old in the grocery store throwing a tantrum because she cant get a piece of candy. Selfish. unsupportive. screams and yells when she is unhappy. chases you around the house. but wont let you leave her. I ended up moving out and changing my number. The woman is a certified nutcase..... But, Im learning that most women are
Good for you. You have to set boundaries even when it's family. When you said that your mother was, "The embodiment of a demon possessed person who is trying to act like a normal citizen." I could relate to that statement. My mother is a HYENA that dragged her children through and all around the lost value system - controlling, manipulative, abusive and narcissistic. But to the outside world only displayed herself to be a charming person. Once I realized I was trauma bonding with her and that she would never take any accountability for all her BS... I HAD TO LET HER GO and haven't spoken to her in 2 years.
She was therapist?? SHIT!! Alot of these Modern Women are nutty AF!! Just ask Johnny Depp!! My mother would tell me intimate things about my step father like he couldnt satisfy her in bed!! I was like moma STFU!! I was thinking it anyway!!
Sorry this had to be your experience my brother, nobody should have to live like or go through this ✊🏾
Sounds like my x wife
I trust no woman 🌲
My aunt is in her 70's and she calls her youngest son her husband. It's pretty sad.
I went through the same thing and am still dealing with it as a 56 yr old man and my mother passed away!! I was supposed to go to the Million Man March but, my mother ( in her words) Was not feeling well and I had to stay home with her. I missed out on countless job and education opportunities!! Now i'm trying to catch up but somethings are gone forever!!
I encourage you to seek therapy, my brother. None of this is your fault, but you can still have the life you want.
I feel you bro. Luckily for me I got out of that in my early years because my mother was trying to do that to me but I wouldn't let her.
So sorry man. I think you need therapy. I'm about to have it also.
@@saintgermain6031 We're the few who've managed to escape Dawg. Growing up, I always wondered why men are stuck in the hood. I used to think they're bums but now I realise they've been purposely sabotaged to be completely dependent
@@MaiTaiCassanova I have had therapy for it, that is why I'm able to talk about now!!
I was out at dinner and saw a teenage boy with his mom walking in to be seated. His eyes met mine and I could tell this kid was like “maaaaaan, she need a man.”
This happens so much nowadays its not even funny
Didn't realize how popular and bad this is. Sounds very unstable to me.
I learned about covert incest a while ago and it’s such a silent, yet celebrated developmental abuse that I’m sick of seeing.
I've learnt about it a few weeks back and I'm still in shock because I think I was being groomed to be one.
It will get worse to a level that so-called sexually liberated BW will open their legs and order their sons in. Since they're indoctrinated to not deal with mature men and dykism is unsustainable, they'll centainly try that before graduating into full beastiality.
The ancients were wiser and saw how the future would be if humans were "free" at the expense of the natural balance. Western Civilization/Modernization is a disaster. Go back to your ancient cultures and put your females back in order while you still can.
I saw a woman today at CVS pharmacy and she was rubbing her son the way a woman rubs her husband or boyfriend. I kept looking and she looked at me. It was a mind your business look. I felt sorry for the boy (11 years old) and then I came across this site. Do these woman believe this is appropriate
I once saw a mother running her fingers through her sons hair in a convenience store and the boy couldn't have been any more than ten years old and he was clearly uncomfortable.
The son is their retirement plan.
Not me, I was like ✌️ out
I’ve seen this sick shit and it’s disturbing, I’ve seen women walk around almost naked in front of their sons to provoke some reaction, I’ve seen them cater and baby them so they won’t leave , sick shit and of course you can’t tell them there wrong
Yes. I've seen a woman walk around with a robe untied and her titties falling out around her kids. I was so shocked...but she's big mama so you can't tell them anything
Eww
Emotional incest !!! Preach Sis !!!! ✊🏾✊🏾
SELFISHNESS IS SPIRITUAL GANGRENE.
CHARACTER IS THE PERSONALITY OF THE INNER/SPIRIT MAN.
CHARACTER IS THE CAGE THAT PROTECTS THE CROWN OF THE SOUL & THE DRESS CODE OF DISCERNMENT.
This is a HUGE problem in the community! As a former teacher at the Elementary level in the inner city I saw this many times and saw how it crippled those boys. These women have the unmedicated gall to criticize the boys and blame them for how they turn out. SMDH!!
A while ago I noticed that sistas automatically dont trust men from a single mom home.
I got the impression that they knew that the boys arent raised correctly.
U just basically confirmed my thoughts.
Really? I see them all over them single mamas boys
But at the same time those women will say ''if he treats his mama right, he'll treat me right''
Mind you all that is a code for saying ''if she can manipulate him ..so can i''
@@GarwinWayne good point.
@@mentlinc I'm really talking about women 40yrs old and up.
They dont take men seriously. I have 4 daughters, 2 nieces, a sister, a mom and 3 ex wives that all belong to the gynocrrats.. lol.
That's what I noticed.
They all treat modern men like ish and they are raising their boys to submit to and to rely on women.
Bc a dad wasnt there to tell them : boy! Dont believe that ish..
I was lucky.. my mom and dad stayed together until he passed in 98. And I still managed to screw up my life before it even got started. Lol.
I'm good now tho.. u can survive it. Just keep calm and do the right thing and u'll be alright.
I saw the boys around me growing up and I was like nope 😂😂😂 the man I date must have been raised by his dad! It’s a big difference
This topic gone cut DEEP!
They're very dangerous to date
So freaking true! You wouldnt believe the opportunities I had to give up or put off due to my mother's "feelings". Strangely enough my older sisters didn't have to go through this 🤔😒🤦🏾♂️
What kind of opportunities
Because they aren’t weak.
@@charbrim100 oh please 🙄🙄 the only reason why they're so "strong" is because they like most black women have a MUCH stronger support system from the jump. Also in the black community everybody tends to take the daughters side if they have problems with their mothers, encourages them to run free and think for themselves and tell sons to suck it up and "look after her" which is a HUGE disadvantage for us as black men 😑🤦🏾♂️
@@arthurm.358 stop lying. You men are just too weak to stand up to your mothers. Y’all think all women are problems except the ones y’all came from. Put them on a pedestal for some strange reason while low key resenting them because 8/10 she couldn’t keep your father around. Black mothers are way tougher on their daughters then their son. This is why most men raised by single mothers are weak, insecure and emotional
I have lived everything you talked about in this video. My mother (rest her soul) treated me like a son-husband for most of my life, especially as I got older. I remember a situation where me and my mother were out together, and another woman stated " You have a good-looking husband!" And my mother responded by saying "No, He is not my husband, He is my son." It was very embarrassing. Furthermore, I couldn't even have girlfriends because she would get insanely jealous and order me to not see her anymore. She felt she had to compete with the girlfriend for my affection.
We live in a world 🌍 where we are influenced by demonic perverted spirits, and combine that with what the bible says about the natural wickness of the human flesh and heart
Omg
My dating life got sabotaged as well
Man I hope for your mental sake, you moved out hey.
😲 how shameful!
When the truth is so glaring it seems offensive.
I made a decision to fracture the maladaptive link that my mother formed as soon as I was capable of walking away and supporting myself. I stayed on campus during holidays weekends etc in undergrad because of it. The emotional stress that this places on Blk boys is heavy and psychologically damaging if not checked. Thank you Kendra for another well needed discussion.
I had to move away to detox that mess out of my system. it was so weird to me my mom was so evil to my now wife and subliminally evil to me...but has a whole husband. my brother unfortunately is deep in that spell so much that i haven't seen him in almost ten years. Thank you so much for this because folk just do not know how deep this gets and how damaging the fallout is once you decide to get from under that spell....and yes it is a spell and you can't convince me otherwise.
There are some things that only a woman can say to another woman in which she will listen. Kendra, you just said one of them! Thank you.
I'm a white male who thinks that women of all colors could learn a lot from this lady.
Black Women👠 : "I know if he treats his mama right, he'll treat me right" 🦨...only means : if his mother can manipulate his emotional -intelligence I can too.
Like when LeBron James told his mom "...sit your ass down!"
PERFECT example
It's sad when women come across men that are trapped in this and they're older in 40's and 50's and they don't even realize that they are trapped in that
@@greatestever80sbaby not a redirect if she's referencing the single mothers kids who grew up. Pay attention no emo
Bruuh. I wake up daily thanking God I escaped from that
@@greatestever80sbaby Everything is about those hoes dating life and their inability to find a man. ITS ALWAYS ABOUT THEM.
But don't mention the many women who take advantage of that. Those women are like ..''if his mama can manipulate him..so can i''
@@GarwinWayneshut up she just acknowledged that these men don’t know
This happened to me.
Bless you sister for calling out these STUPID mothers.
I saw a video of a woman having a twerk competition with her daughter in the street. Smh….There’s No Shame!
The son-husband is why their sons are not suitable husbands.
It makes sense now 🤔😏🤝😌
Bingo. They already got a woman
This mind set these single black mothers who view there sons as their "son/husband" I find to be very DISTURBING. This could run along the line of an INCESTUOUS relationship. She EXPECTS the son to take care of her NEEDS....in some cases ALL OF HER NEEDS..... This is a bunch of BULLSHEE-IT!! Maybe this explains why a lot of young black athletes who are blessed with the skills and talent to make it into the professional league of either Basketball, Baseball or Football, shortly after signing their first "BIG MONEY" contract. They immediately buy momma a big house that she CAN'T AFFORD to live in nor maintain, and before he himself realizes it, HE can no longer AFFORD it either because his playing days were cut short due to injuries etc..
Emotional incest and don't think there isn't any degree of physical lines being crossed as well.
I was a son husband also. I Love your channel. One of the few women run channels I subscribe to as a man. I'm one of the few who escaped the clutches of an overbearing mother (Not without the help of male guidance though like Kevin Samuels, StephIsCold etc). She kept me close in my formative years, never allowed me to do anything difficult eg. Made me quit my first job I had and made me wear crappy, baggy clothes. Obviously my dad was never in the house, but at least I know him. She has never ever allowed me to be given masculine advice in my formative years as a result, I grew up so confused in my tertiary years not having any social skills and relationship experience. At 25, I struggle to form good relationships with women and I can't feel sorry for young men who don't escape and still stuck in this sickening complex. I feel guilt now that I've left her and she's now living alone back home, can't help that I am gonna have to take care of her very soon at the expense of my own life and peace of mind.
You don’t have to do any of that stuff. Just tell her no.
It’s not as hard as you think.
we got sooo many sisters in our communities like this
Love the passion from Kendra, especially from a black woman that is holding other black women accountable! Cause some of these women can't hear the same message from a BM!
It's damn near incestuous! The community been out of control in this particular area of life since the 1980's.
Chiiile they aren’t going to like this type of teaching! 💅🏾 I have a man my son is my son not my husband I would neva!
It absolutely torture I grew up a husband son, I developed an unhealthy attachment style that took a long time for me to rectify that disorder. Spot on crimson 💯
And when they get tired of the children and everyday stresses of life, they drop the kids off with family and run out on a girls trip to Miami or some other place
I know many single fathers. They don't take no boys trips at all! Maybe one every few yrs!
This is so true, I journaled about this the other day. Sad but so true that these women are raising these babies like this, it’s perverted as heck n stems from daddy issues in some cases. Smh
.. exactly
We have to protect this lady…she about to get canceled for this one
No She Isn't...Relax...
Cancelled?!?! Not likely.
She want be. Why would say such a thing
Her truth may not have enough honey on it…it’ll leave a bad taste
She won't have to worry about canceling if her listeners stand behind her
Son/ husband. Cringeworthy
VERRYYYYYY
Kendra I see it all the time in Miami. 40t something year old chics tongue kissing in the middle of the streets n post it on social media. Mind me now they both have kids past the age of 12 what a damn mess.
I’ve always said this , a woman cannot raise a man. I’ve seen this behavior from men I’ve dated in the past along with female associates / family members contributing to this. It’s sad when some men defend this behavior. Thanks again Sistah for dropping this hot fiyah 🔥🔥💯
📢Your Son is not your Man;
Amen, my mom’s tried everything on me. She thinks I’m her husband when I’m not and to make matters worse, her ex-boyfriend’s claiming she’s trying to protect me from dating any woman I associate with, any friend I talk to, me not having a life of my own. She’s never been happy with herself, wanted to keep me from seeing any other family members I want to get to know, basically everything. I had to go no contact to protect my health and safety. Your life is important to you, don’t let your mom get in the way of it.
It is exactly a form of emotional r---! Some of these blk moms are simply terrorizing these young boys.
My mother was 16 years old when she left my father. I remember her telling me that l wouldn't amount to a hill of beans. I was only a small child but l knew she took me away from my father and it upset me greatly. I didn't have the power to do anything about it so l decided to not speak which was in my power. Me not speaking upset her because everyone would say that boy should be talking. My mother took me to a child psychiatrist but l still wouldn't talk for a very long time, close to a year.
I didn't start to talk until my grandmother who was a wonderful woman who l loved very much came to visit and asked me to talk to her. After my grandmother left and went back home my mother proceeded to destroy my childhood by having five other kids out of wedlock all of who I love and had to care and protect while she was God knows where. I was her man of the house.
It took me two years to find out why my son would cry all the time. I came home for lunch one day and caught my wife letting our two year old son, at that time, play with her nipples. I lost my Efing mind. I said now I see why he wont stop crying. WTF are you doing? He's now thirty three with no children, no girl friend, has nothing to do with me, live around the corner from his mom. My daughter be telling me they act like a couple. My ex-wife has said out her mouth, giggling like that mess is funny, that he treats her like he is her husband. They are both sick.
That is disgusting
Thank you. Had a lady friend stop speaking to me because I told her she was ruining her son.
Bless you and I hope that more Black women are listening and changing for good.
A "Sensitive..but... IMPORTANT . cultural" topic in a "Manless..Fatherless" Black "Family"... Female headed household. I'm a 66 year old Black Man.. I have seen and lived through this "unnatural" dynamic. B1
Wow. I thought this started in the late 90's but you seen this your whole life?
Keep telling the truth. I pray for you. My mother did this to me & my brothers. We finally figured it out in our 60s. What a mess.
Smh
I saw this with my mother and later my husband. It's so covert it's often hard to see. But it deeply affects men and they cannot be the man they need to be and later a father/husband because they are still their mother's man.
Usually in these videos, the speaker is speaking in general terms about this situation. But you went straight for the mothers and it was beautiful to hear! Thank you! Every mother with a son-husband needs to hear this message. You pulled no punches.
This became a problem with Boomer women and then got worse with my generation (gen X). No man in the house or an emotionally absent father and the son becomes her man. ☹
That's how my mom was with 3 out of the four boys because she didn't care about what our dad did, so she replaced my dad with us without the sex. For sex she was giving it to our father but yet didn't want us boys to have wives.
Weird
What do you mean she didn't want you to have wives
@@avuyilecakwebe6880 she wanted us her son's to be son- husbands to replace our father but we've rebelled against that , because since our father wasn't giving her attention nor paying the bills she tried to replace him with us.
@@frankjames6232 Damn so what eventually happened
@@avuyilecakwebe6880 basically we got our own lives even though only one of us got married but the experience of what my mom's did kinda of carried over in my relationships because I would subconsciously pick women that those traits but not realizing it until I was in my late 40's but that's why I'm not in a relationship now but I'm happy because I'm on my purpose which is my music and DJing
This is a GAME-CHANGER!! Wow, I’m amazed. 💯💯💯
Whew...this one should have had a Warning before looking at. ALL COMPLETE FIRE!
Crimson cure thank you for this video. I wish I could thumb up this video a 100 times.
I’m glad Ms. Kendra and other content creators are finally bringing this to light.. But we have to realize this has been going on for quite a while..
Girl I felt this on a spiritual level! You better preach!!!🙌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@crimson cure. Where do you get you're TREMENDOUS INSIGHT, it's Amazing!!!
OMG Lady Kendra, this assessment was Spot-On! What Mothers like this do to their sons is absolutely DIABOLICAL! Thanks
Sad sorry state of affairs that this is even a reality in our world
This is true. I saw a celebrity mother making her son her man and a woman. I'm learning more that I'm not safe with my mother. I fight to break through the Son Husband dynamic while searching for my marriage!
Thanks for this video....such an important message. Just imagine the embarrassment that poor kid in the video is gonna face in school when other kids see that video. It's a disgrace that women don't consider this.
Yes Crimson you just keep doing it, she was about to kill that dance, until her SON walked out and put her in check. ( he did know what she was about to do ).
That video was supposed to be funny, however it's troubling because that boy hasn't got any real power to stop her from making bad decisions.
He's a result of her bad decisions, that's that ish.
Absolutely Amazing
Hoping "class"comes back in style.
Protect this woman at all costs
Get them right Sistah!!! You have opened my eyes to soo many things that’s hidden right in front of us…
You are healing generational curses and hopefully will make it easier for us Black men to take our rightful place in our black homes..
It's actually a cop out!! It's the controlling attitude... I can't control another man but I can control my son!!! He can't even develop pathway to manhood because he's already been thrust into it as a kid! All because of her inability to grow up herself and her controlling attitude she robs him of his manhood as well as his development of his manhood.
The 4 P's is something every young man should know please share this it is the CURE!!!!
It's so unfortunate that this is such a common occurrence now. I've been saying this for years and I have experienced this firsthand.
Refreshing to hear her check these females...
Its sad so few people talk about this subject. As an ex victim of this thank you so much for bringing this to light
OMG This was so good i had to put on the caption.
Shes getting excited and i dont want to miss a word.
After you said Kardashian sex tape and kids I was like WHOOOOOAAAAAA.
Ivsaw that years ago.
Nobody should film that.
Ahe didn't miss a drop.
She was thirsty..
AND HER KIDS ARE GOING TO SEE THAT!.
Yup thats mom.
Yup.
Try to explain that one.
YOU CANT.
God works in mysterious ways.
YOU GO GIRL!!!!!
Thank you for bringing attention to this Sister! Unfortunately I fell victim to this. I finally threw up my hands and was out. This was dealing with a supposed woman of God that chose to put her son above her husband. Sad.
WOW Wow Telling these women exactly what they NEED TO HEAR Much love ❤️ too you Kendra
What if that was flipped, " this is my daughter/wife?
Thank you sooo much Sista for spreading light to the different situations within our community. It is very necessary. Our ancestors are definitely still here, My Sista you remind me of Cicely Tyson and Maya Angelou as we try to get our people back on the right track.
Keep on, keeping on! If we had more of this wisdom and values today which was lost during the "Babies having Babies" Era and the proliferation of the media promoting our men and women disrespecting each other, we wouldn't be in this condition.
100% Factz. And when that son try to find him someone, here comes the mother throwing these monkey wrenches in the program.
It's not just when they are young. They can use mental tricks to keep him at home at an older age.
"Do a 'Good Mama' challenge!" Mic Drop! Love it Sis Kendra! Keep em on their toes.👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
These women are just out of control. Don't want anyone telling them ANYTHING!
This needs to go viral because this is very common in our culture. People know its been happening for decades but its swept under the rug. Quiet as it's kept its the reason so many "Son Husbands" don't possess the ability to hold down relationships.
Im glad a woman is calling it out because when a man tries to rectify the situation he gets belittled, degraded and cast out.Its so bad that sons nowadays are raised to be their retirement plan and their sisters are raised to take care of the " Son Husband in their mother's place when she expires.
It's a sick cycle that has been normalized.
Lord have mercy
I have chills running through my body now
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I wouldn't have believed it if I didn't see it with my own eyes, one of my classmates told me in so many words that he and his mom slept and showered together.
I didn't believe it until he said go up to my house at night and look in the bathroom window.
Sure enough there i saw them both naked together getting out of the tub.
He was 17, she was probably mid-late 30's.
What the hell?
I was raised in this exact situation and for my whole life I thought I was crazy even though my instincts always told me that there was something wrong with the situation and that it wasn't me. Thank you for this video. You've done so much more than you can understand for me right now. It really shows me that these are real things that happen and I was never crazy. All this was real. I was not delusional. All the things I thought about were real. Thank you so much
Facts....our women have no regard for what they do on the internet! Listen to Crimson ladies.....when this administration changes, a lot of this chaotic behavior will come back to haunt you!
Again thanks for the knowledge Kendra. It's always a pleasure listening to you Teach.
Speak truth 2 light sis🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❗
I once heard that we have no choice but to physically grow up, but you have to choose to mentally grow up.