"Men Who Want 50/50 Should Be EMBARASSED"
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- Опубликовано: 17 окт 2024
- What could this woman have possibly said that got her ratio'd to absolute oblivion with a 117 likes to 1418 comment comparison?
This woman believes that men who expect 50/50 out of a relationship should be embarrassed. Not only that, but she says that it's because "men have the upper hand" in dating.
Is there any truth to this?
Do you agree with 50/50 - including financially?
Do you believe men have the "upper hand" in relationships?
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My favorite part of her rant was how she defined a man's power as being a servant.
She’s mad no man wants power, by her own definition of it.
Love the rebrand lmao
Women always do that shiz; turn something brutal into some magic fairy language. You ever hear of "I just want to be loved?" That's womanese for "yeah I just want a slave who wants nothing in return." I told my teenage daughter and she bust out laughing.
Not a servant, a SLAVE
For real. Even if we pretended that an upset woman will somehow turn into a ball of happiness just for being offered help, in what universe is it empowering to have to fix other people's problems?
And secondly, she claims that _that_ is the power men have in a relationship over women, but proceeds to speculate that a woman would do the _very exact same thing_ to a man when *he's* having bad time. How is that not then empowering the woman in the relationship? There's not a single thread of consistency in her logic.
I do not believe that she has done any introspection about herself and her being the "problem" that she "had to work on". She's only saying that to justify her high horse.
By her logic, slaves hold the power in a slavery system.
For sure, nothing as empowering as the power to fulfill demands. One should be _ashamed_ to want reciprocity.
Slaves only hold the true power in a BDSM relationship.
She's possibly making some variant of Freudian slip here.
And get meaningful purpose, and life skills ...
Yeah and the slaves produce more of the labor so they must be oppressing the slave owners.
In the right kind of master-slave setting, she's right that slaves hold the power, but I doubt she's talking about that one! 😂
She wants men to say "how can I fix this?" when she has a bad day. But one of the big complaints I hear from women is "men should LISTEN to my problems instead of trying to FIX my problems!" 😂 Which is it? Are we supposed to listen or fix?
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In the immortal words of Sam Kinison, "she wants you to be her emotional tampon."
Someone needs to fix her fluctuating accent. What is that about?
I usually don’t listen, so I’m definitely not trying to fix their problems anymore.
Forgot the 3rd one. You should just know
Not one woman I have had a relationship with has ever asked how she can help me. Not once.
Now that I think about it we are pretty much socialized not to. 😬 I know I myself have been shamed for “mothering” or “babying” my man just by making simple care efforts for him
@@thedadvocate I think it may go into a bit of the differences between men and women. If a man has a bad day he is silent and thinks of solutions (at least I do). When my fiancé or female friends have a bad day I hear about it. It just seems like a different set of behaviors to me.
@@Weaver1812When men do talk about their problems it's generally it's because they are asking for help, not just to vent.
And NO woman ever will. You HAVE to be the rock & support 24/7 1000% or fuck you & how date you show weakness.
@@thedadvocate
This is something I'm also told by my feminist female relatives (all single, shockingly)
Whereas it is understood by those happily married that wives keep their husbands healthy etc, and that's why she lovingly nags
If you can cheat and decide you want to end the relationship, get the kids, the house and half of my money HOW IN THE HELL do I have the upper hand?????????????
Its funny when women hear "50/50" their first thought is money.
What us men mean when we say 50/50 is we want to see our efforts reciprocated equally within the relationship. No man wants to be carrying the weight of the entire relationship and getting very little in return.
I actually thought she was going to talk about money and bills, cuz that's what they are always complaining about.
Turns out it took me 8 minutes to realize "wait, is she complaining about men and women being in mutually caring relationship?". It's so obvious to me that relationships must have reciprocation that I couldn't even consider that she'd make an issue out of that.
“Men have all the power in a relationship.”
“Umm, how?”
“You can fix all of her problems.”
I don’t think you know what power is.
when you allow women ot describe their perfect partner you very quickly come to the realization that they are describing a slave.
Remember: Responsibility without authority only has one name..Slavery.
And once you fix all of her problems... she has the strength AND power to leave your too kind of an ass to chase after someone she thinks is better.
Also.. no.. we cannot fix all her problems. And sometimes, she doesnt WANT us to fix her problems.
If you fix all of her problems, the only problem she has left is YOU.
“You can tell here what you want and she’ll probably do that”. Citation needed.
We want partners who are our equals. We don't want leeches.
Do you believe you aren't a leech? Then contribute.
Do you believe you are an equal or more? Then contribute.
Do you believe you are strong and independent? Then contribute.
If you do not contribute, you are a leech. The opposite of strong. The epitome of dependant.
Aren't you embarrassed?
That would take personal accountability and critical thinking with an aim to look inwardly at ones own actions. Personally, mate... most don't have the selflessness to do such a thing.
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Even offering 10% is still contributing
Straight up the right response to that bullsh*t!!
Being saddled with the burden of solving her problems and securing her happiness for her is having the upper hand? I'd hate to see what she considers being at a disadvantage. Even if her statement WASN'T completely false her point would still be stupid.
She wouldn't know because women don't notice the man at the disadvantage, because he's not wanted by women lol. Her claim kind is kind of self tell I think, she only notices men who occupy a rung higher than herself.
I’m at the point in my life where I’m not even sure anything would make me feel “emasculated”.
Be careful, cause life likes to prove you wrong on that one.
As soon as you can articulate this superpower as a sellable course you’ll be able to retire
Idk, I feel like this is more common among men than people seem to think it is. I think a lot of men, when presented with a woman taking on more "traditionally male" roles, tend to react more with feelings of appreciation than any sort of feelings of emasculation or resentment.
I always try to relate this in reverse. As a woman, does seeing a man performing "traditionally female" roles make you feel like less of a woman? Does watching a man wash dishes or change a diaper make any woman feel like they arent a real woman?
I would venture to guess that most women dont think that way, and would actually like for their male partners to take on those roles more often, as sharing those roles takes some of the burden off of their shoulders. I think the same is true of most men. Once you get past all of the societal bullshit of how men are "supposed" to feel compared to how men actually feel, we are mostly just appreciative of the effort to help make our lives easier, in the same way that you are. @thedadvocate
@@thedadvocate Dont think its a super power. I think its just the abrasiveness of it just being 'sanded/eroded away' to where we just dont have any fucks left to give.
Many fathers of daughters ever this stage... Because if your daughter wants to go out to get ice cream with you but the two of you are fairy princesses, guess who is eating ice cream dressed as fairy princesses?
The interesting thing is, when she talks about how she was a "people-pleaser" and it was screwing her over, she doesn't realize that this is what she's expecting men to do for her when she talks about men "having the advantage".
So if she's having a bad day, the man should offer to help her out, give her what she needs, and basically cater to her. And that somehow is the man "having power" in the relationship.
And of course, the woman will ALWAYS reciprocate, right? No woman would EVER just take advantage of a guy who's constantly doting on her, right? Right...?
It's really nice to see that a few women are watching these vids now.
You've hit it. When she does it, she's being a "people pleaser" but when her man does it, he's exercising power. Got it.
@@hilariousname6826 Have been for a while. She articulates some ideas I have better than I could and I use her wording to talk to younger women that I know to try to help them be sane and rational for the men they date rather than entitled nutters.
She doesn't even apply her own logic here (the 9ne of realizing that you must be the problem when you only attract problems). If everyone is complaining about her in the comment section and calling her gaslighter, then perhaps they aren't doing it just because they're stupid, toxic men, but because she's actually gaslighting men in her videos.
"Men Who Want 50/50 Should Be EMBARASSED" that is why i demand 100%
Well said Chad.
A student of Royce DuPont
I do too. And it works about 80% of the time. I'll usually pay at that point. I just do it for fun and to prove a point. You can usually tell at that point also if they are really interested in you.
200IQ play.
@@spinny2593Unfortunately my parents have said no to date Christian men but if we dated then you would not be disappointed.😉
Women we want equality women no no no we don’t want equality when we have to pay for something 😂
No equality in responsibility
Turns out men having all the power and freedom didn't actually mean they had easy lives and could do whatever they wanted without consequences. :D
Or putting it more cynically, men only had easy lives with few consequences when they could push work and responsibility onto an unwilling subordinate.
@@Jikkuryuu um bro this is a damn jok calm down
@@Jikkuryuu um this was a Joke calm the hell down
@@codm22712 Sorry, The first half was meant to be funny at least. Kinda let the thought run away with me.
Wait! Did she say "every woman that I've been in"? Ummmm I don't even know what to say.😂
LOL I KNOW she didn't mean to but I still laughed
@thedadvocate I mean you could say what she said was not wrong. I mean, by definition, she was right even though she meant an alternative meaning of the word "screwed" but I digress. I laughed so hard that if I had been drinking something, I would have cleaned my sinuses.
Sounds like proof "She's a man baby!"
remind me to tell my butler he has the power in the household because he has the power to make my breakfast and draw me a bath.
Hahahaha
That means when black people were slaves in America, the black slaves were the ones who had all the power! 😂 As a white person, I DEMAND reparations from black people for all those years when they had all the power!!
The term is called, Going Dutch. That is a mutual assumption on both parties that they are paying for their own way. The reason I say this is that my wife and I 14 years ago went on a date to where we both went dutch. Again that was 14 years ago this may, we will be married 12 years this July
My wife asks me for my half for the bills every month as she has for the past 30+ years. I didn't feel emasculated, not even the couple of times I was unemployed. I'm not sure if my wife felt more feminine when she wasn't working. It never occurred to me to ask.
I moved to a very heavy Dutch populated area and the first thing I learned about the Dutch is that they are VERY frugal so this makes sense 😂
I'm actually Dutch. And "going dutch" is actually a rare sight in our dating scene. I found just 1 lady so far out of about 12 that was willing to split the difference. I don't understand why they call it that. I don't see it as based on facts. I had to learn to split the difference as well because my ex out of a 7 year lasting relationship pretty much had me pay for everything. For me, because every date I previously had pretty much expected that, made me feel like that was normal.
That's funny, because there's another comment on here from a guy in the Netherlands who says that the 50-50 split is the norm there ... ?@@TheLegendairyChris
@@TheLegendairyChrisI think you date the wrong women then, I'm also Dutch and on average 50-50 is the norm. In fact, in my personal experience, I had women insist they pay the full bill. But let's be real, you don't go to a restaurant for a first date, right? Right...?
"if a woman is having a bad dayy, you men have the power to fix it" but if men are having a bad day he just needs to nut up and deal with it
Her feelings are not your responsibility, no matter how much she shrieks they are.
That woman is clearly single. Clearly she's delu-lu. I love your channel, thank you for advocating for men when many just slam us into the ground.
If she works, she PAYS TOO.
If a 100% stay at home wife, that is different.....and also rare.
I'd say that should be narrowed down from "stay at home wife" to "homemaker", but... well, trophy wives are a thing.
@@rcslyman8929 You make a very valid & logic point.
From each according to their means, to each according to their needs.
I don't know if that's the correct way to phrase it in English, but that's about the most logical and humane approach to relationships I can think of.
And it's basically socialism.
Unless she's dedicating herself to the kids ain't no such thing as a "stay at home" wife in this century. Get your ass out and work lady.
The Tinder stats are so damn sad. I remember trying Tinder when it appeared and just sensing that something was completely wacky. So I stopped using it, feeling it was pointless. A few years later the stats are out about how extremely picky, delusional and superficial the women on those apps are.
Dating apps are for desperate or crazy women and the men who never needed the app in the first place.
The only way to hit matches on Tinder is to spam the 50 of them you get every day (or week? Idk, I don't use Tinder.)
@@HotBaraDad666I'll be honest, I haven't used it in years, so I don't even know how it works anymore, but from what I hear from friends, it's awful for anyone of the male gender on there.
I had the same experience; simply swiped everything right after getting frustrated. got 3 matches in a timespan of 4 month
woman can set in an empty profile and would still get 10 matched a day
complete waste of time and devastating for the ego of any average guy
It's the same for all dating apps.
The CEO of Match, who own most dating sites, has stated in interviews the purpose of their sites is not to find you a match, it's to keep you coming back to see their ads.
@@VideoArchiveGuy How there isn't a anti trust lawsuit against match for snapping up most of these sites and turning them into terrible clones of each other will forever baffle me.
Is there even a female equivalent to emasculated? It's like we have our own special embarrassment we "should" feel for not upholding the only good parts for women aspects of 1950s sexism.
Do all the extra work for almost N O N E of the special benefits and emotional connection old couples often shared for most if not all the years of marriage! This is what I don't get, you want a super responsive, emotionally nurturing partner you need to start by BEING that person for your partner, and find the ones who respond the same. You want to find a jerk who ignores you, pretend that it all in their hands and you have nothing to do with it.
Is called being defemininated. That can be the word.
The number of times I’ve had “I don’t want you to fix it. I just want you to listen” yelled at me is nuts, even with reoccurring problems. Of course the second half of that quote that isn’t said, but is definitely the subtext “and agree with me about everything (no matter how abhorrent the little bit of my bad behavior I’ll admit to was).”
31 years ago, when I first started dating my wife, she wanted to pay for the second date - which I refused. Then on the third date she INSISTED she pay, and I finally relented.
Thing is, she _wanted_ to contribute to the relationship, and not just with her presence, but via something tangible.
There are many, many examples throughout the years where she has demonstrated this again and again. It's why I would move mountains if necessary for her.
Most women, especially these days, scoff at the idea of contributing anything besides their presence - and that's why the dating and marriage scene is decaying.
Had to hard stop (no pun intended) on the "every woman I've been in" line.
I believe anyone who goes online to give relationship advice should first show their diploma from an accredited school showing that they at least understand humans. Bonus points for any of them who have wedding rings to prove that they know what a successful relationship looks like.
I’m so torn on this because while I have to imagine having a long term marriage WOULD make you more educated on the subject, I’m really afraid that a lot of people stay in marriages for a long time who absolutely should not even be together 😅
@@thedadvocate Sorry that I wasn't clear. The wedding ring signifies that you have managed to successfully gone from dating, then thru a relationship and finally got to the goal of marriage. You've successfully navigate thru the whole process. I didn't mean to imply that what happens after marriage is always good.
problem is that a lot of people just happened to get lucky and find the one they want to settle with. If you actually listen to advice from a lot of those people: It tend to be a variation of platitudes that doesn't actually help anyone improve things (like happy wife, happy life tend to mean just be a doormat and do whatever she says from my discussion with people). There is also the fact that there are a lot of toxic marriages out there and I wouldn't consider those "successful".
They want equality when they reap the dividends, but when it comes to shouldering the same burdens, they simply aren't interested and will still levy that expectation elsewhere.
All the power, none of the responsibility. Which sadly has only ever had one end result.
Which is why women should NEVER hold power.
Not the dadvocate though
Not even me.
'responsibility for your emotions' is a superpower for me?
6:00 Ah yes, I remember 3 weeks ago when my wife was telling me how bad of a day she was having cause her grandparents got moved in to a home cause theyre 90+. I took our daughter to an activity and went got my wife some flowers to try and cheer her up or at least show her I was thinking of her. Had our daughter take them to her as she was "hanging out" with her older daughter up stairs. I get a text 20 minutes late thanking me for the flowers. And then the next week she files for divorce cause we dont really talk anymore. Yeah, men hold all the power.
I've yet to hear an argument against 50/50 that's not based entirely on sexism
It always defaults to the traditional gender roles too, yet they don't want to fill theirs.
How ... did she go from "wtf?" to "good for you, glad you figured that out, oh hey thats very insightful"?
In relationships I have asked what can I do.. I have gotten a "Nothing its fine" to "wtf how do you not know what I need right now?! Can't you see I'm hurt?!" ... I have had a lot of different responses even the "Thanks..." when I did do something.
I asked a lady at work about this and she had told me "Every woman is her own type of crazy, some is good crazy some is bad.. The only thing you can do is be consistent, honest and kind if they don't accept your kindness then be honest with yourself and keep those feet moving consistently in the opposite direction"
Ah, yes, the power to be subservient is definitely the only power in a relationship.
Men might have the power in the relationship as long as they are willing to walk away from it. But with a 1% success rate in dating, many don't have the mindset for this.
this is the way I see it. when I had a roommate (guy) he paid his half and anything he wanted that I didn't (I don't watch tv, I only use the internet. SO he paid for the tv portion and we split the internet part as he used it also. he liked potato chips, I don't, so he bought what he wanted and I didn't eat them. ect... ). SOOOO if women are 'strong' and 'independent'... and men and women are 'equal' in everyway... WHY WOULDN'T SHE PAY HER HALF??? the days of "her money is her money and my money is 'OUR' money" are over...
Your relationship is however you and your partner want it to be / decide it will be..
No one else's business, not the internet, not your friends, just the two of you.
If you decide to pay for everything, that's up to you..
If you want your partner to chip in, that's only fair..
The cost of living today, is way outta hand.
Im sure very few people can foot the whole bill.
I don't feel emasculated because I tend to treat women as adults instead of treating them as children.
Stuff like this reaffirms why I have been single for the last 20 years. And though I know I will be single for the rest of my life, and that loneliness gets to me at times, I think it's a blessing in disguise. The delusion in modern society is crazy.
I've never dated, and I likely never will. So I hear you.
not all woman are crazy - unfortunately the % is high
How can women like her not feel embarrassed by treating men as walking wallets?
WRT "men have all the power" - I think it's pretty common that we see ourselves as powerless and for it to be invisible to us when we have power.
We 'get to' help them with a bad day? Ok, if we don't, then... Wowsers, this ratio-ee is a trip.
I like that word lol. She IS a ratioee. Ratioeé?? 😂 Receiver Of The Ratios.
Going back to the money thing, to be fair, in my first marriage I (the husband) took what we each made, figured out each percentage of our income, and recommended that we each put that same percentage each month into a joint account for paying for housing and things. My wife's counter-point was that her haircuts are $100, mine are $20; her clothes are more expensive, she had more medical bills, etc. So eventually she whittled her side down pretty far. Not saying she was wrong, but when you're talking about money, there are somewhat objective differences between men and women, based on how our society works. On the other hand, there was a woman I dated and I did insist we go 50/50 on dates. Because I wanted to go out one night per weekend, whereas she wanted to go out like 3 times a week. And I literally couldn't keep up with all of the food and drink costs.
My answer to the 50/50 question was legit just "because women work." Why would I be embarrassed about women working?
I'm expected to chip in on chores, you're expected to chip in on expenses. It's 50/50 down the line ladies, deal with it.
"Where is the famale lonliness epidemic?"...well about 5-10 years from now. We really need to start listening to people again. Thank you for what you do Lauren.
If a man has a bad day, she's gonna go, "How can I help you?"
Uh...no. Both of my ex wives made everything about them when I had days from hell. IT. NEVER. FAILED.
8:34 omfg i didnt even realize she said "woman that ive been in" and not "been in a relationship with" 😂😂😂😂
Honestly, I enjoy watching your videos because half the time I'm amused, and the other half I'm reminded "Hey, you're kind of going down the same road as the people she's making fun of. Maybe you need to do a little course correction".
Just wanted to say that I found your spray bottle labeled "SUPER NO" hilarious
I'm gay, not sure why I watch these videos, but oml does it make me happy that I get to miss all these weird gender based standards and not stress 😂🎉
I actually get this a lot lmao I have a very delightful bear community specifically 😂
I'm a gay man, too, but I still have my mothers and sisters. Less so on the latter (and one of my two sisters), but my mother is exactly the kind of woman that a lot of men are complaining about in the comments to these vids, and my other sister is a real piece of work herself, so I *_still_* have to deal with it.
I've been on both sides of this. My first marriage, I made half what my ex-wife did. I contributed 75% of my pay to the "household", while she contributed about 40% of hers. My 25% put gas in the car to commute, or pay for my motorcycle insurance, or date nights, or grabbing a lunch out once in a while. I had very little of my own money. So yeah, that was rough. Got divorced, kept the house, primary for the kids, and actually had more spending money, while paying for roughly the same stuff. She wasn't paying child support in that first year either.
I've remarried now, and the dynamic in respect to earnings has reversed partly. I make about 1/3 more than she does; despite that, our finances are pretty balanced. She needs money, its there. I need money, it's there. We do it all together, and it doesn't matter who makes what, because we support each other, our kids, and our home, together.
The difference is staggering. First marriage, very much what was addressed in this video, with a healthy smattering of NPD and cheating. Second marriage, equals, no secrets, no BS.
Folks stuck in toxic marriages, men or women, it's not as bad getting out as you think. Don't stay for fear. Don't stay for the kids; I assure you, the kids will be happier if you're happier. Don't stay for money. Yes, it's scary, but I would rather be happy, and have to work an extra decade before retiring, then be miserable, emotionally abused, and lonely. Your toxic spouse has no right to make you unhappy, or to control you with money or fear. You are equal partners, and if you're not, that is a major red flag. If you earn less, that doesn't make you any less important. If you earn more, that doesn't make you any more important. Not to the relationship. Your kids are not weapons to be used against you, or to be used against your spouse. If you're worried about custody, don't. The judge will take into account what the kids want. Unless you're a bad parent, you will have joint, if not full, custody of your kids. The law does not want to take children away from parents without good cause. Just be honest, and tell your kids the same. Don't coach them. Just tell them to be honest. If your kids are 12 or older, at least in Canada, they get a say. You have to be a terrible parent to lose your kids.
"I was doing whatever they wanted." - Um I am gonna need citation on that one. Having a hard time imagining THAT woman doing whatever her bf wanted
8:22 ive literally never had a single one of my ex girlfriends ever ask if i was okay or what they could do for me when i had a bad day. This lady is out of her gourd.
I was with a woman for 10 years and not once did she ask how she could help my bad day. At best i got ‘I’m sorry you’re having a bad day’
@@Pikawarps yea same. While I have had females ask what's wrong and if they can help, it's only ever been my sister, my mom, or my cousins. Never anyone I've dated. It's just sad that we are expected to be this and that and all this shit is just silly. I'm just a human, just another dude. If a relationship isn't a partnership to go through life together through the up and downs what the fuck even is it but a shallow phase? These people will end up lonely and "broken hearted" at the end of the day, they'll end up pushing away everyone that would love em with attitudes like this.
Can you imagine the gall of a wife who works and whose husband also works saying that the man should pay for everything. That's her. She trashed her husband for putting her thrrough the "mental load" of having to tell him what to do around the house while admitting that he does the cooking and, when asked, does what she wants him to do. It's never enough with some of these self-centered harpies.
Someone needs to find this woman's husband and save him from her. Seriously, she is going to make his life one of servitude and psychological abuse. Too many men stay in relationships where they are giving without keeping score while women are keeping score but cheating on the score. They're counting things they do that shouldn't count because they only benefit her and they're not counting things he does that benefit the family. On this woman's scorecard, the husband paying for everything or most things doesn't count at all because it's a man's role to pay. .
6:47 legit have these as notifications for my phone, and I instinctively checked for texts.
After I met a girl who asked how she could make my bad days better, I put a ring on her finger. That's an exceptionally rare find, and I don't want to screw that up because I know I will likely never see that again
I can remember my folks. When Mom was working, it was added into the pool of money for the house
"If I need $5, and you give it to me, then when you need $5 I'll give it to you..........and that means you have the power in the relationship!"
....huh!? Isn't that a perfectly equitable exchange?
This is an incredibly obvious moment of "His money is her money, and her money is her money."
The thing that blew my mind is the whole, they have all the power? You can ask and bow, and beg and that somehow makes you the one with the power? The Dadvocate is right, when have you ever seen a woman react positively in those situations. Women decide (and within the first few seconds of meeting you) if you have any chance. They decide when things (or if things) happen in a relationship. If they leave, legally they have the power. If they decide they don't want you interacting with children, or they want half your stuff they have the power. It's all literally built around women.
I am not bitter. (Not at the moment) But I have seen this stuff, I've seen them just take others for a ride, and I've had women control every aspect of a relationship and yet somehow I was still the bad guy. I had to learn as well, just because a woman WOULD date me, doesn't mean I should be in a relationship with her. Even if that meant being alone and lonely. If both people aren't working on it, and working to try to understand and help the other one and putting all in, then .. you shouldn't be in it. You should do your best to work it out and find compromise (both).
Ask a woman who's having à bad time how you can fix it and the first thing she'll say is :"you're not listening to me, you're not here for me" 🤦
Damn... I must be powering wrong as I've litteraly been rejected 100% of the time I've asked out any woman.
Last woman I was talking to constantly told me about her issues and wanted help, but the one time I told her I had a bad day I got the responce, "That sucks." Then she returned to her issues.
4:40
yyyyeeeaaahhh... whenever a man tries to 'help' a woman having a 'bad day' he gets chewed out for not 'listening to her' and instead try to 'fix' her...
Ive been watching your videos since I stumbled on them about two weeks ago. Thank God! Someone, with intelligence enough to actually realize, if you treat your partner as an idiot, who has the magical powers of seeing into your mind, then having given up on any sense of self , now reacts with the perfect action to either apologize, give the perfect poetic answer to her problem. Surrender all she married you for, AND now commit your entire exististence to her fairy tale idea of how she not only wants, but expects! you to behave in order to alleviate her distress of not being able to find a set of drapes that 'pick up the greens in the rug while complimenting the yellows in the wall painting. All of which she picked out, and you agreed to just to get peace and your weekends back, free from going store to store to be berated at EVERY suggestion, comment or joke.
I love when she returns from leaving the house without the need for permission. And ensueing fight when wanting to waste my time in the garage on a project that keeps me sane.
Walking in with a surprising look of bewilderment that Im not lay in pool of my own filth. Unable to release my grip on the TV remote that I my find sustenance to survive the time she may return.
All topped off wth, "WHY DONT YOU EVER TELL ME YOU LOVE ME". I know should my wife be a perfect human being, I would still be the one with fault s.
But F,?K ME, Where did that fun girl I found on bar room floor go?.
"Men hold all of the power in a relationship."
Okay, I don't think so but this should be interesting. Continue.
"See, you can fix her problems when she has problems! So he has all the power!"
... okay, I was not expecting that angle.
The main power men have in relationships is choosing not to get into one with an undeserving woman.
First time I ever lived with a girl, and this was my request to share things that were shared like water, electricity, paper towels… Every time the bill came, she would get livid at me like incredibly angry. She would eventually pay it because she was so far into our relationship, but I could tell she was so entitled and pissed off. Also, she made more money than me
And my family still wonders why I'm single...
If you aren't already, you should start archiving Tweets/videos. Or maybe download them. Less concern if they go back and delete them (or block you) later.
Standard tactic, shame men into vuluntary slavery and make it the socidal norm, but even then thy won't be satisfied, because nothing can.
I have been paying the household bills for my house alone for 2 years. It is rough on me.
OMG, I ain't even half way through and I'm rollin'!! I'm married and I assure you that if I ask "how can I fix this," its not gonna work, LOL. I think I'm right when I just listen to her vent... even if its about me... She does the same for me... as long as I don't throw things around like a garage gorilla, LOL. Yea, that lady is almost there (after watching to the end)... I hope she figgures it out. Ain't nobody gonna "complete" you!! Disney/Hallmark/Lifetime, etc got love all wrong!
I'm not ashamed because I want a partner, not a sugar baby.
Totally read this title as a custody thing and wasn't at all shocked or surprised a woman would feel that way
It's so cute this woman thinks she's in our current multi-verse...In my relationship, as the 'man of the house', I grew up with the concept that I take care of the bills, and help the wife with the house. I've probably spoiled my wife in that I do all that, and also take care of the laundry, majority of the dishes, I make our lunches, and feed our 2 dogs. I usually get pulled into helping her out with other tasks/chores after I get off work. And a lot of time I feel I can't get any time to myself really, or for projects/chores that would take me away from her close proximity. I do feel that the home should be a 50/50 relationship....and I'm getting more 80/20 with her lacking. Ugh...(thank you for the entertaining video!!)
I lean on a guess and check approach mostly. Hug, water, food, pain meds and to be left alone all have different branches
Have you ever heard:
Do not lead, I will not follow
Do not follow, I will not lead.
Walk beside me and we will share life together.
My wife likes to spoil me and is grumpy when she can't so no, not embarrassed at all when I don't pay for everything.
5:40 "Happy wife, happy life" demonstrates, clearly, the man in a relationship has the power. (sarcasm)
It's good to see how you routinely & logically breakdown things like this without needing to gaslight anyone. She suffers from the same issue as so many others- she can't see the forest through the trees. However, unlike so many- I have hope that she may eventually figure it out. She @ least realized that she needed to change, & despite the fact that she still needs to change more, so many women are either blind to the possibility, or sadly, just wantonly refuse to improve themselves. Oh & your LoZ/Navi comment killed me lol.
I've never asked to go 50/50 but these same "women" say the same about coffee dates though... nah, I ain't ashamed.
The moments of clarity are when the pills kick in lol
Honestly when she was talking real talk and then fall back it was like listening to Foil by Weird Al Yankovic, first she was cooking and suddenly OH BY THE WAY I CRACKED THE CODE, comedy genius!!
Believing u should (at all times) be the center attention, is actually narcissim.
If some women want to live with traditional genders roles, that's fine, but I'm not embarrassed by not sharing the same expectations, i just dont want to date them in that case.
They assume they have the only valid world view and assert that anyone with a different view is embarrassing.
What's embarrassing is being that inflexible and judgemental of other people.
If a man has a bad day, there's going to be an enormous fight. Women don't give an inch.
Sometimes you don’t know there a problem until its to late. Then it’s too late to fix anything.
We may get to stear the ship, but we don't own the boat.
Woman's upper hand if put on a map would look like Verizon's coverage map, just all red/pink with spots of blue in the middle of nowhere
"Women should be equal to men in all regards!"
Ok cool I agree. Let's split the bills evenly.
"Oh no, not like that."
The only power we have is we are the gatekeepers of relationships. We don't have much power IN them.
Crazy ladies out here dangling a bare hook and claiming theres powerbait on it. Yo... I can see there isnt a glob of neon foam on that hook... I aint biting.
5:20 hell nah, every time I give someone an (usually obvious) solution to their problem that shit got me in trouble. Hear shit like "I just want to vent." A lotta people see trying to "fix" the problem (at least with an effective fix) as trivialising *their experience* of the problem.
I’m trying to make what she said make sense, but it just doesn’t.
If it is the man's job to fix whatever issues a woman is having, who has the power? All the woman needs to do is act like something is wrong so the man can "fix it" so she gets whatever she wants.
Me watching this on the way to get my partner sushi and surprise him with Dune 2....
Gotta start recording the REELS.😂
She is Delulu! I 'av a betta chance, of going to McDonalds and getting Free chicken nuggets, than keeping my head askin' her "What is wrong." 😅😂
Dadvocate, I know this is a lot to ask, but please reach out to this person and establish a dialogue.
Because I SERIOUSLY need to know what she's smoking...
Some people honestly believe that if they dont have 100% control in a situation that they are then powerless. Victim mentality
I'm trying to figure out how everything she said has anything to do with men having the upper hand in relationships. I need a map, and a compass.
Even the LOZ(legend of zelda) timeline is not as much of a mess as trying to parse her bad opinions
I always saw it as overall investment of fifty/fifty, well... or as close as works happily (genuinely not fear of loneliness induced claims of happy) with your given relationship. Recognizing your investment is not by default financial but meaningful from a far less artificial system of value like economics. Means a sense of emotional intention in your connection and not solidly locked in your wallet and working hours. This whole back and forth of women claiming some perfection in being demanding and men expecting but rarely demanding substance beyond the womans atypical standards of yesteryear... not seeking to be helped when some women are wanting more, fire nothing and no true merit to brave that supposed need, it's got me wondering. Whatever happened to our self education on topics we claimed drive or interest us, and not just RUclips videos? Like some of the demanding upset women looking into the average pay lines, not minimum wage but average pays vs the areas costs, yes in the whole of the country. Now when you write that down look into what percentage of jobs can actually achieve the type of life those women expect their men to hold for them to mostly enjoy, and within that how many (or more likely few) hours that leaves a man to give a damn about anything else. With that said, and assuming these women have actual self awareness, academic intelligence and emotional intelligence. Can a woman then still say that their other half, their person in their relationship. Should give her everything, absolutely possible... And then that womans partner is worthless for expecting some pickup on the the woman's side? Don't forget, we have long proven peple need time for themselves relatively or not so... That man needs reciprocated energy and effort showing their effort is valued by that little girl pretending at being a woman, not forgetting, as already mentioned; They need time to be themselves for themselves, rather than just live as constant disposable resource farm for unappreciating numpty tools claiming love.
50/50 also means when her man is having a bad day SHE has the power to also ask him. What can I do about it how can I help. I bet she doesnt
These edits kill me 😂. Its the use of sound that gets me the most 😂
😂🤣😂 The Navi reference from Zelda!!! Love you even more now lol
Oh man, i freaking love @The_Dadvocate 's ... STATs, Stats, stats !!! **airhorn!**