RUclips algorithm brought me here 6y late. Very interesting topic, very well conducted. The Mr & Ms Smith example about the roles positions shifting is epic. Love it. Cheers.
Well explained. Thank you for looking into the camera instead of looking at, say your own image in a monitor. A private student thanks you, Colin Brett.
You just blew the lid off of every single negative drama cycle I ever had. I was suffering from it for so long and did my best to do the do not get involved thing without being detatched. ..... And then you just took the "don't jinx it" attitude out of every positive relationship I have ever had in my life. Thank you, now I can let go of so much! Wonderfully explained!
Excellent explanation and thank God there is a way to address having to be in the destructive triangle. This has opened my eyes up a lot about my relationships with others.
As i noticed people are at the same time victim, persecutor and rescuer but in diffrent relatishons, so you have agressive type of person who is patheticly depending on some other person and in that relashion presents victim but in other cases is persecutor.
Hi great video easy to follow. Just having some fun here. The responder was mind reading believing he new there was a problem, and yes as you have said thought he could help. To break the chain, one may just not respond. And when one answers on the positive level one may change the problem state to a resource state. And can move the issue, not problem into the past. So, what is the issue you had? And how have you corrected it? This may bring in his resources, and problem-solving skill to the present issue, with the sense and emotion of success? One could watch to see where he focused to see where he anchors this response in relation to his body also. Just having fun, thanks for the video.
Rescuer and victim are the same if you really think about it. They both are seeking external validation. Victim feels validation when people put effort into helping them and rescuers feel validation when the victim shows dependency/appreciation.
when the victim does not turn into vulnerable r can respond to the victim, but let her be let her find out what to do, acknowledge feelings and let go to see what the victim finds out.
That's right. Rescuer should encourage the victim to stand up for themselves against persecutor, and tell victim to be assertive. Instead of rescuer confronting persecutor.
6:10 ... If the cartridge installing person was an employee or a paid contractor, then it is just business. One can choose to have contractors come in and do stuff for one, anytime; workers. o0o
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RUclips algorithm brought me here 6y late. Very interesting topic, very well conducted. The Mr & Ms Smith example about the roles positions shifting is epic. Love it. Cheers.
Well explained. Thank you for looking into the camera instead of looking at, say your own image in a monitor.
A private student thanks you, Colin Brett.
You just blew the lid off of every single negative drama cycle I ever had. I was suffering from it for so long and did my best to do the do not get involved thing without being detatched. ..... And then you just took the "don't jinx it" attitude out of every positive relationship I have ever had in my life. Thank you, now I can let go of so much! Wonderfully explained!
awesome video Bobbie MacPhee. I crushed that thumbs up on your video. Keep up the fantastic work.
This video was insanely helpful, thank you. Before I watched this video I didn't get the triangle at all.
Excellent explanation and thank God there is a way to address having to be in the destructive triangle. This has opened my eyes up a lot about my relationships with others.
Very clearly explained and interesting, learning this on my course, thank you!
Beautifully explained, very clear, great teaching. Thank you.
Thank you for the very clear explaination and the additoinal information around the winnter's triangle
THANK YOU SO MUCH, Bobby! Story of my life in all areas!! This is VALUABLE!!
As i noticed people are at the same time victim, persecutor and rescuer but in diffrent relatishons, so you have agressive type of person who is patheticly depending on some other person and in that relashion presents victim but in other cases is persecutor.
Thank you for this marvellous explanation.. Love the delivery, teaching style and examples.
I watched a few videos about this drama triangle. You've been lovely to learn from !
what a beautiful and harmonizing explanation! Thank you, love it!
Wonderful Explanation. Thanks a Lot.
I love his clarification and examples.
Beautifully explained. Great video. Thanks!
Beautiful video. Very healing. Thank you for doing it.
Very helpful video, thanks Bobbie
Love this mans presenting style. A tad camp but good.
Hi great video easy to follow. Just having some fun here. The responder was mind reading believing he new there was a problem, and yes as you have said thought he could help. To break the chain, one may just not respond.
And when one answers on the positive level one may change the problem state to a resource state. And can move the issue, not problem into the past. So, what is the issue you had? And how have you corrected it?
This may bring in his resources, and problem-solving skill to the present issue, with the sense and emotion of success? One could watch to see where he focused to see where he anchors this response in relation to his body also.
Just having fun, thanks for the video.
Rescuer and victim are the same if you really think about it. They both are seeking external validation. Victim feels validation when people put effort into helping them and rescuers feel validation when the victim shows dependency/appreciation.
I found this explanation very helpful . Many thanks!
Thank you! I really enjoyed watching your wonderful explanation!
Excellent, very transcendent thank you
Thanks for this - really well presented
Great job explaining!!
So well done. Thank you
Rescuers may need to be 'needed' in order to feel useful. They may need to see others as victims to make themself feel better.
clearly explained .. i like this and have learnt this on a course i did today
Excellent - many thanks
Great video, great explanation :)
Great video. Thanks.
thank you, very informative
i understand being vocal and responsive instead of getting involved in the drama triangle but how would you be assertive without being agressive
when the victim does not turn into vulnerable r can respond to the victim, but let her be let her find out what to do, acknowledge feelings and let go to see what the victim finds out.
That's right. Rescuer should encourage the victim to stand up for themselves against persecutor, and tell victim to be assertive. Instead of rescuer confronting persecutor.
Plus R cannot confront V too, and give advice creates more confusion, and V cannot move on
Very helpful
Watching this I'm so glad I'm Autistic... it seems being neurotypical is such a complicated affair.
Thank you!!!!
6:10 ... If the cartridge installing person was an employee or a paid contractor, then it is just business.
One can choose to have contractors come in and do stuff for one, anytime; workers.
o0o
well said if its not drama😅.soft spoken but really can catch attention to listener/viewer/audience.Effective speaker and cute/charming😅😊.
wow
Not always true some rescuers hook up with each other and some victims also hook up with each other what is this called.
Danielle Mccarter madness
Not pretending... Not aware of their assets...I learned to stop using all these roles so much. Feels healthier