Our Bodies are Not an Image | Mary Jelkovsky | TEDxCherryCreekWomen
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- Опубликовано: 19 дек 2024
- In a society surrounded by pictures, videos, and social media, body-image concerns continue to be on the rise. 96% percent of women report wanting to change their body in some way which shows that this is not an individual problem of low self-esteem, but rather a collective disconnect with how we see our body-image. Girls and women especially are bombarded with images of so-called “perfect bodies” that are often unattainable without going to extreme methods of weight control. Failure to achieve this “perfect body” can cause decreased self-esteem, feelings of unworthiness, or even an eating disorder. Although many people have spoken up about the importance of positive body-image and body positivity, Mary Jelkovsky explains how this approach can be a double-edged sword. Instead, she offers an unconventional approach for healing body-image struggles, building self-confidence, and cultivating unconditional self-love. Mary Jelkovsky (known as @maryscupofteaa on social media) is a former bikini fitness model turned self-love advocate and women’s retreat host.
After recovering from an eating disorder of 8 years and healing her body, mind, and spirit, she started her online platform Mary’s Cup of Tea, to inspire women to be more confident in their bodies and love themselves unconditionally.
Mary’s story has been featured in publications like Teen Vogue, Women's Health, and Self Magazine because unfortunately, so many women know what it’s like to hate their bodies. Mary is committed to changing this trend by empowering women of all shapes and sizes through her social media, online programs and worldwide self-love retreats.
Mary's biggest inspiration is her spunky, 11-year-old sister Ilana who knows how to dance like no one's watching and love with her whole heart. Mary wants Ilana to grow up in a world where women are empowered to chase their dreams without being bogged down by beauty standards. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I can’t believe this is meee!!! 😍 Ahhh I just hope that every woman who watches this loves herself a little more after this talk ♥️♥️♥️
You are absolutely amazing. Love you always
So proud of you!!!! Congrats❤️❤️❤️
It was phenomenal!
Im so proud of you Mary, I've follwed you on IG forever, and its so amazing to see your growth. You inspire me every single day, and I'm just so happy for you! Thank you for everything you do! 💙
This is so amazing. You're an inspiration for me
That’s my daughter!!!!
What a relief you ordered her a moca!!! ♥️
You should be so proud!!!! Your daughter is saving lives, mine included 🙋
Amazing Job raising your daughter, Lena. Beautiful text. A reminder to love our kids through their "ugliest" moments. Thank you.
Lena Jelkovsky your daughter changed my life for the better.
Your daughter is saving lives. You should be so proud of the impact she's having on the world. What mother can say that?
If you liked this talk, please give it a thumbs up so it can reach every woman struggling with body image and self love!! 🙏♥️
Excellent talk and something cuts so very deep, well done.
Thank you for this mary. I found you a year ago on instagram and i‘m so happy about this. Thank you for your work, you are such an insporation. Greetings from Germany to you, you beautiful strong woman. ❤️
Not only women, men too
What about men?
Mary, I've watched this a few times before. But it's been awhile - I'm so glad I watched it again today. You are truly an inspiration. ♥
This is incredible. I'm typing this with tears rolling down my face. So relatable and real. Thank you for sharing your story and yourself with us!!
Chantell Gamble thank YOU for being here Chantell 🙏😘
"my mom loved me when i couldn't love myself "... Can 't relate more to this sentence, i'm as much sorry as i'm grateful to my mom who never left me even of the worst time... You 're so brave, your mamma must be so proud ❤
"Your body is an experience." I'm gonna repeat that to myself a *lot*. Thank you so much for sharing! 💓
I am a 13 year old girl, relating to every word just because I am broader than others, because I don't have the 'perfect' body. This ted talk really made me love myself a little more
Mary,
I remember when I was in my sophomore year of high school, I had to write a timed essay of something inspiring or of importance. I decided to write this timed essay about you- a woman who has inspired me every single day. I still see your posts on social media daily, and every time I do, I'm reminded that my body is just fine the way it is. I don't need to diet or try to look a certain way- for I am human, and I deserve to take up space.
Thank you so much for continually inspiring me, and even helping my confidence. I'm sure others can say the exact same thing.
SmileyKitKat YOU WROTE AN ESSAY ABOUT ME WHAT IM CRYING 😭😭😭
My therapist sent me this video as I am struggling with body dysmorphia and I am so glad she did. This is incredibly powerful. Thank you, Mary 💝
I got emotional with you, remembering what I missed out on and how great it feels to be where I am now. Thank you for this talk, you did good❤️
I know right... we missed out on SO much but no more!!
You made me cry as I was listening this while working on assignments for my internship (student nutrition and dietetics) and it hit home way to hard. You can be so proud on yourself, you're helping so many women across the world. We need more Mary's in this world. Thank you for being you 💕
Benthe Senders I so greatly appreciate you!! Thank you so much girl ❤️
At one point all the instagram pages I was following were of fitness women with “perfect” bodies and I thought I was motivating myself but it turns out that I was only making myself feel worse. And I don’t mean to put down fitness women at all but I realised I need to focus attention inward and listen to my own body and mind to figure out what I need and how to love myself. You are doing such a good job of reminding me of the important things!
This honestly made me tear up. Really powerful talk. Thank you for everything you do, Mary. You are truly impacting lives.
1) Pause. Face what you are feeling. 2) Breathe. Focus your energy and attention to the area around your heart. Shift focus from mind to heart. Picture sending all that energy to your heart space. 3) let yourself feel the love. Give yourself permission to feel your own love.
Such a fantastic message and so spot on in today’s world. Congrats Mary
This made me cry but it also made me learn a bit more about what I need to fully start to recover from my eating disorders. Thank you for so openly sharing your stories
Truely lost for words! Thank you for this beautiful gift to every person who watches this ❤❤
This talk saves me everytime I'm feeling low, it is my most favourite TED talk, ever. It makes me burst with pride and happiness. Mary you are amazing 💗
Such wisdom in someone so young! I am twice your age and I am inspired by your words. The phrase "your body is an experience" will stick with me. Love and light to you, Mary.
im actually crying. mary i love you so so much. you've helped me through so much without even realizing and im so grateful
The message is brilliant! The story is told beautifully! You are so raw and so real, Mary! I LOVE THIS MESSAGE!!!!
ahhh thank you so much girl!!!
Thank you Mary, i am from Brazil and you changed my life
"And I let myself feel her love..." how wonderful...
You're blessed!
i love mary. she literally changed my life
Well done Mary, you are AMAZING. 😭
Proud of you. 💜
You're such an incredible person. You've literally changed my life. Thanks to you I'm learning to love myself more than I've ever done. Seeing you doing this Ted talk has made me the happiest. You've done an incredibly job. I'm so happy for you ❣
I am so honored to hear that!! Thank you so so much for watching and supporting me :')
The laugh at the end won my heart.
4 months later and I'm just now watching this with tears in my eyes, because I've been there one too many times. Thank you for sharing your story and helping me love my self a little bit more. Someday I wish to change lives like you do. I know I have a long way to go, but I'll think of your story as I do. Lots of love from one soul to another.
Thank you for the 3 steps, Mary! Sometimes at work, I find myself letting people telling me it’s not worth it for a girl/women push carts at a Walmart. Self worth is definitely important 👏🏼❤
I've been following you for so long Mary and you've changed how I feel about myself and my body in so many ways. I'm so happy watching this ! All the love to you ! ❤️
ive been following her instagram for awhile now and its really helped me love myself. marys posts talk about real relatable things that should be seen by anyone who needs to improve their confidence. its amazing people like mary that keep teenagers like myself from going down the wrong road mentally. i dont personally know her but she has made such an impact on me. truly inspirational
Allison Moore thank you thank you Allison 😭😭 you are such a gem!! ♥️
So proud of you and all that you’ve achieved. You are amazing, girl! You’ve helped my life in so many ways, I can’t wait to see what life has in store for you next.
so so grateful you're here for the self love journey!!
I love you so much, Mary! My ED recovery also started with a panic attack over a mocha ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Great talk. As someone who has struggled with body image (and still struggle from time to time), it's great hearing your story and how you overcame your struggles. Keep doing what you're doing!
I cried with you at the end! I’ve been following you for a while now and am always nonstop inspired by you 💛
you have been so supplementary to how i've fostered self love, and how much i've progressed through my recovery. i still remember seeing you almost two years ago in Bali and literally getting all teary eyed because i was ACTUALLY SEEING you in real life. you are inspiring so many and helping the future generations. so much love for you Mary xx
Mary, thank you for sharing your story. It will touch so many lives. The feeling of joy and the sense of love you have for yourself was so evident at the end. You are making such big waves in the community. Thanks again 💗
i'm so proud of her, this woman changed my l.... i mean, she saved my life, literally.
she's such a huge inspiration for me and to be honest, without her, i don't think i would be here today, and i'm so grateful to her, i love her from the bottom of my heart ☁️❤
Mary you are beautiful, powerful, and courageous!!! Thank you for being brave enough to put this message out there. Your leadership inspires me daily!
I'm crying, you're amazing! Thank you for everything you said for you and for us! You are a real woman!
i really have to pull myself together trying not to cry on the train. you are so amazing and such a beautifully worded talk!
but also it’s really visible that healing is a long journey that you are still taking part in!
love you x
I can't believe this is out! So excited! I've never been this early
I hope you like it!!
Such an amazing message. Thank you for sharing this moment in your life! It genuinely inspired me to change the way I view myself.
Every human on this planet needs to hear your message! Thank you for sharing Mary!
Oh girl. You made me cry! Beautifully said, Mary. Only we know what we've missed out throughout our entire lives before coming to this realization. I didn't go to my sister's graduation party because I didn't accept my body many years ago. I would never go to the beach with my friends and family either. I'm 36 now and I'm noticing that these feelings started to fade a couple years ago. And I'm freeing myself from society's ridiculous expectations/judgments. It's my body and I love it the way it is. Some days are easier than others. But today I chose to be happy and to do everything I would want to do if I were hungry. Today I'm going to put my bathing suit on and go to that hot tub I love going to.
Love you and your mission. Thank you! 💗
Mary you are so much more than beauty and grace. You have awakened yourself and the people around you to a new, better version of themselves that has absolutely nothing to do with their physical appearance. Congratulations on your success, you’ve earned it
this was AMAZING Mary. Hands down. you made me cry.
This is absolutely amazing. I just discovered Mary on social media this week at a time I really I needed her and she has made every negative thought I had about myself go away. What a beautiful soul inside and out ❤️
Kayla Donnelly thank you Kayla!! So happy to be able to help those negative thoughts go far far away!!! I hope to continue doing that ❤️
Holy cow Mary! I’m only a few minutes in and I’m balling like a baby! This hit home so much! Thank you thank you thank you ♥️♥️
Christina Adams I hope it’s a cathartic good cry!! Thank you so much for watching and letting the message land! 🙏
This is beautiful. Thank you for making it. I wish to share it and your posts with my 22 year old son and with so many people for that matter. Thank you, congratulations for making this and for the journey you’re on.
I cried. Thank you for talking about this. I was exactly like you before and I’m still struggling to accept myself. Thank you for putting awareness to this as I know many women are going through this.
This is one of the most life changing talks I’ve ever listened to. It brought me to tears! Thank you for your vulnerability and wise words. ❤️❤️❤️
Ive had a moment like that with my mum. It makes me so sad that i treated her so horribly even if it was just a few seconds. Life problems can really get a hold, and god forbid a dear loved one is at the forefront to take the biggest hit.
you are so real in this talk. nothing but naturality coming straight from your heart. thank you for sharing this Mary❤️
Mary, we love you unconditionally !! let your voice be heard!!
Kristina Petrosova :)))
So proud of you, Mary! My heart is smiling so big! ❤️
Mary, i am following you since you and me start healing, a few years ago. Your Insta was showing bikini competition pics with the offer to train interested people. Now your are here, speaking this great text and i am so happy and proud for you!
Love this and Mary so so much! So relatable, so real and so needed!
This is wonderful- so genuine and heartfelt and relatable. Thank you !!!
i don’t think i’ve ever been so emotional listening to a TED talk. you speak so eloquently, so beautifully and so truthfully and you have genuinely changed my life for the better, and i’m sure many would agree with me. following you on instagram and listening to your messages such as this talk were the driving forces for me to recover from my ED, especially when i felt like there was no one else there and i can not express how truly inspirational you are!! you are changing the lives of so many young girls who instead of following fit tea accounts that are filled with photoshop, they’re coming across you, and your message is so beautiful and so powerful i genuinely believe it can change the world. i have so much to thank you for mary - please never doubt your work (i know you do, listening to your podcast!) because it is such an incredible force for feminism, freedom and love. As soon as i’m 18 - 2 years yet :( - i’m straight on one of your self love retreats, but until then, i’ll keep coming back to your instagram and this TED talk to remind myself of all the beauty and positivity there is in this world. Thank you again Mary, love Ella 💗
Ella Chamberlain ELLA STOP IM CRYING 😭😭😭 you are so sweet and strong and beautiful inside and out Ella!! I’m so glad I could help my fellow warrior ❤️
maryscupoftea thank you for replying that honestly means so much to me! keep up the amazing work mary, you are truly incredible 💗
So empowering, as an ED survivor struggling still, this was much needed. Thank you.
Elsa Ravel thank you for being here for your healing ❤️
Ugh just crying all throughout. Thank you, friend
so proud of you Mary! you are so incredible, I've been waiting so long for this to come out!
Ava Kulinski thank you so much Ava 😭
Amazing to hear this. I've followed you on Instagram for 2~ years and your posts are so refreshing and helpful. I've been obsessive about eating and fitness for 6 years and you introduced true health to me. Thank you.
Yes Mary! You inspire me, came from your Instagram
L Symbolik
Best of luck! You can do it:)
Thank you so much for sharing ❤️. I’m in the same boat, I struggle with my body and obsess over my weight. I’m working on it, but it’s not easy. You are soo gorgeous and beautiful, it’s really eye opening to how damaging the diet industry is to us women. It makes even the most beautiful women hate their selves.
You’re amazing Mary! So proud of you! ♥️♥️♥️
Aww I loved seeing how happy you were at the end Mary!! This was so amazing, you did such a great job!!! ❤️❤️
Yesss this is amazing, Mary! I am so happy that more people will get to hear your message via this video. Your delivery was so clear and powerful. Well done! ❤
Regarding: 9:10. For some of us make absolutely sure you DO NOT speak to yourself like your mom would. Create in your head how you’d like your mom to speak to you, make the picture as big as possible. Maybe someone from the movies will help. Mrs Doubtfire for me- tells my age.
I just really felt identified with this talk not just for body image but for anything in life... I love it Mary!
Thank you for share your experience!! ✨
Dang girl, you rock. You brought tears to my eyes and were so inspiring. Wish I could have seen you live!
Cried my heart out. Been there so many times. You’re amazing.
I really needed this!!!! I’m so proud of you❤️
That was wonderful Mary!! I know you’ve said public speaking scares you, but you did so well with your pacing on this talk!! You are speaking to a lot of us who need to hear what you have to say- so keep it up!! ❤️
GO MARY GO! So much love and support coming your way!!!
Hi Mary!!! I am a big fan of your podcast!! I am from Mexico and I just wanna tell you that this Ted talk is amazing!!! I have been struggling with my eating disorder all my life, and hearing your story gave me hope :) thank you!!
Claudia Ornelas Gómez thank you so much Claudia! I so greatly appreciate you!
She is soo sweet and I can relate sooo much thanks for the advice🤍
Thank you for this Mary! Love you so much
Girl you are amazing. Im literally out of words❤❤❤❤
♥️ such an amazing talk. Speaking in front of an audience seems to be your thing 😍 you’re glowing 💫⭐️
You are an amazing human being and you help me everyday to feel better about my body and myself. Thank you for that !! ❤️❤️
This is so inspiring and I am so grateful that I got the chance see this in person 😊 It's definitely one of my favorite memories in Denver. So much love for you Mary ♥️
You're such a role model and just so full of light and positivity. Thank you for sharing that valuable energy with the world❤️🌺
Lili Gundacker thank you for being on this self love journey ❤️
What an amazing woman, thanks for this open talk and the strength to open up and bring this topic into the open.
Reading the book "Intuitive Eating" and the documentary "Embrace" is something I would recommend for every women who want's out of this system. It was quiet eye opening for me.
So amazing and inspiring!!!!! ❤️
you never fail to inspire me. thank you for teaching young girls like me how to accept and love ourselves.
This really touched me. Thank you 🙏
I‘ve cried. Thank you Mary ❤️
Amazing. Thanks for sharing this Mary ! Love you!
Amazing job Mary!! So proud of you and such a beautiful message!!
You are such an inspiration Mary! 💕
Congrats Mary! You did incredible... you help & inspire women like me every single day
Chills. This gave me chills. So relatable and so inspiring. Thank you for this beautiful TED talk and all of the content you post on your podcast and instagram. You are amazing!!
Sammi Edwards thank you so much for watching girl! So glad it landed!
We love you, Mary! We appreciate you so much
Mary!!! So proud of you. So much love for you xx
Wow! Such a powerful message ❤️
Thank you verry verry much for this wonderful insight
Im at the point of obsession with diet and excercise and body "image" and I'm finally trying to let go of it but its hard when everyone is so proud of how "healthy" Ive become. it makes every little "unhealthy" decision feel like im letting people down. thabk you for your talk... it nade me feel a littlw less alone.
This is so beautiful, raw and true! Thank you for all of your work helping women feel empowered to love their bodies and themselves. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Samantha Bragg thank you Samantha!! 💜