When The Pain is Too Much - Surviving Separation & Divorce LIVE PART 2

What actually WORKS when emotions are overwhelming, and why dealing with overwhelming emotions is absolutely necessary if you want to be able to think clearly and logically.
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Divorce is dangerous, especially for men. Just two days ago I took a suicide education and prevention seminar with one of the leading experts in the field, Dr. Sally Spencer-Thomas. At the start of the seminar she taught us about the main risk factors... and I realized that my clients have EVERY SINGLE ONE. From the loss of a primary relationship. to feeling out of control and trapped, to feeling like a burden to their loved ones and having a sense of 'thwarted belonging'.
Dealing with overwhelming emotions is a necessity when it comes to not simply surviving divorce.
Many men pride themselves on being logical, rational... well, given the statistics it isn't logical to ignore your emotional pain. The only rational solution is to deal with it in the most effective, efficient manner possible so you can think clearly, make logical decisions and move forward with your life. If you don't, your nervous system will stay in fight/flight, or worse, in freeze, and you will lose access to the most rational parts of your brain.
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Guide: Emotional Stages of Divorce for Men & How to Heal within Each Stage
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Helpful Books for Divorced Men (affiliate links)
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► The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time
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► Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself - Concrete tools and exercises for rewiring the brain and reimagining your sense of self and purpose
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► Legendary - Inspiration and a powerful perspective for stepping into your potential
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► The Myth Of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture - Brilliant, in every way. This is an amazing resource for understanding yourself and your ex wife and finding the clarity or compassion you need to forgive.
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► Lost Connections: Why You're Depressed and How to Find Help - Intense and well researched. I would recommend this book when you are past the early stages of divorce and have a stable support system in place.
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I’m Rachael Sloan. I’m a divorce coach for men. I’m also a Master NLP Practitioner, a certified life coach, and the creator of Better Beyond Divorce, a unique approach to divorce recovery based specifically on the needs of men.
I help divorced men move from the shock, betrayal, grief and anger they experience both during and after a divorce, to a place of clarity, calm and confidence. In these videos, I intend to help you do the same.
DISCLAIMER: I am a Master NLP Practitioner and personal growth mentor. The material in this video represents my understanding and experience and nothing more. This content is not meant to replace professional medical advice, treatment or diagnosis. Always consult your medical provider before making any changes to your treatment.

[@AvaaMax]

You are an angel, Rachel. I don't think I would be able to go through this without you. Thank you so so much for everything you do for us who are going through this traumatic time. I am very grateful to have found your channel, your voice alone brings me peace and calmness. It's like you know exactly what I'm going through and have the perfect explanations to help me deal with and understand these feelings.

[@badman231177]

Thank you. This was very helpful. I like many others, am really going through it right now.

[@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach]

You're welcome, I'm glad this was helpful. I'm going to try to do some more regular live streams as they seem to be useful. I'm sorry you're going through it right now.
If you'd like any deeper support or just some extra resources, check out my new Better Beyond Divorce App. The free version has a lot of great extra content you might find helpful. You can find it here: resources.rachaelsloancoaching.com/bbd-free-app

[@badman231177]

@@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach Thank you. I’ll definitely check it out. You’re doing such important work.

[@spock23.06]

I worked for me a few months back. Thanks RS

[@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach]

You're welcome. Thank you for your comment, and thank you for continuing to be a part of this community!

[@Catladyofthesea]

Thank you for this ❤so good

[@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach]

You're welcome. Thank you for watching!

[@hieug.rection1920]

That’s funny. The breathing technique is combat breathing that the Marine Corps taught us. I was worried this was setting off some sort of latent mental trauma since it was kicking in my combat breathing reactions. Good to know it’s probably not that. Was really worried about since I couldn’t pinpoint any issues on that front.

[@RachaelSloanRelationshipCoach]

It sounds like you have a good resource there with the breathing, though depending on your history it could bring up some past issues. In my experience you can usually trust yourself - if you slow down and look at what's going on inside you will likely be able to pinpoint if there is something from the past coming up you need to address.