Salute you sir ❤Rida ma'am is intelligent ,sober and descent mother ...❤may Allah bless you and your whole family all the times ❤️ beneficial vedio for all mothers ....
Very well said. I have three kids born and raised in N. America. We have tried to follow the same principles as outlined by you. We speak Urdu or Punjabi at home, kids learn English as they go and mix with other kids in the school. we have not done any thing special but we have seen that our kids love to visit Pakistan and their grand parents more than we do. Kids raised in West are very honest and they lack street smart abilities as found in most of the kids raised in Pakistan. Honest and compassion is taught to them in the school system, my kids go to public school. Most of the public schools in Canada allow the Juma prayer in the school. I have noticed that my kids are more inclined towards their religion than I am. Yes, public school system in Canada is huge on LGBTQ agenda but kids coming from households as described by Dr. Javed's daughter know their identity, deen and responsibilities. I absolutely do not agree with people who says that it is very difficult to raise kids, specially daughters in the West as per the teachings of our deen. It is actually easy, the Western environment along with the teachings at home, raises questions in our children's minds, it makes them to explore our religion more and choose the right path.
Yes! this! JazakAllah! In the west kids do not know the street smart talk that is in Pakistan or any desi countries. They are taught to tell the truth and actually explore Islam in depth. It really stems down to how the parents raise them in their homes
Jazakallah khair for sharing. We r five siblings and we were born in Europe. You r right, the kids r more inclined towards religion and they even have an intact moral system (I’m not saying kids in pak don’t have) But what I have noticed is that the kids over there can easily lie and don’t feel bad about that, they can cheat or make any chalaki while the kids here mostly don’t understand these chalakis. But maybe that is coz the kids in pak r raised in joint family system. We were raised as pakis, we always spoke urdu at home, learnt Quran etc And my parents always talked to us. Of course as every parent they had their shortcomings like I have as a mother! But they always had good intentions and never did anything wrong out of purpose! I have four boys living in west. And I know the environment here and can easily explain it to my kids while my parents mostly didn’t know what was going in schools/tripps I give my kids Islamic values I tell them the differences between west and east but at the same time I even tell them, adopt good things from everyone (no matter which religion) that’s what my mom always says But unfortunately I see many Pakistanis coming to Europe try to “adjust and adopt” very stupid things! They forget their culture, religion and values and think when they adopt the western culture their kids will be successful but that’s not true ! I have seen maaaaany parents who even don’t talk Urdu with their kids coz they say we live in the west, they should tak the language which is spoken here: I would really suggest 1. Build a relationship with ue kids !!! Talk to them About everything 2. Live the values u want to teach ur kids!!! 3. And sometimes don’t be too strict, they sometimes have to make the wrong decisions ! Ya sounds bad but sometimes it is important! I hope I could help a little bit
Totally agree with you ! We live in England and sure I see a difference in my kids the knowledge of deen Islam and Islamic values they’re adopting and learning far more quickly then I did in Pakistan as a kid … anyways teaching them Urdu and our mother tongue (pothwari) is difficult when I started my life here I had to learn English so I can help myself and kids in future then the circumstances were quite exhausting as my first kid was born with a serious illness I spent a lot of years in hospital and daughter didn’t get a chance to learn Urdu properly I need tips how can I teach them Urdu 😓I try really hard at home !!! No luck in speaking they started to understand what I am saying but can’t speak at all
@@zaramohammed1516 my parents had the rule that we only speak Urdu at home, when u r in school and with friends u can speak German. But now (as I’m living in Germany with my kids) we had the rule that we only speak Urdu till the age of 3 (psychological reasons) and then I switched to German while my husband kept Urdu as a spoken language. U can divide it between u and ur husband He can speak English and u can keep Urdu. A friend of mine speaks Urdu and both partner speak Urdu but the kids don’t speak which is really sad. I would really suggest keep Urdu as a language Keep speaking it and watch Urdu cartoons/shows anything So that the kids know the melody of urdu and then they will adopt many words
Homeschooling is the way to go regardless of where you live. No one can teach your child better than yourself. You have the freedom to choose your curriculum and you save so much time in which you can do other things. The best part is that in early stage of a child’s life there is no negative influence, if you have a healthy home environment.
But what about the confidence and learning which a child gets in group work and interaction, speaking skills etc. specially when he works and plays with his age fellows….., seems less possible
I’m a Pakistani American who grew up in the west and I chose to homeschool because I did my research to find out the pros and cons of homeschooling before I started to homeschool my kids. There are so many resources for your child to use to be homeschooled. Homeschooled kids can get plenty of interaction when you put them in groups or activities. The reason why homeschool kids are way ahead and way smarter in every aspect because they are given the time and opportunity that only a parent can provide. Generally peoples perception on homeschool is that the child doesn’t leave the house which is the complete opposite. We literally are out of the house everyday and my kids are with other kids. Children get their lesson done way earlier while they do extra circular activity and still have so much time. In the west you have to make a conscious effort to have the love of islam. You can put them in swimming, language classes, building classes, take them to the library for story times for younger children, sports. There are also homeschool muslim mom groups on Facebook that you can join. They get together usually twice a week. Children who are connected with nature from toddler stages are so incredible because they learn to be entertained outdoors instead of screens. Another advice I would give is that kids should be screen free and tv should be a prop in the house. Once they reach the age of 5 they can watch it for an hour with monitored parenting so they are not deprived. Kids are naturally very smart and are able to comprehend anything they are really taught by example. You have to tell yourself that there will good days and bad days with the kids which is perfectly okay. Trust me they they see our efforts. Also you have to tell yourself you don’t need to have a conventional educations because conventional education is there for a reason. And if you disagree with those reasonings then homeschooling is for you. I have a kindergartner who is doing 1st grade curriculum and he studies for two hours a day. You guys can listen to sahil adeem and Gabor mate on parenting and homeschooling that will be helpful.
Aslam o Alaikum, Dr Sahib app sey humaisha kush sikhney ko milta hey, Allah app sab ko humaisha khosh o khurram rakhey aor sehat o Imaan wali zindgi dey Ameen
Dr please also include this in your sessions. If the family is poor and can't afford 2 times meal then they shouldn't think about a single child. Specially in a country like pakistan.
Very true,in current era,as a parent u shud b centre of love for Ur child,last time I went to my child school she is 12 yr old girl,i met her school frnds.....just saw the difference between her n her frnds.......she got sticked to me nd her frnd just neglected her mom nd went to her frnds.....this is the challenge that we hv to face ,if u r working ,u hv to make sure dat ur inlaws are being that much active with ur child as you are........initial 7 yrs are very crucial......stick to your child nd be the best buddy of ur child,gdluck
Mujhe ap ki ye video daikh k or bap beti ka khubsurat rishta or bounding daikh k dili khushi hui Allah slamt rkhay. And ye bei khushnaseebi hai k mian bv beith k bchun ki trbiat k hwale sy concern ly rhay hain wrna yahan umer gzr jati hai itfaq e raye ni hota .
Very wise talk! But i think these days, this should be done no matter whereever parents live. Fitnahs are spreading everywhere now. So, to upbring kids to be good humans is a huge challange.
Indeed mashAllah they are so lovely! May Allah guide us all. But look at some of the comments on this video, so heartbreaking to see a noble man get disrespected like this.
mashaAllah kitni payari bataye ker rahi thee ini achi terbiayat hia inki ya Allah mjy bhi asi achi larki bna dain sir apko dil se slam hia jo itni achi batain bataye hian
In Australia, we have Islamic schools nearby and kids quraan classes, elders quraan tafseer classes, we live in Muslim dense populated area so things are easily manageable
The communities who are doing home schooling or close to home schooling are mostly living in same areas, that is the key to provide best education to your kids in a safe environment which is affordable.
The best thing we should get islamic knowledge and educate them as they ask questions about religion. My children went to catholic school, Masha ALLAH in so early age they always give points according to their own religion , how they are different from Christian.
Alhamdolilah im raising my children in UK and I tell all my kids about our surroundings and we tell them the good and bad and they need to be strong with values especially priority should be islamic value and Alhamdolilah Allah with Allah s help it works
Bacche ki parvarish main sabse basic baat yeh hai ke uske dil main Allah ki mohabbat aur Allah ka khauff dono hona zaroori hai. Bacche ke dil main yeh baat daal dein ki tum jo bhi kar rahe ho Allah sab dekh raha hai, ek baar yeh yaqeen bacche ke dil main baith jaye woh zindagi main kabhi bhi gunaah ya koi galat kaam nahi karega .
@@gamerlane5093 people having exposure have more insight into life. Being doctor she might be having interaction with alot of people daily so this explains her intellectual ability. Her social IQ is higher n that's not dependent on age. She might be around 30 (my guess as she is a consultant i heard in one of his videos) n 30 is young!
@@dr.maryamabid9371 obviously she's almost 30 plus because she seems from our generation thats why I asked n her father aswel mentioned she's a young mom I'm male BTW thanks sis for reply☺
I believe that to raise our kids better, we have to evolve as a community. Mosque has to play a good role in our kids lives rather than the boring unnecessary restrictions. For example, churches make it fun for their community, taking them for trips and other recreational activities. Our kids need to see Islam as fun and not some false restrictive authority
گھر میں بچوں کے ساتھ اردو میں بات کریں اور صوم و صلات کی پابندی کریں موبائل سے فاصلہ پر رکھیں خود بھی استعمال سے حتی المقدور پر ہیز کریں تلاوت قرآن کا اہتمام کریں بچہ گھر سے اردو کے ساتھ دین سیکھے اور معاشرہ سے انگلش ۔
Put them in Islamic schools nearby, live in Muslim populated area, there are quraan tafseer classes for kids, teenager, elders. Women should prioritize home not their carriers
I had put my daughters in Islamic school. I did not work outside. I was a full-time mother for my children. But my experience with Islamic school wasn't good it was better than public school, but classmates were doing all the bad stuff that other school children were doing. I couldn't find a single Islamic and good behaving friend for my daughters. We don't have any relatives in England, so my daughters were very lonely. Finally we decided to move back to our country. Things are much better here. It's been two years now, and I never want to go back to England. Alhamdullillah Allah taal made it easy for me, I know everyone is not able to do the same. Many of my friends wanted to send their kids to Islamic school, but they couldn't afford it. May Allah taala protect our children from all fitnas. Ameen
@@Tehseen-p2x i put my children in islamic schools and i made it clear they have to select good friends otherwise I will change their school. And they did make good friends, all decent girls and boys.
ERDC is a good resource, Parents should work on their self. Grand parents are not the replacement of poarents. So both of them should not put career in priority and both of them shouls sacrifice equally to share responsibility
I am not criticising anyone decision. Only sharing something. Immigration on any grounds, but, must keep in mind that you have to pay a price. There is no absolute win win position. 2nd thing when you mix your bucket of water in a river and wants to take out your water after 20 - 30 years. In real terms almost impossible. Majority decisions were made in haste/ emotionally without calculating Risk Factors. A subject is Actuarial science is to Financial Risk and other is Demographic Behaviours , we never asked such things before making decisions. Allah Bless all those who want his Mercy.
It's something like this that we want to live in a water pound. But we don't want to get wet and also want to pretend that we are leaving on a dry land. In fact this is to make a balance between the financial earning and the religious norms and ethics. I always keep on thinking about it and come to the conclusion that this is quite a tough job to save generation if we will be successful to save one generation but definitely over next generation will be affected by it. And then the decision outer for hands and we have to suffer that.
Seedi si baat hai bachoon ko aur hud Halal kamao halal khao ghar mein sara din samjhao nahi balky practically karien aur main chees Allah sy dua karien insha Allah kuch nai hoga I am from uk 🇬🇧 I belong from Pakistan 🇵🇰 I live in uk from last 5 years ago
you can raise your kids anywhere as long as 1. help them build solid relationship with Allah(swt) 2. Parents must build a honest and trusting relationshio with them 3. home eviroment that kids will want to come. respectful!!!!!!!
I also live abroad I would like to add in it please don’t make his friends out of culture. At a certain age that starts after primary school tell him there is a difference between values.
الحمد اللہ میں بیس سالوں سے کینڈا میں رہتی ہوں میرے ماشااللہ پانچ بچے ہیں تیں کی شادیاں کرا دیں ماشااللہ فرمانبردار بچے ہیں چیلنجگ بہت ہیں خود رول ماڈل بنیں بچوں کو ٹائم دیں اللہ سے دعا کرتے رہیں کیوں کے ہدایت اللہ کے پاس ہے کوشش جاری رکھیں ان شااللہ بہتر ہوگا
It is not practically possible that child do not take any influence from outside. Environment do have influence on human character whether good or bad ...
Grand parents hi apny bety sy thk sy bt na karty ho or mob me lgy rehty hon chahy beta pass ghanton betha b rahy to aisy me grand child ki tarbiyat kesy karen jb k usi ghar me jath or jithani us bachy ko dekhty na ho bura behave rakhty hon? Room me kitni dair tk hum bachy ko rakh sakty ha? Zahir c bt ha aik hi ghr me tarbyat boht difficult nazar a rhi ha.
Assalam u alaikum. What u told about children training All are imagination . It's quite hard and difficult to apply all these conditions in such a vulgar society where a teacher is considered more than a mother. Where ur child is a state property. It's all about to stay in these vulgar society. Being a working mother, how much time can u give to ur child? How much grandfather and grandmother can teach the baby. I m a doctor and I know how difficult to carry responsibilities. But Alhamdulillah I m in gulf and I have no issues like western culture. But I know my friend's situation lives in Europe
Islamic schools and Muslim populated areas are best to live. You can then find many options to connect with quraan and sunnah. Women should avoid doing jobs and focus on kids only. There are regular quraan tafseer classes for all ages, you can join them so that kids have enriched environment. Live in area so that mosques and Islamic schoolsare nearby. Adopt Islamic culture in home. Make friends who are connected to quraan and sunnah
@@bekind913 They should seek for a job here in Muslim country. They should take part in the progress of their own country.There are also a lot of opportunities available in Pakistan but it could not fullfil their greed.
So as a British born Pakistani i have found as second generation Pakistanis in Uk we are more practising Muslims then some of our counterparts in Pakistan....obviously this is a bit of generalisation but it is something i have come across
kids now day's just prefer leaving their parents home and prefer living with Foster parents so kindly raise your kids in a well Islamic manner where u don't force them too much neither u give them too much of freedom
I was born in the West, My parents are pakistani. Now im a mother by myself Alhumdulila and still live in the West. I would add some points,as i think My experiece can contribute to a better upbringing in the West 1. Be a friend for your kids. There is so much evil/filth outside, try to be a friend. 2. Make a lot of compliments for your girls! Ya, especially for your daughters. There will be a time where guys will be interested in them (easier in West than a so called muslim country). They should not be hungry for compliments....they should know at the Start that they are beautiful , told by their own parents. They look different than other kids in school, there will be a Bad feeling maybe im not as beautiful as My friends So, the first guy who compliments them will be cherished. Or they will be hungry for compliments. But when they know from home that they are valuable , it wont Affect a lot and they wont search for approval outside! 3. Please explain islam! Dont assume they will just blindly follow...till a special age they will follow blindly, but later they will do what the think is right. So first learn your religion correctly, explain everything. Ask for their opinion. Discuss it. Dont be angry if they ask questions in islam which really hurt Like 'why is Allah so and so...why do i have to pray' Explain! We are elder, we understand but they dont! 4. Let them speak a lot...so that they are used to talk to yourself. Dont be angry 'why didnt u act Like this...why why'. Sometimes just swallow it and Listen! Just Listen! Dnt educate all the time. 5. Start in younger age to educate about islam. They are more Willing to follow it....then in later years its a habit inshallah 6. Change your mindset Dont expect they hold the same values like you....time changed. As long its not haram, let it. E.g. dont force proposals ...dont force just desi-dress(as long they are covered its totally ok(, 7. Last but not least Dont forget to make dua for them!!! There is a lot of filth in the West, just Allah can protect them. Alhumdulila, Despite we all kids lived in the West, we follow more islam than our relatives back in pakistan Because we researched everything...not just blindly following.
West and Islamic culture and traditions are totally different from one another. If someone thinks that he can guide his child to Islamic ways of life specially after the age of puberty is very very difficult. I request who are living in the West to comments about my opinion.
kids are under your control as long as they are living you as minors. As soon as they go to university or move out , they just flip. There is no way of stopping it. I know many families, religious and conservative by nature. As soon as the kids left home they just flipped.
Mard kai hath mai hai kai deen Ghar mai kitna ayay. Ghar mai ganai, car mai ganai, concerts mai jana. Musical programmers mai jana, foreign trips Aur bacha hafiz ul Quran hou. Ya nahin hosakta
خوش نصیب بیٹی اور خوش نصیب نسل۔ بارکم اللہ۔
Assalamualaikum everyone recite surah shams after fajr prayer isko parhne se itna sawab Hy ke jese ap ne saari dunya ke khazanon ka sadqa kia hy
Salute you sir ❤Rida ma'am is intelligent ,sober and descent mother ...❤may Allah bless you and your whole family all the times ❤️ beneficial vedio for all mothers ....
Sir ! You and your generations achieve goals 🤲💫
Very well said. I have three kids born and raised in N. America. We have tried to follow the same principles as outlined by you. We speak Urdu or Punjabi at home, kids learn English as they go and mix with other kids in the school. we have not done any thing special but we have seen that our kids love to visit Pakistan and their grand parents more than we do. Kids raised in West are very honest and they lack street smart abilities as found in most of the kids raised in Pakistan. Honest and compassion is taught to them in the school system, my kids go to public school. Most of the public schools in Canada allow the Juma prayer in the school. I have noticed that my kids are more inclined towards their religion than I am. Yes, public school system in Canada is huge on LGBTQ agenda but kids coming from households as described by Dr. Javed's daughter know their identity, deen and responsibilities. I absolutely do not agree with people who says that it is very difficult to raise kids, specially daughters in the West as per the teachings of our deen. It is actually easy, the Western environment along with the teachings at home, raises questions in our children's minds, it makes them to explore our religion more and choose the right path.
Yes! this! JazakAllah! In the west kids do not know the street smart talk that is in Pakistan or any desi countries. They are taught to tell the truth and actually explore Islam in depth. It really stems down to how the parents raise them in their homes
Jazakallah khair for sharing.
We r five siblings and we were born in Europe.
You r right, the kids r more inclined towards religion and they even have an intact moral system (I’m not saying kids in pak don’t have)
But what I have noticed is that the kids over there can easily lie and don’t feel bad about that, they can cheat or make any chalaki while the kids here mostly don’t understand these chalakis. But maybe that is coz the kids in pak r raised in joint family system.
We were raised as pakis, we always spoke urdu at home, learnt Quran etc
And my parents always talked to us.
Of course as every parent they had their shortcomings like I have as a mother!
But they always had good intentions and never did anything wrong out of purpose!
I have four boys living in west. And I know the environment here and can easily explain it to my kids while my parents mostly didn’t know what was going in schools/tripps
I give my kids Islamic values
I tell them the differences between west and east but at the same time I even tell them, adopt good things from everyone (no matter which religion) that’s what my mom always says
But unfortunately I see many Pakistanis coming to Europe try to “adjust and adopt” very stupid things! They forget their culture, religion and values and think when they adopt the western culture their kids will be successful but that’s not true !
I have seen maaaaany parents who even don’t talk Urdu with their kids coz they say we live in the west, they should tak the language which is spoken here:
I would really suggest
1. Build a relationship with ue kids !!! Talk to them About everything
2. Live the values u want to teach ur kids!!!
3. And sometimes don’t be too strict, they sometimes have to make the wrong decisions !
Ya sounds bad but sometimes it is important!
I hope I could help a little bit
Totally agree with you ! We live in England and sure I see a difference in my kids the knowledge of deen Islam and Islamic values they’re adopting and learning far more quickly then I did in Pakistan as a kid … anyways teaching them Urdu and our mother tongue (pothwari) is difficult when I started my life here I had to learn English so I can help myself and kids in future then the circumstances were quite exhausting as my first kid was born with a serious illness I spent a lot of years in hospital and daughter didn’t get a chance to learn Urdu properly I need tips how can I teach them Urdu 😓I try really hard at home !!! No luck in speaking they started to understand what I am saying but can’t speak at all
@@zaramohammed1516 my parents had the rule that we only speak Urdu at home, when u r in school and with friends u can speak German.
But now (as I’m living in Germany with my kids) we had the rule that we only speak Urdu till the age of 3 (psychological reasons) and then I switched to German while my husband kept Urdu as a spoken language.
U can divide it between u and ur husband
He can speak English and u can keep Urdu.
A friend of mine speaks Urdu and both partner speak Urdu but the kids don’t speak which is really sad.
I would really suggest keep Urdu as a language
Keep speaking it and watch Urdu cartoons/shows anything
So that the kids know the melody of urdu and then they will adopt many words
Homeschooling is the way to go regardless of where you live. No one can teach your child better than yourself. You have the freedom to choose your curriculum and you save so much time in which you can do other things. The best part is that in early stage of a child’s life there is no negative influence, if you have a healthy home environment.
But what about the confidence and learning which a child gets in group work and interaction, speaking skills etc. specially when he works and plays with his age fellows….., seems less possible
Yes homeschooling is the best option in west. But what if the kid doesnt listen to the mother or gives her hard time :/
I’m a Pakistani American who grew up in the west and I chose to homeschool because I did my research to find out the pros and cons of homeschooling before I started to homeschool my kids. There are so many resources for your child to use to be homeschooled. Homeschooled kids can get plenty of interaction when you put them in groups or activities. The reason why homeschool kids are way ahead and way smarter in every aspect because they are given the time and opportunity that only a parent can provide. Generally peoples perception on homeschool is that the child doesn’t leave the house which is the complete opposite. We literally are out of the house everyday and my kids are with other kids. Children get their lesson done way earlier while they do extra circular activity and still have so much time. In the west you have to make a conscious effort to have the love of islam. You can put them in swimming, language classes, building classes, take them to the library for story times for younger children, sports. There are also homeschool muslim mom groups on Facebook that you can join. They get together usually twice a week. Children who are connected with nature from toddler stages are so incredible because they learn to be entertained outdoors instead of screens. Another advice I would give is that kids should be screen free and tv should be a prop in the house. Once they reach the age of 5 they can watch it for an hour with monitored parenting so they are not deprived. Kids are naturally very smart and are able to comprehend anything they are really taught by example. You have to tell yourself that there will good days and bad days with the kids which is perfectly okay. Trust me they they see our efforts. Also you have to tell yourself you don’t need to have a conventional educations because conventional education is there for a reason. And if you disagree with those reasonings then homeschooling is for you. I have a kindergartner who is doing 1st grade curriculum and he studies for two hours a day. You guys can listen to sahil adeem and Gabor mate on parenting and homeschooling that will be helpful.
home schooling makes more child lonely
Countries like Finland don't allow homeschooling. Here, it is mandatory to send children to school.
Maa shaa Allah dr sahb apki training ki kia bat ha Allah SWT sb parents ko aesy e fehm ata krein Ameen
Aslam o Alaikum, Dr Sahib app sey humaisha kush sikhney ko milta hey, Allah app sab ko humaisha khosh o khurram rakhey aor sehat o Imaan wali zindgi dey Ameen
Masha allah sun k bht khoshe huwe.sir aap ko aur aap ke tarbeyat ko salam.
Dr please also include this in your sessions. If the family is poor and can't afford 2 times meal then they shouldn't think about a single child. Specially in a country like pakistan.
بہت زبردست یقینا انتہائی اچھی بات ہے
Very true,in current era,as a parent u shud b centre of love for Ur child,last time I went to my child school she is 12 yr old girl,i met her school frnds.....just saw the difference between her n her frnds.......she got sticked to me nd her frnd just neglected her mom nd went to her frnds.....this is the challenge that we hv to face ,if u r working ,u hv to make sure dat ur inlaws are being that much active with ur child as you are........initial 7 yrs are very crucial......stick to your child nd be the best buddy of ur child,gdluck
Mujhe ap ki ye video daikh k or bap beti ka khubsurat rishta or bounding daikh k dili khushi hui Allah slamt rkhay.
And ye bei khushnaseebi hai k mian bv beith k bchun ki trbiat k hwale sy concern ly rhay hain wrna yahan umer gzr jati hai itfaq e raye ni hota .
Very wise talk! But i think these days, this should be done no matter whereever parents live. Fitnahs are spreading everywhere now. So, to upbring kids to be good humans is a huge challange.
Dr saheb ko Allah salamat rakhey umar daraaz krey or aap ki poori family ko apne hifz Amman m rakhey ameen ya rabbul aleymen
Bohat he mushkil kaam hai
Lakin achhi baat hai k hum yahan koshish zaroor karty hain
Pakistan main log deen se ziada door hain
Masha ALLAH very talented daughter of a super talented father ❤. Waiting for more videos of Rida ❤.
Indeed mashAllah they are so lovely! May Allah guide us all. But look at some of the comments on this video, so heartbreaking to see a noble man get disrespected like this.
is she her own daughteR?
@@geekygirl648yes she is❤
You are a great father Dr shb
mashaAllah kitni payari bataye ker rahi thee ini achi terbiayat hia inki ya Allah mjy bhi asi achi larki bna dain sir apko dil se slam hia jo itni achi batain bataye hian
Homeschooling is always best. Alhmdulillah im doing too.
In Australia, we have Islamic schools nearby and kids quraan classes, elders quraan tafseer classes, we live in Muslim dense populated area so things are easily manageable
Sensible talk of daughter of wise father mashaallah....
Beautiful daughter, nice talk👍💐
The communities who are doing home schooling or close to home schooling are mostly living in same areas, that is the key to provide best education to your kids in a safe environment which is affordable.
The best thing we should get islamic knowledge and educate them as they ask questions about religion.
My children went to catholic school, Masha ALLAH in so early age they always give points according to their own religion , how they are different from Christian.
Catholic school 😈🐷
اللہ تعالٰی آپکے محنت کو قبول کر ے
MASHA ALLAH VERY DECENT AND GRACEFUL GIRL
Ma Sha Allah proud father and daughter. You both discussed a very important topic. Please discuss this more in detail.
God bless you sir and your daughter
Alhamdolilah im raising my children in UK and I tell all my kids about our surroundings and we tell them the good and bad and they need to be strong with values especially priority should be islamic value and Alhamdolilah Allah with Allah s help it works
How lovely introduction Mashaallah
جزاک اللّٰہ
Bacche ki parvarish main sabse basic baat yeh hai ke uske dil main Allah ki mohabbat aur Allah ka khauff dono hona zaroori hai. Bacche ke dil main yeh baat daal dein ki tum jo bhi kar rahe ho Allah sab dekh raha hai, ek baar yeh yaqeen bacche ke dil main baith jaye woh zindagi main kabhi bhi gunaah ya koi galat kaam nahi karega .
Lucky daughter mashAllah having such great father.
What's her age she looks mature bolnay sy knowledge sy Pta chlta
@@gamerlane5093 people having exposure have more insight into life. Being doctor she might be having interaction with alot of people daily so this explains her intellectual ability. Her social IQ is higher n that's not dependent on age. She might be around 30 (my guess as she is a consultant i heard in one of his videos) n 30 is young!
@@dr.maryamabid9371 obviously she's almost 30 plus because she seems from our generation thats why I asked n her father aswel mentioned she's a young mom I'm male BTW thanks sis for reply☺
I believe that to raise our kids better, we have to evolve as a community. Mosque has to play a good role in our kids lives rather than the boring unnecessary restrictions. For example, churches make it fun for their community, taking them for trips and other recreational activities. Our kids need to see Islam as fun and not some false restrictive authority
گھر میں بچوں کے ساتھ اردو میں بات کریں اور صوم و صلات کی پابندی کریں
موبائل سے فاصلہ پر رکھیں خود بھی استعمال سے حتی المقدور پر ہیز کریں
تلاوت قرآن کا اہتمام کریں
بچہ گھر سے اردو کے ساتھ دین سیکھے اور معاشرہ سے انگلش ۔
Aap.kitna bhi karo West me bachcho ko sahi tarbiyat bahut mushkil he, waha par schools and friends ka bahut influence hota he.
Put them in Islamic schools nearby, live in Muslim populated area, there are quraan tafseer classes for kids, teenager, elders. Women should prioritize home not their carriers
Yes kids are very hard to raise in west. Strong influence of friends classmates and schools.
I had put my daughters in Islamic school. I did not work outside. I was a full-time mother for my children. But my experience with Islamic school wasn't good it was better than public school, but classmates were doing all the bad stuff that other school children were doing. I couldn't find a single Islamic and good behaving friend for my daughters. We don't have any relatives in England, so my daughters were very lonely. Finally we decided to move back to our country. Things are much better here. It's been two years now, and I never want to go back to England. Alhamdullillah Allah taal made it easy for me, I know everyone is not able to do the same. Many of my friends wanted to send their kids to Islamic school, but they couldn't afford it. May Allah taala protect our children from all fitnas. Ameen
@@Tehseen-p2x i put my children in islamic schools and i made it clear they have to select good friends otherwise I will change their school. And they did make good friends, all decent girls and boys.
Alhumdolilah we have put our kids in Islamic schools. At least here in big cities we have this facility. Alhumdolilah 🤲🏻
Yup. Islamic schools are best to consider
Which country?
there are Islamic schools??
Yes all major cities have it mA@@amirhamza7610
Usa@@zainulabdin1720
Beautiful advice
Thank you sis
Bilkul sahih regard from Germany
ERDC is a good resource,
Parents should work on their self.
Grand parents are not the replacement of poarents. So both of them should not put career in priority and both of them shouls sacrifice equally to share responsibility
JAZAKALLAH for this video
I am not criticising anyone decision. Only sharing something. Immigration on any grounds, but, must keep in mind that you have to pay a price. There is no absolute win win position. 2nd thing when you mix your bucket of water in a river and wants to take out your water after 20 - 30 years. In real terms almost impossible. Majority decisions were made in haste/ emotionally without calculating Risk Factors. A subject is Actuarial science is to Financial Risk and other is Demographic Behaviours , we never asked such things before making decisions. Allah Bless all those who want his Mercy.
کسی ایسے والدین کا انٹرویو کریں جن کے بچے وہاں بڑے ہوے ہوں ۔۔۔
We need strong family and strong community too.
It's something like this that we want to live in a water pound. But we don't want to get wet and also want to pretend that we are leaving on a dry land. In fact this is to make a balance between the financial earning and the religious norms and ethics. I always keep on thinking about it and come to the conclusion that this is quite a tough job to save generation if we will be successful to save one generation but definitely over next generation will be affected by it.
And then the decision outer for hands and we have to suffer that.
Thek hy baki sb. Mgr bat shuru krny se pehly hmesha salam lena chahye.
Jazzaak allah khair
ماشااللہ مبارک صد مبارک 🤲🏻🌹🤲🏻
ماشاءاللہ ❤
Seedi si baat hai bachoon ko aur hud Halal kamao halal khao ghar mein sara din samjhao nahi balky practically karien aur main chees Allah sy dua karien insha Allah kuch nai hoga I am from uk 🇬🇧 I belong from Pakistan 🇵🇰 I live in uk from last 5 years ago
I think we all of us need to be acknowledge about parenting
MASHALLAH sir❤
Mashallah this is educated parents ❤
Mashallah aik ke terbeyat Sahi Hu ge Tu sara ger Sahi Hu ga mtlab pori dunya
Please write ALLAH in capital
MashAllah sis❤
Ma Sha Allah 💞
Come to Texas, we are doing just fine😊
you can raise your kids anywhere as long as
1. help them build solid relationship with Allah(swt)
2. Parents must build a honest and trusting relationshio with them
3. home eviroment that kids will want to come. respectful!!!!!!!
Mashaallah Impressed :)
Rida was in my class in City school girls branch in bhawalpur olevel.
Its a very complicated but most important topic which you raised and share with us I was very confused abiut that but it helps me
Great sir
I also live abroad I would like to add in it please don’t make his friends out of culture. At a certain age that starts after primary school tell him there is a difference between values.
Jizak Allah for both
الحمد اللہ میں بیس سالوں سے کینڈا میں رہتی ہوں میرے ماشااللہ پانچ بچے ہیں تیں کی شادیاں کرا دیں ماشااللہ فرمانبردار بچے ہیں چیلنجگ بہت ہیں خود رول ماڈل بنیں بچوں کو ٹائم دیں اللہ سے دعا کرتے رہیں کیوں کے ہدایت اللہ کے پاس ہے کوشش جاری رکھیں ان شااللہ بہتر ہوگا
Nice ..
It is not practically possible that child do not take any influence from outside. Environment do have influence on human character whether good or bad ...
Grand parents hi apny bety sy thk sy bt na karty ho or mob me lgy rehty hon chahy beta pass ghanton betha b rahy to aisy me grand child ki tarbiyat kesy karen jb k usi ghar me jath or jithani us bachy ko dekhty na ho bura behave rakhty hon? Room me kitni dair tk hum bachy ko rakh sakty ha? Zahir c bt ha aik hi ghr me tarbyat boht difficult nazar a rhi ha.
Very good topic
Bohat khoob 😊
Good suggestions
Assalam u alaikum.
What u told about children training
All are imagination .
It's quite hard and difficult to apply all these conditions in such a vulgar society where a teacher is considered more than a mother.
Where ur child is a state property.
It's all about to stay in these vulgar society.
Being a working mother, how much time can u give to ur child?
How much grandfather and grandmother can teach the baby.
I m a doctor and I know how difficult to carry responsibilities.
But Alhamdulillah I m in gulf and I have no issues like western culture.
But I know my friend's situation lives in Europe
Walikum Salam
Agreed with your point of view in Gulf county it's different than the west
ماشاء الله. الله يحفظك
MashaAllah sir
Masha Allah 🤲🏻
In west raising ur kids is really difficult they don’t listen to parents
Yes. They dont speak English and guys drink alcohol when they get older.
Little mom be always happy deary❤
جزاک اللّه
Maa Shaa Allah
Mashallah sober n decent
AoA. Ma sha Allah 😊
Very nice
Plz . Glotan. Kanduom k aaty sy elargi h ajj kl bucho m . Es par AK vedio bany plzzz
Islamic schools and Muslim populated areas are best to live. You can then find many options to connect with quraan and sunnah. Women should avoid doing jobs and focus on kids only. There are regular quraan tafseer classes for all ages, you can join them so that kids have enriched environment. Live in area so that mosques and Islamic schoolsare nearby. Adopt Islamic culture in home. Make friends who are connected to quraan and sunnah
Why there's a need to go abroad just live in Muslim countries 🙂 greedy any selfish people
@@uc4ffgaming123people go for a better opportunity of jobs. Its acceptable in islam. Please stop being negative.
@@bekind913 They should seek for a job here in Muslim country. They should take part in the progress of their own country.There are also a lot of opportunities available in Pakistan but it could not fullfil their greed.
@@bekind913 Give me the proof? Is it acceptable in Islam to be a servant of an infidel (non.muslim) because majority of people in abroad are labours.
@@bekind913 and what kind of opportunities you were talking about if they were that much capable their own country would be a developed country
Salam, dr. Sahib how can I meet you.
So as a British born Pakistani i have found as second generation Pakistanis in Uk we are more practising Muslims then some of our counterparts in Pakistan....obviously this is a bit of generalisation but it is something i have come across
Please es ka koi solution btaye k usi ghr me rehty huay aik achi tarbiyat hum kesy kar sakty ha?
kids now day's just prefer leaving their parents home and prefer living with Foster parents so kindly raise your kids in a well Islamic manner where u don't force them too much neither u give them too much of freedom
I was born in the West, My parents are pakistani.
Now im a mother by myself Alhumdulila and still live in the West.
I would add some points,as i think My experiece can contribute to a better upbringing in the West
1. Be a friend for your kids. There is so much evil/filth outside, try to be a friend.
2. Make a lot of compliments for your girls! Ya, especially for your daughters.
There will be a time where guys will be interested in them (easier in West than a so called muslim country).
They should not be hungry for compliments....they should know at the Start that they are beautiful , told by their own parents.
They look different than other kids in school, there will be a Bad feeling maybe im not as beautiful as My friends
So, the first guy who compliments them will be cherished. Or they will be hungry for compliments.
But when they know from home that they are valuable , it wont Affect a lot and they wont search for approval outside!
3. Please explain islam! Dont assume they will just blindly follow...till a special age they will follow blindly, but later they will do what the think is right.
So first learn your religion correctly, explain everything.
Ask for their opinion. Discuss it.
Dont be angry if they ask questions in islam which really hurt
Like 'why is Allah so and so...why do i have to pray'
Explain!
We are elder, we understand but they dont!
4. Let them speak a lot...so that they are used to talk to yourself.
Dont be angry 'why didnt u act Like this...why why'.
Sometimes just swallow it and Listen!
Just Listen!
Dnt educate all the time.
5. Start in younger age to educate about islam.
They are more Willing to follow it....then in later years its a habit inshallah
6. Change your mindset
Dont expect they hold the same values like you....time changed.
As long its not haram, let it.
E.g. dont force proposals ...dont force just desi-dress(as long they are covered its totally ok(,
7. Last but not least
Dont forget to make dua for them!!!
There is a lot of filth in the West, just Allah can protect them.
Alhumdulila, Despite we all kids lived in the West, we follow more islam than our relatives back in pakistan
Because we researched everything...not just blindly following.
Allah pak apko shad o Abad rkhe. Ameen
Jzakllah ❤❤
Masha allah bht hi choti si lag rahi h
Does the Father know the conditions of Sharii hijab?
Can we do home schooling in uk
Masha Allah
West and Islamic culture and traditions are totally different from one another. If someone thinks that he can guide his child to Islamic ways of life specially after the age of puberty is very very difficult. I request who are living in the West to comments about my opinion.
100% right
kids are under your control as long as they are living you as minors. As soon as they go to university or move out , they just flip. There is no way of stopping it. I know many families, religious and conservative by nature. As soon as the kids left home they just flipped.
Jana zaroori hai abroad?
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I think early age marriage is better solution in Western society.
Behtreen
Mard kai hath mai hai kai deen Ghar mai kitna ayay. Ghar mai ganai, car mai ganai, concerts mai jana. Musical programmers mai jana, foreign trips Aur bacha hafiz ul Quran hou. Ya nahin hosakta