I think we're all the same, Mark, we have to work through things one day at a time and find some kind of purpose when we can - hope you are feeling better.
Mark, as someone who has also been in the dark place, there is hope even though at times you can't see it. I did a course on why we are who we are, chipped away at small things first, always going forward no matter how small. You are not alone, okay.
Change your environment. Pick a destination in the world and spend few weeks there alone think what you want in life and future goals. Environment has a huge impact
A friend of mine was an alcoholic……..one day he woke up and decided to stop ……he said he got fed up with waking up feeling terrible ……..23 years later he is still dry …..respect to you both ! 😊
I’m an airline pilot flying ultra long haul. Alcohol is a big part of the culture unfortunately. Massive time zone changes couple with loneliness and boredom compel crew to get together and normally drink too much. Very few don’t drink and I want to be one of those. Wasting time getting drunk, being drunk and waiting to get drunk isn’t a life. I’m so over it actually so thanks Tim for bearing your soul. Hats off to you. Your wisdom and insight has struck a chord. Take care.
Tim, I am a 70 year old non-pilot who's always been interested in aviation - a bit of a geek - and I find your manner of delivery speaks to blokes incredibly effectively. You could have a career as a motivational speaker at corporate events (if you don't already). And you should be on TV more too. Straight talking, open and willing to be vulnerable. Top marks. And your comments on addiction are spot on.
I read footprints in the sand at my mums funeral. She was killed by vodka. She stopped drinking 9 months before she died after been told she had 6 months to live, so because she gave up we got an extra amazing 3 months with her. I didn't really know her as my mum when she was drinking, but I got to know an amazing woman those last 9 months and she died my hero. She won the battle but lost the war One night I dreamed a dream. As I was walking along the beach with my Lord. Across the dark sky flashed scenes from my life. For each scene, I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand, One belonging to me and one to my Lord. After the last scene of my life flashed before me, I looked back at the footprints in the sand. I noticed that at many times along the path of my life, especially at the very lowest and saddest times, there was only one set of footprints. This really troubled me, so I asked the Lord about it. "Lord, you said once I decided to follow you, You'd walk with me all the way. But I noticed that during the saddest and most troublesome times of my life, there was only one set of footprints. I don't understand why, when I needed You the most, You would leave me." He whispered, "My precious child, I love you and will never leave you Never, ever, during your trials and testings. When you saw only one set of footprints, It was then that I carried you."
Given up the drink myself recently. Rejoined shadowlands and the amazing community on there. Man it's tough. Evenings are worst as I sometimes don't know what to do with myself. But we can all get through it. Sure there will be tough times ahead. But through gritted teeth and strength of mind we push on. Great video Tim. Think these videos are a massive help to many. Keep up the great work
Alcohol in my 20's and 30's was the source of the best fun in my life; by my 50's it was the only fun. Last year I realised there is more fun and a better experience of life to be had sober, and I've lost interest in booze. I've walked out of the cage alcohol had me in. In a way, each day now is a new birth as you say Tim, filled with choices and the possibility to do something constructive.
Makes sense. One life make everyday count. Kindness is the key and l believe Tim’s videos make people realize this sometimes. A very wise and kind hearted guy.
Keep up good work mate, I’m 3 half years off drinking! Took stroke to change my thinking and now I have clarity of thought. 60 next month finally grown up.. thanks for what you do, your service 🖐👍
I think drinking is really prevalent amongst men, my Dad has always relaxed in the evening (every single evening) 'with a few cans' my brother does it, and I cannot believe the sound from all 3 of my neighbors houses every single morning of the number of empty cans going into the recycling bin. I think civvy street and certainly the regular/manual jobs guys have a bigger problem than what I seen in the military
Hi Tim, Big fan of your content. I always wondered how I would do in the Air Force of my country as a Fighter Pilot. 20/25 vision kept me from my dream. I actually joined the Navy Reserve as an Officer in order to learn navigation on a ship in order to join Regular Military as an Air Navigator. In hopes of being in the system, that they would then waive the vision requirement to cross train to pilot some day. Long story ,but I had a dream. Finally just pursued civil aviation and I am now an Airline Captain. I like you, are the son of an alcoholic . You are four times as likely to become an alcoholic. You coming from the RAF and an instructor , the pursuit of perfection must have taken a terrible toll on you. The Pope actually says it is ok not to be perfect. Alcohol can become just a habit to reward oneself after a tough flight or calm oneself after a tough day. The cycle repeats. The social aspect of drinking is so addictive. A friend once said he is not addicted to alcohol but addicted to fun. He has been dry for many years now.( And miserable😂) The best advice I have received from another pilot when I was going through a breakup and drinking heavily(making my old man seem like a tee totaler) was that pilots are problem solvers and will try to solve their own problems. Everyone needs help from someone else sometimes. There is no shame in that. I see that you being the controlling pilot type, are offering to help others in the quest to help yourself. Good therapy.
'Addiction is a nightmare dependency is a comfort blanket but standing alone free to be is terrifying ' not sure it makes sense but when my Grandad said it to me it mattered
Had my own "already dead" experience, in my terms it was "well, f it, NOTHING could be worse right now, so, when you're walking through hell, one foot in front of the other, keep on walking" Thanks to those times, I'm now carrying someone that's close to me and going through dark times. I'm not spiritual or religious in the slightest. But something is giving me the strength to do the carrying when it's needed. My responsibility to stand and be counted when needed, and it sure doesn't feel like a burden. Respect to your mum fam.
Very well said Tim, I wasn't very religious person myself but lately I'm turning to Lord more and more and it all makes sense what Christianity preaches. I'm glad you gave up drinking otherwise we wouldn't have such an amazing tutor of life and FJP. Thank you sir!!
I don't think it matters if there are any better. What is more important is the fact that we have someone like you to open other peoples eyes so they would do better in life. To drop some truth bombs 💣🤙🏻@@FastJetPerformance
The footsteps thing made me well-up a little bit Tim, I'm not going to lie. You have a wonderful gift to inspire people with your words, please do continue along that path, you ARE making a difference. Re Buckfast Abbey, agreed, a truly amazing place, highly recommended if any of your viewers/subscribers are down that way. ........... still waiting to hear the (respectful) anecdote about you dear Mother though, or did I miss it?
I am an ex Pilot and gave up The Amber Nectar 7 years ago and I felt it was a bereavement. If I go to a Party I always volunteer to become the nominated Driver so as I never get pressured to have a Drink except Coca Cola or Minerals. It worked for me.
That the single set of footprints is where you stopped caring about anything other than addiction. Either that track ends, or is joined by others, after realising that addiction wants only three things: It wants you alone, it wants you penniless and it wants you dead. Thus spaketh my (now retired) GP.
9:00 especially. Awesome Tim. Theres so much of the same sort of things at my end. I've looked at the top stair bannister before🙄. Not anymore! There is a disconnect or something in communication between Men, can't put my finger on it, but you seem to be bridging the gap . It's like when a pair of Typhoons beat up my house (often). You soak it up, Appreciate what it took to get them there, and then Nod in understanding and Appreciation. Thanks Tim 🇬🇧
Good Job Tim ! Just keep going … yes there was a lot of alcohol in the Airline world , and a lot of time away from family and on your own . Few survived this without a problem along the journey . It could be a wonderful life but like many things in life , it came at a price . Every day I thank my lucky stars I got through 40 yrs and retired . Hallelujah !!
Ahh Tim, yet again your valuable wisdom... resonates......more than you know, definitely to a lot of people. We are strong until we are weak, until we rise above it again... I found my mum dead on Xmas day 2002 Tim what doesn't kill you makes us stronger x
Great video Tim. I am a long way from home in Cairo and your videos give me a lovely connection while I am here. Struggled on/off with alcohol and you are inspiring me to make difference choices. I am not into SIM flying, but I few gliders in real life! Really like the idea of a community in parallel to the one you’ve set up with Shadowlands 👏🏼👍👏🏼
How interesting to consider how diverse we are and yet when we peel away our individual views we are all so similar. Rather like those moments when two young mates might sit in their car after a night out and chat into the wee small hours as they explore all those ‘What if’s & just imagine’. Humanity & the universe are really quite amazing. Well Done, I wish you well :-)
Interesting vid Rev Tim lol 😊 many of us been there got the t-shirt (black) and had the medications 💊 oh and the consequences 😮. Oddly enough I too visited a church we both know, the Marble church on the A55, while my better half was having treatment in hospital next door. Many years since last visit, not a believer but the calm atmospheric allowed brain to slow. I return to Wilko Johnson documentary called pleasure and pain of wilko i think, which he explains his philosophy dealing with terminal illness. Battle on Tim best wishes to you and of course your better half they are part of the team!
Great channel Tim, thanks for sharing your knowledge and experience for those of us into aviation, it's an inspiration and also respect for sharing your life story, stay strong.
Inspiring Tim, don't know if I have the courage to stop the booze. Probably too weak. Can you please take us to see the old Yew tree mate? I'd be fascinated to see it.
Just watched the demonstration Typhoon in red white and blue doing the after burner evening display - 10 out of 10. Nearly as good as being chased by Hertfordshire police on a Suzuki Hayabusa and doing 170 mph over the M10 round about
I think stress and a high level of personal job responsibility are markers that can trigger alcohol dependency in all kinds of occupations. We just don't get the time for long walks, and other de stressing activities, so a drink is a " quick fix" that ultimately rebounds. It's also plainly obvious to me that forces members do not have an adequate bridging counselling between leaving and returning to civvy street. They expect so much of themselves that anything less than proving themselves immediately is seen by them as failure. I know as I've mentored one or two ex military lads and worked with a few more. They all needed reassurance that making mistakes is also called learning and long as they turn up to work and show willing they will get there, either quickly or slowly. It doesn't matter which. There were wobbles, but only one decided it wasn't for him. That's fine too. He went back to doing security work on tankers. He missed being a marine so badly. I'm the son of a tank gunner badly injured in Normandy in 1944, but he thrived on the stress of his chosen career in dentistry. We knew of other very capable dentists for whom the stress and responsibility was just too much and they sadly turned to drink, with predictable results. Everybody is different, but not that different. Faith I'm afraid has passed me by in my 69 years, but I do not underestimate the power of faith. I sometimes envy those with such certainty of their destiny, but the educated cynic in me is beyond redemption on that score.
I also think that, when we were smoking, we took natural breaks and had some good chats with random people - that all disappeared and alcohol became the goto thing it seems.
Great vid Crab, I often wonder if I'm an alcoholic. Ex Navy (Submariner, 4 deterrent patrols), Ex Army (RAMC, Herrick 7), currently NHS, I drank a lot with the former, but its not until I joined the NHS and came off call, drink is there, I can have it anytime, I drink more than my military time. I hammered the last 13 months with a bottle of red wine 2-4 times a week. its just a bottle of wine right ? Now I've followed you from the start. I love the videos, love them! I saw your first vid and decided. wow. A fighter pilot, going through the same shit. I still drink. I pick a bottle of wine on a Friday or Saturday night. A single bottle, can I drop it? probably ! do I drink socially ? no! So why do i turn to it? even one day a week? I don't know, what I do know is that i listen and get inspired. Don't stop these videos/blogs
Try to be the best person you can be is rumbling around in my head. I have a small voice on my shoulder suggesting that giving up alcohol altogether would be good. Jordan B Peterson, Douglas Murray- serious intellectuals - good to read and listen to on similar subjects. Your on the money here Tim. 👍👌
I smell what you're cooking Tim. Alcohol only masked those dark days temporarily for me personally. I still had dark days. The other thing is, we're only on this planet for an average of 80 years if lucky. It's how you enjoy that blip in time.
Nobody is coming to save you, wait a while and you'll see that. That's the message men need to hear, if they find a higher purpose, be it God or not, that's up to them but they need to help themselves.
Like your videos - I fortunately have never had an addictive streak and this is a blessing and a curse because I have no “base” or commitment in many aspects of life. I love real ale and a good wine or malt and will not give up this pleasure in life. I am presently in U.K. (normally in HK or South Africa) and enjoying the country pubs - but I can just stop if my mind is on something else, I don’t feel like it, or I can’t find alcohol (like on my round the world motorcycle travels in places like Sudan). Just watched the Bournemouth Airshow and seen the superb Red Arrows and also seen Tim’s videos of him screaming through the Mach Loop in a similar fast jet (maybe exactly the same - Hawk I believe). My point is I don’t think Tim should beat himself up because he has done amazing things and maybe over thinking too much and perhaps getting depressed because expectations are sky high and adrenaline rush and sense of “purpose” is missing. I do agree that exercise and activity is the key - even if for a short early morning walk or a cycle ride to work, a beasting in gym or on trails - for me motorcycling and mountain biking solves everything - get the heart to 160 and you’ll feel great. The other thing is good friends and an understanding and accepting partner. Amen - from a roaming Catholic
I'm not an expert but my sister has been a manager with Alcoholics Anonymous for over twenty years. She, herself is an alcoholic insofar as 'once was, always is', but has been 'dry' for all that time. She tells me that there is a physiological element within certain people that basically ensures addiction. In that respect, I assume that some people fight their 'inner demons' constantly whilst others just lament an otherwise enjoyable social pastime which has produced negative outcomes such as behavioural, financial or health problems. Many years ago, I started jogging, which for me, was hard because my aerobic capacity is not particularly good. As a result, I didn't get too far down the road before I got the overwhelming urge to stop. So, I use to play a little game with myself in separating my mind from my body (sounds stupid) whereby my body starts telling my mind it wants to stop, but my mind is 'in charge' and refuses permission, calls my body a lazy git and forces it to continue. For many years I ran approximately 10 kilometres every day. For me, my God is myself.
Alcohol is by far the most dangerous drug we have available. I think you could take any other illicit drug swap it out with alcohol and society would be much better off. I know it's a hot take but I lived it and I've seen tragedies that will make your heart drop.
Life's a gift & an adventure, but who said it was meant to be easy? As an ancient plaque on a medieval house in my neck of the woods says: 'Fear God, Obey the King' - although I've always thought on passing by it it makes more sense the other way around. Hope yr mother is better soon.
It’s interesting stuff Tim and really good that you have put out a second probably third video about this subject. I don’t feel my comment can do the subject justice and feel compelled to do a response video on my channel. Well done appreciate your content.
I take your 1600 year old tree and up you 21 million years which is the amount of time it has taken photons from the Pinwheel Galaxy to reach your eyeballs, so faint in fact that you can't even see it with the naked eye. You convinced me a couple of weeks back to stop drinking by the way, so cheers for that.
Hi Tim, Interesting journey that you are on. The fact is that there is no future in alcohol.....for anyone. Just say so without apology. The fact is that to find Christ is to find that peace with God and life that we all long for and I say that without apology. To partially quote Jesus, perhaps you are not far from the Kingdom of God Tim. You just keep looking but look in the right place. There are Scriptures besides what you have already learned that will guide you. Every blessing
I really want to join the RAF as a pilot. I have considered the Navy but I'm not sure I could handle life aboard a ship. The thing is, I'm white. But I identify as black. Is this likely to be seen as a positive or negative by the RAF recruitment? Thanks
@@DaysOfDarknessUK I'm not gay, but I do market myself as an 'ally' on Twitter. Plus I have a little Ukraine flag on at the bottom of my profile picture on Facebook. Does that count?
Can you do a piece on how Ukraine are going to train their next generation of fighter pilots? We know the Jet coalition is providing F16 training, however, new pilots will need a lot more flying training to get to a standard to start an F16 course. Can you investigate into who/ how will they get this training during war time? Possible sources: Euro NATO Joint Jet Pilot training at Shepard Air Force base in Texas. Undergraduate Pilot training in the USA. England are providing elementary flying training from RAF Cranwell in Lincolnshire on the Grob 120TP. Any thoughts or ideas would be appreciated!
So many people going through hard times have privately given personal thoughts along the same path as you have just narrated Tim. I myself might also have done so on occasions.. I am a solid atheist based on the fact that if there is a God controller, then over 90% of Earths population have got it wrong. The obvious next question would be, "Who made God"? Think about it! Thanks again Tim.
AA and 12 steps did it for me Ex marine Lived a hell on earth for years,sober now since 2010 Sounds cheesy? My story would make a 3 badge stoker weep 🤓
Currently serve and about to hit 21 years service. I do not see a break from drink. Addiction is shit. Never effected work, never been late for work or courses etc. Awful place to be but easier to be in it than accept it. My opinion
Tim I’m a 62 year old ex pilot, in a very dark place at the moment , I cried listening to you but you have lifted me a bit thank you
I think we're all the same, Mark, we have to work through things one day at a time and find some kind of purpose when we can - hope you are feeling better.
Mark, as someone who has also been in the dark place, there is hope even though at times you can't see it. I did a course on why we are who we are, chipped away at small things first, always going forward no matter how small. You are not alone, okay.
Change your environment. Pick a destination in the world and spend few weeks there alone think what you want in life and future goals. Environment has a huge impact
A friend of mine was an alcoholic……..one day he woke up and decided to stop ……he said he got fed up with waking up feeling terrible ……..23 years later he is still dry …..respect to you both ! 😊
Yeah, but its the night before that feels good....
I’m an airline pilot flying ultra long haul. Alcohol is a big part of the culture unfortunately. Massive time zone changes couple with loneliness and boredom compel crew to get together and normally drink too much. Very few don’t drink and I want to be one of those. Wasting time getting drunk, being drunk and waiting to get drunk isn’t a life. I’m so over it actually so thanks Tim for bearing your soul. Hats off to you. Your wisdom and insight has struck a chord. Take care.
It must be mind numbing 😞
Tim, I am a 70 year old non-pilot who's always been interested in aviation - a bit of a geek - and I find your manner of delivery speaks to blokes incredibly effectively. You could have a career as a motivational speaker at corporate events (if you don't already). And you should be on TV more too. Straight talking, open and willing to be vulnerable. Top marks. And your comments on addiction are spot on.
Thanks john, I appreciate your words.
I read footprints in the sand at my mums funeral. She was killed by vodka. She stopped drinking 9 months before she died after been told she had 6 months to live, so because she gave up we got an extra amazing 3 months with her. I didn't really know her as my mum when she was drinking, but I got to know an amazing woman those last 9 months and she died my hero. She won the battle but lost the war
One night I dreamed a dream.
As I was walking along the beach with my Lord.
Across the dark sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene, I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand,
One belonging to me and one to my Lord.
After the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that at many times along the path of my life,
especially at the very lowest and saddest times,
there was only one set of footprints.
This really troubled me, so I asked the Lord about it.
"Lord, you said once I decided to follow you,
You'd walk with me all the way.
But I noticed that during the saddest and most troublesome times of my life,
there was only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why, when I needed You the most, You would leave me."
He whispered, "My precious child, I love you and will never leave you
Never, ever, during your trials and testings.
When you saw only one set of footprints,
It was then that I carried you."
Beautiful.. thank you for this 😉
Given up the drink myself recently. Rejoined shadowlands and the amazing community on there. Man it's tough. Evenings are worst as I sometimes don't know what to do with myself. But we can all get through it. Sure there will be tough times ahead. But through gritted teeth and strength of mind we push on. Great video Tim. Think these videos are a massive help to many. Keep up the great work
A fantastic video, love the straight talking honesty
Alcohol in my 20's and 30's was the source of the best fun in my life; by my 50's it was the only fun. Last year I realised there is more fun and a better experience of life to be had sober, and I've lost interest in booze. I've walked out of the cage alcohol had me in. In a way, each day now is a new birth as you say Tim, filled with choices and the possibility to do something constructive.
Makes sense. One life make everyday count. Kindness is the key and l believe Tim’s videos make people realize this sometimes. A very wise and kind hearted guy.
This message struck home. Right on target. The history connection, family, a new beginning, and spirituality. Tim you are on fire.
"Use in the face of consequence." - The definition of addiction. Don't trade one addiction for another.
Keep up good work mate, I’m 3 half years off drinking! Took stroke to change my thinking and now I have clarity of thought. 60 next month finally grown up.. thanks for what you do, your service 🖐👍
I think drinking is really prevalent amongst men, my Dad has always relaxed in the evening (every single evening) 'with a few cans' my brother does it, and I cannot believe the sound from all 3 of my neighbors houses every single morning of the number of empty cans going into the recycling bin. I think civvy street and certainly the regular/manual jobs guys have a bigger problem than what I seen in the military
I had not thought to compare civvy vs military - that's interesting, thanks Louise.
Hi Tim,
Big fan of your content.
I always wondered how I would do in the Air Force of my country as a Fighter Pilot.
20/25 vision kept me from my dream.
I actually joined the Navy Reserve as an Officer in order to learn navigation on a ship in order to join Regular Military as an Air Navigator.
In hopes of being in the system, that they would then waive the vision requirement to cross train to pilot some day. Long story ,but I had a dream.
Finally just pursued civil aviation and I am now an Airline Captain.
I like you, are the son of an alcoholic . You are four times as likely to become an alcoholic.
You coming from the RAF and an instructor , the pursuit of perfection must have taken a terrible toll on you. The Pope actually says it is ok not to be perfect.
Alcohol can become just a habit to reward oneself after a tough flight or calm oneself after a tough day. The cycle repeats.
The social aspect of drinking is so addictive. A friend once said he is not addicted to alcohol but addicted to fun. He has been dry for many years now.( And miserable😂)
The best advice I have received from another pilot when I was going through a breakup and drinking heavily(making my old man seem like a tee totaler) was that pilots are problem solvers and will try to solve their own problems. Everyone needs help from someone else sometimes. There is no shame in that.
I see that you being the controlling pilot type, are offering to help others in the quest to help yourself. Good therapy.
'Addiction is a nightmare dependency is a comfort blanket but standing alone free to be is terrifying ' not sure it makes sense but when my Grandad said it to me it mattered
Now that is so bloody true! Your grandad was a wise old bird mate!
Had my own "already dead" experience, in my terms it was "well, f it, NOTHING could be worse right now, so, when you're walking through hell, one foot in front of the other, keep on walking"
Thanks to those times, I'm now carrying someone that's close to me and going through dark times. I'm not spiritual or religious in the slightest. But something is giving me the strength to do the carrying when it's needed. My responsibility to stand and be counted when needed, and it sure doesn't feel like a burden.
Respect to your mum fam.
Very well said Tim, I wasn't very religious person myself but lately I'm turning to Lord more and more and it all makes sense what Christianity preaches. I'm glad you gave up drinking otherwise we wouldn't have such an amazing tutor of life and FJP. Thank you sir!!
That's very kind of you Thomas, I'm sure there are much better tutors out there but those are nice words so thank you.
I don't think it matters if there are any better. What is more important is the fact that we have someone like you to open other peoples eyes so they would do better in life. To drop some truth bombs 💣🤙🏻@@FastJetPerformance
26 months here. Anxiety - down. Quality Sleep - up. Well being - up. Happiness - up. Money - up. And my brain starts to work again.
The footsteps thing made me well-up a little bit Tim, I'm not going to lie. You have a wonderful gift to inspire people with your words, please do continue along that path, you ARE making a difference.
Re Buckfast Abbey, agreed, a truly amazing place, highly recommended if any of your viewers/subscribers are down that way.
........... still waiting to hear the (respectful) anecdote about you dear Mother though, or did I miss it?
I am an ex Pilot and gave up The Amber Nectar 7 years ago and I felt it was a bereavement. If I go to a Party I always volunteer to become the nominated Driver so as I never get pressured to have a Drink except Coca Cola or Minerals. It worked for me.
If that worked for you then you really didn't have an addiction
@@thirstybonsai1888 Sir I ended up in Ward 32 Victoria Royal in a Coma with drips in my arms through alcohol 7 years ago.
Props to you for raising this. It is so important to consider the things you raised. I am a trauma survivor myself.
Mums - Legends. Positive thoughts for your Mum and mine.
That the single set of footprints is where you stopped caring about anything other than addiction. Either that track ends, or is joined by others, after realising that addiction wants only three things: It wants you alone, it wants you penniless and it wants you dead. Thus spaketh my (now retired) GP.
9:00 especially. Awesome Tim. Theres so much of the same sort of things at my end.
I've looked at the top stair bannister before🙄. Not anymore!
There is a disconnect or something in communication between Men, can't put my finger on it, but you seem to be bridging the gap .
It's like when a pair of Typhoons beat up my house (often). You soak it up, Appreciate what it took to get them there, and then Nod in understanding and Appreciation.
Thanks Tim 🇬🇧
Good Job Tim ! Just keep going … yes there was a lot of alcohol in the Airline world , and a lot of time away from family and on your own . Few survived this without a problem along the journey . It could be a wonderful life but like many things in life , it came at a price . Every day I thank my
lucky stars I got through 40 yrs and retired . Hallelujah !!
Thank you Tim. Inspirational. Listening to you helps to put the bricks in the right places!
Ahh Tim, yet again your valuable wisdom... resonates......more than you know, definitely to a lot of people. We are strong until we are weak, until we rise above it again... I found my mum dead on Xmas day 2002 Tim what doesn't kill you makes us stronger x
Speaking as a 14,000 hour pilot- God has carried me.
Wish god was around when engines were failing.
Great video Tim. I am a long way from home in Cairo and your videos give me a lovely connection while I am here. Struggled on/off with alcohol and you are inspiring me to make difference choices.
I am not into SIM flying, but I few gliders in real life! Really like the idea of a community in parallel to the one you’ve set up with Shadowlands 👏🏼👍👏🏼
I knew a man once he said death smiles on us all .all a man can do is smile back .
You need to take up real flying again, and lots of people need you to take up flying again. Good luck man.😊
How interesting to consider how diverse we are and yet when we peel away our individual views we are all so similar. Rather like those moments when two young mates might sit in their car after a night out and chat into the wee small hours as they explore all those ‘What if’s & just imagine’. Humanity & the universe are really quite amazing.
Well Done, I wish you well :-)
On the mass Buckfast to mass at Buckfast.
There's a journey of personal growth.
Good one, Tim and good for you making this video. Nothing more to say than that.
Huge Respect Mr Davies! Keep up the great content! Super important message mate!
Tim iv followed you fur a few years now.
This was fundamental in its own wee way...
Godspeed, sir...o7
Congradulations Tim. Great disertation.
Great perspective Tim. Like you, not a believer, but I have faith in human nature and belief in that we can control our own destiny. Keep it up.
That bloke struggling in the gym on the other side of the world is me. Great stuff Tim. Booze ad before the video! Best wishes.
Interesting vid Rev Tim lol 😊 many of us been there got the t-shirt (black) and had the medications 💊 oh and the consequences 😮. Oddly enough I too visited a church we both know, the Marble church on the A55, while my better half was having treatment in hospital next door. Many years since last visit, not a believer but the calm atmospheric allowed brain to slow. I return to Wilko Johnson documentary called pleasure and pain of wilko i think, which he explains his philosophy dealing with terminal illness. Battle on Tim best wishes to you and of course your better half they are part of the team!
Congrats on tackling the alcohol. Keep it up mate.
Well said…much respect to you Sir
Great channel Tim, thanks for sharing your knowledge and experience for those of us into aviation, it's an inspiration and also respect for sharing your life story, stay strong.
Thank you Tim ❤
Inspiring Tim, don't know if I have the courage to stop the booze. Probably too weak. Can you please take us to see the old Yew tree mate? I'd be fascinated to see it.
I'll try and do that, good idea - we can discuss Romans and conquering distant lands!
Just watched the demonstration Typhoon in red white and blue doing the after burner evening display - 10 out of 10. Nearly as good as being chased by Hertfordshire police on a Suzuki Hayabusa and doing 170 mph over the M10 round about
Hahaha
I think stress and a high level of personal job responsibility are markers that can trigger alcohol dependency in all kinds of occupations. We just don't get the time for long walks, and other de stressing activities, so a drink is a " quick fix" that ultimately rebounds. It's also plainly obvious to me that forces members do not have an adequate bridging counselling between leaving and returning to civvy street. They expect so much of themselves that anything less than proving themselves immediately is seen by them as failure. I know as I've mentored one or two ex military lads and worked with a few more. They all needed reassurance that making mistakes is also called learning and long as they turn up to work and show willing they will get there, either quickly or slowly. It doesn't matter which. There were wobbles, but only one decided it wasn't for him. That's fine too. He went back to doing security work on tankers. He missed being a marine so badly. I'm the son of a tank gunner badly injured in Normandy in 1944, but he thrived on the stress of his chosen career in dentistry. We knew of other very capable dentists for whom the stress and responsibility was just too much and they sadly turned to drink, with predictable results. Everybody is different, but not that different. Faith I'm afraid has passed me by in my 69 years, but I do not underestimate the power of faith. I sometimes envy those with such certainty of their destiny, but the educated cynic in me is beyond redemption on that score.
I also think that, when we were smoking, we took natural breaks and had some good chats with random people - that all disappeared and alcohol became the goto thing it seems.
Great vid Crab, I often wonder if I'm an alcoholic. Ex Navy (Submariner, 4 deterrent patrols), Ex Army (RAMC, Herrick 7), currently NHS, I drank a lot with the former, but its not until I joined the NHS and came off call, drink is there, I can have it anytime, I drink more than my military time.
I hammered the last 13 months with a bottle of red wine 2-4 times a week. its just a bottle of wine right ? Now I've followed you from the start. I love the videos, love them! I saw your first vid and decided. wow. A fighter pilot, going through the same shit. I still drink. I pick a bottle of wine on a Friday or Saturday night. A single bottle, can I drop it? probably ! do I drink socially ? no! So why do i turn to it? even one day a week? I don't know, what I do know is that i listen and get inspired.
Don't stop these videos/blogs
Try to be the best person you can be is rumbling around in my head. I have a small voice on my shoulder suggesting that giving up alcohol altogether would be good. Jordan B Peterson, Douglas Murray- serious intellectuals - good to read and listen to on similar subjects. Your on the money here Tim. 👍👌
I smell what you're cooking Tim. Alcohol only masked those dark days temporarily for me personally. I still had dark days. The other thing is, we're only on this planet for an average of 80 years if lucky. It's how you enjoy that blip in time.
Yep it’s just a mask
Enjoyed this. Great talk 👍
Gooday tim .Well done
Inspiring words.
Hold on a minute. Wasn't the mantra the other week along the lines of 'nobody is coming to save you'? Now G-d is by our side. Just saying 👍
Nobody is coming to save you, wait a while and you'll see that. That's the message men need to hear, if they find a higher purpose, be it God or not, that's up to them but they need to help themselves.
Hero.
Like your videos - I fortunately have never had an addictive streak and this is a blessing and a curse because I have no “base” or commitment in many aspects of life. I love real ale and a good wine or malt and will not give up this pleasure in life. I am presently in U.K. (normally in HK or South Africa) and enjoying the country pubs - but I can just stop if my mind is on something else, I don’t feel like it, or I can’t find alcohol (like on my round the world motorcycle travels in places like Sudan).
Just watched the Bournemouth Airshow and seen the superb Red Arrows and also seen Tim’s videos of him screaming through the Mach Loop in a similar fast jet (maybe exactly the same - Hawk I believe).
My point is I don’t think Tim should beat himself up because he has done amazing things and maybe over thinking too much and perhaps getting depressed because expectations are sky high and adrenaline rush and sense of “purpose” is missing.
I do agree that exercise and activity is the key - even if for a short early morning walk or a cycle ride to work, a beasting in gym or on trails - for me motorcycling and mountain biking solves everything - get the heart to 160 and you’ll feel great. The other thing is good friends and an understanding and accepting partner.
Amen - from a roaming Catholic
I totally agree with you
Regards
Dave from Scotland
I'm not an expert but my sister has been a manager with Alcoholics Anonymous for over twenty years. She, herself is an alcoholic insofar as 'once was, always is', but has been 'dry' for all that time. She tells me that there is a physiological element within certain people that basically ensures addiction. In that respect, I assume that some people fight their 'inner demons' constantly whilst others just lament an otherwise enjoyable social pastime which has produced negative outcomes such as behavioural, financial or health problems.
Many years ago, I started jogging, which for me, was hard because my aerobic capacity is not particularly good. As a result, I didn't get too far down the road before I got the overwhelming urge to stop. So, I use to play a little game with myself in separating my mind from my body (sounds stupid) whereby my body starts telling my mind it wants to stop, but my mind is 'in charge' and refuses permission, calls my body a lazy git and forces it to continue. For many years I ran approximately 10 kilometres every day.
For me, my God is myself.
Alcohol is by far the most dangerous drug we have available. I think you could take any other illicit drug swap it out with alcohol and society would be much better off. I know it's a hot take but I lived it and I've seen tragedies that will make your heart drop.
Life's a gift & an adventure, but who said it was meant to be easy? As an ancient plaque on a medieval house in my neck of the woods says: 'Fear God, Obey the King' - although I've always thought on passing by it it makes more sense the other way around. Hope yr mother is better soon.
It’s interesting stuff Tim and really good that you have put out a second probably third video about this subject. I don’t feel my comment can do the subject justice and feel compelled to do a response video on my channel. Well done appreciate your content.
I'll keep an eye out for it, thanks.
@@FastJetPerformance I’ll send you the link when I have done it.
Lead us not into temptation, the devil
Is always on the prowl.
Tim, the missus has just asked me if 'he' does motivational or after dinner speaking? 'Er... dunno' replies I. Do you?
I take your 1600 year old tree and up you 21 million years which is the amount of time it has taken photons from the Pinwheel Galaxy to reach your eyeballs, so faint in fact that you can't even see it with the naked eye. You convinced me a couple of weeks back to stop drinking by the way, so cheers for that.
Hope it's working out for you and I'm looking up that photons stat because that is amazing, thanks.
Makeing the same journey
Hi Tim,
Interesting journey that you are on.
The fact is that there is no future in alcohol.....for anyone. Just say so without apology.
The fact is that to find Christ is to find that peace with God and life that we all long for and I say that without apology.
To partially quote Jesus, perhaps you are not far from the Kingdom of God Tim. You just keep looking but look in the right place. There are Scriptures besides what you have already learned that will guide you.
Every blessing
Kelsang Wangchuk carried me.
I really want to join the RAF as a pilot. I have considered the Navy but I'm not sure I could handle life aboard a ship.
The thing is, I'm white. But I identify as black.
Is this likely to be seen as a positive or negative by the RAF recruitment?
Thanks
become gay for a couple weeks and you'll soar through OASC
You're in! 😅
@@DaysOfDarknessUK
I'm not gay, but I do market myself as an 'ally' on Twitter. Plus I have a little Ukraine flag on at the bottom of my profile picture on Facebook.
Does that count?
Hahaha
Can you do a piece on how Ukraine are going to train their next generation of fighter pilots? We know the Jet coalition is providing F16 training, however, new pilots will need a lot more flying training to get to a standard to start an F16 course.
Can you investigate into who/ how will they get this training during war time?
Possible sources: Euro NATO Joint Jet Pilot training at Shepard Air Force base in Texas.
Undergraduate Pilot training in the USA.
England are providing elementary flying training from RAF Cranwell in Lincolnshire on the Grob 120TP.
Any thoughts or ideas would be appreciated!
My thought. The Bible, Jesus, God are not weird. I think as my catholic deputy head would say “ man without God is not wholly man.”
So many people going through hard times have privately given personal thoughts along the same path as you have just narrated Tim. I myself might also have done so on occasions.. I am a solid atheist based on the fact that if there is a God controller, then over 90% of Earths population have got it wrong. The obvious next question would be, "Who made God"? Think about it! Thanks again Tim.
Life is suffering,
Suffer now or suffer later.
You only come this way once....
AA and 12 steps did it for me
Ex marine
Lived a hell on earth for years,sober now since 2010
Sounds cheesy?
My story would make a 3 badge stoker weep 🤓
I have to park my car under Yew tree, worst tree God created, amount of crap that falls off it and attracts all the pigeons.
Currently serve and about to hit 21 years service. I do not see a break from drink. Addiction is shit. Never effected work, never been late for work or courses etc. Awful place to be but easier to be in it than accept it. My opinion
His wife gave him the ultimatum, don’t be fooled by this waffle 😂
Walking in sand sucks
ABSOLUTELY Brilliant the gladiator your mum and foot prints in the sand 🫡