The Hypocrisy of TradWives and How to Actually Protect Your Finances
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025
- The "TradWives" movement has grown exponentially over the last year, with content popping up all over mainstream media, Instagram, and TikTok. TradWife videos themselves may be hashtagged #tradwife...but the “link in profile” betrays a different story.
These women aren’t actually financially submissive at all. In fact, many of them are making bank. But this runs in direct opposition to one of the hallmarks of the TradWife ethos: a glamorized financial subordination to a male partner.
-
🎧 CHECK OUT THE MONEY WITH KATIE SHOW PODCAST: open.spotify.c...
💌 SIGN UP FOR MY WEEKLY FREE NEWSLETTER: www.morningbre...
💸 JOIN THE 2025 MONEY WITH KATIE WEALTH PLANNER WAITLIST FOR A 25% DISCOUNT AT LAUNCH: www.morningbre...
MY FREE ONLINE COURSES:
☕ Financial Independence 101:
moneywithkatie...
🌱 Personal Finance 101: moneywithkatie...
📈 Investing 101:
moneywithkatie...
✈️ Travel Rewards 101:
www.morningbre...
MY PREMIUM ONLINE COURSES:
🤑 Budget Like a Millionaire | Learn how to create a spending plan that actually works (free Wealth Planner included): education.morn... ($147)
MY KEY LINKS
🌍 My blog - www.moneywithkatie.com
📸 Instagram - / moneywithkatie
ABOUT MONEY WITH KATIE:
Money with Katie’s mission is to be the intersection where the economic, cultural, and political meet the tactical, practical, personal finance education everyone needs.
![Noob To Max With DRAGON REWORK In Blox Fruits [FULL MOVIE]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/LnBMOinoOvA/mqdefault.jpg)
I just wanted to say, those of us who are stay at home moms don’t just completely rely on our husbands for financial security. I have a nest egg I saved myself, we also have a prenuptial agreement in place. I also have a degree and experience under my resume. No one should ever quit their job for any reason without a back up plan. That’s just not very smart.
What happened to marriage being a team? Work together?
@@sadfasde3108 We do work together, every day. We work together for our children and for our life together. Neither of us believe in divorce but we both know things happen in life and anything is possible. Humans are imperfect and make mistakes. So we made sure both of us would be safe and secure if anything crazy ever happened. I think if anything, that IS working together.
You’re not a trad wife then. You are a SAHM who was smart and has financial and job security to fall back on should the marriage fail. I figure trad wives are women who have nothing to offer to a relationship besides their uterus.
It’s def not all of you which is why so many SAHM and trad-wives become financially trapped in the marriage or end up in poverty when the marriage ends. You’re way ahead of the curve in that aspect.
I feel so conflicted whenever I watch content on this topic. As a stay at home, homeschooling mother for over three decades, it feels like social media has pathologized normal, maternal behaviors that have been intrinsic to our species since the dawn of time. Rather than receiving the admiration that I once did for my life choices, all I hear today is politicized ideation of who I am from people who have never lived my life and truly have no idea what my life has been like. It’s surreal.
I'm not a mom but I support you getting space from the dialogue about SAHMs that frankly, can sometimes come off as condescending. Wishing you (and everyone else) peace in their own choices and agency!
@@Keilinger1 what a beautiful comment! Thank you kindly.
It’s also funny that they assume that trad wife is what all the men want nowadays. As someone who has put off relationships to work on my career throughout the first 1/2 of my 20’s I’d much rather be with someone who is also carrier oriented, independent and on a similar financial page. But maybe I’m just weird.
Disagree. Prefer our kids to be raised by their mother.
No, you are perfectly normal. What modern young men actually want to be the only one working and earning money ? What they say online is very different to reality. Trad wife (unless ok being controlled and are super religious) is a one way ticket to being a single parent living in poverty. Don’t do it! Much better being on equal footing than subservient
@@sadfasde3108the point of tradwife isn’t to not make money. It’s making money from home so they can raise their kids which wouldn’t happen outside their husband. A lot of times women fight to work only to take home less money because of childcare. It’s to each their own.
Or maybe you are mentally and emotionally healthy!
@@journeytothevoid2899 Tradwives aren’t supposed to work at all, and it’s not just about raising children. It’s a mindset that puts women under men and keeps them in the home which has a lot of issues such as abuse, and since the woman has no money of her own she and her children are left vulnerable if something happens to her husband or their marriage.
I appreciate your take on this topic. You demonstrated how some Tradwives are influencers and you also gave particle advice for those considering this type of lifestyle.
I think some people only see the glamorized content Tradwife influencers are presenting and don’t see the underlying context of what is also going on behind the scenes.
Wishing you the best and keep up the great work!
Every time I hear people talk about being a trad wife I think of two people I used to know as cautionary tales that you always have to be able to take care of yourself. The first woman was a stay at home mom who had two kids with a man she was in a relationship with. After 12 years together, he decided that he was no longer fulfilled by this relationship and moved out and left her alone with no job, two kids, and a house payment she could not afford without his income.
The second woman was married to a man who made a good living in construction while she worked as a waitress part time while raising their two kids under 8. While the family was on a summer vacation they were in a car wreck and, unfortunately, she was left as a single parent with two kids with one of the kids in the hospital for months. Even if you pick the right man, you cannot control the future, so you have to be able to take care of yourself and your kids.
Glad to see you back on this channel!
There is a very negative stereotype for women who decide to not work outside the home. My wife and I made this decision very early because we wanted our children to be raised with our values - by us. My wife as a stay at home mom has a much more important role than I do because we place the most value on the upbringing of our children. We made this decision when we had a very low income. Very low, below the so called poverty line. Again, we prioritize our children over things. I do believe families are better off when one of the parents stays home. This can be either the father or the mother. Most 2 income families are all about 2 incomes because they want to buy more stuff.
I didn't realize there was default pre-nup. Does it change if you move states?
Are they influencers or paid actors and cult members?
🤣
The viewer decides whether they are influential or not. The viewer is the one who decides what to do with the content, if anything.
All the "tradwives" we see online, run a social media influencer business.
Welcome back! Missed you 💖
what if you live in a major city where both parents have to work especially if you have a child with special needs
You do whatever works for your family
Move
@@sadfasde3108 its not always that simple not every city/town has a school with a good support system for children with special needs as someone who was diagnosed legally blind age 7 I can attest to this from my own school experiences
I love my tradwife so much! We live the traditional lifestyle and it works great.
Funny how the feminist anti-trad people never ever ever EVER seem to complain about "tradmen" who get married and then give 100% of their time, 100% of their money, attention, energy, toward their wife, home, family, kids, stressing and anxious always about how to give her more, and get her all the stuff she wants. I never hear ladies upset at the deal he's getting.
No ladies ever seem to think this is a bad deal for the tradmen. But they are quick to poopoo the tradwife position, who doesn't have to worry about all that and can focus on building a nice home for them and eventually perhaps have kids added to the mix.
If you live your whole marriage worried there is a divorce coming tomorrow and you spend your time and resources and tactical preparation for it, then you can pretty much guarantee you are writing your own script and will eventually get there by self-actualization.
You: We live the traditional lifestyle and it works great.
Your description of the "tradmen" lifestyle: ...get married and then... stressing and anxious always about how to give her more, and get her all the stuff she wants.
So, is this last part your wrote directed at yourself? "If you live your whole marriage worried there is a divorce coming tomorrow and you spend your time and resources and tactical preparation for it, then you can pretty much guarantee you are writing your own script and will eventually get there by self-actualization."
@@RadioactiveCat97 You don't divorce over the issue of couples spending too much time trying to make each others' lives better. That's kind of just a baseline of what you do for the person you love and wanted to marry forever.
@@vigilantezack Yet you're the one who said you're "stressing and anxious always about how to give her more, and get her all the stuff she wants.", and you're the one who said that leads to divorce?
Again, you are arguing with your own points here.
@@RadioactiveCat97 What? When did I say trying to give my family what they want and need leads to divorce? I'm saying if you spend your marriage PLANNING FOR DIVORCE, then it's far more likely to actually happen. After all, you've been planning for it since before tying the knot in the first place.
@@vigilantezack Still no idea who you're arguing with, other than yourself, since i'm not even married and never want to be 😹
Saw you on The Compound and found very articulate and easy to follow. Subscribed!
Thanks for being here!
"The call is coming from inside the housewife" A+ no comments
I’m not on social media but this TradWife thing comes off as sexist and a scam. Glad I dropped social media years ago.
It is. It puts women under men and creates a false sense of freedom and choice for many who are indoctrinated into thinking this is the only way they can be a woman. I’ve seen trad content and it made me sick how a man preached that a good wife gives a man authority over her body.
I like tradwives. 👍🏾 Traditional marriage
I really think it’s not funny. Especially if someone got a divorce because of this. They are lying to women and making women day dream about their lives. However, I’m worried they are misguiding people from Christians and making it seem like their lives are perfect. When in reality Christians face alot of difficulties. It’s ok to be a stay at home mom. However, you and your partner should plan accordingly to it. Also, maybe you’ll be home for a short time. However, we aren’t in the 1800s economy anymore. It will be very difficult. Especially with a huge family. I think modern day America is very different and the new generation is struggling with it. I do think it’s important for moms to stay home with their kids as it was supposed to be traditionally. The main point is these women are making bank out of there platforms. That’s how they lure you selling you the unattainable. A lot of them are good actors I would say.
So because a wife works from home she's not a trad wife? And you definitely don't understand how these marriages work. We don't need permission to leave the house, we don't get an "allowance" or are denied access to the bank accounts. That's not how a healthy marriage works. Just because some of the relationships are like you describe doesn't mean that they ALL are. And frankly it's insulting that feminist say women have the choice to be what they want to be EXCEPT if it's a traditional wife.
They aren't saying you don't have the choice, just have a backup plan in case you end up having to support yourself.
@@natashadickson4819 what I mean by that is that they praise women who work and criticize and ridicule women who decide to be housewives
@@christinebrito6535 You heard ridicule? I heard her say get a prenup.
@@natashadickson4819Why can’t that backup plan be finding another husband? Why can’t a women chose to raise her children?
@@sadfasde3108 Yes! That can be the back up plan. The POINT is to have a back up plan. Raise your children but have a backup plan for your financial security.
I feel like if you're not a mother yourself already, you don't have much authority to speak on the topic.
Oh I disagree. The submissive wife can have her own money. Come on
Yep, she used to sell eggs and butter to have pin money.
2:55 did you honestly just stereotype what men invest in based on the cryptobro minority? 🤦🏻♂️
It was a joke dude
dude, why do you care so much about other people's choices and their marriages. Most tradwives are not influencers. They're happy living their dream life and you just perpetually grumpy at them.
Because it can happen to a woman you care about. Happened to my sister. She was at home until the hubby lost his job by failing a random drug screening. Life happens. No harm in having a safety net.
I'm not how explaining how to protect yourself from financial ruin in the case of a being a widow or a divorcee is her being "just perpetually grumpy at [trad wives]". Maybe just watch the short 11 minute video until the end next time before commenting to avoid looking like such a dummy?
All she is telling other women is to be cautious because life can happen. Why do u got a problem with that.
@@Anisa-wi5zj Cuz they don’t want to face the very real reality that this lifestyle can be a huge gamble. I think sooner or later people who have that false sense of security get their wake-up call.
Wow, I have never heard tradwife quotes before, and Im not a fan
Katie, you can do much better than you did with this video. I like to hear you building women up instead of tearing down other women and their choices.
Ehhh….