How To Deal w/ Insecurities of Growing a Beard! Grow-Vember 2024

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  • Опубликовано: 18 ноя 2024

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  • @DanCBearded
    @DanCBearded  6 дней назад +7

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  • @unclebudd
    @unclebudd День назад +1

    I'm 75 and wish I had started my beard journey much much sooner. I'm happy with my beard and get a number of good comments on it.

  • @ralphmanning1292
    @ralphmanning1292 День назад +1

    I’m glad I’m a long-time consumer of this content because all the previous insecurities have been smashed over the past 5 plus years

  • @doctornicksamazingmanstuff
    @doctornicksamazingmanstuff 6 дней назад +8

    This will help a lot of people, if they actually listen! We all go through it and it’s nice to know we aren’t alone

  • @flagg_entertainment
    @flagg_entertainment 4 дня назад +3

    Unflattering lighting and angles are the worst thing for me. I try to ensure pictures I take show my beard at its best. The thing that gets me the most are the small dips between my mustache and cheeks, but that’s really more of a pattern than a patch. Gets covered up with enough time.
    Fortunately, people definitely don’t notice the perceived flaws nearly as much as we do with our beards. A good compliment can even turn around a bad beard day for me. That’s partly why I also try to give them out to my fellow beardsmen.
    You’re spot on about the age thing. My beard has been considered a “full beard” since my mid-late teens, but it looks way better now. Biggest change I’ve seen is the underlip patches almost completely disappearing. Never thought it would happen.
    Ultimately, all of our beards have their own personality, and there’s almost always a good way to rock what you’ve got.

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  3 дня назад +1

      Love all of this, thank you Flagg!

  • @Knickerbocker_Ave
    @Knickerbocker_Ave 6 дней назад +4

    My beard insecurities still exist. You never really get over them, 100%. It is just the mental chess match you play and some days, you don't even care. Other days you just don't let it beat you. I've been growing for a couple of years now... and honestly, it irritates me it's not where I want it to be. I'm talking 100% coverage, crisp lines, and a perfectly sculpted beard with some greys, a distinguished and purposeful look.
    What helped me? #1 this channel. Reaching out to Dan and other people and genuinely asking for help, guidance and overall remembering that it's a marathon. Keep faith that it's gonna get better. Also like Dan told me and he mentioned in this video, someone out there wants your beard. #2 Talking to your barber. Having that honest conversation what your insecurities are, and going over options of how to cut style, and even products to use. #3 if the first 2 don't help, go to a doctor and get yourself checked out. See where your hormone and other blood levels are. Again being honest and explaining your concern. #4 the most important one... rock what you got.
    ROCK WHAT YOU GOT. That doesn't even require an explanation but here it goes. This is your beard. There are many like it, but this one is yours. Nature gives your unique look, style, and personality. Why don't you have the "perfect beard" because yours is perfect for you! That patch here, or that awkward direction there, that curly hair here, or bald spot there is what makes you, YOU.
    If we all look the same, we'd be pretty fucking boring. Dead ass! Grow without shame, enjoy the journey, try out some awesome products and appreciate yourself and give yourself that grace. As my teacher says, STAY BEARDED, STAY POSITIVE!

    • @mikew4022
      @mikew4022 5 дней назад +1

      👍😁🧔😎

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +4

      Dude, you’re amazing! Genuinely thank you for always taking the time to share your thoughts and help so many. This is appreciated and noticed 🤝

    • @Knickerbocker_Ave
      @Knickerbocker_Ave 5 дней назад +1

      @DanCBearded thank you for being my teacher... appreciate you bro!

    • @mikesue1779
      @mikesue1779 5 дней назад +2

      I really appreciate the positive energy. Couldn’t have come at a better time. Thank you

  • @ralphmanning1292
    @ralphmanning1292 День назад +1

    Johnny Ray’s products are top shelf. Nate and Hannah are killin it!

  • @asdfgasdfghjkl1039
    @asdfgasdfghjkl1039 4 дня назад +1

    Dan,
    Your enthusiasm and positive disposition are infectious! Thank you!
    JB

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  4 дня назад +1

      Thank YOU! I appreciate that more than you know 🤝

  • @PIERCEthePROVOKER
    @PIERCEthePROVOKER 5 дней назад +3

    My piece of advice is to look in the mirror less. What I mean is figure out your routine with oil, style,etc and make the most of it while you're there but once you walk away from doing your routine don't check your reflection every 15 or 30 minutes or whatever.I get it you're at work and it's lunch time and you want to bring your mustache back to excellence with a little wax go for it but after that choose to tune out what you think you look like. While I love my beard and my mustache I am intentional about not letting myself become too vain about the way I look. There are more important things in life than our beards. Like Dan says enjoy the journey and you can't enjoy it if you think about too much. If you do you're obsessed and you need to change your thinking. Hope this helps someone.

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +2

      Thanks for sharing brotha!

    • @PIERCEthePROVOKER
      @PIERCEthePROVOKER 5 дней назад +1

      @@DanCBearded yes sir!!

    • @EdyMagic05
      @EdyMagic05 5 дней назад +1

      I do check my beard every 15 minutes, but, when I do it, my thoughts are "daaaaaaaaamn, goooooodniss, looking great" 😂😂

    • @PIERCEthePROVOKER
      @PIERCEthePROVOKER 5 дней назад

      @EdyMagic05 Hahahahahaha!!!

  • @paultonn9386
    @paultonn9386 5 дней назад +1

    sometimes my biggest insecurities come when I am feeling like my beard is looking REALLY good, then someone comes along and makes a comment about this or that...All of a sudden I am wondering if I even know what looks good/right. 😐😐😐
    But your comment on comparison is the thief of joy is on point. I know that I feel that in my job as well.
    Thanks for the reminder to keep on keeping on and keeping our eyes fixed on that which brings us joy.

  • @MisterKOak
    @MisterKOak 5 дней назад +1

    I saw a guy recently who had a 6 inch-plus beard that he grew in only 3 months! Beard envy hit me hard that day (I've been growing my beard for over 19 months, and it's probably around 3-4 inches).
    But, he complimented my beard, and I just have to keep on the journey!

  • @88BuckMeister
    @88BuckMeister 6 дней назад +2

    Oh jeez. You hit the nail on the head. I'm currently growing my beard out as I decided I want to go terminal. I've decided that in the past and always wound up shaving it because of the very insecurities you're talking about in the growing process. I have a wavy soft beard. Is definitely not patchy it's a full beard, But still wavy and soft. All the hair on my face grows from my left side towards my right side. It comes to a point at the corner of my right jaw line, Because the hair on my right side of my face grows diagonally downward and towards my shoulder, But the hair directly under my jaw line on my neck grows upwards and towards my ear. So when I comb my beard it is a point. Add that to the fact that everything essentially grows from my left side to my right side and I'm fighting it constantly and always finding myself somewhere in the growing process where I look in the mirror and say that's gross even though I know it will probably be amazing once it's long. Is I had better stick through at this time

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  6 дней назад +1

      Been there too my friend! If you aren’t using heat in your styling routine, I do highly recommend it!

  • @Hambone-z3c
    @Hambone-z3c 6 дней назад +2

    Just to be honest, I was riding on a 15 month trip (Yeard...), and two weeks ago I reluctantly committed to a trim. No regrets. Lots of time and patience gettin to that 15 mo. but it does look and feel better after taking a couple inches off.

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  6 дней назад +2

      Oh I bet dude! 15 months is a great commitment

  • @Tyno913
    @Tyno913 5 дней назад +4

    Great video & topic!
    Agreed with Dan that you are your worst critic. For every 1 complaint I get I see 10 beards that I envy!
    Enjoy the journey because yours is unique!
    Thank you Dan & keep it up!

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +2

      Love the word unique! So fitting

  • @hellfire666-vd8dc
    @hellfire666-vd8dc 5 дней назад +1

    Amen Dan just enjoying the journey love it. I kinda stand out I sometimes feel with having a longer beard when most guys I see just have short timed beards I wouldn't dream of trimming it down there in my mind it will stay a part of me untill it drops out naturally. Just going through the more shredding phase or I just notice it more like you touched on in a pervious upload.

  • @truenorthbeardco
    @truenorthbeardco 5 дней назад +3

    your beard looks way better than you think! 🤝

  • @MarouaneBouziane-vq7sy
    @MarouaneBouziane-vq7sy 2 дня назад +1

    Hi man i took your advice seriousely now im about two years bearded 🎉😊

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  2 дня назад +2

      Love to hear that!

    • @MarouaneBouziane-vq7sy
      @MarouaneBouziane-vq7sy Час назад

      @DanCBearded yeah i was conserning about some patchiness but After two years bearded i became full

  • @BobbysBearded
    @BobbysBearded 5 дней назад +1

    After trimming down and growing my beard out multiple times for years. The biggest tip for me is when in doubt grow it out.

  • @yobabybubba
    @yobabybubba 6 дней назад +3

    Thanks Dan another great video. I keep trying to grow a true yeard and I end up trimming it like I just did after 7 weeks of not touching it at all. The bottom of my neck looked so ridiculous that I just said, let me make a neckline and trim it down. The way I did it to get the beard in my photo was a lot more fun. I started with a neckline and then I let it go down down little by little to a point where I didn't touch it at all at three inches of length. When I grow a long beard again, it doesn't have to be a yeard. I do care what people think and how I look. That's why I just can't seem to grow a yeard.

  • @mikeh2373
    @mikeh2373 6 дней назад +2

    I have had to overcome working in retail with a beard and have been told I am the best at wearing my beard net which I despise, but I don’t ever want my beard to get noticed in a way where I am constantly told to put my beard net on etc… I also have to overcome aftermath of regrooming my beard after work and it’s the worst but I have kind of mastered it along the way. I wear a hair net same color as my beard and often have associates ask me beard questions and direct them to this channel. 💥

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  6 дней назад +2

      Love how you were able to overcome that!

  • @Grimhof
    @Grimhof 5 дней назад +1

    I usually get beard insecurities a few times a week. To combat this I keep telling myself to wait to the end of the month and If I have not had any positive thoughts on it between now and then, then I can shave it. It has been 1 year and I have not gone a full month hating my beard.

  • @talisitiger1
    @talisitiger1 6 дней назад +1

    Great reminder for ALL of us, thanks Dan! We can be our own worst enemy in many ways! Thanks for always encouraging the community, you kick butt!

  • @michaelhromi9884
    @michaelhromi9884 6 дней назад +1

    Great one once again! My insecurities lie in my sideburns. I go for the natural, no fade look and some days they’re quite crazy. Other days they’re perfect. I also get the “wings” near the back by my ears where it bumps the shoulder.

  • @johnnierayco
    @johnnierayco 6 дней назад +1

    “Comparison is the thief of joy” - what a perfect quote for this video and one of my favorites as well!!
    When it comes to beard insecurities, mine is probably just the overall volume, density, and thickness. There are some beards out there that look like they could conceal a small animal haha - 😂
    Speaking of animals, what an amazing choice of sponsorship for the Grow-Vember series. I am an avid animal lover, so we are super excited to take part again this year! 🐕
    Thanks and great video!

  • @benjaminscott
    @benjaminscott 5 дней назад +1

    I’ve always struggled with looking at my beard in the mirror and not being happy with it. However I’ve changed my ways now I’m loving it

  • @Beared-Jay
    @Beared-Jay 6 дней назад +1

    Soooo true. I want to grow my beard to 10-12 inches, but I'm around 4.5 - 5.5 inches. But the bottom line is I enjoy the daily routine of taking care of my beard and I know it'll eventually get there!

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +2

      The patience part is so hard but so worth it!

  • @theartistformerlyknownasbr4849
    @theartistformerlyknownasbr4849 5 дней назад +1

    I definitely have things that I obsess over in my beard. Part of the reason I trimmed shorter was to prove to myself that all the things I learned growing my beard long, would help eliminate some of the issues I had growing it out the first time.
    I am very satisfied that the skills I learned DO apply, but I NEEDED to learn the techniques on MY beard for the techniques to work. When I tried to follow all the advice the first time, it was close, but not tailored to MY beard, so I was always left less than happy, and that's when the beard envy really hit.
    I am very pleased whit the re-growth process, in fact I've kept it around this length for about ten months, and now feel it's time to add a little length back...

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +2

      I almost asked you about your current plans on a recent pic of yours, but figured you were just enjoying this length!

  • @cikario30
    @cikario30 5 дней назад +1

    I get on my head about my side of my beard but I always get back to other videos that you had made and I get out my head. One beard product that has help me a lot is bearded Mack. Love your videos always informative. Thanks.

  • @josephevans2912
    @josephevans2912 5 дней назад +1

    Great points Dan, I have the bad habit of comparing my beard with others and think mine isn’t that good, but I get a lot of compliments on my beard especially when it is long. I also let thoughts live rent free in my brain when people say something about my beard and management regarding my beard, it’s never been negative and I’ve never received any criticism from management about my beard in fact I’ve been complemented on it by my boss, but I have trimmed my beard thinking about my professional appearance and I need to just enjoy the journey

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +2

      Thanks for sharing Joseph!

  • @J.Allen5057
    @J.Allen5057 5 дней назад +1

    Thanks, for the reminder Dan.
    I’m coming up on my 5 month mark of my yeard. I have about an inch of transparency at the bottom of my beard that drives me up a wall. The hair on my chin and cheeks is growing much faster than my neck but I don’t want to trim yet.

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +2

      When in doubt, grow it out 🤝

  • @semperfortisjiujitsu
    @semperfortisjiujitsu 6 дней назад +2

    Great advice Dan!

  • @Sarge5150
    @Sarge5150 6 дней назад +2

    My beard insecurity is that i have a French fork. I know it's a thing and some people think it's the coolest but to me it just doesn't look right. My hope is that I can get the short center part to grow to a length I want and then trim my beard even based on that.

    • @mikew4022
      @mikew4022 5 дней назад +1

      How many months dude? :-)

    • @Sarge5150
      @Sarge5150 5 дней назад +2

      @mikew4022 been growing it almost a year and a half. Trims here and there

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +1

      I trim to my current length mainly because of the French fork! Along with more transparency and the shape changing

    • @Sarge5150
      @Sarge5150 5 дней назад +1

      @DanCBearded how long is it?

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад

      I’m at 12 inches currently

  • @jasonburns6411
    @jasonburns6411 6 дней назад +1

    I’m only two weeks into my journey, this video helped a lot!

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +1

      That’s great to hear man! Welcome to the channel and let me know if I can ever help 🤝

  • @UltimateXmas
    @UltimateXmas 5 дней назад +2

    My beard grows wild, I don't trim it, style it, etc. No insecurities whatsoever. I use beard oils and butters and it looks good to me.

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +1

      Sounds great! Nice approach

  • @parnold117
    @parnold117 5 дней назад +2

    Having a well kept beard really does require a lot of mental discipline, and requires men to confront a lot of insecurities we may have about ourselves. I think on some level we have understood the great mental fortitude that it takes throughout history. Ancient cultures often depicting philosophers and kings with beards as a sort of mark of wisdom, even in ancient Egypt (which otherwise considered hairlessness next to godliness) depict Pharos with "postiches" (fake beards).

  • @j.m.4858
    @j.m.4858 6 дней назад +1

    Good morning

  • @Tommyc463
    @Tommyc463 5 дней назад +1

    I love the best beard on average fact of 42 years old that you share and I pay that fact forward very often to younger guys upset that their beard isn’t completely full. Could you flip me details on that or maybe a link so I can read up on it more? I definitely had a weak beard in my 20’s, it started filling in into my late 30’s and my beard is very full now in my 40’s without anything but giving it time!

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +2

      Got you covered my friend: ruclips.net/video/qvMcEC_Sx7A/видео.htmlsi=kAK95-IKEDf1aIuw

  • @im4scots86
    @im4scots86 6 дней назад +1

    I've come to terms with my perceived beard. Flaws a long time ago. Sure, my chin hair could be a bit thicker, but it is what it is. And that's alright with me.

  • @jtsteve
    @jtsteve 4 дня назад +1

    Great info!!! This is advice that can really hit home for some. Gotta let it go!!! 🍻🍻🍻 still fight the chin dip and fork.

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  3 дня назад +1

      I am fighting those too! And the sides

  • @jimcummings4712
    @jimcummings4712 4 дня назад +1

    YES!not growing fast enouph, not thick enouph, too much transparency , not long enouph. GOOD GRIEF!😅😅😅😅 THANKS DAN.

  • @mrthrill91
    @mrthrill91 5 дней назад +1

    The right side of my mustache doesn’t fully connect to my beard, and every time I look in the mirror I wonder if it ever will. That’s my beard insecurity.

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +1

      Many of us have that or similar ones!

  • @jimcummings4712
    @jimcummings4712 4 дня назад +1

    YEAH,DAN! I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN!😊😊😊

  • @benslater9099
    @benslater9099 5 дней назад +1

    1 life live it life to short to worry what others thing weather they like beards or not grow your beard your way 👍

  • @rondanna2304
    @rondanna2304 6 дней назад +2

    Thank you,I needed this

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +1

      Love to be able to help! Thank you for commenting!

  • @lovepeacesupport5548
    @lovepeacesupport5548 5 дней назад +1

    You have no idea how much this helped thanks for sharing 💙
    Plus , what do you think about Harrods Le Labo beard oil ?

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +1

      Thank you for commenting! I have never heard of that oil, I am sorry

    • @NG-ki5eo
      @NG-ki5eo День назад

      LeLabo beard oil is massively overpriced. If you like cologne-scents check out Luxurious Bastard!

  • @TheWhateverMan420
    @TheWhateverMan420 6 дней назад +1

    I have been thinking of shaving it off and starting fresh. I feel I didn't set myself up for success 3 years ago when I started. Kept shaving my neck, as Some research I found then suggested. By the time I stopped, my beard was full except the neck. My growth is also very slow so I wonder if it would grow faster on a restart. Plus, I'd be able to get progress pics. Currently, I struggle with this idea 50% of time. Some days I say I don't want a restart and just let it be and other days, I am an arms length away from the clippers

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  6 дней назад

      I would recommend sending in to Beard Advice Live (our Wednesday night livestream 9p est or replay any time). I can give much better advice with this one, if I was able to see

  • @tonynassisi7562
    @tonynassisi7562 5 дней назад +1

    Comparing your beard to another's can give you ideas on what you would like to achieve instead of being envious. I'm currently in the beard awkward phase waiting on parts of my beard to grow longer so it will be more even.

  • @flappi55
    @flappi55 2 дня назад +1

    How long do I grow it? Being newly retired from corporate America I started my beard in Sept. I trimmed slightly but for the most part left it alone.

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  2 дня назад +1

      Totally personal preference! I would say find a goal beard and I can help you work towards that

    • @flappi55
      @flappi55 2 дня назад +2

      ⁠@@DanCBearded thanks for the immediate feedback. I'll take your advice and search for a length I like. Thanks for supporting the Humane Society in Flint, I support Canine Companions Rescue Center in Oxford, MI and have adopted three so far.

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  2 дня назад +1

      Dude, that is so cool! A good friend of mine is the head football coach at Oxford, Zach line. Actually had our bachelor parties together

  • @beardedchef5756
    @beardedchef5756 6 дней назад +1

    My biggest concern is uneven growth. It drives me nuts. I don't cut my beard hairs. It's just hard when people see the same thing and tell me about it.

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +1

      Why don’t you trim even along the way?

    • @beardedchef5756
      @beardedchef5756 5 дней назад +1

      @@DanCBearded religious views. In the book of Leviticus you don't cut the corners of your beard

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +1

      Thanks for sharing!

  • @arjunsharma5343
    @arjunsharma5343 5 дней назад +1

    Bro I need a quick advice from you as I am about to trim my long beard a little bit in 2 days. Should I use the trimmer sideways or vertically on the beard below the chin portion to the Throat area??so to maintain the beard line above one finger over the Adam's apple as well..I want to reduce the beard length a little bit until the full beard and moustache doesn't come to prevent it from looking shabby..

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +1

      Always parallel to the ground. Checkout any of my trim videos for demos

    • @arjunsharma5343
      @arjunsharma5343 5 дней назад +1

      @DanCBearded parallel to the ground you mean to say sideways or using the trimmer horizontally??

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад

      That’s impossible to answer, because it all relative and how you see it

  • @buffalotodd5068
    @buffalotodd5068 5 дней назад +1

    Love me some no shave November content

  • @BENJAMINLEEHURLBURT
    @BENJAMINLEEHURLBURT 5 дней назад +1

    I decided that even though I am a bread purist I am still going to wear holiday scentes. 🎅🏼🎅🏼

  • @EdyMagic05
    @EdyMagic05 5 дней назад +1

    Hello bearded nation.
    I've always loved everything about my beard. The shape, the density, the color. But, I always had it pretty short, like my profile pic 😅
    I've been letting it grow since early October, and now I'm having some insecurities about the shape of my beard, I'm at the weird phase 😅 specially underneath my chin, because the hairs curl a lot to the left. Because of that, a week ago, I made the mistake of trimming it a little bit too much 🙈 but, live and learn, right? 😅
    Also, my mustache. I'm having insecurities about how I want my mustache to look like in the future. That's because, I hate having hairs covering my upper lip, but I also love the effect that a great mustache has on a full beard, instead of a trimmed mustache. If I trim the bottom part of my mustache, it looks too thin and it also looks like my lips are super tiny 😅
    And I think that's it, for now 😂

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  5 дней назад +2

      Many of us relate to that journey!

  • @WalterSmith25
    @WalterSmith25 6 дней назад +1

    I keep feeling like mine is very transparent and Erika is lying to make me happy LOL
    I also HATE pictures on phones.

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  6 дней назад +1

      Phones and lighting can play sooo many tricks on your brain

  • @_beardedbeanie_
    @_beardedbeanie_ 6 дней назад +1

    I have a thin spot on my chin causing a French fork that used to drive me insane

    • @DanCBearded
      @DanCBearded  6 дней назад +1

      Love to see the phrase USED TO in this one 🤝 that’s what it’s all about

  • @DominickPounds-g6e
    @DominickPounds-g6e 5 дней назад +1

    Mr command u remember me from 7th grade 4th hr history?

  • @ryanpower1291
    @ryanpower1291 5 дней назад +1

    I'm doing no shave November anyone else joining me here

  • @jjperez8
    @jjperez8 6 дней назад +1

    Woohoo

  • @derekarseneau2569
    @derekarseneau2569 5 дней назад +1

    I like to think opinions are like a**holes.. everyone has one

  • @jasonshuller1541
    @jasonshuller1541 6 дней назад +1

    First

  • @anime2011ish
    @anime2011ish 6 дней назад +1

    This video is very helpful! Thank you Dan! ☺️