I like the idea of “mutual polyamory” as someone who’s both naturally monogamous and also very intimate, I think it solves the main problems of relationships. If it’s not two yes’s it’s a no, and if your partners no isn’t important enough to become your no, you probably shouldn’t be with that partner, in my opinion. Yes it limits both people and they will both miss out on a certain percentage of what they want, but in exchange they get to experience the world through a partnership. Not for everyone but works for me and a nice starting point! ❤
I like the Meet Joe Black view on this matter. Find someone you can love like crazy and will love you the same back. Forget your head and listen to your heart. No point in living your life without being deeply in love with someone. If you haven't tried you haven't lived.
Maybe a question that can be answered in an interview or fireside chat sometime: Dear Tom, I have for many years tried my best to overlook my own needs to put my partner first. Her expectations are reasonable within our culture. But I feel committing to this structure which society expects of me is hollowing me out and preventing me from living my full potential. How do I reconcile these opposing forces?
As you grow up, your list of needs shrinks. However if certain behavior is a part of your character, you should never pretend to be someone you’re not. The way I see it it’s like a “want” or a “part of me” and the wants can always wait, and the parts of you should always be prioritized, anything else is pretending. At the end of the day we’re just picking what’s the most important to us.
Sorry... but saying "all rules" never made sense in the first place just seems like a way to not hold people accountable for their actions.... It seems like a bit of a setup to end up in a world with a lot of single moms trying to get every penny from fathers that don't want to even see their own flesh and blood ... and all because some people want to have a fun night without any rules... mhm... oh wait... that's the society we're in now. Some rules make a lot of sense, like family values, cleaning up after yourself, let everybody have their own opinion, as long as it's not leading to harmful actions... those rules make a lot of sense. But his hippy lifestyle were no one gives a f*** is what is creating poor conditions for everyone (e.g. taxpayers who have to pay to raise that child in a way). So, I think everyone should live life to the fullest, and do whatever they want, as long as they remember that they have to be responseable for the consequences, and not everyone around them, because rules are not cool. That's a big part of growing up. Some weird rules are not necessary, that's true, but don't throw the baby out with the bathwater... that's all I'm saying...
Thanks, Caroline & Tom! I 🙏💖✨️
This is why I love Tom, for a old guy he is open minded.
I like the idea of “mutual polyamory” as someone who’s both naturally monogamous and also very intimate, I think it solves the main problems of relationships. If it’s not two yes’s it’s a no, and if your partners no isn’t important enough to become your no, you probably shouldn’t be with that partner, in my opinion. Yes it limits both people and they will both miss out on a certain percentage of what they want, but in exchange they get to experience the world through a partnership. Not for everyone but works for me and a nice starting point! ❤
I like the Meet Joe Black view on this matter. Find someone you can love like crazy and will love you the same back. Forget your head and listen to your heart. No point in living your life without being deeply in love with someone. If you haven't tried you haven't lived.
Long live Tom Campbell ❤
Maybe a question that can be answered in an interview or fireside chat sometime: Dear Tom, I have for many years tried my best to overlook my own needs to put my partner first. Her expectations are reasonable within our culture. But I feel committing to this structure which society expects of me is hollowing me out and preventing me from living my full potential. How do I reconcile these opposing forces?
Great question!
As you grow up, your list of needs shrinks. However if certain behavior is a part of your character, you should never pretend to be someone you’re not. The way I see it it’s like a “want” or a “part of me” and the wants can always wait, and the parts of you should always be prioritized, anything else is pretending. At the end of the day we’re just picking what’s the most important to us.
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"Your culture is largely mentally ill" ahaha.. that's a good line.
Sorry... but saying "all rules" never made sense in the first place just seems like a way to not hold people accountable for their actions....
It seems like a bit of a setup to end up in a world with a lot of single moms trying to get every penny from fathers that don't want to even see their own flesh and blood ... and all because some people want to have a fun night without any rules... mhm... oh wait... that's the society we're in now.
Some rules make a lot of sense, like family values, cleaning up after yourself, let everybody have their own opinion, as long as it's not leading to harmful actions... those rules make a lot of sense. But his hippy lifestyle were no one gives a f*** is what is creating poor conditions for everyone (e.g. taxpayers who have to pay to raise that child in a way).
So, I think everyone should live life to the fullest, and do whatever they want, as long as they remember that they have to be responseable for the consequences, and not everyone around them, because rules are not cool. That's a big part of growing up.
Some weird rules are not necessary, that's true, but don't throw the baby out with the bathwater... that's all I'm saying...
This topic is too residivestic Caroline is too tide to this type of model of gender essentialism 😢