To Speak or Not to Speak

How is a wife to know when she should say something and when she should be quiet? Let's talk about that difficult topic together!
I have posts about this topic on both of my blogs that go into further detail:
Peacefulsinglegirl - peacefulsingleg...
Peacefulwife: wp.me/p28uul-3HF
It is important to watch our motives as we make this decision:
Am I trying to hurt my husband?
Is what I am going to say going to honor Christ and my husband?
Will I cause harm or healing?
Am I speaking truth in a loving, respectful way?
Am I being selfish?
Am I making my husband more important to me than Christ?
Are my feelings THE MOST important thing to me right now, or getting my way? Or am I listening to God?
Do I have sinful motives at all?
Am I hormonal, hungry, exhausted or sick? Is this something that I could wait to share when I am NOT hormonal, hungry, exhausted or sick?
Am I walking in the power of God's Spirit?
Am I seeking to bless my husband and honor Christ?