Single here at 40. To all single ladies here, just be grateful that you are being protected from unhealthy relationships. Having peace of mind is more important than being in a toxic one.
As an NBSB girlie, this was so empowering! I turned 30 this year and grabe the pressure of finding a boyfriend. I'm in a healthy place now where I WANT a relationship but I don't see it as a NEED. Love hearing your insights kasi I feel super validated
37 years old, always having almost-is-never-enough connections with guys.. technically NBSB.. 😅😅 facing it postively yet still hopeful. go gurls! enjoyed your talk so much
This podcast made me realize a lot of things sometimes when you’re getting into a relationship you don’t realize that we put our partner into a pedestal and expect them to do understand reads our minds and do more things that we can’t even offer ourselves. That instead of focusing on finding a partner, you need to build yourself to be that better partner and not just that, have you need to take a second and take a look at yourself maybe there’s something missing within yourself like finding your self, fulfilling your career and dreams that only you can find and really only you can do it no one else. We often say I hope they’re right for me or hoping they’re the last one but at the end of the day are you still happy with yourself without them that’s why it’s important to really just take your time and learn how to do things on your own finding a partner should just be a bonus in life But I think is not necessary to rely and make them think they’re going to make you happy once you’re in relationship everyone in your life can disappoint you. So it’s so important when you get into a relationship you’re self intact that no matter what happen whether they leave and the relationship didn’t work you won’t be a wreck after.
I would just like to say this was Godsent. I think this video found me. I’m 34 now, and I just recently broke up with my ex after a year of dating - in the middle of my Bar exam review. It feels like I’m just going through the motions because I can’t wallow in my sadness as I have to focus on reading. This gave me so much hope and I am excited for the next few months, or even years of my life to enjoy my singlehood. I’m now an instant fan, Nicole and Lissa. 💗
this has got to me one of my most favorite episodes in your podcast. I resonate so so much with both of you guys, especially with Lisa, because I’m 28 and I also just came out (not “just” actually, it’s been 2 years!!) from a long term relationship and I’m extremely happy, content and at peace with being by myself. 🦋 I’ve spent quite some time doing the inner work undistracted and I really now give myself the PEACE that I now want to protect with all my might. LOL like it took so long and hard for me to get to this point, na anyone I date that will not potentially fill my cup as much as I do, I don’t waste my energy on na. and for you to be able to make yourself happy, that is something so empowering! sobrang natural lang na we have this set of standards kasi I can literally buy myself flowers, lamoyon?! hahaha but really, I admire how you both are navigating the single life with full confidence and with a positive outlook. singlehood is indeed a gift that not everyone gets to experience. sabi nga nila, if you know na a year from now you’ll get the family life that you’ve always wanted, what would you have done differently? SO INDEED, ROMANTICIZE YOUR SINGLE LIFE, BESTIES! P.S. I’m a listener all the way from Massachusetts!! add that to your long list of international reach hehe
As a single guy who's actively dating, it is true na nakakapagod naman talaga and also what Nicole said na, "sometime nakakalimutan mo na king ano na kwento mo" specially when you're dating 3-5 people at the same time hahaha that's why sometimes, id take my time to rest and delete the apps for months. I love their genuineness!
mabuti kayong tao at naniniwala akong darating si mr. right kaya mag prayer reveal na lang ako haha. pag nagpray kayo be specific like Lord, pls sana pag nakita ko na si mr. right sana po mabait, masipag, matangkad, gwapo etc. and it works promise! pag di pa to sapat isulat niyo sa paper lagay niyo sa ilalim sa unan after praying ewan ko na lang talaga haha. love you girls! God loves you!
Lissa, I’ve said this before but ikaw talaga ang spirit animal ko. 💯💯💯 Also happily single in my thirties. Most of your advices, I already know but listening to you and Nicole just gives me the comfort na hindi ako nag-iisa. I truly enjoyed this episode!!
I'm really amazed and inspired sa friendship nyong blogger besties, esp during the time na iba iba na kayo ng season where someone got married na, someone dating/engaged and someone still being single but you guys embrace each of your friends current season. Yung support nyo for each other very evident❤
I agree not to rush in getting married… married life is not always a bed of roses, neither it is full of thorns..it’s still the best feeling na may inuuwian ka at the end of the day..just a bit of encouragement lng 😊
Super dami kong natutunan sa inyo!. I can relate to you ladies because I am in the same situation, early 30’s, single for 6 years din, and happily doing the self work! Minsan mahirap but it was really a wakeup call hearing Lissa say na mas nanghihinayang siya sa future if mag end up with the wrong person. That’s such a really nice perspective, hindi na ako manghihinayang to take my time at present to focus on myself. ❤
Meron Akong tita tandang Tanda ko yung sinabi niya and she is single hanggang mag age na siya and isa siyang teacher sa isang university(sabi niya I am happy with my choice)that is being single and tama depende talaga sa tao kung paano tatanggapin Ang sitwasyon in reality tanggap din namin as family dahil happy naman si tita and we respect her decision ❤
hindi ko alam kung iiyak ba ako or tatawa. but it feels so good na may topic na ganito. Ito yung totoong we do not invalidate someone just because we did not experience it. Ito yung kahit konti na feel ko na okay lang kung di ako ganito di ako ganyan. Thank you Girls! Na feel ko na somehow parang ako si Lissa less sa part na pumarty sya during her 20s hahaha
mga ate. this topic, the conversation - batuhan ng question at sagot with the heart, is a conversation i never had with myself. thank you! both of you are amazing lovely ladies and I believe God is still writing your lovestory. ❤
Oh my! I strongly agree with what you both, Ms Nicole and Ms Lissa, have shared in this podcast and it's nice, truly appreciated your podcast as your platform to freely discuss what you've gone through and what you have to impart with us (apart from your vlog which I miss this Saturday, parang walang bagong upload) :) I just admire the both of you, intelligent and brave and empowered young women at your 30s! God bless and keep you!😍🙏💝
I super love this talk. Para akong kinakausap ng isang ate para payuhan. Super meeded this and so timely ❤️ more topics about this please gusto ko ma enlighten. Chars. love you both.
I never knew Nicole is so fluent in Tagalog. Nakakatuwa. Also, being cheated on, I guess nakaktrauma yun. Kahit ako I’d rather be single. Gusto ko yung honesty and rawness nito. Feeling ko ganon din ako.
Para kang si Marie Forleo na binansagan ni Oprah na America's Thought Leader. Para sa akin ikaw ang Philippines' Millenial Thought Leader! God Bless You Nicole A! 😇
I agree: With your keen sense of awareness; Your advice brings about compassion, balance, love and wisdom…you’re empowering and more power to the podcast & you - ❤️🤗
At 34 sobrang relate sa halos lahat😊 I'm loving and enjoying my career, travelling and just taking my time on love. For me I'm on a long distance relationship and at this point if I would get married or hindi mag work out itong relationship ko hindi na big deal sakin. Basta healthy lang ako and loved ones ko and I have enough money to support myself kung if ever talagang magiging old maid ako hehe.
Listener from Dubai and I’m your fan in the early days pa. Idk but I keep dming you sa Insta haha and you somehow still responds. Yk I listen to your podcast when I do my runs. Na shashock na lang ako naka 5k ako nonstop running. Ganyan ako kahook!!! (I could only run 1k nonstop before)
Do not look for a Mr. Right, be your own Mrs. Right. If you love yourself, regardless if you have a partner or not, you'll be happy and contented. Having no partner doesn't diminish your value as a woman. Some people just thrive better without partners.
Hi Nicole i am a silent viewer of your podcasts. I am Mark a Filipino gay guy living here in Germany. I could totally relate on this topic, I am on my late 30‘s also and had been to relationships which it didn’t work out. If I may recommend a book, you can read the book of Chantal Heide‘s „No More Assholes“. This is a perfect book tailored fit for single people like us. ❤
I'm at 20:21 of the pod. I just want to share something also. I am single and I'm 23. I started my dating life too early because of the wrong reason, I want to feel loved back then. I was so immature and the idea of love when I look back is so unreal. And up until my recent ex that I broke up with for the reason that I can't take that kind of situation for the rest of my life. Yes, I am still immature and I have my faults too but I broke up for the right reason because somehow I know what I want. I am single for a year now. I also reflected and I was really really worried for the first few months like 'What if someone will not love me anymore?' I was too scared not to be loved but along the way, I am learning to love myself and filling my own cup. I also realized that there is so much more than dating someone and realized that I missed so much in my life because I dedicated my time and effort to someone I didn't end up with. I am still not dating right now and I am not planning to not until I find someone worthy of my attention because I am okay with my single life now. Okay, continuing the pod now. 😂😂
I'm at 22:41. Yea, it is so tiring. Talking to a new person is tiring. Telling about yourself over and over again to people you are talking is very tiring 😭
I'm at 45:13. That is very true. I think I am also the kind of person that shows my true self right at the beginning of dating or relationship because with that, I'll know if someone will like me as I am.
"No one has ever died from marrying late, but some have died from marrying the wrong person."
Very well said! ❤
Single here at 40. To all single ladies here, just be grateful that you are being protected from unhealthy relationships. Having peace of mind is more important than being in a toxic one.
I first started dating at 33 years old!! Then married at 35 years old with my first boyfriend and now husband 😃 Waiting really pays off!!
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Wow! Amazing story. I starte at 29, thought I was so late then.
@@MaiMai-om7cz hello! :) yup I really took my time to know myself better, pray and focus on my career ;)
I just love how Lissa is so comfortable and confident on being single. Being single doesn’t mean you’re unhappy. Love you both☺️
As an NBSB girlie, this was so empowering! I turned 30 this year and grabe the pressure of finding a boyfriend. I'm in a healthy place now where I WANT a relationship but I don't see it as a NEED. Love hearing your insights kasi I feel super validated
Love this episode! Part 2 please on how to put your self out there after being single for so long? And how to improve one’s dating skill?
ooh! great idea! :) Thank you
ang refreshing to hear this kind of perspective that empowering single people in a world na everyone is rushing to be in a relationship.
Probably the best guest to have on this podcast. I can tell how deep & a solid of a friendship this is.
37 years old, always having almost-is-never-enough connections with guys.. technically NBSB.. 😅😅 facing it postively yet still hopeful. go gurls! enjoyed your talk so much
This podcast made me realize a lot of things sometimes when you’re getting into a relationship you don’t realize that we put our partner into a pedestal and expect them to do understand reads our minds and do more things that we can’t even offer ourselves. That instead of focusing on finding a partner, you need to build yourself to be that better partner and not just that, have you need to take a second and take a look at yourself maybe there’s something missing within yourself like finding your self, fulfilling your career and dreams that only you can find and really only you can do it no one else. We often say I hope they’re right for me or hoping they’re the last one but at the end of the day are you still happy with yourself without them that’s why it’s important to really just take your time and learn how to do things on your own finding a partner should just be a bonus in life But I think is not necessary to rely and make them think they’re going to make you happy once you’re in relationship everyone in your life can disappoint you. So it’s so important when you get into a relationship you’re self intact that no matter what happen whether they leave and the relationship didn’t work you won’t be a wreck after.
I would just like to say this was Godsent. I think this video found me. I’m 34 now, and I just recently broke up with my ex after a year of dating - in the middle of my Bar exam review. It feels like I’m just going through the motions because I can’t wallow in my sadness as I have to focus on reading. This gave me so much hope and I am excited for the next few months, or even years of my life to enjoy my singlehood. I’m now an instant fan, Nicole and Lissa. 💗
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this has got to me one of my most favorite episodes in your podcast. I resonate so so much with both of you guys, especially with Lisa, because I’m 28 and I also just came out (not “just” actually, it’s been 2 years!!) from a long term relationship and I’m extremely happy, content and at peace with being by myself. 🦋
I’ve spent quite some time doing the inner work undistracted and I really now give myself the PEACE that I now want to protect with all my might. LOL like it took so long and hard for me to get to this point, na anyone I date that will not potentially fill my cup as much as I do, I don’t waste my energy on na. and for you to be able to make yourself happy, that is something so empowering! sobrang natural lang na we have this set of standards kasi I can literally buy myself flowers, lamoyon?! hahaha
but really, I admire how you both are navigating the single life with full confidence and with a positive outlook. singlehood is indeed a gift that not everyone gets to experience. sabi nga nila, if you know na a year from now you’ll get the family life that you’ve always wanted, what would you have done differently? SO INDEED, ROMANTICIZE YOUR SINGLE LIFE, BESTIES!
P.S. I’m a listener all the way from Massachusetts!! add that to your long list of international reach hehe
Love your honesty so much. Talagang matapang na kape ☕️ One could see why you have such lovely friends.
As a single guy who's actively dating, it is true na nakakapagod naman talaga and also what Nicole said na, "sometime nakakalimutan mo na king ano na kwento mo" specially when you're dating 3-5 people at the same time hahaha that's why sometimes, id take my time to rest and delete the apps for months. I love their genuineness!
A filipina Listening from Sweden! Not single anymore but got married at 39! I love everything about this.
mabuti kayong tao at naniniwala akong darating si mr. right kaya mag prayer reveal na lang ako haha. pag nagpray kayo be specific like Lord, pls sana pag nakita ko na si mr. right sana po mabait, masipag, matangkad, gwapo etc. and it works promise! pag di pa to sapat isulat niyo sa paper lagay niyo sa ilalim sa unan after praying ewan ko na lang talaga haha. love you girls! God loves you!
Lissa, I’ve said this before but ikaw talaga ang spirit animal ko. 💯💯💯 Also happily single in my thirties. Most of your advices, I already know but listening to you and Nicole just gives me the comfort na hindi ako nag-iisa. I truly enjoyed this episode!!
Yay 😊 finally the long wait is over😂❤... 35 years as a NBSB listening u both is❤❤❤
Im 32 and NBSB and we are so okay where we're at naman diba. 😄
I'm really amazed and inspired sa friendship nyong blogger besties, esp during the time na iba iba na kayo ng season where someone got married na, someone dating/engaged and someone still being single but you guys embrace each of your friends current season. Yung support nyo for each other very evident❤
As a single 31 year old female with no interest in dating at the moment, I loved this! Thank you for sharing your stories 🙂↕️❤️
I agree not to rush in getting married…
married life is not always a bed of roses, neither it is full of thorns..it’s still the best feeling na may inuuwian ka at the end of the day..just a bit of encouragement lng 😊
Listening to this episode as a 26 year old NBSB na pressure sa mga taong ang tanong lagi is kelan ka magkakaboyfriend
I wish i had the same mindset with you when i was in my early 20’s. Grabe! Strong, empowered, and intelligent women
Hi, Lissa & Nicole! Just wanted to know how much I admire your friendship. Thanks for inspiring me.
Saw this when I feel like I needed it the most.
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grabe nung nakita kong 1hr parang tinamad ako panuorin pero di ko namalayan na mag-eend na yung episode sana more episodes like this with Lissa
Personally speaking, I resonate on Lissa POV. I’m happy you have this kind of podcast and topic.
Super dami kong natutunan sa inyo!. I can relate to you ladies because I am in the same situation, early 30’s, single for 6 years din, and happily doing the self work! Minsan mahirap but it was really a wakeup call hearing Lissa say na mas nanghihinayang siya sa future if mag end up with the wrong person. That’s such a really nice perspective, hindi na ako manghihinayang to take my time at present to focus on myself. ❤
Meron Akong tita tandang Tanda ko yung sinabi niya and she is single hanggang mag age na siya and isa siyang teacher sa isang university(sabi niya I am happy with my choice)that is being single and tama depende talaga sa tao kung paano tatanggapin Ang sitwasyon in reality tanggap din namin as family dahil happy naman si tita and we respect her decision ❤
hindi ko alam kung iiyak ba ako or tatawa. but it feels so good na may topic na ganito. Ito yung totoong we do not invalidate someone just because we did not experience it. Ito yung kahit konti na feel ko na okay lang kung di ako ganito di ako ganyan. Thank you Girls! Na feel ko na somehow parang ako si Lissa less sa part na pumarty sya during her 20s hahaha
Looking back, I truly enjoyed the period of solitude before I met my husband. Thank you for being vulnerable with grace. This is an inspiring episode.
mga ate. this topic, the conversation - batuhan ng question at sagot with the heart, is a conversation i never had with myself. thank you!
both of you are amazing lovely ladies and I believe God is still writing your lovestory. ❤
It's just the society guys who pressure us. Ang hirap magjowa pag maganda kasi madalas yung love nagiging lust nalang.
Sobrang gusto ko attitude ni Lisa❤❤❤ and nicole❤❤❤ part 2 naman please❤❤❤❤
Oh my! I strongly agree with what you both, Ms Nicole and Ms Lissa, have shared in this podcast and it's nice, truly appreciated your podcast as your platform to freely discuss what you've gone through and what you have to impart with us (apart from your vlog which I miss this Saturday, parang walang bagong upload) :) I just admire the both of you, intelligent and brave and empowered young women at your 30s! God bless and keep you!😍🙏💝
Next topic for you both pls. What are you non negatiables in friendship and romantic relationship (+dating stage)
💯 relatable. Thanks for sharing this. Best topic 💖 Say it all out loud to all the toxic people who do not understand single women in their 30s. 🥰
Lalala Lisa is the female version of a hustla of a hustla of a of a hustla.. Love you Lisa K! ❤
Lisa is definitely me talking 😂 and Nicole is also me talking to my single friend 🤣
The dualityyy 🤣
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The best episode ever! Very raw and both of you were right that acceptance is key. I'm 41 yrs old single for 1yr but happy. Part 2 please. ❤
I super love this talk. Para akong kinakausap ng isang ate para payuhan. Super meeded this and so timely ❤️ more topics about this please gusto ko ma enlighten. Chars. love you both.
I never knew Nicole is so fluent in Tagalog. Nakakatuwa. Also, being cheated on, I guess nakaktrauma yun. Kahit ako I’d rather be single. Gusto ko yung honesty and rawness nito. Feeling ko ganon din ako.
Watching this grabe palang kasama ako sa conversation nyo. Kudos to this video. New fave yt channel!
II ENJOYED THE PODCAST PO. NBSB. 26 YEARS OLD. VERY RELATABLE PO KAYO BOTH 👉👈
I miss this tandem! I miss Lissa Kahayon’s vlog too!
You are AMAZING!!!
Don't ever feel pressured by what society thinks is the "right" age to get married or have kids. Your life, your choice.
PART TWOOOOOO
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Next podcast: “When your so comfortable with being single.”🤣 -from a 42 and still single and willing to be single forever🤭😄
Para kang si Marie Forleo na binansagan ni Oprah na America's Thought Leader. Para sa akin ikaw ang Philippines' Millenial Thought Leader! God Bless You Nicole A! 😇
I agree: With your keen sense of awareness; Your advice brings about compassion, balance, love and wisdom…you’re empowering and more power to the podcast & you - ❤️🤗
11:36pm here in NZ. Listening to this podcast while winding down. So loved this episode. Sobrang relate 😅
I really had so much take aways from this conversations. Super worth it yung 1hr 🤗
Looking forward for another episode (may pa sequel pala😅) after kong panoorin to feeling ko andami kong kailangan baguhin sa pagkatao ko lol
Listening to this podcast as a 27 year old NBSB 😅
Huy relate ako into. Like ganito ako, boring hindi umiinom and people don't understand why. Huy ganito ako man!
Love this so much. I take this episode as an eye opener 🎉❤
Great episode! Listening from Montreal, Canada ❤
Listening from SoCal! You’re podcast is my new companion when I drop off and pick up my daughter from school. Yay millennials!😄
aww love that!
Love listening to you Nicole. Listening from Chicago ❤
Hui bet na bet ko tlga podcast mo nakaka aliw saka light lang parati topics. ❤ from brisbane- ivory
I'm 50, single and loving my life
Viewer from NY. Wow, I've learned so much from you ladies.
Part 2 please, love love love this episode, thanks for boldly sharing your experiences, Lissa and Nicole!
At 34 sobrang relate sa halos lahat😊 I'm loving and enjoying my career, travelling and just taking my time on love. For me I'm on a long distance relationship and at this point if I would get married or hindi mag work out itong relationship ko hindi na big deal sakin. Basta healthy lang ako and loved ones ko and I have enough money to support myself kung if ever talagang magiging old maid ako hehe.
♡♡♡ go girl
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i feel you can talk a lot of personal things together on this pod. part 2 please🎉
“Everyone comes to your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime”
Listener from Dubai and I’m your fan in the early days pa. Idk but I keep dming you sa Insta haha and you somehow still responds.
Yk I listen to your podcast when I do my runs. Na shashock na lang ako naka 5k ako nonstop running. Ganyan ako kahook!!! (I could only run 1k nonstop before)
Ms. Nicole and Ms.Lissa , interesting topic., sana may part 2 ❤❤❤
You guys are awesome...great info...very empowering..Mommy ping..listening from Minnesota USA
i super love this episode.. thought am gonna cry a lot but yes this one’s empowering one!
Hi. Love your combo. Its honest, real and true. Cheers to both of you. Great message
I have been watching all your content ever since and now I’m rooting as well your podcast I’m a silent follower here from Nz.. 😸🤓
Love ds conversation wt lissa🤗🥰🙏😇👍👏👏👏bravo to both of you 🥰🤗😇
❤ for me i dont care how old the girl is, as long as she can have a children with me and you both respect and love each other..
Do not look for a Mr. Right, be your own Mrs. Right. If you love yourself, regardless if you have a partner or not, you'll be happy and contented. Having no partner doesn't diminish your value as a woman. Some people just thrive better without partners.
Hi Nicole i am a silent viewer of your podcasts. I am Mark a Filipino gay guy living here in Germany. I could totally relate on this topic, I am on my late 30‘s also and had been to relationships which it didn’t work out. If I may recommend a book, you can read the book of Chantal Heide‘s „No More Assholes“. This is a perfect book tailored fit for single people like us. ❤
I love it!!! thank you for sharing your experiences about love and life. :)
They say being single in your 30s is okay because it’ll save you from a divorce in your 20s which happened literally to me. 😅
Current mantra: No to being a people pleaser, and yes to setting healthy boundaries
great episode, so many wisdom & learnings ❤
Part 2 with Lisa is a must!!! Hahahah
Watching from Toronto!! Looooooove this episode so much ❤️❤️❤️
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Hi Nicole, watching from Norway here. I love your podcasts. More more pa pleaseeee
Love this! Thank you for inspiring strong single women!
I am married but this is my favorite episode so far.
Listening from San Diego ❤❤ I look forward to each new episode!
Listening from 🇨🇦…love this episode
Best episoden by far. Love you both❤❤
have been looking forward for a pod ep like this!! love this duo! much love from san fran ❤
Listening from Sweden very informative and helpful👍❤️
Love this episode!! Next episode ung how to move on hahaha 😂❤
Hi Nicole all the best w your blogs enjoy singlehood the right guy will come in time
God bless❤
Super love this episode!!
“guys wag na, ok lang ako” haha so cute lisa
Sometimes it also comes from badly wanting to have your own family but it’s scarier to have one with the wrong partner!
was single majority of my 30s I can totally relate to this ❤😊
I loved this. Listening from Australia! ❤
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Listening from Iceland!
cool!
I'm at 20:21 of the pod. I just want to share something also. I am single and I'm 23. I started my dating life too early because of the wrong reason, I want to feel loved back then. I was so immature and the idea of love when I look back is so unreal. And up until my recent ex that I broke up with for the reason that I can't take that kind of situation for the rest of my life. Yes, I am still immature and I have my faults too but I broke up for the right reason because somehow I know what I want. I am single for a year now. I also reflected and I was really really worried for the first few months like 'What if someone will not love me anymore?' I was too scared not to be loved but along the way, I am learning to love myself and filling my own cup. I also realized that there is so much more than dating someone and realized that I missed so much in my life because I dedicated my time and effort to someone I didn't end up with. I am still not dating right now and I am not planning to not until I find someone worthy of my attention because I am okay with my single life now. Okay, continuing the pod now. 😂😂
I'm at 22:41. Yea, it is so tiring. Talking to a new person is tiring. Telling about yourself over and over again to people you are talking is very tiring 😭
I'm at 45:13. That is very true. I think I am also the kind of person that shows my true self right at the beginning of dating or relationship because with that, I'll know if someone will like me as I am.
YES PLEASE HOW TO MOVE ON NAMAN PO HEHW W/ MISS LISSA ULIT 💗
Love this episode! 😊
♡♡♡ Thank you