Outsmart Covert Narcissist Coworkers with These 5 Communication Strategies
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Discover how to set unbreakable boundaries with covert narcissists and other workplace narcissists so you can reclaim your joy and take your power back in the workspace. In this video, we're going to discuss 5 communication strategies you can use to deal with narcissistic coworkers. No matter how good you are at your job, if you have a narcissist on your team, you're going to have to deal with their toxicity.
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I sure wish I had access to you and your awesome coaching 10 years ago. That being said, I'm glad your here now. Thanks 👍
To everyone getting flashbacks while watching this…you’re not alone!
THANK GOD
Thanks this was painful to watch
The narcissist in my team talks about himself the entire time during projects and it is very hard to steer away the conversation from himself...
I forget that not everyone thinks like I do. Good thing there are plenty of people to remind me.
I experience the same. People ask me to do things for them then hate me for having done it- to their specifications. I am an interior designer and also paint houses, cabinets, murals. So I painted my daughter's house 3 times it looked amazing and she was so hateful to me for months?! WHY?! I didn't even charge her or make her pay Benjamin Moore for the paint. I am discovering I am a Sigma Empath. You may be also.🤗
@@vickigonya9432 I didn't know much about narcissists until one ruined my job. I had not thought about personality types until then.
@vickigonya9432 did you do it without her consent? Did you choose the colors without letting her pick them?
Hell no they dont
Been slapped with this same reality check lol.
I changed my expectations. My blood pressure decreased 😅
I ghosted a narcissist neighbor a couple of years ago. No contact. ...what a relief.
"I can't think like people who personality disorders that I don't have..."
very wise... took me decades to learn this lesson
@@moonhunter9993 Decades for me to learn as well. (Not many knew this stuff until recently.)
Such great information! As someone who grew up with a mother who has strong narc traits, people pleasing and twisting myself like a pretzel to suit her needs was the only way to survive. Learning piece by piece to have boundaries and not allow others to push me around at work. Not getting involved in company gossip is a really good one. If they'll gossip to you, they'll gossip about you.
💯 agree! My utmost respect to you 🙌 I’m a therapist and had some clients, friends and co-workers who have narcissistic parents. You are incredibly strong!
I relate 🎉
This is the same case with me. I invested around 19 years to always ensure the narcs in my life felt comfortable in their life(which they never did). All this goes to my narc parents who conditioned me to think only about others well being and never your own. Time to reclaim my life.
We are survivors! I can't recall just how many hits to the head and face I received from my loving mother.
Ah.. Looking back at my business life, I recall telling one of my directors (a full-blown narcissist) that unless it was business related, I did not have time to discuss anything with her. And so she left. 30 minutes later, she entered my office, closed the door and laid down on the floor, next to my desk, in a fetal position.
I ignored her, and continued working. After three minutes had elapsed, I took a sweater I had in the drawer and threw it over her shoulders. I never said a word to her. She stayed on the floor for a full 15 minutes. Eventually she got up, nicely folded the sweater, placed it on my desk and left. I must’ve done the correct thing because she never tried that stunt again.
Your lovely channel brings back such memories.❤
Well I will tell you that story was most interesting--and a first--and I think you handled it magnificently :)
@@TheWizardOfWords Because this was so outlandish, this experience (and this crazy lady) often comes to mind. It always makes me wonder if I handled it correctly, or if I should have done something differently. I’ve never had anyone to ask.
Thank you so much. After all these years, you’ve put my mind to rest. ☺️💜
Very happy to help, Susan😎
@@TheWizardOfWords 💜
Glad you didn't get sucked into that...
Over the years I developed a mental jiu-jiutsu defense system against narcissists. It sucks when the mask falls and you had no idea who they are :( But having a great strategy helps. I usually ignore them and outsmart them whenever I can.
I hear you Dan! It gets difficult when the narcissist is being enabled and affirmed by the boss though. Using the language you're suggesting actually worked against me and I got fired by trying to engage with them.
Really? This exact language and tone? Can you tell me the exact language you used that got you fired?
There really is nothing you can do to save yourself with these types. How can you when they’re committed to miscommunication? The best course of action I’ve found is to use take a page from their playbook. Don’t tackle the narc, tackle your other coworkers minds first.
I'm guessing they got DARVO’ed - a sophisticated retaliation technique that has 3 steps: Deny; Attack; Reverse Victim and Offender. The only way to defend yourself in this situation is lawyer up (employment law) or leave.
I havent worked in 20 years because of disability but Ive learned a lot about group dynamics. Your stuff can be adapted to many different venues.
Yes, it can and I hope it is, SilverCottage.
OMG The " Pity them" faces made me laugh so hard that I cried. THAT WAS FANTASTIC I could so go out to cocktails and dinner and after dinner drinks with Dan.
As long as you are paying, Andrea . . . .
@@TheWizardOfWords It would be my pleasure Dan.
😂😂😂 Dan, I LOVE your humour, omg ! 😂😂😂
I work with some. My boss has to always be the centre of attention. No one can be better then her!
You are so hilarious! That's what helps me learn & remember my go-to phrases.
My boss is absolutely a covert. 😅 every email is you’re doing it wrong. Thank goodness. I’m still doing your job 🙄
Your saying the words it's zero importance, whose fault is irrelevant, no consequence, etc was so comforting. It completely kills stress and made me want to work hard at being part of the solution. It's really motivational.
i'm married to a pathetic covert narcissist. this video is so spot-on accurate- as usual! 🎉❤
My condolences. Yikes.
When will you be planning the divorce?
I was married to a covert narcissist too, for 11 years. Learning to deal with people and situations all over again cause they mess with the mind by chaos and confusion.
Great information! Thankfully I am retired so no corporate office politics, drama, personalities, or meetings. That said, same could be used at family Thanksgiving tables. ❤
Won't be engaging there either❤ I've opted out😊 looking so forward to a peaceful, unencumbered holiday season - no hustle and bustle, no stress , just happily unplugged❤❤
Well, Thanksgiving and Christmas are coming soon . . . . :)
@@TheWizardOfWords daylight savings ends tomorrow 😱😰😭 so many things to do. I hope you and your family and loved ones, friends, etc have a fulfilling wonderful holiday season! 😊 Thank you for sharing all this wonderful knowledge. There really isn't anywhere we can learn it in high school or college prior to entering the work force. I'm retired but it was very difficult for me to navigate human relationships. I always felt being forthright, honest, cards on the table, open, giving, accepting of positive corrective critism and self correction and self improvement were the way to go. Apparently not. 😝
Vicki I think you have beautifully outlined "the way to go." However--we have to know that most times it is uphill--yet onward we go. Sometimes, however, we all need a little help in protecting boundaries and navigating relationships when people around us think life is a competition, and they have to win at all costs.
@@TheWizardOfWords Yes, correct. I wish I'd had the benefit of your expertise from my 20's through my 50's 😍
Great information. I need all the help I can get. I have a co-worker who triggers me every time I talk to him, and I know it's on purpose. That makes it more infuriating. We work from home, so I decided I will not answer my phone ever again when he calls. Text only! Virtual group meetings when he talks, I completely check out so he doesn't trigger me in front of people. I can not let him trigger me any more, he gets off on it, ugh!. He doesn't care about anyone but himself. He is no team player. I'm constantly picking up his slack, and yes, my supervisor knows. I do it to get the job done. I know he has mental health issues but I'm sick of him getting a pass over it.
He would def get narcissistic supply if you react. It's good you cut off his narc high.
Document everything
Yes - the narcissist gets off on pretty much one thing: manipulation.
Hilarious and well organized video.
Like your 'pity face'.I do 'pity words'.It's very powerful and healing at the same time.
Dan, I come for the communication videos, and also learn about the deeper psychology of people behind these behavior traits. It's enlightening.
Unfortunately I saw too late that we had a narcissist on the team. Only when he stole my work and claimed it as his own and then proceeded to badmouth me on the team
That sucks. I'm sorry you had to deal with that cr@p.
Preach! I actually have a narcissistic PTA mom that I will be effectively shutting down at the next meeting thanks to you Dan! 👏
Wow best video ever on narcissists ! And I have watched a lot !
This video was BRILLIANT!!! Thank you so much. I’m always looking for this topic and never find it quite this specific. It’s usually “toxic people in the workplace” which is good but doesn’t zero in on the narcissists. I would really love to see a series on this🙏🏼 because it has been such a challenge for me in my jobs. I would love to see topics include narcissistic female supervisors and mean girls and how to navigate politics at work with narcissists because they usually have some level of power- both socially and hierarchically. People usually kiss their ass to stay in good graces. What is a good way to deal with these issues and not hold resentment all the time or get in bad graces with the narcissist with power and suffer the consequences ? I’d love to see more on this🙏🏼thank you!!!!!!!
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Your content is the key 🔐 to successfully navigating the workplace ~or life in general!! I’m loving your self disciplined, emotionally intelligent, often comical or tongue-in-cheek advice!
And bonus points: you’re attractive with a soothing tone of voice!! My anxiety level has dropped while binge watching all your videos!!
Thank you 🙏🏼
Well Melindakeown, you have made my day and I thank you :)
Hey just curious when you wrote that comment were you on any substances, medications or anything?
The wisdom and love you share are like a refreshing breath of fresh air, I can’t thank you enough 💖
You are welcome, Joy.
Omg I needed you. There is this crazy narcissistic old lady at work she is know by ex employees for getting people fired or getting people to quit and she hates me plays weird mind head games with me all the time one minute she's giving me dirty looks acting like she's staying 10ft away from me in front of patients and other employees and next day she's all nice and endearing always talking bad about others and trying to get others in trouble I'm sick of her mind games I didn't know how to deal with her so after last Mondays bullsh** from her I'm done luckily I don't see her everyday i see her like 3 times a week but so I'm ignoring all her conversations and staying away from her unless we need to come together for work and when iv tried to ignore her b4 it bothers her alot she comes asking if I'm OK as if something must be wrong with me if I'm staying away from her. Lol I needed ur video thank you so much I'm subscribing right now. I really need help with this im a total people pleaser.
Keep doing what you're doing--DISTANCE--she does seem like a covert narcissist, so you don't want to be alone with her AT ALL.
@TheWizardOfWords ah I need to not be alone with her. Today she asked me to help her put up Christmas decor in the office. And iv been ignoring her so that was weird and like a bozo I said yes but I only helped her with 1 thing but now I will not do it again and will make sure not to be alone with her. Thank you so much for reminding me. ❤️
This same situation happened to me as well. the ex-covert narc friend always sat in front of me making her pity face and would always give me the hot and cold treatment.
I got rid of her by always keeping my responses curt and pretending to be involved in some work so that she will eventually leave.
@urvashi-rb9qy great idea 💡 👍 thank u iv been keeping it short and staying busy.
3:40 OMG Dan! That was a true gem hidden in the middle of this video! Thank you a ton for that precious advice!❤ Xoxo from Brazil!
You're so welcome from Mexico and the U.S.
Love this, please expand on how to address a toxic boss
Check out my channel--passive-aggressive bosses
The most arrogant and abusive preachers that I have worked with will say about anyone that disagrees with them:" that person has no humility" and undermine that person relentlessly and have no understanding that they are projecting their arrogance onto others
In my opinion, the only religious leader worth their salt is one who recognizes he/she is here to serve the rest.
@@TheWizardOfWords yes...
I love you, Dan! Bobart is a perfect example!
Oh my god. I’m dealing with a coworker narcissist literally named John who is gossiping and spreading rumors about female coworkers. Thank you. Your example is so perfect and thanks for what you do. Ps eyebrows and hair on point!
Well eyebrows are just there--but the hair does have to be combed, as my mother points out every time she sees me. Rest in peace, Mom. Someday. I AM JUST KIDDING WHEN I SAY THINGS LIKE THAT, BTW. :) :) :)
I'm going to watch this video at least a couple times so I can remember this very helpful information.
Hi Dan my name is Arturo I’m in process of writing a book and am researching. You channel full of gold nuggets. You’re a world class trainer. I hope I can be a world class trainer like you. Sincerely Arturo Bolanos Houston Texas. I only met on world class trainer named Phillipp Thalmann from Swissport. He trained me as a LEAN Coach and LEAN Facilitator Trainer.
Happy to help in your research, Arturo. And thank you for your kind words :)
The worse offenders at my work is HR & her bestie. 😓
HR is rarely your friend. It is a last resort and should be saved for very serious legal issues--e.g. if you feel you are in danger.
@@TheWizardOfWordsWhat if you feel that you're not in any physical danger, but you ARE in danger of getting fired (due to false accusations being made against you and that kind of thing)? Is it ever a good idea to be proactive in talking to HR, or is that most likely going to backfire?
HR departments are ALWAYS full of toxic control freaks. Record and document EVERY interaction. If I had followed these guidelines at least 3 managers of mine over the years would have been looking at lawsuits and or prison. NEVER trust them, always get evidence of thier indiscretions
@kylemacdougall8355 in my experience, HR is usually there to protect the company and the company's liability in situations. When I was younger, I thought they were there to help support employees and solve issues, maybe viewed them as similar to union reps (who advocate to the company for you) but this is not what HR does. They want to minimize danger to the company/agency.
@@kylemacdougall8355usually backfires but you can get lucky
I think you may be my favorite narcissist whisperer yet! Brilliant
Thank you--I say very very very softly.
I’m so proud of myself for handling both covert and plain old narcissistic coworkers today. I set my boundary and said what I expect and how I feel when they do behaviors xyz…I don’t think they will change, but I have set my boundaries and that’s huge. 🎉 I’m in charge of my reaction and leave them at work.
If they treat me like this, this how they treat everyone …it’s not personal it’s a mental illness.
You should be VERY proud of yourself for establishing boundaries. You may have to re-establish them time and again; be prepared to do that.
@@TheWizardOfWords thank you! You bring strength, humor, and tools to my life.
Thank you so much😘🦋❤️💫🌎🫶🏾🙏😎🥸💐
Also, you inspired me to start vlogging about being a kind person and what you may face when you live happy and positive despite all the odds.
Helpful, actionable, powerful. Thank you so much.
You're so welcome!
Oh, Dan, speaking the truth with instruction🥰 So right! I don’t want to take that narcissist home with me in my mind, which is far too easy to do when overwhelmed!!
I’m new to your work and dang I wish I would’ve found you years ago 🙏As a self-described light in the world, I’ve attracted these types my whole life they’re everywhere and it’s exhausting. I think the problem is far worse than I thought and I was just putting lipstick on a pig lol I love the phrases that you give people to use . Thank you so much since I turned 40 I ain’t got time for shenanigans no more. Thank you for being here!
Thanks much t0talrecall. 40? You're just a kid! :)
I want to say that”If I had free time I would be home” 😒 lol🤣
This is so helpful! Too many narcissists in the work place lately. Ooo I like the “they aren’t in the room to defend themselves, that’s poor form”.
Exactly ! My store manager needs to see this ..she let's my narcissistic manager tells her what to do and me and this lady has gotten into it bc she so petty ...crazy part is she doesn't even have to work but see work is her way to CONTROL... I can't stand her and she knows it ... I PRAY for my sanity when I'm round her cause she steady plotting and keeping up ish
You are preachin to me today!! Dropping some sacred messages 🙏🏻 def divinely sent 🌈💜
Wonderful!
Luz, consider pressing that "join" button and becoming a member of my channel :)
They are aways obssessed with their cell phones.
You make this so easy to digest and put into practice. I just love your information and teaching style!
I appreciate that, dmc and as always, I thank you for your membership:) :)
How did you become so people knowledgeable!? Every time I watch you, I'm amazed by your emotional intelligence. Thank you for sharing 💗
Jeanmarierock--if my mother sees your handle, she'll steal it :). To answer your question--I try very hard to stay awake and alert on this brief journey and encourage others to do the same.
@@TheWizardOfWords it's my REAL name ,lol😂 thanks for sharing your knowledge ❤
Well the Jean Marie part is my mother's name, and she only WISHES she rocks. (Just kidding, Mom; don't call me up and give me a speech--please.)
@@TheWizardOfWords I'm positive your Mom "Rocks" with a son as well spoken, and with your quick wit, I know she raised you just right. I appreciate your advice on handling difficult people, it really valuable information! Thanks again for all your advice. 🙏❤🕊
Yes truth be told my mom rocks.
You are THE best communication coach ever! I can’t take your course at this time, but I have already decided to after I graduate. I’m going to watch ALL you videos. 🙏
New subbie here! I just accidentally stumbled across this video and I absolutely love you! 👏👏👏🥰👍 You made me laugh so hard but you also got your point across too!😂😂😂😂 AWESOME! 🤜🤛❤️💯💯💯
Thanks for subbing and welcome.
Great video! I found out that my colleague talked to my boss about me behind my back. Now whenever my colleague and I discuss about work on social media, I would email her and cc my boss. She has started to talk to me less.
The opening line, is so spot on. I have worked with an entire collective of people like this for a while and this past year, I had enough. I have no interest in gossip, petty fights, absurd competition and people selling their grandmother for some extra work or prominence. They crush anyone who doesn't agree with the Stasi protocols and they thrive on the divide and conquer. I already said what I had to say to the 'boss' and made it clear that their narrative is something I have no interest in entertaining. My work is untouchable, and as I am freelance, no, I wont provide a 'summary' of 'evidence' of downright dishonest behaviours taking place that I pointed out. I openly challenged their bullying and gaslighting and made it clear I know and I won't back it up. I turn up to deliver my work, clock out and go home. I told them that anything else, including meetings, are billable hours. They went quiet very quickly.They are mercenary and I can't wait to not to have to turn up anymore. Meanwhile, I am happy enjoying my work. F8*** them.
My coworker narc (overt) is a steamroller. I won't even bother trying to bust in. She can't take any criticism, to the point where when we had an anonymous poll on how well our migration was done, and 2 people out of 12 said it was not run well, she spent a half hour of the meeting explaining how these people are wrong, and how hard the "team" (e.g., her) worked and pulled it off. She was a disaster in the migration, even though she did work hard, she sowed confusion and chaos all throughout. She's smart, though, and I refuse to compete with that level of manipulative.
Very helpful and funny. Boundaries, documentation, compassion and clearness
You are God's blessings. You have helped me countless times dealing with difficult people and my lack of skills to communicate effectively. I have learned a lot for the past 5 or 6 years from you and today...I had to go back and do a refresher and as always m..you provide effective skills and an outlook to understand other people better. Thank you so much.
You're welcome, Christine. :)
Love what you do Dan. However, please use psychology terms carefully. Psychosis should not be lumped with psychopathy. Those who experience psychosis are not psychopaths. I think that's a widespread misconception that needs to be clarified ❤. Thanks for the great food for thought as always. Everyone can benefit from learning about narcissism. Doing so honestly changed my life.
Thanks for the clarification, Annie. I appreciate it.
It's not the same... however, people with personality disorders can have psychotic episodes, delusions etc. It's not always obvious...
I’d agree in principle about not co-opting psych terms, but on the other hand, we need to concede when a word has entered popular vernacular and pay attention to the connotation vs merely the denotation. Otherwise you’ll end up being the person chastising others for saying something entirely benign like “this song is depressing”
Omg. You said it there. «Its impossible for someone who cant see the truth about themself to see you clearly»
I love that
Taking them home with you... Resonates...😳
This was great! Especially the "Bobert" narcissistic
😅😂😆🤣
Your content is so good. Thank you.
Excellent advice. I wish I knew that before I married my husband.
Many thanks for your membership Marissa. And I hope this video helps you in your next relationship 😉
@@TheWizardOfWords Oh, my. Thank you.
This! on repeat until it’s automatic for me. Many Thanks!
OK!
OMGG so many things are so clear now 😮 thank you for this video
you can find narcissists almost everywhere!! It's a mental gymnastics trying to guess their moves and prepare beforehand. The thing that irks most about them is every time in a group setting... they wont try to work. at all.
they will have idle time(loud meaningless conversations right at your ear) and when you take the project in a certain manner. they have all the authority to look down on your decisions and badmouth your every action with the other people in the project. they are a headache.
all they do is create confusion and steer the project in different ways because they cant listen the first time to anything which doesnt promote their grandiosity.
I have to do most of the work in projects in the past because of these narcissistic folks. It is frustrating and I get more invested in doing chores that could have been done in minutes.
I really resonated with your words "you start taking the narc with you wherever you go." Because this is exactly what i have been doing the last few months. I may have started implementing firm boundaries but i am constantly in a fight with these people in my head. time to ensure i am a safe, self-aware , loving human being.
I guess a lot of people are in this together. Fighting to everyone!
Thank you ❤ Great advice! Very helpful tools ✌️
I’m laughing 😂😂😂. I have a colleague who I respond to the way you describe it in the video and it works!!
😂 I love you. I woke up feeling flat. I watched this video and it made me chuckle. You're brilliant. Thank you x
I've studied the topic as I have experience in my field of work. You nailed it. Your topics were so helpful. Thank you.
"public urination" LOL!
One of your best videos! Great content and excellent suggestions!
Thanks, Always.
Valuable information and advice that should be a part of every new employee orientation and Health and Safety meetings (especially during mental health month) and annual courses!
If you're a union member, always insist on your union steward being present.
Great video, Dan!
Thank you!
YES, the armor I equipped was- learn their language…and identify them to protect myself. You’re totally spot on. Thank you for the insight. I’ve gotten REALLY good at identifying different types of people.. not by body language- but down to how they dress, where they’ve shown up (let’s say they’re dressed like they’re high class, and randomly choose to eat that the hood McDonald’s, knowing there was a more corporate run location in their neighborhood) 😂😮💨
How do you deal with a boss who always has a bigger workload or bigger "issues" than you and when you seek guidance or help, they say things like, "oh you're overwhelmed?? Have you seen my desk? Everyone is drowning... 🤷♀️"
Thank you I love this so much
I'm glad you like it
Is it better to pretend to go along with covert narcissists?
I have one that if I am nice and professional with, they treat me better.
It’s not much but things like agreeing with me in public or being more pleasant to work with. But then they never stop being passive aggressive to anyone, even me.
I have a colleague…they keep trying to have a “chat” with me to discuss work. Usually it’s fine if I keep it brief and stay on work.
But I’m in a precarious situation, this person is good friends with my big boss who will decide whether I can get loaned out it to another team. They know I was pretty much harassed by a completely different employee and I asked to go to my old boss’ team. I’m worried about annoying the covert narcissist. He’s very petty & competitive and my current boss says he is “always so kind”. He’s worked here for more than 20 years and many people at my workplace gossip and have also worked here for 20 years.
Thanks for reading of you made it this far!
Rofl 😂 “Lauren Hitler over and over again.”Explains a lot! Thanks!
Excellent advice.
I have a weird but serious question. How did you become so wise? I’m always so amazed by the depth of your wisdom and am so curious where it comes from in you
I had wonderful teachers, AnnK--from my grandparents to my parents to my brother and friends and teachers and BOOKS. I tried to pay attention :). I study people and find they are actually a more accurate source of information about what works in communication, than all my formal education classes combined. :)
I wasn't sure if my coworker was a narcissist, but I'm certain he is now. My husband and I work together. We're a great team and mostly enjoy our jobs, but we have a coworker who is driving us both crazy. It's much harder to leave it at work when both of us are dealing with this guy everyday.
Maybe you could designate a few minutes before dinner to talk about this guy and then drop the topic. Whether political or personal--difficult people can become our obsessions, and we don't want that. It is not productive or healthy. Just ask your children--who want your time and attention. And if you have no children, you two deserve the time and attention of one another.
I come for the knowledge, and stay for the sass !
hahahahaha :) :) :)
"Smokey Eyes and Pageant Hair"...got my attention!
First time to watch and I learned so much. The passive and then the active voice and how to speak to them -- I need to use both. You are a life saver.
Glad it was helpful!
Well said, and a little humor to go with it. ❤😂
Love it! Practical gems! Many thanks!🚀
Thank you for sharing this.
THANK YOU. Just thank you for this video.
You are so welcome!
Okay you’re amazingly on point!
Thank you!!
Arrogant people will betray..wow. I see it, but wow.
wisdom!
I just have the issue, I have PTSD, it's healed as much as I can, I don't have flashbacks and such. But when I'm threatened verbally in a group or public setting, my nervous system just goes into panic mode. 😭 What can I do to stay calm and collected?
Stummkind, box breathing is the best advice I can give, however given what you've described I would recommend that you get advice from a therapist more knowledgable about PTSD than I.
DANG - your boebert caricature is a brilliant demonstrative 💥
This video was incredibly informative and very accurate and I was intently engaged...
Except for at the end when he went into an unusal political rant that seemed, frankly, irrelevant. I don't really know anything about Lauren Boebert but, the segment in this video about her seemed to be very out of place and really confused me.
I just can't seem to understand the point of all that. I feel like it really took away from the video.
Quaagin, first, please learn about Ms. Boebert and then return to the video.
😂 the glasses flick! 👓🔥
Helpful and clear as always.
Lauren H!tLer... you're sooo funny 🤣🤣🤣
I work for the EU in Brussels and am a 55 year old woman. I'm now in a new job and omg, there are 3 other assistants : 1 outright narc and 1 covert.
I nearly CHOKED when you said, "Hey narky narc." 😂😂😂😂😂
Ok the subject is extremely serious but you made me ROAR !!!
THANK YOU ! 😂😂😂❤
Everything you said is SOOOO reassuring and I loved your delivery !
Ok, tomorrow I will know what to say.
I mean no one would ever think of me as a person who finds herself as a "victim" of these people as I'm extraverted and kind but hooooo mama, I must attract these kinds like flies to poo. 🤔
Omg the getting-us-alone covert narcs : wow! I hadn't seen that.
I was telling my husband, as a newcomer to the division, and hearing the covert talk about the overt only made me think : omg FOR SURE they will be talking about me.
Anyway, I have to repeat : I love your way of delivering the message with the music and your way of talking.
Again, thank you for this video! I'm going to search out more from you.
Thanks Canuckbelgo; I appreciate your message :)
@@TheWizardOfWords je vous en prie, monsieur ! 🙂👍
I love this!!!
This is so entertaining 😂❤
I am dealing with a narcissist and recently he just repeated (word for word), my argument to other people claiming it was his argument, and yet that argument contradicted his whole point.
I think I’ve worked with a Tootsie and Trixie at every work place 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Great video. I lalso ove your humour.
I really wish they would make and implement Dan O'Connor Training for kids, both in middle school and high school. I can imagine a world where people speak their truth in love❤
That's quite a compliment and I thank you. There are charter schools that use my program, but there is no formal course in public schools. I think perhaps it's time for mindfulness to be part of decision-making courses :)
@@TheWizardOfWords I would insist upon it if I had kids in school.