When i was with my ex, waiting that she'd let me back in to her light and removing a certain silence. I thought a second chance would have been a proper one. Lol We are all humans, we are meant to learn.
A good few of us will likely say ex. But for those of us who grew from it, will see it as a blessing for the lesson, as to not repeat it. Now im just waiting out for the real thing😅 so many people say it doesnt exist, but I believe that if a person once beleived it did, then they probably met with someone who didnt. And allowed that person to change their perspective. But if they continued to seek a like mind, then they'd get a like result. Great topic today😁
I think I fail on two job interviews in the last two months because of waiting out too much and yes, I so much regret. Vulnerability is a choice, is a matter of controlling the situation, not in the arogant way of course, but overfear of what I'll say just keeps me stagnant and unproductive. It's easy to stay out and observing, but sometimes there's no second chanse and you have to „spilt some blood“ right away.
Waited long time to think seriously about my future . Thank you wenzes . Great video , very helpful , and inspiring . I really wish if you could make a video about love and relationship addiction as a distraction from what's going on in real life , this is a struggle for me , and keeps me from taking the necessary steps to better my life . I would appreciate it if you do a video on this topic , Thank you so much
I have a mom that's most of the time, emotionally unavailable, and a dad with strong TE critics that which I'm closer with and learned a lot, but since I was small I've decided to shut myself from expressing and be a silent observer. Little did I know it caused me severe damage (which I realized only affect me internally). now, I'm learning how to express more effectively for myself and to speak so that people understand. thank you for this video, looking forward to other contents about it.
Paused video to test myself. 1. Wait it out for more information 2. Wait it out for clusters and patterns 3. Wait it out for best plan 4. Wait it out for timing 5. Wait it out peoples interest and needs 6. Wait it out to clear others confusion 7. Wait it out to protect oneself 8. Wait it out for confidence for most accurate assessment and plan execution. 9. Wait it out for others acceptance or rejection now I’ll listen to your video. Won’t be word for word. Bam! 💥 amazing! Wenzes you’re an amazing communicator! 😊 Thank You Wenzes!
Regretted this too many times. Dont want to hurt ppl's feelings, create conflict or rejection from others. I end up getting rejected anyway and im becoming more comfortable with being alone so taking more risk now. Slow process
I had successfully applied this wisdom in my professional life and received recognition and bonuses. But not so much in my personal life. Now that my husband and I are retired I have had to begin to do this for the sake of my own sanity and have been amazed at how much misunderstanding and dissatisfaction could have been avoided over the years if I had only taken more confident loyalty to myself. This video is such good advice, Wenzes! I hope others will really sit up and take notice of it!
In Spanish companies INFJ's are not valued, ignored and bullied that is why i are not going to work in a company never again. They are going to lose the most.
My English is not so good, i listen from germany and i would like to thank you so much for your videos. In germany you cant find such videos. I thought iam an alien and i finally see im not alone with my perspective of life. Cant describe how that feels. Thank you so much
Adorable video, Wenzes! I love the way put complicated INFJ patterns into simple words. I didn't even realize that for many many years and wondered why people don't get me. I used to believe that if they look at me, they'd know what I'm about. I guess I just projected my ability to read them onto them. I still do that very often, though.
I hv literally fallen in lov with everyone of ur videos I’ve seen so far. I finally hv grown into a state of love for being an INFJ n I’m thankful to get more pointers from ur knowledge n intuitive senses in order for me to continue workin on my best life ever. What a pleasure it’s been.
This is the biggest problem I've had in my life, because it has kept me from being that warrior I've always known I am. So thank you, from the bottom of my soul, Wenzes. You are a true gift. Thank you for sharing and teaching. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
This is something I struggle with so much not just for relationships but in everyday decisions and my work life. Makes me seem very incompetent. I need to have all the information possible and then consider all possible responses and risk. This takes too long and by the time I'm ready to take action its too late, awkward and usually useless.
Do you think it's the same with going No Contact with toxic people (not sure if it's the door slam) because you know/feel that I'd wouldn't help at all to open up to them?
Oh you are so spot on! No more trusting too much...Prayer totally helped me.what is funny is that yeah, i never showed my weakness to anyone but because there is something weird happening, i willingly exposed it for a while to see if they care, and you know what??? Silence..I was ignored(1st observation/gathered data), the next and last one that put the final light on it is when I really broke down and I just needed their sincere companionship and sympathy - the reaction? - they laughed at me and mocked me more..i know but i didn't tell them that NOW I know WHO THEY REALLY ARE...they think all I care is about having a relationship,EWwwww! I wouldn't be single for a long time if my vagina is always itchy like them! My waiting is worth waiting..no wonder, I don't feel happy around them..that guy, sorry he's all about material cares -good appearance, high status, money..rejected finally! Heesh! Waste of time!
I think this is more complicated as a black woman. We are heavily toned policed and often not seen as humans. We have to execute everything with medical precision to be successful in this area.
Oh yes sometimes I just check on them to see if their ok..and then again you get the insecure type that has no patience and start saying crazy things to us out of there insecurity I try to calm them down and explain to them how I am..but then they get piss and I'm like all well 😒 ..oh and the worst ones are the narcissistic ones Oh god save us all lol but anyway much love and light 🙂🙏
I get totally lost when you start using all the abbreviations and first function stuff. The abbreviations seem counterintuitive and I get lost in thought trying to sort it out while missing what’s being said then having to go back only to …. Only frustrating thing. Otherwise huge fan. I just don’t like being lost
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When have you regretted it - if ever - to wait something out?
When i was with my ex, waiting that she'd let me back in to her light and removing a certain silence. I thought a second chance would have been a proper one. Lol
We are all humans, we are meant to learn.
A good few of us will likely say ex.
But for those of us who grew from it, will see it as a blessing for the lesson, as to not repeat it.
Now im just waiting out for the real thing😅
so many people say it doesnt exist, but I believe that if a person once beleived it did, then they probably met with someone who didnt. And allowed that person to change their perspective.
But if they continued to seek a like mind, then they'd get a like result.
Great topic today😁
I think I fail on two job interviews in the last two months because of waiting out too much and yes, I so much regret. Vulnerability is a choice, is a matter of controlling the situation, not in the arogant way of course, but overfear of what I'll say just keeps me stagnant and unproductive. It's easy to stay out and observing, but sometimes there's no second chanse and you have to „spilt some blood“ right away.
Waited long time to think seriously about my future . Thank you wenzes . Great video , very helpful , and inspiring . I really wish if you could make a video about love and relationship addiction as a distraction from what's going on in real life , this is a struggle for me , and keeps me from taking the necessary steps to better my life . I would appreciate it if you do a video on this topic , Thank you so much
I have a mom that's most of the time, emotionally unavailable, and a dad with strong TE critics that which I'm closer with and learned a lot, but since I was small I've decided to shut myself from expressing and be a silent observer. Little did I know it caused me severe damage (which I realized only affect me internally). now, I'm learning how to express more effectively for myself and to speak so that people understand. thank you for this video, looking forward to other contents about it.
Patience is are best trait 🔑
Paused video to test myself. 1. Wait it out for more information 2. Wait it out for clusters and patterns 3. Wait it out for best plan 4. Wait it out for timing 5. Wait it out peoples interest and needs 6. Wait it out to clear others confusion 7. Wait it out to protect oneself 8. Wait it out for confidence for most accurate assessment and plan execution. 9. Wait it out for others acceptance or rejection now I’ll listen to your video. Won’t be word for word. Bam! 💥 amazing! Wenzes you’re an amazing communicator! 😊 Thank You Wenzes!
waiting it out made me stay in unhealthy relationships/friendships longer than I needed to
I waited the pandemic out ;-) People were so quick to make conclusions on all sorts of things, I was just like: "lets wait and see" 😁
Regretted this too many times. Dont want to hurt ppl's feelings, create conflict or rejection from others. I end up getting rejected anyway and im becoming more comfortable with being alone so taking more risk now. Slow process
Starting to not give a fuck even more...
I had successfully applied this wisdom in my professional life and received recognition and bonuses. But not so much in my personal life. Now that my husband and I are retired I have had to begin to do this for the sake of my own sanity and have been amazed at how much misunderstanding and dissatisfaction could have been avoided over the years if I had only taken more confident loyalty to myself. This video is such good advice, Wenzes! I hope others will really sit up and take notice of it!
In Spanish companies INFJ's are not valued, ignored and bullied that is why i are not going to work in a company never again. They are going to lose the most.
Real vulnerability is to show your strength. Yes!
My English is not so good, i listen from germany and i would like to thank you so much for your videos. In germany you cant find such videos. I thought iam an alien and i finally see im not alone with my perspective of life. Cant describe how that feels. Thank you so much
Can you turn on cc in German? Closed caption.)
So basically, speak your truth and be who you were meant to be?
Makes sense to me. If I cannot advocate for myself then I am unable to beneficially do it for others.
That's useful advice. This warrior should practice on waiting it out a bit more. Observe and wait until the time is right. :)
This! Thank you. Oh my gosh. "Use the 80%" is my new mantra.
Adorable video, Wenzes! I love the way put complicated INFJ patterns into simple words. I didn't even realize that for many many years and wondered why people don't get me. I used to believe that if they look at me, they'd know what I'm about. I guess I just projected my ability to read them onto them. I still do that very often, though.
"I guess I just projected my ability to read them onto them"
Wow. This actually makes a lot of sense. Most times, I am my own worst enemy.
I hv literally fallen in lov with everyone of ur videos I’ve seen so far. I finally hv grown into a state of love for being an INFJ n I’m thankful to get more pointers from ur knowledge n intuitive senses in order for me to continue workin on my best life ever. What a pleasure it’s been.
This is the biggest problem I've had in my life, because it has kept me from being that warrior I've always known I am. So thank you, from the bottom of my soul, Wenzes. You are a true gift. Thank you for sharing and teaching. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
I am ready to take that step forward ❤
Wenzes. It's so comfirming to hear all of your videos. I will support you when I can affort it 😁
this was so very helpful
You are fantastic. Thank you.
Why infjs have fear of 'if my plan would not happen than what would I do' due to this infjs not making that steps which is essential for them
This is something I struggle with so much not just for relationships but in everyday decisions and my work life. Makes me seem very incompetent. I need to have all the information possible and then consider all possible responses and risk. This takes too long and by the time I'm ready to take action its too late, awkward and usually useless.
So it's how we deliver ourselves in which we will be received. Should i look into ways to express my speech?
Thank you for this video, I think it really helped me :)
That's very useful information I believe in everything you say.
Watching this again at the end of 2021 and Im still doing that NI-TI loop and holding my tongue and weighing and waiting things out. Smh
I think you have a good role here. It does not mean be lazy. But I think I will like your context in this video before I finish watching it.
Thank you wenzes this very helpfull
Good observation and talk :)
I hope to add an Arabic translation, thank you💚
Do you think it's the same with going No Contact with toxic people (not sure if it's the door slam) because you know/feel that I'd wouldn't help at all to open up to them?
Oh you are so spot on! No more trusting too much...Prayer totally helped me.what is funny is that yeah, i never showed my weakness to anyone but because there is something weird happening, i willingly exposed it for a while to see if they care, and you know what??? Silence..I was ignored(1st observation/gathered data), the next and last one that put the final light on it is when I really broke down and I just needed their sincere companionship and sympathy - the reaction? - they laughed at me and mocked me more..i know but i didn't tell them that NOW I know WHO THEY REALLY ARE...they think all I care is about having a relationship,EWwwww! I wouldn't be single for a long time if my vagina is always itchy like them! My waiting is worth waiting..no wonder, I don't feel happy around them..that guy, sorry he's all about material cares -good appearance, high status, money..rejected finally! Heesh! Waste of time!
I absolutely love your videos ,they are very detailed and motivating. You have helped me tremendously. Im a 44 years old INFJ male, im also Gemini 😫😆
I think this is more complicated as a black woman. We are heavily toned policed and often not seen as humans. We have to execute everything with medical precision to be successful in this area.
Thanks 🙏 cutie 🥰
Oh yes sometimes I just check on them to see if their ok..and then again you get the insecure type that has no patience and start saying crazy things to us out of there insecurity I try to calm them down and explain to them how I am..but then they get piss and I'm like all well 😒 ..oh and the worst ones are the narcissistic ones Oh god save us all lol but anyway much love and light 🙂🙏
Hmmmm
I get totally lost when you start using all the abbreviations and first function stuff. The abbreviations seem counterintuitive and I get lost in thought trying to sort it out while missing what’s being said then having to go back only to …. Only frustrating thing. Otherwise huge fan. I just don’t like being lost
Not really! INFJs are a lot more complicated than that. It depends.
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good advice. however it is only a matter of time when the true message behind the one your giving will be understood by late bloomers.
Why do i feel like I was sent to you? Why do you know us? You edit constantly to find your thoughts.