Tell Him, an Essay on Masculinity | Jameela Jamil x MAKERS Conference 2019
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- Опубликовано: 4 июн 2020
- At the 2019 MAKERS Conference, Jameela shares a poignant essay on Masculinity, encouraging allyship in feminism.
"Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t some “poor boys” appeal. It’s just that in my opinion, it’s as if men are recruited young and brainwashed, in order to be indoctrinated and manipulated into an oppressive patriarchal institution. This is a call to arms for the women who have boys growing up in their houses…"
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*'learning sex from porn is like learning how to drive by watching the fast and the furious'*
was *the sentence* inspired me to make my philosophy paper about the patriarchy
and the impacts of it on women and men
queen🙌🏻
That's how I learned 😛
This is big brain shit
Cant knock porn entirely. Men see porn in a different hindsight than women. Yes, it can be poison to the mind, but if studied with the true intention in wanting to become a better lover, (especially as an adolescent or young adult) it has its benefits.
Then what’s 50 Shades?
I'm a straight man and I agree with every word she says, I have three sisters and five nieces, and I speak out and do my part in the battle for them and all others, so that no one can try to steal from them any aspect of their lives that is their right as humans.
Thank you for speaking out, I do appreciate it. But what if you didn't have 3 sisters and 5 nieces? Would you do the same? I'm not trying to argue, is to prove that we have to work harder to understand that we need to care for people in general.
Thank you 🙏🏼
@@cristinacano7853 i think by mentioning that he have 3 sisters, he wanted to tell that he learned about feminism from them. He didn't mean that he only follow feminism ''bcz she has sisters" and wouldn't follow it if that was not the case'.
@@hariomkushwaha9773 Yes that could be true
OMG IS THAT KAMILAHS SISTER
Lololol 😂😂😂😂
Its kinda fun :^
😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣
Brilliant 😂👏🏽
Holy forking shirt balls, you're right!
This is so powerful. This is a leader of a generation. One who is empowering and lifts as she climbs.
This isn't about you its about men. Not women. This exactly female supremacy
@@smartass0124 So does she now not even have the right to comment on things? No. It isn't only about men. Women RAISE men. Women shape men in ways that are integral to their development. Female supremacy? What does that even mean when it comes to what she opined on? The conversation is for everybody to have. You, my friend, have completely missed the point of the video.
@@purvankkaushik6146 so as fathers we should teach Daughters how 90% of homeless are men thank power structure in divorce reproductive rights and child support. Tell her bing Majority. Vote she's the dominate group in power PERIOD.
Tell her how about men on Titanics Tell her about. Warmth warm chest and palms . Tell her it's the sperm that caries special genes expression. Tell her apart from incubation we have need of women even they. She could be in a coma tell her about survivor Battle of the sexes. Tell her about deeper Voices tell her testosterone is fuel. Tell her about wond healing bone healing . Tell her about other test in pain tolerance . Tell the fact she has .much trouble doing what her body was designed to do . Is a sign of weakness . Tell her to be ashamed to use her power .
Tell her to alie to men's rights .talk about her only behind her back
Everyone with boys growing up in their households needs to hear this ❤️
This female supremacy. Shouldn't we tell him about warmer palms chest . or female manipulation. Or basic human Rights is to live what how sem is need to make baby and able feed women what women . what survivor battle of sexes what about how have to have minds on guards .
From women. Other womb men no need for women
Boys aren't little pets to be trained to do your bidding. One day he may turn around to you and say NO to what you ask of him - do you accept his right to do this? Do you accept his reasoning that since you are strong and independent you are equally capable as he you should do it your self, or if you won't do it why should he ?
"Do it yourself, sister" is the most BS eliminating, gender equality statement ever uttered by any male on the planet.
I want to be Jameela when I grow up
Same!
Me too and I'm a guy lol
What, a man hating B. You want to be like someone, be yourself; and that will take trial and error; and society will only remember your errors.
@Sabiana Kycyku Grow up.
This makes me wanna have a son, raise him and teach him English just so I could show him this speech. And I'm a teenager. I'm in deep, platonic love with you, Jameela.
Manophere. com I’d answer you but I don’t understand a word you wrote.
I second this! My feelings exactly
That simp man can be women's ally, but not romantic sexual partner. No women will sleep with him.
can jameela be president
She’s awesome isn’t she? Queen 👑
Lol no colonialist Nazi as a world leaders thanks
@@Andrewbait please explain how she is a colonist and a nazi. im super curious to hear your explanation.
id love for her to be! but then i remembered shes a bisexual woman of color. not in the US
@@Andrewbait are you okay honey?
Preach Jameela preach.
Right?!! A great way to approach such an intimidating topic :)
I remember when I've read it first time in a bookstore, standing. I was shocked by how good it was. I love this essay. I've read it to my boyfriend, fascinated. You are the best Jameela.
I love this woman. I've learned so much from her than I've learned from school in my whole life
She's a legend. She's an icon. I love her
Shes a man hating B.
jesus christ i was crying through this whole thing i wish everyone could hear this
This is the most exquisite thing I’ve ever listened to! “Tell him it is better to be soft and strong, than to be hard and weak.”👏🏼
As someone who is autistic, I’m curious to know is being hard considered a weak trait because you can be compassionate, hard, soft and strong all together, because we’re all human at the end of the day, I cry when I see marginalized groups get beaten down because I was beaten for the majority of my child years and teenage years, I suffer with ptsd and depression and anxiety because of it, I truly wish I got as much attention when I was getting tormented when I was younger, as much attention the marginalized groups and women have today, I’m glad they are being accepted and heard but for me I really wish I got that because I’m nothing more then just a emotionally broken and severely mentally scarred young autistic white man who just wished he mattered as much as marginalized groups and women do, if my mental scars were visible my entire physical appearance would be unrecognizable
🌷🌷🌷👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 you absolutely right. i never thought i would find a role model at age 41 but then again here you are. Standing up for both women and man telling your the truth 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🌷🌷🌷
@Manophere. com the fact that you said this just make it clare you didn't understand the message
She sums up everything that I was thinking these days after getting abused by my family and outside men most of my life. I knew I need to do better in order to save both women and men. Instead of feeling bad and miserable I also need to be a better woman for a boy in my home.
Nothing makes me happy more than a brave women shining and fighting against the odd of our society where women with voice and opinions are deem hysterical and too much.
No told that its who gave their advances such voting rights more supported. And guess no on told you about survivor battle of sexes what. Or. Sperm epigenetics .
sperm makes life even parthenogenesis aren't unfertilized eggs the females have enough male genes Wz and connections to rest of body .for special gene expression
To produce sperm from polar body . with sperm see aphid's as under developed Caydids or clones taking to develop and not as good as healing .
And some times have genes over expression and 90% of fail. But Certioli cells the cells that supplement sperm have better results.
No told you other then you womb men no need for you. No told you . about other stuff in sem hormones zink potassium glucose ATP..
No told you women work less hours and get more free benefits.
No told you women women take over male space's they themselves demand discrimination. Suiting them
No told how don't back up what tell boys.
No told you how play on emotions often lie. ..how have keep their minds on guard around women. No one told you that crime and violence go down when female population goes down. No told if man murdered by Hus everyone thinks he was an abuser
So many truth bombs ❤ so beautiful, sad, powerful and hopeful 🙏🏼
@Manophere. com come again
Love this 💖 I have had to correct my mother who still to this day complains about how my father treated her. Yet she still does things regarding my brother that clearly she was part of the problem with the machismo in our household growing up. I put a ✋🏽 to it in my life as soon as my now husband tried to start with that nonsense.
Mom now says how amazed she is at how respectful and loving my husband is. Ladies 👏🏼you are in charge of how you are treated and respected 👏🏼 do not forget that!
She is so amazing and she makes me feel so proud to be a woman. I will never stop fighting for the freedoms of womankind as long as I live 💖💖💖💖💖💖
We to tell to proud of being male. Tell about warm palms and chest . and humms tell him about survivor battle of sexes. Tell him actually work less hours. Tell him pain tolerance should be back tracked when they feel pathetic.
Tell about all men killed women tell him he being to fix women tell him feminism like voting rights was more from men tell him sprm makes babies passes down special gene expression .. .
Him. The sem has hormones vitamins protein . Zinc .potassium glucose ATP. Calcium. Tell.
Him testosterone is just a fuel. Tell him he's being molded to fit women. Tell the fact its painful for to do what bodies were designed to do is not really a sign of strengh tell the true meaning of patriarchy .not feminist miss representation.
Tell him how have historically sacrificed and died. For women . tell him. How lie and manipulate play on emotions. Tell he has keep his mind guard around women.
Tell women actually work fare less . and even get more benefits
I sent this to my husband last night to explain what i was getting to EFFING angry to explain, that we are angry and sick and tired of feeling scared, undervalued and objectified. And exhausted at having to explain why why why we are still having to fight for our right to be equals. He read it, got it, shared it. Thank you Jameela....
So I should tell my daughter about the Titanic and to consider house work rent .
And 3 in every 4 homeless is a man thanks to female financial entitlement.
I already told her about sperm epi genetics and Male Warmth I told her in the womb projecting my voice from out side . I told her about healing palms told her testosterone is just a fuel and told her not exploit others insecurities to feel better about herself
Name one right you don't have...just one
And maybe stop being angry
This is one of the most inspiring and informative speeches I have ever heard. And if the people who hit the "dislike" button don't come in contact with any boys, we're in a good track on making all this change happen.
That was so powerful ,thank u for speaking up on the name of all the women ,all the women and men should hear that specially man
@Manophere. com all the time you’ve wasted on here posting ignorant replies you should have used actually listening to this essay and learning something. You are the problem, men like you are the problem, and until we are rid of you, things will not get better.
More people need to hear everything she is saying....especially young people!!! She is an amazing role model we need these days!!!!
the one person who disliked is jealous of jameela
@ where did you get this info and whats wrong with that if its true?
@ i know that she was a girl because she interviewed they should pictures of when she was like 4 and she was a girl
I think that is some kind of 'hair system' and she seems a bit obsessive on the trans issue. There is something thing 'off' and wooden about her. Who knows
@ the shoulders are really broad aren't they 🤔 i never noticed before.
Refreshing... this is why I love jameela
I watched this video year ago in RUclips and twice in your IG and I'm watching it again...I absolutely love this speech one of favourite and also I love how you added humour in it
Inspirational, emotional, real, positivity, fearless, wow, LOVE YOU! ❤️ I have shared with men in my life... no response!! Too powerful!
I listened to it for a second time (This time with my 16 year old son who has the biggest and purest heart). My eyes teared up. You probably won't ever read this but thank you so much Jameela.
confident and absolutely BEAUTIFUL!
Gosh Jameela, I truly love hearing you talk! Funny, touching and exceptional!
Thank you so much for saying these things.
I LOVE YOU, your podcast lead me to here, and this is REMARKABLE😩❤️🔥.
Changing lives ❤
Omg! Absolutely love this❤️
Adore this girl💗💗
Not enough views for sure 🌟 This was bloody brilliant ✌🏽💚
This made me cry. La amo.
I will be watching this with all 3 of my sons, because I'm raising men! Men who respect and care for women!
Men who respect themselves will automatically respect woman
I love and admire her
Tell him!!! Love this. Please do more or do this in another version.... Whatever... Just please please keep doing! Thank you! ❤️
She's so incredible, I love her so much
How are there 14 dislikes???? Jameela is so amazing, inspirational and downright beautiful. ❤️❤️❤️
True she’s great
Amazing, BRB sending this to all my friends, and starting with the one that are pregnant or have a companion pregnant AHAH :) THANK YOU for saying this out loud, thank you for inspiring us all, thank you for all you do !
Thank you
Thank you for all you do for the human race xx
wow! amazing
Damn! I'll be honest, I had preconceived ideas about Jamil's "brand" of feminism from little things I've seen and stuff I've heard. This speech was beautiful and inspiring.
I have a daughter. I need to tell her testostetone being a dyel tell her about bone and wond repair . tell about otyer special genes on the why Chromosome and most all other Chromosome aren't being Used.
tell her about pressur healing tell her tye that deeper voices can travel farther and clearer.
tell her about Warmer body' tempurature. Tell her about special genes expression in spm and babies made without sprm are slower to developed less active . But have more babies nothing else as a r results of parthenogenis .
Like aphids wipoed Take lizards Dolly sheep and cloned dogs.
Tell her most examples of parthenogenis are actually females that enough male genes to produce the own sprm from Polar bodies
Tell her that come isn't a waste product and has hormones vitimans and zink potasium glucose but also potatial Disease .
but arabout survivor battle of the sexes tell her about who like men but say they don't . Tell about the overlap of countries with lowest crime & violence and lowest female population.
Tell her before men had thousands of years of Power woman had hundereds of millions of years . And patryarchy is the New radical change and feminism is actually taking us backwards.
Tell her about Too Female socker teme loosing to highschool boys.
Tell her women can babies in commas.
This is one of the most epic speeches about how we can become closer to men! A great helping tool for mothers! Thanks Jameela! 💕
But supposed to be about men and this female supremacy. And 99% what said debunked or one sided.
❤️
THIS. IS. SO. POWERFUL.
That was just beautiful
This right here
I love this. Sisters so readily provide this and rarely mothers do. I’ve literally been behind every gift my brother has brought his girlfriends, every sweet card and every apology text (even if he was wrong, he needed to learn how to be the bigger person and come forth without ego). It’s hard to date men without sisters! I couldn’t imagine doing the same as a mom but you’re right!
Sisters can The Reason for mysogyny your own female ego . This video is the same old female ego Im protecting my son from
I really enjoyed this :)
Manophere. com eh?
@@guaoa5715 this idiot is just going around replying to all comments with substantively and formally incorrect sentences 😂
LOVE her
Such an inspirational woman!
Female ego
Jameela, you amazing woman!
absolutely love this so much! and was bothered by some of the laughter, or rather the timings. we need to stop laughing these serious things off.
I'd love contributing a transcription/translation to share this video with my Spanish-speaking family. Any chance you could open community contributions?
Ik this reply is late but if you still want your family to know about this video, i have an idea.
There are websites that can download subtitles from youtube in text format. Then you can google translate it and send it as an article to your family. It won't even take more than a minute. But they'll have to read this as an article only.
Second idea is you can download this video using third party downloaders and use above text file as an srt to see subtitles manually along with video.
I hope this helps!
Bravo Jameela
Jameela is highly intelligent! She is amazing!! 😊👍🏻
Okay that's it I'm in love guys. This is the type of leader we need!!!
What men told their daughter how Great men are and men have always suffered and sacrificed because of women and girls.
And wonder why men hate women
I LOVE YOUU JAMEELA - thats all i have to say
♥️♥️♥️
thanks : )
Thanks for told us, and lets start telling them. Just tell him.
preach this shit was soooooo true and all i can say is wow , immaculate just completely fucking amazing x
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
i would like a transcript of this. i am very drunk but i want to put this on my wall.
Braaaavooooooo🙏🙏🙏🙏👌👌👌👌
am i crying? yes. yes i am.
Wow, this was so empowering, amazing, does anyone know where I can find this scripted? I need to print and frame this and read it everyday before my son is born❤😊
How would you feel about men telling Their daughers about natural male abilities and ways men have sacrifed for and social problems ot historical problems caused by women
Tell him.
That testosterone is just a fuel .
About deeper voices humms . about warm palms and chest about sperm epigenetics that its sperm that makes life gene expression. Even parthenogenesis aren't unfertilized eggs the females have enough male genes Wz and connections to rest of body for special gene expression to produce own sperm and cloning .the delayed development and 80%failur and not as good as healing and Gene over expression is from not being taken from sperm.
.tell him sem has hormones zink potassium glucose ATP calcium. .
Tell him so much trouble and pain doing what your body was designed to do is not a sign of strength. But the vibes voice projection and sem can help.
Tell him women work less hours . tell him about survivor battle of the sexes.
This woman is my fucking hero!
That is sad.
😂
I'm glad people wooted for her when she walked on stage. She deserves to be a ⭐ star ✨
Sorry your dad doesn't love you.
But I hope you don't have any sons .
They should know about sperm epi genetics testosterone is a fuel . And deeper Voices travel father healing hums palms and endorence And sem has has useful materials and hormones . And .
No one told to consider house work rent. And women's financial entitlement is reason such homeless problem in the richest country in the world.
Or told you about survivor battle of the sexes
wtf i love you
Second comment :)
oh my god i love her
the ten dislikes belong to the streets
First comment 😎
I love this and made my bf watch it with me. I think it helped him see some things differently. This should be required educational content for all men! 🙌🙌
I concur! Everything you said absolutely rings true. This method is highly more effective than having words come out of a bullhorn in marches with women wearing stupid little pink hats, and saying that all men exude toxic masculinity. Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars, but...mothers, sisters, aunties, and grandmothers all have the means & opportunity to help shape boys into becoming good men so that they become aware of the fears & struggles that women often have to endure. They could learn their true value. Fathers need to demonstrate daily with their wives, sisters, and other women such values to their sons, their son's friends, and other men.
When ideas and views are placed on a personal level as you suggested, change occurs much more effectively and is perpetuated. Great talk! Did you learn this from your sister Kamilah? [;-{)
No one told you about sperm epigenetics that its the sperm that passes down special gene expression. Even parthenogenesis aren't unfertilized eggs the females have enough male genes Wz and connections to rest of body for special gene expression.
And clones taking longer to develop less active 80% don't make it passed embryos. And those born aren't as good on healing or have over gene expression.
.
No told all vitamins hormones zink potassium glucose ATP calcium in sem.
No told you about warmer palms chest . no one told you about protecting your voice or humms vibes ..
Not told you bearly being able to do what your body was designed to do is not a sign of strength but the warmth projecting voice and sem can help.
No told you vice versa other wombs you don't need women.
No told you how that women work less hours and get more free benefits. No told you about survivor battle of sexes disproving so much of this female supremacist.
No told how men have sacrificed through history. And that more supported women's voting rights. No told . power dynamics in marriage spousal support and homeless.
Who gets child support and alimony and who pays. No one told women when entering male spaces themselves demand discrimination favoritism.
No told. The claim false accusations being rare is cycler reasoning. No told you about how play on emotions .
No one told that crime and population statistics less women reduces crime and violence. No told you. How women play on emotions and have to keep their minds on guard.
No told that don't care about male problems especially when caused by women or female supremacy no told you about suicide rates
I’m just here to listen to her accent
She is just like the men she's talking about.
how so?
@@nintenspiders971 She is belittling men to make a point.
When you have to step on others to lift yourself up, then you are no different than the men she says, who disrespect women. She's acting as if this is a speech to enlighten men, but it is only a speech to make them look unintelligent. Which is unintelligent.
@@envisionstudios4800 she use men as spacegoat and say feminism is all for men's mental health lmao. Ask any man from whom they've experienced most sexism.
Just , Thank you 🙏
I agree basically with everything said, but the patriarchical beginning was probably more graduate over the millennia of evolution rather than one generation blunder.
Do you know what patriarchy means
this is was beautiful, I hate that I waited so long to watch this
This ❤️
I cannot begin to tell you how many times i’ve revisited this video since I found it. Thank you, Jameela, for telling me to tell him 😊❤️
I agree that all of this is extremely important to teach young boys. But there's a danger to it if it's the only perspective you ever talk about. I grew up as a straight guy. Pretty normal by most standards. Most importantly though, I have a very soft character AND I grew up around mostly women. My mom was a single mom and the people I was around mostly were aunts, and grandmother. Most people would assume that I had a perfect recipe to grow up respecting women. The problem is it went way past respect all the way to where I grew up putting women on a pedestal. I had this idea pounded into my head that women would be into "nice guys" and I heard plenty of stories of all the men that wronged the women in my life. Well trust me. This was not a well rounded way to teach a young boy how to treat women. I was a decent looking teenager and I had an impossible time finding relationships cause women never responded to the way I approached them romantically. My first relationship was at 19. It took me years and heartache and pain to realize that people in general (not only women) do not want only "nice". They value excitement and drama over nice 99% of the time. I won't even get to how I was treated by many women since they were always dominant by nature because of my upbringing and my natural character.. I always ended with controlling women because sticking up for myself went against the pedestal rules in my mind. By all means, teach your boys that respect and consent and all that stuff is important. But teach them to be themselves and be nice to EVERYONE. Because being nice to others on top of being your exciting and interesting self is an extremely attractive character trait. And teach your daughters that excitement and edgy men increases the chances that they'll treat you poorly. Teach both boys and girls that actions speak louder then words. Exciting people must also treat you nicely in their actions. I think we should teach both genders the same thing most of the time. As many perspectives as possible. And teach gender specific issues on top to round out. To both genders also. Anyway, There's way more to this then I can put in a comment section.
TLDR: Teach your kids respect to others and to be themselves. Wether it's a boy or a girl. Women aren't all innocent either.
I can't like this enough! Forwarding this on all outlets! You are the difference we all want to become and see Jameela!
We need more people to watch this! Justin Baldoni did a Ted talk about this as well
What an amazing speech! 👏👏👏
I have a daughter..and I'm gonna tell her testosterone is a fuel tell her the Y chromosome is shorter because it has the least silenced genes. Tell her that sem is supposed to be germ free and have Useful materials but that depends on health of the man also the reciever.
Tell her men's voices warmth.
Tell her it's the sperm that dominates 58to 60% of gene expression.
Tell her about survivor battle of the sexes . Tell her about indorence .
Tell her about how Mark started the greatest platforms for people to stay in touch. Have real conversation 2 way conversations. And all the problems With hate groups disinformation censorship. Priveracy violations . Body image issues started after Sarah Gets there but mark is blamed.
. even though strong doesn't mean vulnerable or emotional weak points .
Or times .
Tell her not exploit others insecurities to feel better about her self .
Tell her about Caroline Bryant another times men's compression was exploited and used to hurt others.
Tell her brutal Female dictators of the past
Not given enough attention.
That 3in every 4homeless is a man .thanks alimony and child support .
Tell her other then her womb sociaty has no need of her .
Tell her even
10/10 brilliant thank you, sharing this
I have a daughter. And I'm telling Testosterone is a fuel telling her it's sperm.that dominates 58to60% of gene expression.
Tell her about Male warmth vibs . Tell her man have longer endorence .
Tell her other about survivor battle of the sexes tell her about face how Mark Created one of greatest platforms for Conversations Families friends can stay in contact. And ball the Problems with forming hate groups disinformation. And priveracy violations and body issues started after Sarah Gets their yet Zuck takes all the Blame.
Tell about Yahoo . Tell her about Caroline Bryant another false accusers and Female dictators don't get enough attention..tell her how 3in every 4 homeless is a man thanks alimony and child support tell her To Factor in rent when complaining about house work tell her about the Titanic how men have always sacrificed. Tell her even men are stronger we still weakness and weak points and times.
tell her not to exploit someones insecurities. Tell her that world crime rates and world demographics she Less w shows less crime& viol . Tell her other then her womb we have no men have use of her ..tell her sem is supposed to germ free and have Useful materials and hormones but depends on health of giver and also receiver.
Isnt this Kamilahs sister?
jameela: i get very nervous doing public speaking on my own.
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me: sure😑
Queen 👑