My favorite thing about this video is how some people said it’s impossible to meet foreigners in japan while like soooo many foreigners walk around in the background 😂
I love their answers. Gentleness, kind, supportive, positive mindset, these are all important traits for a happy, successful life. Especially when we talk about long term "I don't think anyone's personality can be defined by their nationality. I just want to be in a respectful relationship" truly hits the mark.
Mansplain. It means she wants a chad. The guy could be the nicest guy in the entire world but if he’s the wrong race, height, and weight he’s worthless to her
How can you be blind? Culture plays a great role, certain countries have absolutely no respect for women so yeah, you should always remember the country they’re from, cause that matters a lot
I am Japanese and I translated the text using a translator. Basically, Japanese people have a culture of not saying what they really think when they speak in public. They are humble when it is about themselves and positive when it is about other people. This is called 'honne to tatemae'. In reality, the international marriage rate for Japanese women has been around 1% for decades, less than a third of the rate for Japanese men. An international marriage rate of 1% is quite low in the world.
As a Japanese woman who has been married to an American man for almost 50 years, I found this clip very interesting from how things were when I married. At that time, there weren’t too many foreign men living in Japan, or at least I didn’t meet. I came to the U.S. to find my independence and a life of my own. I worked and was absorbed in the American ways of life naturally. So, meeting my future husband was a natural occurrence, so to speak. My humble advice for the Japanese women who are open to a international marriage is to make sure to visit his country for a lengthy time. Just because he is fluent in Japanese and understand the Japanese cultures, you must also understand his cultures and his family situations., etc.
Woah, why is everyone here attacking her for being married to an American man!? You guys do realize that love has no restrictions because it’s based on the beauty in the eye of the beholder. There is nothing shameful for marrying someone of another race. All that matters is that you truly love them and treat them with respect. Many races have intertwined today, so having a “hafu” offspring isn’t bad at all. Imagine just trying to mate within your own race because you yourself aren’t comfortable having a mixed offspring…until you find someone appealing to you of a different race…Which happens all the time. The only thing staining here is your mentality…not hers. Anyways that being said, God bless you and your loved ones.
As an Indian girl married to a Japanese man, it is truly the most beautiful experience to celebrate two cultures building one home and in the end, a person's personality matters and not nationality at all.
@@hannesRSAAs an Indian, I don't think Indian parents actually mind, as long as the persons Asian. The values most people in Asia give their kids is really similar despite differences in race.
I do not want to date a Japanese girl in the same way that I do not want to date an American girl: I'm a fifty five year old man, and both prospects just sound exhausting! If any of these girls have a single mother or aunt in my age range I might consider it.
One thing I've learned growing up, if you chose to date any Asian women. Be very respectful when meeting her parents and other family members if you want their favor to date and marry their daughters. I've seen many other guys screw this up and get dismissed by the women they were interested in
it depends on when you meet the parents. My wife is chinese and her parents didn't meet me until after she was 3 months pregnant LOL. Not much they could do at that point.
@@daomingjin they respected you for having read the art of war - the best general wins without shots being fired - well, in your case only one shot fired 😂
I'm Mexican American from Southern California married to a Japanese woman from Fukushima. Definitely my wife liked that I was different but also we had similar interests too. It's also important to know her personality, culture, and the Japanese language as she will do the same and learn your culture too. It's fun because we celebrate 3 holidays the Japanese holidays, Mexican holidays and American holidays. Oh and she really likes horchata and tacos 😆 ❤🇯🇵🇲🇽🇺🇲
@@southcoastinventors6583it took me 3 months to learn to learn how to have a basic conversation in Japanese, so I don’t think it will take 3 years to be able to speak decent Japanese.
While i grew up with Japanese culture as a teenager and wanted to marry one one day....i found that the standards of them with respect are high and strict. Not only that we didn't have alot of money growing up and the economy now is horrendous.. but i went to japan twice i found some things to be expensive and i did encounter racism in japan sadly...while ill always respect Japan and their culture i found the Philippines to be a better fit after living there some...i even found a beautiful philipina i dated a while and we decided to get Married soon and are talking about children. she doesn't even care about money and shes loyal. I Even gained a new Philippines family with parents and 7 siblings. The exchange rate of currency is awesome and things are extremely cheap to foreigners. So if you cant swing it in Japan go check out the Philippines ✌️
@@Zauchi well she's gonna be immigrating to my country so that won't be a problem. My advice is always go where your appreciated even if it involves a little travel...might be good for you. ✌️
Not gonna lie bro, you sound kinda naive. You are correct though, you did gain a new family. Just wait til you get her back to your country and she wants to start moving them over too. And I’d hold off on kids for at least a couple years to make sure your relationship will last.
They all are expected , foreigners to be kind , polite, dedicated etc.. don't think so they think rationally about this. They have this stereotypes about western culture .
They probably want to be polite on camera. Most people don't want to sound rude in public, so they are not going to react negatively about foreigners, but in reality marring foreigners especially those from "backward" countries may not be a preferred choice. Cultural barrier is a lot more hard to break than expected for many people. Here in Australia, one third of residents were born overseas but interracial marriage is still uncommon.
I am a german woman with japanese husband, currently pregnant with the first child. Before dating someone from another country its good to study their culture. Culture and language is important, but there will be anyway moments of misunderstanding. Communication and constantly learning is the key.
Dating and marrying are two different things. It takes way more commitment to marry someone bc it involves families, and as of now it's suppose to be for life; at least that's what you should think when you marry someone.
Nope, it's not that different in practice. When dating you also visit your in-laws and are conscious of them and their feelings. Those things don't change when you get married.
@@9y2bgy Very true but some traits are the same too. I had a cousin who dated her ex husband for 7 years but their marriage lasted less then 2 years. I can see why as they had many red flags. They were both Vietnamese Americans so no language or cultural barriers at all. They had a ton of other problems. One was he was poor and she is high maintenance. Ok that itself is a recipe for disaster which it was.
@@9y2bgy It depends on what you define as dating. Courtship is a form of dating. If you definition of dating is just playing around, then that form of dating is call being promiscuous.
“What I really meant was that I didn’t want to see anyone” And there in lies the problem. You should have communicated your feelings more clearly. Nobody can read your mind. This os one of the issues I tend to see between western/Japanese couples. Japan has a culture of conveying information ambiguously. As someone who speaks Japanese and loves japanese culture, this is one element that I have always found extremely frustrating. Lol. Japanese people will literally send you gazillion mixed signals and expected you understand what they really mean
50% is not good enough for communication. Friend of mine could speak basic Japanese, but struggled a lot living with his girlfriend because he can't argue with her. One of you has to be proficient to keep a good relationship/ marriage.
When I went to graduate school, a number of my classmates who were all foreign married Japanese wives. My cousin married a Japanese wife and they are happily married with 2 kids since 2002. It just depends on the person.
That is a long time ago, 20 years, when japanese people actually migrated. Now no one does and being a foreigner has no special help. Not to mention wmaf relations are highly toxic with more domestic violence and worse children succeeding if the women married her own
Very interesting case. Indeed S-E asian men may be more compatible with japanese women than those hordes of fetishistic european males obsessed with youthful nipponese girls.
Shout out to the lady who said yes they should try to speak Japanese but ALSO I should learn their language. This is always such a turn off when someone wants me to do all the heavy lifting.
But that's the exception, surely. In my experience, most of the girls who date foreigners don't want to speak Japanese with them because they're using them for English, even though her boyfriend is trying to learn her language..
"Dating", Dating and Marriage are 3 completely different things. A Japanese girlfriend or a Japanese wife is a completely different thing too. I can talk freely about my Korean girlfriends with my Japanese father in law. Just imagine this in the west. The cultureshock is insane.
6:41 - The story of the Frenchman with "no personal boundaries"... I can see it now: The two-cheek kiss, the boisterous personality, and the whole bit. Oof..! _Not a match with the culture._
I can imagine the guy french-kissing his gf in front of the whole family and in public. The guy who can't feel the awkwardness from the environment. It's also the fault of his gf who hasn't told him to do that.
There was the French gentleman who punched a Japanese lady in the face in broad daylight on the streets of Roppongi and was videoed doing so. He ran away and was chased by some Japanese male passer-bys.
I am Chinese and currently dating Japanese(also date Japanese girl in the past as well), to me it's not that much different than dating a Chinese or Korean girl. Also I have friend who is Japanese guy, but dating Korean or Chinese girl, it's not uncommon, I would say, but marriage is something else which I do agree😂
I love how adorable and cheerful is that girl at the end of the video. She sounds so full of life and willing to explore the world ! That made my day. People create so many barriers in their minds, right ?
You mean the woman said 'Come and talk to me,? I think she is brave. I'm Japanese.That's why I can tell her age and care about age.Normally,women who are over thirty are required not to expect much more than young women in Japan. I think some foreigners can't understand what I meant. It's Japanese culture.
@@barca1397 You'd be surprised on how many people would understand you if you give them a chance to try! Expectations for both Women and Men change along their life (aging)...I believe it happens all around the world. Some of the reasons are related to how human body works, which is understandable for any human being. But when you are not keen to show that you're open for knowing people, making friends and perhaps get into a relationship it makes difficult for people to approach you. No one reasonable would like to feel are being inconvenient or even worse be mistakenly labeled as a 'creepy'.
If I dated a lady from a foreign country, it would be the goal to get married. So, then I'd make every effort to learn her language so I could express myself to her in terms she would understand. And if she learned my language so much the better. I already know a few phrases in Japanese so I'd definitely enjoy learning the language.
I'm Finnish and feel like I would need to share a mothertongue with the person I'm going to be with. Our language is very unique, so I'm not confident the other person would understand me 100% with just English. Also a tip for the Japanese ladies looking for love: I feel like Finns could understand your culture when it comes to silence, personal space and boundaries etc.
Your language is so random I think the only chance you have to share it is if you meet someone in your own country. Finnish barely has a linguistic family.
I love Finland. Such a great country. I wish to live there someday so I'm definitely going to learn the language at some point in my life. First, I gotta finish med school while familiarizing myself with the language and the customs but I'll definitely come. Hope Muslims aren't disliked too much.
@@donchimet We welcome all who work and respect our laws and trust-based society system. Finland's equality between genders is absolute, which has been a challenge to some immigrants. Doctors are greatly valued here!
My Canadian friend married a Japanese woman and said that the marriage went well until they had children. He couldn't believe how she became so wrapped up in her kids. He felt as if he had been forgotten.
That's normal in Japanese culture. I'm married to a Japanese man and after having children, the couple only focus on being parents. The couple's life is totally forgotten. Even after the kids grow up, there's no romantic relationship.
I often wonder, do Chinese, Korean, Japanese consider each other as “foreigners” when it comes to dating?… I know there are cultural differences but we’re still more similar than “Westerners”. For me, I feel like it’s foreign but not really “foreign”😂
If they grew up in the USA, then they would consider each other equals. But if they were from their own respective countries, I believe there are racism, prejudices towards each other due to the media and general history. Of course, there are good natured people who are open to other cultures, and if they speak the same language or had the chance to understand each other over a long period of time, they might date.
@@Great_Sandwich Not "non-foreign" but certainly not "Western-foreign". In Chinese, the title of "foreigner" 外國人、老外 are mostly for the White, Black & Latinos. For Koreans and Japanese people, we'll just call them Korean and Japanese, it's like a grey area in between~
0:09: The speaker has been encouraged to marry a Japanese person by their parents. 0:17: The speaker has had relationships with people from England and France, and has noticed cultural differences. 1:24: The speaker finds Korean and Australian men attractive for their kindness and acceptance. 4:43: The speaker is interested in experiencing international relationships and believes it is a rare opportunity. 5:25: The speaker perceives foreign partners as being more considerate and kind towards women. 6:20: The speaker mentions a miscommunication incident in a previous relationship. 8:37: The speaker values having good relationships with their family and Japanese friends. 8:55: The speaker is open to marrying someone regardless of nationality. 9:25: The speaker's family may prefer them to marry a Japanese person. Recap by Tammy AI
Too many things you need to do 1) Be intelligent and respect people. 2) Speak Japanese and be Japan fan number 1. Love to study. 3) Have good speciality and stable job in Japan. 4) Be very patient to get all of the things what I have mentioned before.
My son, mexican, has a relationship with a Japanese girl, and they are very happy. Now, she is going to come Mexico, to know our country and the family. We like her.
The most important is to be open minded about new experiences. The cultural barrier is a real thing, the more videos like these I've watched, I eventually realised I very likely could never be together with a native Japanese woman, the chances would be extremely low, I might be overthinking it, but the language & cultural barrier would be hard to overcome. Full honesty: I don't think the majority of the Japanese population is open minded enough, just take the fact that most Japanese parents would prefer their daughter to marry their own nationality. I've lived most of my life being brutally honest, I want to be rational. It's not about right or wrong, it's about doing what's best. Some people have a problem with it and my close friends love me for those qualities. Only a few of these woman gave correct answers and they would be a decent match for a foreigner. While watching the interview, I saw many red flags. I don't think they did it on purpose, but many of these woman just come off as Gaijin hunters, they seem to just want to use a foreigner. I've travelled a fair bit, there's good & bad people in every country, there's beautiful & ugly people everywhere, each country has their own culture but at the end of the day people are just people.
also the nuance of saying they feel under the weather and most japanese would know what that means but if someone said they felt sick I would go check they are okay, if we are close enough.
I think they have an idealized view of European and American men - I assume most of them are thinking of European and American when someone says “foreigners”, not Africans, South Americans or Arabs, but the same goes for them. Western men are not so “ladies first” as they imagine, far from it. Ultimately, the girl in the sunglasses is right: “I don’t think anyone could define a person based on their nationality.”
My wife and I have been married for over 36 years and have two adult sons. I am white American and she is Japanese from Okinawa. I do think there are cultural differences that take some effort to understand or be respectful of when a person is in an international relationship. The level of commitment to your foreign spouse is paramount because you will be tested from time to time. In order for an international relationship to be successful takes an extraordinary effort by both persons. If you are a lazy person, I don’t think you stand a chance at making it work. That being said, I do believe it is also much more rewarding if these conditions are met as everyday both individuals do offer something unique to the relationship…which is likely what attracted the two of you in the first place. But it also can be challenging if you allow outside distractions to influence or interfere with the commitment. There are ignorant people who view a successful international marriage/relationship as a judgement upon them,personally, as being inadequate in the eyes of the international individual. That is sad as it speaks to their insecurities about themselves. An international relationship requires a higher level of attention, commitment, and respect for each other and that is dependent on the person themself rather than their nationality. If each individual can meet that challenge, you can have a successful relationship and long life together.
That's why they sound a bit ignorant about what's going outside their country. I doubt many of them lived abroad and are basing most of their opinions on movies.
they miss out the part where you have to credit your salary to their bank accounts and they will manage all the finances and giving you just a portion back as pocket money. lol
That is indeed very true of the typical married couple in not only Japan, but plenty of other countries as well. Japanese, Chinese, Korean or western… don’t matter, F that mess. Each couple has to work things out for themselves, but between the experiences of friends and myself… all with their spouses for 15-27 years (plus kids), don’t do it. Have 3 accounts… his, hers and joint/shared. Calculate your household expenses (rent, food, utilities, incidentals, kids various) and add a little extra for savings, divide by 2 and each equally contributes to the household. The remainder is for each of them to use as they like… saving, investing, partying, hobbies, etc.
It's quite common in China too. Usually wives manage bank accounts, or couples have joint accounts. Husbands hiding money in secret accounts may be thought to be cheating.
That is how it is with some couples but not all. I think the best bet is to have one big joint account and a smaller separate one for each person. That seems to be the best way to go.
I am a Japanese American fluent in Japanese who got married to a Japanese girl. We live in NC. We are entering retirement age. Many of her friends are Japanese women who married Americans who had a good marriage when younger but problems are occurring as they get older. Much of this seems to be related to dietary or cultural differences. What I am seeing is that people get stubborn as they get older and it's harder to compromise on differences. This is the major cause of arguments that I sometimes have with my wife but we are happy, love each other, and plan to stay married.
I've been married twice to Japanese both ended in divorce. Language wasn't a problem as I speak pretty good Japanese and they spoke good English. I love Japanese culture and immersed myself into it. I had a good job and made more than average in Japan. I don't drink that much. I I'm not crazy with money. Sex had a lot of chemistry so no problem there. Yet, we divorced. But there was no drama involved. Go figure.
I travel a lot for my job and frequently have to live in other countries for months to years. They didn’t mind leaving Japan for travel but couldn’t stand the thought of living anyplace else. a year or so after divorcing my 2nd we tried to get back together but everything had changed. We still love each other but that spark was gone. Really sad cause I probably still love her and always will.
@@Shanghaimagic thank you for sharing. I'll keep that in mind before getting too serious with someone. I hope things work out for you either with her or someone potentially better. Best of luck to you.
@@Shanghaimagic so they get homesick? 😂 clearly it's something else that you probably don't even know yourself, it's probably this reading the air bs in their culture, so when they told you it's because they're homesick it's definitely not it 😂
This has always crossed my mind until I saw a video where in Japan a woman can legally take the children away from the father and nothing can be done. Some have relationships and families in other countries and suddenly return to Japan without notice.
@@sara.cbc92 it happened to a few Australians. Lawsuits seem useless as the law is favoured towards the women because of domestic violence. Even if there is none..
RUclipsr thetechlead has an episode about it. This guy is Japanese American, married to a Japanese woman. Their relationship soured and his wife took their child to live in Japan without notifying him. It's legal in Japan.
@@sara.cbc92 Really? Yes I heard about so many cases of the mother literally stealing the children and running away with them away from their ex husband. It is so sad.
I married a japanese. My japanese level is unfortunately still low even if i did my WH there. Low because i started working for an international company where i needed to speak english and german. Anyway his family was very suprised when meeting me first time because he didnt tell them i am a foreigner (and wearing yukata on that day). My now father in law is from the traditional generation, cannot speak any english and never left the country, but still he likes me and wanna make me happy with nice food and many sake 😂 but yes, the only "negative" thing in his mind is the language barrier. He would love to have a proper conversation with me without the translator device he bought for our meet ups 😂 maybe sometimes he worrying about us because we live now in Germany, but as long he knows i make his son happy he is also happy. 😊
I am half Japanese, I guess for my parents it was a different time, they met in 1946 had to wait until 1948 for government to change the laws. I guess my mother couldn't resist blue eyes and blonde hair and my fell in love with Japanese charm and beauty. It was hard for them the Marine Corp didn't allow for marriage and a relationship a Japanese, once every year they would ship him back to the US only to volunteer for the occupation force and be back in Japan two weeks later, with my mother. Funny thing for me my mother wanted me to marry a Japanese and I was stationed in Japan for three years, I wasn't Japanese enough they would tell me, so it never happened. On the other hand I wasn't white enough for women here, I got all the stereotypes about Asian males.
Man , sorry to hear that . These are just dumb young people stereotypes , I think when you get a little older and women get a little wiser that won't matter.
These questions are getting old and pointless lmao it would have been intriguing to see asian girls confessing their need to marry foreigners 20 years ago, now it's just stupid and trivial
But it’s still relevant to a lot of ppl who are interested in Japanese people/culture. It’s 2024 but sadly ppl still have to be careful and think before jumping to someone outside their race
Absolutely they will! Most of My gaijin friends have Japanese wives. In many cases, it was about wanting to start a family and the women being unable to find Japanese men who felt the same way. So, they expanded their horizons and now have the family they wanted.
When I am visiting Japan, I can tell JP women are very interested in getting to know foreigners. And dating as well. At the end, nationality is not important, there r so many other factors.
In Japan people still keep to groups when forming relationships this means dating others around or in the groups, from high school, college or co-workers, friends. This is more prevalent than any other country even Korea, where they are just a little less group driven compared to Japan. It makes it less likely they meet people outside their social group. It's true they basically don't talk to strangers except in specific situations like nightlife even there, there's still a level of shyness. In addition there is overall a more positive view of foreigners (from countries around the world) of European origin appearance in dating, work and social networking, there are historical and media reasons for this, that is not to say that some of the Japanese girls won't marry other foreigners, Chinese and Korean are the highest numbers though because they share a similar background. And k pop has changed things a little too for younger girls in terms of preference :). One thing is when they talk about foreigners being kind I think they refer to the patriarchal structure of Japanese society where even a 16 year old boy adopts the same approach regardless of what you see in anime. In communication and consideration, in the West and other cultures we tend to form closer connections between men and women. Even a 16 year old boy won't show the same consideration for his girlfriend that we do. Hence the reason why most Japanese girls regardless of age will mention 'ladies first' when describing foreign males, esp westerners. They are really reflecting on how a society treats women which shows in personal relationships between a man and woman, that's their definition of kind as well as individual acts. Unfortunately many of the girls don't have the real life experience of dating a foreigner, but you're right there are other foreign guys living in the Japan, including university students and company workers, who they don't form attachments with because of social and cultural pressure even though they have the opportunity. Also I think learning Japanese is good but English is also the language many countries use to form connections.
Idk what you talking about kid. I went to japan many times before corona and my japanese is not even that good, met so many people, made friends, its easy. All you have to do is NEVER MENTION ANIME or MANGA and you will be in the clear, learn things about the culture, a woman will give you the eyes roll if you talk about naruto, but talk about ishikawa sayuri and they will be interested about what you have to say lol.
@@leredditcommander8208 I think we are probably on different pages, I'm referencing the nuances of everyday Japanese society, culture and life as well as responding to a couple of comments here. I think you are talking about interacting with people there on a much more short term basis like visits or travel, but thanks for your input !
Although all of the people interviewed here were Japanese women, Japanese men actually marry foreigners at a higher rate than their female counterparts. Also, the point the women made about the daughter of her mum's friend who married a Frenchman with no personal boundaries, is not indicative of all foreigners and is a bit of an overgeneralization. Case by case.
I would like to ask if the video interview from people in Tokyo about the recent water release from the Fukushima plant will be still uploaded soon? I recall seeing a short video preview of it a few days ago, so I'm curious to inquire about it. Thank you.
There was a retired Us navy guy showing his family around Japan, he told me he dated a Japanese girl when he was based in Japan but her parents didnt want her to date a foreigner so they split up he went back home had a family about ten years after leaving Japan the ex japanese GF came looking for him - her personal life went no where because she listened to the parents, his did.
As an ordinary South Korean man, I know it is a good thing that someone praises us, but it is a bit uncomfortable that the media and the Internet make an exaggerated fantasy about us. I often hear that Japanese women are girly and cute, but it seems that there are many men who misunderstand that they are submissive or passive. Well, It seems that people always want to find something better outside of their own!
When you are open for an international relationship then it's manadatory to learn each others language, if the relationship is serious. I think learning each others language & culture is in my eyes a way higher act of commitment than a marriage cause getting married is only a matter of hours but learning language & culture is a matter of decades.
its more like a stereotype, people tend to think good of the things they dont know about, and forget about reality. its should be person related instead nationality related
I was married to my husband for 26 years and was happily married till he passed away unexpectedly. Marriages are not easy regardless, but none of our issues were because he was American.
I’ve been friends with Japanese women since 2016, in Bangkok. We play tennis and hang out almost every weekend, having had multiple dinners and rendezvous at my place and at theirs. Their age varies from 25 to 50. All of them are polite and kind. Some are too shy. Some of them speak English very well and some are, say, at a basic to intermediary level. Specifically about this group of Japanese female friends, I. believe they are more open to relationships with foreigners because they are already living abroad and can communicate in English. Had a romance with only one of them, who was my neighbor. It didn’t last too long mostly because after 4 or 5 dates she already wanted me to commit to a serious relationship and it was too soon for me. We are still friends with benefits, nonetheless. All in all, Japan might be one of the best sources of wife material out there.
I wish people would treat others for who they are not because of what they are. It does get annoying to hear things like oh you Japanese, hi-five! So what does that mean? If I wasn't Japanese, no hi-fives? If I was Chinese, will I get treated differently? I've had people wanting to be my friend just because my English is good and they didn't work out so well.
I'm Japanese, but I don't know a single person around me who wants to date a foreigner. Kpop is popular these days, and Asians are becoming more and more popular in Japan. Besides, Japanese people work long hours anyway, so people who can't do that don't tend to be well-liked. Also, these days there are more and more foreigners in Japan who can't follow Japanese rules, which makes Japanese people love Japanese people even more.
I am already married, but I really hope the lady with the purple shirt finds a nice partner. She seems really enthusiastic about dating and wanting to be in a serious relationship, but her bubbly personality could be easily mistaken for being a little bit strange or over the top. I have met a few Japanese girls like this, and most of them are absolutely 100% normal once you get to know them. She'd make you feel like a king every day!
The girl who was looking to find someone this year was so positive and charming, I wish I could chat with her 😊 very nice video I have to Japan many times and I love how respectful and kind they are comparing to my country
I want to know why japanese people think dating and marriage are two totally separate things. For the most part, arent you dating to get married? If not, dating a foreigner, just to say, “I am going to marry a japanese in the end” is kind of time wasting?
Excellent interview. Very good questions and very insightful answers. All the women in this interview are amazing! Many thanks to them for expressing their thoughts on the topic in front of a camera. Based on this video I'd say Japanese men should feel extremely lucky and grateful about their women!
Also I feel like men wouldn’t be as honest, but I’m alway interested in hearing how men feel. ESPECIALLY what I really want to know is how men feel about dating non Asian, non white women. But I wonder if they’d really be honest on film 🤔
Seems like everyone from any one country has stereotypes about people from other countries. Westerners think Japanese people are all polite and gentle, while the Japanese picture westerners as Avengers type superheroes
Sadly many who have no knowledge often generalize and stereotype everything without knowing anything. Japanese people are not all polite and gentle at all. I met some very rude and nasty ones. There are bad apples in every ethnicity.
If you are thinking about marrying a Japanese man and he has an older sister, I think you should give up on him fr! The woman is jealous because she thinks you stole her brother! TOXIC alerts 🚨🚨🚨
As a fellow Frenchy, I wish the interviewer had asked more details about what that French guy did. To be asked to leave the house, it must have been terrible. Perhaps, they got a bit too handsy with each other in front of the parents on in their room?
i married a compassionate loving loyal African/Japanese American who blessed me with 2 children. I call him African because his heritage (Zulu) and he speaks both Zulu and Japanese.
Japanese women tend to follow a cultural path in becoming more strict after marriage and then even more after having children. They emulate how their mothers and grandmothers were, and it can get pretty rough when they stick to a purely-traditional Japanese lifestyle....which they will do more often than not. If you truly want to be with a Japanese woman, you should look for Japanese girls who are willing to be more flexible with their cultural attitudes because the ones that aren't will never bend to your culture even a little, you'll bend to their's.
Never been with them 'cos it's gonna be a disgrace on my ancestry & personality. These are just facts being stated. I can suggest a group for you to learn how those who are into them are being treated. Based on your statement about bending to their ways, you need to understand that no culture is superior to the other. Most of this gullible acceptance of culture ain't always built on truth. It's a means to an end due to the fact that it avails the spouse some form of exception and on average, usually not what you expect. You'll need to go through the usual route in handling your affairs. It's always about the gains. My culture isn't superior to yours and vice-versa. #peaceinandout#
I do feel a little discouraged after nothing it's mostly European Foreigners is the preference, (I am from Africa) BUT this will not bring me down, as these are only a few of the many Japanese Ladies. I am sure there are plenty out there that are much more open to other Countries, that aren't The US, or Europe.
The girl with sunglasses is expecting her partner to speak Japanese so he can get communicate with her parents, but I wonder if she would be willing to do the same for her partner.
Enjoying thinking about something is very different from actually doing it. Most Japanese women would be too shy to even try speaking English with a foreigner even if they thought they were very handsome.
That girl that studied abroad in Australia was so expressive and bubbly... I think she'd probably get along more with foreigners than other Japanese people would.
It's wild to me that in the age of technology, Japanese still have a naive child like view of how the world is outside Japan. Cleary a choice given this doesn't apply to people from many other homogenous countries nearly as much. Very boring honestly.
The only negative answer to marrying a foreigner coming from the lady who dated foreigner in the past is saying the real mentality of Japanese parents when faced with the prospect of an international marriage 😢 I’m Chinese married to a Japanese person, and can def confirm this
@@sXsKidd Marrying and dating are two different things in japan. Some women want to experience being escorted by a foreigner or having sex with a foreigner. Marrying is a whole different thing. Yes some of them answered that they're open to marrying a foreigner but what I wanted to know was if they prefer marrying foreigners.
@@sunen7129 well you can assume from their answers, that if you cant speak japanese or know how to act, know their culture it's probably a no. To much of a hassle
@@sXsKiddI Just Wanna See The Great Japanese Empire Come Back! What Happened? How and why. It's like they are trying to kill them off I don't get it I don't fuckin get it the Japanese needs to fuckin overthrow the government.
I spent 3 years in Japan, and there are allot of good women but they never meet western requirements. The Japanese woman is very short, I am 6ft2 230, and twice retired, very wealthy and I need a woman who can assist me at shareholder meeting, at the country club, and a movie premier, at a charity event, and these women although pretty are simply too small, can not carry on a good conversation, and that impacts me as a man. The woman on my arm is a direct reflection of my judgement. The juice, is not worth the effort. Now Thailand/ Philippian well that is very different.
When they say foreigners, they mean Americans. In Japan, there are good husbands and bad husbands. The same happens in other countries, marrying a foreigner or a Japanese is not a guarantee of anything.
Japanese girls don’t like being approached cold. It has to develop naturally over time. Most of them don’t have that kind of situations in their lives. Men pursuing girls aggressively isn’t something that they respond to.
Best way to pull one is to hang out in a social circle and go on group dates. This is the best way to do it based on what I’ve read about personal accounts of American and British men dating Japanese women
@@jackandrews7878 exactly right! One night stands are uncommon. You really have to know the girl at least a little to get a desired result. And the girl that you do pull with one nights aggression aren’t the kind you want to have around. Don’t believe the porn….
My favorite thing about this video is how some people said it’s impossible to meet foreigners in japan while like soooo many foreigners walk around in the background 😂
Yes, but in Japan, people never talk to strangers.
Yeah but it looked like they were either already with someone or simply visiting
I thought I was the only one to see that.
@1988kcmo it depends on the area. If it is Tokyo. No. Not really. Kobe. Yes. At least it was that way in 1991.
Meeting foreigner as in just meeting strangers on the streets is one thing. "Meeting" someone as in dating is something else.
I love their answers. Gentleness, kind, supportive, positive mindset, these are all important traits for a happy, successful life. Especially when we talk about long term
"I don't think anyone's personality can be defined by their nationality. I just want to be in a respectful relationship" truly hits the mark.
Mansplain. It means she wants a chad. The guy could be the nicest guy in the entire world but if he’s the wrong race, height, and weight he’s worthless to her
@@rickysampson8759 Mansplain, you mean you?
@@ryuukakhadijah7766 it’s when men explain women nonsense. In this case yours
@@rickysampson8759 I'm a woman though
How can you be blind? Culture plays a great role, certain countries have absolutely no respect for women so yeah, you should always remember the country they’re from, cause that matters a lot
I am Japanese and I translated the text using a translator.
Basically, Japanese people have a culture of not saying what they really think when they speak in public. They are humble when it is about themselves and positive when it is about other people. This is called 'honne to tatemae'.
In reality, the international marriage rate for Japanese women has been around 1% for decades, less than a third of the rate for Japanese men. An international marriage rate of 1% is quite low in the world.
Anyone know how South Koreans call the “honne to tatemae “ in Korean ?
The amount of people who don't understand how statistics work is scary
@@jayc33day xdddddd
As a Japanese woman who has been married to an American man for almost 50 years, I found this clip very interesting from how things were when I married.
At that time, there weren’t too many foreign men living in Japan, or at least I didn’t meet. I came to the U.S. to find my independence and a life of my own.
I worked and was absorbed in the American ways of life naturally. So, meeting my future husband was a natural occurrence, so to speak. My humble advice for the Japanese women who are open to a international marriage is to make sure to visit his country for a lengthy time. Just because he is fluent in Japanese and understand the Japanese cultures, you must also understand his cultures and his family situations., etc.
@@JiraiyaSennin-li7yy your mom must have dropped you on your head from a considerable height when you're a little goblin
staining the family tree
Woah, why is everyone here attacking her for being married to an American man!? You guys do realize that love has no restrictions because it’s based on the beauty in the eye of the beholder.
There is nothing shameful for marrying someone of another race. All that matters is that you truly love them and treat them with respect. Many races have intertwined today, so having a “hafu” offspring isn’t bad at all.
Imagine just trying to mate within your own race because you yourself aren’t comfortable having a mixed offspring…until you find someone appealing to you of a different race…Which happens all the time.
The only thing staining here is your mentality…not hers. Anyways that being said, God bless you and your loved ones.
@@JiraiyaSennin-li7yyno one’s talkin bout birth rates lil nga
Very wise words
As an Indian girl married to a Japanese man, it is truly the most beautiful experience to celebrate two cultures building one home and in the end, a person's personality matters and not nationality at all.
The parents might disagree. But not in the next generation, probably.
@@hannesRSAAs an Indian, I don't think Indian parents actually mind, as long as the persons Asian. The values most people in Asia give their kids is really similar despite differences in race.
and that good reason being?@@life_is_a_myth
@@life_is_a_mythWhat good reason?
You both make awesome curries.
I'm already imagining people in the comments asking to date these Japanese girls 😂
Yup lol.
I do not want to date a Japanese girl in the same way that I do not want to date an American girl: I'm a fifty five year old man, and both prospects just sound exhausting! If any of these girls have a single mother or aunt in my age range I might consider it.
@@tarmaque -_____-
Why do you think I'm here?
Damn!! Windy is on to us, SCATTER!!!😳
One thing I've learned growing up, if you chose to date any Asian women. Be very respectful when meeting her parents and other family members if you want their favor to date and marry their daughters. I've seen many other guys screw this up and get dismissed by the women they were interested in
it depends on when you meet the parents. My wife is chinese and her parents didn't meet me until after she was 3 months pregnant LOL.
Not much they could do at that point.
@@daomingjin wth??? 😅
@@daomingjin they respected you for having read the art of war - the best general wins without shots being fired - well, in your case only one shot fired 😂
When the ladies are saying Foreigner, they mean white men from rich countries.
@@life_is_a_myth Except the one girl totally said KOREAN...
most international married couple in japan are korean and chinese married to japanese men/women,
"😢"
Meh.... We're not different... Don't get me wrong, Man also wants a beautiful girl with perfect body to complete their fantasies... Is fax ngl
@@sushistar4498 no black guys and Japanese women are the most common ok buster
I'm Mexican American from Southern California married to a Japanese woman from Fukushima. Definitely my wife liked that I was different but also we had similar interests too. It's also important to know her personality, culture, and the Japanese language as she will do the same and learn your culture too. It's fun because we celebrate 3 holidays the Japanese holidays, Mexican holidays and American holidays. Oh and she really likes horchata and tacos 😆 ❤🇯🇵🇲🇽🇺🇲
That’s awesome, congratulations on finding each other and living happily 😁
Can you ask her is it true that girls from Fukushima are the prettiest in Japan?
Japanese is easy to learn if you have 3 years and 2 hours a day to study
@@southcoastinventors6583it took me 3 months to learn to learn how to have a basic conversation in Japanese, so I don’t think it will take 3 years to be able to speak decent Japanese.
God bless man
While i grew up with Japanese culture as a teenager and wanted to marry one one day....i found that the standards of them with respect are high and strict. Not only that we didn't have alot of money growing up and the economy now is horrendous.. but i went to japan twice i found some things to be expensive and i did encounter racism in japan sadly...while ill always respect Japan and their culture i found the Philippines to be a better fit after living there some...i even found a beautiful philipina i dated a while and we decided to get Married soon and are talking about children. she doesn't even care about money and shes loyal. I Even gained a new Philippines family with parents and 7 siblings. The exchange rate of currency is awesome and things are extremely cheap to foreigners. So if you cant swing it in Japan go check out the Philippines ✌️
日本人が人種差別しててごめんね
I'm half filipino but I have found out over the years that full filipinos almost have a hatred towards me. lol
@@Zauchi well she's gonna be immigrating to my country so that won't be a problem. My advice is always go where your appreciated even if it involves a little travel...might be good for you. ✌️
Not gonna lie bro, you sound kinda naive. You are correct though, you did gain a new family. Just wait til you get her back to your country and she wants to start moving them over too. And I’d hold off on kids for at least a couple years to make sure your relationship will last.
They all are expected , foreigners to be kind , polite, dedicated etc.. don't think so they think rationally about this. They have this stereotypes about western culture .
Same for japanese girls ;) kind gentle, submissive, dedicated and all. Stereotypes..
True
@@alexisfrjp Also true
They probably want to be polite on camera. Most people don't want to sound rude in public, so they are not going to react negatively about foreigners, but in reality marring foreigners especially those from "backward" countries may not be a preferred choice. Cultural barrier is a lot more hard to break than expected for many people. Here in Australia, one third of residents were born overseas but interracial marriage is still uncommon.
Too much Hollywood movies for them
I am a german woman with japanese husband, currently pregnant with the first child.
Before dating someone from another country its good to study their culture. Culture and language is important, but there will be anyway moments of misunderstanding. Communication and constantly learning is the key.
Dating and marrying are two different things. It takes way more commitment to marry someone bc it involves families, and as of now it's suppose to be for life; at least that's what you should think when you marry someone.
Nope, it's not that different in practice. When dating you also visit your in-laws and are conscious of them and their feelings. Those things don't change when you get married.
@@stijnhs I believe their attitude toward you is very different when you're a date vs when you're a spouse. BIG DIFFERENCE.
@@9y2bgy Very true but some traits are the same too. I had a cousin who dated her ex husband for 7 years but their marriage lasted less then 2 years. I can see why as they had many red flags. They were both Vietnamese Americans so no language or cultural barriers at all. They had a ton of other problems. One was he was poor and she is high maintenance. Ok that itself is a recipe for disaster which it was.
@@9y2bgy It depends on what you define as dating. Courtship is a form of dating. If you definition of dating is just playing around, then that form of dating is call being promiscuous.
98% of Japanese household registry is japanese men. Just give up and Japan doesn't need more foreigners taking their women
“What I really meant was that I didn’t want to see anyone”
And there in lies the problem. You should have communicated your feelings more clearly. Nobody can read your mind.
This os one of the issues I tend to see between western/Japanese couples. Japan has a culture of conveying information ambiguously. As someone who speaks Japanese and loves japanese culture, this is one element that I have always found extremely frustrating. Lol. Japanese people will literally send you gazillion mixed signals and expected you understand what they really mean
Bro, that's all women😅
50% is not good enough for communication. Friend of mine could speak basic Japanese, but struggled a lot living with his girlfriend because he can't argue with her. One of you has to be proficient to keep a good relationship/ marriage.
Probably good you can't argue lol
It depends as my late great aunt married a French man and she hardly knew French at first. But they were happy til they passed.
same man, I eventually had to break up with my Korean ex for this reason. I was just miserable with her
@@mlemlemmlemmlemmy Japanese bf broke up with me maybe because of this reason. It sucks. 💔
Your friend could have just start saying random japanese companies like in Scary Movie.. Hitachi Toshiba Mitsubishi Toyota Ajinomoto..ans so on
When I went to graduate school, a number of my classmates who were all foreign married Japanese wives. My cousin married a Japanese wife and they are happily married with 2 kids since 2002. It just depends on the person.
That is a long time ago, 20 years, when japanese people actually migrated. Now no one does and being a foreigner has no special help. Not to mention wmaf relations are highly toxic with more domestic violence and worse children succeeding if the women married her own
Very interesting case. Indeed S-E asian men may be more compatible with japanese women than those hordes of fetishistic european males obsessed with youthful nipponese girls.
Shout out to the lady who said yes they should try to speak Japanese but ALSO I should learn their language. This is always such a turn off when someone wants me to do all the heavy lifting.
But that's the exception, surely. In my experience, most of the girls who date foreigners don't want to speak Japanese with them because they're using them for English, even though her boyfriend is trying to learn her language..
"Dating", Dating and Marriage are 3 completely different things. A Japanese girlfriend or a Japanese wife is a completely different thing too.
I can talk freely about my Korean girlfriends with my Japanese father in law. Just imagine this in the west. The cultureshock is insane.
Really interesting to learn about different dating cultures!
On my channel I have interviews about dating in Denmark, Brazil and Argentina as well!
6:41 - The story of the Frenchman with "no personal boundaries"... I can see it now: The two-cheek kiss, the boisterous personality, and the whole bit. Oof..! _Not a match with the culture._
I can imagine the guy french-kissing his gf in front of the whole family and in public.
The guy who can't feel the awkwardness from the environment. It's also the fault of his gf who hasn't told him to do that.
There was the French gentleman who punched a Japanese lady in the face in broad daylight on the streets of Roppongi and was videoed doing so. He ran away and was chased by some Japanese male passer-bys.
I'll say he didn't make any research about the culture in Japan, and probably was an extroverted person.
@@guillaumel9728 For sure. I've researched the culture for years, and the more I learn, the more I realize I don't know. It's bottomless.
@@Great_Sandwich Sorry, I was talking about "the Frenchman", not you ^^' (or maybe I misunderstood your response)
I am Chinese and currently dating Japanese(also date Japanese girl in the past as well), to me it's not that much different than dating a Chinese or Korean girl. Also I have friend who is Japanese guy, but dating Korean or Chinese girl, it's not uncommon, I would say, but marriage is something else which I do agree😂
I think Chinese have the hardest time, their culture seems the most different.
@@ckrgksdkrak
What?
Korean and Japanese culture both stems from Chinese culture.
As long as asian and asian, it will be no issues
I love how adorable and cheerful is that girl at the end of the video. She sounds so full of life and willing to explore the world !
That made my day.
People create so many barriers in their minds, right ?
You mean the woman said 'Come and talk to me,? I think she is brave. I'm Japanese.That's why I can tell her age and care about age.Normally,women who are over thirty are required not to expect much more than young women in Japan. I think some foreigners can't understand what I meant. It's Japanese culture.
@@barca1397 You'd be surprised on how many people would understand you if you give them a chance to try!
Expectations for both Women and Men change along their life (aging)...I believe it happens all around the world. Some of the reasons are related to how human body works, which is understandable for any human being. But when you are not keen to show that you're open for knowing people, making friends and perhaps get into a relationship it makes difficult for people to approach you. No one reasonable would like to feel are being inconvenient or even worse be mistakenly labeled as a 'creepy'.
If I dated a lady from a foreign country, it would be the goal to get married. So, then I'd make every effort to learn her language so I could express myself to her in terms she would understand. And if she learned my language so much the better. I already know a few phrases in Japanese so I'd definitely enjoy learning the language.
I'm Finnish and feel like I would need to share a mothertongue with the person I'm going to be with. Our language is very unique, so I'm not confident the other person would understand me 100% with just English. Also a tip for the Japanese ladies looking for love: I feel like Finns could understand your culture when it comes to silence, personal space and boundaries etc.
Your language is so random I think the only chance you have to share it is if you meet someone in your own country. Finnish barely has a linguistic family.
@@BHNative I'm already married but well said.
I love Finland. Such a great country. I wish to live there someday so I'm definitely going to learn the language at some point in my life. First, I gotta finish med school while familiarizing myself with the language and the customs but I'll definitely come.
Hope Muslims aren't disliked too much.
@@donchimet We welcome all who work and respect our laws and trust-based society system. Finland's equality between genders is absolute, which has been a challenge to some immigrants. Doctors are greatly valued here!
@@BHNative not true. It is part of Finno-Ugric language family. So is Hungarian and Estonian.
My Canadian friend married a Japanese woman and said that the marriage went well until they had children. He couldn't believe how she became so wrapped up in her kids. He felt as if he had been forgotten.
Classic.
That's normal in Japanese culture. I'm married to a Japanese man and after having children, the couple only focus on being parents. The couple's life is totally forgotten. Even after the kids grow up, there's no romantic relationship.
Based woman. Children come first.
Thats nothing compare to americans. As soon as they pop your kids out, theyre gone with the kids😅
I don't think anything's wrong. Children should be the first priority.
When I was in Japan, when I asked about foreign men, the absolute majority answered that they were Korean, followed by white Americans and Europeans.
I often wonder, do Chinese, Korean, Japanese consider each other as “foreigners” when it comes to dating?… I know there are cultural differences but we’re still more similar than “Westerners”. For me, I feel like it’s foreign but not really “foreign”😂
If they grew up in the USA, then they would consider each other equals. But if they were from their own respective countries, I believe there are racism, prejudices towards each other due to the media and general history. Of course, there are good natured people who are open to other cultures, and if they speak the same language or had the chance to understand each other over a long period of time, they might date.
Much worse…
You think Chinese regard Japanese as "non-foreign"? Not even close. Same works in every combination of the three.
@@Great_Sandwich Not "non-foreign" but certainly not "Western-foreign".
In Chinese, the title of "foreigner" 外國人、老外 are mostly for the White, Black & Latinos. For Koreans and Japanese people, we'll just call them Korean and Japanese, it's like a grey area in between~
I would say it's less foreign than Westerners, but still the cultural differences are so stark it would still be foreign.
0:09: The speaker has been encouraged to marry a Japanese person by their parents.
0:17: The speaker has had relationships with people from England and France, and has noticed cultural differences.
1:24: The speaker finds Korean and Australian men attractive for their kindness and acceptance.
4:43: The speaker is interested in experiencing international relationships and believes it is a rare opportunity.
5:25: The speaker perceives foreign partners as being more considerate and kind towards women.
6:20: The speaker mentions a miscommunication incident in a previous relationship.
8:37: The speaker values having good relationships with their family and Japanese friends.
8:55: The speaker is open to marrying someone regardless of nationality.
9:25: The speaker's family may prefer them to marry a Japanese person.
Recap by Tammy AI
wow ~ these women really have no idea about "foreign men" lol
Too many things you need to do
1) Be intelligent and respect people.
2) Speak Japanese and be Japan fan number 1. Love to study.
3) Have good speciality and stable job in Japan.
4) Be very patient to get all of the things what I have mentioned before.
Be smart , patient , folow your dream , never stop and maybe luck will smile you.
thats too many things for you? yikes
My son, mexican, has a relationship with a Japanese girl, and they are very happy. Now, she is going to come Mexico, to know our country and the family. We like her.
Don't eat her
The most important is to be open minded about new experiences. The cultural barrier is a real thing, the more videos like these I've watched, I eventually realised I very likely could never be together with a native Japanese woman, the chances would be extremely low, I might be overthinking it, but the language & cultural barrier would be hard to overcome.
Full honesty: I don't think the majority of the Japanese population is open minded enough, just take the fact that most Japanese parents would prefer their daughter to marry their own nationality.
I've lived most of my life being brutally honest, I want to be rational. It's not about right or wrong, it's about doing what's best.
Some people have a problem with it and my close friends love me for those qualities.
Only a few of these woman gave correct answers and they would be a decent match for a foreigner.
While watching the interview, I saw many red flags. I don't think they did it on purpose, but many of these woman just come off as Gaijin hunters, they seem to just want to use a foreigner.
I've travelled a fair bit, there's good & bad people in every country, there's beautiful & ugly people everywhere, each country has their own culture but at the end of the day people are just people.
also the nuance of saying they feel under the weather and most japanese would know what that means but if someone said they felt sick I would go check they are okay, if we are close enough.
I think they have an idealized view of European and American men - I assume most of them are thinking of European and American when someone says “foreigners”, not Africans, South Americans or Arabs, but the same goes for them. Western men are not so “ladies first” as they imagine, far from it. Ultimately, the girl in the sunglasses is right: “I don’t think anyone could define a person based on their nationality.”
If you're a blue eyed blonde australian your in luck apparently
@@life_is_a_myth white and black
To be fair she sounds like a bit of a gaijin hunter though. Most Japanese girls might be curious but would never date a white dude...in Japan that is
Pick me pick me!! Lol
look at her though... while pretty one wants korean
@@davidkymdell452 wss gonna say 90% of the asian girls i know date white guys 😂
My wife and I have been married for over 36 years and have two adult sons. I am white American and she is Japanese from Okinawa. I do think there are cultural differences that take some effort to understand or be respectful of when a person is in an international relationship. The level of commitment to your foreign spouse is paramount because you will be tested from time to time. In order for an international relationship to be successful takes an extraordinary effort by both persons. If you are a lazy person, I don’t think you stand a chance at making it work. That being said, I do believe it is also much more rewarding if these conditions are met as everyday both individuals do offer something unique to the relationship…which is likely what attracted the two of you in the first place. But it also can be challenging if you allow outside distractions to influence or interfere with the commitment. There are ignorant people who view a successful international marriage/relationship as a judgement upon them,personally, as being inadequate in the eyes of the international individual. That is sad as it speaks to their insecurities about themselves. An international relationship requires a higher level of attention, commitment, and respect for each other and that is dependent on the person themself rather than their nationality. If each individual can meet that challenge, you can have a successful relationship and long life together.
Also omg the rude foreigners getting into the film with their drinks. 😂 No awareness of surroundings whatsoever...
every other culture does that also
It's interesting that many of them say foreign men are kind because they believe in "Lady first". Isn't that phrase considered old-shool and outdated?
That's why they sound a bit ignorant about what's going outside their country. I doubt many of them lived abroad and are basing most of their opinions on movies.
Yes, its outdated. Especially because "ladies first" is kind of discriminating
(11:33) So true! This is why it is important to specify what is the end goal is with the person you are dating.
they miss out the part where you have to credit your salary to their bank accounts and they will manage all the finances and giving you just a portion back as pocket money. lol
That's so messed up
That is indeed very true of the typical married couple in not only Japan, but plenty of other countries as well. Japanese, Chinese, Korean or western… don’t matter, F that mess. Each couple has to work things out for themselves, but between the experiences of friends and myself… all with their spouses for 15-27 years (plus kids), don’t do it. Have 3 accounts… his, hers and joint/shared. Calculate your household expenses (rent, food, utilities, incidentals, kids various) and add a little extra for savings, divide by 2 and each equally contributes to the household. The remainder is for each of them to use as they like… saving, investing, partying, hobbies, etc.
It's quite common in China too. Usually wives manage bank accounts, or couples have joint accounts. Husbands hiding money in secret accounts may be thought to be cheating.
That is how it is with some couples but not all. I think the best bet is to have one big joint account and a smaller separate one for each person. That seems to be the best way to go.
That's Asian wife.. not just Japanese
I am a Japanese American fluent in Japanese who got married to a Japanese girl. We live in NC. We are entering retirement age. Many of her friends are Japanese women who married Americans who had a good marriage when younger but problems are occurring as they get older. Much of this seems to be related to dietary or cultural differences. What I am seeing is that people get stubborn as they get older and it's harder to compromise on differences. This is the major cause of arguments that I sometimes have with my wife but we are happy, love each other, and plan to stay married.
She just American now , most difficult if you live in Japan and you take all rules Japanese culture
Asian Boss knew exactly what the answers would be when they asked the women which country men they find attractive. We all did too.
I've been married twice to Japanese both ended in divorce. Language wasn't a problem as I speak pretty good Japanese and they spoke good English. I love Japanese culture and immersed myself into it. I had a good job and made more than average in Japan. I don't drink that much. I I'm not crazy with money. Sex had a lot of chemistry so no problem there. Yet, we divorced. But there was no drama involved. Go figure.
If you're comfortable answering. Why did you end up divorcing? I'm curious because it's something I'd like to avoid if I get married.
I travel a lot for my job and frequently have to live in other countries for months to years. They didn’t mind leaving Japan for travel but couldn’t stand the thought of living anyplace else. a year or so after divorcing my 2nd we tried to get back together but everything had changed. We still love each other but that spark was gone. Really sad cause I probably still love her and always will.
@@Shanghaimagic thank you for sharing. I'll keep that in mind before getting too serious with someone. I hope things work out for you either with her or someone potentially better. Best of luck to you.
@@Shanghaimagic so they get homesick? 😂 clearly it's something else that you probably don't even know yourself, it's probably this reading the air bs in their culture, so when they told you it's because they're homesick it's definitely not it 😂
So it s you.
This has always crossed my mind until I saw a video where in Japan a woman can legally take the children away from the father and nothing can be done. Some have relationships and families in other countries and suddenly return to Japan without notice.
It actually happened to a Taiwanese table tennis player, where his ex wife Ai Fukuhara took away their child. He's filing a lawsuit.
@@sara.cbc92 it happened to a few Australians. Lawsuits seem useless as the law is favoured towards the women because of domestic violence. Even if there is none..
techlead lol
RUclipsr thetechlead has an episode about it. This guy is Japanese American, married to a Japanese woman. Their relationship soured and his wife took their child to live in Japan without notifying him. It's legal in Japan.
@@sara.cbc92 Really? Yes I heard about so many cases of the mother literally stealing the children and running away with them away from their ex husband. It is so sad.
I married a japanese. My japanese level is unfortunately still low even if i did my WH there. Low because i started working for an international company where i needed to speak english and german. Anyway his family was very suprised when meeting me first time because he didnt tell them i am a foreigner (and wearing yukata on that day). My now father in law is from the traditional generation, cannot speak any english and never left the country, but still he likes me and wanna make me happy with nice food and many sake 😂 but yes, the only "negative" thing in his mind is the language barrier. He would love to have a proper conversation with me without the translator device he bought for our meet ups 😂 maybe sometimes he worrying about us because we live now in Germany, but as long he knows i make his son happy he is also happy. 😊
Sounds like a good man. I wish you the very best!
its sweet that he bought a transator device for your meet ups 😁👍
I am half Japanese, I guess for my parents it was a different time, they met in 1946 had to wait until 1948 for government to change the laws. I guess my mother couldn't resist blue eyes and blonde hair and my fell in love with Japanese charm and beauty. It was hard for them the Marine Corp didn't allow for marriage and a relationship a Japanese, once every year they would ship him back to the US only to volunteer for the occupation force and be back in Japan two weeks later, with my mother. Funny thing for me my mother wanted me to marry a Japanese and I was stationed in Japan for three years, I wasn't Japanese enough they would tell me, so it never happened. On the other hand I wasn't white enough for women here, I got all the stereotypes about Asian males.
Man , sorry to hear that . These are just dumb young people stereotypes , I think when you get a little older and women get a little wiser that won't matter.
These questions are getting old and pointless lmao it would have been intriguing to see asian girls confessing their need to marry foreigners 20 years ago, now it's just stupid and trivial
With Japan dying, I'm sure their attitudes about non-Japanese will change someday or they better start speaking Chinese.
But it’s still relevant to a lot of ppl who are interested in Japanese people/culture. It’s 2024 but sadly ppl still have to be careful and think before jumping to someone outside their race
Absolutely they will! Most of
My gaijin friends have Japanese wives. In many cases, it was about wanting to start a family and the women being unable to find Japanese men who felt the same way. So, they expanded their horizons and now have the family they wanted.
I think this is 4 or 5 video asian boss did about that. u guys need more contend
Japanese woman clearly joking: “Come and talk to me”
Weebs: *And I took that personally*
When I am visiting Japan, I can tell JP women are very interested in getting to know foreigners. And dating as well. At the end, nationality is not important, there r so many other factors.
In Japan people still keep to groups when forming relationships this means dating others around or in the groups, from high school, college or co-workers, friends. This is more prevalent than any other country even Korea, where they are just a little less group driven compared to Japan. It makes it less likely they meet people outside their social group. It's true they basically don't talk to strangers except in specific situations like nightlife even there, there's still a level of shyness.
In addition there is overall a more positive view of foreigners (from countries around the world) of European origin appearance in dating, work and social networking, there are historical and media reasons for this, that is not to say that some of the Japanese girls won't marry other foreigners, Chinese and Korean are the highest numbers though because they share a similar background. And k pop has changed things a little too for younger girls in terms of preference :).
One thing is when they talk about foreigners being kind I think they refer to the patriarchal structure of Japanese society where even a 16 year old boy adopts the same approach regardless of what you see in anime. In communication and consideration, in the West and other cultures we tend to form closer connections between men and women. Even a 16 year old boy won't show the same consideration for his girlfriend that we do. Hence the reason why most Japanese girls regardless of age will mention 'ladies first' when describing foreign males, esp westerners. They are really reflecting on how a society treats women which shows in personal relationships between a man and woman, that's their definition of kind as well as individual acts.
Unfortunately many of the girls don't have the real life experience of dating a foreigner, but you're right there are other foreign guys living in the Japan, including university students and company workers, who they don't form attachments with because of social and cultural pressure even though they have the opportunity. Also I think learning Japanese is good but English is also the language many countries use to form connections.
Idk what you talking about kid. I went to japan many times before corona and my japanese is not even that good, met so many people, made friends, its easy. All you have to do is NEVER MENTION ANIME or MANGA and you will be in the clear, learn things about the culture, a woman will give you the eyes roll if you talk about naruto, but talk about ishikawa sayuri and they will be interested about what you have to say lol.
@@leredditcommander8208 I think we are probably on different pages, I'm referencing the nuances of everyday Japanese society, culture and life as well as responding to a couple of comments here. I think you are talking about interacting with people there on a much more short term basis like visits or travel, but thanks for your input !
Although all of the people interviewed here were Japanese women, Japanese men actually marry foreigners at a higher rate than their female counterparts. Also, the point the women made about the daughter of her mum's friend who married a Frenchman with no personal boundaries, is not indicative of all foreigners and is a bit of an overgeneralization. Case by case.
This has to be the millionth video like this asking this question lol im not even gonna watch anymore haha
Lucky me 😂 who is not even living in Japan 😢. Dating online is a lot more difficult than it looks, especially when it comes to international dating.
I would like to ask if the video interview from people in Tokyo about the recent water release from the Fukushima plant will be still uploaded soon? I recall seeing a short video preview of it a few days ago, so I'm curious to inquire about it. Thank you.
私も福島原発の汚染水(実は処理水)について､Asian Bossとしての見解を聞きたい。実際､韓国や中国の原発が排出する廃水の汚染度のほうが福島よりずっと高い。自分の国の原発を棚に上げて､日本を批判する。これは外国の左派によく見られる傾向。意味のない反日扇動はやめて欲しい
@@お節介じい あなたの視点から見ると、Asian Bossは日本に関連する特定のトピックにおいて、ある種の偏見を持っていることに気付いています。そういった動画がアップロードされることは、公平ではないと感じますか？
正直言うと日本人は何も思ってない人が多いですよ。寿司屋で働いてる人でさえ処理水を放出されてることを知らない。外国がやけに騒いでるだけ
planet is dead in 50 years anyway who cares
@@お節介じい事故による汚染水だから危険なのです
There was a retired Us navy guy showing his family around Japan, he told me he dated a Japanese girl when he was based in Japan but her parents didnt want her to date a foreigner so they split up he went back home had a family about ten years after leaving Japan the ex japanese GF came looking for him - her personal life went no where because she listened to the parents, his did.
Fun fact 😏 While she saying that probably could never meet Blond with blue eyes in Japan, There actualy blond guy walked behind her😅😅😅
Well well, and who we have here 😂🎉
Wait what even I didn't catch that your sight is way 2 good
I was not expecting that a Japanese girl would have such a celebrity crush on Galen Erso 😂😂😂
women go for famous, wealthy and/or giga-chads & tyrones. the cultural issues are always secondary
I’m just here for that girl who also lives mads Mikkelson. I wanna be her friend.
As an ordinary South Korean man, I know it is a good thing that someone praises us, but it is a bit uncomfortable that the media and the Internet make an exaggerated fantasy about us. I often hear that Japanese women are girly and cute, but it seems that there are many men who misunderstand that they are submissive or passive. Well, It seems that people always want to find something better outside of their own!
When you are open for an international relationship then it's manadatory to learn each others language, if the relationship is serious. I think learning each others language & culture is in my eyes a way higher act of commitment than a marriage cause getting married is only a matter of hours but learning language & culture is a matter of decades.
its more like a stereotype, people tend to think good of the things they dont know about, and forget about reality. its should be person related instead nationality related
Good street interview.
when you marry a Japanese girl who likes foreigners you immediately get friends from different parts of the world who visit Japan
I was married to my husband for 26 years and was happily married till he passed away unexpectedly. Marriages are not easy regardless, but none of our issues were because he was American.
I’ve been friends with Japanese women since 2016, in Bangkok. We play tennis and hang out almost every weekend, having had multiple dinners and rendezvous at my place and at theirs.
Their age varies from 25 to 50. All of them are polite and kind. Some are too shy. Some of them speak English very well and some are, say, at a basic to intermediary level.
Specifically about this group of Japanese female friends, I. believe they are more open to relationships with foreigners because they are already living abroad and can communicate in English.
Had a romance with only one of them, who was my neighbor. It didn’t last too long mostly because after 4 or 5 dates she already wanted me to commit to a serious relationship and it was too soon for me. We are still friends with benefits, nonetheless.
All in all, Japan might be one of the best sources of wife material out there.
.....You didnt want to commit to a serious relationship but you stayed friends with benefits
The last girl has such a lovely, endearing personality. I hope she finds a good man who treats her the way she deserves to be treated.
Imagine marrying someone that you could only have basic, kindergarten conversations with. That would get old _quick._
3 years I could learn Japanese
@@joebidet2050 ok..but you'll communicate like a 6 year old
@@onsenguy at first
Slowly I'd learn
3 or 4 years I'm sure I'd be fluent
@@joebidet2050 that would be a _monumental_ effort. You really think you'll meet a woman worthy of that kind of time commitment?
@@onsenguy I have before y ahora habla castellano mejor que mi ingles
'I would as long as he's white'
Reminds me of that song; the ballad of john and yoko lol
I wish people would treat others for who they are not because of what they are. It does get annoying to hear things like oh you Japanese, hi-five! So what does that mean? If I wasn't Japanese, no hi-fives? If I was Chinese, will I get treated differently? I've had people wanting to be my friend just because my English is good and they didn't work out so well.
I'm Japanese, but I don't know a single person around me who wants to date a foreigner.
Kpop is popular these days, and Asians are becoming more and more popular in Japan.
Besides, Japanese people work long hours anyway, so people who can't do that don't tend to be well-liked.
Also, these days there are more and more foreigners in Japan who can't follow Japanese rules, which makes Japanese people love Japanese people even more.
lying in the first 2 words is nuts
I am already married, but I really hope the lady with the purple shirt finds a nice partner. She seems really enthusiastic about dating and wanting to be in a serious relationship, but her bubbly personality could be easily mistaken for being a little bit strange or over the top. I have met a few Japanese girls like this, and most of them are absolutely 100% normal once you get to know them. She'd make you feel like a king every day!
The girl who was looking to find someone this year was so positive and charming, I wish I could chat with her 😊 very nice video I have to Japan many times and I love how respectful and kind they are comparing to my country
If you want to learn Japanese all you need is 3 years of studying for 2 hours
I want to know why japanese people think dating and marriage are two totally separate things. For the most part, arent you dating to get married? If not, dating a foreigner, just to say, “I am going to marry a japanese in the end” is kind of time wasting?
Excellent interview. Very good questions and very insightful answers. All the women in this interview are amazing! Many thanks to them for expressing their thoughts on the topic in front of a camera. Based on this video I'd say Japanese men should feel extremely lucky and grateful about their women!
So much easier dating someone from the same culture. I'm English and even dating Americans and Aussis felt like a big cultural jump.
Also I feel like men wouldn’t be as honest, but I’m alway interested in hearing how men feel.
ESPECIALLY what I really want to know is how men feel about dating non Asian, non white women. But I wonder if they’d really be honest on film 🤔
Check out on the streets how many couples with white guy and black girl. You have your answer.
Probably if you know Ecco the dolphin you can have any race.
It all comes down to personal preference. Preference is not r*cism, which it sounds like you are trying to say.
6:50 French people they feel at home everywhere
Seems like everyone from any one country has stereotypes about people from other countries. Westerners think Japanese people are all polite and gentle, while the Japanese picture westerners as Avengers type superheroes
Thats what happens when there is not enough exposure to certain countries, Its normal. Was a lot more prevalent back when airplanes werent invented.
We are Avengers type superheroes, well on the east coast anyway 😎
@@fallansaint nah I’ve visited American walmarts and macca’s. You are not.
Sadly many who have no knowledge often generalize and stereotype everything without knowing anything. Japanese people are not all polite and gentle at all. I met some very rude and nasty ones. There are bad apples in every ethnicity.
If you are thinking about marrying a Japanese man and he has an older sister, I think you should give up on him fr! The woman is jealous because she thinks you stole her brother! TOXIC alerts 🚨🚨🚨
As a French I can easily see how there might have been a problem with the Japanese parents.
As a fellow Frenchy, I wish the interviewer had asked more details about what that French guy did. To be asked to leave the house, it must have been terrible. Perhaps, they got a bit too handsy with each other in front of the parents on in their room?
How bad can the french guy be that they had to asked him to leave. 🤔🤔🤔🤦🏻♂️
@@seferinoHe wanted the parents to smell his armpit
i married a compassionate loving loyal African/Japanese American who blessed me with 2 children.
I call him African because his heritage (Zulu) and he speaks both Zulu and Japanese.
If you're a gaijin watching, run! run!! run!!! Life for Japanese women before marriage isn't always the same after. May the force guide your steps!
What does that mean bruder
Japanese women tend to follow a cultural path in becoming more strict after marriage and then even more after having children. They emulate how their mothers and grandmothers were, and it can get pretty rough when they stick to a purely-traditional Japanese lifestyle....which they will do more often than not. If you truly want to be with a Japanese woman, you should look for Japanese girls who are willing to be more flexible with their cultural attitudes because the ones that aren't will never bend to your culture even a little, you'll bend to their's.
@darinlunderman8063
You went to them. They didn't come to you.
You should bend to their culture and not the other way around.
Never been with them 'cos it's gonna be a disgrace on my
ancestry & personality. These are just facts being stated. I can suggest a group for you to learn how those who are into them are being treated. Based on your statement about bending to their ways, you need to understand that no culture is superior to the other. Most of this gullible acceptance of culture ain't always built on truth. It's a means to an end due to the fact that it avails the spouse some form of exception and on average, usually not what you expect. You'll need to go through the usual route in handling your affairs. It's always about the gains. My culture isn't superior to yours and vice-versa. #peaceinandout#
where is the man, i only see a boy
I do feel a little discouraged after nothing it's mostly European Foreigners is the preference, (I am from Africa) BUT this will not bring me down, as these are only a few of the many Japanese Ladies. I am sure there are plenty out there that are much more open to other Countries, that aren't The US, or Europe.
The girl with sunglasses is expecting her partner to speak Japanese so he can get communicate with her parents, but I wonder if she would be willing to do the same for her partner.
😂😂😂that's not how things work... I might be wrong. Good point.
Enjoying thinking about something is very different from actually doing it. Most Japanese women would be too shy to even try speaking English with a foreigner even if they thought they were very handsome.
That girl that studied abroad in Australia was so expressive and bubbly... I think she'd probably get along more with foreigners than other Japanese people would.
To tell you the truth I was quite surprised by the answers. The Bubbly lady with the mask seems lovely. She will do well.
It's wild to me that in the age of technology, Japanese still have a naive child like view of how the world is outside Japan. Cleary a choice given this doesn't apply to people from many other homogenous countries nearly as much. Very boring honestly.
The only negative answer to marrying a foreigner coming from the lady who dated foreigner in the past is saying the real mentality of Japanese parents when faced with the prospect of an international marriage 😢 I’m Chinese married to a Japanese person, and can def confirm this
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hahaha 😂
I like how at 2:33 she says you can’t meet men with blonde hair in japan as a guy with blonde hair walks right behind her
Ask them if they'd rather marry a japanese or a foreigner..
This was the whole video lol. Did you even watch it?
@@sXsKidd Marrying and dating are two different things in japan. Some women want to experience being escorted by a foreigner or having sex with a foreigner. Marrying is a whole different thing.
Yes some of them answered that they're open to marrying a foreigner but what I wanted to know was if they prefer marrying foreigners.
@@sunen7129 well you can assume from their answers, that if you cant speak japanese or know how to act, know their culture it's probably a no. To much of a hassle
@@sXsKiddI Just Wanna See The Great Japanese Empire Come Back! What Happened? How and why. It's like they are trying to kill them off I don't get it I don't fuckin get it the Japanese needs to fuckin overthrow the government.
Have you seen the vids of individuals in Japan wanting to get rid of this ridiculous death work. Working like slaves and it's disgusting
I spent 3 years in Japan, and there are allot of good women but they never meet western requirements. The Japanese woman is very short, I am 6ft2 230, and twice retired, very wealthy and I need a woman who can assist me at shareholder meeting, at the country club, and a movie premier, at a charity event, and these women although pretty are simply too small, can not carry on a good conversation, and that impacts me as a man. The woman on my arm is a direct reflection of my judgement. The juice, is not worth the effort. Now Thailand/ Philippian well that is very different.
When they say foreigners, they mean Americans.
In Japan, there are good husbands and bad husbands.
The same happens in other countries, marrying a foreigner or a Japanese is not a guarantee of anything.
True. Just because they're Japanese it doesn't mean they will be good spouses.
Not so. One girl asked about forign men immediately thought of Korean men.
@@roberteischen4170 She's yet another victim of the K-wave
When I was in Japan, when I asked about foreign men, the absolute majority answered that they were Korean, followed by white Americans and Europeans.
No they don't.
Like Three of them used exemple with one half brits and half french , one french and one aussie , even one spoke about korean .
im mixed race, it seems weird to want to date a specific race of people
Japanese girls don’t like being approached cold. It has to develop naturally over time. Most of them don’t have that kind of situations in their lives. Men pursuing girls aggressively isn’t something that they respond to.
Best way to pull one is to hang out in a social circle and go on group dates. This is the best way to do it based on what I’ve read about personal accounts of American and British men dating Japanese women
@@jackandrews7878 exactly right! One night stands are uncommon. You really have to know the girl at least a little to get a desired result. And the girl that you do pull with one nights aggression aren’t the kind you want to have around. Don’t believe the porn….
maybe they dont like when you approach them cold. i've had no problems so far doing that. just need to be confident.
RIP to the last girls DMs. They are destroyed.
12:00 girl at the end of the video is *very* charming😸
A good catch ❤
Does she have an instagram ?