I think that those comments about the decision to not have kids should actually be seen as positive in that people are being exposed to the true side to parenthood that many people don’t talk about. It actually really HELPS those of us who are unsure or leaning away from having kids because it helps us make an informed decision. I think a lot of people only show the good which can then lead to people feeling unprepared for the hardships. I will speak for myself in that I’ve never viewed your motherhood content as negative, it’s just not a lifestyle that I want to have for me personally. I can tell you are happy but also stressed, as new parents are which is obviously the norm. Again, there is nothing wrong with that, but simply not my chosen path for the future - I’m excited to be that fun aunt instead. Different stoke for different folks!
I feel/think you are so correct in the way u have explained/expressed this sentiment. Clancy u r an amazing mother. It is clear and evident you luv being a mother and u r real in ur videos which, I think, why we all love 💕 watching u and ur videos !!!! Motherhood is for u for sure, but not everyone. Keep doing what u luv doing, it is an ABSOLUTE JOY to watch you!!
I think for us folks who don't have an inherent desire to be parents, watching any parental vlogs can serve as a reminder that if we do not already have a natural drive to raise kids, the tough and real day-to-day work that is involved would be overwhelming, frustrating, difficult, and challenging to the extent it would ultimately not be fulfilling. I don't think it's necessarily a negative indictment of you or any other parent sharing their life! It just showcases that amazing moms/parents like you have "the thing" that makes this difficult work all worth it.
No!!! I have watched your journey and got pregnant right after you gave birth, and I was sooooo happy I was watching you! Because you are real, you are true to yourself and to us! Thank you! ❤
I think people realizing they don’t want kids is a neutral outcome! it’s not everyone’s journey & I think most people who choose to become parents would have wanted a more honest representation of how it is going in. just keep doing you & don’t feel responsible for how people interpret things, you’re doing great ♥️
You’re just keeping it real Clancy 💗 I’m a mom of two girls, ages 7 and 3, and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It’s also the greatest thing I’ve ever done and my heart feels like it could just burst because I love them so much 🥹 Some days you’re crawling to get to bedtime and then after they go to sleep, you watch them sleep and wish you could just hold onto these little years forever 💗 it’s also true that the days are long but years are short. Feels like just yesterday I had my oldest and now she sits in front of younger kids reading books to them and I just wonder where my little baby went 🥲 You’re doing a great job! ❤️☺️
I think it’s important to be honest, a lot of people go into motherhood unprepared/with the wrong idea and it’s important to show a realistic perspective!
As someone who is one and done because I went into it blindsided, I think you have done a wonderful job portraying how beautiful and challenging motherhood can be. You are SHINING in this space despite it being so hard. I don’t think people seeing your videos and deciding against children is necessary a negative either. Thank you for being raw and vulnerable!
It’s obvious that this is the happiest you’ve ever been, which is amazing. At the same time, your life and happiness now revolve around kids, and a lot of people don’t want that to be their sole purpose.
@@ashleyrose2194 exactly!! I don’t want to be a mom but don’t think Clancy is anti motherhood at all. It’s just that we all want different things in life which is ok!!
As a mum of two and currently going through postpartum, your journey is very accurate and lovely to follow along with and it makes things less lonely. The first part of motherhood can suck a little bit tbh HOWEVER in my personal experience things get better and better ❤
As a first time mom myself, I’ve found your content extremely relatable and it makes me feel less alone in this journey. I appreciate you showing the real life things, the good and the bad. By far my most favorite creator that I’ve been watching for 6 years now!
I think it’s good that your honest and accurate portrayal of motherhood is helping people realize what’s right for them, be it motherhood or not. For some women motherhood is truly not a good fit and it can be a relief to let that societal pressure go and realize that it’s not for them.
I have mom friends who wish that someone had been honest with them about what it will actually be like. The good, the bad, the ugly. Even if it wouldn’t have swayed their decision, at least they would have felt better prepared and more “normal” when things didn’t look or feel perfect.
I don’t feel that way at all!!! As a woman who hasn’t had a baby yet but wants to soon, I feel you’re showing the best way in a very real way! I love your videos. Keep being you
I think it’s great that you are being so real!! Having a genuine perspective of what motherhood is actually like SHOULD make people consider whether or not they are ready for that phase of life. Not everyone is, and some never will be, and that is okay! Either way, your videos shine light on the reality of this decision, both the wonderful and the not so wonderful ❤
I don't have a kid, and wasn't/am not sure about having a one. But honestly seeing you go through early motherhood makes me want a kid more. I worry people glorify things a lot, so seeing people only talk about the good things makes me feel like I won't be able to do that or won't enjoy it. Seeing you enjoy it and be open about the challenges is wonderful for me.
Clancy, you show both the good and HARD parts of motherhood. People on the internet tend to romanticize motherhood and only show the cutesy parts, but you show the hard parts too. It’s reality! I appreciate you and your realness 💗
Being a nanny really showed me a glimpse of what motherhood is. Mind you, I was only with them 8 hours a day. I can only imagine what it’s like being an actual parent 😅 I love your videos!
As a mom of a 1 and 3 year old I completely relate to you 100% and I LOVE and appreciate all the realness. Hard times for sure, but wouldn’t change it for the world! The happiness and purpose motherhood brings outweighs the bad. Keep doing what you’re doing, love your videos! ❤
Clancy, I think your videos are perfect, real and honest. Motherhood is like you said, so wonderful, but it is so hard, but worth it. And yes, enjoy this phase of babyhood because it goes so quickly. I miss those years, I’m now old enough to have grand babies and am enjoying it as much as possible.
I just got my first order of AG1 and love it so far!! I appreciate your honest and raw journey with motherhood! I myself am a labor and delivery nurse and I am wanting children of my own in the next year or two really love seeing what a day in your life looks like. I don’t expect you to say it’s all sun shine and rainbows because it’s not and that’s the honest truth! I love how you worded that you’ve never been more happy in your life but you can be honest and say not every moment has been the best and that’s just what it is. You’re an amazing mom and I love seeing your journey! I know these videos will help me when I have my own❤
Babe! I’m 7 weeks and just found your pregnancy/pp content. It is a breath of FRESH air to see you going through it and embracing the challenges. I feel inspired/empowered. Esp when I see you still prioritizing nutrition/wellness in little ways while you’re babe is so little. I also am amazed at your quick recovery. I hear so many stories of women who have many months of recovery after tough deliveries. Even though we have little control over how things go, it’s refreshing to see someone have a challenging yet rewarding and beautiful journey. LOVE YOU!
I feel like you’re definitely showing the real and raw sides to motherhood, which is great! For me, someone who’s been on the fence about kids for a while and frequently leans towards no, I’ve found your videos helpful not because they make motherhood out to be totally miserable, but because I can truly see and tell how happy you are in this role, and when I try to put myself in your shoes, doing all the mom things, I don’t think I would enjoy it that much. I see it kind of like an informational interview - I’m watching your videos and learning about this motherhood role, and for me at least, something inside me is just going “nope, not for me!” So please don’t feel like you’re being too negative or anything. I think all perspectives on parenthood are important, positive or negative or on the fence.
I very much appreciate how real and honest you are. I was worried your content would change as I don’t have children and enjoy watching people who don’t. It is obvious you’re happy but still you and your life has changed and I’m enjoying watching still!
I don't plan on having kids (not because of your videos lol) it was never what I wanted, but I love how real you are with motherhood and showing everything that you are going through! You are doing great! Decker is so lucky to have you and Zac as parents!
I never comment on RUclips videos but I need to here. I am so grateful to have found your channel years ago and see what my life could maybe look like. It is so fresh to see through your eyes how you got married, how maternity is for you, even though is hard and raw. I am 27, I do not have kids yet and neither sure if I want them but seeing how your birth experience was, how the good and bad moments might look like for my future me, makes me wonder if I want that. I think you should be proud and happy of how you portrait things as people will be able to make decisions from a more real perspective. And I am grateful to you for that 🙏🏻
I definitely never want kids - but I do appreciate your honesty and realness with motherhood. I actually didn’t realize how intense it is to be a new mom. So while I don’t want this life for myself - I’m happy for you 🥰
Just paused the video to tell you that your realness is excatly what I love about you and your channel Clancy ❤ Becoming a mom is a big decision and it's really valuable to offer a realistic and nuanced portrayal of what it's really like!
My doctor recommended putting a little baby cereal in my son's milk to help with the spitting up and it immediately stopped the spit up... PS the laundry never stops but I look at it and am thankful to even have laundry and to be able to do it 💕
First time mom here, just here to say I appreciate the realness sooo much! My baby is only 5 weeks old and these videos are so relatable. Motherhood is hard, but it is so beautiful! Thanks for being you and sharing the real stuff. 😊
I love your videos Clancy. I have a 7 week old so it’s been fun following along with you on this new motherhood journey. I can relate to everything you’ve been talking about lately. And I agree, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been but it is also hard to manage my normal day to day stuff..we’ll figure it out!
Parenting is the most difficult thing I’ve ever experienced. It’s also the biggest blessing. Just so you know, every age has awesome experiences and challenges. You continue learning even as your child becomes an adult.
So well said- two things can be true at the same time. The hardest things are usually the things MOST worth doing! Our culture loves to take the easy way out, stay comfortable all the time and avoid challenges- in living that way though, you miss out on the most rewarding and wonderful things! So glad you shared the message of your happiness in motherhood!
Honestly, I love how real you are! I can relate SO much. My son is 9 but I had the same recovery as you and similar things when he was a baby. Spit up on clothes, up at night, my son would also only sleep on me and seeing your videos makes me miss that time so much and it makes me so grateful for everything you go through as a parent! Thank you and PLEASE keep them coming!
There is nothing wrong with people deciding not to have kids, frankly better for them to realize it isn't for them now rather than having a child and not being ready for it. Having a child is major responsibility and I know what it's like to have parents that aren't well suited for it. I'm 25 and I will probably have kids eventually, but it's not a decision to be made lightly. Don't take those comments as a negative thing!
If anything, showing your real and honest perspective on motherhood has made me feel more comfortable with the idea od being a mom. Its not all sunshine and roses but its great to see you handle it all with so much grace. And I also want to commend you for how you're approaching sharing Decker and keeping his privacy in mind. You're doing a great job, mama! 🩷
I’m about to become a mother in May, and I just need to say that I really appreciate your content. you know how to show the reality of it, but we can still see the love you have for him. so thank you clancy ❤
I love your vlogs, Im not currently a parent but I have watched you for years at this point and I admire you for ALWAYS showing the real side of things. From your years of reporting, to showing your new role as a mother, you have always shown the real side of things. You are authentic and a joy to watch, I hope you always keep your vlogs and showing your life because I'll always be a subscriber. 🥰 Thanks again and don't change! 💖
My son is 23 & he was my only one because it was so hard!! I appreciate your perspective on motherhood as it brings light to reality. I think you are relatable & showing anyone wanting to be a parent what life with a newborn is really like. I wish I had content like this back then because I felt so alone & isolated. Just watching makes me happy to know raising a human is hard & beautiful at the same time so thank you for allowing me to see a glimpse of your experience. You both are amazing (btw Zac saying the first 3 weeks was hell & he is correct)
I have fallen in love with your channel again since you became a mother. I watch every upload. I have two littles - a 3 year old + one that was born just a couple weeks before Decker. I LOVE your realism but you can tell you are absolutely in love with decker and it’s sooo sweet ❤
17:51 pausing the video to say, I’ve been on the fence about motherhood too, and if anything, seeing YOU do it makes me feel like I can too. We’ve been living a very similar life, a year or two off. I graduated college 2018, worked in news during college, got married 2020, bought a house, got a dog, etc. we have so much in common and I see myself in you. So when I see how you are knocking motherhood out of the park, it makes me feel like I can do it too! To be fair, people are going to make their life choices based on all kinds of things. They could literally walk past a penny, face down and be like, yep, that means I shouldn’t have kids. It’s all confirmation bias. Just keep doing you, Clancy! ❤
This is very much a reality of being a mom. You need a support system to help you with kiddos so that you can take a shower run an errand etc. You are sleep deprived and your life revolve around a little human. It is what it is .. on the flip side the amount of unconditional love you build with the baby is amazingly beautiful and through the struggles the beautiful moments are forever precious
Hey Clancy, I think you doing the rigth thing for keeping it real and I dont think comes off as "anti-motherhood" content. I just believe everyone watching it compares it with their own lifes and capacities. Based on that they decide. Being a mother and keeping up with everything that comes with it is not for everyone and should be well considered. Whats totally worth it for you could be just not possible for someone else or maybe they just don't want it. P.S. I really enjoy your videos! Greetings from Germany
The best things in life are worth the struggle. Nothing amazing comes easy. It takes hard work and selflessness being a mother and it is 100% worth it everyday
If something is simple as watching someone else’s video of being a new parent, decides for someone that they don’t want kids then truly I think that is the best decision for them. If one persons video “solidifies” one of most life altering decisions, then it shows where their heart really lies with it and maybe they just needed the validation of feeling the way they do 🙏🏼🙏🏼 for years and years before I became a mom I would watch people with new babies the good and the bad and I would always think “that looks so hard and I am so scared, but I cannot wait to have my own baby in my arms cause I know it’ll be worth it” And nobody’s videos ever swayed me a single percentage. Please don’t let comments like that get to you or leave you feeling any sort of responsibility 🙏🏼🩷
Your journey is your own. My two children were completely different as babies. My oldest started sleeping through the night at 3 weeks old and my youngest cried all night. No one should think that your journey is determining their future on motherhood. Keep being realistic about your life as a parent. You’re doing a fantastic job ❤
I don’t feel that at all from your videos. But that might be because I have a baby. No one can explain the happiness a baby brings until they have one. They just hear the day to day things with having a baby which to people without kids will sounds difficult. It’s an incomprehensible love until you experience it❤
i’m not a mom i’m nearly 27 and nowhere near ready for kids. but your content and how happy you have been with your happy little family makes me want nothing more than to have my own right now!
I very much appreciate your real and honest videos as a new mom. I am too a new mom and find your videos very relatable!! My son is 9 and a half months old and before we started solids he was a ‘happy spitter’ and it’s normal and I swear I was doing laundry every day. Btw my son is in the 94th percentile for weight. Thank you again for your raw real videos, makes me feel not alone!
I can’t believe people would say that! 🤣🤣 Well then I guess it’s a good thing bc it’s so much harder at times than you’ve showed. If they can’t handle that then they will never survive the teenage years! Trust me, I’m a mom of 3 and they are all 16 and older. So don’t take it as a bad thing, they just aren’t meant to be a parent. I think everyone should start out with a puppy. If they can’t handle the puppy then it’s prob not a good idea. Parenthood is full of the best times, the hardest times but omg is it so worth it. ❤ Clancy, I appreciate you showing the real! And not grabbing a camera every time something personal and loving is happening. You really enjoy those moments and so many people don’t do that bc they are too obsessed with getting content. You’re doing great! Watching you as a mother has been a wonderful change to see. ❤
Clancy you are doing a great job you and Zac I'm a mom of a 16 year old girl and a 13 year old boy when they were little it was a amazing time for me as a parent but there were challenges that came with being a mom it gets better and better each day. Your videos are real I enjoy them so much keep up the great work. Decker is so precious!
I don’t see anything wrong with your videos Clancy at all! You’re showing real life with a baby❣️ there are different stages to it for sure❣️the beginning is hard adjusting getting to know your baby. You’re doing an excellent job! Always know that❣️🥰❤️❣️
I’m a new mom! Had my baby boy on 9/20 and your videos have been very comforting for me. I feel like I’m truly on the ride with you and I don’t have a lot of friends with babies. It’s also such a beautiful experience; as someone who did not ~dream of motherhood, it’s magical being a mom.❤ Thank you for sharing, and for sharing tastefully without over exposing your precious little one.
Hi Clancy, I really appreciate your videos. I just had a baby six weeks ago and I really like seeing the relatable content. I think you are correct in saying that people may not know what to expect and find it shocking how hard taking care of a newborn can be if they have never done it. So much is so overwhelming in the beginning. Not to say it isn’t surprising but you don’t know how it will impact your day to day until you have a baby yourself! Keep up the videos just as you have been!
Clancy, you are doing a fantastic job of portraying your authentic experience as a new mom. It is obvious that you are enjoying this time in your life, even if it isn’t all sunshine and rainbows 24/7. I would agree that you are being real, even if you aren’t showing things at their most extreme (good and bad). My feeling is that those that have based their own decisions on not becoming parents on your content, didn’t want it all that bad. And that is 100% ok. Better for those people to be aware of the challenges and realize their own limitations. It is not your job to sell people on becoming parents. One thing they should note however is that infancy is a season and things are constantly changing. What you are facing now will be different a month from now or a year from now. New challenges will replace former ones. If people aren’t up for that, it is better for them to realize it before it is too late. So, either way, your content is providing a good service and you should feel great about that. ❤
I think you are doing a great job as portraying what motherhood is like. It is hard but it’s the best type of hard! I have a 16 month old and yes there are many hard times but nothing beats when they walk for the first time, smile, laugh ect. It’s hard to understand the love you have for your own child until you have your own. Love your vlogs!
Becoming a mom (specifically postpartum and nursing struggles) were literally some of the hardest moments of my life. But simultaneously becoming a mom has also been one of the best things and greatest experiences as well. Both feelings and experiences can exist in the same realm. I think its important that you share the real experiences- good and bad! I think we get so used to seeing peoples “highlight reels” on insta where everything looks perfect and amazing, when in reality there are also equally hard moments too.
Please keep posting the real stuff!! I’m a new mom too and it helps SO much to relate to your videos!! I look forward to your vlogs so much and they make me feel much less alone and remind me to be so grateful for this season of life even through the hard moments! 😊
Being a mom is the greatest joy and the greatest challenge of my life. The joys and challenge change with every new phase of life. I felt a lot of relief when my kids could just speak "hungry, thirsty, tired, sick" and I didn't have to guess.
I don't want kids, both watching you before and after you having a kid, but I still enjoy watching your content because you're awesome! I do appreciate you not including when he's screaming or crying because some RUclipsrs include that and I usually listen with headphones so it literally hurts my ears LOL
I'm not a parent but I am a teacher and everything under the sun has been on my clothes. Clancy, I love how real and honest you are about your life and motherhood.
I had a baby girl a few months before you (she’s 6 months now) and your videos have been so fun for me to watch and see another perspective of motherhood! Keep being your authentic self, that’s what we’re all here for!
Laundry: don't fold! 😂 Also it sounds counterintuitive but what helped me most was when I only had like 8 onesies total that I was using. It seemed like it wouldn't be enough especially my boy had severe reflux the first few months that made it impossible for him to not spit up what seemed like 80% of his milk 😢 BUT I was soooo tired of the laundry, it was piling up finally I picked 8 onesies or out fits and took everything else out of his drawer. I would wash those 8 every night (along with cloths and bibs ECT.. but I had one drawer for outfits so I'd just throw them in the next morning one side for tops one side for bottoms middle for undershirts no folding and nothing else in the drawer to look through. His other drawer had half diapers half cloths (we didn't use baby wipes until he was eating solids and then only for poop so we used cloths for each diaper change) the third drawer had bibs and spit up cloths. Nothing to fold I'd just throw the laundry in at night, in the morning grab it all and throw them in their respective drawers 😊
No your a new mom and you are showing the real raw side of motherhood. I love your videos as a mom of now almost adult children. I was the same way. Laundry out the wazoo, spit up shirts on all day until you look in a mirror, showers whenever you can that’s new parenthood. Savor every second it goes by so fast. But don’t worry if you think this stage is your favorite, just wait until Decker gets into the next one. It gets so much sweeter. Also, Decker needs a sibling…one day maybe. 😊
I think you are doing nothing wrong. I think more and more people are already on the fence about having kids so seeing a DITL vlog just helps them confirm their decision and that’s ok. 😊 We are all called to do different things. ❤
*i don’t feel that way by any means from your videos. you’re literally one of the only creators who shows the most raw + realistic + authentic moments of motherhood + I think it encapsulates motherhood in the best way over anyone else’s videos i watch. your videos definitely are helping prepare new mothers too because from anybody else’s social media, it’s all sunshine and rainbows, when in reality that’s not what motherhood always is. you’re doing amazing mama. keep doing what you’re doing, you’re killing it* 🩵
You are a natural mother. People are just over-exposed to an aesthetic ideal online that is not realistic and inauthentic. But this is your life to live as you want and those comments are clearly designed to get a reaction. You are clearly the happiest you have ever been and this life suits you. It's clear how protective you are of Decker and how much you protect those private moments you have with him.
Mama of 2 (4 weeks & nearly 3y) - currently not managing my laundry at all as my washer died - my absolute angel mother in law is currently doing all our laundry for us. I’m not sure I’m ready for a new machine being delivered tomorrow 😂
You ALWAYS say how much you love being a mom, how much you love Decker, how you wouldn't have life any other way.. if someone is deciding not to have a baby by seeing how much work a baby is, then they really shouldn't have a baby hehe you're showing things how they are, being a mom means sacrificing time, rest, etc... and for us that choose that route, it is the most beautiful route EVER, even if it's hard. It won't be for everyone and that's totally okay, but you are definitely not making motherhood sound "bad" at all! You talk about it with love, realness and we are loving to follow along ❤
Honestly your videos have made me think I actually WANT kids!! I was always so against it but after watching you go through it made me change my mind a little. motherhood is challenging but also the best reward and I can see that through you. No one claims it’s easy! I love just HOW real you are!
I found the time between your travels and Decker that your videos became less relatable for someone reason. Yet now as only a mother to cats, I'm hooked back in 😅 this feels like your euthenic self and I'm so here for it! ❤
Honestly thank you for sharing this side. So many influencers make it all rainbows and unicorns and that is false advertising. Thank goodness you’re selling the truth and women are able to make a better decision not based on false expectations. Honestly it is a shock to the system and no one ever talks about. When I became a mom I felt like everyone around me lied to me. No one told me about the hard parts until after. I always thought what the heck, why do they tell me this now. I felt betrayed. I always tell others the best way I can explain it is that I do not like being a mom part of me hates it but i LOVE being mom to my two kids. So again, thank you for being true.
It’s crazy to me that people are even saying that! Im not a mom and not sure if I ever will be- I’ve been watching since your reporting days and when you became a mom I was like I wonder how your videos/vlogs are gonna transition- since I can’t really relate as not being a new parent, and truthfully I’ve still loved them so much! It’s been so fun to watch this transition for you and you’re still the same outgoing, bubbly, entertaining person to watch! I say keep doing what you’re doing ❤❤❤
Oh my word. You are showing the true honesty of motherhood. It is hard. It is beautiful. It is fun. It is dirty. But so so worth it.
You mean "true UNhonesty"?
I think that those comments about the decision to not have kids should actually be seen as positive in that people are being exposed to the true side to parenthood that many people don’t talk about. It actually really HELPS those of us who are unsure or leaning away from having kids because it helps us make an informed decision. I think a lot of people only show the good which can then lead to people feeling unprepared for the hardships. I will speak for myself in that I’ve never viewed your motherhood content as negative, it’s just not a lifestyle that I want to have for me personally. I can tell you are happy but also stressed, as new parents are which is obviously the norm. Again, there is nothing wrong with that, but simply not my chosen path for the future - I’m excited to be that fun aunt instead. Different stoke for different folks!
I feel/think you are so correct in the way u have explained/expressed this sentiment. Clancy u r an amazing mother. It is clear and evident you luv being a mother and u r real in ur videos which, I think, why we all love 💕 watching u and ur videos !!!! Motherhood is for u for sure, but not everyone. Keep doing what u luv doing, it is an ABSOLUTE JOY to watch you!!
I think for us folks who don't have an inherent desire to be parents, watching any parental vlogs can serve as a reminder that if we do not already have a natural drive to raise kids, the tough and real day-to-day work that is involved would be overwhelming, frustrating, difficult, and challenging to the extent it would ultimately not be fulfilling. I don't think it's necessarily a negative indictment of you or any other parent sharing their life! It just showcases that amazing moms/parents like you have "the thing" that makes this difficult work all worth it.
No!!! I have watched your journey and got pregnant right after you gave birth, and I was sooooo happy I was watching you! Because you are real, you are true to yourself and to us! Thank you! ❤
Aww congratulations on your pregnancy!!! ❤️
@@ClancyBurkeXThank you so much ❤❤❤
I think people realizing they don’t want kids is a neutral outcome! it’s not everyone’s journey & I think most people who choose to become parents would have wanted a more honest representation of how it is going in. just keep doing you & don’t feel responsible for how people interpret things, you’re doing great ♥️
You’re just keeping it real Clancy 💗 I’m a mom of two girls, ages 7 and 3, and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done. It’s also the greatest thing I’ve ever done and my heart feels like it could just burst because I love them so much 🥹 Some days you’re crawling to get to bedtime and then after they go to sleep, you watch them sleep and wish you could just hold onto these little years forever 💗 it’s also true that the days are long but years are short. Feels like just yesterday I had my oldest and now she sits in front of younger kids reading books to them and I just wonder where my little baby went 🥲
You’re doing a great job! ❤️☺️
I think it’s important to be honest, a lot of people go into motherhood unprepared/with the wrong idea and it’s important to show a realistic perspective!
As someone who is one and done because I went into it blindsided, I think you have done a wonderful job portraying how beautiful and challenging motherhood can be. You are SHINING in this space despite it being so hard. I don’t think people seeing your videos and deciding against children is necessary a negative either. Thank you for being raw and vulnerable!
It’s obvious that this is the happiest you’ve ever been, which is amazing. At the same time, your life and happiness now revolve around kids, and a lot of people don’t want that to be their sole purpose.
@@ashleyrose2194 exactly!! I don’t want to be a mom but don’t think Clancy is anti motherhood at all. It’s just that we all want different things in life which is ok!!
As a mum of two and currently going through postpartum, your journey is very accurate and lovely to follow along with and it makes things less lonely. The first part of motherhood can suck a little bit tbh HOWEVER in my personal experience things get better and better ❤
As a first time mom myself, I’ve found your content extremely relatable and it makes me feel less alone in this journey. I appreciate you showing the real life things, the good and the bad. By far my most favorite creator that I’ve been watching for 6 years now!
I love you being honest, that’s one reason I started to watch your vlogs! Keep your head up Clancy and keep making the content that makes you happy!!
I think it’s good that your honest and accurate portrayal of motherhood is helping people realize what’s right for them, be it motherhood or not. For some women motherhood is truly not a good fit and it can be a relief to let that societal pressure go and realize that it’s not for them.
I have mom friends who wish that someone had been honest with them about what it will actually be like. The good, the bad, the ugly. Even if it wouldn’t have swayed their decision, at least they would have felt better prepared and more “normal” when things didn’t look or feel perfect.
Overthinking takes the joy out of life. Enjoy the moment. ❤
I don’t feel that way at all!!! As a woman who hasn’t had a baby yet but wants to soon, I feel you’re showing the best way in a very real way! I love your videos. Keep being you
I think it’s great that you are being so real!! Having a genuine perspective of what motherhood is actually like SHOULD make people consider whether or not they are ready for that phase of life. Not everyone is, and some never will be, and that is okay! Either way, your videos shine light on the reality of this decision, both the wonderful and the not so wonderful ❤
I don't have a kid, and wasn't/am not sure about having a one. But honestly seeing you go through early motherhood makes me want a kid more. I worry people glorify things a lot, so seeing people only talk about the good things makes me feel like I won't be able to do that or won't enjoy it. Seeing you enjoy it and be open about the challenges is wonderful for me.
I love your videos and love your honesty about motherhood! It helps others be more prepared for it
Clancy, you show both the good and HARD parts of motherhood. People on the internet tend to romanticize motherhood and only show the cutesy parts, but you show the hard parts too. It’s reality! I appreciate you and your realness 💗
Being a nanny really showed me a glimpse of what motherhood is. Mind you, I was only with them 8 hours a day. I can only imagine what it’s like being an actual parent 😅 I love your videos!
As a mom of a 1 and 3 year old I completely relate to you 100% and I LOVE and appreciate all the realness. Hard times for sure, but wouldn’t change it for the world! The happiness and purpose motherhood brings outweighs the bad. Keep doing what you’re doing, love your videos! ❤
Clancy, I think your videos are perfect, real and honest. Motherhood is like you said, so wonderful, but it is so hard, but worth it. And yes, enjoy this phase of babyhood because it goes so quickly. I miss those years, I’m now old enough to have grand babies and am enjoying it as much as possible.
I just got my first order of AG1 and love it so far!! I appreciate your honest and raw journey with motherhood! I myself am a labor and delivery nurse and I am wanting children of my own in the next year or two really love seeing what a day in your life looks like. I don’t expect you to say it’s all sun shine and rainbows because it’s not and that’s the honest truth! I love how you worded that you’ve never been more happy in your life but you can be honest and say not every moment has been the best and that’s just what it is. You’re an amazing mom and I love seeing your journey! I know these videos will help me when I have my own❤
I enjoy the realness of you vlogs .. this is real life.. thank you for being you !! ❤
Babe! I’m 7 weeks and just found your pregnancy/pp content. It is a breath of FRESH air to see you going through it and embracing the challenges. I feel inspired/empowered. Esp when I see you still prioritizing nutrition/wellness in little ways while you’re babe is so little. I also am amazed at your quick recovery. I hear so many stories of women who have many months of recovery after tough deliveries. Even though we have little control over how things go, it’s refreshing to see someone have a challenging yet rewarding and beautiful journey. LOVE YOU!
I feel like you’re definitely showing the real and raw sides to motherhood, which is great! For me, someone who’s been on the fence about kids for a while and frequently leans towards no, I’ve found your videos helpful not because they make motherhood out to be totally miserable, but because I can truly see and tell how happy you are in this role, and when I try to put myself in your shoes, doing all the mom things, I don’t think I would enjoy it that much.
I see it kind of like an informational interview - I’m watching your videos and learning about this motherhood role, and for me at least, something inside me is just going “nope, not for me!” So please don’t feel like you’re being too negative or anything. I think all perspectives on parenthood are important, positive or negative or on the fence.
I very much appreciate how real and honest you are. I was worried your content would change as I don’t have children and enjoy watching people who don’t. It is obvious you’re happy but still you and your life has changed and I’m enjoying watching still!
Love your realness and authenticity!
I don't plan on having kids (not because of your videos lol) it was never what I wanted, but I love how real you are with motherhood and showing everything that you are going through! You are doing great! Decker is so lucky to have you and Zac as parents!
I never comment on RUclips videos but I need to here. I am so grateful to have found your channel years ago and see what my life could maybe look like. It is so fresh to see through your eyes how you got married, how maternity is for you, even though is hard and raw. I am 27, I do not have kids yet and neither sure if I want them but seeing how your birth experience was, how the good and bad moments might look like for my future me, makes me wonder if I want that. I think you should be proud and happy of how you portrait things as people will be able to make decisions from a more real perspective. And I am grateful to you for that 🙏🏻
Dasher did look noble. I love how much you love your family.❤
I definitely never want kids - but I do appreciate your honesty and realness with motherhood. I actually didn’t realize how intense it is to be a new mom. So while I don’t want this life for myself - I’m happy for you 🥰
Just paused the video to tell you that your realness is excatly what I love about you and your channel Clancy ❤ Becoming a mom is a big decision and it's really valuable to offer a realistic and nuanced portrayal of what it's really like!
I find it so cute that Zac calls you dear all the time, heartwarming
You and Zak are rocking it, keep going.
My doctor recommended putting a little baby cereal in my son's milk to help with the spitting up and it immediately stopped the spit up... PS the laundry never stops but I look at it and am thankful to even have laundry and to be able to do it 💕
First time mom here, just here to say I appreciate the realness sooo much! My baby is only 5 weeks old and these videos are so relatable. Motherhood is hard, but it is so beautiful! Thanks for being you and sharing the real stuff. 😊
I love your videos Clancy. I have a 7 week old so it’s been fun following along with you on this new motherhood journey. I can relate to everything you’ve been talking about lately. And I agree, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been but it is also hard to manage my normal day to day stuff..we’ll figure it out!
I love your vlogs!!! You do an amazing job keeping it real and I think it’s been a perfect balance of showing the realness/sweetness when you can ❤❤
Parenting is the most difficult thing I’ve ever experienced. It’s also the biggest blessing. Just so you know, every age has awesome experiences and challenges. You continue learning even as your child becomes an adult.
So well said- two things can be true at the same time. The hardest things are usually the things MOST worth doing! Our culture loves to take the easy way out, stay comfortable all the time and avoid challenges- in living that way though, you miss out on the most rewarding and wonderful things! So glad you shared the message of your happiness in motherhood!
So true. What a great comment!
I love your your true and honest videos. Motherhood is so rewarding yet so hard!
Honestly, I love how real you are! I can relate SO much. My son is 9 but I had the same recovery as you and similar things when he was a baby. Spit up on clothes, up at night, my son would also only sleep on me and seeing your videos makes me miss that time so much and it makes me so grateful for everything you go through as a parent! Thank you and PLEASE keep them coming!
There is nothing wrong with people deciding not to have kids, frankly better for them to realize it isn't for them now rather than having a child and not being ready for it. Having a child is major responsibility and I know what it's like to have parents that aren't well suited for it. I'm 25 and I will probably have kids eventually, but it's not a decision to be made lightly. Don't take those comments as a negative thing!
If anything, showing your real and honest perspective on motherhood has made me feel more comfortable with the idea od being a mom. Its not all sunshine and roses but its great to see you handle it all with so much grace. And I also want to commend you for how you're approaching sharing Decker and keeping his privacy in mind. You're doing a great job, mama! 🩷
At the end of the day it is the hardest job but the most rewarding. You’re real about it and that’s ok. Don’t make those people make u feel bad.
I’m about to become a mother in May, and I just need to say that I really appreciate your content. you know how to show the reality of it, but we can still see the love you have for him. so thank you clancy ❤
I love your vlogs, Im not currently a parent but I have watched you for years at this point and I admire you for ALWAYS showing the real side of things. From your years of reporting, to showing your new role as a mother, you have always shown the real side of things. You are authentic and a joy to watch, I hope you always keep your vlogs and showing your life because I'll always be a subscriber. 🥰 Thanks again and don't change! 💖
My son is 23 & he was my only one because it was so hard!! I appreciate your perspective on motherhood as it brings light to reality. I think you are relatable & showing anyone wanting to be a parent what life with a newborn is really like. I wish I had content like this back then because I felt so alone & isolated. Just watching makes me happy to know raising a human is hard & beautiful at the same time so thank you for allowing me to see a glimpse of your experience. You both are amazing (btw Zac saying the first 3 weeks was hell & he is correct)
I love your videos, I don't watch alot of other people's videos but love yours!! Never miss love seeing you an Zac grow in parenthood.
I am obsessed with those Aloha bars!! THE best! I’ve been trying to get my friends/fams hooked on em
I have fallen in love with your channel again since you became a mother. I watch every upload. I have two littles - a 3 year old + one that was born just a couple weeks before Decker. I LOVE your realism but you can tell you are absolutely in love with decker and it’s sooo sweet ❤
I am so thankful for your videos. I am a few years out from having kids, but your videos give me encouragement for that next phase of my life.
17:51 pausing the video to say, I’ve been on the fence about motherhood too, and if anything, seeing YOU do it makes me feel like I can too. We’ve been living a very similar life, a year or two off. I graduated college 2018, worked in news during college, got married 2020, bought a house, got a dog, etc. we have so much in common and I see myself in you. So when I see how you are knocking motherhood out of the park, it makes me feel like I can do it too! To be fair, people are going to make their life choices based on all kinds of things. They could literally walk past a penny, face down and be like, yep, that means I shouldn’t have kids. It’s all confirmation bias. Just keep doing you, Clancy! ❤
This is very much a reality of being a mom. You need a support system to help you with kiddos so that you can take a shower run an errand etc. You are sleep deprived and your life revolve around a little human. It is what it is .. on the flip side the amount of unconditional love you build with the baby is amazingly beautiful and through the struggles the beautiful moments are forever precious
Hey Clancy, I think you doing the rigth thing for keeping it real and I dont think comes off as "anti-motherhood" content. I just believe everyone watching it compares it with their own lifes and capacities. Based on that they decide. Being a mother and keeping up with everything that comes with it is not for everyone and should be well considered. Whats totally worth it for you could be just not possible for someone else or maybe they just don't want it. P.S. I really enjoy your videos! Greetings from Germany
The best things in life are worth the struggle. Nothing amazing comes easy. It takes hard work and selflessness being a mother and it is 100% worth it everyday
When I get notification from Clancy RUclips Channel suddenly graceful smile comes on my face.😀💖💖 We All Love You
If something is simple as watching someone else’s video of being a new parent, decides for someone that they don’t want kids then truly I think that is the best decision for them. If one persons video “solidifies” one of most life altering decisions, then it shows where their heart really lies with it and maybe they just needed the validation of feeling the way they do 🙏🏼🙏🏼 for years and years before I became a mom I would watch people with new babies the good and the bad and I would always think “that looks so hard and I am so scared, but I cannot wait to have my own baby in my arms cause I know it’ll be worth it” And nobody’s videos ever swayed me a single percentage. Please don’t let comments like that get to you or leave you feeling any sort of responsibility 🙏🏼🩷
Your journey is your own. My two children were completely different as babies. My oldest started sleeping through the night at 3 weeks old and my youngest cried all night. No one should think that your journey is determining their future on motherhood. Keep being realistic about your life as a parent. You’re doing a fantastic job ❤
I don’t feel that at all from your videos. But that might be because I have a baby. No one can explain the happiness a baby brings until they have one. They just hear the day to day things with having a baby which to people without kids will sounds difficult. It’s an incomprehensible love until you experience it❤
Yesss! ❤️ the best thing that’s ever happened to me, despite some of the harder moments!
i’m not a mom i’m nearly 27 and nowhere near ready for kids. but your content and how happy you have been with your happy little family makes me want nothing more than to have my own right now!
yuka is such a hidden gem!! i love scanning my skin/hair care hahaha
I very much appreciate your real and honest videos as a new mom. I am too a new mom and find your videos very relatable!! My son is 9 and a half months old and before we started solids he was a ‘happy spitter’ and it’s normal and I swear I was doing laundry every day. Btw my son is in the 94th percentile for weight. Thank you again for your raw real videos, makes me feel not alone!
I glad you keep it real. Much love Clancy. ❤❤❄
I love watching your videos! My daughter is 3 now and it takes me back to those sweet baby moments that were challenging but so cherished 🩷
I can’t believe people would say that! 🤣🤣 Well then I guess it’s a good thing bc it’s so much harder at times than you’ve showed. If they can’t handle that then they will never survive the teenage years! Trust me, I’m a mom of 3 and they are all 16 and older. So don’t take it as a bad thing, they just aren’t meant to be a parent. I think everyone should start out with a puppy. If they can’t handle the puppy then it’s prob not a good idea. Parenthood is full of the best times, the hardest times but omg is it so worth it. ❤ Clancy, I appreciate you showing the real! And not grabbing a camera every time something personal and loving is happening. You really enjoy those moments and so many people don’t do that bc they are too obsessed with getting content. You’re doing great! Watching you as a mother has been a wonderful change to see. ❤
I love that you are showing your experience as a new mom! I’m due March 5th and it’s so comforting watching your story ♥️♥️
Clancy you are doing a great job you and Zac I'm a mom of a 16 year old girl and a 13 year old boy when they were little it was a amazing time for me as a parent but there were challenges that came with being a mom it gets better and better each day. Your videos are real I enjoy them so much keep up the great work. Decker is so precious!
I don’t see anything wrong with your videos Clancy at all! You’re showing real life with a baby❣️ there are different stages to it for sure❣️the beginning is hard adjusting getting to know your baby. You’re doing an excellent job! Always know that❣️🥰❤️❣️
I’m a new mom! Had my baby boy on 9/20 and your videos have been very comforting for me. I feel like I’m truly on the ride with you and I don’t have a lot of friends with babies.
It’s also such a beautiful experience; as someone who did not ~dream of motherhood, it’s magical being a mom.❤
Thank you for sharing, and for sharing tastefully without over exposing your precious little one.
Ur doing a great job I find this positive
Hi Clancy, I really appreciate your videos. I just had a baby six weeks ago and I really like seeing the relatable content. I think you are correct in saying that people may not know what to expect and find it shocking how hard taking care of a newborn can be if they have never done it. So much is so overwhelming in the beginning. Not to say it isn’t surprising but you don’t know how it will impact your day to day until you have a baby yourself! Keep up the videos just as you have been!
Clancy, you are doing a fantastic job of portraying your authentic experience as a new mom. It is obvious that you are enjoying this time in your life, even if it isn’t all sunshine and rainbows 24/7. I would agree that you are being real, even if you aren’t showing things at their most extreme (good and bad). My feeling is that those that have based their own decisions on not becoming parents on your content, didn’t want it all that bad. And that is 100% ok. Better for those people to be aware of the challenges and realize their own limitations. It is not your job to sell people on becoming parents. One thing they should note however is that infancy is a season and things are constantly changing. What you are facing now will be different a month from now or a year from now. New challenges will replace former ones. If people aren’t up for that, it is better for them to realize it before it is too late. So, either way, your content is providing a good service and you should feel great about that. ❤
I think you are doing a great job as portraying what motherhood is like. It is hard but it’s the best type of hard! I have a 16 month old and yes there are many hard times but nothing beats when they walk for the first time, smile, laugh ect. It’s hard to understand the love you have for your own child until you have your own. Love your vlogs!
Keep being you!! Authentic
Becoming a mom (specifically postpartum and nursing struggles) were literally some of the hardest moments of my life. But simultaneously becoming a mom has also been one of the best things and greatest experiences as well. Both feelings and experiences can exist in the same realm. I think its important that you share the real experiences- good and bad! I think we get so used to seeing peoples “highlight reels” on insta where everything looks perfect and amazing, when in reality there are also equally hard moments too.
Please keep posting the real stuff!! I’m a new mom too and it helps SO much to relate to your videos!! I look forward to your vlogs so much and they make me feel much less alone and remind me to be so grateful for this season of life even through the hard moments! 😊
15:48 omg this brought me BACK😭
You are doing great 👍 stay true to what feels right to you and your family ❤
Being a mom is the greatest joy and the greatest challenge of my life. The joys and challenge change with every new phase of life. I felt a lot of relief when my kids could just speak "hungry, thirsty, tired, sick" and I didn't have to guess.
Hi, Clancy and Happy Wednesday!😊😊😊😊😊😎☀💙💙💙💙💙💙🌷💖💖💖💖💖💖⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐👍. Asher is so cute while he's relaxing on the floor 9:40 . Awwww!!😍😍😍😍😍😍
I don't want kids, both watching you before and after you having a kid, but I still enjoy watching your content because you're awesome! I do appreciate you not including when he's screaming or crying because some RUclipsrs include that and I usually listen with headphones so it literally hurts my ears LOL
I'm not a parent but I am a teacher and everything under the sun has been on my clothes. Clancy, I love how real and honest you are about your life and motherhood.
I had a baby girl a few months before you (she’s 6 months now) and your videos have been so fun for me to watch and see another perspective of motherhood! Keep being your authentic self, that’s what we’re all here for!
Laundry: don't fold! 😂 Also it sounds counterintuitive but what helped me most was when I only had like 8 onesies total that I was using. It seemed like it wouldn't be enough especially my boy had severe reflux the first few months that made it impossible for him to not spit up what seemed like 80% of his milk 😢
BUT I was soooo tired of the laundry, it was piling up finally I picked 8 onesies or out fits and took everything else out of his drawer. I would wash those 8 every night (along with cloths and bibs ECT.. but I had one drawer for outfits so I'd just throw them in the next morning one side for tops one side for bottoms middle for undershirts no folding and nothing else in the drawer to look through. His other drawer had half diapers half cloths (we didn't use baby wipes until he was eating solids and then only for poop so we used cloths for each diaper change) the third drawer had bibs and spit up cloths. Nothing to fold I'd just throw the laundry in at night, in the morning grab it all and throw them in their respective drawers 😊
Clancy: "there is no boss" Decker: "wanna bet?"
No your a new mom and you are showing the real raw side of motherhood. I love your videos as a mom of now almost adult children. I was the same way. Laundry out the wazoo, spit up shirts on all day until you look in a mirror, showers whenever you can that’s new parenthood. Savor every second it goes by so fast. But don’t worry if you think this stage is your favorite, just wait until Decker gets into the next one. It gets so much sweeter. Also, Decker needs a sibling…one day maybe. 😊
I think you are doing nothing wrong. I think more and more people are already on the fence about having kids so seeing a DITL vlog just helps them confirm their decision and that’s ok. 😊 We are all called to do different things. ❤
*i don’t feel that way by any means from your videos. you’re literally one of the only creators who shows the most raw + realistic + authentic moments of motherhood + I think it encapsulates motherhood in the best way over anyone else’s videos i watch. your videos definitely are helping prepare new mothers too because from anybody else’s social media, it’s all sunshine and rainbows, when in reality that’s not what motherhood always is. you’re doing amazing mama. keep doing what you’re doing, you’re killing it* 🩵
You are a natural mother. People are just over-exposed to an aesthetic ideal online that is not realistic and inauthentic. But this is your life to live as you want and those comments are clearly designed to get a reaction. You are clearly the happiest you have ever been and this life suits you. It's clear how protective you are of Decker and how much you protect those private moments you have with him.
Mama of 2 (4 weeks & nearly 3y) - currently not managing my laundry at all as my washer died - my absolute angel mother in law is currently doing all our laundry for us. I’m not sure I’m ready for a new machine being delivered tomorrow 😂
You ALWAYS say how much you love being a mom, how much you love Decker, how you wouldn't have life any other way.. if someone is deciding not to have a baby by seeing how much work a baby is, then they really shouldn't have a baby hehe you're showing things how they are, being a mom means sacrificing time, rest, etc... and for us that choose that route, it is the most beautiful route EVER, even if it's hard. It won't be for everyone and that's totally okay, but you are definitely not making motherhood sound "bad" at all! You talk about it with love, realness and we are loving to follow along ❤
Don’t listen to those individuals. Your videos are great 😊
Honestly your videos have made me think I actually WANT kids!! I was always so against it but after watching you go through it made me change my mind a little. motherhood is challenging but also the best reward and I can see that through you. No one claims it’s easy! I love just HOW real you are!
I found the time between your travels and Decker that your videos became less relatable for someone reason. Yet now as only a mother to cats, I'm hooked back in 😅 this feels like your euthenic self and I'm so here for it! ❤
Honestly thank you for sharing this side. So many influencers make it all rainbows and unicorns and that is false advertising. Thank goodness you’re selling the truth and women are able to make a better decision not based on false expectations. Honestly it is a shock to the system and no one ever talks about. When I became a mom I felt like everyone around me lied to me. No one told me about the hard parts until after. I always thought what the heck, why do they tell me this now. I felt betrayed. I always tell others the best way I can explain it is that I do not like being a mom part of me hates it but i LOVE being mom to my two kids. So again, thank you for being true.
It’s crazy to me that people are even saying that! Im not a mom and not sure if I ever will be- I’ve been watching since your reporting days and when you became a mom I was like I wonder how your videos/vlogs are gonna transition- since I can’t really relate as not being a new parent, and truthfully I’ve still loved them so much! It’s been so fun to watch this transition for you and you’re still the same outgoing, bubbly, entertaining person to watch! I say keep doing what you’re doing ❤❤❤
Doing great, love the real. I watch bc you’re real. Love them
I had two 9lbs babies. Never woke them up to eat and by 3 weeks, they slept through the night :)