I made this video on the suggestion of subscribers. Thanks friends for being an active community. I will definitely try to add more value through the videos. My only request is please stay in as much as possible, wear your masks properly, go get vaccinated when your turn comes.
I think, Every parents from Bangladesh 🇧🇩 should watch this. 😢 I'm writing this comment from a fake profile because I'm afraid of being judged. 😞 Anxious avoidant persons may can relate to my comment. 🤗 Thanks for reading my comment. I hope you are happy and will become successful. ❤
You are helping all of us, YOU ARE GOD Mrs Mayurika Das Biswas Ji Main to aapko jaanta nahin tha jab aap Sandeep sir ji ke podcast main I to dekha tha 🙏 Really thanks mam
God banna toh bahut badi responsibility hai...main toh bahut sari mistakes karti hun insaanon ki tarah, aur un mistakes se seekhne ka try bhi karti hun. I wish you all the best in life , stay safe. I will try to continue creating valuable content for you. Need your warm wishes and support.
Mam plz is pr video bnayea jo parents 4 -5 years k baccho pr hmeaha gussa krte h kbi pyar se nhi bolte to baccho pr kya effect pdta h syid apki video se un parents ko smj aa ske
Ma'm apni Bangali apnake dekhe monai hoi ne apni Bangali but eta jantam apner title bengal tital er Sathe match korche ekta confuse chilo but apner Hindi ta khub valo, really apner video gulo khub helpfull. mam ami kolkata er Barrackpore theke bolchi!❤️apni kolkata er kothai thaken?
Mam, i really appreciate your efforts and video but can you please try not to do a monologue kind of video it actually sink up the attention and learning consistency from the video also I feel your videos are too fast? otherwise, your content is absolutely amazing thanks a tonne for this channel
If anyone have childhood Truma if u face any fear surender to god whatever problem u facing and just relax take deep breath and believe your self everything will be okay
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Mera sath sexual abuse hua tha 13 -14 ke age mai in hostel by two guys and some of my friends also know about this abb mai 22 ka hu is trauma ko bhul hi nhi paa raha hu... suicidal thoughts ate hai bohot even I am not able to study....8 saal ho gya hai ish. Baat ko abhi bhi mai bhul nhi paa raha hu How can I overcome this please help🙏
Past है वो बार बार उसके बारे में सोच कर present time बरबाद होगा जिस से future खराब होगा हर किसी के साथ ऐसा कोई ना कोई traumatic incident कभी ना कभी हुआ होता है भूल जाना ही एकमात्र solution है कितना भी रो लो उसको past में जा कर बदल तो नहीं सकते ना अब और ज्यादा strong बन कर जियो सचेत रहो ,जो लोग तुमसे प्यार करते हैं तुम्हारी फिक्र करते हैं उनके बारे में सोचो,माँ पापा भाई बहन या कोई और
I'm suffering from the past traumatic disorder! And beleive me I'm living the worst of life i can live! So in my opinion ye shi hai ki agar 10 log same situation se guzre honge to unme se 1-2 ko hi past traumatic disorder hoga! To esa isliye kyonki jo us life ko halka halka krke jeete aa rhe hain, to vo unki part of life ban jata hai vo jyada sochte nhi ki esa kyon ho rha h... Unhe lgta hai ki it is life.... But jiski situation sudden change hoti hai vo itni questioning krta h itni overthinking krta hai ki uski life dramatically change ho jati hai!😑 I'm the one! Mujhe logon se dar lgta h, authority figure, elders, classmates , yes classmates too , and every person who is mentally strong ,who is better than me in any sense mujhe un sab se dar lgta hai , mera dil zoron se kaanpta hai, haathon se paseena aane lgta hai, haath pair sunn ho jate hain , tone dramatically change ho jaati h.. bhoyen tanav me aa jati hain aankhe chhoti ho jati hain! Nervousness, anxiety, mind blank and absence, and many more! 😭 One can't imagine how i feel like, fir log bolte hain tu sahma daraa daraa , dukhi or shaant kyon rhta h! 😭😭😭 Iska asar meri physical health pr bhi hai... Main bahut slim hun! Age 20 weight 46kg 😑 mujhe social mahaul me bhookh nhi lgti!😏 Kuchh krne ka man nhi krta jo cheezen mujhe fascinating lgti thi, vo school ke continue negative experiences(trauma)(classmates bully, teacher's violence daily pitna daily taane sunna, akele baithna, kisi se baat na krna, fir ghar aakar maa baap aapas ki violence(jhagde)) k baad meaningless lgne lgi hain! 😭 I'm suffering from existential crisis, and my thinking is converting towards nihilistic approach to view the world 😑 I've contacted with Student counselor at University level! And attained a 2 hour session till now! But I don't think she can help me! She looks immature as she herself a psychology student! 😑😭😭😭 I can't afford heavy charges of professional psychologist 😔 in my city it's 1000- 1200 per hour session! And my mental illness is 7-8 yrs of traumatic life so I need a long-term therapy 😭
Keep working, counselors, books, motivational videos , keep at it, just keep at it. May be someday all this will make sense. Or maybe the pain won't matter.
Hr problem ki cause bchpn se shuru hoti he mgr apke aas pas ke log apko hmesha pressurize krte hn khd ko theek kro,hr insan shuru me aik slate ki tara hota he bad me us pe itna kch lkh dia jata he ke wo aik tym pe khd ko bhool jata he zehni mareez bn jata he
When I was adolescent 12 to 17 years my parents used to call police in order to make me afraid. Now I am 31 years old and I get very afraid when I see khaki color or police ever. When I see police I sweat alot . 🙏🏻🙏🏻😭
ma'am thank u for that podcast with B viral and I am persuing B.a psycology because it make sense to me..as you had said that there would be a huge demand and ma'am i m promising you that somehow someday i will meet you and...india will be at the top in the world happiness index. thank you
Hlo ma,am 🙏🏻 Ma,am I have dyslexia and also hesitation to speak in class and public place .this is my life's big problem ma,am how to overcome?. Please suggest me something 🙏🏻. On this topic make a video ma,am.😐
Tbh i have experienced all these assault thinks in my child but now i tried to accept the thing but somewhere i have that guilt ki shayad mai kuch kr pati may be mai protect kr pati even jab mujhe ye sab chizo ka knowledge hua ki jo mere sath ho rha tha boh galat tha may be in my class 3-4 even 7-8 tak maine suicidal thoughts ate the or maine bhut try vi kia tha and it's not about one or two time it's more than that and I'm 18 now bhut guts krne k bd shayad after 10th i have told my mom all these actually not me my elder brother told all these to mom ... I'm an extrovert guy I'm so much talkative even with my parents but in my house i felt suppressed cause my parents were like tum kyu itna bologi if mai khush hu kuch share krna chahu boh vi nhi kr skti muk chup rehna padta he .... Lst year i have told my mom that i had suffered from trauma (awaj sunne se dar lgna , shouk se uth jna etc ). But for my parents ki agr psychiatrist ki bat vi ki jaye then it's like bhut bari bat hai . Now I'm okay mai prayers krti hu roj meditation krti hu I'm spiritual too that's why ye sab ko bhulne mai help krta hai bhut somewhere i felt that ki mai hi kyu or kya meri galti thi and i can't cry in front of any one even in front of my mom i can't...if matter is about pain or something serious then yeah
Mam actually mere bachpan mein jab mein 2 saal k tha mein mere mom ke saath mere mama ke ghar rehta tha aur uss time mujhe bohot kam pyaar mila compare to mere mama ke baccho se aur bahot ignore kiya me kabhi kabhi apne mama ko papa bulata tha lekin tab wo mujhe datate the par 4 saal baad mein apne papa ke pas rehne aya aur udhar bhi mujhe kam pyar mila compare to mere bade bhai se aur ab mujhe kabhi kabhi aisa feel hota hain ki main is family se nahi hoon yaa mein anaat hoon aur ye feeling mujhe bohot hurt karti hein mein bohot depressed rehta hoon
Mere saath bhi same problem hai, mujhe lagata hai mai depression ke aage haar na jaau, rote rote raat se subhe or subhe se raat ho jaati hai, mai Rona nhi chahti liken kya kru, khudko nhi sambhal paati, mere parents ko bhi mujhse koi matlab nhi hai, infact unhe ke wajah se mera ye haal hai💔❤️🩹
bestie,,, its not THAT easy to let go of trauma... just think about it.. why would someone wanna keep hurting themselves with their own trauma? what would they get out of it? its because its hard for a lot of people to let go of things in general. so next time u post anything insensitive, think twice.. Love and Light.
I'm suffering from the past trauma! And beleive me I'm living the worst of life i can live! So , i can answer ur question, so in my opinion only Bhai, ye shi hai ki agar 10 log same situation se guzre honge to unme se 1-2 ko hi past traumatic disorder hoga! To esa isliye kyonki jo us life ko halka halka krke jeete aa rhe hain, to vo unki part of life ban jata hai vo jyada sochte nhi ki esa kyon ho rha h... Unhe lgta hai ki it is life.... But jiski situation sudden change hoti hai vo itni questioning krta h itni overthinking krta hai ki uski life dramatically change ho jati hai! Dramatically means dramatically 😑 I'm the one! Mujhe logon se dar lgta h, authority figure, elders, classmates , yes classmates too , and every person who is mentally strong ,who is better than me in any sense mujhe un sab se dar lgta hai , mera dil zoron se kaanpta hai, haathon se paseena aane lgta hai, haath pair sunn ho jate hain , tone dramatically change ho jaati h.. bhoyen tanav me aa jati hain aankhe chhoti ho jati hain! Nervousness, anxiety, mind blank and many more! 😭 You can't imagine how i feel like, fir log bolte hain tu sahma daraa daraa , dukhi or shaant kyon rhta h! 😭😭😭 Iska asar meri physical health pr bhi hai... Main bahut slim hun! Age 20 weight 46kg 😑 mujhe social mahaul me bhookh nhi lgti!😏 Kuchh krne ka man nhi krta jo cheezen mujhe fascinating lgti thi, vo school ke continue negative experiences(trauma)(classmates bully, teacher's violence daily pitna daily taane sunna, akele baithna, kisi se baat na krna, fir ghar aakar maa baap ki violence) k baad meaningless lgne lgi hain! 😭 I'm suffering from existential crisis, and my thinking is converting towards nihilistic approach to view the world 😑 I've contacted with Student counselor at University level! And attained a 2 hour session till now! But I don't think she can help me! She looks immature as she herself a psychology student! 😑😭😭😭 I can't afford heavy charges of professional psychologist 😔 in my city it's 1000- 1200 per hour session! And my mental illness is 7-8 yrs traumatic life so I need a long-term therapy 😭
I don't agree with few of your solutions. I am sorry to say this. Papa ne thappad mara to aap chup chap ja ke so jaeye agle din sab thik ho jaega. Is this a solution? I don't get it. I am a victim of physical and emotional abuse. My father left me in the hospital to die. How can you say that akhir maa baap hi to apko support karenge last tak. All the parents are not same.
:-) acceptance is bliss, once we thank God that i am alive/healthy/with hands legs senses etc (while so many others in world are born with phy challenges or in war zones or poverty), then see how uplifted u will feel ...
@@aamna626 :-) Dear Aamna, Instead of being triggered, kindly gain clarity. I meant that one needs to accept reality as is, instead of repeated cycles of anger-guilt etc. Human mind, when focuses on one goal, then achieves it! Even though the probability is less, still possible.
Mam , ek ladki nei muje jhute case mei fasakar meri mob lyching karai thi jisse meri life mei trauma ho gya . Uss ladki nei yeh sab sirf apne maze ke liye kiya tha aur uss area mei famous hone ke liye kiya tha. Lekin aaj meri saari jindagi mei ek trauma sa ho gya .Meri 12th ki percentage kharab ho gya. meri growth ruk gyi. Meri graduation ki percentage kharab ho gyi . Sab uss ek ladki ki wajah se. Muje baat baat pe rona aajata hai. Suicidal thoughts too common hai . Padhne ka mann nahi karta. Parents ko jab iss baare mei pata chala too woh meri hi galti nikal rahe hai ki tumne hi kuch galat kiya hoga. Please save me..... Mai aaj nahi too kal suicide na karlu mam. Mai bohut pareshan hu ....
Hi Tahera , I am a little unclear , afraid of the past trauma of sexual abuse, or fear that what if sexual abuse happens to a loved one or or fear of what if sexual abuse happens to the person himself.
@@drmayurikadasbiswashi mam,( afraid of the past trauma of sexual abuse or yehape mene specially childhood k trauma k bare me bolna chaha hai,agar koi baccha 4,5 yr ka purana childhood trauma k wajah se depressed hogeya hai to ham use tik kese kare,agr ap is topic pe discuss karte to acha hota) .......tnx for ur lovely rply ....really u r so lovely😊mam...
मेने 1 कपिल को देखा उनका घर किराए पे है। उनका 1 बच्चा है। मुझे उनके काम के बारे मे भी पता है।12,000 सैलरी मे वो अपना घर मैनेंज़ करते है।मुझे उनकी आर्थिक हालत फिलहाल तो ठीक है लेकिन आने वाले समय मे हालत खराब हो जायेगी।अब वो ज़िन्दगी भर के लिये रैट रेस मे फसजायेगा मुझे डर लगता है जे सोचकर मेरा भी जे हाल ना हो। मे आज़ाद रहना चाहता हु ज़िन्दगी भर के लिये।
Me ek ladka hu mere sath me jab 1st standard me tha matlab 7 sal ka tab se lekar 6th standard ka hone tab abuse hota raha .. aur mujhe lagta tha ki dada achha ladka hai. Me use karne deta tha sab .. aur use agar maine aise karne ke liye khudse nahi bola to use bura lagta tha gussa karta tha mujh par.. jab me mujhe thoda samaj aane laga to maine uske pass jana bandh kar diya.. main bahot chhota tha .. mujhe kabhi kabhi lagta hai mar jau.. mein abhi 21 sal ka hu.. mujhe logo ke sath baat karne me bahot takleef hoti hai.. 😢
Same condition mai bhi ak ladka hu mere sath bhi hua tha mai jab 14 saal ka tha tab mere 2 senior ne mai jab so rha hota tha tab kya mere dost log bhi eske bre mai jante hai tab mujhe kuch samaj nhi ata tha ab mai 22 saal ka hu mujhe ye trauma mujhe jinda lass bna de rha hai mujhe suicidal thoughts ate hai rooj
@@RockySharma-tw2sn bhai mujhe bhi aate hai mujhe kisi baat me Khushi bhi mehsoos hoti . Hamesha overthinking karta rehta hu kisi ko bataunga to bolenge ki teri hi galti hai
@@lifevision6192Kya kre ase he depression ke sath jina parega ... suicide krne se family ka kya hoga ise soch kar daar lgta hai kash neend mai mar jata
Bhai sidha chale ja police ke paas aur bata tere saath galat hua hai aur galat chahe kabhi bhi hua ho saza milegi he aur tuh aisa soch ki mere saath galat hua toh uski saza mil gayi hai usko aur new life me chale jaa kuch sochna he mat sab normal hai
Hello Brother !! My advice to you is, first of all stay calm and sit down and Start learning from today, you will be ahead of others within years, example : persons like you became Elon Musk.
Mam meri gf ne 2 sal ke relationship ke bad bataya ki vo jb 6 - 7 year ki thi tb uske sath abuse hua tha vo bhi uske dur ke chacha ke bete ne ne kiya Jb mai ye bat suna to shock ho gya kyoki esa kabhi maine face hi ny kiya tha ab is bat ko 6 mahine ho gye h mujhe jane or ye bat ko sirf mere ko hi btai h vo even Apne mummy ko bhivny however mai usko hmesa support krta hu ki vo tera galti ny tha tu bachhi thi tujhe itta smjvkaha aata but kabhi kabhi mai yr sochta hu to Overthiking me chla jata hu mam mai isko situation ko handle kaise kru plz reply
Solution(part 1) कहां से शुरू करूं पता नहीं पर दोस्तों...आप जिस phase से गुजर रहे हो... उस phase से मैं गुजर चुका हूं.. इसलिए मै आपके दुख/परेशानी को समझ सकता हुं। और मुझे मेरी नींद .. मेरे मन की शांति सब मुझे वापिस मिला है (जिसकी उम्मीद बहुत कम लग रही थी उस phase में)..ये आपको भी मिलेगा बस आपको REALITY को समझना होगा(reality को as it is देख पाना ..एक तरह से बहुत आसान भी है और मुश्किल भी..इसलिए आपको patience रखना होगा.. ये बात deep है थोड़ी..पर मैं नीचे इस चीज को explain करूंगा..आपको समझ में आ जाएगी.. पूरी समझ ना आए तो भी चिंता की कोइ बात नही..धीरे धीरे समझ में आने लग जाएंगी)
(Part2) देखो.. हमे ये समझना होगा की nature (प्रकृति) मे क्या होता है.. nature में कुछ भी गलत या सही नही है जैसे..बिल्ली चूहे का example... ऐसे ही इंसान कर रहा है...अब ध्यान से समझोगे तो आपको समझ में आ जायेगा की इंसान से उसका मन करवा रहा है ये सब..चाहे उससे किसी को तकलीफ होती हो..पर कुछ लोगों को उससे कुछ फर्क नहीं पड़ता क्योंकि उनके हिसाब से वो जो कर रहे हैं वो गलत नही है .. हर इन्सान बुरा भी होता है और अच्छा भी..
(Part3) इस बात की भी संभावना है की आपने भी किसी के साथ(चाहे वो इंसान हो या जानवर) थोड़ा बहुत गलत किया ही होगा(क्योंकि जब तक कोई चीज इंसान को गलत नही लगती वो करता है उस चीज को..जिस दिन गलत लगी वो करना बंद करदेगा)..normal है ऐसा ...अगर आपने किसी के साथ गलत किया था ...तो आप दिल से जाके sorry बोल दो उस इंसान को..अब वो आपको माफ करे या ना करे..ये उसके हाथ में है...पर आप sorry ही बोल सकते थे ईमानदारी से वो आपने कर दिया..और खुद को भी आपने माफ कर दिया..अगर वो इंसान जिंदा नहीं है..तो भगवान से कहो की "हे भगवान ..अगर वो जिंदा होते तो मैं उनसे माफी मांगता..मुझसे गलती हो गई थी..please आप मुझे माफ करें"
Bachpan se dil me darr betha hua he , koi jor se chilla de , ya fir koi mujhse baat karta he naya person to dil ghabrata he, me jyada sochne lagta hu or bol nahi paata, darr dheere dheere bahot badh gaya jiski wajah se me apne family se bhi thik se baat nahi kar paata, or ab zindgi ko khtm krne ke alawa koi rasta nahi raha 😢
I made this video on the suggestion of subscribers. Thanks friends for being an active community. I will definitely try to add more value through the videos. My only request is please stay in as much as possible, wear your masks properly, go get vaccinated when your turn comes.
Ma'am improve volume quality it's very low
Thank you so much... How to over come it completly when your parents are narcasist
Thanks alot in your feet mam
Thankyou soo much😌😔👌👌👌
Madam Upnar katha bolar style ta khub sundar, You have one of the best communication skill. Thanks for the video.
@@ravindragupta4838, you are welcome 😊
I think, Every parents from Bangladesh 🇧🇩 should watch this. 😢
I'm writing this comment from a fake profile because I'm afraid of being judged. 😞
Anxious avoidant persons may can relate to my comment. 🤗
Thanks for reading my comment. I hope you are happy and will become successful. ❤
I am glad this video helped you 🙏
Mam mai aapka vedio sirf aapke smile ka liya dekhata hu......l love 💞 your smile mam, Keep smiling and be happy.
Me too
@Baazigar mazak uda lo bhai😀😀😀
I am also doctor. You are doing great job dear☺... All the best and lots of blessings.. Even I do definitely belive in doing good... Lots of good
appreciate ur feedback a lot. stay safe , you R today's Hero
Ma'am you are doing great job. Your channel is truly ''Survival Model'' for us.
Thank you so much for your Love.👏👏
Yes Santosh ji sabse jaruri Survival hai...! God bless you stay safe
Really too much awesome explanation ❤😮😊
Very much helpful for parents....... 🙂🙂
A very refreshingly good video about trauma from childhood violence. Your perspective from the Indian family point of view is very helpful.
You are helping all of us, YOU ARE GOD Mrs Mayurika Das Biswas Ji
Main to aapko jaanta nahin tha jab aap Sandeep sir ji ke podcast main I to dekha tha 🙏
Really thanks mam
God banna toh bahut badi responsibility hai...main toh bahut sari mistakes karti hun insaanon ki tarah, aur un mistakes se seekhne ka try bhi karti hun. I wish you all the best in life , stay safe. I will try to continue creating valuable content for you. Need your warm wishes and support.
You are the best teacher who teach us the real meaning of life
Keep it up maam
We all love 😍 your videos very very much
Thanks a ton dear friend....! God bless you stay safe
Splendidly explained, thank you ma'am🙏
Really insightful video mam . This is really valuable for today’s youth,
Your valuable feedback means a lot thank you Saksham 🙏
So amazing vedio , yrrr umah , mry itny mental prblm solve hogye , hey thnk uh 😘😘😘🤠🤠❤️❤️❤️❤️
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Mam please make video on building confidence in adolescent and boosting their self esteem.
Very important tips..
Glad you think so!
Thanku so much mam🙏🙏.
Almost every Youth need of this 😊🙏
So nice of you 🙏to appreciate it
Mam plz is pr video bnayea jo parents 4 -5 years k baccho pr hmeaha gussa krte h kbi pyar se nhi bolte to baccho pr kya effect pdta h syid apki video se un parents ko smj aa ske
🙏 VERY WELL EXPLAINATION. EXAMPLES OF FAILURES AND THEIR SOLUTIONS R VERY VERY CLEARLY EXPLAINED.THANKS, MADAM. DR PRAKASH VORA. BORIVLI.
Thanks as always Dr Vora..! YOu are today's Hero
Ma'm apni Bangali apnake dekhe monai hoi ne apni Bangali but eta jantam apner title bengal tital er Sathe match korche ekta confuse chilo but apner Hindi ta khub valo, really apner video gulo khub helpfull. mam ami kolkata er Barrackpore theke bolchi!❤️apni kolkata er kothai thaken?
Please do on ocd thoughts .
Mam, i really appreciate your efforts and video
but can you please try not to do a monologue kind of video
it actually sink up the attention and learning consistency from the video
also I feel your videos are too fast?
otherwise, your content is absolutely amazing thanks a tonne for this channel
If anyone have childhood Truma if u face any fear surender to god whatever problem u facing and just relax take deep breath and believe your self everything will be okay
Thank you so much mam❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🌸🌸🌸it was so much needed
So Amazing... very nice information so nice video a great thanks u
Most welcome
I have seen your video 1st time and the video is best. Subscribed💛💫
Thank you Mam , you change my life 🙏
1. Baccho ka suraksha ka rakha pura dhyan. 2.wo nahi koi aur sahi koi aur nahi koi aur sahi. 3. Jab bhi gabhrahat ho apno ko call lagaya.
appreciate ur summary a lot
Kaash aap meri mummy hote.
Ham unke jese psychology sikh k apne bachho ko or as pas k logo ko madat kar skte hai
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
@@khushbooSPro bilkul sahi
Step father or bobhi viktam or tocsik parnlty ho or knjus ho to kese Dil kre pls btaye
@@KanizFatema-nj8ismere se bat kro
*Really mam you are our survival model.👍👍👍*
So nice of you
You have made an amazing video maam and this is very important but very tragic topic.....
I wish aap Meri mamma hoti
I love you ma'am God bless you
ha ha 🤣
Very nice
Beautifully explained
Thanks for your invaluable support
Ap dar bhagane ka technique sikha diye or dar k age jeet to pakka hai.matlab apna comfort zone chodna.
Mam you are great🙏🙏
Actually right. Lekin sari chij sahi time pe nahin ho shakti.
please make video on Overcoming the impact of childhood bullying
Thnak you so much ma'am......
Mam mera bhala ho hi jata h apke vedeos se🙏🙏
Areeh Waah kya baat hai Navin ji...!
I m happy mam after your receiving your reply 🙏🙏🙏
always perfect .....its like u r giving solutions to my probs only....always admire u ....🙏🙏
Thanks a ton Avni
Very well explained mam🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thanks mam God bless you, beautiful 💚💚🌈🌈
Most welcome 😊. Appreciate your interest in Psychology.
Thank-you ❤️
Great mam do not give up...😃 Thanku...
Hello ma'am.
Ma'am how can I get one online counselling session with you. Please guide.
Thankyou
Yes Mam
BOOK A COUNSELLING SESSION WITH Dr . Mayurika Das Biswas or someone from her team.
write to yoursurvivalmodel@gmail.com or book it on www.practo.com/mumbai/therapist/dr-mayurika-das-biswas-counselling-psychologist
Mera sath sexual abuse hua tha 13 -14 ke age mai in hostel by two guys and some of my friends also know about this abb mai 22 ka hu is trauma ko bhul hi nhi paa raha hu... suicidal thoughts ate hai bohot even I am not able to study....8 saal ho gya hai ish. Baat ko abhi bhi mai bhul nhi paa raha hu How can I overcome this please help🙏
Past है वो बार बार उसके बारे में सोच कर present time बरबाद होगा जिस से future खराब होगा हर किसी के साथ ऐसा कोई ना कोई traumatic incident कभी ना कभी हुआ होता है भूल जाना ही एकमात्र solution है कितना भी रो लो उसको past में जा कर बदल तो नहीं सकते ना
अब और ज्यादा strong बन कर जियो सचेत रहो ,जो लोग तुमसे प्यार करते हैं तुम्हारी फिक्र करते हैं उनके बारे में सोचो,माँ पापा भाई बहन या कोई और
@@a.para5 ma'am mujhe asanak yaad aa jata hai jitne bar bhul ne ki koshish krta hu
I'm suffering from the past traumatic disorder! And beleive me I'm living the worst of life i can live!
So in my opinion ye shi hai ki agar 10 log same situation se guzre honge to unme se 1-2 ko hi past traumatic disorder hoga! To esa isliye kyonki jo us life ko halka halka krke jeete aa rhe hain, to vo unki part of life ban jata hai vo jyada sochte nhi ki esa kyon ho rha h... Unhe lgta hai ki it is life.... But jiski situation sudden change hoti hai vo itni questioning krta h itni overthinking krta hai ki uski life dramatically change ho jati hai!😑 I'm the one! Mujhe logon se dar lgta h, authority figure, elders, classmates , yes classmates too , and every person who is mentally strong ,who is better than me in any sense mujhe un sab se dar lgta hai , mera dil zoron se kaanpta hai, haathon se paseena aane lgta hai, haath pair sunn ho jate hain , tone dramatically change ho jaati h.. bhoyen tanav me aa jati hain aankhe chhoti ho jati hain! Nervousness, anxiety, mind blank and absence, and many more! 😭 One can't imagine how i feel like, fir log bolte hain tu sahma daraa daraa , dukhi or shaant kyon rhta h! 😭😭😭 Iska asar meri physical health pr bhi hai... Main bahut slim hun! Age 20 weight 46kg 😑 mujhe social mahaul me bhookh nhi lgti!😏 Kuchh krne ka man nhi krta jo cheezen mujhe fascinating lgti thi, vo school ke continue negative experiences(trauma)(classmates bully, teacher's violence daily pitna daily taane sunna, akele baithna, kisi se baat na krna, fir ghar aakar maa baap aapas ki violence(jhagde)) k baad meaningless lgne lgi hain! 😭 I'm suffering from existential crisis, and my thinking is converting towards nihilistic approach to view the world 😑
I've contacted with Student counselor at University level! And attained a 2 hour session till now! But I don't think she can help me! She looks immature as she herself a psychology student! 😑😭😭😭 I can't afford heavy charges of professional psychologist 😔 in my city it's 1000- 1200 per hour session! And my mental illness is 7-8 yrs of traumatic life so I need a long-term therapy 😭
Keep working, counselors, books, motivational videos , keep at it, just keep at it. May be someday all this will make sense. Or maybe the pain won't matter.
@@drmayurikadasbiswasI'm working on myself!☺️ A warmest thanks to you also Ma'am for such helpful videos! Really really matters a lot❤️❤️❤️😇🙏
@@bonnyfacts1528 go to any govt mental hospital near to you , therapy is free of cost thers
Can you contact me @bonnyfacts
I can understand u 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Hr problem ki cause bchpn se shuru hoti he mgr apke aas pas ke log apko hmesha pressurize krte hn khd ko theek kro,hr insan shuru me aik slate ki tara hota he bad me us pe itna kch lkh dia jata he ke wo aik tym pe khd ko bhool jata he zehni mareez bn jata he
When I was adolescent 12 to 17 years my parents used to call police in order to make me afraid. Now I am 31 years old and I get very afraid when I see khaki color or police ever.
When I see police I sweat alot . 🙏🏻🙏🏻😭
Very informative
Glad you liked it.🙏
Mam ,your videos are always informative and never disappoint me ,love your work ,keep posting videos ❤️❤️🙏
@Saresh, that is exactly the goal of this channel, to make videos that are informative, useful and to the point 👉
Thank you very much ma'am, its helping me a lot
Great info
Bonus video ta dekhei monta khush hoye gelo. Aami to vabtam aapni bangla boltei janen na.😁😁😁
Ha ha ha , ami ekta average bangali poribar er average manush..! Thanks for staying in touch , God bless you stay safe..!
Pls Mam. And anxiety.
ma'am thank u for that podcast with B viral and I am persuing B.a psycology because it make sense to me..as you had said that there would be a huge demand and ma'am i m promising you that somehow someday i will meet you and...india will be at the top in the world happiness index. thank you
I believe you Harsh ...you can definitely create a huge impact... just stay consistent ..Looking forward to you dreams coming true.
Excellent mam
Thanks ❤️🙏
Hlo ma,am 🙏🏻
Ma,am I have dyslexia and also hesitation to speak in class and public place .this is my life's big problem ma,am how to overcome?.
Please suggest me something 🙏🏻.
On this topic make a video ma,am.😐
Thank you ma'am....... Use Hindi thumbnail for more views
Mam plz make a video on communication skill
Thanks for this content ❤️
sure Tarik..Take care of everyone at home and stay safe
Tbh i have experienced all these assault thinks in my child but now i tried to accept the thing but somewhere i have that guilt ki shayad mai kuch kr pati may be mai protect kr pati even jab mujhe ye sab chizo ka knowledge hua ki jo mere sath ho rha tha boh galat tha may be in my class 3-4 even 7-8 tak maine suicidal thoughts ate the or maine bhut try vi kia tha and it's not about one or two time it's more than that and I'm 18 now bhut guts krne k bd shayad after 10th i have told my mom all these actually not me my elder brother told all these to mom ... I'm an extrovert guy I'm so much talkative even with my parents but in my house i felt suppressed cause my parents were like tum kyu itna bologi if mai khush hu kuch share krna chahu boh vi nhi kr skti muk chup rehna padta he .... Lst year i have told my mom that i had suffered from trauma (awaj sunne se dar lgna , shouk se uth jna etc ). But for my parents ki agr psychiatrist ki bat vi ki jaye then it's like bhut bari bat hai . Now I'm okay mai prayers krti hu roj meditation krti hu I'm spiritual too that's why ye sab ko bhulne mai help krta hai bhut somewhere i felt that ki mai hi kyu or kya meri galti thi and i can't cry in front of any one even in front of my mom i can't...if matter is about pain or something serious then yeah
Thanks you so much ❤
Well explained!! Keep it up!!
Thanks sweetie
M kabhi apne bachpan me vapas nahi jana chahta 😢😢 bohot bura bchpan guzra h mera 😭😭
Kya hua bhai m bhi same 😢
@@KuchBhi-bm1yj bohot bura bachpan guzra hai bai
@@adityachaudhary6921 abhi kitne saal ke ho
@@KuchBhi-bm1yj 24 years ka hu abi to bro
@@adityachaudhary6921 apke bachpan me kya hua tha
Thankyou mam very beautiful video.
Just a problem of voice. ❤
Sorry for that
Apki tarah knowledge ke liye kon c padai karni padti hai
Thanks
Lovely mam
Thanks maam
Mam apke smile ka razz kya hai is par video banao plzzzzzzzzzzz
Mam actually mere bachpan mein jab mein 2 saal k tha mein mere mom ke saath mere mama ke ghar rehta tha aur uss time mujhe bohot kam pyaar mila compare to mere mama ke baccho se aur bahot ignore kiya me kabhi kabhi apne mama ko papa bulata tha lekin tab wo mujhe datate the par 4 saal baad mein apne papa ke pas rehne aya aur udhar bhi mujhe kam pyar mila compare to mere bade bhai se aur ab mujhe kabhi kabhi aisa feel hota hain ki main is family se nahi hoon yaa mein anaat hoon aur ye feeling mujhe bohot hurt karti hein mein bohot depressed rehta hoon
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Plz itna mat sochiye jiska koi nhi uska bhagwan hota h .jab aapko koi value nhi de rha to unke bare me kyu sochna..
Mere saath bhi same problem hai, mujhe lagata hai mai depression ke aage haar na jaau, rote rote raat se subhe or subhe se raat ho jaati hai, mai Rona nhi chahti liken kya kru, khudko nhi sambhal paati, mere parents ko bhi mujhse koi matlab nhi hai, infact unhe ke wajah se mera ye haal hai💔❤️🩹
Thanku
I'm suffering from stammering because of phycological traumas
Yes bro! It's so painful😣
Jo vyakti trauma ko pakad kar jeeta h to ye to hona hi tha.
Bhut log ko injustice,abuse ,face karna padta hai ,but unko kuch nhi hota .
bestie,,, its not THAT easy to let go of trauma... just think about it.. why would someone wanna keep hurting themselves with their own trauma? what would they get out of it? its because its hard for a lot of people to let go of things in general. so next time u post anything insensitive, think twice.. Love and Light.
I'm suffering from the past trauma! And beleive me I'm living the worst of life i can live!
So , i can answer ur question, so in my opinion only
Bhai, ye shi hai ki agar 10 log same situation se guzre honge to unme se 1-2 ko hi past traumatic disorder hoga! To esa isliye kyonki jo us life ko halka halka krke jeete aa rhe hain, to vo unki part of life ban jata hai vo jyada sochte nhi ki esa kyon ho rha h... Unhe lgta hai ki it is life.... But jiski situation sudden change hoti hai vo itni questioning krta h itni overthinking krta hai ki uski life dramatically change ho jati hai! Dramatically means dramatically 😑 I'm the one! Mujhe logon se dar lgta h, authority figure, elders, classmates , yes classmates too , and every person who is mentally strong ,who is better than me in any sense mujhe un sab se dar lgta hai , mera dil zoron se kaanpta hai, haathon se paseena aane lgta hai, haath pair sunn ho jate hain , tone dramatically change ho jaati h.. bhoyen tanav me aa jati hain aankhe chhoti ho jati hain! Nervousness, anxiety, mind blank and many more! 😭 You can't imagine how i feel like, fir log bolte hain tu sahma daraa daraa , dukhi or shaant kyon rhta h! 😭😭😭 Iska asar meri physical health pr bhi hai... Main bahut slim hun! Age 20 weight 46kg 😑 mujhe social mahaul me bhookh nhi lgti!😏 Kuchh krne ka man nhi krta jo cheezen mujhe fascinating lgti thi, vo school ke continue negative experiences(trauma)(classmates bully, teacher's violence daily pitna daily taane sunna, akele baithna, kisi se baat na krna, fir ghar aakar maa baap ki violence) k baad meaningless lgne lgi hain! 😭 I'm suffering from existential crisis, and my thinking is converting towards nihilistic approach to view the world 😑
I've contacted with Student counselor at University level! And attained a 2 hour session till now! But I don't think she can help me! She looks immature as she herself a psychology student! 😑😭😭😭 I can't afford heavy charges of professional psychologist 😔 in my city it's 1000- 1200 per hour session! And my mental illness is 7-8 yrs traumatic life so I need a long-term therapy 😭
Give a video for child sexual abuse victims
I don't agree with few of your solutions. I am sorry to say this. Papa ne thappad mara to aap chup chap ja ke so jaeye agle din sab thik ho jaega. Is this a solution? I don't get it. I am a victim of physical and emotional abuse. My father left me in the hospital to die. How can you say that akhir maa baap hi to apko support karenge last tak. All the parents are not same.
Yes , lets agree to disagree.
Mata pita bhagvan nahi hote hai vo bi hamari tarah ensaan hote hai unme bi kamiya hoti hai
:-) acceptance is bliss, once we thank God that i am alive/healthy/with hands legs senses etc (while so many others in world are born with phy challenges or in war zones or poverty), then see how uplifted u will feel ...
@@aamna626 :-) Dear Aamna, Instead of being triggered, kindly gain clarity. I meant that one needs to accept reality as is, instead of repeated cycles of anger-guilt etc. Human mind, when focuses on one goal, then achieves it! Even though the probability is less, still possible.
Yes u are right sb parents ek jsa nhi hote
thanks mem
Keep watching and sharing. God bless you
Mam , ek ladki nei muje jhute case mei fasakar meri mob lyching karai thi jisse meri life mei trauma ho gya . Uss ladki nei yeh sab sirf apne maze ke liye kiya tha aur uss area mei famous hone ke liye kiya tha. Lekin aaj meri saari jindagi mei ek trauma sa ho gya .Meri 12th ki percentage kharab ho gya. meri growth ruk gyi. Meri graduation ki percentage kharab ho gyi . Sab uss ek ladki ki wajah se. Muje baat baat pe rona aajata hai. Suicidal thoughts too common hai . Padhne ka mann nahi karta. Parents ko jab iss baare mei pata chala too woh meri hi galti nikal rahe hai ki tumne hi kuch galat kiya hoga. Please save me..... Mai aaj nahi too kal suicide na karlu mam. Mai bohut pareshan hu ....
@@Humanoid-2345 I am so sorry for your trauma. Please consult a psychologist
Har har Mahadev Ji ❤️🧿❤️
Mam plz ho sake to is topic pe kuch ideas dena... 'how to overcome from the anxiety of child sexual abuse'
Hi Tahera , I am a little unclear , afraid of the past trauma of sexual abuse, or fear that what if sexual abuse happens to a loved one or or fear of what if sexual abuse happens to the person himself.
@@drmayurikadasbiswashi mam,( afraid of the past trauma of sexual abuse or yehape mene specially childhood k trauma k bare me bolna chaha hai,agar koi baccha 4,5 yr ka purana childhood trauma k wajah se depressed hogeya hai to ham use tik kese kare,agr ap is topic pe discuss karte to acha hota) .......tnx for ur lovely rply ....really u r so lovely😊mam...
Accha maam kya aap agla video bullying par bana sakte hain ki kaise aur woh humare zindagi pe kaise negative effect karta rehta hai.......
Sure Abhigyan ji , bullying pe zaroor video banayenge hum
मेने 1 कपिल को देखा उनका घर किराए पे है। उनका 1 बच्चा है। मुझे उनके काम के बारे मे भी पता है।12,000 सैलरी मे वो अपना घर मैनेंज़ करते है।मुझे उनकी आर्थिक हालत फिलहाल तो ठीक है लेकिन आने वाले समय मे हालत खराब हो जायेगी।अब वो ज़िन्दगी भर के लिये रैट रेस मे फसजायेगा मुझे डर लगता है जे सोचकर मेरा भी जे हाल ना हो। मे आज़ाद रहना चाहता हु ज़िन्दगी भर के लिये।
Grt...but pls help people without any greed. Just like Sandeep Maheshwari. Pls 🙏.
ma'am suicide suicidal thoughts per video bana e
Tnks a lot mam💘
How to choose career
Next video mam please 🙏🙏
Ok will do. Thanks for the kind suggession
people plesing ka solution kya hai
Me ek ladka hu mere sath me jab 1st standard me tha matlab 7 sal ka tab se lekar 6th standard ka hone tab abuse hota raha .. aur mujhe lagta tha ki dada achha ladka hai. Me use karne deta tha sab .. aur use agar maine aise karne ke liye khudse nahi bola to use bura lagta tha gussa karta tha mujh par.. jab me mujhe thoda samaj aane laga to maine uske pass jana bandh kar diya.. main bahot chhota tha .. mujhe kabhi kabhi lagta hai mar jau.. mein abhi 21 sal ka hu.. mujhe logo ke sath baat karne me bahot takleef hoti hai.. 😢
Same condition mai bhi ak ladka hu mere sath bhi hua tha mai jab 14 saal ka tha tab mere 2 senior ne mai jab so rha hota tha tab kya mere dost log bhi eske bre mai jante hai tab mujhe kuch samaj nhi ata tha ab mai 22 saal ka hu mujhe ye trauma mujhe jinda lass bna de rha hai mujhe suicidal thoughts ate hai rooj
@@RockySharma-tw2sn bhai mujhe bhi aate hai mujhe kisi baat me Khushi bhi mehsoos hoti . Hamesha overthinking karta rehta hu kisi ko bataunga to bolenge ki teri hi galti hai
@@lifevision6192Kya kre ase he depression ke sath jina parega ... suicide krne se family ka kya hoga ise soch kar daar lgta hai kash neend mai mar jata
Bhai sidha chale ja police ke paas aur bata tere saath galat hua hai aur galat chahe kabhi bhi hua ho saza milegi he aur tuh aisa soch ki mere saath galat hua toh uski saza mil gayi hai usko aur new life me chale jaa kuch sochna he mat sab normal hai
Hello Brother !! My advice to you is, first of all stay calm and sit down and Start learning from today, you will be ahead of others within years, example : persons like you became Elon Musk.
Mam meri gf ne 2 sal ke relationship ke bad bataya ki vo jb 6 - 7 year ki thi tb uske sath abuse hua tha vo bhi uske dur ke chacha ke bete ne ne kiya
Jb mai ye bat suna to shock ho gya kyoki esa kabhi maine face hi ny kiya tha ab is bat ko 6 mahine ho gye h mujhe jane or ye bat ko sirf mere ko hi btai h vo even Apne mummy ko bhivny however mai usko hmesa support krta hu ki vo tera galti ny tha tu bachhi thi tujhe itta smjvkaha aata but kabhi kabhi mai yr sochta hu to Overthiking me chla jata hu mam mai isko situation ko handle kaise kru plz reply
Hm log ka age currently 22 year h
Aapne apni gf ko support Kiya ye bahut bari baat h .....
Solution(part 1)
कहां से शुरू करूं पता नहीं पर दोस्तों...आप जिस phase से गुजर रहे हो... उस phase से मैं गुजर चुका हूं.. इसलिए मै आपके दुख/परेशानी को समझ सकता हुं। और मुझे मेरी नींद .. मेरे मन की शांति सब मुझे वापिस मिला है (जिसकी उम्मीद बहुत कम लग रही थी उस phase में)..ये आपको भी मिलेगा बस आपको REALITY को समझना होगा(reality को as it is देख पाना ..एक तरह से बहुत आसान भी है और मुश्किल भी..इसलिए आपको patience रखना होगा.. ये बात deep है थोड़ी..पर मैं नीचे इस चीज को explain करूंगा..आपको समझ में आ जाएगी.. पूरी समझ ना आए तो भी चिंता की कोइ बात नही..धीरे धीरे समझ में आने लग जाएंगी)
(Part2)
देखो.. हमे ये समझना होगा की nature (प्रकृति) मे क्या होता है.. nature में कुछ भी गलत या सही नही है जैसे..बिल्ली चूहे का example... ऐसे ही इंसान कर रहा
है...अब ध्यान से समझोगे तो आपको समझ में आ जायेगा की इंसान से उसका मन करवा रहा है ये सब..चाहे उससे किसी को तकलीफ होती हो..पर कुछ लोगों को उससे कुछ फर्क नहीं पड़ता क्योंकि उनके हिसाब से वो जो कर रहे हैं वो गलत नही है .. हर इन्सान बुरा भी होता है और अच्छा भी..
(Part3)
इस बात की भी संभावना है की आपने भी किसी के साथ(चाहे वो इंसान हो या जानवर) थोड़ा बहुत गलत किया ही होगा(क्योंकि जब तक कोई चीज इंसान को गलत नही लगती वो करता है उस चीज को..जिस दिन गलत लगी वो करना बंद करदेगा)..normal है ऐसा ...अगर आपने किसी के साथ गलत किया था ...तो आप दिल से जाके sorry बोल दो उस इंसान को..अब वो आपको माफ करे या ना करे..ये उसके हाथ में है...पर आप sorry ही बोल सकते थे ईमानदारी से वो आपने कर दिया..और खुद को भी आपने माफ कर दिया..अगर वो इंसान जिंदा नहीं है..तो भगवान से कहो की "हे भगवान ..अगर वो जिंदा होते तो मैं उनसे माफी मांगता..मुझसे गलती हो गई थी..please आप मुझे माफ करें"
I love you mam💐💐💐💐
Mam mujhe kisi k bhi mujhe hath lgane se dar lgta hai... Abh kya kru pls mam reply jrur krna
99 percent iska reason schools hi hote hai...
SChool bhi hota....!
School me har baar mere sath hota he
😍😍😆mam aapki smile🥰😂😂😂
Really good mam 👍
Haha! did you forget to turn off the camera at the end? or was it intentional?
কোথায় কি কালো?
এটাতো আমার তিল ছিল।😂
Love from Bengal ❤️❤️
Bachpan se dil me darr betha hua he , koi jor se chilla de , ya fir koi mujhse baat karta he naya person to dil ghabrata he, me jyada sochne lagta hu or bol nahi paata, darr dheere dheere bahot badh gaya jiski wajah se me apne family se bhi thik se baat nahi kar paata, or ab zindgi ko khtm krne ke alawa koi rasta nahi raha 😢
Us Bhai...
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same😢
আরে দিদি আপনি বাঙালী?খুব ভাল ভিডিও।
Muze please trauma se bahar nikaliye aur pyaar karna sikhayiye sikhayiye