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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- Today, we’re tackling another habit I know you have…complaining.
In today's video, I've got a powerful challenge for you: go the next 24 hours without complaining.
Here's what else is covered in today's training and FAQ:
Why we complain.
The three types of complaints.
A simple challenge for you over the next 24 hours.
Why complaining is a habit and how it connects to the brain's default network.
Do thoughts count as complaints?
What if my friend always complains?
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Hi Mel
I am a 64 year old from Kent in Uk. I wish you were around 20 years ago. I have struggled with my life for the last 30 years when I had naturally conceived triplets. They were premature and one of them was disabled and then 11 years ago one was diagnosed with a severe mental health condition. You are making me see life in a different and better way. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Annemarie White
Thank you for this training! I wish I’d had this years ago. All I did was complain for the past 28 years or so but particularly while I was raising my children. It had a negative impact on all of my relationships...😢. For anyone who reads this, please listen to this and try to break the habit before it’s too late.
I recently got injured from a bad horse accident. So you could image that was a set back because my life and work revolves around horses. This happened during the time where I was involved in this mind set reset and even know I could ride horses or work or even walk I had a positive attitude while the whole Time I was deliberately thinking positively. I know it was because of this that I am able to walk now and I am healing up fast! Thank for doing this!!❤️
Utahbarrelracer ! Thank you for sharing this post. I’m going to think more positive about my recovery. 🌞
Utahbarrelracer ! My Sister was a Rodeo Queen here in Oregon. Keep up the great work!! ❤️🥰
Wonderful news Utahbarrelracer - be great to watch you race, I love watching anything horsey!
Today I got on the subway after 12 years of phobia. I used the anchor method. Thank you for changing my life #UK #MindsetReset
6 yrs scared to fly due to a panic attack on a flight. I'm hoping this tool will work but still nervous to try! Good for you!!!
I have the phobia of the subways too. Your win over the phobia gives me the strength to try to beat it myself. Anyway, congrats on the win :)
Keri Ackerson I’m going on a fear of flying course in March and I’m going to use the tools. Good luck!
Pxpak Good luck to you too. You can do it! Small steps 😊
I have too
My son is 22 years old . He has struggled with anxiety all of his teenage life. I love your program. I am a person who everyone thinks I'm always happy. I work every day to be positive by doing things like your AWESOME program.
I tell Max if you change how you think you'll change your life.
He will try for a day and say it doesn't work.
He has a bad habit to be negative.
He is battling depression and has been suicidal. He is on meds and is taking to someone.
I want him to do this program but I dont think he will. I send him your videos .
Thanks for such an amazing gift you have given so many of us.
And for all you down loads .
Your a true blessing
Since starting this challenge I have been getting up at 5am in order to have an hour to myself in the morning before my daughter wakes up and it's go-go-go! I have been doing visualisation and yoga but I was wondering if it's ok to follow yoga videos on the TV or would it be best to keep the TV off during the morning routine? After yoga I make my lunch for work, breakfast for the family and hop in the shower! By the time my crew wakes up I'm already dressed and ready for the day. What a difference this makes! Thank you so much!!!
Mel, I hope you know how much good you do for this world. At nights when I'm struggling with anxiety, the one thing I can count on is your voice bringing me back to reality and off the heart pounding, anxiety ridden plane. So, thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤️
It is so nice to focus on what is going well. When pos thoughts starts to out weigh the thoughts that are negative, it is amazing to see the difference in the way that I have been feeling. I am so happy that I found this training. I am greatful because I finally am able to take a good long look at what I can do differently each day to make positive changes in my life. Visualization of what is good when I look at the day I want to have helps me to be deliberate in order to make my life the way I want it to be to support my family and myself. Thanks Mel for highlighting this area that affects our mindset.
I literally just got a blessing from my Mother inlaw just by saying I'm so excited about having transportation to go anywhere I want this is real.
This course is amazing, thank you Mel🙌. I love this video about complaining. When people start to complain I don’t take the bait as it is so easy to gossip negatively however it doesn’t serve you and it won’t get you inspired or make you or others successful. You’ve got to break the cycle.
I love #mindsetreset. I will carry this with me forever. I am already sad because I know your videos will end. I hope the videos will be avaliable forever. Please send an email reminder to us every now and then so we can continue this journey and never forget to reset and enjoy this one life we got. Thank you ❤️
Love from Norway
Watch them over again... lol that’s what’s I’m going to do. I’ll be watching these over and over for the rest of my life. We all tend to fall off .... these will be helpful forever!
Yes venting turns into complaining
Complaining in my mind is a tough one, but I love what you said, it is negative talk to myself. I love that, and I have taken that to heart, and adding it to my deliberate thinking. Also, going to use anchor thoughts to stop this! Watching you from Nairobi, Kenya
it s amazing to listen to someone who s so aware of their thoughts and emotions..and so honestly expresses it..this awareness helps others be aware..in order to change..great..thanks
FYI other latecomers like myself - it seems that no-one is looking at/answering our questions now. #25 is now just called 'Do it Anyway'. From what I can see, it is number 3 in this list, yet has a yellow number '11' next to it. Confusing I know. But Mel mentions the 'Do It Anyway' on this #24 video. Hope this helps anyone else going through this later than when they were screened live. You aren't alone, I can promise you that!
Nova Scoita Canada..self employed mother. I'm a cook and I'm in my little 8x12 kitchen working on making homemade soups, hummus and quiche for the farmers market. Just finished working out and I'm on day 5 of 30 days of yoga. Thanks to you, my mind is now in drive
Incase anyone hasn't told you today " I love you"! Thank you so very much for this program! I can't wait most mornings to get up and see what the next topic will be. At first I was beating myself up for not keeping up with the videos everyday and then realized it's ok ( with your help). So I do what I can and I've now finished video #24! I have been incorporating lots of the tools that you have given and like everyone sometimes I slip but it makes me very "deliberate" now and I notice more! So my Thank You is filled with so much appreciation for your time and your expertise and most of all your " realness".❤️🙏🏽
While i was watching this an ad popped up and i caught myself complaining in my head about how annoying ads are and how i get the same type of ads all the time, etc. It was pretty funny that i never realized how much i complain to myself about ads, and so now I'm thinking about maybe getting RUclips premium or something to solve my problem 😅
Thanks mellllll
I love that you are always real!! So that when I'm slipping up and not "following" the rules here, it's totally normal and that EVERY day is a reset!!
Loving the Mindset Reset. It has changed my life and how I respond to everything. I have developed an amazing morning routine and am in the process of developing an evening routine. I had cataract surgery last week, thinking it would change my schedule and my motivation to my continued lifestyle. But I stuck to by schedule and never missed a day of exercise or journaling. I started this week renewed looking forward to being back on my regular schedule. LOVE THIS thank you from Phoenix, AZ TOTAL LIFE CHANGING
I'm a world champion in complaining, I see that now. Thank you so much for realizing ❤❤❤ I'm taking up the challenge 😍😍🙏🙏🙏 Love you Mel 💕💕💕 Greetings from Denmark 🇩🇰 ❤
I’ve been listening since day 1, bought the journal for myself and my girlfriend before the program started. (Late Christmas gift) but I’ve been following every tip/advice and I’ve kept what works with me. I’ve optimized my sleep and that has been a real game changer, and I’ve also got rid of bad habits I never thought I’d be able to over come. I’m listening from Mission,TX (south south Texas)
I love this training. Just challenged my entire family to this! We all tend to complain a lot. My life has drastically changed since starting this program and still getting better every day. I'm happier with home and work. My relationship with my husband is better. I'm a better person all around I think. Thank you! Now if I can get the courage to get on a plane! Not scared to fly, scared of having a panic attack. I know the tools and I think I can but there's always that small voice saying but what if you can't....
This is so relatable, Mel! Being an online entrepreneur, I tend to complain especially if things didn't go as planned. But then I realized that complaining will not help me achieve my daily goals and the success I want in my life. Thank you for this video because I realized how good life is. How I helped a lot of people to earn passive income and be confident in their own abilities.
Hey hey. I loveee this series 😍😘thank you from the bottom of my heart. P.s. China in the house 😃I'm watching with a vpn and everything! Total commitment 🤣🤣
I usually listen to the videos in the morning, start off the day!!
I'm finally watching live from Minnesota, 23 below it sucks!
Hahaha! I hear ya...5 degrees
Hi from Australia!!!
I do all 3 complaining. I hate that I worry and complain so much. All my parents ever did was talk badly about each other, fight and complain in such a destructive way.......all the time... trying to undo what is embedded in me.
HI there Hexy, I am from Australia too, what state are you from :)
I am from MElbourne
Jenni Collins Hi Jenni, I’m from Sydney 😊
Despina from Greece. I thank you for all that you are offering to us. I have watched all your videos so far and they are helping me tremendously. I have also shared your tools with my students to help them cope with stress. I wish and hope all parents,teachers and politicians take a mindset reset!!! We have all been caught up in worrying, blame game and destructive narcissism. You can make a difference in this world. You rock!
"Don't make yourself wrong". This is huge for me. Thank you. I have done a lot of self development seminars so I think I have fairly good insight into the areas where I can improve. When I screw up in one of my weak areas I immediately go to beating myself up. Example, "I have done so much work on myself, why am I still such a screw-up and late for this appointment? I know I should've left earlier. Why didn't I?" I expect excellence from myself. Yet, here I am late again. I hope this makes sense, This is just one example of where I struggle in making myself wrong. Plus, I have a very punctual husband. Ha. He gladly helps to make me wrong as well! lol
Such an interesting point that we think it's easier to connect with other people by complaining. So true. It's important to catch ourselves when we begin drifting to the negative. Cheers!
This is a huge eye-opener to the low-grade complaining I'm realizing that I am around that consistently, it's be used as a light-hearted haha form of bonding but I appreciate the insight about how it's actually extremely destructive.
Mel, Mandy & team ... hi from Bengaluru , India:)) I love the way my mindset is better controlled than ever. I'm at more peace with myself than ever. I'm amazed how you got the concepts of visualization , the default Vs deliberate thinking mode, the progressive ppl, Parkinson's law ....and a lot more as a practice into our daily lives sitting from there..+vely influencing so many lives . Thank you & team😊❤️ for that.
You said a really nice thing today that....THESE VIDEOS ARE GOING TO BE OUT THERE FOR A LONG TIME IN RUclips..and will be a great resource for more and more people !!! Wow!!!
I left this training for the last to watch, because I thought complaining isn't such a big problem for me. I did the challenge and I am shocked I didnt even realize I complain so much!! Thought this should be easy but it's not.
I love that there are so many countries represented here! 🤗 Checking in from Southern California, U.S.
For those re-watching:
3 intro
6:01 training
14 today's assignment
15:08 Q1 What about complaining that things that genuinely take time to resolve (ex: being sick)?
16:06 Q2 Do thoughts count (thinking about complaining)?
17:27 Q3 My friend is always complaining to me, how do I deal with her?
20:30 Q4 Isn't it helpful to talk to someone about all the things that are bothering you?
24:32 Q5 Do you recommend trying to replace the complaint when you notice it, or do you just notice it?
26:36 end
In this period of my life I complain about how the world goes, about environment, government, politicians and always I have a sort of "eco-anxiety". This is a big theme! I'm just try to solve it doing somethkng everyday for the planet and joinying some organization in my place that is trying to do something, for example saving our olive threes from the purpose of government to cut them for intensive and "xylella-free" cultivations. How do you handle with these themes? Thankyou Mel! I follow you since I found your first Ted Talk! I really am grateful for your service! 💖
I believe as a previous drug addict when I got clean and since then I feel like complaining become my default. When I didn't have I would always tell myself that I didn't feel good. To quit part of what I done was start telling myself that I didn't feel anywhere as bad as I thought I did and I'm now about 8 months sober however I'm still finding myself complaining but I know the power it has to make yourself not complain. I'ma give it a shot wish me luck.
I'm Fadhilah Arifin watching from Malaysia. Love this program! Thank you Mel Robbins & her team too! 😍
I totally agree about social connection … complaining … I feel sometimes I have to otherwise I am a stranger between friends and colleagues.
Hey Mel, listened to this again today! Perfect for me at this moment, I was complaining about my husband! I stopped talking to myself and said 5,4,3,2,1...quit now! Can’t fix it, so move on!
Wow. The is a doozy. I'm definitely a chronic complainer, never really realized it until today's video. I'm going to try and not complain for the next 24 hours for sure. But I have this fear of not being able to do it! Isn't that crazy? I'm a perfectionist so I'm afraid of failing at this. I knew I had negative thoughts but didn't realize how much I complain about EVERYTHING!!!! Thank you so much for pointing the way. I'm going to do my best and keep at it one minute at a time:) I just have these crazy thoughts that if I don't complain or if I don't think about the worst case scenarios, then they will happen. And that's how I've lived my whole life. And I'm 54 so that's a lot of years thinking one way. This is a game changer; it's going to be really, really hard. But I'm going to try because I'm driving my husband and myself nuts. He calls me the mayor of crazy town:)
I am 100% going to do this starting now
Perfect! You have a really nice, present, practical way of expressing yourself and reinforcing mind and emotional equilibrium and control. I like it!
Thank you for helping me with changing my life, and the way I think. Been battling anxious thoughts and panic attacks since 2007. I am learning alot about my brain. It's so tough to accept all this and trying to fix myself. 🙏
I was not well yesterday and I was thinking can't I complain about that? Then I thought what good would that serve me?! I am going to be grateful that I am feeling better.
Boy I needed this!! I complain a lot and didn’t notice half of it thank you thank you, thank you loved the one previous about good intent. Tried to follow that today especially on my way to work with all types of crazy drivers and boy did it help!!! I was a lot less stressed by the time I got to work! I’ll be listening to that one a lot!! Thank you again!! Watching and listening and learning from Westfield Massachusetts
Hi all, big hello from sunny Australia😎
I really really love you! You are an incredible mentor!
Hello from Australia, very hot day here, but im not complaining, grateful we have fans & aircon! 🌞
Margaux from Perth Western Australia
Hey Mel, while doing this assignment of stop complaining. I realized that I have default mode of pattern for creating a situation intentionally where things irritate me and then I can complain about it and play a victim role. Gosh!!! I didn't know I had this inside me. 😱😳
Hey Mel! Thank you so much for giving us so much positive energy and this very important message. You are amazing for putting out all this information for freeeeee and not here trying to sell us anything. You are so generous and I, we, particularly love you for this. I am a bit behind in Mindset Reset but this has made me want to jump back on. I am taking on the challenge. No complains for 24 hrs and on, starting now.
XOXO
I was listening to this presentation on my laptop while cleaning the house. You mentioned going 24 hours without complaining. While still listening I moved my laptop and dropped it. It crashed on top of a small garbage can and then hit the tile floor. Expecting the worse, I check the laptop, it was fine, the garbage container was trashed but I was happy because the trash can is a lot cheaper then a laptop! However, I'm sure that my wife will complain about it.
Love you Mel, you are so real and relatable. Thanks for this. I've shared this with both my daughters. They were raised half full because that is how I live my life always see the best but I think society really effects our youth today. So I love that you are giving this to them for free. Thank you Thank you Thank you. Tamra from Las Vegas, NV . : )
How would you handle a family member who is a chronic complainer and is very ill. I have my force field around me when I visit because many of my triggers and default thoughts stem from my childhood and from him. I am sensitive to the fact he is ill but can't allow myself to get sucked in to his poor me and complaining. It sucks the energy out of me..I try to live my life with no regrets but not sure if I'm handling this in my best interest as I don't know how much time he has left.
❤❤❤❤ Hugs from Denmark ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
Sonia Sovran I feel for you, as I am going through something similar with my own mother. She has had a string of bad luck, to put it mildly, over the last few years including cancer leading to a mastectomy, job loss, financial difficulties, martial problems, etc. Now, she just dwells in this dark place all the time and refuses to do anything about it but complain, and focus on how hard it is, how nobody cares, and how could this happen to her. She is also a chronic perfectionist so nothing can ever meet her expectations, so conversation with her is 99% toxic, and even when I try to shift to other more positive topics, she finds a way to twist it around into something negative. If it wasn’t for the fact that she is my mother, I would cut ties with her, but she IS my mother, I love her and want to help her, but how to help someone who doesn’t want to be helped? 😟
@@busymama7903 i realized at some point not everyone wants to be helped and its not our job to help
Hello from Luxembourg, Europe! :) Thank you Mel for all the precious gifts you give to all of us! ♥️
thank you from Barrie, Ontario
Love from India .. just realized I just made a extremely poor plan for the day while I was journaling
I just found you few months ago, your messages are quite a lot worthwhile, Im watching all your videos on you tube, Regards from Tijuana Mx, God bless you. thanks
Thank you from South Dakota for this training! I look forward to it everyday, I will watch it in again and again.
May I just say that it was adorable to see you blush while talking and laughing with your husband! Even at the end when you appreciated him, it made me smile and go "aww". That was so sweet 😊. Although I also caught you assuming that he was laughing at you when he was simply smiling at a question he read. N I thought...well, there it is, limiting belief that's making her misunderstand. Also I'm not complaining. Just intend to point out what I noticed and the fact that I noticed it all because of this program! So thank you 😊 #MindsetReset
It is cold here in OHIO But I am enjoying these videos. I put positive notes all around to stay Positive
Hi! I’m from Buenos Aires, Argentina (South America) you are wonderful Mel! Love you!! Lots of success for you and your family! Thanks for sharing your secrets! ❤️❤️❤️😘😘🤗🤗
Love Mel Robbins! Wonder if she has any specific advice for the pressures Criminal trial lawyers go through - specifically, the time pressure of back-to-back-to-back jury trials when lives are on the line and constantly feeling like there's not enough time to prepare. Mel has great advice about running out of time in terms of long term goals, but I'll bet many besides me need help with short-term time management. The anxiety of time constantly running out keeps me from focusing so I can USE the limited time I do have.
You may want to ask your question on her Instagram page - they seem to respond more frequently there. Good luck to you! 🤗
Being a lawyer herself, I'd imagine she'd have plenty of advice in this space...definitely try her on FB or Instagram.
Love this video. I’m loving this process cause is making us realize about how we react in every situation and be conscious about it. Using the tools you’ve shown us, has made me the better version of myself so far. I feel so different and for the better. This is the way I wanted to start my new year long time ago. Thanks Mel!
Thank you so much, Mel and team...I'm learning so much and becoming a less fearful and more positive person because of your training. ❤
Watching from Busan Korea.
Listening from Northridge, CA. These programs are extremely helpful. Working on not beating myself up with every thought about every thing. Loved yesterday's video - Assume positive intent. Not always easy. Thanks Mel.
Richland, WA. Been on since day one. Life changing!
Wamberal NSW, Australia (86km North of Sydney - on the east coast) Beautiful !! Warm thanks for this series a huge Thanks
#replay I find people complain a lot about their health and I seemed to get sucked in, so I have to become more aware of that:)
I’m watching from a place called hatch end in surburbs of London.this is the best thing I’ve come across it’s helping me to have a different outlook on everyday: amazing
Hey Mel!
One thought I had was what if you know someone who is doing the opposite or complaining?
I have a coworker who is overly confident and talks/brags about herself ALL THE TIME. We were both in the same boat earlier in the year when we were almost laid off and then at the last minute got to stay with our company. I feel like through your training I notice her triggers (as well as mine) and feel like it’s a defense mechanism that she does now ever since we faced the reality that there is no such thing as job security... I guess as you said this would be a ‘productive’ form but feel like it’s masking deeper emotional layers.
I’ve turned into the exact opposite and have a lack of confidence from my old managers and of course feel like as an employee I’m disposable.
Watching the replay from BC. Canada :)
You are part of my morning routine
I love the mind and the way we can change the way we can think! great upfront explanation- its about being proactive to change your thought process and you are right about the complaining habit. seems odd that we complain to connect to others
I am from Indonesia, I enjoy your show so much.
Hi Mel, Thorold, Ontario, Canada - about an hour from Toronto, closer to Niagara Falls :)
Hello Robbins greeting from India. You really are changing my life. Thank you. Want to see you in India.
Gosh I love you Mel. You are my guru! Truly. Watching from Ontario, Canada.
Great challenge.. I am going to extend it for a a week! Powerful activity, and infectious to others around it!
I’m watching from Nashville, TN
Richmond, VA
Cairo Egypt
Thanks for this wonderful lesson Mel!
Hi Mel I simply love your mind reset series when it o er I am going back and doing it again to reinforce it I am in South Australia 🇦🇺
👍 constantly
You are inspiration and wid in my life!
Hi Mel! Watching from Tijuana, México.!
We are from Oregon! Loving this!! Thank you Mel for doing the best thing for myself & my family! I owe you the World or something major🤗🥰👍🏻👌🏻
Wow spot on.. I work in a team of girls and they think it’s socially bonding to complain all day about how cold it is and it just annoys the hell out of me. Luckily I don’t do this myself 😁
‘Fix the Patterns” Funny how we can spot others patterns....from Calgary.
Mel, I absolutely love your blazer!
Watching from Denver, Colorado 💖
Hello everybody from South Italy, Puglia, Itria Valley. 😊
Thank you so much for this study, it has really brought some light to my stress level. I have changed ways of thinking. I also just had to order the journal wanted my own hard copy. It's on back order so I am waiting on it can not wait to get started on it.
No complaining for 24 hours would have been impossible before the #mindsetreset program. Thank you for sharing.
Watching from Los Angeles San Fernando Valley Area.
Hi! I am from Romania and I start my every single day watching your videos which are so inspiring, thank you a lot! Though I told my mother that she has the habbit of constantly complaining which makes her feel more miserable, she doesn't want to change because she says it is a form of therapy, but I don't see any improvement. How can I help her?
How do you differentiate between observing something that is negative and vocalizing it as purely an observation and complaining? Am I using semantics to justify a negative thought pattern?
I am watching from Germany🤗 Mel you are so damn inspiring! Your honesty and this free program are very helpful. Thank you so much❤️
Another great video! This journey has been life changing and I will hate to see it end.... from Moncton, NB, Canada