There are few relatives of mine who do not know about my transition although they see me everyday and notice the change and ask me about it. I simply don't have interest in explaining them that i am transitioning. They do ask me to cut my hairs and all. But i just ignore it. I noticed that now they are getting tired of asking me all these questions.
Hey, I think there is little that can be done with people of that era in terms of changing attitudes. I have one relative (also 80/90's) who think's i'm sending myself to hell etc (Christian stuff in this case) but thankfully he is far away so I don't have to see him. It is not a nice feeling though knowing relatives have to put up with shit cause your trans. My advice? Don't deny, don't advocate, if anything just reiterate whenever you do have to see him that your happy now. full stop. In terms of your mum having to deal with it, if she has the same attitude, and tackle the issue with the simple "he's happy", your grandfather may see it's a lost cause to fight it and he might eventually give in (in terms of not bringing it up as much, even though he still does not like it) . Hope this helps!
It seems like you have pushed it pretty far already, given that you are already on T for half a year. Maybe you can go the way of like "I went to the doctor because I was having all these problems, and it turns out I am actually a guy". Better prob if your mom starts that conversation before you step in. I still have to tell my grandparents (also alround 90) and plan to do so soon, before starting T. One of them is pretty religious but pretty cool, and I think she'll definitely grieve but accept me in the end. The other one is "casually" very homophobic, as in he is very surprised every time he meets an openly gay person that they are such a nice person. Not sure how he'll take it.
I started T month ago and still my father doesn't know about my transition... I feel so horrible about it. But i'm too scared to tell him.
Update: He knows but we don't talk about it. At first I thought he would try to stop my transition but no, he told me to keep going.
There are few relatives of mine who do not know about my transition although they see me everyday and notice the change and ask me about it. I simply don't have interest in explaining them that i am transitioning. They do ask me to cut my hairs and all. But i just ignore it. I noticed that now they are getting tired of asking me all these questions.
Hey,
I think there is little that can be done with people of that era in terms of changing attitudes. I have one relative (also 80/90's) who think's i'm sending myself to hell etc (Christian stuff in this case) but thankfully he is far away so I don't have to see him. It is not a nice feeling though knowing relatives have to put up with shit cause your trans.
My advice? Don't deny, don't advocate, if anything just reiterate whenever you do have to see him that your happy now. full stop.
In terms of your mum having to deal with it, if she has the same attitude, and tackle the issue with the simple "he's happy", your grandfather may see it's a lost cause to fight it and he might eventually give in (in terms of not bringing it up as much, even though he still does not like it) .
Hope this helps!
It seems like you have pushed it pretty far already, given that you are already on T for half a year. Maybe you can go the way of like "I went to the doctor because I was having all these problems, and it turns out I am actually a guy". Better prob if your mom starts that conversation before you step in.
I still have to tell my grandparents (also alround 90) and plan to do so soon, before starting T. One of them is pretty religious but pretty cool, and I think she'll definitely grieve but accept me in the end. The other one is "casually" very homophobic, as in he is very surprised every time he meets an openly gay person that they are such a nice person. Not sure how he'll take it.