3 Signs You Are NOT Ready For A Girlfriend
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- Опубликовано: 22 апр 2024
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Sign 1: You're watching this video
Sign two it got recommended to me
Aaaaah man common AT least give us a hope
Step 1 report the video for misinformation when the blackpill is the only reliable and factual truth
@@shokingblazemangamingactually this should be first and his should be second
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1. Unhappy with yourself
2. Can't take care of yourself & have poor habits
3. No purpose, meaning, or direction in your life
How to find a purpose then? I think i never will...
@@JK-nj3bt you can. What do you want? There must be something you probably want to do. Maybe you wanna build muscle, or make money. Maybe you wanna do art and you have an hidden artist inside of you that you have never noticed. There must be something. Meditate and you will find the answers.
Honestly like Matt's videos, but reading this just saved me 8 minutes, cuz none of those affects me, therefore it ain't not being ready what's keeping me from starting a relationship as i thought it could be, maybe it's just not being available or not having found a connection good enough to give that step.
@@SamWinchesterr i'm already on making money and building muscles but that's not it
If you not christian then try to connect to God as he can give you purpose for you life. You just got to trust him and have faith in him. Stay Blessed and remember God is always with you
You can be out of shape before getting a girlfriend if you are already happy and not insecure about your looks, but it will definitively give you a huge confidence boost if you are looking good
I strongly disagree. There is no better time for a man to find a woman than when he is at rock bottom. A woman that loves a man at his absolute worst, THAT is a KEEPER. Along the lines of: If you don't want me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best. Most women wait at the finish line and try to hook one of the winners, the top percent of men. Those women are NOT special. A women is special when she starts the race with you and, no matter what happens, stays by your side.
I agree with that compare argument
This is the best advice i've ever heard about women. The thing is I had to struggle alone in my road towards success. Now, when I am where i need to be, whenever i thing about women, I always get furios and won t let them get me, because of the difficult past. I always think that i had to work too much just to simply let some woman who's probably been with lots of chads and tyrones before me, have everything i have. Its too late for me. I m 30, never had a girl, but do have everything, not with the help of a woman by my side, how it should have been. The more folder u get, the more struggle u vad to endure, the more u should feel entilted to the perfect girl. Its not fair.
I 100% agree with you. Not everyone can be perfect and the people that often struggle and need help, the one thats there to help them out is their supporter.
Yeah but its hard expecialy in the generation i am in right now..
Idk, some people could argue that it's not the job of your girlfriend. It's more of a "friend" kind of thing. Dating someone at their worst might be an investment for the future as they may turn great once they've passed through it. But some people would like to have a simple relationship, one that doesn't involve having to carry the burden of two people at once. Someone who is currently taking actions to change his life is okay. You'll be friends while he's recovering, then build something. But someone who doesn't plan to do anything about it...They need to focus on themselves (and they need a therapist more than a girlfriend).
Conclusion: I'm fucked
You are not fucked man. You can do this 💪. Don't give up
only if you dont wanna stand up and become something
Haha same. 🫠 Well it's difficult to change but it's within anyone's reach so we might wanna try it out
We are both cooked🔥🔥🔥🔥
Actually, the opposite. You ain’t gettin none.
This is a joke, fr though this means that you have so much room to grow. Take advantage of it 😎
3 signs a girl is not ready for a boyfriend:
1- she is rude and unpolite and obnoxious.
2- she is on her phone 14 hours a day
3- she tells a man everything he does is not right.
that leaves about 0,0000000001 percent ready for a relationship................
1. Unhappy with herself
2. Can't take care of herself & have poor habits
3. No purpose, meaning, or direction in her life
Wonder why this comment has less upvotes than the one bashing males hmmm
This is most women today
@moglet12345 bro what that comment was summarizing the video
@moglet12345 its also older are u dense 💀
This why people pleasing behaviors must be stopped, when you trying to please people , people won't respect you, and yeah you must give up your addictions too .
I'm cooked.
I genuinely prefer to be alone, not that I'm asocial but I like when I'm only with my thoughts, it just feels peaceful not to hear any useless bullshit.
Same
Dang
same
its like taking a weight of my shoulders and finally being free, every time i get the opportunity to be alone
However solitude is addicting, so much to the point that i bet i would become a beast (in the sense of a wild animal) if i never interacted with anyone. And this is not possible because i can't just ignore the fact that i live in a society and humans are everywhere, i can't avoid them
Trust me bud, we all like this feeling, but someone will come for you that shares the same quality 😊
It's nice at first, but you get over it....
I've been broken up over my ex for almost 2 years, been wondering through life wondering what to do and why I do it. Going to work, the gym, then back home with very little socialization at all outside of family visits.
Through my own meditation, I've had similar thoughts but they never really resonated until I started seeing videos like this where other guys go over the same situation. I thought I was alone in this.
While it sucks that it's more common than I thought, It's comforting to see that there is hope, and your advice is very much appreciated.
Thank you for this video, I look forward to further working on myself and will be purchasing The Way of The Superior Man as well.
Thank you bro
Well, damn. This was needed.
I struggle with autism. Communication and socializing is really difficult for me. I did workout in the past but it just made me very angry and short tempered because i couldnt socialize with people. It helped me with my depression but this disorder affects my communication so bad that nothing that i did helps me.
Best advice I can give (as someone with ASD and depression too) is to accept yourself for having it. Your neurodivergency isn't going to go away, so for that reason, it's best to accept that you have it. And if you can accept it, people will see that you don't let it be a roadblock in your life, and you can make your life work without it.
As for depression, it's best to seek help for that. I've begun taking venlafaxine since last Saturday (an antidepressant), so there are people to help you out there. If it's in your best interest, and financial situation, of course.
Keep your head up king, always here to talk.
unfortuneately i'm going to assume you never had a GF before, because thats quite a common case for men on the spectrum
@@CSRLaunchpadwhat about if you’re unsure whether you’re autistic? I’m 23 and romantically have 0 experience. I can be kinda awkward at times, I love to socialise and go out but other times won’t have much to say and don’t have the energy needed to “rizz up” a girl,
@@niconiconnu I’m 23 as well, and I was formally diagnosed by professionals when I was 18. It’s all about confidence and self-trust, so you just have to make that first step, strike up a conversation, and keep it going. Always stay calm, as best as you can. She will feel your energy.
And you don’t have go tell them that you’re autistic, even if you’ve been diagnosed or not. All good women will not care about thT
As someone who is also on the spectrum, let me just tell you that, from personal experience, you just gotta focus on yourself first, like the guy said.
Get right with yourself - great advice! As another youtuber likes to say "the most important relationship is the one you have with YOURSELF".
These videos are always really informative bro
He’s totally right on everything. Although I don’t have a girlfriend I find myself wanting one more now that I’m healthy than when I did when I was unhealthy and had destructive habits.
God damn, u described my life like spot on right now. Unhappy with myself, cant take care of myself, addicted to bad habits, toxic relationship like man it was scary how 100% accurate and personal it felt, im speechless
bro thank you so much for this video, i recently just got broken up with and this girl was my world and when she broke up with me it literally felt like she tore my heart out. so seeing this video i think will help me better myself. thank you
Make God you're world because it'll never crumble unless you crumble it.
Well said🔥
Amen!
@@duanJ_aka_wfoundry Thank you👍🏼
Amen
Amen only one can save me and that’s Jesus Christ not the shawty 💯🔥
I just subscribed to you and you happened to upload the absolute perfect video i needed. Thanks bro
Shit man, this video has hit the nail on the head, I’m all 3 of these and been feeling like this for 8/9 months now.
Watching this has really motivated me to sort shit out.
Will check back here when things are better!
Your videos have been helping me and I’ve been struggling with a porn addiction but I’ve been off it for 2 weeks trying to keep myself busy doing other things and thanks for making these videos🤝
New to this channel but already having an impact on me 🙏🙏🙏
Of all the self improvement vids I've seen, this is the most relatable. Thanks, brother
thank you for this vid man, this was a genuine wake up call for me.
literally on the right track, just watched this videos to confirm with myself what i wanna do in life
thank you for the advice, i thought i was the only one to think like that
Great advice Matt
I needed this humbling thank you matt
I won't lie, I was skeptical at first. But you scored some very hard points there. And actually, I can identify myself in all of these signs (minus the taking substances part). So...yeah, I agree with what you said : those are definitely red flags for a romantic relationship, whether it's on your side or your partner's.
You are right brother you hit it off the top.
My ex broke up with me about a month ago, this video really helped and put my mind into a different perspective. Thank You
Speak it brother! thank you!
I sometimes feel like I'm not able to connect with new people I meet in life.
I think a lot of other people and theorize what they might do in the moment but I just don't contact them.
Thanks man! This really helped!
I've always loved being alone and being social so that's good. I am always working on good habits.
I support this. Very true points.
I needed this, I like this girl in my classes and this may help so thank you
Only good points here. keep it like that!
You truly fixed me bro. Many thanks
A good book is : "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray"
Someone at uni told me about it when I was being very distracted by all the girls at uni.
It turned out to be very useful.
At the moment when I look at myself - I'm not ready for a relationship because I haven't sorted myself out yet.
Good thing is I have managed to knock out other bad habits. Booze, drugs and porn and even too much TV, movies etc.
You deserve more subscribers♥️
I figured all of these points now this just confirms it more
I will begin my training
Speaking absolute facts
Another great video Matt! Dropping some real Truth Bombs. For any guy out there looking to reinvent themselves into a man that women actually want then I HIGHLY recommend Mark Manson’s book Models: Attract women through Honesty. It’s without a doubt a life changing and eye opening read.
Great book
Nice video my friend. If someone does what you said, unfortunately is not ready for a girlfriend. If you do this you have two options: You can either learn from them and move forward or do the same mistake with another girl
You don't have to be in shape to get a girlfriend. That was the stupidest thing I ever heard. There are fat and skinny people in happy relationships.
I haven't reached that part of the video yet, but I'm willing to bet it has to do with the fact that being in shape implies you respecting your body (and therefore, YOURSELF), and if you can't even get things sorted out for yourself, then it's practically impossible for you to do something meaningful for your significant other.
Thanks for that
God bless you kind sir for your advice. I will take this to heart and work on my purpose more. Numba 1 I'm good at. Numba 2 needs work still. And Numba 3 needs plenty of work.
finally a man who doesn't care and speaks out against being overweight instead of letting people degrade themselves with fatty foods and shit like that. respect brother u got guts in this oversensitive internet.
It make perfect sense for me man. Ty
Rule 3 is probably the most important
As a bi guy, I dated a boy who was just like this. We broke up after a few months because I just wasn’t attracted to him. No one wants to date someone who they are not attracted to.
then why did you?
Stop trying to be bi.
@@SIIKAP1 chemicals in the brain
@@SIIKAP1 the attraction faded quickly.
Thank you bro
Right, but why would I look for a girlfriend if I am already happy with myself? This shit is just a cope.
thanks bro.
Thank you my boi
I may be not very muscular (right word?), but I do sports like 5 times a week. I am a runner and I need to be light. I don‘t have these big muscles, but I like my body and I know what it is made for.
This is so true I am in this currently 😢thanks
6:07 it's ok to not have an idea of what you wanna do in the future. A lot of us dont
Thank you.
4:36 If I'm a confident but at the same time I'm a shy person, am I going to attract a confident and shy person
Number 3 called me out. I do have a crush on an office mate who is 3 years older than me, and well-established, but I just couldn't get to ask her out because of my social status.
Would have liked to see this video before my relationship. I matched all af the points (and somewhat I still do), and also She did. We were both shit, we bonded on this and tried to grow together to be Better. Until both of our mental health got to the bottom, but It was far worse for her. Now we're both "ok". What i'd like you to know Is that If you love someone, if you truly love each other does not mean It will work, at least not now because love does not make you better.
Very important video
im about to be 32 and im still trying to figure out life and stuff but in the video you did mention and its important is working out and getting better with ur habits, for me im not eating good and im still going to bed at bad times but i am not drinking or smoking so thats good but im still watching porn but im limited it but to me im ok being alone and being by myself and im honestly in my room all the time but i ease my stress by video games but its a good activity to do and ive been a gamer for a long time and i do get to work on time and im not late, and i do other things but i do need to love myself and get better habits, go to bed at better times and work out and i did at a certain point 2 years ago, i worked out 3 times a week and i did that for 2 months but i stopped or just couldnt make time cause i was going full time at my job and i work at a college campus cafe and the fall term was starting and i ended up getting 50+ hours a week and only getting 1 day off and that was saturday but honestly maybe i just didnt make the time and that was my fault. i mean if i started at 2pm to 10pm everyday i should of woke up at 8am and had breakfast and then worked out and be done by 11 then have 2 hours to chill then go to work at 1 to be there at 2. so putting important things first and have a schedule. im focusing on different things right now but do the basics first then worry about others. thanks for the vid dude.
I'm a freshman in college (like you were) at the beginning of my life journey as an adult with nothing on tracks yet, I don't have a clear vision about my life in 5 years and I still have a lot more work to do to reach my dream bodyshape, style and status. So for me, it's that I think that I'm unworthy and I hate myself, so how can I expect a girl to like me?
Thank you
It’s not about the woman, it’s about you. As a man, you’re not on earth to please women, if she can’t be with you from day 1, then she dont deserve u
That's very true statement
Hey Matt. Could you make a video about how to feel content in long term when I actually have beaten every addiction I've ever had, working out for 5 years, meditating and much more? I'm arleady there and I was in a 3 year long relationship but we broke up on good tetms, and I feel like the romantic relationship is the only thing that I lack
The third point is so true 👀
Hey Dude im only 12 almost 13 andd i really like your video You littery motivated me im pretty timid thats one step that i gotta pass before asking her out...i was so timid with my crush i find me ridicuolous thinking of it now that i have to change grade..and class too losing her maybe....Being timid and have crush is like extrimly hard and stuff...Now you really motivated me to take care of myself and think straith because me too when im alone i see only sadness because its really hard to have friends expecialy when your timid althoug i guess im pretty lucky with the amount of friends i have so yeah i wanted to thanks you im gonna try your advices.(Btw sorry for my english im from EU )
thanks bruuw
Am talking to this girl rn and am skinny always have been bc of my extremely high metabolism, but I love myself and she makes me happy and its just that I don't have a drive to exercise frequently I do it from time to time whenever I feel like, if u have anything on motivation to help with that, I would appreciate it
Ty for telling me that am not ready for a girlfriend I like your videos
What if you love yourself but you still feel lonely and depressed?
bruh you really opened my brain ✋🏻🙂
As a girl I appreciate the video! But body type doesn't count towards who I find attractive! I've found many rounder men handsome because I liked their personalities and I was comfortable around them. If you are a little more husky that doesn't matter to me, what matters is if you're happy with yourself! (Now I'm not counting just being unhealthily overweight, like something from a TLC special, that's a different problem. Generally, most girls prefer their partners to be relatively healthy. But being a big dude weight wise is fine!) A skinny girlfriend of mine personally loves huskier guys
Can I ask a question? If a guy puts you your whole world, would that put you off?
@@PizzaTime1983 Like if I'm a guy's entire life? I wouldn't be upset by it and I'd be very flattered! But making me the center of your whole world isn't healthy. I'm an introvert so I kind of need my alone time. But men should have their seperate 'alone' times too. Like going to the gym, playing video games, eating out, or just staying in bed doing nothing taking a mental health day, whatever. It's healthier for both people in the relationship to have their seperate lives and not do EVERYTHING together. Being a better 1 makes you a better 2 after all. If I found out I was my bf's entire life I'd break it off because being in that kind of relationship where someone is dependant on me interacting with them for a good chunk of the day every day is exsausting for me mentally. So I wouldn't be angry or upset or mad, but for my own mental health I'd break it off. Plus I wouldn't want to hurt them either by starting to ghost/brush them off. So it would be out of consideration for them as well.
We want to be valued, and we want you to put effort towards us but we don't want to be your whole life. Like don't center your entire life on what we wanna do. Couples are supposed to have mutual couple goals. Things we BOTH want and can work towards getting. Like maybe a house, car, pet, or maybe having a future together. Heck something as simple as 'wanna meet up at this place when you're free?' But that's different than making ME EXCLUSIVELY your WHOLE WORLD. Like waiting by the phone for hours for me to text you back.
@lillxproductions3234 I'm also an introvert, I even prefer being alone. It's my comfort zone. Do u mean unhealthy becomes it can become pure toxic? Personally, it wouldn't bother me if my gfs world would revolve around me and it was just me all the time. That being said, I would like to spend time to myself also because it's also me, u know. Unless it becomes pure toxic and possessiveness on her end. Then that's a big problem for me, u know.🤷🏽♂️
@@PizzaTime1983 well that's what I'm saying. If a girl treated you as their whole world then you might not get your alone time easily. Or as soon as you get your alone time they want you to spent more time with them to make up for it. As a result, you might start to ignore your gf in favor of just relaxing. Even if she was being pushy straight up ignoring someone would be rude. So then you're put in this position where you have to sacrifice bits of your mental health days for the sake of 'being a good bf' meanwhile your patience runs thin while she demands more and more from you. It makes the relationship miserable for you and for her. Having you be the center of attention doesn't always mean being waited on hand and foot and then going away when you want your alone time. Girls really don't work like that XD
I'm not saying relationships are supposed to be happy ALL the time, but that's a situation that you could just avoid by finding a healthier partner.
There's a good kind of needy and there's a bad kind of needy. I would like to hope I'm the good kind of needy. When my partner would be around I'd want lots of physical affection, hand holding, snuggling, stuff like that. But when we're apart the DMS will be a ghost town XD time for getting my space and your space yknow? There's gotta be a balence. Of course any type of thing like that is best discussed with the person your dating. What's too much for them or too little.
This video applies to everyone I feel like
Im 13 years old and I’m over the normal weight and I’m happy with myself idc about weight I care about strength i do cardio everyday and I stopped looking at my crush I said to my self that it is a process of puberty
Truth
How I counter each of the steps: 1. Making positive changes in health and financial conditions. Got myself debt free a few years ago, made bigger contributions to future plans in retirement, & getting time to workout. 2.Eating more healthy things, putting in time to jobs I have, paying my bills on time, getting in more steps to feel better, & writing a daily journal entry last few months. 3. The job I have had for 4+ years is the 1 I like to keep till it's time to retire in many years for the right reasons. Also being able to give back to a charity organization that was big in my family for years after losing an uncle battling leukemia for years (last 2 years donating to them for good reasons). Enjoying seeing different areas with travel and having those memories to tell others in my stories. Sharing my stories that just because I do not have the higher education and certification for my career to boost credentials does not lower one's quality of life.
checked on all of them :)
Eh for me the issue more lies in I’m fearful of my peace being disturbed, if she’s someone that affects that then she’s not the one
I’m more than ready I just like being single though
Why is bad playing video games if you are not over doing it and doing what you have to do like studying for university/college???
But being skinny isn’t bad. It is if you say it is, or if you hate your body like this, but you are really talking about it like you are a monster if you are. Also take me for exemple. I’m a creative person, so when I have time I draw, create/ play music, create stuff overall! I’m also working and studying at the same time, I couldn’t go to the gym unless I abandon my creative stuff, which isn’t really an option for people like me?
I get the point of the video but it is really focused on a specific type of guys which I can’t relate to. I think mentioning it could be interesting for those that are lost and think they should absolutely follow these tips regardless of what they like
I feel like I watched this before
1 is a big one
i wish i saw this vid 1.5 years ago
Yeah i'm never making it past number 1 rip
💯💯💯
uhm, what if I honestly dont care about the fact that I have girly body while I'm male, dont fully rely on her to feel good but feel empty by myself half-time, has a 50% on the direction thing, and already have her in the friend zone waiting?
"You Are What You Attract" hits hard.
Sit with yourself and think about it . . . Hopefully your life becomes just a little bit better after this.
7:15 bro read my mind
As someone very familiar once said...
"Your life is EVERYTHING! You serve all PURPOSE. You should LOVE yourself, now! And I mean that with a 100 percent, with a 1000 percent. Love yourself."
I’m not not ready for a girlfriend then
I FUCKING LOVE THIS VIDEO!! A week ago, I saw this and was super skinny, but now I work out daily (but I'm still skinny lol)
Keep going bro
You're skinny but your muscles are used for something. It's a great feeling.
I agree with the first one and the second, but the third one I’m a little bit confused of the third one?
It's about the light that keeps you moving forward. Something that makes you wanna get up everyday. If you're living just for living, it's a life choice like any other one but it's hardly compatible with the concept of society.
the sighs does not matter, everyone who got here is doomed, me included.