It took me 66 years to come to a full understanding of how my parents came to be the way they are and the gross trauma they perpetrated onto me...only then could i let the natural instinctive love we all are born with to shine through and include them...I still don't want to be around them...
Beautiful. A friend once spoke to that exact point, adding that all relationships require boundaries of some sort... and that some boundaries simply have to be thicker and more fortified than others.
The part when Rupert speaks about the relationship with his father and how he now loves him without needing him is so so beautiful... thank you for sharing this conversation 🙏
I notice that is the version of my 'self' who I like less when I am with my mother (for example) and then project this onto her. I struggle or resist my own feelings towards her and then experience guilt for feeling that way. I keep remminding myself that this is the way back into self-love,letting go of the 'blame' for not being perfect and the people I am intimate with not being perfect.
According to Ramesh Balsekar nobody is responsable neither for his good deeds nor for his wrong doings therefore neither forgiveness nor condemnation make any sense.
It makes perfect sense that love cannot be divided and parcelled out in different amounts. However, my love for my grandchildren seems so much more intense than my love for all others. What is that?
I know baby. This is a very opportunistic situation because of the way we are used. op·por·tun·is·tic adjective exploiting chances offered by immediate circumstances without reference to a general plan or moral principle. However their lack of moral principle is their problem, not ours. We keep on going with our life as it was meant to be. We met and that is what matters; I am happy with that. Apparently, they need us but the truth is, we are free. ✔
It took me 66 years to come to a full understanding of how my parents came to be the way they are and the gross trauma they perpetrated onto me...only then could i let the natural instinctive love we all are born with to shine through and include them...I still don't want to be around them...
Beautiful. A friend once spoke to that exact point, adding that all relationships require boundaries of some sort... and that some boundaries simply have to be thicker and more fortified than others.
The part when Rupert speaks about the relationship with his father and how he now loves him without needing him is so so beautiful... thank you for sharing this conversation 🙏
This tender, compassionate, loving exchange brought tears of empathy and joy to my eyes.
Many generations will pass before people get it what he is talking about here ... ❤
His calmness is so nice and i love it so much
I notice that is the version of my 'self' who I like less when I am with my mother (for example) and then project this onto her. I struggle or resist my own feelings towards her and then experience guilt for feeling that way. I keep remminding myself that this is the way back into self-love,letting go of the 'blame' for not being perfect and the people I am intimate with not being perfect.
Your comment is very well worded. I know exactly how you feel. This is something I will continue to practice. ☺️✌️
Would love to see an interview with Rupert and his Dad!
Very moving..
Thank you for sharing this
Beautiful.
Beautifully expressed.
Profound!
According to Ramesh Balsekar nobody is responsable neither for his good deeds nor for his wrong doings therefore neither forgiveness nor condemnation make any sense.
Dangerous teaching
It makes perfect sense that love cannot be divided and parcelled out in different amounts. However, my love for my grandchildren seems so much more intense than my love for all others. What is that?
Love can be intense and less intense
Attachment.
loving your parents less is only a problem when you claim to love everyone else the same . this puts into question the validity of the Sameness .
I know baby. This is a very opportunistic situation because of the way we are used.
op·por·tun·is·tic
adjective
exploiting chances offered by immediate circumstances without reference to a general plan or moral principle.
However their lack of moral principle is their problem, not ours. We keep on going with our life as it was meant to be. We met and that is what matters; I am happy with that. Apparently, they need us but the truth is, we are free. ✔
Not personally responsible?????? Is this cuckoo clock time...