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Father... Ten years into my first marriage, I lacked the spiritual maturity and authority to overcome my wife's will to continue living in a very specific neighborhood we could no longer afford as our number of children increased. Eventually, my weakness led to the destruction of a 20yr marriage and children who became materially successful adults, but lacking a thirst for Christ's Truth. What you teach is 100% TRUE. Men can't just "lay down the law". First, we must humble ourselves confess our sins, and pray the Matins and Vespers at home every day, follow the fasts, practice the Jesus Prayer daily. That's the first step.
Fr Please do a video for us wives to understand what it means to “honor” our husbands. What that entails in a biblical context. Thank you 🙏 God bless and keep you
Ephesians 2:8-9 ESV For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, [9] not a result of works, so that no one may boast. Romans 11:6 ESV But if it is by grace, it is no longer on the basis of works; otherwise grace would no longer be grace. ❤✝️
Agreed. I feel like so many women in the church cannot take correction from men. It’s like so many are allergic to saying “ I could be wrong” I should stay far away from these people.
@@FatherSonSpirit1 We are still called to love these women as our sisters but if you're convictions as a man that you are to become a potential martyr for your future wife, yet the woman you are dating or courting does not seek to submit to your headship at all, you must next her. If she's not giving you any room to work with, and she fails to respect any of your wishes, putting a ring on her will mean that you are only setting yourself up for failure & clowning yourself
That was me. It comes from anxiety of not having protection. What first happened was men were broken down. Video games, porn, immaturity…how are women to trust their lead.
@@avono5330 I’m almost same situation married 31 years, 4 daughters, husband in adultery and divorced me. My advice from this point I would have prayed more and submitted more to my husband , more showing him respect and trusting God only to deal with him, having a gentle and quiet spirit ( which I didn’t ). Gods design is good and for the good of husband and wife and children.
Another sad part of life pornography, only fans, etc. is only allowed to flourish because we men keep it in demand. We men need to to do better, than these evil industries will fail
@@LuminescentShine Fewer women participate it than men do, the women are just the actresses but the producers and consumers are mostly men. It's very rare to meet a man who isn't completely addicted to pornography nowadays. Even the men who recognise how evil it is and quit often relapse, time and time again, hurting their wife and children.
Those things will always exist. In fact the Orthodox church purposefully kept prostitution legal during the ERE. Believing that majority of men can conquer sexual sin without marriage is like believing women will go for a guy on their level in a sexually liberated society. Never going to happen.
my husband and I believe in “happy spouse, happy house”. I honor him, he loves me. We are a team when it comes to parenting. We don’t undermine each other and any constructive criticism is always given away from our children and in a respectful manner.
Such a beautiful way of interacting not only with your spouse but also with your children. They will learn to mimic your behaviour in their own relationship one day and respect their partners as well 💕
Father, i have witnessed many marriages crumble because the man tries to exert his authority for the better of the family (things like enforcing modest dress, healthy eating, extra prayer time, giving tough lessons to the kids, etc...). But the wives don't like it so they just divorce them. Idk how these men i know are supposed to handle that. I know them personally and they are Godly men. Lord have mercy
I think this goes into what father is saying. He’s making having children heavier no lighter. He’s not just supposed to dictate what someone should do but help in that process if that’s what they need. Healthy eating is fine but cooking that can be harder depending on what. Modest dressing is great but if she doesn’t like his personal style it can feel controlling because it isn’t her style of modesty.
Marty you're absolutely right. Whenever I'd try to steer my family, and gave my help trying to trying to get the kids to behave my ex wife would run off with the kids and eventually cheated on me too. We're fighting against a whole spirit of the age here and Father is overlooking quite a bit. The courts are more than happy to grant women a no-contest divorce and make money off of child support. They get their fair share with administrative fees. The women today are far beyond just wanting a shiny fruit. I've actually had to help counsel priests whose wives left them in the same manner. Our best recourse as men is to draw closer to God. This is why so many men commit $uicide or turn to drinking, and hete in America we get priests who talk big talk but don't stand up against this injustice for the sake of the families.
@@despairknotI hope my book will help men understand the feminist brainwashing women have endured since the sexual revolution… soon it will be out Lord willing! Women MUST see themselves as the biggest part of the problem rn given the current society…. It’s the stance I took that helped
When my husband started his extra marrital affairs I almost lost my mind. My spiritual father gave me the best advice ever. He told me :"You gave the throne of your heart to your husband. There is only one King who sits there, Jesus. Your husband is a human being, mortal and prone to sin. Sit Jesus in the throne of your heart"...... Following his advice I am able to see my husband as he truly is (as we all truly are), human, weak, struggling with our passions, failing but God loves us despite all that. We each have a spiritual disease, for some it's fornication, for others it's lying, others are proud etc. Thank God our Church is a hospital offering "medicine" through the sacrements of repentance, confession, Holy Communion, prayer, fasting etc. My husband is struggling because I have never seen his eyes smiling and full of light. There is always a darkness in them. Even though he goes to services, he fasts, he receives Communion (he never tells me who his confessor is) he does not change. It is sooo sad!
Lord have mercy! I respect you so much for sticking with your decision. I pray God keeps you, and opens your husband's heart. You're an admirable woman. I hope he appreciates what a gift you are!
@@robinlevy1629I believe, after much struggle with my faith, that spiritual disease is like physical disease. I would not have left my husband if he had had a car accident so why should I leave him now that he is having a "soul" accident? You know the phrases "through thick and thin", 'for better or worse", "in sickness and in health"... All I know is that God gave me this cross to bear for a reason. And I must admit that this cross is so light now that I can hardly tell it's there sometimes. God is really amazing like that!
@@AtanasisaNo, no, do not feel any sorrow! This has been such a valuable lesson for me. A lesson in humility, in learning to forgive, in learning understanding, in learning patience, in learning to keep my mouth shut, in learning acceptance of the freedom we have to love or not love each other. I can go on and on as to how valuable lesson this has been and still is for me..
Sociological reasons: 1. Secular, individualist-based, competitive society based on ungrounded classical liberal values. 2. Materialist presuppositions for human "value" as the roots of the modern attitude of the social sciences to persons, such like the 'homo-economicus.' 3. Lack of community due to modern utilitarianism, self-interest, and egalitarianism. No emphasis of necessary spiritual hierarchy or objective Orthodox spiritual quotas to be filled by denizens. 4. Lack of social-based architectural planning reflects the competitiveness of a community and the idea of "making it to the top" at the cost of organic unity. 5. Lack of shared spiritual values. America is relativistic and utilitarian to the question regarding faith, folk, or fatherland. 6. The rise of liberal femenism in corporate America. Now, even women compete against men. The liberal market knows no morals. Usury, greed, pride, and envy, are all technically "good" for the market game. 7. The privatization and capitalistic subversion of the traditional Christian extended family system, and its transformation into the modern 'nuclear-family' innovation of the mid-twentieth century.
Yea. I have a GF I love to death but she told me she hasn’t been happy the last two years with me and our son is two. I don’t like to argue when she wants to start an argument because I grew up with it all my life watching my parents argue all the time and things get violent. I’m a pacifist and just stay quiet and let people say their piece because I just don’t care anymore and don’t want to talk to people when they’re irritated
If you're truly repenting then you should pray for them and give alms in there names. Also go and confess to your spiritual father and do the penance he gives you.
Dude. Explain what "responsibility" men are running from? I'm the one who prioritizes church. I'm the breadwinner. I work full time and run a business. I'm the one my son respects. I'm the one planning a future. I'm the one who takes all of my wife's mental and emotional abuse. She's obese and can't even manage one child. She's hopelessly dependent on her parents and wants to live next to them because of their money. I don't play video games. I don't do drugs. I'm dying here man. I'm drowning and I just need a break. I feel like I have no control over anything and everything is my fault. I'm constantly being blamed for anything and everything not just by my wife, but by people like you who don't even know me or my situation. And anytime I ever did marital counseling I always took a brunt of the beating because she was always handled with kid gloves
Do what did. Tell her to her face that she is the problem and tell her, literally, to shut up when she is verbally abusing you. If she escalates to physical, get her arrested and file for divorce. Accuse first, file first, and do not let her take the kids with her if she leaves. They do not have the right to do that without your consent.
He wasn't speaking directly to you. He made a video addressing a common problem, it would be impossible for him to comment on every person's unique situation. Why take such offense?
Dude, I was exactly where you were! What you're describing: running a business, living by her parents and her constantly complaining, NEVER happy blaiming me for everything (and her putting on weight all the while me in damn good shape working out regularly). She was the proverbs 21:9 woman. She was the evangelical pharisee. Here's my advice! Get your financial shit together because that lazy self righteous entitled fat pig will come after your shit and take your kids away from you! Take sometime to spread your business through several LLCs - but if you can make someone else the officers and not you! In my case the entitled pig kicked me out of the house. I finally started getting laid again! Life got waaaaay better for me but the diabolical ex did everything to divorce rape me and turn the kids against me (doing psychological damage to them in the process). If I get married again, I'm doing it with a contract stating shared custody with the kids, all medical decisions made by me, and percentage of alimony low as an incentive to not play games. The problem is not with men its a coordinated attack on the family by Hollywood, the CIA, government laws that empower family court, family court and the parasitic system that has grown up around it. The attack on the family is percise and its directected at the man.
My marriage didn't workout the way I wanted. Insecurity can be a cancer to a marriage. My poor wife just could not help herself and no matter what I did she was terrified I'd cheat. Its ironic because she was terrified because she was the one who cheated and realized the guy she cheated with wasn't all that.
The same situation happened with me although we weren’t married. We were together for 4 years. It feels like you’re drowning the entire time. After a situation like this you may find yourself trying to be over reassuring to people you date. It’s then that you realize it was not a normal thing nor is it needed for someone that’s secure.
@@StoicMiles same. We married in 2020. I was happy for 2 months, found out 2 months after we were married she cheated 2 days before our marriage with some guy from work. She had a whole relationship with him. But I forgave her. The problem was that she was scared I would cheat as revenge. I didn't. Thought about it and then realized that it would solve nothing and just make me evil. So I tried to get past it. She became worse, and worse and worse until I had to leave it all behind.
@@theorigami3685 I feel for you brother. I am so glad you didn’t sink beneath your character to seek control or revenge. We might be dealing with a lot more to unpack if we leveled with people like this. My ex also had an affair with a co worker. You can feel the change in them when it’s happening but you bypass your intuition for the sake of love and trust. I truly am hoping and praying for all of you fellow men like myself that have gone through something similar. I pray that you regain trust in your god given intuition again, that you forgive as Jesus did, not for just them but for yourself first and foremost, and I hope that you all choose to believe in a love that can hold a person with love and faith as you once did.
Seeing my parents have these issues is sad but I pray I do not repeat the same mistakes as you mentioned over coming these proclivities through Christ and to have patience and love for my (God willing) future wife.
These videos are a big help. Nobody teaches these things to me in school or anywhere else. Knowing and understanding the things you teach will most probably help me when I get married. Many of the concepts are extremely useful outside of marriage as well. Thank you for taking your time to teach me all of this.
I love that you point out that men have given up their authority. So true. “Men need to bear the responsibility of all things.” Otherwise chaos ensues.
The thing is if they do decide to get married, it’s still legal to divorce them. Ask any man: they aren’t afraid of marriage, they’re afraid of divorce. At least the bottom 90% of men anyway.
@@edm-london1660Yes in an authoritarian way. Authority means exactly that. Same with obedience. Humor and kindness won't solve a disagreement. Authority and submission will. Meaning the wife ought to submit to the authority of the husband at all times.
@@captainvanisher988 It's also important to point out that the man will not be right all the time. And this why he custom made you a help mate, so you can see when you're missing the mark 🫠😉 Always here to help! ✝️🙌😁
this is all so true unfortunately. my husband and i never agreed with "happy wife happy life". Marriages are supposed to be constantly sacrificial. We please one another and that means bending and not doing everything exactly how we want it.
6:29 my late grandpa called this two child and done mentality the 2-kid Suburban Standard. He said most couples would probably only have one kid if they could, but they have two so they can avoid the single child stigma. It’s such a cop out. We need more big families.
One can only wish it was simple. It takes an extremely mature and humble woman to realize that she needs to honor and respect her husband above all else. I don’t see it happening in the times we are living in.
I love how this is like a school class but we are actually learning something that will help us spiritually, socially and emotionally as human beings and Christians.
Father, how to be the authority when not allowed? Women these days only recognize authority in sadistic, manipulative men, they live in such a horrible world that any act of kindness is seen as a weakness thus a lack of authority. I believe the advice is good for the small percentage of women that haven't fall for this modern day culture. God bless you father and thank you for your content!
authority does not ask to be "allowed," bud, you've got it all wrong. That's literally contradictory to what authority entails. Authority _commands_ respect and submission, it does not ask for it, otherwise it is submissive to the other. If they do not willingly submit, you don't associate yourself any further with such women. Because we don't live in an Islamic world, we wouldn't beat her to death or stone her, we simply move onto the next dog. Let the wolf search out its food in the wild, it shall meet its end in the wild. Let the dog enter the home, for it knows where the food is to be found, from the hand of the master which feeds him.
i might not be an Orthodox Christian or very deep into my faith yet, but your videos help everytime i see them. i haven’t even graduated high school yet and you’re already helping me learn important things about life. thank you Father.
Women initiate most divorces because in most relationships it is the man who has to win the woman over while she only has to say yes. Women who do not have to make an effort to win the love their husbands will not value them.
The question you need to do to yourself is: If I was a woman, I would willing happily marry a man like me. And would be submissive yo him and feel respected and loved." 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
You can't spot a woman with integrity? A woman with integrity is not going to say you hit her if you didn't. Are men actually looking for prospective wives at church? Or are they looking at night clubs and gyms?
An astounding video packed with wisdom and knowledge, where not a single word is wasted. Each word carries its weight, seamlessly leading into the next, making it extremely palatable and an amazing watch. Thank you, Father Moses.
If you want your family to survive use your nesting instinct to make your home a place he desperately wants to get to not a place that he wants to avoid and stay away from.
Excellent talk, thank you. Men, your role is to make your woman feel protected. Lead, protect, cover for her. Never blame her, take responsibility. Thank you to the strong men
Father, I thank you for what your teachings you give to this wicked world. You know more about why my own marriage is in turmoil than me. God bless you and your kin.
Great word, father. Thank you ☦️❤️. I’m 41. I watch a lot of men at my age still whining about getting to play video games and smoke weed. It’s what running from responsibility looks like for my generation. God bless
It's all true. It's very hard to get off this vicious circle. Not blaming, because as you said, father, a big chunk of it is men's responsibility, but modern woman are too feisty and entitled and it just undermines all enchantment and desire to go for them and put any effort. Not only in marriage, but dating. Besides, tthe state is backing this nonsense, making women 'stronger' while emasculating men. It will sure change, God will provide. But it's a true challenge we have before us.
Amazing video father Moses. My wife watched it after me and we discussed for 20min. The concept that a woman needs to be loved and a man to be honored explained a lot of our previous frustrations.
I anticipate Fr. Moses’ videos as though my favorite band is coming out with a new album. Absolute bangin’ truth every single video! Thank you Father! ☦️
Father, I stepped up, I lead, pretty well for a long time ... 21 years ... But I still ended up loosing my family for just these same reasons ... 21 years ... That's how much of a sickness this really is ... And now I'm totally alone and nobody speaks to me ... At all ...
Very illuminating video, thanks father. You're right on your criticism about us the men, I think men implicitly know that authority goes together with responsibility, so we gave up the former to get rid of the latter. In the end, we're lazy a lack a direction in life.
In the end, we got rid of our authority but we still bear all the responsibility and we're paying for this. I don't think our unwillingness to take on responsibility is what led to this, though - on the contrary, it's that we didn't understand the immense responsibility which comes with authority, so we thought that hogging all of the authority for ourselves is somehow "oppressive" towards the ones we lead. Or maybe I'm just projecting because this is how I used to think before I understood what authority really was.
This was a Godsend Father thank you, baby #2 kicked our butts and I’m guilty of cowardice and the exact other issues you said. May God keep us vigilant. Many years to you and yours
The couple that worked with us on premarital counseling told us if we made it to anniversary 8, we’d pass a threshold they couldn’t explain but that around year 7 they’d seen in themselves and in friends that it’s the hardest year for marriage. We will celebrate year 10 in a few months.
this is one of your best ones yet I’m trying really hard to lead my family. I have improved a lot over time. but, to be honest, I fear divorce. I fear the modern legal system that will take my kids away from me if my wife becomes “unhappy”. sometimes this fear prevents me from acting.
The defining characteristics of a leader, in my opinion, are 1) the courage to make necessary decisions and accept the responsibility which comes with them, 2) the humility to admit mistakes and learn from them, and 3) the cooperation to listen to the feedback of the ones he leads - we all have some blind spots for our mistakes. Of course, taking feedback into account does not mean following it - there is only one thing for a leader to follow, which this video already covered. If you do all this and she's still "unhappy" without being clear about it, she's either a bad communicator or has ulterior motives - not your fault. As a follower, it's her responsibility to understand the weight of a position of authority and that it's impossible even for an experienced man to always know what the correct course of action is - only an omniscient being would be capable of that. Also, she has already joined you *and* had a child with you - as a mother, it's her responsibility to devote herself to the marriage and if she abandons it just because she doesn't like a (thought-out and good-willed) decision you've made, it's *her* who has failed, not you. Even more so if she leaves for even more frivolous reasons such as her own lust. And then, if the legal system takes your children away from you on a whim, then it's the system which has failed. If it comes down to that, you must still fight for as much custody as possible - we have already seen what happens to children with no father figure.
As someone married over 12 years, this is real s***. Take control, take accountability, and take everything that comes behind it. There's no happy ending, just grinding. If you want to pretend that being married and having kids is easy just go be single.
@@AisElliott A husband is called to make tremendous sacrifices, for sure, but if the dynamic present within his marriage is not built upon a 2 way street of mutual sacrifices, the union will quite often fail. Job was one of the most righteous & masculine men in the Bible (undoubtedly favored by God) but that did not stop his first wife from rebelling against both his headship & against God's will
@@thaimuayshoo1171 Agreed. It absolutely is a two way street where the husband and wife must meet in the middle. "Husband love your wives" without the "Wives submit to your husbands" will only create a weak foundation for the marriage where dysfunction will continue to sow. However, I think when the wife is being obstinate, the man still must lead and follow Christ. No matter what happens, he'll be alright as long as he does that.
Father, bless. The pre-marital counseling class my wife and I were required to attend through Goarch (surprisingly enough) included a lot of the stuff you cover.
Amen father Moses ! This is becoming something of an Orthodox Self Improvement movement. This is miles better than the red pill, alpha male, business entrepreneur self improvement community.
Wives need to be loved. Husbands need to be honoured. Gratitude is the glue in a relationship. 4 sins tear it apart: Criticising, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stonewalling. Good advice, thank you.
Hmm, this exactly the opposite of what I thought I was supposed to do as a man. I’m 29, and single. I have not dated much, only 2 previous relationships one in Highschool one in college. Something I noticed from women is it seems like they don’t want a man to take charge. Honestly I think most women I’ve interacted with kinda wish men did not exist deep down. In my case, it was like the more I tried to do for my last girlfriend, it was never enough for her; it was like pouring nectar in a sieve and trying to hold it in. I am deeply frustrated with women, and am reaching a point of hopeless celibacy. I desire relationship with a woman, but I seem to repulse them, it deeply hurts me.
@@dimitrisgakis9206 I believe I have heard of MGTOW before, but to me it just seemed like dudes that had a disdain for women. I love women. I desire to be with a good woman and to love in a productive marriage until the day I die.
I agree with what you are saying. But woman are also made so masculine and feministic that the role that you must play as a man becomes incredibily difficult. Its incredibily difficult to control a women and an ideology like feminism at the same time
Not only that. The system is made to support women in every sense. Family laws are biased against men. In some countries men have only a 25% chance to get custody over children. The standard post divorce development is that as a man you have to finance your (previous) family but have the possibility to see your kids once a week or biweekly. Taking authority and responsibility in such a context is hard. Women can always escape.
This is how we were brought up to be in this culture. We are expected to do it all; work a full-time job, be keepers of the home, take care of children, look perfect, be sexy but modest, be lighthearted, submissive, but also bosses. Society expects everything out of women, we are expected to be perfect. It's exhausting, I feel like my husband doesn't understand the pressure I experience every single day to be perfect.
@@daisylavenderloveQuite the opposite. Society doesn't expect women to be submissive, to be perfect or to be sexy. Hell, society doesn't expect women to get married or have children. Women face very little expectations from society. However, women who follow God face the expectations that He ordained upon them. In contrast men handle the vast burden of the expectations of society.
@@captainvanisher988 I guess it depends on who you ask. Society definitely places expectations on men but I do not understand why you believe that society doesn't expect anything of of women. You are a man so you have your own experience & I am a woman who was raised to be masculine & highly self-sufficient & independent but also learned through my romantic relationships that not only am I expected to work full-time, but I'm also expected to clean the whole house, cook, watch my figure, & always be happy & peaceful. If I do not, society thinks it's ok for my man to cheat on me because if I don't work, especially full-time, I'm lazy, if I don't watch my figure, he has free liberty to act on attractions to others because I don't respect him enough to care for my body, if I don't clean the house & neither does my husband, I will be judged as lazy, not him. You are entitled to your views but you do not understand what it is like to be a woman in this Era. A long, long time ago women didn't have any expectations placed upon them except to get married, have children, keep house, be obedient to their husbands, & be completely provided for & taken care of. Since several decades ago when women's presence in the workforce grew, & since then has grown more & more, women are now expected to work outside the home. If you ask many men if women should work, their answer is yes, because we are expected to be equals to men now. So yes, we are expected to do a lot.
In the name of the Father The Son and the Holy Spirit Amen great video Father Moses, I am so grateful to hear these messages from someone within the institution with a critical thinking mind, your perspective and preaching is so valuable.
@@kingwooly6211 Ephesians 5:25-27 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish". This verse prohibits husbands from devaluing, humiliating, belittling, or emotionally or physically wounding their wives.
I thought this was a good video fr Moses a couple points I would add: - I'd be cautious blaming men today for mistakes in past history. Though, yes my tendencies to sin may be shared with Adam, I also did not help pass the 19th amendment or take a seat at the 1848 Seneca falls convention or enact VAWA or the Duluth model etc. - Additionally, while I think for sure God's punishments for Adam in toil were just, so were His punishments for Eve via increased subjection & birthing pains. How could this possibly not be the case? - Systemic factors are a greater impediment towards strong men, stable marriages, husband led-single bread winner 2 parent households than you'd probably like to admit or maybe understand. Factors such as: - No fault divorce w/ women gaining sole or majority custody over children - Media women are consuming which stirs up womens fallen tendencies to rebel & usurp - Other women in her family, social circle, & within her social media community actively looking to sabotage her good, godly marriage - Single mothers (rates skyrocketing) & female majority public school teachers will never be able to raise & develop a young boy into becoming a man - The absolute elimination of all male spaces such as gyms, bars, gentleman's clubs, police/fire dpt/military etc. - Not just DEI actively discriminating against men but various other female quotas in academia & complete garbage from ditzes in the HR department. These clueless young women often wholly indoctrinated by pseudo-sciences in the humanities like psychology Every behavior of men is deemed as toxic including by many cowardly pastors & priests entrusted by the Lord to assist in shepherding his flock. Not calling you out here specifically but it's a common issue that I've seen
To your first point, it was men who passed the 19th amendment and such. They still decided to listen to the suffragettes despite the fact that most women did not want the vote. Even today men still hold most political seats. You don't think he knows of Eve's curse? Just because he doesn't specifically talk about it doesn't mean he's solely putting the fault on men. Many male centric content already emphasize the woman's fault.
People can heal from promiscuous pasts and if they’ve met you as a religious person and you have had a chaste courtship, she has already done her work to heal. Redemption is the entire point of Christianity.
@@mihailomiodrag7257brother a Godly woman is not led by society but Christ. If you seek woman that worship society rather than Christ of course they will be promiscuous
@@Jd-sd7xv We are talking about promiscuous women and they make 70-80% of western societies. I am not talking about a small percentage of God fearing women. Just look around yourself. I am from Europe and the situation is saddening. 90%+ people only respect God with their mouth or they are atheists .
hi father Moses, i'm learning from your videos, i'm trying to get closer to god. i have almost no religious background so slowly wraping my head around all of this. you were already a really good guide for me. regards from Argentina.
Which coin should we use when a husband & wife butt heads over decision making? I thought while the husband is called to be obedient to Jesus Christ, the wife is called to submit to her husband? I don't see how patriarchy is 50/50 at all
Thank You Sir, I am praying to God to give me the spiritual strenght to propose my girlfriend after dating her for 1 and a half year, to look at her heart and don’t doubt the Lord. God bless!
This channel is a gold mine of generational Godly masculine wisdom. It does not matter whether you are Christian, Jewish, or Muslim. Any man who believes in God can see the wisdom in this content and respect it. Very happy I came across you Father Moses, and I am recommending you to all of my closest friends.
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Ten years into my first marriage, I lacked the spiritual maturity and authority to overcome my wife's will to continue living in a very specific neighborhood we could no longer afford as our number of children increased. Eventually, my weakness led to the destruction of a 20yr marriage and children who became materially successful adults, but lacking a thirst for Christ's Truth.
What you teach is 100% TRUE.
Men can't just "lay down the law". First, we must humble ourselves confess our sins, and pray the Matins and Vespers at home every day, follow the fasts, practice the Jesus Prayer daily.
That's the first step.
Fr
Please do a video for us wives to understand what it means to “honor” our husbands.
What that entails in a biblical context.
Thank you 🙏
God bless and keep you
Coach busted out the white board for this one 😂
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Ephesians 2:8-9 ESV
For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, [9] not a result of works, so that no one may boast.
Romans 11:6 ESV
But if it is by grace, it is no longer on the basis of works; otherwise grace would no longer be grace.
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@@GogglesOstrich You can't be in God's presence if you don't want to. Apostasy is a thing.
@@GogglesOstrich Yes, we are saved by grace alone through faith. Not through faith ALONE though.
You know it gets serious, when the priest pulls out the whiteboard.
God bless you Father Moses, you are fantastic.
Moses is aware of how the younger generation notices subtle details.
lol that's funny
“And don’t address anyone here on earth as ‘Father,’ for only God in heaven is your Father.”
Matthew 23:9
@@kx23753so I’m going to hell for referring to my biological father as what he is😿
@@cody6872 are you being hyperbolic?
"Take your cross and bench press it"- Father Moses, probably
No. You're being nailed to it.
Solid merch idea
"Happy wife, happy life" is the worst saying ever created to describe marriage.
Precisely correct!
It came from the worse generation ever, the boomers.
Wife means - neck
Husband means - head
Ever turn your head against the ability of your neck?
Exactly.
@@truthbetold2354 the neck wouldnt know where to turn without the head...
The wife needs to be loved and the husband needs to be honored is the GOLDEN TICKET
if he is honest he will loose all property and will be easy to control. In the end he will also lood his wife.
Even outside of marriage I'm noticing women crave to control men in simple conversations, it's weird, this is spiritual warfare 100%
Agreed. I feel like so many women in the church cannot take correction from men. It’s like so many are allergic to saying “ I could be wrong” I should stay far away from these people.
these women have inferiority complex
@@FatherSonSpirit1 We are still called to love these women as our sisters but if you're convictions as a man that you are to become a potential martyr for your future wife, yet the woman you are dating or courting does not seek to submit to your headship at all, you must next her. If she's not giving you any room to work with, and she fails to respect any of your wishes, putting a ring on her will mean that you are only setting yourself up for failure & clowning yourself
They can not control masculine men but only weak effeminate men who allow them to dominate. And that’s most men in todays society
That was me. It comes from anxiety of not having protection. What first happened was men were broken down. Video games, porn, immaturity…how are women to trust their lead.
Not even kidding I just prayed to God about this not even 10 mins ago Glory to God
So flippin accurate. Im 60. Divorced 30 yrs. 3 grown kids. This is so spot on. Thank you Father. Get in there kids... do it.
why do you think it ended that way, your marriage? if you can turn back time what would you have done differently, im curious as someone in their 20s
@@avono5330 great question
@@avono5330 I’m almost same situation married 31 years, 4 daughters, husband in adultery and divorced me. My advice from this point I would have prayed more and submitted more to my husband , more showing him respect and trusting God only to deal with him, having a gentle and quiet spirit ( which I didn’t ). Gods design is good and for the good of husband and wife and children.
You’re allowed to be divorced in orthodoxy - even 3 x !!
@@jenniferprull1887 Great! If you’re happy… but if you’re miserable it’s ok to divorce…
We are not Catholics!
Another sad part of life pornography, only fans, etc. is only allowed to flourish because we men keep it in demand. We men need to to do better, than these evil industries will fail
Women also participate in creating it. But I agree that we men need to do better.
@@LuminescentShine Fewer women participate it than men do, the women are just the actresses but the producers and consumers are mostly men. It's very rare to meet a man who isn't completely addicted to pornography nowadays. Even the men who recognise how evil it is and quit often relapse, time and time again, hurting their wife and children.
Satan's industry has impacted our minds and society more than we realise.
Those things will always exist. In fact the Orthodox church purposefully kept prostitution legal during the ERE. Believing that majority of men can conquer sexual sin without marriage is like believing women will go for a guy on their level in a sexually liberated society. Never going to happen.
This doesn’t make sense. Around 40% of corn watchers are women. Even if all men stopped watching it, it wouldn’t fail.
my husband and I believe in “happy spouse, happy house”. I honor him, he loves me. We are a team when it comes to parenting. We don’t undermine each other and any constructive criticism is always given away from our children and in a respectful manner.
Such a beautiful way of interacting not only with your spouse but also with your children. They will learn to mimic your behaviour in their own relationship one day and respect their partners as well 💕
Father, i have witnessed many marriages crumble because the man tries to exert his authority for the better of the family (things like enforcing modest dress, healthy eating, extra prayer time, giving tough lessons to the kids, etc...). But the wives don't like it so they just divorce them. Idk how these men i know are supposed to handle that. I know them personally and they are Godly men. Lord have mercy
I think this goes into what father is saying. He’s making having children heavier no lighter. He’s not just supposed to dictate what someone should do but help in that process if that’s what they need. Healthy eating is fine but cooking that can be harder depending on what. Modest dressing is great but if she doesn’t like his personal style it can feel controlling because it isn’t her style of modesty.
... and above all love your wife (hardest commandment of all). being tender, gentle, etc. it's what the father emphasized towards the end.
Marty you're absolutely right. Whenever I'd try to steer my family, and gave my help trying to trying to get the kids to behave my ex wife would run off with the kids and eventually cheated on me too. We're fighting against a whole spirit of the age here and Father is overlooking quite a bit. The courts are more than happy to grant women a no-contest divorce and make money off of child support. They get their fair share with administrative fees. The women today are far beyond just wanting a shiny fruit. I've actually had to help counsel priests whose wives left them in the same manner. Our best recourse as men is to draw closer to God. This is why so many men commit $uicide or turn to drinking, and hete in America we get priests who talk big talk but don't stand up against this injustice for the sake of the families.
@@despairknotI hope my book will help men understand the feminist brainwashing women have endured since the sexual revolution… soon it will be out Lord willing! Women MUST see themselves as the biggest part of the problem rn given the current society…. It’s the stance I took that helped
The problem is that they ever married such women. Those are Ezabel of our age.
They fail because people seek to be loved rather than to love .
Wake up brother,father Moses released a new scrumptious video
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Thanks for this video, I am 23, my wife 25 are catechumans in the Orthodox Church. Pray for us.
Christ preserve my marriage!
Christ money comes for you ,Christ bank great loans
When my husband started his extra marrital affairs I almost lost my mind. My spiritual father gave me the best advice ever. He told me :"You gave the throne of your heart to your husband. There is only one King who sits there, Jesus. Your husband is a human being, mortal and prone to sin. Sit Jesus in the throne of your heart"...... Following his advice I am able to see my husband as he truly is (as we all truly are), human, weak, struggling with our passions, failing but God loves us despite all that. We each have a spiritual disease, for some it's fornication, for others it's lying, others are proud etc. Thank God our Church is a hospital offering "medicine" through the sacrements of repentance, confession, Holy Communion, prayer, fasting etc. My husband is struggling because I have never seen his eyes smiling and full of light. There is always a darkness in them. Even though he goes to services, he fasts, he receives Communion (he never tells me who his confessor is) he does not change. It is sooo sad!
Lord have mercy! I respect you so much for sticking with your decision. I pray God keeps you, and opens your husband's heart. You're an admirable woman. I hope he appreciates what a gift you are!
Lord have mercy, really so sorry for your situation dear. May mother of God be with you.❤
@@robinlevy1629I believe, after much struggle with my faith, that spiritual disease is like physical disease. I would not have left my husband if he had had a car accident so why should I leave him now that he is having a "soul" accident? You know the phrases "through thick and thin", 'for better or worse", "in sickness and in health"... All I know is that God gave me this cross to bear for a reason. And I must admit that this cross is so light now that I can hardly tell it's there sometimes. God is really amazing like that!
@@AtanasisaNo, no, do not feel any sorrow! This has been such a valuable lesson for me. A lesson in humility, in learning to forgive, in learning understanding, in learning patience, in learning to keep my mouth shut, in learning acceptance of the freedom we have to love or not love each other. I can go on and on as to how valuable lesson this has been and still is for me..
@@nikoletalappa2518🙏🏻❤️🔥☦️
"Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings."
- Proverbs 31:3
Sociological reasons:
1. Secular, individualist-based, competitive society based on ungrounded classical liberal values.
2. Materialist presuppositions for human "value" as the roots of the modern attitude of the social sciences to persons, such like the 'homo-economicus.'
3. Lack of community due to modern utilitarianism, self-interest, and egalitarianism. No emphasis of necessary spiritual hierarchy or objective Orthodox spiritual quotas to be filled by denizens.
4. Lack of social-based architectural planning reflects the competitiveness of a community and the idea of "making it to the top" at the cost of organic unity.
5. Lack of shared spiritual values. America is relativistic and utilitarian to the question regarding faith, folk, or fatherland.
6. The rise of liberal femenism in corporate America. Now, even women compete against men. The liberal market knows no morals. Usury, greed, pride, and envy, are all technically "good" for the market game.
7. The privatization and capitalistic subversion of the traditional Christian extended family system, and its transformation into the modern 'nuclear-family' innovation of the mid-twentieth century.
Wow, your comment is awesome 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼 Very short and accurate observation of modern stuff ✅✅😥🚨
You got it right
Every kind of feminism not just liberal.
Yea. I have a GF I love to death but she told me she hasn’t been happy the last two years with me and our son is two. I don’t like to argue when she wants to start an argument because I grew up with it all my life watching my parents argue all the time and things get violent. I’m a pacifist and just stay quiet and let people say their piece because I just don’t care anymore and don’t want to talk to people when they’re irritated
Best advice I ever got was to be a good role model for your wife. She wants to look up to you, so give her a reason to. ☦
Father I have sinned against a brother and his wife, I have never felt so low in my life. Please pray for him and his family.
If you're truly repenting then you should pray for them and give alms in there names. Also go and confess to your spiritual father and do the penance he gives you.
Repent and pray to the Lord in repentance,ask for forgiveness and then repay the damage you did to your brothers
😂 no way did u fux bro’s wife
Father Moses busted out the whiteboard and actually gave us a mid-game pep-talk.
God Bless, this is something that we need.
This wisdom is like rain in the desert, in today's world.
"........But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this." 1 Corinthians 7-28
That's why I won't be getting married
Yup
yeah thats why my bloodline is ending with me
Dude. Explain what "responsibility" men are running from? I'm the one who prioritizes church. I'm the breadwinner. I work full time and run a business. I'm the one my son respects. I'm the one planning a future. I'm the one who takes all of my wife's mental and emotional abuse. She's obese and can't even manage one child. She's hopelessly dependent on her parents and wants to live next to them because of their money. I don't play video games. I don't do drugs. I'm dying here man. I'm drowning and I just need a break. I feel like I have no control over anything and everything is my fault. I'm constantly being blamed for anything and everything not just by my wife, but by people like you who don't even know me or my situation. And anytime I ever did marital counseling I always took a brunt of the beating because she was always handled with kid gloves
You my man are part of the silent majority of married men. I’ll pray for you brother. Keep God in your thoughts don’t let the darkness win.
Do what did. Tell her to her face that she is the problem and tell her, literally, to shut up when she is verbally abusing you. If she escalates to physical, get her arrested and file for divorce. Accuse first, file first, and do not let her take the kids with her if she leaves. They do not have the right to do that without your consent.
Brother he is not speaking directly to you. He's not blaming you for anything, he doesn't even know you.
He wasn't speaking directly to you. He made a video addressing a common problem, it would be impossible for him to comment on every person's unique situation. Why take such offense?
Dude, I was exactly where you were! What you're describing: running a business, living by her parents and her constantly complaining, NEVER happy blaiming me for everything (and her putting on weight all the while me in damn good shape working out regularly). She was the proverbs 21:9 woman. She was the evangelical pharisee. Here's my advice! Get your financial shit together because that lazy self righteous entitled fat pig will come after your shit and take your kids away from you! Take sometime to spread your business through several LLCs - but if you can make someone else the officers and not you! In my case the entitled pig kicked me out of the house. I finally started getting laid again! Life got waaaaay better for me but the diabolical ex did everything to divorce rape me and turn the kids against me (doing psychological damage to them in the process). If I get married again, I'm doing it with a contract stating shared custody with the kids, all medical decisions made by me, and percentage of alimony low as an incentive to not play games. The problem is not with men its a coordinated attack on the family by Hollywood, the CIA, government laws that empower family court, family court and the parasitic system that has grown up around it. The attack on the family is percise and its directected at the man.
My marriage didn't workout the way I wanted. Insecurity can be a cancer to a marriage. My poor wife just could not help herself and no matter what I did she was terrified I'd cheat. Its ironic because she was terrified because she was the one who cheated and realized the guy she cheated with wasn't all that.
I’m sorry to hear that dude
The same situation happened with me although we weren’t married. We were together for 4 years. It feels like you’re drowning the entire time. After a situation like this you may find yourself trying to be over reassuring to people you date. It’s then that you realize it was not a normal thing nor is it needed for someone that’s secure.
Yeah, my wife did the same thing.
@@StoicMiles same. We married in 2020. I was happy for 2 months, found out 2 months after we were married she cheated 2 days before our marriage with some guy from work. She had a whole relationship with him. But I forgave her. The problem was that she was scared I would cheat as revenge. I didn't. Thought about it and then realized that it would solve nothing and just make me evil. So I tried to get past it. She became worse, and worse and worse until I had to leave it all behind.
@@theorigami3685 I feel for you brother. I am so glad you didn’t sink beneath your character to seek control or revenge. We might be dealing with a lot more to unpack if we leveled with people like this. My ex also had an affair with a co worker. You can feel the change in them when it’s happening but you bypass your intuition for the sake of love and trust. I truly am hoping and praying for all of you fellow men like myself that have gone through something similar. I pray that you regain trust in your god given intuition again, that you forgive as Jesus did, not for just them but for yourself first and foremost, and I hope that you all choose to believe in a love that can hold a person with love and faith as you once did.
Seeing my parents have these issues is sad but I pray I do not repeat the same mistakes as you mentioned over coming these proclivities through Christ and to have patience and love for my (God willing) future wife.
These videos are a big help. Nobody teaches these things to me in school or anywhere else. Knowing and understanding the things you teach will most probably help me when I get married. Many of the concepts are extremely useful outside of marriage as well. Thank you for taking your time to teach me all of this.
I love that you point out that men have given up their authority. So true. “Men need to bear the responsibility of all things.” Otherwise chaos ensues.
The thing is if they do decide to get married, it’s still legal to divorce them. Ask any man: they aren’t afraid of marriage, they’re afraid of divorce. At least the bottom 90% of men anyway.
@@edm-london1660thank you. Hope you have a good wife 🙏
@@edm-london1660Yes in an authoritarian way. Authority means exactly that. Same with obedience. Humor and kindness won't solve a disagreement. Authority and submission will. Meaning the wife ought to submit to the authority of the husband at all times.
@@captainvanisher988 A wife can't submit perfectly to a husband that isn't also submitted to Christ.
@@captainvanisher988 It's also important to point out that the man will not be right all the time. And this why he custom made you a help mate, so you can see when you're missing the mark 🫠😉 Always here to help! ✝️🙌😁
this is all so true unfortunately. my husband and i never agreed with "happy wife happy life". Marriages are supposed to be constantly sacrificial. We please one another and that means bending and not doing everything exactly how we want it.
6:29 my late grandpa called this two child and done mentality the 2-kid Suburban Standard. He said most couples would probably only have one kid if they could, but they have two so they can avoid the single child stigma. It’s such a cop out. We need more big families.
God gave Wisdom to you grandpa to see that! Awesome. ❤
Not in this world honey! Why bring kids into a fallen world?
This is Protestant thinking not orthodox.
Better to Never reproduce folks
One can only wish it was simple. It takes an extremely mature and humble woman to realize that she needs to honor and respect her husband above all else. I don’t see it happening in the times we are living in.
I love how this is like a school class but we are actually learning something that will help us spiritually, socially and emotionally as human beings and Christians.
I'm not married yet, but I hope to apply this knowledge in the future ❤ Thank you Father ✝️
Father, how to be the authority when not allowed? Women these days only recognize authority in sadistic, manipulative men, they live in such a horrible world that any act of kindness is seen as a weakness thus a lack of authority. I believe the advice is good for the small percentage of women that haven't fall for this modern day culture. God bless you father and thank you for your content!
I hope he see this one here and comments. I feel the same way it's hard to navigate it.
You can't lead unless the wife submits. Imagine a company where no one submits to the boss.
Women have always wanted that kind of man. Female programming has never changed in the entire history of the world.
authority does not ask to be "allowed," bud, you've got it all wrong. That's literally contradictory to what authority entails. Authority _commands_ respect and submission, it does not ask for it, otherwise it is submissive to the other. If they do not willingly submit, you don't associate yourself any further with such women. Because we don't live in an Islamic world, we wouldn't beat her to death or stone her, we simply move onto the next dog. Let the wolf search out its food in the wild, it shall meet its end in the wild. Let the dog enter the home, for it knows where the food is to be found, from the hand of the master which feeds him.
@@TheBanjoShowOfficial Bro cooked XD
i might not be an Orthodox Christian or very deep into my faith yet, but your videos help everytime i see them.
i haven’t even graduated high school yet and you’re already helping me learn important things about life. thank you Father.
Women initiate most divorces because in most relationships it is the man who has to win the woman over while she only has to say yes. Women who do not have to make an effort to win the love their husbands will not value them.
The question you need to do to yourself is: If I was a woman, I would willing happily marry a man like me. And would be submissive yo him and feel respected and loved."
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Doesn't help that under modern law, the man's authority is essentially an illusion that the wife can take away with a single lie.
You can't spot a woman with integrity? A woman with integrity is not going to say you hit her if you didn't. Are men actually looking for prospective wives at church? Or are they looking at night clubs and gyms?
Facts!!!
An astounding video packed with wisdom and knowledge, where not a single word is wasted. Each word carries its weight, seamlessly leading into the next, making it extremely palatable and an amazing watch. Thank you, Father Moses.
My husband and I are about to have our first child, this video couldn’t have come at a better time!!
Congrats!
Congrats❤️
If you want your family to survive use your nesting instinct to make your home a place he desperately wants to get to not a place that he wants to avoid and stay away from.
I would love to have a priest like this. He is a good understanding of relationships.
Excellent talk, thank you. Men, your role is to make your woman feel protected. Lead, protect, cover for her. Never blame her, take responsibility. Thank you to the strong men
what's women's role?
“Never blame her” is not good advice and is toxic to men. Some things are women’s fault shrug 🤷♂️
Father, I thank you for what your teachings you give to this wicked world. You know more about why my own marriage is in turmoil than me. God bless you and your kin.
God help you!
As Patrice O' Neal once said, "Happy wife; miserable man. Happy man; happy relationship."
Amen brother Patrice O’Neal is game master! ☦️🤝
@@snowbully777 Wow, Patrice O’Neil and an orthodox cross huh? Disgusting.
I came up with this saying. Instead of that BS happy wife happy life crap
I say Happy me Happy We.
If she don't like it she can leave 😂😂
@@Bidenomics2024 It's so nice to meet your lovely wife, "Budweiser." What a gal 😂
@@FireflowerDancer Dylan says hi 🤣🤣
They try to take ownership of the relationship, yet never takes ownership for herself or the relationship!😂 make it make sense!
In our darkest moments, He is there when no one else is. You’re never alone when you walk with God. 🖤
Great word, father. Thank you ☦️❤️. I’m 41. I watch a lot of men at my age still whining about getting to play video games and smoke weed. It’s what running from responsibility looks like for my generation. God bless
It's all true. It's very hard to get off this vicious circle. Not blaming, because as you said, father, a big chunk of it is men's responsibility, but modern woman are too feisty and entitled and it just undermines all enchantment and desire to go for them and put any effort. Not only in marriage, but dating. Besides, tthe state is backing this nonsense, making women 'stronger' while emasculating men.
It will sure change, God will provide. But it's a true challenge we have before us.
These days responsibility is decoupled from authority. That is why men don't want to take responsibility.
Amazing video father Moses. My wife watched it after me and we discussed for 20min.
The concept that a woman needs to be loved and a man to be honored explained a lot of our previous frustrations.
I’m a non catholic but Father you just crushed it! Bravo 👏 best example of how to get along and honor your spouse in marriage I’ve ever heard💪🙌
I’m Eastern Orthodox :)
I have been married 22-years and have 5-sons. :)
I anticipate Fr. Moses’ videos as though my favorite band is coming out with a new album. Absolute bangin’ truth every single video!
Thank you Father! ☦️
Father,
I stepped up, I lead, pretty well for a long time ...
21 years ...
But I still ended up loosing my family for just these same reasons ...
21 years ...
That's how much of a sickness this really is ...
And now I'm totally alone and nobody speaks to me ...
At all ...
I'm so sorry.. may the Lord bring you peace ☦
Lord have mercy, pray for them, stay close to Christ. I’m so sorry you’re going through this 🙏🏻😔
Sorry to hear that
Very illuminating video, thanks father. You're right on your criticism about us the men, I think men implicitly know that authority goes together with responsibility, so we gave up the former to get rid of the latter. In the end, we're lazy a lack a direction in life.
In the end, we got rid of our authority but we still bear all the responsibility and we're paying for this. I don't think our unwillingness to take on responsibility is what led to this, though - on the contrary, it's that we didn't understand the immense responsibility which comes with authority, so we thought that hogging all of the authority for ourselves is somehow "oppressive" towards the ones we lead. Or maybe I'm just projecting because this is how I used to think before I understood what authority really was.
Men, do not be in a rush to get married. Focus on developing yourself until God brings her into your life
Like wait till your 73
I don’t think people can even understand how much wisdom there is in this video. Unbelievable. Thank you Father
I understand what you’re saying Father but until Divorce is not normal or illegal, nothing will change.
This was a Godsend Father thank you, baby #2 kicked our butts and I’m guilty of cowardice and the exact other issues you said. May God keep us vigilant. Many years to you and yours
Fr. Moses is at 40k now?! Insane. God has truly blessed his channel.
Good word. Only God can fix what’s broken at my house.
Hello father your videos have really helped me in becoming wiser🙏
The couple that worked with us on premarital counseling told us if we made it to anniversary 8, we’d pass a threshold they couldn’t explain but that around year 7 they’d seen in themselves and in friends that it’s the hardest year for marriage.
We will celebrate year 10 in a few months.
this is one of your best ones yet
I’m trying really hard to lead my family. I have improved a lot over time. but, to be honest, I fear divorce. I fear the modern legal system that will take my kids away from me if my wife becomes “unhappy”. sometimes this fear prevents me from acting.
The defining characteristics of a leader, in my opinion, are 1) the courage to make necessary decisions and accept the responsibility which comes with them, 2) the humility to admit mistakes and learn from them, and 3) the cooperation to listen to the feedback of the ones he leads - we all have some blind spots for our mistakes. Of course, taking feedback into account does not mean following it - there is only one thing for a leader to follow, which this video already covered. If you do all this and she's still "unhappy" without being clear about it, she's either a bad communicator or has ulterior motives - not your fault.
As a follower, it's her responsibility to understand the weight of a position of authority and that it's impossible even for an experienced man to always know what the correct course of action is - only an omniscient being would be capable of that. Also, she has already joined you *and* had a child with you - as a mother, it's her responsibility to devote herself to the marriage and if she abandons it just because she doesn't like a (thought-out and good-willed) decision you've made, it's *her* who has failed, not you. Even more so if she leaves for even more frivolous reasons such as her own lust.
And then, if the legal system takes your children away from you on a whim, then it's the system which has failed. If it comes down to that, you must still fight for as much custody as possible - we have already seen what happens to children with no father figure.
I needed to hear this. This is exactly what god has been encouraging me to remember every single day.
As someone married over 12 years, this is real s***. Take control, take accountability, and take everything that comes behind it.
There's no happy ending, just grinding. If you want to pretend that being married and having kids is easy just go be single.
Rofl. Try taking control, the next thing you know you're kicked out of your own house and in jail.
@@smiechu47exactly. Kicked out of your own church too
@@smiechu47 LOL
@@AisElliott A husband is called to make tremendous sacrifices, for sure, but if the dynamic present within his marriage is not built upon a 2 way street of mutual sacrifices, the union will quite often fail. Job was one of the most righteous & masculine men in the Bible (undoubtedly favored by God) but that did not stop his first wife from rebelling against both his headship & against God's will
@@thaimuayshoo1171 Agreed. It absolutely is a two way street where the husband and wife must meet in the middle. "Husband love your wives" without the "Wives submit to your husbands" will only create a weak foundation for the marriage where dysfunction will continue to sow. However, I think when the wife is being obstinate, the man still must lead and follow Christ. No matter what happens, he'll be alright as long as he does that.
Thank you Father. These videos help keep us men, husbands and fathers accountable as we should be.
Father breaking it down in crayon for the boys. Which is exactly what we needed
Okay but women need to be held accountable.
Father bless!
THIS is the teaching we need in this post modern, secular age.
☦️ IC XC NIKA
Father, bless. The pre-marital counseling class my wife and I were required to attend through Goarch (surprisingly enough) included a lot of the stuff you cover.
This guy is speaking the truth. Thank you for the message.
God bless always dropping gemz
Thank you!
Thank you for this Fatheer Moses. I am almost 20 years old and just so confused about marriage and how I need to become a man, husband and father.
Amen father Moses ! This is becoming something of an Orthodox Self Improvement movement. This is miles better than the red pill, alpha male, business entrepreneur self improvement community.
Boyar jew Luke
Those guys are a sad joke and it's a sad state to be in just living a hedonistic life. Those ppl need alot of prayer.
Wives need to be loved.
Husbands need to be honoured.
Gratitude is the glue in a relationship.
4 sins tear it apart:
Criticising, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stonewalling.
Good advice, thank you.
Hmm, this exactly the opposite of what I thought I was supposed to do as a man.
I’m 29, and single. I have not dated much, only 2 previous relationships one in Highschool one in college. Something I noticed from women is it seems like they don’t want a man to take charge. Honestly I think most women I’ve interacted with kinda wish men did not exist deep down. In my case, it was like the more I tried to do for my last girlfriend, it was never enough for her; it was like pouring nectar in a sieve and trying to hold it in. I am deeply frustrated with women, and am reaching a point of hopeless celibacy. I desire relationship with a woman, but I seem to repulse them, it deeply hurts me.
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mgtow is a starting point for you, but let Christ be your only guide
@@spungypizzacaker I am sorry I do not know what that emoji is depicting. Is that an old timey film camera from the side?
@@dimitrisgakis9206 I believe I have heard of MGTOW before, but to me it just seemed like dudes that had a disdain for women. I love women. I desire to be with a good woman and to love in a productive marriage until the day I die.
It looks like two people hugging@@prestonowens4594
Thank you father. May God give you strength.
I agree with what you are saying.
But woman are also made so masculine and feministic that the role that you must play as a man becomes incredibily difficult.
Its incredibily difficult to control a women and an ideology like feminism at the same time
Not only that. The system is made to support women in every sense. Family laws are biased against men. In some countries men have only a 25% chance to get custody over children. The standard post divorce development is that as a man you have to finance your (previous) family but have the possibility to see your kids once a week or biweekly. Taking authority and responsibility in such a context is hard. Women can always escape.
This is how we were brought up to be in this culture. We are expected to do it all; work a full-time job, be keepers of the home, take care of children, look perfect, be sexy but modest, be lighthearted, submissive, but also bosses. Society expects everything out of women, we are expected to be perfect. It's exhausting, I feel like my husband doesn't understand the pressure I experience every single day to be perfect.
@@daisylavenderlove yes its terrible. I think that is also the reason why so many women are on antidepressants and ssri's.
@@daisylavenderloveQuite the opposite. Society doesn't expect women to be submissive, to be perfect or to be sexy. Hell, society doesn't expect women to get married or have children. Women face very little expectations from society. However, women who follow God face the expectations that He ordained upon them. In contrast men handle the vast burden of the expectations of society.
@@captainvanisher988 I guess it depends on who you ask. Society definitely places expectations on men but I do not understand why you believe that society doesn't expect anything of of women. You are a man so you have your own experience & I am a woman who was raised to be masculine & highly self-sufficient & independent but also learned through my romantic relationships that not only am I expected to work full-time, but I'm also expected to clean the whole house, cook, watch my figure, & always be happy & peaceful. If I do not, society thinks it's ok for my man to cheat on me because if I don't work, especially full-time, I'm lazy, if I don't watch my figure, he has free liberty to act on attractions to others because I don't respect him enough to care for my body, if I don't clean the house & neither does my husband, I will be judged as lazy, not him. You are entitled to your views but you do not understand what it is like to be a woman in this Era. A long, long time ago women didn't have any expectations placed upon them except to get married, have children, keep house, be obedient to their husbands, & be completely provided for & taken care of. Since several decades ago when women's presence in the workforce grew, & since then has grown more & more, women are now expected to work outside the home. If you ask many men if women should work, their answer is yes, because we are expected to be equals to men now. So yes, we are expected to do a lot.
In the name of the Father
The Son
and the Holy Spirit
Amen
great video Father Moses, I am so grateful to hear these messages from someone within the institution with a critical thinking mind, your perspective and preaching is so valuable.
Getting married on September 14th! Thank you very much for this advice!
Fr Moses this video was excellent and you covered a lot of ground quick. This could definitely be broken down into a series.
When a man carries out his God given responsibilities, it is the easiest thing for a woman to submit to him.
And what are those responsibilities?
@@kingwooly6211 Ephesians 5:25-27
"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish". This verse prohibits husbands from devaluing, humiliating, belittling, or emotionally or physically wounding their wives.
Very true ❤ we need to support one another to those ideals
@@kingwooly6211Leadership, providing, protection, etc
Nice one😂
Love your Christian Masculinity content Father Moses. Please continue coaching us ❤
This is incredibly timely for me. I'm getting married in a couple months
Praise be to God!
I thought this was a good video fr Moses a couple points I would add:
- I'd be cautious blaming men today for mistakes in past history. Though, yes my tendencies to sin may be shared with Adam, I also did not help pass the 19th amendment or take a seat at the 1848 Seneca falls convention or enact VAWA or the Duluth model etc.
- Additionally, while I think for sure God's punishments for Adam in toil were just, so were His punishments for Eve via increased subjection & birthing pains. How could this possibly not be the case?
- Systemic factors are a greater impediment towards strong men, stable marriages, husband led-single bread winner 2 parent households than you'd probably like to admit or maybe understand. Factors such as:
- No fault divorce w/ women gaining sole or majority custody over children
- Media women are consuming which stirs up womens fallen tendencies to rebel & usurp
- Other women in her family, social circle, & within her social media community actively looking to sabotage her good, godly marriage
- Single mothers (rates skyrocketing) & female majority public school teachers will never be able to raise & develop a young boy into becoming a man
- The absolute elimination of all male spaces such as gyms, bars, gentleman's clubs, police/fire dpt/military etc.
- Not just DEI actively discriminating against men but various other female quotas in academia & complete garbage from ditzes in the HR department. These clueless young women often wholly indoctrinated by pseudo-sciences in the humanities like psychology
Every behavior of men is deemed as toxic including by many cowardly pastors & priests entrusted by the Lord to assist in shepherding his flock. Not calling you out here specifically but it's a common issue that I've seen
To your first point, it was men who passed the 19th amendment and such. They still decided to listen to the suffragettes despite the fact that most women did not want the vote. Even today men still hold most political seats. You don't think he knows of Eve's curse? Just because he doesn't specifically talk about it doesn't mean he's solely putting the fault on men. Many male centric content already emphasize the woman's fault.
Thankyou Father. This was helpful and insightful.
Wisdom! Thank you for this, Father Moses!
The answer is much simpler... Nearly every modern wmn has slept around and is broken
People can heal from promiscuous pasts and if they’ve met you as a religious person and you have had a chaste courtship, she has already done her work to heal. Redemption is the entire point of Christianity.
@@Foxie770Those are rare cases. Most women after falling don't stand up because society allows them to be promiscuous
@@mihailomiodrag7257brother a Godly woman is not led by society but Christ. If you seek woman that worship society rather than Christ of course they will be promiscuous
@@Jd-sd7xv We are talking about promiscuous women and they make 70-80% of western societies. I am not talking about a small percentage of God fearing women. Just look around yourself. I am from Europe and the situation is saddening. 90%+ people only respect God with their mouth or they are atheists .
And who did they sleep around with?
hi father Moses, i'm learning from your videos, i'm trying to get closer to god. i have almost no religious background so slowly wraping my head around all of this. you were already a really good guide for me. regards from Argentina.
Me pulling out the whiteboard like this to blackpilll the babushkas that tell me im handsome and should get married.
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Thank you so much Father for these videos. They give me so much motivation ☦️
Fr. Moses does not miss. Thanks be to God☦️
Thanks for doing these videos on this topic. You are making real world changes on the ground with this wisdom right away
You know its serious when Father Moses brings the whiteboard.
Thank you for your insight Fr. Moses, you hit every nail on the head.
Actively give control of the relationship to the man ❤️
WOW. This was amazing Father Moses. Please keep making videos. I am new here but you make some of the greatest biblical connections. Thank You
How do you want man to lead on a 50/50 relationship? Thts no logic 😂😂
Which coin should we use when a husband & wife butt heads over decision making? I thought while the husband is called to be obedient to Jesus Christ, the wife is called to submit to her husband? I don't see how patriarchy is 50/50 at all
You only understand the concept of control and do not understand leadership then.
This is absolutely speaking to me.
Everything that I’ve been thinking, father Moses just verbalized. Wow.
Thank You Sir, I am praying to God to give me the spiritual strenght to propose my girlfriend after dating her for 1 and a half year, to look at her heart and don’t doubt the Lord. God bless!
This channel is a gold mine of generational Godly masculine wisdom. It does not matter whether you are Christian, Jewish, or Muslim. Any man who believes in God can see the wisdom in this content and respect it. Very happy I came across you Father Moses, and I am recommending you to all of my closest friends.