"real" books don't matter at all. What matters is the message the writer tried to send to the readers. Paperback, pdf, .txt... it doesn't even matter. I can carry 1000 offline books in my pocket wherever i go + all the books available in the places that have internet connection.
I remember how my mom told me about my great grandpa stopping smoking, first day of his retirement he threw his last packet of cigarettes away and said "Pension is for the essentials not for ciggarettes and alcohol" and he never smoked again.
"Learn to enjoy boredom." This is seriously the most important Life Hack, period. I'm so glad I was born before the internet, so I can remember what it was like.
Same here i'm nearly 25 but i remember how less internet and smartphones felt like. I was just getting bored and started reading books in my room, stared to dusk from my 5th floor apartment.
there was one of those studies were they put childlren in front of a cookie and tell them if they dont eat it for 10 minutes, they get 2 cookies or whatever turns out the ones that covered their eyes were the most succesful The easiest way to avoid temptations in generals is to just distance yourself from them, dont see them, dont go near them, dont think about them, make them hard to reach
The problem with that is when all your productive hobbies/habits are also on the computer. Art, music composition, coding, etc. It's something I've recognized is a real problem for me for quite a while now because all the passive and active hobbies are packaged under the same roof, and it's just _so much easier_ to engage in the passive ones.
Flawed study since double the reward is not much of a reward. if they tryed 1 cookie vs 1 bag of cookie results will lean more towards waiting . Since the pleasure time 1 cookie brings or 2 cookies brings has only 1% diffrence not double while a bag a cookies only has 25% at best.
@@MediaMunkee Same for me, im a software engineer work 8h on a full time job, afterwards my hobby is actually building software. But I dont see it as a problem, its different to being on the computer and watching porn or playing video games. But I do would love to get more contact to nature.
80% agreed, but you are missing that people have differing amounts of self-control. It's a skill that must be learned. You can't tell people who haven't learned to command themselves "yo bro just stop", cause they won't. Some permanently online normies are really far behind in maturation and need to take baby steps. The average person also lacks some sort of life-plan and literally don't know what to do without their addictions. In response to this advice they might stare at the wall for a while and think to themselves: "Well, I tried being bored and it sucks. Back to easy dopamine hits."
But you can’t teach people to develop self control, it’s something they have to figure out entirely on their own. So really the only advice you can give them is “just stop” and let them figure out exactly how they’re supposed to do that
"you can just stop" Damn why has it taken this long for me to realize something this obvious? sincerely thanks for an empowering message, Luke It appears a lot of people think I was being a snarky, sarcastic ass even though I used the word sincerely. I was not.
This feels like "why are you depressed? Just stop being sad". The advice he gives is alright but months and years of habit cannot be stopped that easily
The mindset change from “I need it” to “I want it” has been the biggest help. I still do all sorts of things that lead to my temptation issue, but they are no longer in control of my impulsive personality.
Based and true….boredom is a part of every day life we need to learn how to live it and removing yourself from the situation is also always the way to go…..
Stopped drinking completely, deleted all my social media account and stopping browsing plebbit / boards completely few months back. Best decision I have ever made. So much money and time wasted on that shit.
@@logical_bystander2951 I sometimes refer to RUclips as "Microsoft Television 3.11 For Workgroups" .. the nexus of TV and social media; the next habit to kick. I also sometimes use that monicker to refer to the modern Internet, in general.
@@cosmojg The extra cash has been going into savings, time went into programming and video games. Did a lot more of just walking around outside for exercise while listening to audiobooks when the weather was better.
@@tzokke Glad it's all working out for you. While you're scoping out more books, I'd like to recommend an author: Jaron Lanier. He's a VR pioneer and recently he's dropped some amazing books. He talks about the ways that our current social media systems are broken. Maybe one day we'll find ways to use tech to really bring folks together, but right now social media systems view user-addiction as a goal, because the business models are built around mining as much user interactions as possible. Take care, man.
@@robertjones8803 like a person who is invested in VR has a place to talk about social systems. I'm sure he has no vested interest in offering VR as the solution, and selling his books to people who eat that crap up. Yes keep pushing for the technocratic society
What a blessing this channel is.. All your thoughts all you say is just a pill of what I was wondering from years of my life going on... I am 30 yo Polish male, husband to lovely woman, own flat own car own motobike, very well paid job,(BS job however...), loving parents, sister, family... All this and my brain is just refusing it. I feel I refuse joy of God's blessing I have! I feel No I mean NO HAPPINESS AT ALL I remember playing Sims2 when I was younger. Once I did a family all was going well and so on. Sims were going to job and days już went by... That's right - I watched them just living day to day working, cleaning, washing, taking care of troubles to eventually see them dead at the end. I found out that damn they were only once in a life on vacation! They talked to each other like 2/3 times. I freaked out to thought that my life may look same in the future... And here we are - I have same thing as my Sims. I almost do not know what I love. I do not know my self. I am just flowing with life being a good person but... not being a human at all. Let us finally be Humans. In few weeks I am going to leave my job and change few things. I also started to read and watching clouds on sky. I cry sometimes fighting with chaos of thoughts thet go through my brain when I go off simulators like phone computer, social medias and so on... I write this just to put it out. Whoever may ever read this - guys do not be afraid or feel week when you are depressed. It is not your fault. We live in a super complicated world and we ale Trying. We men we are made to try. To fail many time and to WIN when and what is the most important.
The intro of the video is like Varg intros haha but without killing Euronimus and being held captive in a max security prison for a couple of years. That's a red pilled man.. he killed and now is free haha no consequences, he even write a couple of songsxD (best place to get dopamine detox and getting things done hahah). Here in South America you can go to prison if you try to defend yourself against a strange trying to get into your home.
I absolutely love finding people on youtube and such who are also fellow Brothers and Sisters. Luke is absolutely right. Even in the Old Testament, Joseph (still a virgin at that time!) RUNS away from Potifer's wife when she tempts him. So much that ditches his clothes that she's holding onto, and runs away. Physical separation is very powerful.
I drank for 10 years of my life. Lost my twenties. Nothing could stop me. Not GF’s, AA, The state, or my friends or family. When the time came it was my decision to walk away. It’s been a couple years now. I just so easily stopped one day.
@Adrian Pancho I watched the video on mpv and commented through youtube-viewer (just my original comment, the subsequent replies are through my browser as I don't think you can reply to comments through youtube-viewer)
@@neonblood4658 I use a similar app.. a fork of youtube-viewer called straw-viewer... I like it very much.. the only problem with that fork is that you cannot comment in videos. No account is needed
Notice the same thing at the gym too. Most people I've seen just walk at a leisurely pace on a treadmill for 20-40 mins while staring at their phones. Makes me wonder if these people really think they're going to get in shape.
You wanna quit smoking? Just quit bruh. I've never done it to begin with so I don't even know how tobacco addiction feels, but trust me, I have a pretty successful yt channel about a completely different topic.
@@JerryO1995 He skips over the addiction part but he's kinda right. Slow reform or rationalisation is just coping and very ineffective. The only way to kick something to the point that it's not just denying yourself is moral commitment, though that moral commitment may take consistent strengthening. You can be 'free' of smoking or porn but without this it's just something you managed to avoid doing until relapsing again, it's not really dropping it. The best way to do this is convince yourself that it gives you nothing and isn't a loss of pleasure, because for most addictions this is true.
@Evan John Programming most people who plays racing games knows that they are fake. If a person doesn't know that porn is fake , it shows a problem with the education system. Also normal safe sex is a lot of work unlike the porn. If someone said they prefer porn due to just because it being easier, fair play to them. "If you’re just having sex for pleasure, it’s never worth it, especially not for your wallet. " that's a very subjective opinion. "People who are known as coomers are just people who have become victim to our disgusting and deplorable societal norm where everything is hyper-sexualized" You realize that people used to be much more degenerates in the past right ? raping back in the day was normal. "social media is filled with vapid sluts who get off on male attention because they have no impressive quality or skill" there equal amount of guys in social media that get off on female attention .
I find that I'm more likely to give in to temptations when procrastinating (the anxiety of not doing the things I need to do builds up, so I let myself go into escapist activities to ignore those negative feelings). What helps me is just forcing myself to do my work (even if it's not gonna be my best work) and taking walks outside. When I've done my work for the day (even just some of it) I feel less anxiety, more at ease, more satisfied, and more in control of myself. The best time to work is immediately upon waking. The tendency to keep falling into bad habits can have to do with how your four F responses (fight, flight, faun, and freeze) were conditioned during childhood too, which unfortunately can persist into adulthood. For example, a freeze/flight type might tend to porn and other isolating activities. A couple of great books by Pete Walker on this (CPTSD).
Oh I really feel this....as someone with an explosive dad growing up and bad anxiety and ASD ;; bad habits and never doing things are my cope and sort of like anxiety meds
What you said couldn't be more true to my situation. I'm currently at the stage of fighting procrastination after suffering from it since january last year. Like disciplining myself by sticking to a routine, getting out of my comfort zone by working out and running and walking distances, reading and only rewarding myself until after I've done these things. I should timebox my days honestly. It's hard, I feel like I can't do it alone. That's why I'm relying on channels like this, it's a real wake up call. I even picked up Java again, lol!
For the most part, they DON'T. They don't know true poverty either. The average American is friggin' LOADED compared to any objective standard. You have cars and homes that are automatically kept at a livable temperature with very little risk of any kind of accident.
@@olegcherkasky2755 I use Americans as an example, because we're the richest it's easier to see, but most countries are like this. Developed countries, anyway.
Your missing one more: People also use addictions to get temporary relief from their issues/pains/trauma. People need to get help from the thing that is tormenting them so they can live happily and can be free from addictions.
People can't get happy without sense of stability to have it they need to work job that they don't like that will make them not happy welcome to world built on capitalism
Idk get a job, get in shape, be a man....find a girl....get married. Have sex with the one you love. Believe me it's better than watching some Zulu banging away on a blonde on your laptop.
The physically fleeing temptation point is such an important one. Important for dieting, for example. Can't mindlessly eat junk food if it's not in the house because you never bought it to begin with
I remember watching this video two years ago. I was 20 and was doing a lot of things I knew I should not be doing. Watching porn for instance. All my life was based on the refusal of taking self-responsability. I've always found good excuses to do the bad thing. This video hit hard. Especially the part where Luke says if you're doing something you know to be bad then it means you don't actually consider it to be entierely bad. It is such a bright idea! It helped me stop following the wrong path. I've finally managed to fix most serious problems in my life and Luke's advice have been of great help in that process. I will always remember that there is nothing outside of me that can prevent me from doing the good thing. Thank you Luke.
Luke, thank you for this video; it's helped me greatly. I just want to add one thing that's helped me greatly in these last few weeks is repeating the Jesus Prayer when feeling tempted to look at porn. It's help is twofold, in both calling to God, as well as being something to focus my mind on.
Re first half: All these bad habits and addictions are also used as a painkiller, an escape, a distraction. You can't just remove it and not provide any replacement. This is not a thing of logic, but of emotional state, which cannot always be improved on your own, it depends on your social circle. This requires a lifestyle change and people do need help navigating this change.
False you just gotta have big balls. I ghosted all my friends since they do all the things I’m stoping, like drinking and complaining about life and smoking weed. I now program all day and study unix and will get a good job one day since this is my reality now. Just don’t do it and get over your shitty little girl ego
theres this hierarchy of value, where posting a video on youtbe is higher than commenting on a video on youtube and talking to another person is higher than talking to your phone
Withdrawal symptoms of porn/masturbation are a hollow feeling, dejection and brain fog, leading to the need to fap/watch porn as nothing seems to make you feel right. Temporarily ridding yourself of this by sating the addiction is mistaken as 'feeling good' or 'relieving tension'. You are not giving up pleasure by quitting, you are pushing through withdrawal. Cold turkey is the best way to do this, not thinking that you're resisting or giving up something, just deciding how it is and following through. Doesn't mean you won't fall into a behavioral pattern, such as thinking you just need to peek at some porn- the rest following from there, but this is trivial to catch and discard if you've solved the problem of resolve. If you're having a really tough time then you haven't truly made the decision to stop, and shouldn't bother deluding yourself, thinking of it as 'resisting', until you have made the decision to stop. Unironically don't bother actually trying stop without properly resolving to stop, it will just sour the idea of it because you'll relapse at the height of withdrawal or earlier and think you need to do it to feel good. Unlike most drug addictions, it isn't even that hard to kick this one because the withdrawal isn't so intense, the only reason it's a big problem is because we spend so much time on our computers and porn is so accessible and normalised that we're barraged with sexual material without even looking for it although it was already a problem with sexual material being everywhere with or without the internet.
That's actually good advice. Usually, the advice you'd get is to "be busy" which, although true, is very vague, and means that someone would have to look for what makes them busy.
I think the addiction often is the “solution” to “be busy”, it’s why we you do it in the first place. So you need to replace it with something that’s better. ~“Be busy with something worthwhile”
Hi Luke, I'm not a boomer, i was born in 1997, but i completely agree with you on the boredom perspective. Sometimes i play music when over at my friends' house, it's just a thing we do, a guy that is 1 year younger than me literally cannot handle being at a place with no music playing, when i stop he instantly wants to turn on other music or asks if I'm playing anything else. Like what the hell! Kids these days for sure cannot handle Nothing, no wonder they have trouble at almost all basic things people should be able to do like working or eating.
I can't stop listening to music. I convince myself that it doesn't matter because I can still get things done. But my productivity is 5% it would be without it.
My friends are also constantly listening to music on Spotify when I go to their house or in the car. Sometimes quite loudly, to the point we can't have a proper conversation. It sucks, because not only I dislike the music, it's too loud!
Another issue is the fact that a temptation/addiction must be actively avoided, because at some point you are so deep down the rabbithole that you just autopilot to your bad behavior unless you stay focused not to.
Interestingly, studies where people were supposed to suppress compulsive actions, like checking your smartphone, going on social media, etc...., show that people who actively take measures to prevent them from doing so are more successful with this. That's probably a no-brainer, but the interesting part is that people who took those measures that made it easier to not do any compulsive actions performed better at various kinds of tests and tasks related to concentration. Excerting willpower to suppress any kind of addiction/compulsive behavior is some kind of mental strain, meaning your brain has to work in order to do it. Since you can only actively concentrate for a given amount of time on a day, people that didn't have to muster up any kind of self-discipline in order to suppress compulsive behavior (i.e. people that locked away their phone, blocked porn sides and threw away the password to unlock them, etc. ....) had more mental capacities to work on something else.
8:27 Right, it's not boredom! Rather I suspect it's brainfog and fatigue from being overstimulated by the technology we're surrounding ourselves with every day, complimented by the lack of willpower or drive to complete a set of goals. We should separate ourselves from technological stimulation atleast once a week so we can contemplate in silence. I read from someone that most people have about 20-30 thoughts througout the day in total, and that if you can't sit still and entertain yourself with just your own thoughts for an hour you are probably dumbed down mentally and spiritually from said constant overstimulation (distraction, escapism).
Overall good advice. The first step is to accept that you need to combat an addiction and let loose of victim mentality. Of course, simply stopping doesn't work in case of heavy addictions, that's where you need professional help. Also, addictions often arise due to other problems in someones life, solving the underlying issue is also needed. The lost skill of boredom might be a reason for tempting damaging behavior, but also trauma, depression and so on ...
Yeah I don’t necessarily agree, I don’t believe everyone is capable of just Summoning the will to do anything at any time, quit any habit etc. I will however admit that I have become comfortable in a pretty dark place and I have become a bit attached to my suffering so agree with that.
Not to toot my own horn but I did. It's an easy concept, just hard to execute. All you have to do is literally just stop and resist temptations. That's how I broke out of some stuff. It doesnt work overnight obviousl, it may take some time but just simply forcing yourself to stop will eventually... well, make you stop.
>no steam >no coom >no drugs or alcohol >no social media how2? just find other, more interesting things to do >climb >take a walk >make food >read a book >watch sum birdos
Usually if people can't resist temptation it's because the conditions that led them to it are still there, they need to figure out what those conditions are and fix them so they won't resort to the harmful behaviour.
Same for addiction. Don't take away the symptoms of addiction take away the reasons for it. And that's all too often so painful people decide to stick to addictions because this is less painful and they have a good excuse. All too easy. My opinion from experience.
The guy spent the first five minutes telling everybody that he had nothing usefull to say about the topic he choose. Once he started the "God has given you..." BS he entered the realm of his fantasies, which for him i guess are emotionally comforting
I began watching this channel a couple years ago when I was hyped with i3, looking for cool .config files. After exploring this gentleman's channel, I suscribed. Since then, he's been an inspiration, some kind of guru not only of open source software, but a lifechanging person.
In all things people want companionship. People asking how to quit or change some behavior has more to do with that than recognizing anything behaviorally wrong.
Yeah I agree. A big part of quitting is understanding why you want to quit and what's standing in your way to help yourself get more serious about the commitment and take the first steps to changing those habits thought patterns and moral convictions
The exact same advice applies though. If you decide you want to stop and accept that you'll go through a few days of pretty serious withdrawal, you are 100% capable. Any time you light up a cig you're making a conscious decision to do so. You can make the conscious decision not to do that and understand what you'll be in for. People who try to quit smoking time and time again just never mentally commit to actually quitting. They always plan on smoking again I think, they just don't fully admit it to themselves. It's more seeing how long they can hold out for than actually deciding to quit.
It sucks, I had headaches and terrible mood for two months. Almost two years after quitting I still feel smoking sometimes, especially if there’s alcohol. But it was DEFINITELY worth it. Overall life quality has gone up.
Learn to be bored, greatest suggestion ever, I have light memories of the 90s, we used to simply be bored, I forgot how to be bored, thanks for the heads up.
I’ve come to know that there is a psychological issue with all these temptations. Porn is often caused by feeling a lack of love. Not typically “sex” per say, but emotional security. Usually caused by parental resentment (mother who isn’t there for you; father doesn’t take interest) other times is frustrations with spouse (reasons can vary). Video game addiction is typically found in people who lack ambition or is lacking in hope of future ambition(s). Those two I can understand...there are other reasons for other additions
*Learning to be bored is probably the single best thing you can do for your mental health.* I deleted Instagram from my phone today because I realized it was collecting way too much data. I just decided on it. I can still use the browser version, but I certainly won't be pulling it out of my pocket all the time. And that's healthy.
I half expected Luke to recite Mathew 5:30. The passage may sound barbaric, but I remember when I heard it some time after having tried normie-tiered dopamine-fasts and removing myself from my sources of temptation and whatever, that it really rang true. For instance, living in an urban area today without a smartphone is in a lot of ways to live life a cripple compared to the rest. But such a life is far better than to let oneself fall into the temptations that it enables. Today's dumbphones are still pretty smart, but they're way better for you and much cheaper than any smartphone.
Well might work for some, but not for all. I tried for half a year and forced myself to do all I was supposed to do all the time. At the end I was so void of emotion and happiness that I was ready to end it all. Over-generalizations are bad and so is projecting from your own experiences on others, it doesn't always work.
I’m so grateful my parents didn’t give me TV (within reason, only like documentaries) when I was very little and it taught me how to be bored and just lay down and be able to quiet my head
On boredom, I dont like being alone with my thoughts, I am violent by nature, I cope with writing which in itself is becoming self destructive. So I do nothing watch nothing, and either fuel my escapism with my story, or play out my thoughts. I am someone who sits in quiet rooms by myself in my own head for hours on end, I am diagnosed hyperactive sitting still to do something is difficult, reading a book isnt as easy now because I think in pictures and my thoughts are fast, for a book to cement itself takes time and I dont have much a drive to waste that time waiting for it to be worthwhile, even though I can finish books like big books in hours to days when I am interested. But I can sit in a room with a prompt a single thought and spiral for hours without anything but floorspace to pace around, its chaotic often violent and usually dettached from reality or so set in my current life that its upset the person I was talking to wasnt in the room to hear it. I dont struggle with addiction like you mentioned, social media is a problem but its a problem because I havent been able to see my friends outside what with the apocalypse, I play games, my bigger problem is spending then it is time, its something I relate to ocd and autism, I dont want to miss out, I want to finish collections, and I value money very little. The addictive games are social because I lack socialising in real-life, I just cant go and see my friends as often as I would like so I play a game with voice chat and I get attached, those games are usually engineered to make you want to spend money which is where problems come in. And I can leave, I have before, sometimes after the damage is done sure, sometimes before, I recognise the problem and I leave, remove myself from social media or the games that are trying to nickle and dime me. But that lacks follow through, you're advice is leave and then it's fine, I am still lacking social interaction and now I am not getting it from facebook or whatever game I am playing, so I feel alone, those voices in my head louder now, I begin to feel isolated and that turns into paranoia and I start distrusting very close friends because something feels wrong and I can name it but I cant see it. Your follow through seems to be god, and if not then its nothing, it's avoidance, domt buy cigarettes, the don't carry lighters, then don't walk through carparks or see friends who smoke avoid any temptation, its like how school prepares us for drugs with that shady ally dealer, ignoring that its usually your best mate giving you a hit at your first party... sure say no to drugs is a good way not to get on drugs but you ignored a huge piece of the puzzle to get that solution. This is rambling, this is me dealing with boredom this is what I do for hours, sometimes actually writing something, sometimes just talking to myself and pacing, and I dont think your video is wrong, I think your attitude is off, dont do it is a bandaid before you develop healthy counters and resistance, avoidance is what you do to deal with withdrawal not how you live the rest of your life, what you need to learn is how to spot temptation, and how to respond to it, you need to develop these skills and train yourself to say no to those vices not just avoid them in the first place, because you avoid smoking, you have a shit day, sit on a bench, find a half smoked cigarette, and it doesnt take much for your mind to flood you, and if all you learned was avoidance you have about five seconds to leave that area before thoughts like 'It will make you feel better' start getting their hooks into you, and you have nothing except run as a response... I dunno I stopped caring, I am mostly distracting myself from a runny nose at this point.
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I don't think every person alive has free will. Everyone is born with free will, of course, but making bad choices in life limits one's ability to make choices in the future. For example, one can't choose to be a competitive runner if one spent the last 20 years smoking 2 packs a day. Repeated enough, this can cause complete erosion of all free will. Such a person is a slave to his urges and he is unable to regain control.
I agree with a little over 50% of what you say. But I think it's important not to underestimate the problem of addiction. A friend of mine said "Some people want a band aid approach to solve their problem, when the real solution involves amputating an entire limb." In my own life, I've found it's much easier to avoid the temptation of a habit if I abstain from it completely. I decided to go an entire year without drinking alcohol and it became much easier to avoid alcohol. I now also avoid eating store bought candy completely, even though I live with family who always have candy freely available in the kitchen. I meditate in the Vipassana tradition where each meditation session is supposed to last for an hour. But I still struggle with feeling hungry and quitting to eat before the hour is up. It's best to meditate on an empty stomach, but that's also when I'm especially sensitive to feeling hungry. Fasting in one form or another is practiced in every major religion, perhaps because fasting is so difficult. I agree with the optimism that self-discipline is achievable. But the process of building self-discipline can involve a lot of sacrifice. I've found the Buddhist framework to be the most comprehensive approach to self-discipline, but if you're looking for a Christian answer I think the Christian monastic traditions could be a good place to look into. I grew up in a liberal Protestant church where they didn't really teach about self-discipline.
Luke, I've been around addicts my entire life. I respect you, but this is a horrible take. "Just don't do it, you have the strength to just stop" is laughable. Rehabs exist because there are people that CAN'T do things by themselves. Sexual addictions are very real and have destroyed people's lives. Don't even get me started on when sex addiction gets mixed with meth (meth and porn activate the same parts of the brain). I know from firsthand experience with myself and with others that these solutions typically don't work. Simply giving up any devices with internet access is not feasible. We all find ourselves back in the same place unless we deal with the underlying issues behind our addictions. We can only run for so long. One of the issues is you expect people to respond rationally, but addictions prevent your brain from thinking rationally. It's important to have good people around you and to be held accountable. If you are addicted badly enough, then you can't do it by yourself and those of us who have been there damn well know it even when we don't want to admit it.
If you don't take agency for your addiction you'll never be free from them, all of what you said is true, but it doesn't change the fact that to break addiction you need to take it one step at a time, and that you have the choice to resist temptation every single time you encounter it. Obviously when you're first getting clean outside help is important, but this is about staying clean. Support is vital, but so is taking responsibility and being honest about your choices.
@@liamsweeney4754 Of course. You have to actually put effort into staying clean, nobody can do it for you. My point was that the odds of getting and staying clean are dramatically higher if you have a good support network.
Our friendship with Jesus will turn us away from sin and from the things of this world. When tempted to sin we need to remind ourselves how faithful and loving Jesus has been to us. It is the goodness of God that leads us to repentance.
Your videos on youtube are actually pretty important, at least for me, cause almost all people around me were perceiving me as some kind of a freak or something in terms of social media & internet. I was always against using it at all with similar reasoning as you have (wasting time). With some work on youtube I know there are more people like this
4:52 "it's stupid when people make that distinction" when "stupid" people make that distinction, they're actually referring to the fact that smoking introduces an exogenous substance in their bodies, nicotine, and hence there's a dipendence on that substance that comes from an external source. These newer kinds of addictive activities though, like watching porn or endlessly scrolling in social media, don't give us any exogenous substance that we can be addicted to. They just play with our internal hormones , like dopamine and serotonin, that your body naturally produces, inducing spikes and effectively "administering" you with substances of your own making. That is the difference. Last century's addiction focused on giving you external substances, today's addictions turn yourself into the laboratory, the pusher, and the administer your own addictive drug. They only cut the distribution middle man.
This is a remarkably naïve understanding of human psychology. For example: why does drug use surge when incomes plummet? Well, I guess more people just randomly decide to take drugs out of their completely free will, duh. And if they wanted to stop taking them, they would just stop, duh.
its funny. Nietzsche and Schopenhauer both argued against excessive book reading, saying you can't create novel ideas or digest new ones with your head constantly in a book. they argued taking walks in nature, being 'bored', was where you would get most of your own ideas. so this overstimulation was a problem even 100-200 years ago.
I deactivated my facebook after watching your social media video and I was tempted to reactivate this morning and then I saw this in my suggested videos. Perfect timing lol
Hm, idk about this one. If someone is well and truly addicted, it takes more then someone telling themselves to "just stop" or to "remove themselves from the situation".
@@JLG629 TRUE... I remember when I worked out like crazy, didn't fap, didn't eat tasty food, didn't do anything that produced dopamine...... I started feeling depressed...
my mom used to work at a rehabilitation center for addicts and despite how much these people want to stop, they cant unless someone forces them. if i am to follow what youre saying here, all of those addicts basically "didnt want to stop hard enough". it is the same situation with food addiction, wanting to stop harder isnt the solution
I appreciate the video and the message. I was talking to a friend about this a couple days ago. While I mostly agree with you, I have to add that you REALLY are your own worst enemy. The "inner you", the one who's driven by passions and instincts, your "subconscious" ego for lack of a better term, knows yourself more than your "conscious" you does. He knows what buttons to push, how to negotiate and how to get away with it (without being noticed!!). This means, it doesn't matter how much you physically remove yourself from temptation if the temptation lives within. It may help, though. I'd like to ask you to what extent religion has helped in your personal experience, and whether you've been involved in it consistently since childhood or not. If that's not too much to ask, ofc. (Damnit, I just came here trying to learn to use sed)
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I can't resist the temptation to watch the unaboomer ranting in the woods, giving life advice to internet users.
Bald ted kaczinsky motivating me to stop touching my peepee
hey denshi FUCK YOU !!!
what video?
@@veljkopetrovic5280 my peepee bahahaha I'm crying ... take your like good sir hahaha
it's not count as sin, if you watch p0rn from 80s where they didn't eat ass 😂
PDFs are a gateway drug for zoomers to start reading real books
red pilled based legends prints whole book for 1 dollar
@@hhhuthhhjj5599 yep. Just torrent it and print it at a shop lmao. Or read them on your big ass monitor.
@@PsycosisIncarnated e-ink raspberry pi viewer >
"real" books don't matter at all. What matters is the message the writer tried to send to the readers. Paperback, pdf, .txt... it doesn't even matter. I can carry 1000 offline books in my pocket wherever i go + all the books available in the places that have internet connection.
How is a pdf not a 'real' book?
"Sin will keep you longer than you want to stay, take you further than you want to go and cost you more than you ever wanted to pay. " - My Pastor.
It's not from him originally.
-Everyone's pastor.
@@parkerbeck3580 well, i'm more of a preacher
@@flemishtemplar3766 I assumed that. He's just the first one that repeated it to me.
@@parkerbeck3580 Amen.
I remember how my mom told me about my great grandpa stopping smoking, first day of his retirement he threw his last packet of cigarettes away and said "Pension is for the essentials not for ciggarettes and alcohol" and he never smoked again.
The man's spittin straight KOREAN out here in the auto generated captions
Based
why based?
I'm just getting unknown unicode characters.
WHY ARCH? WHY YOU NO FONT WORKY??
@@anti_lol5832 install gentoo
@@zyansheep install Korean font
My favorite CONTENT CREATOR has finally posted. I must give into the urge to CONSOOM CONTENT.
Just hope he doesn't go full bloat.
I know right? I was starting to get the shakes after the first few days of no new vids after that nice stretch of daily content.
True. Thanks. Gotta wake the fuck up.
@@knpstrr bloat is meme
Cumsoom DRM Netflix steam pornhub
"Learn to enjoy boredom." This is seriously the most important Life Hack, period. I'm so glad I was born before the internet, so I can remember what it was like.
Same here i'm nearly 25 but i remember how less internet and smartphones felt like. I was just getting bored and started reading books in my room, stared to dusk from my 5th floor apartment.
I miss the days when "curfew" was when the street lights came on
@@hawkofthereborn43 i drank from a water hose when i grew up!!! LIKE IF YOU AGREE!!!
I knew what boredom felt like but never grew comfortable with it tbh
there was one of those studies were they put childlren in front of a cookie and tell them if they dont eat it for 10 minutes, they get 2 cookies or whatever
turns out the ones that covered their eyes were the most succesful
The easiest way to avoid temptations in generals is to just distance yourself from them, dont see them, dont go near them, dont think about them, make them hard to reach
The problem with that is when all your productive hobbies/habits are also on the computer. Art, music composition, coding, etc. It's something I've recognized is a real problem for me for quite a while now because all the passive and active hobbies are packaged under the same roof, and it's just _so much easier_ to engage in the passive ones.
Flawed study since double the reward is not much of a reward. if they tryed 1 cookie vs 1 bag of cookie results will lean more towards waiting . Since the pleasure time 1 cookie brings or 2 cookies brings has only 1% diffrence not double while a bag a cookies only has 25% at best.
@@MediaMunkee Same for me, im a software engineer work 8h on a full time job, afterwards my hobby is actually building software. But I dont see it as a problem, its different to being on the computer and watching porn or playing video games. But I do would love to get more contact to nature.
this study failed to replicate, actually
Oh, hey look. Actually advice, not some bald weirdo rantin in a forest without actually saying anything. Thanks.,
This has literally become a church
you could have called it a cult but I'll go with church.
Pastor runescape
What do you mean?
_We can make a religion out of this_
Amen
80% agreed, but you are missing that people have differing amounts of self-control. It's a skill that must be learned. You can't tell people who haven't learned to command themselves "yo bro just stop", cause they won't. Some permanently online normies are really far behind in maturation and need to take baby steps. The average person also lacks some sort of life-plan and literally don't know what to do without their addictions. In response to this advice they might stare at the wall for a while and think to themselves: "Well, I tried being bored and it sucks. Back to easy dopamine hits."
But you can’t teach people to develop self control, it’s something they have to figure out entirely on their own. So really the only advice you can give them is “just stop” and let them figure out exactly how they’re supposed to do that
You absolutely can teach self control, and its done by example and by putting children in calm scenarios where the option for swlf control is clear
@Verbux can you help me learn self control i am better than I used to be, but not as good as I want to be
one day we will see luke in orange clothes meditating like a budhist monk. already bald enough.
Not sure about Buddhism, but I can see him in an orange jumpsuit.
@@acerld519 lmfao
when he maxes his Prayer stat in runescape
@@teodor-hj4lx fucking hell i feel like luke should shadowban "runescape" lmao
Debased.
"you can just stop"
Damn why has it taken this long for me to realize something this obvious? sincerely thanks for an empowering message, Luke
It appears a lot of people think I was being a snarky, sarcastic ass even though I used the word sincerely. I was not.
Thats what i thought too. Guess addiction has disappeared
@@viiltelijamurhaaja7225 yeah
Homeless people just need to stop being homeless. Simple.
This feels like "why are you depressed? Just stop being sad". The advice he gives is alright but months and years of habit cannot be stopped that easily
@@skorpius2029 It really *is* that simple for things like porn and social media though.
The mindset change from “I need it” to “I want it” has been the biggest help. I still do all sorts of things that lead to my temptation issue, but they are no longer in control of my impulsive personality.
Based and true….boredom is a part of every day life we need to learn how to live it and removing yourself from the situation is also always the way to go…..
Stopped drinking completely, deleted all my social media account and stopping browsing plebbit / boards completely few months back. Best decision I have ever made. So much money and time wasted on that shit.
@@logical_bystander2951 I sometimes refer to RUclips as "Microsoft Television 3.11 For Workgroups" .. the nexus of TV and social media; the next habit to kick.
I also sometimes use that monicker to refer to the modern Internet, in general.
Where do you waste your time and money nowadays?
@@cosmojg The extra cash has been going into savings, time went into programming and video games. Did a lot more of just walking around outside for exercise while listening to audiobooks when the weather was better.
@@tzokke Glad it's all working out for you. While you're scoping out more books, I'd like to recommend an author: Jaron Lanier. He's a VR pioneer and recently he's dropped some amazing books. He talks about the ways that our current social media systems are broken. Maybe one day we'll find ways to use tech to really bring folks together, but right now social media systems view user-addiction as a goal, because the business models are built around mining as much user interactions as possible. Take care, man.
@@robertjones8803 like a person who is invested in VR has a place to talk about social systems. I'm sure he has no vested interest in offering VR as the solution, and selling his books to people who eat that crap up. Yes keep pushing for the technocratic society
What a blessing this channel is..
All your thoughts all you say is just a pill of what I was wondering from years of my life going on... I am 30 yo Polish male, husband to lovely woman, own flat own car own motobike, very well paid job,(BS job however...), loving parents, sister, family... All this and my brain is just refusing it. I feel I refuse joy of God's blessing I have! I feel No I mean NO HAPPINESS AT ALL
I remember playing Sims2 when I was younger. Once I did a family all was going well and so on. Sims were going to job and days już went by... That's right - I watched them just living day to day working, cleaning, washing, taking care of troubles to eventually see them dead at the end. I found out that damn they were only once in a life on vacation! They talked to each other like 2/3 times. I freaked out to thought that my life may look same in the future...
And here we are - I have same thing as my Sims. I almost do not know what I love. I do not know my self. I am just flowing with life being a good person but... not being a human at all.
Let us finally be Humans. In few weeks I am going to leave my job and change few things. I also started to read and watching clouds on sky. I cry sometimes fighting with chaos of thoughts thet go through my brain when I go off simulators like phone computer, social medias and so on...
I write this just to put it out. Whoever may ever read this - guys do not be afraid or feel week when you are depressed. It is not your fault. We live in a super complicated world and we ale Trying. We men we are made to try. To fail many time and to WIN when and what is the most important.
Beautiful insight man, i feel sometimes something like that. God bless you and your family, I hope you're doing well.
Just deleted Instagram
king
I just installed it so I could delete it. Feels good man.
based. this is the way.
gotta delete youtube too now since you're getting satisfied by it.
same
He did the Varg thing!!!!
I clapped when I saw it! 🖐️😮🖐️
Emojis are cringe imo
what? I didn't notice.
The intro of the video is like Varg intros haha but without killing Euronimus and being held captive in a max security prison for a couple of years. That's a red pilled man.. he killed and now is free haha no consequences, he even write a couple of songsxD (best place to get dopamine detox and getting things done hahah). Here in South America you can go to prison if you try to defend yourself against a strange trying to get into your home.
@@LukeSmithxyz IT BROKE NEW GROUND
I printed luke's face on paper and put the pic on my room wall as a reminder of this.
@Mantresh "pics or didn't happen"
I hope Luke sees this and starts thinking about taking another month long break
I know this is a joke but that might honestly help. Or if not Luke, your mother, Jesus, etc.
You need candles too
Y’know, you could get an icon of Jesus Christ for that lol
I absolutely love finding people on youtube and such who are also fellow Brothers and Sisters. Luke is absolutely right. Even in the Old Testament, Joseph (still a virgin at that time!) RUNS away from Potifer's wife when she tempts him. So much that ditches his clothes that she's holding onto, and runs away. Physical separation is very powerful.
Watching this gradual descent towards committing an act of large-scale self-defense against the government is particularly gratifying.
I drank for 10 years of my life. Lost my twenties. Nothing could stop me. Not GF’s, AA, The state, or my friends or family. When the time came it was my decision to walk away. It’s been a couple years now. I just so easily stopped one day.
Me: Tonight I ll sleep early
Me at 4:00 Am : Watching how to resisting temptation.
The man, the legend
time well spent
Same
3:30 here
I can't resist learning about Linux and installing Arch differently on yet another 16 year old laptop! Help!
please install arch in the m1 and let me know. thanks
I have addiction to reading philosophy for years, I don't even like it anymore, I just can't stop reading this shit.
😂
this is actually really based. i wasnt expecting anything helpful but boy have i been proven wrong.
thanks luke. please continue these rants!
Watching this on mpv and commenting from the terminal in an attempt to resist my youtube temptation
@Adrian Pancho With the youtube-viewer cli
@Adrian Pancho I watched the video on mpv and commented through youtube-viewer (just my original comment, the subsequent replies are through my browser as I don't think you can reply to comments through youtube-viewer)
@@neonblood4658 I use a similar app.. a fork of youtube-viewer called straw-viewer... I like it very much.. the only problem with that fork is that you cannot comment in videos. No account is needed
People can't even drive without their constant soycial media rush nowadays, let alone read a book.
Thats why tesla exists haha to let consoooomers drive while checking their social media haha well actually not driving xD
i hate social media, its like meth all for capital gain
@@Gigachad-mc5qz agreed
Notice the same thing at the gym too.
Most people I've seen just walk at a leisurely pace on a treadmill for 20-40 mins while staring at their phones.
Makes me wonder if these people really think they're going to get in shape.
Luke: "Just resist temptation, bruh. It works for me."
Why are you depressed? Just don't be sad, duh.
You wanna quit smoking? Just quit bruh. I've never done it to begin with so I don't even know how tobacco addiction feels, but trust me, I have a pretty successful yt channel about a completely different topic.
@@JerryO1995 He skips over the addiction part but he's kinda right. Slow reform or rationalisation is just coping and very ineffective. The only way to kick something to the point that it's not just denying yourself is moral commitment, though that moral commitment may take consistent strengthening. You can be 'free' of smoking or porn but without this it's just something you managed to avoid doing until relapsing again, it's not really dropping it. The best way to do this is convince yourself that it gives you nothing and isn't a loss of pleasure, because for most addictions this is true.
@@robinx6138 riddle me this, how can someone stop being sad other than by stopping being sad?
Suddenly it helps me
I was wainting since ages for the next "les fine oud :-DDDDD" intro.
>Imagine being such a coomer that you can't enjoy the real thing.
I can't, this just sounds... impossible?
@donaciux hahahaha kinda gay hahahahaha
@donaciux LMAO never got the fixation with anal.
@donaciux lmaooo you're totally right. Anals for gay ppl
@Evan John Programming most people who plays racing games knows that they are fake. If a person doesn't know that porn is fake , it shows a problem with the education system.
Also normal safe sex is a lot of work unlike the porn. If someone said they prefer porn due to just because it being easier, fair play to them.
"If you’re just having sex for pleasure, it’s never worth it, especially not for your wallet. "
that's a very subjective opinion.
"People who are known as coomers are just people who have become victim to our disgusting and deplorable societal norm where everything is hyper-sexualized"
You realize that people used to be much more degenerates in the past right ? raping back in the day was normal.
"social media is filled with vapid sluts who get off on male attention because they have no impressive quality or skill"
there equal amount of guys in social media that get off on female attention .
It unfortunately is. Porn shapes your perception enough that it can make actual sex not feel good at all
I find that I'm more likely to give in to temptations when procrastinating (the anxiety of not doing the things I need to do builds up, so I let myself go into escapist activities to ignore those negative feelings). What helps me is just forcing myself to do my work (even if it's not gonna be my best work) and taking walks outside. When I've done my work for the day (even just some of it) I feel less anxiety, more at ease, more satisfied, and more in control of myself. The best time to work is immediately upon waking.
The tendency to keep falling into bad habits can have to do with how your four F responses (fight, flight, faun, and freeze) were conditioned during childhood too, which unfortunately can persist into adulthood. For example, a freeze/flight type might tend to porn and other isolating activities. A couple of great books by Pete Walker on this (CPTSD).
Oh I really feel this....as someone with an explosive dad growing up and bad anxiety and ASD ;; bad habits and never doing things are my cope and sort of like anxiety meds
What you said couldn't be more true to my situation.
I'm currently at the stage of fighting procrastination after suffering from it since january last year. Like disciplining myself by sticking to a routine, getting out of my comfort zone by working out and running and walking distances, reading and only rewarding myself until after I've done these things. I should timebox my days honestly. It's hard, I feel like I can't do it alone. That's why I'm relying on channels like this, it's a real wake up call. I even picked up Java again, lol!
Great advice and book suggestion, thanks man
Should have displayed more classy choices to be relevant to your audience like danbooru, distro hopping, supertuxkart and meth.
why would you do supertuxkart?
Bro supertux kart is nothing compared to supertux
Boomer rants at the youngins about how they don't know true boredom.
For the most part, they DON'T. They don't know true poverty either. The average American is friggin' LOADED compared to any objective standard. You have cars and homes that are automatically kept at a livable temperature with very little risk of any kind of accident.
@@MickeyD2012 this may come as a shock to you but not all of us here are Americans.
I don't disagree though.
@@olegcherkasky2755 Ukraine?
@@p_serdiuk Israel
@@olegcherkasky2755 I use Americans as an example, because we're the richest it's easier to see, but most countries are like this. Developed countries, anyway.
Your missing one more: People also use addictions to get temporary relief from their issues/pains/trauma. People need to get help from the thing that is tormenting them so they can live happily and can be free from addictions.
People can't get happy without sense of stability to have it they need to work job that they don't like that will make them not happy welcome to world built on capitalism
how can you tell what is the thing tormenting you? what are some common things? how do you face the thing?
We escape because problems can not be solved. So atleast let us be happy while we forget the truth
Actual flipping life advice that took me years to figure out. Listen up kids, this is good stuff.
How are you gonna resist the temptation once you have high-speed internet at your place?
Reminder that Luke has no bandwidth to dl prn innawoods, even if he wanted to.
Oops my network manager broke.
Idk get a job, get in shape, be a man....find a girl....get married. Have sex with the one you love.
Believe me it's better than watching some Zulu banging away on a blonde on your laptop.
This is true Im bored trying to go to sleep at night im so plugged in an when im alone with my thoughts I start to struggle.
The physically fleeing temptation point is such an important one. Important for dieting, for example. Can't mindlessly eat junk food if it's not in the house because you never bought it to begin with
I remember watching this video two years ago. I was 20 and was doing a lot of things I knew I should not be doing. Watching porn for instance. All my life was based on the refusal of taking self-responsability. I've always found good excuses to do the bad thing. This video hit hard. Especially the part where Luke says if you're doing something you know to be bad then it means you don't actually consider it to be entierely bad. It is such a bright idea! It helped me stop following the wrong path. I've finally managed to fix most serious problems in my life and Luke's advice have been of great help in that process. I will always remember that there is nothing outside of me that can prevent me from doing the good thing. Thank you Luke.
Luke, thank you for this video; it's helped me greatly. I just want to add one thing that's helped me greatly in these last few weeks is repeating the Jesus Prayer when feeling tempted to look at porn. It's help is twofold, in both calling to God, as well as being something to focus my mind on.
You are so right man, dropping social media and games has made my life so much better.
Re first half: All these bad habits and addictions are also used as a painkiller, an escape, a distraction. You can't just remove it and not provide any replacement. This is not a thing of logic, but of emotional state, which cannot always be improved on your own, it depends on your social circle. This requires a lifestyle change and people do need help navigating this change.
False you just gotta have big balls. I ghosted all my friends since they do all the things I’m stoping, like drinking and complaining about life and smoking weed. I now program all day and study unix and will get a good job one day since this is my reality now. Just don’t do it and get over your shitty little girl ego
theres this hierarchy of value, where posting a video on youtbe is higher than commenting on a video on youtube and talking to another person is higher than talking to your phone
YES
HE DID IT
HE SAID LETS FIND OUT
@@stillness0072 Did he actually FIND OUT?
LETS FIND OUT
SESH BOYS WHERE U AT
@@Hhhhhhhhh7654 SESH WOOOOOO
I don't always agree with your point of view but I'm glad you actively engage in the conversation.
Yes, he did the Varg thing, "Let's find out."
Noticed that too, absolutely based. Let's hope they don't 'shut him down' like they did to varg tho
Thanx bro. Came here from /adv. Loved the vid, and that "Learn to be bored" is mind blowing. Like, if i look back than that is exactly what i need.
Withdrawal symptoms of porn/masturbation are a hollow feeling, dejection and brain fog, leading to the need to fap/watch porn as nothing seems to make you feel right. Temporarily ridding yourself of this by sating the addiction is mistaken as 'feeling good' or 'relieving tension'.
You are not giving up pleasure by quitting, you are pushing through withdrawal. Cold turkey is the best way to do this, not thinking that you're resisting or giving up something, just deciding how it is and following through. Doesn't mean you won't fall into a behavioral pattern, such as thinking you just need to peek at some porn- the rest following from there, but this is trivial to catch and discard if you've solved the problem of resolve. If you're having a really tough time then you haven't truly made the decision to stop, and shouldn't bother deluding yourself, thinking of it as 'resisting', until you have made the decision to stop. Unironically don't bother actually trying stop without properly resolving to stop, it will just sour the idea of it because you'll relapse at the height of withdrawal or earlier and think you need to do it to feel good. Unlike most drug addictions, it isn't even that hard to kick this one because the withdrawal isn't so intense, the only reason it's a big problem is because we spend so much time on our computers and porn is so accessible and normalised that we're barraged with sexual material without even looking for it although it was already a problem with sexual material being everywhere with or without the internet.
Exactly, the choice to quit forever is one you successfully make once.
That's actually good advice. Usually, the advice you'd get is to "be busy" which, although true, is very vague, and means that someone would have to look for what makes them busy.
I think the addiction often is the “solution” to “be busy”, it’s why we you do it in the first place. So you need to replace it with something that’s better. ~“Be busy with something worthwhile”
Hi Luke, I'm not a boomer, i was born in 1997, but i completely agree with you on the boredom perspective.
Sometimes i play music when over at my friends' house, it's just a thing we do, a guy that is 1 year younger than me literally cannot handle being at a place with no music playing, when i stop he instantly wants to turn on other music or asks if I'm playing anything else.
Like what the hell! Kids these days for sure cannot handle Nothing, no wonder they have trouble at almost all basic things people should be able to do like working or eating.
I can't stop listening to music. I convince myself that it doesn't matter because I can still get things done. But my productivity is 5% it would be without it.
My friends are also constantly listening to music on Spotify when I go to their house or in the car. Sometimes quite loudly, to the point we can't have a proper conversation. It sucks, because not only I dislike the music, it's too loud!
How can a guy one year younger be called a kid unless you include yourself in that category?
@@pedroprobst5230 black metal and classical only based music. maybe jazz
well some people actually have a thing with music cancelling the silence anxiety, however it is still disrespectful if you are with a person
Another issue is the fact that a temptation/addiction must be actively avoided, because at some point you are so deep down the rabbithole that you just autopilot to your bad behavior unless you stay focused not to.
Stop using arch, use windows
Interestingly, studies where people were supposed to suppress compulsive actions, like checking your smartphone, going on social media, etc...., show that people who actively take measures to prevent them from doing so are more successful with this. That's probably a no-brainer, but the interesting part is that people who took those measures that made it easier to not do any compulsive actions performed better at various kinds of tests and tasks related to concentration.
Excerting willpower to suppress any kind of addiction/compulsive behavior is some kind of mental strain, meaning your brain has to work in order to do it. Since you can only actively concentrate for a given amount of time on a day, people that didn't have to muster up any kind of self-discipline in order to suppress compulsive behavior (i.e. people that locked away their phone, blocked porn sides and threw away the password to unlock them, etc. ....) had more mental capacities to work on something else.
It helps when you have no friends and nothing going on
Dude out here speaking straight facts. I've been binging your vids and there's a lot of gold!
8:27 Right, it's not boredom!
Rather I suspect it's brainfog and fatigue from being overstimulated by the technology we're surrounding ourselves with every day, complimented by the lack of willpower or drive to complete a set of goals. We should separate ourselves from technological stimulation atleast once a week so we can contemplate in silence.
I read from someone that most people have about 20-30 thoughts througout the day in total, and that if you can't sit still and entertain yourself with just your own thoughts for an hour you are probably dumbed down mentally and spiritually from said constant overstimulation (distraction, escapism).
Overall good advice. The first step is to accept that you need to combat an addiction and let loose of victim mentality. Of course, simply stopping doesn't work in case of heavy addictions, that's where you need professional help. Also, addictions often arise due to other problems in someones life, solving the underlying issue is also needed. The lost skill of boredom might be a reason for tempting damaging behavior, but also trauma, depression and so on ...
Yeah I don’t necessarily agree, I don’t believe everyone is capable of just Summoning the will to do anything at any time, quit any habit etc.
I will however admit that I have become comfortable in a pretty dark place and I have become a bit attached to my suffering so agree with that.
Not to toot my own horn but I did. It's an easy concept, just hard to execute. All you have to do is literally just stop and resist temptations. That's how I broke out of some stuff. It doesnt work overnight obviousl, it may take some time but just simply forcing yourself to stop will eventually... well, make you stop.
This is great! I'm late to the party but your entire channel is exceptional. It's like Common Filth without all the obsessive black pilling. Kudos!
>no steam
>no coom
>no drugs or alcohol
>no social media
how2? just find other, more interesting things to do
>climb
>take a walk
>make food
>read a book
>watch sum birdos
dam, das fax init
Usually if people can't resist temptation it's because the conditions that led them to it are still there, they need to figure out what those conditions are and fix them so they won't resort to the harmful behaviour.
Same for addiction. Don't take away the symptoms of addiction take away the reasons for it. And that's all too often so painful people decide to stick to addictions because this is less painful and they have a good excuse. All too easy. My opinion from experience.
2:13 - 2:43 literally defines addiction without realising and his advice is 'just stop' lmao.
@@Jaikay1 porn is a non addiction its literally just stop doing it
Hi Luke, big fan
How do I stop watching your videos? I can't stop
You can't
Get bald and start making your own videos...
@@holymegadave Oh lord, I shaved my head a month ago. I'm morphing.
Edit: Just checked my ID card and my first name is now Luke.
@@_syedmx86 hahah old mighty luke
The guy spent the first five minutes telling everybody that he had nothing usefull to say about the topic he choose. Once he started the "God has given you..." BS he entered the realm of his fantasies, which for him i guess are emotionally comforting
I began watching this channel a couple years ago when I was hyped with i3, looking for cool .config files. After exploring this gentleman's channel, I suscribed. Since then, he's been an inspiration, some kind of guru not only of open source software, but a lifechanging person.
In all things people want companionship.
People asking how to quit or change some behavior has more to do with that than recognizing anything behaviorally wrong.
That's the first time youtube showed me Christian ad on video.
Well the whole video was a Christian ad.
Luke Smith I cant resist that truth Mr John Smith .
Install adblock
plot twist. Luke's entire channel is a Christian ad.
Luke Smith I’m all for Christianity man.
Yeah I agree. A big part of quitting is understanding why you want to quit and what's standing in your way to help yourself get more serious about the commitment and take the first steps to changing those habits thought patterns and moral convictions
Disposing of the smartphone was one of the greatest ways of breaking addiction to the solitary sin. That, and the Rosary
rosary beads? They are great man.
I remember being so addicted to the first smartphones like N95... until I lost it thanks to a thief... after that.. my life was never the same xD
What kind of phone would you recommend as a replacement?
@@ilunc A brick
@@renaissanceman419 Must be nice not having a job. I guess a flip phone would do.
The thumbnail is so deeply poetic.
Dopamine detox is literally a major reason for how I ended up here
Same😊😊😊
Now this was the kick I needed. The power to resist temptation has literally been given to me... I can resist it. If I want to. Thanks.
The issue with smoking is less the habit and more the absolutely awful withdrawal symptoms.
The exact same advice applies though. If you decide you want to stop and accept that you'll go through a few days of pretty serious withdrawal, you are 100% capable. Any time you light up a cig you're making a conscious decision to do so. You can make the conscious decision not to do that and understand what you'll be in for. People who try to quit smoking time and time again just never mentally commit to actually quitting. They always plan on smoking again I think, they just don't fully admit it to themselves. It's more seeing how long they can hold out for than actually deciding to quit.
It sucks, I had headaches and terrible mood for two months. Almost two years after quitting I still feel smoking sometimes, especially if there’s alcohol.
But it was DEFINITELY worth it. Overall life quality has gone up.
Learn to be bored, greatest suggestion ever, I have light memories of the 90s, we used to simply be bored, I forgot how to be bored, thanks for the heads up.
I’ve come to know that there is a psychological issue with all these temptations.
Porn is often caused by feeling a lack of love. Not typically “sex” per say, but emotional security. Usually caused by parental resentment (mother who isn’t there for you; father doesn’t take interest) other times is frustrations with spouse (reasons can vary).
Video game addiction is typically found in people who lack ambition or is lacking in hope of future ambition(s).
Those two I can understand...there are other reasons for other additions
@@blakepipkin7536 when it becomes and addiction, it’s no longer a “fun” thing
*Learning to be bored is probably the single best thing you can do for your mental health.*
I deleted Instagram from my phone today because I realized it was collecting way too much data. I just decided on it. I can still use the browser version, but I certainly won't be pulling it out of my pocket all the time. And that's healthy.
I half expected Luke to recite Mathew 5:30. The passage may sound barbaric, but I remember when I heard it some time after having tried normie-tiered dopamine-fasts and removing myself from my sources of temptation and whatever, that it really rang true. For instance, living in an urban area today without a smartphone is in a lot of ways to live life a cripple compared to the rest. But such a life is far better than to let oneself fall into the temptations that it enables.
Today's dumbphones are still pretty smart, but they're way better for you and much cheaper than any smartphone.
Well might work for some, but not for all. I tried for half a year and forced myself to do all I was supposed to do all the time. At the end I was so void of emotion and happiness that I was ready to end it all. Over-generalizations are bad and so is projecting from your own experiences on others, it doesn't always work.
Self-flagellation is one off "time tested" classic approaches.
I’m so grateful my parents didn’t give me TV (within reason, only like documentaries) when I was very little and it taught me how to be bored and just lay down and be able to quiet my head
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On boredom, I dont like being alone with my thoughts, I am violent by nature, I cope with writing which in itself is becoming self destructive. So I do nothing watch nothing, and either fuel my escapism with my story, or play out my thoughts.
I am someone who sits in quiet rooms by myself in my own head for hours on end, I am diagnosed hyperactive sitting still to do something is difficult, reading a book isnt as easy now because I think in pictures and my thoughts are fast, for a book to cement itself takes time and I dont have much a drive to waste that time waiting for it to be worthwhile, even though I can finish books like big books in hours to days when I am interested. But I can sit in a room with a prompt a single thought and spiral for hours without anything but floorspace to pace around, its chaotic often violent and usually dettached from reality or so set in my current life that its upset the person I was talking to wasnt in the room to hear it.
I dont struggle with addiction like you mentioned, social media is a problem but its a problem because I havent been able to see my friends outside what with the apocalypse, I play games, my bigger problem is spending then it is time, its something I relate to ocd and autism, I dont want to miss out, I want to finish collections, and I value money very little.
The addictive games are social because I lack socialising in real-life, I just cant go and see my friends as often as I would like so I play a game with voice chat and I get attached, those games are usually engineered to make you want to spend money which is where problems come in.
And I can leave, I have before, sometimes after the damage is done sure, sometimes before, I recognise the problem and I leave, remove myself from social media or the games that are trying to nickle and dime me.
But that lacks follow through, you're advice is leave and then it's fine, I am still lacking social interaction and now I am not getting it from facebook or whatever game I am playing, so I feel alone, those voices in my head louder now, I begin to feel isolated and that turns into paranoia and I start distrusting very close friends because something feels wrong and I can name it but I cant see it.
Your follow through seems to be god, and if not then its nothing, it's avoidance, domt buy cigarettes, the don't carry lighters, then don't walk through carparks or see friends who smoke avoid any temptation, its like how school prepares us for drugs with that shady ally dealer, ignoring that its usually your best mate giving you a hit at your first party... sure say no to drugs is a good way not to get on drugs but you ignored a huge piece of the puzzle to get that solution.
This is rambling, this is me dealing with boredom this is what I do for hours, sometimes actually writing something, sometimes just talking to myself and pacing, and I dont think your video is wrong, I think your attitude is off, dont do it is a bandaid before you develop healthy counters and resistance, avoidance is what you do to deal with withdrawal not how you live the rest of your life, what you need to learn is how to spot temptation, and how to respond to it, you need to develop these skills and train yourself to say no to those vices not just avoid them in the first place, because you avoid smoking, you have a shit day, sit on a bench, find a half smoked cigarette, and it doesnt take much for your mind to flood you, and if all you learned was avoidance you have about five seconds to leave that area before thoughts like 'It will make you feel better' start getting their hooks into you, and you have nothing except run as a response...
I dunno I stopped caring, I am mostly distracting myself from a runny nose at this point.
I don't think every person alive has free will. Everyone is born with free will, of course, but making bad choices in life limits one's ability to make choices in the future. For example, one can't choose to be a competitive runner if one spent the last 20 years smoking 2 packs a day. Repeated enough, this can cause complete erosion of all free will. Such a person is a slave to his urges and he is unable to regain control.
whooah
We have a blurred free will, but we do!
I agree with a little over 50% of what you say. But I think it's important not to underestimate the problem of addiction. A friend of mine said "Some people want a band aid approach to solve their problem, when the real solution involves amputating an entire limb."
In my own life, I've found it's much easier to avoid the temptation of a habit if I abstain from it completely. I decided to go an entire year without drinking alcohol and it became much easier to avoid alcohol. I now also avoid eating store bought candy completely, even though I live with family who always have candy freely available in the kitchen.
I meditate in the Vipassana tradition where each meditation session is supposed to last for an hour. But I still struggle with feeling hungry and quitting to eat before the hour is up. It's best to meditate on an empty stomach, but that's also when I'm especially sensitive to feeling hungry.
Fasting in one form or another is practiced in every major religion, perhaps because fasting is so difficult. I agree with the optimism that self-discipline is achievable. But the process of building self-discipline can involve a lot of sacrifice.
I've found the Buddhist framework to be the most comprehensive approach to self-discipline, but if you're looking for a Christian answer I think the Christian monastic traditions could be a good place to look into. I grew up in a liberal Protestant church where they didn't really teach about self-discipline.
Luke, I've been around addicts my entire life. I respect you, but this is a horrible take. "Just don't do it, you have the strength to just stop" is laughable. Rehabs exist because there are people that CAN'T do things by themselves. Sexual addictions are very real and have destroyed people's lives. Don't even get me started on when sex addiction gets mixed with meth (meth and porn activate the same parts of the brain). I know from firsthand experience with myself and with others that these solutions typically don't work. Simply giving up any devices with internet access is not feasible. We all find ourselves back in the same place unless we deal with the underlying issues behind our addictions. We can only run for so long.
One of the issues is you expect people to respond rationally, but addictions prevent your brain from thinking rationally. It's important to have good people around you and to be held accountable. If you are addicted badly enough, then you can't do it by yourself and those of us who have been there damn well know it even when we don't want to admit it.
Thank you
You're looking at the extreme case
@@lanrebloom7030 Addiction is an extreme thing by nature
If you don't take agency for your addiction you'll never be free from them, all of what you said is true, but it doesn't change the fact that to break addiction you need to take it one step at a time, and that you have the choice to resist temptation every single time you encounter it. Obviously when you're first getting clean outside help is important, but this is about staying clean. Support is vital, but so is taking responsibility and being honest about your choices.
@@liamsweeney4754 Of course. You have to actually put effort into staying clean, nobody can do it for you. My point was that the odds of getting and staying clean are dramatically higher if you have a good support network.
Damn bro your completely right. You have completely changed the way I think about bad habits.
For the serious cases of addiction this advice is so far from helpful and correct it couldn’t get much worse. It’s evil in fact.
Our friendship with Jesus will turn us away from sin and from the things of this world. When tempted to sin we need to remind ourselves how faithful and loving Jesus has been to us. It is the goodness of God that leads us to repentance.
Why the hell are subs only available in Korean?
Imagine only knowing one language.
Turn it on lol
Oh gosh we need someone who knows Korean, Google's brilliant ai has somehow decided the language of this video is Korean, I wonder what it says
Auto-generated lmao
@@behradh It's literally interpreting his English words into korean words that sound similar.
Your videos on youtube are actually pretty important, at least for me, cause almost all people around me were perceiving me as some kind of a freak or something in terms of social media & internet. I was always against using it at all with similar reasoning as you have (wasting time). With some work on youtube I know there are more people like this
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"it's stupid when people make that distinction"
when "stupid" people make that distinction, they're actually referring to the fact that smoking introduces an exogenous substance in their bodies, nicotine, and hence there's a dipendence on that substance that comes from an external source.
These newer kinds of addictive activities though, like watching porn or endlessly scrolling in social media, don't give us any exogenous substance that we can be addicted to. They just play with our internal hormones , like dopamine and serotonin, that your body naturally produces, inducing spikes and effectively "administering" you with substances of your own making.
That is the difference. Last century's addiction focused on giving you external substances, today's addictions turn yourself into the laboratory, the pusher, and the administer your own addictive drug. They only cut the distribution middle man.
This is a remarkably naïve understanding of human psychology. For example: why does drug use surge when incomes plummet? Well, I guess more people just randomly decide to take drugs out of their completely free will, duh. And if they wanted to stop taking them, they would just stop, duh.
This whole video is under the pretense that actual life isn't depressing and terrible.
It's only that bad for coomers.
Actual life isn't. But the simulation of life that modernity offers you is. Just walk away from it.
@@LukeSmithxyz what if you're kidnapped by the Mafia and made to eat your own organs? That'd be p bad
So what if it is?
its funny. Nietzsche and Schopenhauer both argued against excessive book reading, saying you can't create novel ideas or digest new ones with your head constantly in a book. they argued taking walks in nature, being 'bored', was where you would get most of your own ideas. so this overstimulation was a problem even 100-200 years ago.
I deactivated my facebook after watching your social media video and I was tempted to reactivate this morning and then I saw this in my suggested videos. Perfect timing lol
Hm, idk about this one. If someone is well and truly addicted, it takes more then someone telling themselves to "just stop" or to "remove themselves from the situation".
The key word is "just". It's incredibly hard, but also incredibly easy.
Thank you, Luke
Food is the greatest temptation.
not after corona... can't taste shit
@@0000xFFFF Just don't get corona, or maybe do of you're overweight.
On nofap, started eating way more, too dopamine starved
@@JLG629 TRUE... I remember when I worked out like crazy, didn't fap, didn't eat tasty food, didn't do anything that produced dopamine...... I started feeling depressed...
i felt my mind physically expand while watching this video, thanks luke
my mom used to work at a rehabilitation center for addicts and despite how much these people want to stop, they cant unless someone forces them.
if i am to follow what youre saying here, all of those addicts basically "didnt want to stop hard enough".
it is the same situation with food addiction, wanting to stop harder isnt the solution
real, thank you for uploading this i needed to hear this
I appreciate the video and the message. I was talking to a friend about this a couple days ago. While I mostly agree with you, I have to add that you REALLY are your own worst enemy. The "inner you", the one who's driven by passions and instincts, your "subconscious" ego for lack of a better term, knows yourself more than your "conscious" you does. He knows what buttons to push, how to negotiate and how to get away with it (without being noticed!!).
This means, it doesn't matter how much you physically remove yourself from temptation if the temptation lives within. It may help, though.
I'd like to ask you to what extent religion has helped in your personal experience, and whether you've been involved in it consistently since childhood or not. If that's not too much to ask, ofc.
(Damnit, I just came here trying to learn to use sed)