I was into a girl I worked with, and she was into me. I asked her out and she said we could go out as "friends'. I told her I wasn't interested in friends. I then walked away and moved on, still being myself around other co-workers. 2 weeks later she comes up at break and nudges me in my back, saying it feels like I don't want to talk to her anymore. We talked for 5 minutes and she couldn't take it anymore, and she asked ME out. Thanks, bro.
Here are a few "options" for escaping the "friend zone" (1) Get yourself a "hobby" such as taking flying lessons, martial arts, or oceanography, if you reside near the ocean. Once she sees how passionate you are about your new interests, than she may want you to transfer some of that "passion" on to her. Psychologists refer to this as the "Transference Syndrome". (2) Wait a few years until she is over 30 yrs old, has 5 kids, gained 90 pounds, and working at Walmart, trying to feed her family on $14.00, eating Hamburger Helper, without the hamburger. Then, she will fall madly in love with you, because you will be the only thing standing between her and future poverty. (3) You might have to find a new woman to involve yourself with. Most American women, by first impressions, decide very quickly, if a certain guy "turns them on." or not. If there is no initial attraction, then you are, typically, consigned to the "friend zone". (4) You might have to leave the US and start dating women from other cultures. In a lot of foreign countries, a guy does not have to be tall, good looking, or even wealthy. In a lot of European nations, if a guy has good manners, good hygiene, and has a sense of humor, hot babes will want to date him.
Friend zone is a dead end. If you are put there, leave and meet others. It's not worth the energy to try to win them back. Learn from your mistakes. Own the errors. Then move on.
I got out of the friend zone real quick with these videos. Me and this alpha girl went no contact for awhile after giving me the dreaded “maybe we should only be friends and give communication a break” text. I didn’t accept the invitation to just be friends and told her “I have enough friends, but whenever you want to meet up or something, get back to me.” I kept my head up and walked away and didn’t look back. I didn’t attempt to reach out and I just kept going about my business. Didn’t even think about the girl. Very shortly after that, she texts me and she confesses all kinds of feelings she has for me and talking about how she doesn’t want to lose me. This woman now appears to be obsessed with me. I feel like a badass that I kept it cool and walked away, and then comes chasing me. Absolutely crazy how that happens. Definitely reading your books now!
You have to make it clear that you're not accepting the friend zone bullshit. If a chick wants you as a friend, the second she gets a real boyfriend and the new boyfriend starts to ask her why the hell she keeps talking to you and why you keep calling her and then tells her he wants it to stop. What do you think is going to happen to this "friendship"? Whose side do you think she will take, her friend's side or her boyfriend's side? See the difference? The friend zone is a chick's way of getting male orbiters to have validation and they can do so w/o actually having to put out. It keeps their self-esteem high and more able to attract a high value man. Abundance attracts, scarcity repels. If she perceives that chicks all want you, she will want you. If she perceives otherwise, that no chicks want you, why would she? Even if you have no chicks, you gotta at least fake it and come with that abundant mindset.
Here are a few "options" for escaping the "friend zone" (1) Get yourself a "hobby" such as taking flying lessons, martial arts, or oceanography, if you reside near the ocean. Once she sees how passionate you are about your new interests, than she may want you to transfer some of that "passion" on to her. Psychologists refer to this as the "Transference Syndrome". (2) Wait a few years until she is over 30 yrs old, has 5 kids, gained 90 pounds, and working at Walmart, trying to feed her family on $14.00, eating Hamburger Helper, without the hamburger. Then, she will fall madly in love with you, because you will be the only thing standing between her and future poverty. (3) You might have to find a new woman to involve yourself with. Most American women, by first impressions, decide very quickly, if a certain guy "turns them on." or not. If there is no initial attraction, then you are, typically, consigned to the "friend zone". (4) You might have to leave the US and start dating women from other cultures. In a lot of foreign countries, a guy does not have to be tall, good looking, or even wealthy. In a lot of European nations, if a guy has good manners, good hygiene, and has a sense of humor, hot babes will want to date him.
@@ojivey8273 Trying to get out of the friend zone is a scarcity mindset. You shouldn't be doing shit other than you wanting to do it, not to win over some stupid chick. You should always have hobbies. Bottom line, if you're NOT getting what you want from dealing with a woman, ditch the bitch and move on, it's that simple. She puts you in the friend zone and if you don't like it, ditch her ass and go to the next one.
Damn it worked. I told her straight up I didn't want to be friends, she immediately caved and said she still had feelings for me she just didn't want to commit because of her being in college and me having graduated, and the distance was her biggest concern. Told her I didn't want a commitment, but if I ever do visit it will be as more than just friends, and she said that was cool with her. Now all I gotta do is not fuck it up, 'cause clearly I do have a shot.
I’m in that same position now, except the girl and I have only seen each other a handful of times. I’m pretty sure she’s had an interest in me at some point but I feel like enough time and distance has gone on now that she won’t care if she loses me. But we shall see.
Working on this with a girl from work. Been workmates for several years and have gone out with mutual friends from work on several occasions. Recently drunk-hooked up with her a couple of times. Invited her to hang out twice after each hookup but never ended up happening. When I invited her over for dinner a couple weeks ago she accepted and then canceled the day of by sending a long text about how she's been going back and forth about this and didn't want things to get messy so she thinks we should leave the sex out of it. Figured I must have given off a vibe that caused her to be confused about me so I just replied that she should let me know if she changes her mind. Our depts. work closely with each other to manage clients at work, so I have to still communicate with her to do my job, but I don't contact outside of work and try to limit contact at work, only discussing work issues. Have to keep being myself and being friendly just like I am with the other women in the office. Our desks were literally next to each other in an open floor plan but I just got my own office and her dept. is now on the opposite end of the hall so it is much easier to be scarce. To be continued...
I was doing super well with someone I met. Can't do an in person date because of quarantine. And I let myself get too emotional. Looking at these videos and reading the book, I'm seeing the moments I fucked up.
I matched with this girl on Hinge during the pandemic in Britain. We’ve been talking a month, I wanted to get her out quickly, but I was patient and waited until she was comfortable. So we began using voice notes and had a phone call and we agreed to meet last weekend. Bearing in mind that she didn’t stop laughing on the phone or when we’ve been texting, we have also been flirting and teasing each other, making the interactions fun. So, we finally met, I took the train and she met me at the station in her car. Immediately I went for the physical so I said “come on let’s have a hug”. We went for a good walk where we talked about life in general and I teased her a lot e.g. she knew the area, but one of the paths was incredibly muddy so I said “if it’s really bad I know who to blame”. She didn’t stop laughing at the things I was saying. We went to the store to buy ingredients to cook that night and even that was fun. I made sure I led the way, taking the basket etc. We went back to hers where I cooked a spaghetti Bolognese and where we teased each other and it just genuinely felt like we knew each other already. I went for the kiss, rubbed her nose before and gave her a quick kiss but she seemed shocked and went red so I pulled back. We ate dinner where she found out I liked country and she seemed really into it plus she didn’t stop asking me questions, had a game of scrabble where the banter was flying about how bad the other’s words were. We were making references about future plans. She said something like “well next time I’ll use my dictionary”. Anyway, I kept putting my leg on hers, initiating touch. She took me to the station and before I left, we shared a few kisses where both of us leaned in. She even touched my chest saying “you’re really warm”. I thought bingo. Got home, sent her a jokey message about her car because she’s got her own personalized number plate and then I said “I enjoyed myself today, especially winning at Scrabble with a gooseberry gin” to which she replied “Gooseberry gin was good, Scrabble hmmm…Company wasn’t bad though” with a smiley, cheeks blushing emoji. I replied “10/10 choice by me getting the gooseberry, bet you were sole destroyed at losing”. She’s a shoemaker so I always shoe puns with her to tease. But, she hasn’t replied. She did say she was meeting her friends the day after, but she read my message at 8:30am and was online for most of the day and I didn't get a reply. I truly thought I did everything right. Until, she texts me later that night saying "we should be friends". I've literally worked for a year to try and stop this happening and I've just come full f***g circle.
I wanted my ex so bad. Tried to kiss her and she rejected me so hard. Said she doesn't feel the same way, why can we just be friends. I told her it hurts to much. She said she couldnt think straight everytime i did. We eventually parted ways and I sent her a really long text saying why I couldn't be just a friend and that if she ever changes her mind to call me. Now I'm always gonna wish her number is gonna pop up. Sad but true. Sigh.
My friend, you acted like a puss. It hurts too much? Act like a man. Tell her, you don't allow women to be your friends. Sending her really long texts? Wtf man? You were acting like a God damn female. You should have told her on the spot why you couldn't be JUST friends. If you had just moved on and not sent her anything and deleted her number, deleted her from social media, and removed all contact with this chick and were willing to do it forever if need be, you would have had a better shot at making her run back to you. But you acted like a puss and you confirmed to her that you were one and she walked away and you never heard back from her again.
This happened to me a few years back....stop talking to my ex and didn’t hear from her for 3 years. Then one night out of the blue I got a text from her saying that lately she had reevaluated some of the things in her life. Then told me that she realized our relationship was one that she didn’t want to lose and asked me to meet up for drinks... shit works man and it will be hard as fuck sometimes but it works. Hopefully it takes less than 3 years for you. Never did end up texting her back because at that point I had already moved on.
Just started talking to a girl after quarantine, and it was going great when i could see her in person. We went out like 7 times in two weeks becouse she was going to france and we wanted to see each other as much as possible before that. She gave me alot of signs that she was interested but there were some on the contrary. A month after she went away she put me in friendzone. I know what i did wrong and i'm definitly to blame for the friendzone part. I just cut contact now and i'm focussing on other things... my life, friends, travelling, hobbies. I loved her as a friend too, but just could remain just that... Did i do the right thing?
hey coach Corey Wayne me and my now ex girlfriend where going strong for a few months and now she just wants to be friends because she feels that she would hurt me when I've asked her what the reason was she did not reply how do I go about this
I love her so much.. I can do anything for her.. I just want her to love me back..!! but not happening... we r not just friends.. we made out.. she said,she also love me.. but but but.. aaahhhh it's hurting Mahn😭 her opinion is that we can't b together n she don't want spoil the friendship.... it's very confusing.. I don't know what to do.. I feel bad when she says I'm searching for a good guy.. then who m I?? I care for her.. I have feelings for her... always when we walk together I pick up bag,her phone,her sandals... everything.... what should I do more to impress her??... 😭😭 yesterday she went to meet one guy n she kissed him.. she is saying that I just want to keep open my door for everyone.. so that I'll get to know more about boys n I'll find my perfect choice.... dude I love her... the things she is doing are more hurting n painful for me.... why she is not able to understand my love 😭 why??? Please somebody help me
Overthinking and mind fucking ones self is torture. I've been friends with a woman for longer than I want to admit. Our friendship was rekindled 3 years ago and I only wanted the friendship until something happened a few months. It's a bit maddening. We were just phone friends and it was all good until I broke my own boundary by going to visit her. Anyway, I haven't chased her and she initiates contact 75% of the time but when we talk, it is just two friends talking. She invited me over two weeks ago after I kind of ignored her. She paid for the food and later invited me out for drinks all on her. She complimented my new, scruffy facial hair, noticed I lost some weight while at the bar. We had a good time together. She mentioned some program she saw that talked about "Date Night" an affordable date night for early in the week, I sounded interested but she threw out that there wouldn't be any cuddling or kissing. (sarcasm or killing any wrong ideas by me). Later, back at her place we watched a movie and she ended up falling asleep with her head on my shoulder. Nothing more. I just wonder when she calls should I just wait a few days or a week to return her calls? She probably knows I like her more than a friend. Do I just back off, or just talk to her less? I'm really not sure I want more with her or not.
I was into a girl I worked with, and she was into me. I asked her out and she said we could go out as "friends'. I told her I wasn't interested in friends. I then walked away and moved on, still being myself around other co-workers. 2 weeks later she comes up at break and nudges me in my back, saying it feels like I don't want to talk to her anymore. We talked for 5 minutes and she couldn't take it anymore, and she asked ME out. Thanks, bro.
Well played. You didn't act like a bitch, that's why she came back.
Dude this co-worker who was flirting with me was long already taken
Lucky you!!
Here are a few "options" for escaping the "friend zone"
(1) Get yourself a "hobby" such as taking flying lessons, martial arts, or oceanography, if you reside near the ocean. Once she sees how passionate you are about your new interests, than she may want you to transfer some of that "passion" on to her. Psychologists refer to this as the "Transference Syndrome".
(2) Wait a few years until she is over 30 yrs old, has 5 kids, gained 90 pounds, and working at Walmart, trying to feed her family on $14.00, eating Hamburger Helper, without the hamburger.
Then, she will fall madly in love with you, because you will be the only thing standing between her and future poverty.
(3) You might have to find a new woman to involve yourself with. Most American women, by first impressions, decide very quickly, if a certain guy "turns them on." or not. If there is no initial attraction, then you are, typically, consigned to the "friend zone".
(4) You might have to leave the US and start dating women from other cultures. In a lot of foreign countries, a guy does not have to be tall, good looking, or even wealthy. In a lot of European nations, if a guy has good manners, good hygiene, and has a sense of humor, hot babes will want to date him.
Friend zone is a dead end. If you are put there, leave and meet others. It's not worth the energy to try to win them back. Learn from your mistakes. Own the errors. Then move on.
No the dead end is when a lady places you as one of the guys she never EVER wants to hear from again in a enemy/stranger way
@@supernotnatural not in my experience
I got out of the friend zone real quick with these videos. Me and this alpha girl went no contact for awhile after giving me the dreaded “maybe we should only be friends and give communication a break” text. I didn’t accept the invitation to just be friends and told her “I have enough friends, but whenever you want to meet up or something, get back to me.” I kept my head up and walked away and didn’t look back. I didn’t attempt to reach out and I just kept going about my business. Didn’t even think about the girl. Very shortly after that, she texts me and she confesses all kinds of feelings she has for me and talking about how she doesn’t want to lose me. This woman now appears to be obsessed with me. I feel like a badass that I kept it cool and walked away, and then comes chasing me. Absolutely crazy how that happens. Definitely reading your books now!
You have to make it clear that you're not accepting the friend zone bullshit. If a chick wants you as a friend, the second she gets a real boyfriend and the new boyfriend starts to ask her why the hell she keeps talking to you and why you keep calling her and then tells her he wants it to stop. What do you think is going to happen to this "friendship"? Whose side do you think she will take, her friend's side or her boyfriend's side? See the difference? The friend zone is a chick's way of getting male orbiters to have validation and they can do so w/o actually having to put out. It keeps their self-esteem high and more able to attract a high value man. Abundance attracts, scarcity repels. If she perceives that chicks all want you, she will want you. If she perceives otherwise, that no chicks want you, why would she? Even if you have no chicks, you gotta at least fake it and come with that abundant mindset.
Here are a few "options" for escaping the "friend zone"
(1) Get yourself a "hobby" such as taking flying lessons, martial arts, or oceanography, if you reside near the ocean. Once she sees how passionate you are about your new interests, than she may want you to transfer some of that "passion" on to her. Psychologists refer to this as the "Transference Syndrome".
(2) Wait a few years until she is over 30 yrs old, has 5 kids, gained 90 pounds, and working at Walmart, trying to feed her family on $14.00, eating Hamburger Helper, without the hamburger.
Then, she will fall madly in love with you, because you will be the only thing standing between her and future poverty.
(3) You might have to find a new woman to involve yourself with. Most American women, by first impressions, decide very quickly, if a certain guy "turns them on." or not. If there is no initial attraction, then you are, typically, consigned to the "friend zone".
(4) You might have to leave the US and start dating women from other cultures. In a lot of foreign countries, a guy does not have to be tall, good looking, or even wealthy. In a lot of European nations, if a guy has good manners, good hygiene, and has a sense of humor, hot babes will want to date him.
@@ojivey8273 Trying to get out of the friend zone is a scarcity mindset. You shouldn't be doing shit other than you wanting to do it, not to win over some stupid chick. You should always have hobbies. Bottom line, if you're NOT getting what you want from dealing with a woman, ditch the bitch and move on, it's that simple. She puts you in the friend zone and if you don't like it, ditch her ass and go to the next one.
@@blooddiamond93 So true
She probably thinks he'll just cheat on her again, I meant he broke her heart already in the past.
Damn it worked. I told her straight up I didn't want to be friends, she immediately caved and said she still had feelings for me she just didn't want to commit because of her being in college and me having graduated, and the distance was her biggest concern. Told her I didn't want a commitment, but if I ever do visit it will be as more than just friends, and she said that was cool with her. Now all I gotta do is not fuck it up, 'cause clearly I do have a shot.
Any outcome of this?
I’m in that same position now, except the girl and I have only seen each other a handful of times. I’m pretty sure she’s had an interest in me at some point but I feel like enough time and distance has gone on now that she won’t care if she loses me. But we shall see.
Working on this with a girl from work. Been workmates for several years and have gone out with mutual friends from work on several occasions. Recently drunk-hooked up with her a couple of times. Invited her to hang out twice after each hookup but never ended up happening. When I invited her over for dinner a couple weeks ago she accepted and then canceled the day of by sending a long text about how she's been going back and forth about this and didn't want things to get messy so she thinks we should leave the sex out of it. Figured I must have given off a vibe that caused her to be confused about me so I just replied that she should let me know if she changes her mind.
Our depts. work closely with each other to manage clients at work, so I have to still communicate with her to do my job, but I don't contact outside of work and try to limit contact at work, only discussing work issues. Have to keep being myself and being friendly just like I am with the other women in the office. Our desks were literally next to each other in an open floor plan but I just got my own office and her dept. is now on the opposite end of the hall so it is much easier to be scarce. To be continued...
Update ?
@@SunsetLights would love to hear An update too
I was doing super well with someone I met. Can't do an in person date because of quarantine. And I let myself get too emotional. Looking at these videos and reading the book, I'm seeing the moments I fucked up.
I had same problem quarantine bish gone now lol fk dat bish
I matched with this girl on Hinge during the pandemic in Britain. We’ve been talking a month, I wanted to get her out quickly, but I was patient and waited until she was comfortable. So we began using voice notes and had a phone call and we agreed to meet last weekend.
Bearing in mind that she didn’t stop laughing on the phone or when we’ve been texting, we have also been flirting and teasing each other, making the interactions fun. So, we finally met, I took the train and she met me at the station in her car. Immediately I went for the physical so I said “come on let’s have a hug”.
We went for a good walk where we talked about life in general and I teased her a lot e.g. she knew the area, but one of the paths was incredibly muddy so I said “if it’s really bad I know who to blame”. She didn’t stop laughing at the things I was saying.
We went to the store to buy ingredients to cook that night and even that was fun. I made sure I led the way, taking the basket etc. We went back to hers where I cooked a spaghetti Bolognese and where we teased each other and it just genuinely felt like we knew each other already.
I went for the kiss, rubbed her nose before and gave her a quick kiss but she seemed shocked and went red so I pulled back. We ate dinner where she found out I liked country and she seemed really into it plus she didn’t stop asking me questions, had a game of scrabble where the banter was flying about how bad the other’s words were. We were making references about future plans. She said something like “well next time I’ll use my dictionary”. Anyway, I kept putting my leg on hers, initiating touch.
She took me to the station and before I left, we shared a few kisses where both of us leaned in. She even touched my chest saying “you’re really warm”. I thought bingo. Got home, sent her a jokey message about her car because she’s got her own personalized number plate and then I said “I enjoyed myself today, especially winning at Scrabble with a gooseberry gin” to which she replied “Gooseberry gin was good, Scrabble hmmm…Company wasn’t bad though” with a smiley, cheeks blushing emoji.
I replied “10/10 choice by me getting the gooseberry, bet you were sole destroyed at losing”. She’s a shoemaker so I always shoe puns with her to tease. But, she hasn’t replied. She did say she was meeting her friends the day after, but she read my message at 8:30am and was online for most of the day and I didn't get a reply. I truly thought I did everything right. Until, she texts me later that night saying "we should be friends". I've literally worked for a year to try and stop this happening and I've just come full f***g circle.
Prob cause u came on too strong
Well a woman im seeing likes me as a friend but we kiss and have sex so I just ignore that label as I'm not after a relationship anyway.
No MORE!
I wanted my ex so bad. Tried to kiss her and she rejected me so hard. Said she doesn't feel the same way, why can we just be friends. I told her it hurts to much. She said she couldnt think straight everytime i did. We eventually parted ways and I sent her a really long text saying why I couldn't be just a friend and that if she ever changes her mind to call me. Now I'm always gonna wish her number is gonna pop up. Sad but true. Sigh.
BigGeekEmpire hey, did she contact? How are you doing now?
My friend, you acted like a puss. It hurts too much? Act like a man. Tell her, you don't allow women to be your friends. Sending her really long texts? Wtf man? You were acting like a God damn female. You should have told her on the spot why you couldn't be JUST friends. If you had just moved on and not sent her anything and deleted her number, deleted her from social media, and removed all contact with this chick and were willing to do it forever if need be, you would have had a better shot at making her run back to you. But you acted like a puss and you confirmed to her that you were one and she walked away and you never heard back from her again.
This happened to me a few years back....stop talking to my ex and didn’t hear from her for 3 years. Then one night out of the blue I got a text from her saying that lately she had reevaluated some of the things in her life. Then told me that she realized our relationship was one that she didn’t want to lose and asked me to meet up for drinks... shit works man and it will be hard as fuck sometimes but it works. Hopefully it takes less than 3 years for you. Never did end up texting her back because at that point I had already moved on.
@@blooddiamond93 how did u find it in u to take her back
@@ulisesc4388 I never took anyone back. I think you misdirected your question.
Just started talking to a girl after quarantine, and it was going great when i could see her in person. We went out like 7 times in two weeks becouse she was going to france and we wanted to see each other as much as possible before that. She gave me alot of signs that she was interested but there were some on the contrary. A month after she went away she put me in friendzone. I know what i did wrong and i'm definitly to blame for the friendzone part. I just cut contact now and i'm focussing on other things... my life, friends, travelling, hobbies. I loved her as a friend too, but just could remain just that... Did i do the right thing?
hey coach Corey Wayne me and my now ex girlfriend where going strong for a few months and now she just wants to be friends because she feels that she would hurt me when I've asked her what the reason was she did not reply how do I go about this
hellbringer new trust me she got a man going through the same shit
she get another man over you brother 👊 run away from her and never make anything for her say bye cheat and cheap 😠 girl
I love her so much.. I can do anything for her.. I just want her to love me back..!! but not happening... we r not just friends.. we made out.. she said,she also love me.. but but but.. aaahhhh it's hurting Mahn😭 her opinion is that we can't b together n she don't want spoil the friendship.... it's very confusing.. I don't know what to do.. I feel bad when she says I'm searching for a good guy.. then who m I?? I care for her.. I have feelings for her... always when we walk together I pick up bag,her phone,her sandals... everything.... what should I do more to impress her??... 😭😭 yesterday she went to meet one guy n she kissed him.. she is saying that I just want to keep open my door for everyone.. so that I'll get to know more about boys n I'll find my perfect choice.... dude I love her... the things she is doing are more hurting n painful for me.... why she is not able to understand my love 😭 why??? Please somebody help me
Sounds like ur the nice guy and she’s using you as her doormat.
Overthinking and mind fucking ones self is torture. I've been friends with a woman for longer than I want to admit. Our friendship was rekindled 3 years ago and I only wanted the friendship until something happened a few months. It's a bit maddening.
We were just phone friends and it was all good until I broke my own boundary by going to visit her. Anyway, I haven't chased her and she initiates contact 75% of the time but when we talk, it is just two friends talking. She invited me over two weeks ago after I kind of ignored her. She paid for the food and later invited me out for drinks all on her.
She complimented my new, scruffy facial hair, noticed I lost some weight while at the bar. We had a good time together. She mentioned some program she saw that talked about "Date Night" an affordable date night for early in the week, I sounded interested but she threw out that there wouldn't be any cuddling or kissing. (sarcasm or killing any wrong ideas by me).
Later, back at her place we watched a movie and she ended up falling asleep with her head on my shoulder. Nothing more. I just wonder when she calls should I just wait a few days or a week to return her calls? She probably knows I like her more than a friend. Do I just back off, or just talk to her less? I'm really not sure I want more with her or not.
LetHerGo
Great Great vedio 😂.
8:48
blue balls hehehe