Being A Passive Dater | ZULA ChickChats | EP 78
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- Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
- On this episode of ZULA ChickChats, we discuss what makes one a passive dater.
What does being a passive dater mean? Why are people triggered by passive daters? What are the consequences they've faced for being passive? What advice do non-passive daters have for them?
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Bolin Chen - / doughnutcookies
Chris Soh - / sohchris
Leah Shannon - / mizchiefmagik
Pepita Wauran - / saltandpeps
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Lu Jielin - / adreamtolove17
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literally any romance related topic:
bolin: its my time to shine
peps just explained my whole life
love this lineup, interesting take from every single one of the cast.
more of bolin and chris in chickchats please! so interesting to listen to them and insightful for us! really love this line up alot.
MORE BOLIN PLS
bolin: “the fear of rejection is all the same” HELL YEA YOU TELL ‘EM
I feel like Chris made so many good points!! Please have him on this show more often so that he could provide an opinion based on his sociology background
bolin is like an older brother here :’) im really passive like peps too and I think this ep rly helped me
Some of the zula chick chats episodes needs to be loooonnnngeeerrrr!!! I love the episodes where there are both guys and girls because it feels more balanced and controlled(: love how Bolin and Chris showed a different side of things. Although this episode was about passive dater, it was a wise choice to get a non-passive dater (I.e., Bolin) to share their alternative view. Perhaps Zula can consider finding someone of an alternative view to their topic for a more balanced and interactive discussion.
Nonetheless, kudos to the team in front and behind the camera. By far one of my favourite Zula chick chats episodes!!!
Nicee to see Bolin and Chris on Zula
MORE BOLIN PLEASE!!!
Or can we also get BoBoCharChar on Zula?!!! :)
Peps’ reasoning being passive is super relatable
the whole episode just turned into "peps dating life" episode which i like it hahahaha cuz can relate totally
Sian la, high five peps
Bolin can be crude but yet pretty experienced when it comes to dating.
THIS BOLIN GUY IS AWESOME!! He is hilarious and brings up really great points! BRING HIM BACK!
My self-esteem also like machiam non-existent sia. "Why will this guy like me? Don't self-praise ley" omg tats me totally
this is a counselling session for peps HAHAHA
Chris is so wise omaiii
8:15 but it just really sucks that guys don’t really put in much feelings??? Like u alr said it urself.
Guys just hops around looking for the one who would reciprocate lor then boom “found it!” It like... ur feelings true or not one??? Or just looking for girl only
Guys look for the one that will reciprocate, then they develop deeper feelings for them.
"I show interest. If she show mutual interest then I let myself develop deeper feelings for her lor."
Watch Psych2Go on how men fall in love.
Relationship is a two-way thing dude. If the guy shows interest, puts in effort and doesn't receive any return, how can you expect the guy to continuously chase after the same person? Imagine how he'll feel when after months and months or even (exaggerated) years, and then he realised that the girl wasn't "shy" or passive but was just never interested in him. How much time and effort goes down the drain. This doesnt apply to guys only, I'm sure girls have experienced the same.
yas, i feel you peps
really nice take on this topic! diverse povs and a smooth flow throughout the video :-) kudos!!!!
But in all honesty tho, is playing hard to get/making yourself seem also desirable by others really important??? I clearly have no game and no idea how the dating world works. Help yo gurl out.
Fuck no, I can attest to mature guys. It's exhausting to play these games. Be straight up (tho I doubt many girls will be), and ask if you really want to know.
For me , playing hard to get is a turn off but it's up to individual. Why is it a turn off ? Life is already so tough , for example with work and all the things revolving around life. Playing hard to get is very emotionally draining for the person trying to chase you. It also says alot on the maturity of the person. I would suggest an open conversation to talk about a relationship between both sides.
@@psychedeliciously But isn't being direct or coming off too strong a turn off for most guys? I'd imagine they'd feel emasculated somehow🤔(side note: not that I don't think you could attest to mature guys but I find it a little ironic that your username is literally holytittie in caps lol)
@@melxieying yup very exhausting. That's is why I will always be direct if I am interested in the person:) of course during the time of chasing there will be signs if you will be successful with the person or not. For example the way the person text etc etc. During the time of chasing , you can tell if the person is a passive dater or not as well , and once you know it , you can decide on your next course of action. Jiayou !
@@melxieying Emasculated? Where did you get that from bro? Tumblr or the notebook? I'd admire that girl alot more if she was upfront instead of wasting time and energy beating around the bush. You'd think relationships would be better if both parties were honest and direct, but I guess if the relationship was founded on mind games, then they'd expect the same mind games to actually be fruitful for the relationship.
I'd like to correct myself: mature people, both male and females fucking hate mind games. People who have actual obligations and ambitions can't afford a measly fuck on dumb mind games.
Whoopdeedoo bro, ignore my feedback, use it for essay writing or piss on it, I wouldn't have any say on it.
Not sure how my name is related to my comment but its a lovely name, I'm very certain my mom is proud of me.
Lowkey feeling attacked lolol
thumbs up for mobile legend reference
I like Bolin's personality. Very funny and straightforward. I totally burst out laughing!
Everyone always say must communicate, but what if that person just don't wanna communicate with me???
WHY NO GIVE CHRIS SOME SPACE? He looks so uncomfortable!!
I feel Peps. and Chris
@6:32
Wow Chris made a very good point.
Bolin's opinions are BOMB !
Peps 5 months isn't as bad as my bf's 2 year attack on his crush
💅🏻
this is bolin’s most normal video
05:57 oh hor chris why you smile like that haaa? whatchu thinking
Thank you for this video!! This is really useful for what I'm experiencing right now
i see bolin i click
for the first time chris said something wise advice and the truth about what he had talk about. it may be true for some people may have be afraid of rejection. but im not afraid of rejection. to me rejection means nothing to me. been rejected for my whole life. so im used to it and it didnt matter at all. it will never affect me or my life.no matter how many times i have been rejected. i will just move on and act like nothing happen.and forget about what have happen.
More bollin, super funny hahaha
Who wouldnt date pep??? Bro i would give my all to her if given a chance. Tanned chinese girl 😋
BoLin is damn funny 😆😆 #respect#toofunny#natural
Most young girls are passive. End of story. Oh yea. Girls are also not used to getting rejected
I see Bolin, I click.
overthinking guys have it alot also
is it me or does peps look like adria
so basicaly, Peps friendzoned on purpose?
Bolin is damn real & calls bullshit out, love it 4:18
master jdsknsskns yall shld play mobile legends👍🏻
leah - " ... the girl will reject you but won't embarrass you .."
that is nice if its true.
i resonate with what peps said to a T 😭😭 i understand sis 🙏
MLBB?
Peps is just like me. But can we have more of Bolin & his relationship advise & terms 👍🏻
wished i saw this video 4 years ago... :(
Damn, this hit me right in the feels :')
bolinnnnnnnnnnnnn
damn im a passive dater
Peps reflect my whole life gosh!
bolin is my spirit animal
that ml reference
bolin's attacks bam bam bam
bobocharchar in chickchats pls!
Peps is at least mythic V
Is Bolin single?? 👀👀👀
this was a really good episode!
Is Peps a Scorpio?
my girlfriend is the super passive type... drives me crazy.
i feel thoroughly exposed 🙃🙃🙃🙃
BAM ...BAM....BAM BAM BAM.... BAM BAM BAM BAM BAM BAM
I see Bolin, I click
0:55 if this ain't me
more bolin !!!!!
real talk no.2
loved this
Early for first time
5:51....
PEPS! I understand u cos we same. & heyy can yall talk bout dating in sec sch and how to get one??
Study first
GET.BO.LIN.BACC!! AND PEPS. AND CHRIS.!!!